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I the a-hole for banning my parents from

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a family event because they don't like my

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brother's wife? This comes from Icy

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Linganmary8128 and they say, So

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my 30 female little brother is 23. I

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have another brother that's 20, but this is about

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the 23 year old who I will call Blake.

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A few months ago, Blake eloped with his

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girlfriend Shay, 19 female. Our

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parents and my three sisters, Mary, 22 female, Bea,

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27 female, and Sarah, 25 female, were

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livid. Yeah. What?

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23 and 19. It's like if I go to a

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19 year old elope. Oh, I wasn't even thinking.

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I wasn't thinking that. Bro, we read a story

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where it was like a 24 year old and

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a 19 year old and you need to bat

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an eye. I was thinking of running

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away and doing the marriage young. But

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like young by who standards? Like Riley is

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like 20, 23 years old

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and 19 should be married yesterday.

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Not their age gap, but yeah,

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yeah, young by our boy standards.

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That's right. Like unusually angry. I was

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a little confused, but I spoke to him and

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to me it seemed like he and his girlfriend

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loved each other very much and just wanted to

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make a rash decision to elope in Vegas. We

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live about three hours from Vegas, so it's a

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popular day trip destination. So they were there for

1:43

the day and eloped like, yeah,

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it was a little silly, but I don't

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understand why they're so angry about it. Blake

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and shade didn't even tell anyone about their

1:51

marriage until two months later. Opie is a

1:54

30 female. Yeah. Sorry. I

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just coming from a 30 year old's mouth. You

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know, they're coming from a 30 year old's what. Like

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she's 30 and she thinks this is not

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crazy. What's it? Is it crazy? I

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think it's a little... It's rash.

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Two kids running away and

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getting married and... Young

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love. It's true but it just,

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you know... I think it's a

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little wild. But I don't think it's like deserving

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of hatred. No, no, not at all. Yeah,

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that's an overreaction. Okay. Blake

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and Shay are very wholesome and dare I

2:25

say a perfect couple. They very obviously love

2:27

each other, live together and split the bills,

2:29

both study very good degrees and have two

2:31

cats. I've always said you can't put a

2:34

timeline on life and if they want to

2:36

do marriage earlier than usual, who cares? I

2:38

care. My parents have made a

2:40

point to not invite Shay to any family

2:42

event since. They'll call up Blake

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and say, don't bring your girlfriend. They refuse

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to acknowledge the marriage. Blake came the

2:49

first two times. They did this but left

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very early and he's always politely declined all

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invitations since then. I've tried to tell my

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parents that they are pushing Blake away and

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soon they can expect to never hear from

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him again but they don't seem to care.

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I think that's true. I think that's true. I think

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that's wise words from OP. They

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take every opportunity to insult Shay even

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though they used to love her before

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the allotment. It's my son's birthday soon

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and I'm planning a big party. I

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sent the guest list in the family

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group chat and my parents saw that

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Shay was invited. They demanded

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that she's taken off but I refuse. What do you think?

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OP in the right. There's a little bit more to the

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story but OP in the right or wrong for refusing? For

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refusing to not disinvite her? Yeah. Not

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the a-hole and all. Totally in the right. Yeah. They

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were acting in a way that made me suspect they were

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going to make a scene so I banned

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them. Whoa. Right

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or wrong to ban? It's

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your son's birthday party. You get to choose. Maybe.

3:49

Maybe? Kind of smoke. Maybe that's kind of a

3:51

teaching of a lesson. Maybe I can

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get behind that. Yeah. Because we did read a story

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before where there were two people that hated each other

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and they didn't. They invited

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both of them and then it was a huge falling

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out that ruined the party. I

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don't want them to isolate my younger brother and he

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hasn't been to any family event since he got married

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besides the two he left early. They

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are infuriated. They are threatening to show up

4:13

anyway and think I have no right to

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ban them for someone who isn't part of

4:18

the family which makes me think that they're

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even more going to cause the

4:23

scene. My sisters and youngest brother think

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I'm overreacting and I could have instead

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warned them to behave and told them

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they would be removed if they couldn't

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do so they think the ban is

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nuclear. My parents are demanding an invite

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and apology so am I the

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a-hole? I want to know what all of y'all

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think in the comments so put your comments right

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now but Riley John is

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OP the a-hole by

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basically uninviting the parents

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because the brother is invited.

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No I think actually OP handled this

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well which is hard because you kind

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of have like two sides one side

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in particular kind of coming at you

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and I think the parents do need

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to say hey you can't be treating

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them this way and going all crazy so let

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me teach you a little lesson like you can't

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come if you're gonna be so crazy

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about this. But he didn't say that he said you're right

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you can't come. That's a good point. You

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just made a great point. So they assumed that

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they were gonna do that. But on the other side OP

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felt that they were gonna make a scene

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based on the interaction and then I'm

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on the line now if because

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explaining it that's the move didn't explain it

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huh what do you think Riley talk to

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me. It's tough it's tough because one

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she loves her brother a lot and is like I want you

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to come I want you to feel a part of the family

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because you haven't felt that way in a long time and and

5:42

result of that the family is gonna then

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pick on the brother again and she if

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you don't want that kind of like animosity at

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your party I don't think she's able like

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she yeah it might

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not been nice that she banned them but like

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that it's her son's birthday party they should be

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celebrating not like worried about this

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possible. That's what was gonna happen. I

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have a thought. I think

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what you can say to your parents is

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my brother hasn't been to an event

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in years and you

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have been hostile to Shay. I think

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it's really important to have him

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come to this event and feel safe and

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loved because if he

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doesn't he's gonna feel ostracized from the family and you're gonna

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lose a son and I'm gonna lose a brother. That's

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not to say that I want to invite you

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to future events and that you're both gonna be

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there but I want to see my brother and

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I don't want there to be a scene and

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I'm worried that you're going to make your distaste

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of Shay known. So for

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that reason you're out. Damn

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Damon. You know what? I'll go slightly

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inciest, weintiest, tiniest the

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a-hole for not explaining.

6:51

Ooh because then it

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could backfire and just end

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up worse. Which

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it already kind of has. It has

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backfired. There's no it's hard

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to be a mediator. Yeah it's hard to

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win in the middle. It's hard to win

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in the middle. Right. I don't know what

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O.K.OP. Rewind. My

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cousin is trying to kick me out of her wedding

8:04

because I'm too young. So

8:06

here's how I'm getting my revenge. Yeah, get

8:08

that revenge, honey. Yeah, that's right. My

8:11

20 female cousin Isabelle, 26

8:13

female, is getting married in

8:16

January. I

8:18

have chosen a set of royal Albert

8:20

plates from the gift registry that have

8:22

already been delivered. The

8:25

invitation said the ceremony would be first, followed

8:27

immediately by meals and guests would start making

8:30

their way to the reception hall. The

8:32

invitation also said be prepared for

8:34

a night of drinking and dancing

8:36

at the reception. Let's

8:38

go. Sounds like a fun time. It's

8:40

gonna be fun. But a

8:45

couple of days ago, Isabelle called me

8:47

and we made some small talk. She

8:49

then said she wanted a call to

8:51

confirm I knew the reception was more

8:53

for partying and it isn't really suitable

8:55

for me considering I'm not even 21.

9:00

I said I'm fine just drinking water

9:02

and soda, but she replied the capacity

9:04

for the reception hall is smaller, so

9:06

they're not including the younger

9:09

guests. Oh, rough. Uninvited.

9:13

Mind you, this is a child free

9:15

wedding, so there isn't really any younger

9:17

guests. I get not wanting to

9:20

have kids around for the reception, of course.

9:22

Isabelle said I'm invited to the ceremony and

9:24

the dinner and I was

9:26

confused and told her this is

9:28

really weird because the invitation I

9:30

got said ceremony and reception. She

9:33

replied that she's sorry for the misunderstanding,

9:36

but that's how it is because there's

9:38

going to be drinking and stuff. Eventually

9:43

I told her okay. Maybe it's because

9:45

the venue doesn't allow people under 21.

9:48

Possible, but yeah, it's so weird. Why would

9:50

you say that? It's like, yeah, like, oh,

9:52

sorry, we found out the venue doesn't allow

9:54

it. I told her, okay, I respect that,

9:57

but if she could kindly send me the

9:59

plates back. I could get a refund. Isabelle

10:02

asked why, because I'm going to be there

10:04

for the most important part, and they've included

10:06

me in the catering. I

10:08

said I was expecting to attend the tire wedding,

10:11

not half, and I bought the gift based on

10:13

that. Okay, that's a bit

10:15

much. Yeah, yikes. I might

10:17

not attend at all now, so she

10:19

needs to send the plates back and

10:22

all decide on another suitable gift, if

10:24

any. Wow, that seems like a little

10:26

overreaction. I also got a

10:28

text from my other cousin, Isabelle's sister, that I'm

10:30

making a scene. She's 19, by

10:32

the way, and attending the reception. Okay,

10:34

wait, that sounds weird, though. Yeah, and

10:37

I know another cousin the same age

10:39

as me, also attending the

10:41

reception. Yikes, oh, I think

10:43

it's just... Yeah, it's just you. Yeah,

10:45

they don't like you, man. I think

10:48

Isabelle's talked to other relatives about it. My

10:50

fiance thinks I'm in the right, though. So

10:52

was I able for trying to return the

10:54

plates? I mean, a little bit,

10:56

yeah, but I feel

10:58

like the uninviting, when

11:03

the other... Pretty damn hard. Yeah,

11:05

that's pretty... Why

11:09

would they uninvite her? Yeah,

11:12

from the reception. It makes no sense, because her

11:14

excuse is obviously BS, because

11:17

other kids younger than her are attending

11:19

it. So it's like... As a person

11:21

getting married just doesn't want you there.

11:24

Why did she invite her in the first place? Just

11:28

don't. Yeah, yikes. But

11:30

there is an edit! Oh, I just got off the

11:32

phone with my mom because I wanted to ask her

11:34

if they could pick up the gift I left for

11:37

Isabelle. Otherwise, I could potentially take mine. She

11:39

said Isabelle called her also and said

11:42

that they are welcome to the ceremony,

11:44

but the reception is more for friends

11:46

and partying. My parents are

11:48

definitely above 21, and they

11:50

also had ceremony and reception on

11:53

their invitation, too. Parents

11:55

were also planning to gift money so they haven't

11:57

given it yet at this point. They think it

11:59

was really... really rude of Isabelle to

12:01

invite them and then uninvite and they

12:03

might attend the ceremony but they're not

12:05

quite sure. Yeah, this

12:07

is pretty poor taste I think.

12:10

Yeah. It's probably like they wanted

12:12

to invite everyone and then realize, oh actually we just

12:14

want to have like fun with our close friends maybe.

12:16

Yeah, like you got to do it

12:18

like then the side, I don't know, it just

12:20

makes you look so bad on the, I could

12:22

kind of see like, oh you want to celebrate

12:24

because like the parents

12:26

and everyone versus like your close friends, it's like, oh

12:28

I want to celebrate with my close friends the way

12:31

that we celebrate which is maybe not

12:33

PG. Yeah. Then that's maybe figure

12:35

something out but yeah, I don't know. Yeah, big yikes,

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