0:00

Here it is . We're going to give them how

0:04

to , finally how to do it , but

0:06

how to do what ?

0:07

Yeah , how to do it . Well , I'm

0:10

tired of all the motivational talks and

0:12

all these success lists

0:14

that we've been doing . Since

0:16

it's right before the holidays , I thought it'd be

0:18

fun to have some laughs and

0:21

inject a little bit of humor into

0:24

these lists that we've been doing .

0:26

Yeah .

0:28

You know , have some tongue-in-cheek

0:30

humor about how

0:33

to destroy

0:35

your dreams in 2024 .

0:39

How to do it , how to destroy your dreams

0:41

in 2024

0:43

.

0:44

Yeah , and these could be like personal

0:46

dreams , this could be business dreams

0:49

, this could be your health goals

0:51

, but we're going to give

0:53

you five ways to

0:56

destroy your dreams in 2024 .

0:57

Are you ready ? I'm

1:00

ready .

1:00

Are you ready for this ?

1:02

I'm ready for this . We're

1:05

really going to do it . How to destroy your dreams

1:07

. I closed the list

1:09

by accident . Okay , you start

1:11

all over .

1:13

Okay , so number one

1:15

is don't

1:18

tell anybody about what

1:20

changes you want to make in 2024

1:23

. So if you've got big sites

1:25

, big goals , you got something

1:27

you want to change , you want to transform

1:29

. Just keep your mouth shut

1:31

, okay , don't tell anybody this

1:34

one's contentious . I've

1:38

heard the opposite .

1:39

I've heard . If you want your dreams to come true

1:41

, keep your head down and your mouth

1:43

shut , and take action .

1:46

Yeah , I've heard that too . But the

1:48

way I look at this kind of

1:50

a thing right is

1:52

you still , even if you are going

1:54

to kind of keep your head down and keep your mouth shut

1:56

, you still want to have like one or

1:58

two people who are in your corner who are going

2:00

to support you and you know who are

2:02

going to cheer you on , no matter what . So

2:05

even though I have heard that as well before

2:07

, like don't tell anybody about what you want to do

2:09

, I think even still

2:11

you do tell one or two people . But

2:16

you know , on

2:18

the flip side of this in this list , don't

2:21

tell anyone means you

2:23

know if you keep your mouth shut , then no

2:26

one will know if you've failed . So

2:28

isn't it easier to just keep your mouth shut ? Then

2:31

you know , speak up and share your dreams

2:33

and put it out there

2:35

, put yourself out there , maybe on social media

2:37

, make mistakes .

2:39

Yeah , I heard that so

2:42

it is real yesterday from a friend

2:45

of mine , big manifestation

2:47

coach . He's got tons of

2:49

followers online

2:51

, anthony Serino . You

2:53

might have heard him and he

2:56

did this . Real is like the four steps to

2:58

manifest anything , and one

3:00

of them I think I'd have to watch it again to be sure

3:02

, but I think one of them was like talk about what you

3:04

want to manifest a lot , like tell people

3:06

about it . And he said it's because it makes

3:08

you accountable , right , like

3:10

once you've said you're going to do something , you

3:13

know you don't want to be perceived as being

3:16

inconsistent and

3:18

it'll make you want to do it more . So

3:20

yeah , I mean I'm curious what the listeners

3:23

think on this one . But yeah

3:26

, so how

3:28

to destroy your dream is don't tell

3:30

, that's right .

3:33

Yeah .

3:33

The changes you wish to make .

3:35

Cool . So basically , in a backhanded way , we're saying

3:38

shout your dreams from the rooftops

3:40

, share it . Share

3:43

it with as many people as you want .

3:44

Is that what we're doing ? We're not just giving literally

3:47

giving people an instruction guide on destroying dreams

3:49

.

3:50

Well , we can do whatever we want , because this is our podcast

3:52

.

3:52

Do whatever we want . Imagine

3:55

, if you know , we said there's five

3:57

things on the list and then we just

3:59

finished number four and then we're like , okay , everyone

4:01

that's a good

4:03

week , but didn't even like mention

4:06

that we're skipping the last one . Imagine if we just did

4:08

that .

4:09

Would anyone ?

4:10

notice . We could , people would notice and

4:12

we could do it because it's our podcast . Now we're

4:14

not going to do that , probably no . But

4:17

okay , watch

4:19

out folks .

4:20

Yeah , yeah

4:23

, all right , okay , number two

4:25

. What's number two ?

4:28

Next is how to destroy

4:30

your dream in 2024 . Only think about

4:32

how what you want might be

4:34

perceived by others . Only

4:37

think about it in terms of how it will be

4:39

perceived by others . Example

4:41

you want a million dollars . Well

4:44

, what's what's anti ? You know , anti

4:47

, elaine . I'm going to think if I

4:50

say I want a million dollars .

4:52

Yeah .

4:52

So you're going to say money is the root of all evil , timmy

4:55

Right .

4:57

Yeah , yeah . Better not

4:59

start that business because if you start that business

5:01

then like Uncle Joe is going to be like

5:03

that's really risky . You

5:05

know , you should keep

5:08

your job where you have a consistent income

5:10

and you have a paycheck coming every month . What

5:13

if the business doesn't work ? Yeah

5:15

, aren't there like

5:17

a thousand bill of catrillion

5:19

life coaches out there . Why would you choose that

5:21

as your business ? That's just silly .

5:24

Yeah , yeah

5:27

. So basically , I

5:29

guess the advice here is

5:31

. I

5:33

mean , yeah

5:35

, you probably want to consider the genuine

5:38

advice of people who you actually respect , or

5:42

people who I should say you will respect . But

5:45

also here's

5:47

one tip Don't take tips on

5:50

starting or growing a business from somebody

5:52

who's never started and grown a business .

5:54

Yes , I agree yeah

5:57

.

5:57

Don't you know , don't take a warning

6:00

not to go to a place from

6:02

a person who's never been to that place

6:04

.

6:05

Yeah .

6:07

Right .

6:07

Definitely will destroy your dreams if

6:10

you do that .

6:12

And also don't worry what people think

6:14

. If there's something you want to do

6:16

, do the research , find out if it is

6:18

indeed a good idea for you to do it and

6:20

then , if it is , do it . Don't base your decision

6:22

based on other people who might

6:24

have limiting beliefs about that

6:26

thing .

6:28

Yeah .

6:29

Yeah .

6:30

And you want to know how you can figure that out ? By looking

6:32

at your poem .

6:35

Yeah , definitely .

6:38

So the index finger represents

6:40

your identity , right Like who

6:42

I am and where I'm going . So

6:44

if you like shake your hands out and

6:47

then you just let them fall on the table

6:49

, palms down , and

6:52

like see , kind of like , what position your

6:54

index finger is in , if it's

6:56

nice and straight , then

6:58

that tells me

7:00

that you have confidence

7:03

. But you know what you want , you know what

7:05

you like , you have your own

7:07

identity and you don't really care what everybody

7:09

else thinks .

7:11

What if it's not ? And what do you mean by straight

7:13

in terms of like bendiness ?

7:15

No , just like sometimes , when people

7:17

put their hands down , their fingers

7:19

can be like really close together , or they could

7:22

be like open , or like one

7:24

finger , it could be like leaning towards

7:26

another , and so there's like

7:28

lots of different ways that I can tell like your

7:31

identity , like how confident

7:33

you are with who you are , based

7:36

on the positioning of your index

7:39

finger . Also the little mound

7:41

, like if you turn your hands over and you look at the mound

7:44

of the finger , so like

7:46

the little kind of fleshy bit at the base , like

7:50

where your palm is . If that's well

7:52

defined , then

7:54

that also tells me that you have a lot of confidence

7:58

and you're not really going to care what other people

8:00

think .

8:01

All right . Just a little aside . Good

8:05

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8:07

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8:08

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8:12

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8:14

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8:20

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end of December . You can book into the new year

8:24

, but you got to book before the end

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of December .

8:27

Oh yeah , that's good .

8:28

Cool .

8:30

All right , let's go to the next one on the list how to

8:33

destroy your dreams in 2024 , the

8:35

definitive guide Number

8:37

next is three . Take

8:41

everything personally .

8:43

Perfect advice , great advice .

8:45

This won't just destroy your dreams , this will just

8:47

destroy everything your self-esteem

8:50

, your relationships , your

8:53

income . You take everything personally

8:56

. Yeah , don't

8:59

do that .

9:00

Yeah , don't do that .

9:01

Don't do it .

9:03

And I think a lot of the people that listen to

9:05

this podcast know that the

9:08

way everyone is reacting

9:10

to you or responding to you is just a reflection

9:14

of their own stuff

9:16

. So

9:18

, nothing is ever personal . It's always just a projection

9:20

of how they are feeling or what they're thinking .

9:24

Yeah .

9:26

So , yeah don't take things personally .

9:29

Yeah , don't attach meaning to events

9:32

that is harmful to you

9:34

, right ?

9:36

Yeah .

9:36

Like you know , I'm trying

9:39

to think of an example , but , like people do

9:41

this all the time , human beings are routinely

9:44

guilty of this . There's an event , we

9:47

assume it means something about us

9:49

or about the world , and that something

9:51

or about us or about the world is both

9:54

not true and is harmful to us , right

9:56

.

9:56

Let me give you an example .

9:59

I think I told you this years ago . I

10:01

was in the grocery store and a complete

10:03

stranger gave me the finger . Say

10:06

anything . We didn't have any interaction

10:08

before or after this

10:10

happened .

10:11

Wow .

10:12

That person gave me the finger . I was the

10:14

only one in the area he was the only one in the area

10:16

, middle finger straight up at me Right

10:19

Now . I

10:22

could have assumed I could have attached many meanings

10:24

to this event . This is a true story , by the

10:26

way . I could have assumed that I was a

10:28

bad person . I deserve to be

10:30

accosted by this offensive

10:33

gesture . Right

10:35

, and a lot of people probably

10:38

would attach that meaning to the event , or they would assume

10:40

they did something wrong to that person , whatever

10:44

. Or , you

10:47

know , I could attach the meaning that that person

10:49

is probably having

10:52

some problems . Right , something's

10:54

off about the way they're interacting

10:56

with the world , right ? now , yeah , something's

10:58

up with them , I think you know I don't

11:00

remember what I thought about it at the time , but

11:03

I believe right

11:05

now I would just love to not attach

11:07

a meaning to it , to just be like well , that is

11:09

an interesting thing that happened and I don't care

11:11

.

11:12

Yeah .

11:12

We'll go on with my life , right

11:14

, yeah , but a person who's chronically taking

11:17

things personally , something like

11:19

that happens they're going to feel bad about it

11:21

.

11:22

Yeah , don't do it . Or they're going to cry , or they're going

11:24

to get upset or angry .

11:27

Yeah , go to the manager , call the

11:29

police . Those might not be bad

11:31

ideas , but you know . But

11:33

don't take it personally .

11:35

Yeah , don't take it personally . I've been experiencing

11:38

this big time because , with my viral

11:40

Instagram reel and

11:43

all these new people in my life , I'm experiencing

11:45

bad comments for the first time and

11:49

I honestly don't care

11:51

, like that's how . That's

11:53

where I know I've done so much work is because before

11:55

I would have really cared and I probably would

11:58

have attached a lot of meaning to it , but

12:01

I just don't care . Yeah , because

12:04

I know that I'm you know , I know that my work

12:06

is good and I know that what I am

12:08

presenting works and

12:10

these people have their own beliefs and that's there

12:13

. That's on them , not on me .

12:15

Yeah , existently

12:17

.

12:18

All right . Number four

12:21

on how you can destroy your dreams in

12:23

2024 is

12:25

don't be a tryhard

12:27

or take pride in your work . Don't

12:31

care about like , don't you

12:34

know ? Don't let people know how hard you're working

12:36

. Don't take

12:38

pride in all the effort you're putting

12:40

into your work . Don't do

12:42

any of that , because if you do , then people

12:44

might think that you're trying too hard or you

12:47

know you're working too hard , or like

12:49

that you actually care about what it is that

12:51

you're working on your life or your business or your

12:54

health ? Yeah , yeah

12:57

, If you actually cared , is that a bad

12:59

thing ?

13:01

Yeah , yeah . Don't

13:03

do that , folks . You know , if you want

13:05

to sabotage your dreams , then just you know

13:07

, take it easy , don't work too hard

13:09

ever . Just you know

13:12

. You don't want to be perceived as somebody

13:14

who goes all in . No . You

13:16

don't want to get what they want in life . You

13:18

don't want any of that .

13:19

No .

13:20

And if , for some crazy reason , you really

13:22

want your dreams to come true in 2024

13:24

, maybe you think it's okay to put

13:27

in the effort , make things happen , you

13:29

know , and to take some pride in your work and to go

13:32

all out for a while if it's something you're really passionate

13:34

about .

13:35

Yeah , it might be a good idea

13:37

. Maybe , yeah , I don't

13:40

know .

13:40

Just saying yeah

13:43

, whatever , yeah

13:45

yeah .

13:47

Work hard , be proud , love your

13:49

work . Tell people you

13:51

know miss parties because you're too

13:53

busy doing something that you love

13:55

, like that's okay . Or you know cancel

13:58

plans because you're working You're

14:00

allowed to do that .

14:02

Yeah , oh

14:04

, love it All . Right , there

14:07

you go . We got number

14:09

last .

14:10

Number last . Already , that was a short . Yeah , it's

14:13

like a short episode .

14:14

I guess that's good . People don't have a lot of time , right now

14:16

, you know . We always go too long on the episodes

14:18

, though , honestly .

14:20

Yeah , we have lately . They've been too long .

14:23

It's like it's good information . Yeah

14:25

, you know .

14:26

Yeah , but it's nice to have a short episode every once

14:28

in a while it's not a short episode , sometimes yeah

14:30

.

14:31

Number last , number last . If

14:33

you want to destroy your dreams in 2024

14:35

, do not open up

14:37

or be honest .

14:39

Great idea yeah , when

14:41

I think about this , I think about not being honest

14:43

about your needs . Mm-hmm .

14:46

Right . A lot of coaches , a lot of entrepreneurs

14:48

are afraid to ask for help , afraid to ask

14:50

for advice from their peers , afraid to seek

14:52

advice from mentors , afraid

14:55

to seek feedback

14:58

, and that comes down to not being

15:00

honest with yourself and others .

15:02

Totally yeah .

15:04

Yeah .

15:05

Yeah , this is like not setting boundaries , not

15:08

, you know , I

15:10

think there's this whole thing about like , if I open

15:13

up and I'm honest , then I

15:15

might get hurt or I might get

15:17

put down or I might

15:19

, like you know , maybe

15:22

no one will help me . So it's just easier

15:24

if I just like put a cork

15:26

in it , don't say anything

15:28

.

15:30

Put a cork in it , yeah

15:32

, yeah , so well , I mean

15:34

, if you want to destroy your dreams , yeah , put a cork in

15:36

it .

15:37

Yeah , put a cork in it . Just stop talking

15:39

. Put it up . Don't ask for help

15:41

, don't say anything , don't express your needs

15:43

. It'll make your life a lot

15:46

easier , trust me .

15:47

A lot easier .

15:48

Mm-hmm , all right . So

15:51

are you guys ready to destroy

15:54

your dreams in 2024 ?

15:57

If that's your aim , if you're ready to destroy those

15:59

dreams in 2024 , you have

16:01

the instructions .

16:02

Yeah , right here the full instruction

16:05

manual .

16:06

Boom , get on it .

16:08

Get on it . Yeah , I

16:11

certainly am not planning on destroying my dreams

16:13

in 2024 . What about you ?

16:15

I'm not , I'm not planning

16:18

to .

16:18

No me neither . So , I

16:21

mean , I guess you could accidentally destroy

16:23

your dreams by doing these five things .

16:26

Yeah , you could , but

16:28

you shouldn't , because now you're aware of them . So if

16:30

you , for some reason , you don't want to destroy your dreams

16:32

in 2024 , you can just reverse engineer this

16:34

list . Do the opposite

16:36

, boom .

16:38

Yeah , done .

16:40

There you go . Awesome , cool

16:43

, all right Finally a quick one and this is

16:45

sorry .

16:46

I think this is going to be our last episode for

16:48

2023 . Yeah , cool

16:50

, how about that ? Yeah ?

16:53

Last episode how to destroy your dreams in the new year

16:56

, awesome , cool

16:58

.

16:58

Yeah , yeah , and

17:01

we'll be back in the new year with

17:03

maybe

17:05

more ways to destroy other things . I'm not sure .

17:08

How to destroy your garden .

17:10

Or maybe we'll just do a whole season on how

17:12

to destroy your life .

17:14

Kill , crush , destroy the

17:18

destruction season . I'll

17:21

figure it out . We got some good stuff coming up

17:23

in the new year , though .

17:25

Yeah , for sure .

17:27

Yeah , so I

17:29

want everybody to go onto Facebook and

17:31

put in the search bar there the mission and movement

17:33

group free group

17:36

. I've rebranded it . There's a whole story behind that

17:38

. Lots of really cool stuff coming in

17:40

the new year . Or shoot

17:42

me a DM on any social media platform I'll

17:44

get you the link . But the

17:46

mission and movement Facebook community for hypnotherapists

17:49

and LP coaches et

17:51

cetera , it's open now . Go

17:53

there , hit the join button , answer the couple of questions

17:56

and get in there , because there's some great , great

17:58

stuff happening .

18:00

Oh , and someone has entered the contest

18:02

. I just opened it .

18:04

I know there's a contest going on inside the group

18:06

right now and I just opened the contest

18:08

a couple of hours ago . I've already got one entrance

18:11

.

18:12

Yeah , really good prizes , but you'll have to go check

18:14

out the post in the mission and movement

18:16

Facebook group to

18:18

find out what those prizes are .

18:20

You got to go check it out , yeah , yeah

18:22

. And what about you , elena Banks ? What do you got going

18:24

on ?

18:27

I'm still crushing it on Instagram

18:29

, which is very exciting , and

18:31

I am also offering well

18:34

, like I said in this episode , my rates

18:36

are going up in January . So

18:38

if you want to get a poem reading at the 2023

18:41

rate , do that now Go to my Instagram

18:43

at Elena Banks Coaching , and I'm also

18:45

booking breakthrough

18:47

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18:49

at a reduced

18:51

rate until the end of December , but

18:54

booking into January . So if

18:56

there's something that's not working in your life and you want

18:58

to completely transform it , this

19:00

is the session for you , and you

19:02

can find out more by just sending me a

19:04

message on Instagram . That's

19:07

it . Cool Love

19:10

it , yeah , so happy holidays to all

19:12

of our listeners . Thank you for being

19:15

mega fans and listening . All

19:18

year we grew by

19:20

119% . I

19:22

think that was what I read before we got on

19:24

here , so that's pretty exciting

19:27

.

19:28

Yeah .

19:28

We had 49 episodes . Well , it'll be 50

19:31

. 50 episodes that's so cool

19:33

. So two weeks out of the year we didn't do an

19:35

episode .

19:36

Nice . Wow , that's pretty darn good

19:38

.

19:39

That's pretty good , Pretty good . And

19:41

we are in 42 countries , the

19:44

top ones being the US , Canada

19:46

, the UK , Germany and Switzerland . So

19:49

thank you everybody for listening .

19:52

Germany and .

19:52

Switzerland , yeah , pretty cool

19:54

.

19:55

Cool , we're international .

19:57

International podcast over here yeah

19:59

heck , yeah , ok , cool .

20:01

So I guess that's it for this one . Happy holidays

20:03

everyone Merry Christmas , happy New Year

20:05

and see you in the New Year .

20:07

Yeah , bye .

20:08

Bye .