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Nolan my nose and we've had an

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An email in from a man who

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goes to the gym but finds that

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his favorite machine is always been harmed

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by somebody else who doesn't even use

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it properly but just stands there during

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their emails. and I have so much

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to say about poor gym etiquette. yeah

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have you do as well to I

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do it took to the point that

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I don't go to the gym anymore.

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I bought and this was pre cove

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it I bought waits for home I

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just there was too much gym politics

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am. Hanging all of that and

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kind of a hierarchy that seemed to be

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very much like the patriarchy that I wasn't

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responding well to at all. Tell me your

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feelings. I been very much the same, except

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I do still go to a gym and

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and like when I go or what I

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want to do was run on the treadmill.

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Yeah, you know I am a peaceful creature.

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I keep myself to myself. All I want

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is a treadmill. I don't want to be

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steal another people scattered bends or anything like

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that. I just want to do my gentle

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running in peace and to get the anxiety

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out of my sort of solar. Plexus

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bush and forgive me am

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for this but I find

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your men. misunderstanding

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what gyms are for. Gyms

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young men are not public houses. You

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are not at a house party when

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you are at a gym. You are

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at a gym. There is no need

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to be bellowing over to your mate

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on the other side of the gym

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about your plans for the weekend or

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on the phone. The phone

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is worse. Yes,

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I was lucky

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enough to get the place to myself

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recently. And then some fella comes in, you

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see, and when I'm running on a treadmill,

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I can't see anybody because my back is

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to the room. And so I can hear

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male voices and I can hear them booming

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and bellowing. That's another thing. Everyone

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speaks too loudly in the

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modern world, especially in gyms because I

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think it's all about kind of growing

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out and sort of being as kind

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of boomy as possible because you're so

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alpha. You're pumped, man. Yeah, you're pumped

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and everything is pumped even your voice.

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You should see like what my larynx

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can bench press. See the muscles in

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my vocal cords. Exactly. Yes.

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So this lad, I'm sure he wasn't even on the phone,

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but he had a thing in his ear and he was

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bellowing away about the markets in

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New York. And I

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have to say I am lucky to be still

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alive because I

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do not respond well to this

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any longer. And again, it's the

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menopause. There was a time

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when I would have kept my mouth

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shut and then I would have combusted. You know, you

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know, when you hear

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about spontaneous combustion. Yeah. That

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is what happens to people like me if

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I don't open my mouth, because I would

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have spontaneously combusted and burnt the gym down.

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There was a pile of ash on

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the treadmill. Exactly. If I hadn't

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learned how to articulate my fury.

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Right. So I'm there one run away

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one day. This Lad comes

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along behind me and starts bouncing a

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ball up against the wall. That was

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that right angle where there was sort

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of parallel. The my treadmill right

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at the back of my like

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touching distance. I turned around fly

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still trying to warn and I

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said could you stop doing that

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and he goes. Is. Is

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bothering you I said I

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wouldn't. It

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was. Warm and off more power to

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you know A because this is why I'm

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saying is is I'm it's a miracle and

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still still alive. It's tough to doing a

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crime. It's. A it's I think

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fast is a kindness to supposes.

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And then when they start they're shouting and

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evidence I'm still run and latency. Yeah known

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as and I Do Sales can. You

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keep it down. So

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into this and then declined to do a sneaker.

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News is that Marvel movie and fan?

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yeah that's right, I'm menopausal. Yeah he

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couldn't handle the here. be afraid and

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then they do the staying wet for

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some of the granted mother a sweet

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gods like you'd swear not forgive me

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this is vulgar would like this is

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no limits you would swear like from

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the Grunting and the rocket houses and

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when they're lifting whatever that they have

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just com all over there the bench

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that are line and separately. Last as

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lateral involved and I do sometimes says

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enjoyed teaching and then and sometimes as

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the have a very allows him with

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you this is amazing and know like

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i honestly I am I can sometimes

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us as thanks for sharing you know

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when they're having a big conversations and

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then sometimes when I'm leaving i say

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enjoy as nice as we have that

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as they told me lot of as

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using yes or and and has given

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me the last to know the i

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wish I had does in me I

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must I must us and I'm not

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quite slowly multiply yeah yeah I made

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for the heads I haven't taken my

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true form yes sniveling look for in

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a vase. My anger at the gym

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starts or started when I used to

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go with their very few benches even

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in a big big big big room

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yeah they're very few benches and some

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lads as guess every barbell in every

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dumbbell they want and put them on

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their beds lineup and to then. On

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a now yes and so scepticism one

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and and then of the might have

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a sponsor with them if discussion during

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his barbells and then they both commandeer.

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The. To benches but for an hour and

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it's like you can see you can leave

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your little towels on the side to the

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women discuss not is just some woman shelling

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know about away. Lastly and it's like I'd

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look but I want. To. To know about

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us to approved. Lists to string

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to give events. So I bought wastes

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for home. It's sad that you were

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founded. I was as if I test

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Rcmp Sansa show men who thinks their

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needs are far more important the news

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but at the same time you are

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same yourself. On. Told stomach

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ulcers. you know you did the right

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thing. Tyra. I mean I know I

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should do that too and I know

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I shouldn't engage and that I will

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end up murdered one decks and it

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would be my own. for that. We

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should be a buffet leader. Think the

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part of his posts causing a hear.

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a lot of people blaming this phenomenon

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on Pulls Cove. It's but I don't

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think it's Das. I think this happened

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in gyms before. but we're not grace

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anymore of being around people and navigating

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around shared spaces. I'm talking pavements. And

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some and two women what by me yesterday

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epa headphones on but I has him on

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low because I I wanted. I want to

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be aware of my surroundings until have enough

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time. It's and when I say they walked

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by me so close the great both my

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shoulders one on either side and I just

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afraid of my life because I'd seen them

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coming but I was like they're not gonna

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they're not gonna play out this way but

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that. They didn't seem to knows

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the i really to think I was a ghost.

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So that only thing that ghost feeling that goes

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yeah I and it's true that we become invisible

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and it happens at the gym and the time

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he gets the gym with the weights and it's

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like you, why would you need a bench Your

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ghost cf both but. There. is

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a part of it that is just pure

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and officer spatial awareness people get way to those

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people in choose and that's not a political

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the think of as i called the taught us

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to be a little bit for hours Now

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people are super close to each other again and

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I think we just need to navigate shared spaces

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a little bit better. Which are a little bit

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more... This doesn't belong to

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me. I'm not entitled to the

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whole space. To all of us. Leave

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some space for somebody else. Leave

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a couple of dumbbells and one

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barbell for somebody else. For other

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people. Yes, lads you'll still

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be tone de f. You'll still look

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hot in Ibiza. Not as hot

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as you think. No, definitely not as hot as you

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think. And far, far more

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boring than you will ever realise

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son. I'm actually really

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afraid now that the young men will come for

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me. But do they come for me anyway? Except

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if they come for me they won't see me

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because I am invisible. I am a ghost. You

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can do crimes. I can do

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crimes. How do you mean? You

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want to open CCTV. I can

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do crimes! I'm a ghost! Yes! Thank

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you, that's great. Thank you, darling.

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Thank you, darling.