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divorce after she quit her job to be

0:31

a tradwife? So, organiclet5948

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says, I don't

0:37

even know where to begin with this. Me,

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34 male, and my wife, 33 female,

0:42

have two kids together, 11 male and 9 female.

0:46

Me and my wife have been together for 12 years

0:48

and married for 8. Around

0:50

a year ago, I noticed

0:52

my wife increasingly sending me

0:54

these tradwife or traditional housewife

0:57

TikToks. I've got nothing against

0:59

the type of relationship, but I don't

1:01

think it makes sense for our current

1:03

family situation. Wait, what is a

1:05

tradwife? Uh, what

1:08

do you think? Phil? You

1:10

need to angle the camera down.

1:12

Okay, I'll get Phil in there. Also,

1:15

before I answer Riley's very

1:18

good question, uh, welcome

1:20

again. I no longer sound like a

1:22

robot. I've regained my

1:24

human form. I did

1:26

a brief stint as a Dalek. You

1:29

don't get that joke. Uh,

1:33

what do you mean to explain it? You

1:35

don't understand, Riley. Uh, a

1:37

tradwife for any, any people out

1:39

there who don't, you're

1:43

about to see why we're laughing. A tradwife is

1:45

like a traditional, quote unquote, like traditional wife,

1:47

someone who wants to be a housewife or

1:49

stay at home while, you know, Okay. Yeah.

1:53

Um, What do you guys think? What do you think

1:55

about it? Yeah,

1:58

why would you say that? Oh

2:01

my god, Phil! You're gonna

2:04

get cancelled! Also- Alright,

2:06

we're done, we're done. Okay,

2:08

I think of- I like- someone

2:11

said Bones for the other guy and

2:13

I liked that. I had a great one. Anyway,

2:18

let's keep going. I know,

2:20

sure. I was like, oh

2:22

Bones, and then Boney, Bones, I was like, Boner.

2:24

Yeah, that was Riley's great

2:27

name. Around

2:29

a year ago- oh, I said that. I

2:32

do earn quite a bit more than my wife

2:34

and enough to sustain our family on my own,

2:36

but I don't see the need to do so.

2:39

I work 80% and my wife 50%,

2:41

and besides Wednesdays where the both of us are

2:44

working, either one of us is always home for

2:46

the kids. I could work 100%

2:48

and let my wife be a stay-at-home mom,

2:50

but again, both of my kids are attending

2:52

school, and in my mind, there is no

2:54

need for my wife to be at home

2:56

24-7. She's

2:59

got increasingly pushy about it over

3:01

the past two months, and

3:04

again, I just kept on telling her that there

3:06

wasn't any need for that, and if we did

3:08

decide to go down that route, what would she

3:10

do during the hours my kids attended school? I

3:12

know damn well our house doesn't need to be

3:14

cleaned for six hours a day. She

3:16

would constantly try to butter me up with, you

3:19

would have dinner ready every day when

3:21

coming home from work, and

3:24

something about unlimited BJs or

3:26

some BS like that. Again,

3:29

in the nicest way possible, I

3:32

would remind her that our kids

3:34

weren't toddlers, and our current work-life

3:36

schedule allowed us to function perfectly

3:39

fine. Yeah,

3:41

before we keep going, I think that you both

3:43

have to be on board. Like,

3:45

it's totally fine to want to be a traditional

3:48

wife or be a stay-at-home mom, but

3:51

you can't just decide that you're going to be one.

3:53

If your partner's like, hey, that doesn't

3:55

make sense. So

3:57

she was like, I'll

3:59

make you... and also unlimited

4:01

BJ's. Yeah, and he's like, why?

4:06

This is a bad deal. Bad

4:09

deal? No, because they

4:12

both have enough time to

4:15

take care of the kids and stuff. The kids,

4:18

it doesn't really make sense, I don't think. Okay.

4:20

What he's saying. Okay. It's

4:23

not like they're overtaxed with

4:25

the kids or anything, or it's not like

4:27

one person is coming home significantly later and

4:29

not able to make dinner. I

4:32

don't know. I feel like she

4:34

could have got this and she spun it a little better

4:37

like, hey, let me be a tradwife and

4:39

also pursue my photography career. Yeah, but it

4:41

seems like that's not the case. We

4:44

got into a pretty heated argument two

4:47

weeks ago about it and my wife

4:49

completely stopped having spicy sleep with me

4:51

to show me what I would be

4:53

missing out on. This

4:56

is very immature. She's

5:00

basically been treating me like a roommate since. I

5:02

just thought she would get over it and this would

5:04

just be a phase, but God was I wrong.

5:08

I came home from work yesterday and saw a bunch

5:10

of presents on the dining table. At

5:12

first I thought they were all for me since my

5:14

birthday was in a week, but then I saw the

5:16

labels on them addressed to my wife. I

5:20

read one of the letters attached to one of

5:22

the presents. The last sentence on it was literally...

5:26

It was such a

5:28

pleasure working alongside you and I wish

5:30

you all the best moving forward. I

5:33

thought this was some sick prank. No

5:35

way she actually did it. I'm

5:37

confused. What did

5:39

she do? She quit. She

5:42

just quit. Whatever job

5:44

she had, she got a present from her

5:46

workplace saying, oh, so did I hurt her.

5:48

No. No, so she just went

5:50

ahead and quit? She already quit. I

5:52

thought she had written that letter. I was confused.

5:54

She pursued her dreams. What? That's

5:57

not stop. Missick says she basically...

5:59

basically just doesn't want to work anymore. That's what

6:01

it seems like. She's not pursuing anything else. They

6:04

don't need more help with childcare.

6:07

Yeah, very strange. I

6:11

just left without saying, oh wait, nope, sorry.

6:14

I thought this was some sick prank. A

6:16

few minutes later, my wife just casually strolls

6:18

into the living room acting like nothing was

6:21

wrong. I guess she

6:23

saw my mad expression and had the

6:25

audacity to tell me that you'll get

6:27

over it. I

6:29

just lost it. Is that

6:31

phrase the same as like chill out or

6:33

calm down? Yeah. Saying an aggravated woman

6:35

has to calm down. Yeah, no, this is so

6:38

messed up. Telling a guy you'll get

6:40

over it. I think anyone, if

6:42

you told anyone, you'll get over it after

6:44

it just happened. We'll see. I'll

6:46

plot on your math. I

6:50

still have a big old ant problem

6:52

all around the house and Sam was like, get

6:54

over the ants. But it's still happening. I don't

6:57

think you can get over something that's actively happening.

7:00

You moved her bed from the wall. I did. I

7:03

completely rearranged my room because they kept crawling on my

7:05

bed. And now they're in the kitchen. I've

7:08

been raiding the whole house. I

7:11

just left without saying another word and went to

7:13

my parents' house. I feel absolutely

7:15

disrespected. Why the F would my wife

7:17

think it was okay to just quit

7:19

her job without telling me and just

7:21

accept me to be fine with it?

7:24

My wife has been bombarding me with texts

7:26

and calls demanding to know where I am

7:28

and that the kids miss me. I

7:31

just told her to go find a lawyer and that

7:33

I was done with her and then proceeded to

7:35

block her. My son just sent

7:37

me a voicemail crying and asking why I

7:40

was divorcing mom. She did

7:42

not. She's using her kids

7:44

to guilt trip him. I

7:47

feel like there's more behind this. I don't think she actually

7:49

doesn't want to work. I don't know.

7:51

This is so weird. And I guess

7:53

that's kind of oh and if I was leaving the

7:55

family and I guess that kind of broke my heart.

7:58

I haven't responded and honestly don't know what

8:00

to say to him. My mother-in-law has also

8:02

been demanding that I return home and

8:04

apologize to my wife. My parents

8:07

also seem to be siding with the wife

8:09

since they're traditional Muslims. My mom also used

8:11

to be a stay-at-home mom. But

8:13

this is like so different. You can't

8:15

just decide what like one random

8:17

day to be a stay-at-home mom. That's a conversation

8:20

that both you and your partner should have about

8:22

if there is like if we

8:25

one you know need

8:27

a partner to be a stay-at-home partner

8:29

and like two does

8:31

it make sense financially or is

8:33

it going to hurt us financially?

8:35

Yeah. I'm wondering like if I had a kid

8:37

right now would I be a stay-at-home dad? Because

8:40

I'm always at home and the kid would be with me.

8:42

That's true. I think a stay-at-home I don't

8:46

know because I wouldn't consider my mom a

8:48

stay-at-home parent. If you had a kid right now you'd be a

8:50

stay-at-home mom. No but like technically yes

8:53

but I think that usually oh

8:55

Katie Kate I tried cinnamon it didn't work.

8:57

I tried vinegar. Oh my god. Sorry

9:00

what were you saying? I

9:03

don't think technically because you are still

9:05

working you're not exactly

9:08

a stay-at-home parent because

9:10

my mom worked

9:12

from home most of my life

9:15

but I wouldn't consider it exactly

9:17

a stay-at-home parent because she's

9:19

still working. Gotcha. So she's

9:21

like I don't know maybe people

9:23

disagree maybe it's just if you're at

9:25

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9:28

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like I'm wrong for immediately jumping to divorce

10:01

without hearing her out and besides this whole

10:03

job drama love my wife too much for

10:05

this to be the end of our otherwise

10:08

perfect marriage but on the other hand I

10:10

feel like I've lost complete trust in her.

10:12

Should I just swallow my pride and let

10:14

my wife stay at home from now from

10:17

now on or should I follow through on divorcing

10:20

her? How should I navigate the situation? Am

10:22

I the a-hole here? And there are some

10:24

relevant comments and an update but I want

10:27

to know your relevant

10:29

comments. Can we scroll up and

10:31

say okay actually there's one right

10:33

there. Oh did you do a poll? I

10:35

like doing polls on this. Lovely. Okay there.

10:38

Kristen Foylhott says no just because you work from

10:40

home doesn't make you a stay-at-home mom that's yeah

10:43

or stay-at-home parent. When you work you still need

10:45

someone to take care of your kids for you

10:47

while you work. That one yeah that's what I

10:49

think mostly because I have babysat

10:51

for parents who work from home before.

10:54

Oh. Because they're working so

10:56

they don't have time to take care of

10:58

the kids especially. Oh yeah cuz I was like

11:00

I'm gonna be a stay-at-home dad when I grow

11:02

up because I have online work. Technically you wouldn't

11:05

be unless you

11:08

weren't working and your job was being

11:10

a like full-time parent cleaner of the

11:12

house and stuff. Rebecca

11:17

Proles is a

11:19

stay-at-home parent typically does not do

11:21

paid work that's yeah. So that seems

11:23

like it's a general consensus. Maybe

11:25

she could give me a stifle.

11:27

Yeah Logan Bad Wolf says it's

11:29

hard to work from home and it's so hard

11:32

to take care of my kid if my husband

11:34

isn't there. Yeah what

11:37

I will say is the chat. Tina

11:41

Reena says no shame in being a stay-at-home mom

11:43

or taking time off from work but the key

11:45

is communication between the two of them. That's the

11:47

thing like it's I don't think it would have

11:49

been an issue if at

11:52

the beginning of their marriage or I

11:54

don't know it could have been it sometime in the

11:56

middle of the marriage they had a conversation and she was

11:58

like hey. I think we

12:00

need this for our kids. I think we need to focus

12:02

more on the kids. I would like to focus more on

12:04

our kids or something like that. But she just kind of

12:08

quit her job. And was like,

12:10

I'm not gonna work now. Yeah. Which

12:13

is, well yeah, strange. What do you guys think about jobs?

12:18

Wow. Wow,

12:20

typical. Typical never

12:22

worked a day in their life. Unbelievable.

12:26

I can't believe you would say that. But

12:28

there are some relevant comments. So let's get into them.

12:31

About their religion. Thank you, but we

12:33

aren't strict Muslims. Yes, we pray, et

12:35

cetera, but we don't follow any of

12:37

the traditional gender role ideologies. My

12:39

wife tends to be a bit more on the

12:41

conservative and traditional

12:44

side where I am a bit more

12:46

liberal. And I mean, doesn't the same

12:48

apply for Christianity? Go back home. Someone

12:52

says go back home and Opie response. I've

12:55

told my son I'll be home by tomorrow. I'll just

12:57

be gone for two days. Another person

12:59

says there had to have been red flags

13:01

earlier than this. Opie responds,

13:03

I mean, before this, the only red

13:05

flag I saw was her constantly just

13:07

ignoring me if we had a disagreement.

13:10

But usually that was for maybe max two days.

13:13

This was the first time she did that for a longer

13:15

period of time. And then the crux of the

13:18

issue, Opie responds, the fact

13:20

that she would be home relaxing isn't the

13:22

issue. It's the fact that we now have

13:24

to significantly cut down our current expenses. And

13:26

I'm not even sure if my company is willing to let

13:28

me work 100%. And

13:31

another exchange, one commenter says, this

13:33

quote unquote tradwife stuff is cult

13:36

level bat shit. Crazy. The

13:38

women who are indebted to tradwife culture

13:40

out of some desire to be valued

13:42

and have fewer outside of the home

13:44

responsibilities and the men who encourage women

13:47

to become tradwives out of some weird

13:49

chauvinist nostalgia for the family dynamics of

13:51

the 40s to 60s. And

13:53

an insecure need to fully control their

13:56

wife and household are codimented wrecks and

13:58

borderline sociopaths, respectively. That

14:02

was a mouthful. I love that they edited it with

14:04

respectively. They're borderline sociopaths,

14:07

respectively. I

14:09

feel so bad that you've been hit so hard

14:11

by this. I imagine it'd be like figuring out

14:14

one of your parents went down the QAnon rabbit

14:16

hole or worse. You should split

14:18

with her, absolutely. Beyond a certain

14:20

point, there's no reasoning with these people. And

14:23

then Opie responds, thank you, but I don't

14:25

think that this post should spread hate to

14:27

those who are currently are or

14:29

were tradwives. It's a completely acceptable type

14:31

of relationship if both parties agree to

14:33

it. And that's my

14:36

primary issue with all of this. Whew,

14:39

that was a lot of comments. But

14:41

there is an update. But

14:45

I think, yeah, I think we've kind

14:47

of discussed this already.

14:51

It's the communication. It's the lack of communication.

14:54

It would have been totally fine if they had agreed and

14:56

they had both been on board for this, but she just

14:58

went ahead and did it. And that's

15:00

not okay. That's not cool. Yeah. Should

15:02

we just get into the stuff, too? Yeah, let's do it. Oh, actually, I'll

15:05

read some of the donations. Oh, yeah, we got Dono Shums. No,

15:07

those are old. No, this wasn't new. What?

15:09

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Sophia into the Bee Queen. Yeah,

16:01

I did listen to it back and it was it

16:04

was strange that bad like ah

16:07

it was like You

16:09

know, yeah, this computer

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is Yeah,

16:13

but it runs much smoothly, but it

16:15

just some week. Yeah, this computer

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is supposed to save us now

16:20

Um May

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lore they keep it two bucks divorce

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16:28

divorce Yeah, so for 14%

16:30

14% of you don't think divorce a

16:33

little wormlet. Thank you for the 245

16:35

conspiracy theory she seen

16:38

in the F'ing

16:41

the gardener. I was like thin What

16:44

gardener do they have a gardener or is this just

16:46

like a general the She's

16:48

like I want to be stay at home so I

16:50

can be with the gardener. Yeah, and

16:53

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from Utah hugging you from LA You

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got some long arms. Yeah, you have

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some long arms if they can reach all the

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way from Utah But

17:07

you know what I want to reach into This

17:13

next update, okay cool,

17:15

I didn't want to say anything Before

17:18

I get into this next update TLDR

17:20

from all you little newcomers

17:23

around here Basically

17:26

OP's wife brought up wanting

17:29

to be a tradwife and

17:32

OP was like that doesn't make sense financially and

17:34

then his wife quit her job and Kind

17:37

of did it anyway. And so now they're

17:39

their marriage is pretty rocky

17:42

Let's get into this update. I would just said post

17:45

pre-vorce post pre-vorce

17:49

Oh First

17:52

of all, I just want to thank you guys

17:54

for the overwhelming support I've received I

17:57

received a ton of messages, but please be patient with

17:59

me I. Just went out of

18:01

of. The. As right I was giving and.

18:04

I. Just want to had a few crucial details

18:06

that I miss to mention in my original post.

18:09

I. Suffer from a genetic heart condition that puts

18:12

me at risk to. Stress induced cardiac

18:14

arrest. Move the fuck it?

18:17

I. Used to work full time but was

18:19

forced to cut down on my work

18:21

after suffering a silent heart attacks. Oh

18:23

the online is so he has a

18:25

lake literal condition. That and. Like.

18:28

Means he needs to cut down on work

18:30

and she's ignoring that. Mess.

18:34

Mess. Ya. Dude, she

18:36

could just take care of human. Go. Blue.

18:38

Know because he would needed because she's

18:40

a stay at home mom. There's no

18:42

extra. Income coming in so he has to work

18:44

more. But. If he works more,

18:46

who's more at risk for heart attack? That

18:52

this was nearly a decade ago, but since then

18:54

I've worked on my own are worth my own.

18:57

Physical. And mental wellbeing. Some.

18:59

People didn't understand me constantly mentioning why

19:01

was such an issue working the extra

19:03

twenty percent. I honestly don't know

19:06

how much time I have left and my kids

19:08

are the most important things in my life. For.

19:10

My own mental health. It's essential that I

19:12

get to spend time with my kids throughout

19:14

the week. Besides my wife and kids, I

19:17

have nothing. Oh I hate my

19:19

as a job and purely continue for the

19:21

sake of my kids and wife. This is.

19:24

The side. So.

19:28

Oh. Well. After spending a day

19:30

at my parents' house, eventually I enough time

19:32

to pass for me to gather my thoughts

19:34

on everything. What? She did seems like

19:36

the ultimate slap in the face, but I

19:38

went back that the intention to resolve this

19:41

and didn't want to escalate this effing nightmare.

19:43

My. Wife seems happy I

19:45

returned, but wasn't apologetic at

19:48

all. No. I think. I

19:50

don't have this relationship. Is gonna work out.

19:53

Of those. I. Don't think if if

19:55

she's not going to apologize. I didn't

19:58

even think about like that. Such a great point that. Made

20:00

about. If he works more,

20:02

he's going to also have to spend less time

20:05

with his kids. Which

20:07

I feel like if you're viewing it from the

20:10

tried why thing is like all the man doesn't

20:12

Will isn't as tired. As a new to be with

20:14

Arizona been. With his children. That's a woman's

20:16

job that lake you flick. I want to

20:18

parrot my kids I wanna be there for

20:21

them and you're denying me. that. Right

20:23

to Xia. Also messed

20:25

up a solid something. or like millennium.

20:27

Dads are spending way more time with

20:29

their kids in their dead the. Yeah,

20:31

that makes sense. As.

20:33

Also I think it's probably a

20:36

little bitty because there is a

20:38

split of income earth but of

20:40

like working between partners. Third, Eye.

20:42

People are now able to up kind of a more

20:44

equal time with her kids. My.

20:48

Wife I read that the. Kids

20:50

especially my son were is static.

20:53

That. That sort of made me ignore the lack

20:55

of remorse for the time being at same

20:57

night. After putting my kids to bed I

20:59

told her we need of a serious discussion.

21:01

I. Told her how I felt about everything she

21:04

did, the fact that she knows about my

21:06

health condition and still went through it. That's.

21:08

The. Fact that I sat clear boundaries and

21:10

she still chose to quit her job

21:12

without my consent. How

21:14

the fact that she told my son that I

21:17

was going to abandon the family really felt like

21:19

a stab and the back of. Throughout all of

21:21

this she didn't even seem. Remorseful once.

21:24

The. Fact that she chose her own happiness

21:26

to the detriment of mine. the fact that

21:29

I sacrificed so much for the family and

21:31

I got repay that like this. The fact

21:33

that we now as a family have to

21:35

make major lifestyle changes since a third of

21:37

our family income just. Her split

21:40

second, I saw an ounce of

21:42

sadness in her eyes before she

21:44

went right back. To being

21:46

annoyed with me. And. Then Barbie

21:48

as he says why did she changed her mind was

21:50

suddenly want to be a stay at home wife or

21:53

yes it is is all just a sudden for her

21:55

to make. The. Issues: Snow laps

21:57

such a. Giant. Lack of

21:59

communication. And it's just happening

22:01

very quickly. I

22:04

then simply told her to lay out her half of

22:06

the story. Here is a summary of what she said,

22:10

or maybe about to get a reason for

22:12

why she did this. I think a

22:14

lot of her friends with their mom's in their

22:16

life. Oh my gosh, it's so fun. You need

22:19

to do it. You're working? It's

22:21

crazy. You should do that.

22:23

That's a man's job. And she's like, well,

22:25

is it going to quit? She

22:29

felt ignored by me constantly rejecting

22:31

her proposal. She had worked long

22:33

enough, and this was finally the

22:35

time for her to enjoy her life as a true

22:38

wife. What? She's

22:40

like, I've worked so long.

22:42

You just have to keep working so I can

22:44

quit. That's not

22:47

how this works. That's not how it works.

22:50

She also said that I was being a baby about

22:52

the whole spending extra time with the kids thing. That

22:57

really pissed me off. And we ended up

22:59

getting into a heated argument. I couldn't bear

23:01

any of it anymore and just ended up

23:03

sleeping in the guest room. Until

23:05

yesterday, nothing changed. She

23:07

constantly tried to play everything off and

23:10

wanted to embrace her new role by

23:12

constantly trying to have spicy sleep with

23:15

me and by making me my

23:17

favorite dishes. This is just a rubber

23:20

band of emotions. It's just

23:23

constantly snapping back and forth. It's

23:25

crazy. It

23:28

just felt like she was trying to manipulate me

23:30

again. I wasn't having any of it. I just

23:32

kept on sleeping in the guest room. Well,

23:34

my birthday was yesterday. Birthday.

23:38

Happy birthday. And after work,

23:40

my wife and kids picked me up and we ate

23:42

dinner together. This was probably the

23:44

first time I genuinely had a smile on my

23:46

face in a week. Well, that

23:48

smile vanished because she tried to seduce

23:50

me again later that night. I

23:53

rejected her, and to my surprise,

23:55

she had a full-on mental breakdown.

23:59

Oof. Uh-oh. I

24:01

feel like she's like, gotta

24:04

like go back on her original

24:07

thought about being a stay-at-home mom. I

24:10

feel like she's, yeah, she's gonna change her mind now

24:12

maybe. Or they're gonna divorce. I could see

24:14

that. Yeah, I feel like either the, I think the

24:16

only way that this can work out is if she

24:18

changes her mind or if they get a divorce. R.I.P.

24:24

Mm. Wormlady says, you think she got radicalized

24:26

by Tradwife forums? Well, it seems like she

24:28

was showing him a lot of like TikTok

24:31

videos about being a Tradwife. So

24:33

it seems like she was kind of in that echo chamber

24:35

for a while. Yeah, Nate Mackey

24:37

said a little bit ago. She's

24:39

red-pilled. Yeah.

24:42

That's what, yeah, it seems like she's been stuck in

24:44

it for like a, I don't know, they said at

24:46

least a couple months, I think. Yeah. It seems

24:48

like she kept bringing it up to me and I was ignoring it. Yeah.

24:53

Um, I

24:55

just held her as she started to apologize for

24:57

what she did. She claimed she didn't

25:00

understand how much she hurt me. She was sorry

25:02

for making me feel like an afterthought, etc. We

25:05

ended up sleeping in the same bed yesterday. I

25:08

felt like things were finally moving in the right direction

25:10

and I again asked her about

25:12

searching for a new job today. Instead

25:14

of getting mad, she just replied with, I need

25:17

to think about it. Okay, okay, so

25:19

maybe they're getting somewhere. There's some thought

25:22

behind it. She needs to think about it.

25:24

That's still not, still

25:26

not, you know, much, but it is

25:28

a thought. It's more than

25:30

before. Yeah,

25:35

that's where things are as of today. It

25:37

feels like progress is being made, but I

25:39

don't know if this is just another one

25:41

of her manipulation tactics. I'll

25:43

probably make a final update in a month

25:45

or so. Reddit isn't doing my mental health

25:48

any favors. Fabiors.

25:51

How would you guys move forward in this

25:53

situation? Could I have done something better? Is

25:55

she being genuine? And to those insos who constantly

25:58

bring up Islam as a way to get to the point where they're not as good as they are, to

26:00

justify her behavior, please shut the F up."

26:03

And there are some relevant comments,

26:05

but no more updates. So

26:08

should we just get into

26:10

those? Or actually, I'll read some of

26:12

your fuel comments first. Duchess

26:15

Kasana says, if he'd talked to her instead of

26:17

ignoring her for months, maybe things would be different

26:19

now too. That is also

26:21

what I was thinking because we've been

26:24

talking a lot about communication. And

26:26

if she had kind of been broaching this

26:28

subject for months, I

26:31

probably shouldn't have ignored the issue. He

26:34

probably should have been like, hey, that's not going to

26:36

work out for us. We just aren't financially

26:38

in the right place. Miss

26:41

J. Bird says, time for her

26:43

to lose some things since no one

26:45

should lose anything due to her financial decisions.

26:47

Yeah. If she can't

26:49

afford it, then maybe she doesn't get a buy-it.

26:54

So someone brought up earlier, I

26:56

don't know who said it, but someone brought up

26:59

her trying to seduce him to get

27:01

a baby, which would

27:04

probably... Baby trap. Yeah, kind of

27:06

a baby trap. Thus, resulting her to stay at home. Having

27:08

to stay at home, yeah. Tanja

27:11

Sisny says, what choice does she really

27:13

have? If they divorce, she'll certainly need to

27:15

go back to work. Yeah. So

27:18

it's like she either gets

27:20

help in income or she has

27:22

to work on her own. Or

27:24

like she has to go back to work and gets a

27:26

second income or she doesn't get a second income

27:28

and still has to go back to work. Either

27:32

way, I feel like she's got to have to go

27:34

back to work. Work because of

27:36

mine. Noemi

27:38

says, okay, to be fair, he sounded jerky when

27:41

describing stay at home moms like they do nothing

27:43

all day while the kids are at school, but

27:45

that's no excuse for her behavior. She should have

27:47

done therapy long ago. Yeah, that's

27:49

fair. He was... Well, I

27:51

don't know if he was necessarily describing

27:54

all stay at home moms like that. I think he

27:56

was just saying that it... Like the...

28:00

kids are school, she would

28:02

be doing significantly, she wouldn't

28:04

be doing as much work as

28:06

a stay-at-home mom to babies,

28:10

especially because he's coming home at five

28:12

or something. So it's not like she is

28:16

alone in the house all day. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

28:18

yeah. Maybe not five, I don't know, that was

28:20

a random number. Yeah.

28:23

Evening time. Evening, three to five

28:25

maybe. Um,

28:28

but let's get into these last relevant comments.

28:30

Nice. One commenter says, if you're

28:32

still questioning things at this point, respectfully take

28:34

your effing head out of your butt. Obie

28:37

says, I guess you're hinting at divorce. Let

28:39

me make it clear for you, in our

28:42

culture divorce is the last resort and extremely

28:44

frowned upon, and especially if there are kids

28:46

involved. I wanna fix this,

28:48

if she shows no improvement after I've

28:50

tried everything, yes, then I'll

28:53

go to divorce. Commenter, another

28:55

commenter says, she's not even being a

28:57

good tradwife, since they're supposedly

28:59

meant to put their husband's needs ahead of

29:01

their own, but she's definitely putting her wants

29:03

out of your needs. It sounds like you

29:05

really need couples counseling. Obie

29:08

responds, she believes my needs

29:10

solely revolve around sex, that's

29:12

the problem. And

29:14

Obie responds to a different comment saying, she's

29:16

always been like this, she f's up or

29:18

wants something from me equals trying to f

29:21

me 24 seven. That's

29:23

also pretty messed up, like trying

29:25

to resolve all of your problems with

29:28

like sleeping with the person, doesn't

29:31

seem like a healthy way of communication.

29:33

Yeah, because then soon, it's

29:35

like the dog in the bell. Pavlov's

29:37

dog? Yeah, yeah, the Pavlov's

29:39

thing. Yeah, it just doesn't seem very

29:42

healthy. Another

29:44

commenter says, when she came to you with her issue,

29:46

what did you do to help find a solution? Obie

29:49

says, I constantly told her she can reduce

29:51

her hours if she

29:54

wants. Okay, so they did have a kind of solution

29:56

brought up. That's fine with me, being at home 24

29:58

seven without my consent is. where

30:00

I draw the line. Another

30:02

person says, do you have life insurance?

30:04

Yeah, I work for insurance. And

30:06

then couples counseling, thank you OP says. Couples

30:09

therapy can definitely help. I love that that was

30:12

the last comment on here. What?

30:14

Couples therapy. Couples therapy. I

30:16

was like divorce just forget about it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And couples

30:19

counseling. Yeah. I

30:21

think that's, that seems like the

30:24

answer that OP is most comfortable with

30:27

right now because he doesn't want divorce.

30:30

But if they don't

30:32

come to an agreement, it just seems like

30:35

they're both at an impasse right now. Like

30:37

she so desperately wants this tribe, like

30:39

tribe life lifestyle. And

30:42

he's like, I can't, we can't afford that. Yeah.

30:45

Gabby V says, damn, she's using sex

30:47

as a weapon, a weapon slash bargaining

30:49

tool. Yeah. Very

30:51

not good. But

30:54

that's all the, that's the whole story.

30:56

That's the full thing. There's no more.

30:59

Maybe he'll update and we'll, we'll

31:01

include it on our update episode. But

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my gosh. I have an

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okay story time. About monologues? Well, about

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people that... My girlfriend. Dude.

32:02

She... I love

32:05

it when she talks to me, but last night

32:07

there was just something. It's just a wave. But

32:09

people with ADHD though, if they talk at you

32:11

nonstop, that's like their version of like, I love

32:13

you. Yeah. So I adored

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it. But it was like literally, I was like,

32:18

let's get you a mic and camera because you

32:20

could make a podcast. Forever. You could. Yeah. Honestly.

32:22

No, I find it so difficult to

32:25

engage with people when I'm like, I

32:27

guess, I mean, that's everyone. If I'm

32:29

not interested fully in the conversation, I'm like, yeah.

32:33

Yeah. But you know, if you get me a little bit

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do it. It's freaking gold. Also, while

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Sofia's pulling it up, we have 700

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people here, but only 265 likes. What?

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Do you even like the Will Spin? What?

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Do you not like the Will Spin? We have 705

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concurrent viewers And

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only, yes And only 267 likes? Yep

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listener, you, watcher You You can change

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this You have the power And

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if you've already liked, please go bully the

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people that have it You had a chance to change your fate,

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would ya? Seems like

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all of you guys who haven't liked wouldn't You

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wouldn't change your fate Whoa Let's

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get into this next story Am

34:32

I the a-hole for rejecting my

34:34

ex-husband when he begged me to give

34:36

him his old life back? What's

34:40

his old- Like he wants to

34:42

restart the marriage? We

34:45

got nerfed Mmm, I don't know about that

34:48

So, Throwray, lovebaking says, throw away

34:51

because he uses Reddit regularly Forgive

34:54

any grammar mistakes this may have I

34:56

grew up speaking Spanish because my parents

34:59

moved to the US from Puerto Rico

35:01

Okay, I'm sorry If

35:03

you are gonna have a throwaway account Don't say

35:06

things like I came here

35:08

from Puerto Rico and I'm in America now

35:11

And I don't speak English as my first

35:13

language Dude, he's gonna- no You're

35:16

doxxing yourself, man You're doxxing yourself

35:20

Me and my husband were teen parents and had

35:22

our oldest daughter when I was 16 and he

35:24

was 18 This is a lot of info if

35:26

he uses Reddit a lot He

35:29

and I agreed we'd get married and start a family

35:32

so our daughter would grow up with both parents I

35:35

know this wasn't a good decision, but at the time

35:37

I truly believed we would make it work We

35:39

have three kids together, two sons and one

35:41

daughter My ex lived in Boston

35:43

while I and the kids were in San Francisco while

35:45

he was in college I finished

35:48

high school but didn't get to go to college because

35:50

he said he'd like for me to be a stay-at-home

35:52

wife and mom A lot of

35:54

stay-at-home partners in

35:56

this collection of stories What's

36:00

good be you Riley? I'd like that.

36:02

Yeah, I don't I don't think

36:04

I want to be stay at home partner I

36:07

mean as long as I can still podcast Yeah I

36:09

don't want to spend I want to have a job that

36:11

allows me to spend a lot of time with my kids

36:13

But I still want to have a job like this

36:15

schedule is perfect like yeah with kids in the

36:17

morning And then I in the night livestream at

36:20

12 get done around Hopefully never

36:22

have kids will you guys let me be done

36:24

by like six to hang out with my kids?

36:26

Yeah No

36:28

bring them on I'm gonna

36:30

have my kids be on any sort of social media like

36:32

I don't want to I don't want to like advertise them

36:35

on My social media. What do you mean? Dude? Those are

36:37

cash cows right there. No exactly I'm

36:39

not profiting off of my children. We monetize everything.

36:41

No, I don't want to be one of those

36:44

like youtubers that Just

36:46

post their kids for content. I

36:48

thought my life I Think

36:50

they're costing you a lot of money. Why not get

36:53

that money back? No,

36:57

I made them come into this world. I

37:00

have to take care of them. They don't owe me anything And

37:04

I agreed because I wanted us to get

37:06

along at the time and trusted his judgment

37:11

During our marriage I did most of

37:13

the housework and dealt with the kids

37:16

school stuff extracurricular activities playdates Etc.

37:19

Also Riley. Can you change the TLDR? Oh

37:21

my gosh Yes, thank

37:23

you. Sorry guys. He was very busy during

37:25

most of it. So whenever he was home He

37:27

spent the time he wasn't sleeping playing with the

37:29

kids. So he didn't make much time for

37:31

our marriage Oh, I

37:34

tried my best to entertain him I wanted him to

37:36

be interested in me a little more and I just

37:38

wanted him to spend time with me But

37:40

he refused most of the time because he

37:42

was tired from work and other things Our

37:46

main issue was that he didn't do anything with

37:48

the kids besides playing with them or buying them

37:50

things I was the only one

37:52

enforcing some type of discipline and he was undoing

37:54

all of it If I scolded any

37:56

of our kids in front of me, he'd side with

37:58

the kid and disregard me It was very

38:01

frustrating but I loved him so I

38:03

stayed. I basically spent our

38:05

entire marriage trying to appease him

38:07

until 2021. What

38:10

happened in 2021? What's

38:12

about to happen? Also

38:16

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38:18

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38:33

Sorry I just bones. I really

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want to call it my name. That's

38:38

the little merm. Bones. His

38:41

name is Bones alright. Wait, so Bones. Oh

38:43

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39:01

that like a jazz hand? The

39:03

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39:05

you needed two. Someone put

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39:14

you Dominica Strangierka for the 246. Love

39:18

you all and we love you. But

39:21

let's find out what happened in 2021. I

39:28

found out he slept with a coworker of

39:30

his. Exactly

39:33

blue. He

39:36

begged to go to therapy but I said no.

39:39

He never believed in couples therapy up until that moment.

39:41

I was depressed

39:43

for months because of this. I

39:45

filed for divorce a week after I found

39:48

out and after a lot of resisting he

39:50

finally agreed and we had a peaceful divorce.

39:52

No fighting, no threatening, no nothing.

39:55

He has the kids on the weekends and I have them on the weekdays.

39:57

So I see him. only

40:00

on the weekends. After

40:03

the divorce, we barely talked, mostly because

40:05

I was avoiding him. But when

40:07

I started going out with friends, he started sending

40:09

me angry messages about the way I was dressing

40:11

at my age as a mom. Basically,

40:14

he started sloot shaming me for

40:16

going out and living my life without him.

40:18

He sucks. Yikes.

40:22

He called me crying a few hours ago begging

40:24

me to get back to him. He's so

40:27

needy. He's so pathetic. He's

40:29

shaming her

40:32

and then he's like, I want you back. No.

40:34

Grass is always going to the other

40:37

side, but it's the most scream where

40:39

you water it. Yeah. Should've thought about

40:41

that. Should've thought about that. Where

40:46

was I? I didn't hang up.

40:49

I just listened. I kept listening until he

40:51

had nothing else to say and hung up.

40:54

I cried for an hour and now I'm just thinking

40:56

of what to do now. I know

40:58

I can't go back to him because it isn't fair to

41:00

our kids or to me, but I don't

41:02

know how to reject him without upsetting him. He's

41:05

got to be upset either way. He did that

41:07

to himself. Yeah. He did that to himself.

41:09

He cheated on you and now he's being

41:11

a baby about it. You

41:15

deserve better and you don't owe him your

41:18

kindness. Yeah, I really don't.

41:21

Just tell him no. Say I

41:23

have no intention of getting back together with

41:25

you. You suck. Yeah, and it

41:27

seems like you're a very kind person. You have the

41:29

right to be mad about this. You know

41:31

what you should do? Uh-oh. You

41:34

should find a 24-year-old pop

41:37

star. I knew it.

41:40

And start a

41:43

sling with him where you travel

41:45

around Europe together until the

41:47

paparazzi find you and expose

41:50

your relationship and then you

41:53

go back and forth on whether or not you can stay

41:55

together and then you break up

41:57

because your daughter is getting so much fling. at

42:00

school and then five years later

42:04

something stop stop you just said the

42:06

plot of the movie okay Sophia and I I

42:08

can't I cannot watch movies with you anymore

42:15

you get so she gets

42:18

so like excited about seeing like handsome

42:21

men oh yeah that's not why

42:23

I was excited really cute moments

42:25

happening we saw a movie last

42:27

last night but

42:30

you were all like I kind of spoiled it so

42:32

now I'm like should I just not tell you guys

42:34

the name don't tell him the name of it second

42:39

yeah cuz I did kind of spoil parts

42:41

of it but oh my good

42:43

like just like sliming around in her

42:45

chair the whole time yeah it

42:48

was just a good movie it was a good

42:50

Riley liked it too it was pretty

42:52

nice is nice what are you doing dude well

42:55

we're doing you're sitting on my

42:57

word you're sitting on my word

42:59

this is

43:02

filling bones time yeah but

43:05

you know what time it really is now wait

43:09

wait wait Sam I

43:11

want to name the other one not

43:13

bones of a boner and I want

43:15

to keep it bones no give

43:19

me my worm you scally

43:22

down rolls

43:24

story why

43:32

dragons before I am a part

43:34

of even gang yeah I

43:36

love listening to your show whenever

43:38

I can you're all very entertaining

43:41

I'm Finn starting to get to

43:43

listen to the livestream oh finally

43:45

fine fidda

43:47

the thanks for the fun worm queen

43:50

you're welcome anything for

43:52

you thank you Stanley ghost star for

43:54

the pipe but tip come on guys let's get

43:56

another hour I need to write my paper other

43:58

well yes We need to help

44:01

Stanley goes to write their paper. And

44:03

they only know. Yeah, chatty, chatty. I

44:06

don't approve of chatty for writing papers.

44:09

Use your own words. No

44:12

plagiarism in this chat. But

44:14

let's get into this next story. Let's

44:17

get into it. Woo! Are you joining or are you just hanging out

44:19

for a bit? I'm just hanging out for a bit, I have other

44:21

words to do. Did John handle the

44:23

ants downstairs? Is there ants? In the kitchen.

44:25

There's ants in the kitchen? There was

44:27

a whole line of them. A wine?

44:29

You know why? Why? Because

44:32

you leave crumbs everywhere. That is not true.

44:34

I didn't even have anything this morning. Well,

44:36

anyway. Anywho, I think

44:38

he raided the kitchen. Let's

44:41

get into this story. Yay, cancer

44:43

in our food. Woo! Woo!

44:46

We already got it in there. It's okay. Microplastics. Am

44:49

I the a-hole for wanting to leave my

44:51

husband after he stole from me? No,

44:54

I think that's, can you bring me water, Sam?

44:57

Me too. I think that's pretty

44:59

natural if your husband steals

45:01

from you. I

45:03

feel like you should divorce. So,

45:07

okay, prestigious guest says, when I was five,

45:09

my nana gave me her tea set. It

45:11

was given to her by my mother. Oh,

45:14

by her mother. My nana

45:16

had no daughters of her own and I

45:18

was the only girl of her 11 children,

45:20

grandchildren. So she gave it to me. It's

45:23

a full bone china set. Bone

45:27

china set? What

45:30

makes it a bone china set? Interesting.

45:33

Cuban bones? I don't think so. Made it

45:36

to China. I

45:38

don't know if it has monetary value

45:41

but its sentimental value is immeasurable. I

45:43

have had it, kept it, used it

45:45

for nearly 28 years. Wow.

45:49

I wanted to pass it down to my own

45:51

daughter or granddaughter one day. My husband knows all

45:54

of this. I'm really worried about

45:56

this tea set. I'm really

45:58

worried about this tea set. What do you mean? It

46:00

sounds like it's going to be fine. I'm

46:02

so worried about this tea set. Her

46:05

sister and her family came to stay with us for

46:07

a week. Whenever I'll have little girls over, I pull

46:09

out my tea set for a tea party. I

46:12

make tea sandwiches, scones, cakes, biscuits.

46:15

My Nana made tea parties a big deal

46:17

with me, and I carry that on. So

46:20

me and my sister-in-law and her daughter had

46:22

an afternoon tea party. It was

46:24

a couple of weeks after that I had my friend

46:26

and her daughters coming to visit. I

46:28

planned a tea party. Morning

46:30

of, I baked my sandwich, made sandwiches,

46:32

went to pull my tea set out,

46:34

and it was gone. This

46:37

is so messed up. This is so messed

46:39

up. He took something that

46:42

she uses all the time. Or

46:45

he was going

46:47

to go clean it. Mm,

46:50

we'll find out. I

46:52

kept it in a cabinet in my kitchen. I

46:54

wash it and put it away every

46:56

time until the next time. Nevermind.

47:00

Mm, and put it, I

47:02

went a little mad looking for it. The visit

47:04

came and went. I spent

47:06

days tearing my house apart looking for it. Every

47:09

cabinet drawer covered. The whole house

47:11

was turned inside out. My

47:14

husband even helped me. No,

47:16

he helped her. He

47:18

helped her. This

47:21

is unbelievable. He was insistent

47:23

that it couldn't have grown feet and

47:25

walked away on its own. Not the

47:27

gaslighting. No, no, no. Oh,

47:30

that's funny. It looks like you have feet and

47:32

hands and you could have taken it from there.

47:34

And a thieving spirit. That's

47:37

what gets to me. He knew

47:39

damn well where it was, but he

47:41

pretended that I had misplaced it. He

47:44

knew how upset I was and tried to comfort me

47:46

with the promises to buy me a new set, as

47:49

though a new set could replace my nana.

47:52

A few weeks later, he came home with a

47:54

cheap, thin looking set that he had bought at

47:56

Walmart or something. I threw it in the bin.

47:59

Call me ungrateful if you have a new set. you want I don't

48:01

care I wasn't grateful something

48:03

you treasure something of great sentimental value

48:05

given to you by your long dead

48:07

Nana cannot be replaced no matter how

48:09

much or little in this case the

48:12

replacement costs Oh guess

48:16

what Sophia what

48:19

oh my goodness was that

48:21

Kristen for a hat yeah gifted memberships

48:24

look at you guys go

48:26

you're incredible constantly

48:28

raising the bar for us all and

48:31

thank you Jojo 45 for the 25th 25 buck

48:34

tip happy Friday worms and

48:37

then lastly they are maybe not lastly Heidi Browning

48:39

thank you for the one buck tip Sophia could

48:42

be the lead of my girlfriend is an alien

48:44

the alien race reacts to testosterone like we

48:47

do to a very addictive drugs so

48:50

anytime she sees a hot nail she sniffing

48:52

them and trying to feel them up

48:54

oh my gosh yes what

48:56

are you talking about every time there's

48:59

a guy on the movie you're like

49:01

funny and it makes you squirbe

49:03

and it's funny to do that it

49:05

is pretty hilarious and I do

49:07

stop like I don't actually care

49:10

what ah okay I doubt that

49:12

if you were to see her in the

49:14

movie theater she's like that

49:16

is not true I'm laughing you I'm going

49:21

because it's funny

49:24

y'all crazy blushing now she knows

49:26

look at her look at the

49:28

blush that's just

49:30

my blush on my cheeks I put it on

49:32

them this morning anyway Courtney thanks

49:35

for the 10-buck tip y'all are the best

49:37

you're the best best

49:39

lady Morgan thank you for the one the

49:42

two buck tip and thank you

49:44

blamify for the 10-buck tip just got

49:47

here hoping for another hour at your wish is

49:49

granted all hail the

49:51

worm queen the pigeon army stands no

49:53

chance all right all right

49:57

you're right and you should say it I

50:00

feel like this is like my I need a crown and

50:02

this is my septa. Yeah Yeah,

50:06

you know what you know what scepter is right? Okay.

50:09

It's like a It's

50:11

like a whether they call it the cane kind

50:13

of thing like a royal cane.

50:15

Oh John has one of those But

50:19

it's like a regular game

50:21

then I heard my husband on the phone Hello,

50:25

I Heard him

50:27

say that when we visit to put it

50:29

away and tell Mellie not to mention it

50:31

because I'm still upset about it He

50:33

didn't say the words he said that

50:36

I knew I knew That's

50:39

what he was talking about. I walked

50:41

in while he was still on the phone and called him

50:43

a thief He

50:46

was like a deer in headlights. He quickly

50:48

hung up and tried to explain. I

50:51

wouldn't hear it. I Told

50:54

him to get it back his sister called me

50:56

and I called her a thief I

50:58

told her to return it in the same condition She

51:00

took it or I would be calling the police then

51:03

I hung up on her My husband

51:05

tried reasoning with me. He told me his

51:07

niece loved it so much and that that

51:10

kind of thing is really is for little girls It's

51:14

a tea set What

51:17

how is it just for little girls? Adults

51:20

have tea. Yeah, if you don't see movies, they

51:22

have tea all the time in the British stuff.

51:24

Yeah, what are you talking about? He

51:26

said he was going to talk to me about leaving it

51:28

to her anyway. So where is the harm that she is

51:30

it now? He said

51:32

I was too old to be playing around with

51:34

kids toys What

51:37

you are also too old to be

51:40

taking toys. Yeah away from people And

51:44

I really should grow up he said I

51:46

was immature and it means nothing when he

51:48

meant what he meant Is that it means

51:51

nothing to him? So I should forget it

51:53

divorce this man divorce this man

51:55

He is a thief and a scoundrel Jellbus

51:58

Jellbus says it Heirloom

52:00

Real Bone China. Yeah.

52:04

Obviously this means something and is important

52:06

to OP. And

52:08

it is outrageous. This man would steal it

52:11

and then gaslight her about it. The

52:14

next day, I not only went to the

52:16

police to report the theft, I also called

52:18

my brother who lives in the same city

52:20

as my husband's sister. My

52:23

brother went around and got my peace

52:25

set. My husband was livid and spent

52:27

a couple of days calling me a

52:29

lot of derogatory names. His tune

52:31

changed when he came home to find me packing

52:33

my stuff. He stole from me,

52:36

pretended he didn't know anything about it,

52:38

insulted me, tried

52:41

to gaslight me, and now he's saying how

52:43

sorry is and that we can work this

52:46

out? I don't think we can.

52:48

I look at him and see someone who

52:50

steals from me, lies to me, makes me

52:53

feel small, someone untrustworthy, who doesn't

52:55

care about me. Yeah, we're

52:58

a minion, says divorce and press

53:00

charges. I've

53:03

been told that I'm an A-hole to leave

53:05

him over a tea set but it's not

53:07

just a tea set. It's my Nana's history,

53:09

it's my history, it's years of happy memories

53:11

with my mother and other female relatives and

53:14

friends. He stole all that from

53:16

me when he gave it away. Am

53:18

I the A-hole for calling it quits?

53:21

No. OP, you are. Hondo

53:24

percent, not the A-hole. You're good.

53:26

Not like, he

53:30

stole, he got slighted ya. He

53:34

insulted ya. He's

53:36

the worst. That's crazy. And

53:40

then he has the audacity to be like

53:42

it didn't mean anything. You don't

53:44

get to, you don't get to like decide

53:48

what has meaning for people that are not you.

53:52

Like if Riley, if you really

53:55

liked that tape measure and

53:58

you're like this is sentimental value. for me. My

54:01

grandfather got it for me. And

54:03

I was like, no, it doesn't. That would

54:05

make me an A-hole. And

54:07

that's what he did. Oh, if you

54:09

said like Guitar Hero's stupid. Yeah. Or

54:12

like took it away and like sold it. Yeah, I

54:14

sold it. That would be... And you were like, but that

54:16

was mine and it meant a lot to me. And I'm like,

54:18

well, it doesn't mean anything to me. So it

54:21

can't mean anything to you. Wow. Yeah, no, you're the

54:23

A-hole if you did that. Yeah. Yeah.

54:25

Wow. Pigeon Proselytizer says, dump him. Some

54:27

people see things as just things and

54:29

some people see things as personal history.

54:32

Give away your own stuff. Opie's husband. Yeah.

54:35

Give away the husband. More like it. Uh.

54:39

Also, change the TLDR. Uh.

54:43

Guys, I'm so sorry. Okay. We have to change

54:45

it again. Because we're

54:47

moving on to the next story. And

54:49

we have

54:52

449 likes and 842 people here. Guys,

54:57

please. Jay? Jay? Why?

55:01

Jay? What is making you from

55:03

like doing one of these? What's stopping you from doing... What's

55:07

stopping you? Or

55:09

you can use one of these. Uh. Or

55:11

if you're feeling funky. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Pinky

55:14

action. Ooh, get creative.

55:16

Get creative. Maybe a two finger. Like

55:18

a uh. Okay. What else?

55:21

What else? Uh. I'm

55:23

trying to find the story. Uh.

55:27

Whoa. Okay. Or like a uh. What

55:31

other body parts could you use? I

55:33

don't know about that. Your nose. Uh.

55:36

Your elbow. Mmm. Your

55:38

toes. I won't show this to you. Don't

55:41

do that. Don't do that. Okay, we're good now. Bam.

55:44

We're ready to start this next

55:46

story. What's the score? Okie dokie.

55:48

I'm already on that. Uh.

55:50

We got some donations. Do we now? Uh.

55:52

Ted, Ed, and Lime Juice. Thank you for

55:55

the one buck tip. I'm. Oh. You read

55:57

it. You read it. You

55:59

have it. Oh, yeah.

56:02

Oh. You

56:05

can read it. You read it. Okay. I'm

56:08

pretty sure I was the first one to say the

56:10

name Bones that's still up for debate. And

56:12

it's a really cool name and I've

56:14

chosen it for our wonderful little worm.

56:16

Yes. Agreed. Not

56:19

confirmed yet. Thank you, Ted. I think

56:21

it's confirmed. Bones. My

56:23

other option was boneless, like toothless? Yeah.

56:28

What if I want to name it? You can. Hey,

56:30

worm. Martika Waterman, thank you for

56:32

the one buck tip. Riley, be nice to John.

56:35

There's going to be a day that you're going

56:37

to be his age or older. I know it's

56:39

all fun, but nice. Also, my

56:41

son said be nice to John. That's his

56:43

favorite. LOL, I'm older than

56:45

all of you. LOL, back to my video

56:47

game. Lol. Yeah, I probably should stop.

56:49

I don't know if you can handle it. At

56:53

his age. Damn. Damn, I

56:55

was waiting. I was like, what's happening? What's he going to

56:57

do? And he got me. Well,

57:00

he got John, I suppose. Oof. He's

57:02

not listening. He can't hear me. Can

57:04

you scroll up? I

57:07

knew that water. Sam was supposed to get water. Help!

57:11

Water! That

57:14

echoed. Titania, thank you for

57:16

celebrating your one month of memberships.

57:19

Tell that horrible man that he can

57:21

find something more mature to lie and

57:23

steal. Oh, he can find someone

57:25

more mature to lie and steal

57:28

from, not the A-hole. Oh,

57:30

because he was like, you're immature for caring about a tea

57:32

set. Yeah. If you want

57:34

someone more mature, go, I don't know, go

57:37

steal some. You could be like

57:39

that Tinder date that stole perfume from someone. You

57:42

remember that? Stole perfume? Yeah, I do remember

57:44

that. My voice is so dry. I

57:46

yelled. But

57:48

let's get into this story. Am

57:52

I the A-hole for refusing to donate my

57:54

hair to my aunt with cancer? Was

57:59

she asking for all? your hair? How

58:01

much hair was she asking for? Were you

58:04

already cutting it? What are the extenuating

58:06

circumstances? So,

58:10

donate hair throwaway says, for

58:13

context I'm adopted and have super

58:15

long and very thick red hair.

58:18

No one in my adopted family has hair like

58:20

mine and it's been kind of a thing for

58:22

them to touch, admire and talk about my hair

58:25

at family gatherings since I was a kid. Don't

58:27

touch other people's hair. Don't do

58:29

that unless they ask you to. Stop it.

58:33

My aunt has lung cancer and it's really taken a

58:35

toll on her. She's lost all

58:37

her hair and has talked about getting a

58:39

wig but they're too expensive and she says

58:41

she wants real hair. My

58:43

mom suggested I donate my hair to make a

58:45

wig for my aunt at Easter dinner and

58:48

my aunt got so excited she started

58:50

crying. Hold up! That

58:52

is so messed up. The

58:55

mom didn't even ask OP on her own. She

58:57

brought it up in front of everyone. She's

59:00

trying to like guilt her into doing

59:02

this. This is messed up. I

59:07

felt horrible about it and didn't say anything. We

59:09

went to this wig place and the lady said

59:11

she could make a shoulder length wig for my

59:13

aunt using my hair. I keep

59:16

it up extremely well and it's

59:18

down to my knees. Wow that's

59:20

all I'm hearing. My aunt

59:22

started crying again and again and I

59:24

feel so awful but I really don't

59:26

want to part with my hair. I

59:29

know it grows back but still no

59:31

one has asked me how I felt but I think

59:33

my mom could tell I wasn't very excited about it

59:35

because she asked the lady if she could donate her

59:37

own hair. Thank you very much. Thank you very much.

59:44

Just told me thank you. All

59:50

right I'm good now. I'm moist and Anyway,

1:00:01

so where

1:00:04

was I? Because

1:00:07

she asked the lady if she could

1:00:09

donate her own hair and she said

1:00:11

she'd need both my sister, mom's biological

1:00:13

daughter and my mom

1:00:15

to donate their hair since it's very thin

1:00:18

and she could only make

1:00:20

a chin length wig with

1:00:22

it. My aunt also wants red

1:00:24

hair so the lady said she'd have to

1:00:26

dye it and that would cause it damage

1:00:28

and cost more than using my hair. My

1:00:31

uncle then said it'd make much more sense to use

1:00:33

mine. You can't just take

1:00:36

someone's hair. Wait so she

1:00:39

was like I

1:00:41

need your hair, mom's hair, ancestors hair?

1:00:47

Oh so

1:00:49

she was saying that basically either we could

1:00:52

use OP's hair because it's

1:00:54

thicker and longer or if

1:00:56

we use the mom's hair like OP's

1:00:58

mom's hair it wouldn't be thick

1:01:00

enough to use on her own so

1:01:02

you she would have to use both the mom

1:01:04

and the mom's biological daughter and

1:01:07

then also have to dye it because it goes

1:01:10

on wants red hair. I think

1:01:13

the aunt is being a little too picky like

1:01:16

she can't just use people's hair that don't

1:01:18

want to give their hair just

1:01:21

because she likes the

1:01:24

color. It's been a month

1:01:26

and my aunt wants to know when

1:01:28

we can make the appointment. So presumptuous.

1:01:30

I don't know what to

1:01:32

do. I told my sister and she called me

1:01:35

ungrateful and told me to stop being selfish because

1:01:37

it would grow back. If I'm

1:01:39

the a-hole I won't hesitate to donate it but

1:01:41

I don't know anymore. In the

1:01:43

edit people suggested I clarify I have knee-length

1:01:46

hair and I'd have to cut it all

1:01:48

off to the scalp in

1:01:50

order to make the wig. What? There's

1:01:55

not much hair that's crazy. Just to shave

1:01:57

off basically shave off her hair.

1:02:00

It's years. You

1:02:02

cannot ask someone to do that,

1:02:05

especially when it seems like OP

1:02:07

cares deeply. Her hair is a

1:02:09

part of herself. But

1:02:11

that's why the aunt wants it because she

1:02:14

cares so deeply about it. It's like, I'll care

1:02:16

so deeply about it too. Yeah, but that's, yeah.

1:02:18

A Gabby B says aunt should

1:02:20

remember beggars can't be choosers. Yeah,

1:02:22

she can't just be

1:02:24

super picky about the hair. To

1:02:28

all the people saying it doesn't take that much

1:02:31

hair to make a wig, it does. One

1:02:33

average donation of hair doesn't make a full

1:02:36

wig. They match it with other donations. It

1:02:38

usually takes two to three heads of hair

1:02:40

for a full wig. Mine

1:02:43

is long enough on its own for a full

1:02:45

wig and my aunt doesn't want synthetic hair mixed

1:02:47

in to supplement it. I completely

1:02:49

understand everyone that said I was the a-hole

1:02:51

for not saying no in the beginning. I'm

1:02:54

not trying to justify that, but I want to

1:02:56

make it clear that's extremely difficult for

1:02:58

me to stand up to my family. I

1:03:01

don't think I've ever had a say in anything since

1:03:03

I started living with them and that's how it's always

1:03:05

been. They never give me a

1:03:07

voice even though I should have spoken up.

1:03:09

It always goes without saying that what my

1:03:11

mom says will happen. And

1:03:15

there are some relevant comments and

1:03:17

an update. But let's

1:03:20

get into what y'all think. What are

1:03:23

y'all thinking? Because I think this

1:03:25

is pretty easy. I think it's not the a-hole. Kristy

1:03:29

Steele says OP is probably gorgeous and

1:03:31

they're all jealous. We

1:03:33

know that OP was adopted so I

1:03:35

feel like there might be some kind

1:03:37

of othering going on like the family

1:03:39

is othering OP and making her

1:03:41

a bit of an outsider or making her feel that

1:03:43

way. Devil Girl says I can

1:03:45

understand why the aunt would want the

1:03:48

wig and such but OP should be doing this

1:03:50

of her free will. Yeah, it shouldn't be an

1:03:52

expectation. It should be a

1:03:54

gift given freely. And

1:03:57

Logan Bagwulf says people freeze up all the time. That's

1:03:59

not on her. Also

1:04:01

again, her whole family at

1:04:03

dinner all together said, hey,

1:04:06

OP, give your hair. That's

1:04:09

like, how do you say no in that circumstance?

1:04:11

That's really hard. Maggie

1:04:15

says, I would literally rather shave my eyebrows than

1:04:17

my head. It's crazy they want her to do

1:04:19

that. No, for a lot

1:04:21

of women, hair is a big part of

1:04:24

our sense of self, which is not to say that,

1:04:26

you know. I agree. It

1:04:31

is your self, but it does

1:04:33

change how people feel about themselves.

1:04:35

And to tell a woman

1:04:38

who has knee length hair that she

1:04:40

has to shave her head or cut

1:04:42

all of her hair off is pretty

1:04:44

hard to deal with. Wait,

1:04:51

can you scroll down? Wait,

1:04:53

scroll up. Lady

1:04:57

Morgan says, I'm wondering how old OP is too. I

1:05:00

don't know. It seems like she's

1:05:02

under, oh, I think she's under 18. Under

1:05:05

18? Because she's living

1:05:07

with her family. Oh, well, I would say

1:05:09

like in her 20s, maybe like going to

1:05:11

college or something like that. Did

1:05:13

they say anything about college? For

1:05:16

the month. Okay,

1:05:19

Riley says college, I think she's under 18. But

1:05:22

let's get into these relevant comments. Deleted

1:05:27

says, not the a-hole, but you have to

1:05:29

stop stringing your aunt along. Tell

1:05:31

them that you are feeling pressured and it's making

1:05:34

you uncomfortable and you aren't going to donate your

1:05:36

hair. It was completely inappropriate of your mom to

1:05:38

donate your hair for you in the presence of

1:05:40

the aunt. OP says, I

1:05:42

do really wanna tell her no and not get

1:05:44

her hopes up anymore. It's just that she got

1:05:47

so excited the moment my mom suggested it. I

1:05:49

can't figure out how to tell her and

1:05:51

I'm afraid I'm in the wrong. So I

1:05:53

haven't told her anything. Also,

1:05:55

I feel like, well,

1:05:58

yeah, obviously there's the ex-addiction. The

1:06:00

expectation that she just has to donate. That says, not

1:06:02

really getting at it like. Yeah.

1:06:04

Not getting any other anything out of the souza supposed

1:06:06

to do it out of the kindness of her heart.

1:06:09

But. She doesn't even like. He was

1:06:11

even asked. Ah, not

1:06:13

an Npc. Sixty Nine says not the a

1:06:15

whole Jesus Christ. I can feel your stress.

1:06:17

Through the screen. Oh pieces

1:06:20

honestly, I don't know what to do at all.

1:06:22

It's kind of terrifying. I know it's I'm stupid,

1:06:24

but my hair's the only thing I have that

1:06:26

I feel is connected with my birth family. I

1:06:28

love my family, but I have a weird thing

1:06:30

with my hair. I know it grows back those.

1:06:32

The that something. And

1:06:34

then S J S as a

1:06:37

base of zero says I also

1:06:39

a natural red hair. It's extremely

1:06:41

long. Term.

1:06:49

It's extremely long. Maybe

1:06:52

not quite as much as yours and I

1:06:54

honestly started sweating to thinking about this. I

1:06:57

get that it's a very selfless thing to

1:06:59

do, but there are decent quality synthetic wigs

1:07:01

that put no one in an awkward position.

1:07:04

I consider my hair to be a vital part

1:07:06

of my identity. It ties me to my gran,

1:07:08

as I have inherited the color from her. If.

1:07:11

Anyone asks me about their comment is

1:07:13

always. Oh the girl with a long

1:07:15

red hair. I

1:07:18

think because so few people naturally have

1:07:20

red hair, they don't realize how important

1:07:22

it becomes. do your own identity and

1:07:24

not lie. Folks are seriously weird about

1:07:26

red hair. Not the a whole. I.

1:07:28

Understand you completely. And

1:07:31

Opie says thank you so much the

1:07:33

comments and how old is Opie? I

1:07:36

was right. I. Turned seventeen

1:07:38

weeks a few weeks ago. I

1:07:40

was adopted when I was a southern I

1:07:42

when I was seven and I don't really

1:07:44

know why my parents gave me up or

1:07:47

anything about them, so there's no contact until

1:07:49

I turned eighteen. I'm really grateful

1:07:51

to my mother for adopting me and taking

1:07:53

care of me, but I feel so awful.

1:07:55

About the situation. And.

1:07:57

There is an update. To.

1:08:00

They'd later is yours either. Inquest:

1:08:04

He was adopted. Michigan is.

1:08:06

Are here to. It's

1:08:09

all been leaving to those moments.

1:08:11

Yeah, I'm Missy Birds as it's

1:08:13

just hair. it'll grow back So

1:08:15

the Us. so why should? Oh

1:08:17

Pico balls. Dad. This, it seems

1:08:19

like that kind of a double standard Here

1:08:22

are. Is Catholicism? Her hair is part

1:08:24

of her identity. Telling her to donate

1:08:26

is awful. And the know

1:08:28

me says they can all putin and by the

1:08:30

on a real Wags and the second monkeys as

1:08:32

I had a really long hair when I was

1:08:35

younger but how to cut it off and as

1:08:37

they are just there to put the hair into

1:08:39

a bag because my hair meant a lot to

1:08:41

me Now I cut all my hair. Ah,

1:08:44

Every three years yet here to be very

1:08:46

important people. Ah, and think

1:08:48

you since does. For the for Fifty

1:08:51

Nine donation, there are organizations that donate

1:08:53

leagues from other patients in remission. I.

1:08:56

Feel like there are other. Other

1:08:58

routes that they couldn't go before they

1:09:01

make this girl color hair off. Lydia.

1:09:03

Whitaker think that three forty donation

1:09:06

definitely not the a whole. Yeah.

1:09:09

Definitely. Not. Very sure I'm. Aware

1:09:12

of roots, Do makes.

1:09:15

Have you want was. No.

1:09:18

Rude you ever were rid. Of

1:09:25

the video. Was. A

1:09:27

Let's get into this update. Thanks.

1:09:30

To who commented and especially those who

1:09:32

offered to help with sending me there

1:09:34

wigs. I've talked to my mom about

1:09:36

it and she said we could have

1:09:38

bought hair from anyone that this is

1:09:40

special to your aunt because it's your

1:09:42

hair but it's hard out. That's

1:09:45

the point is her hair seek it's

1:09:47

decide. Though.

1:09:49

I decided to just go ahead

1:09:51

and do it. I.

1:09:55

Feel so bad for her. Or to

1:09:57

the all she. Was bullied into this.

1:10:00

I feel was. Drooling.

1:10:02

She owes its own because they adopted our.

1:10:05

Oh. The. Cell is

1:10:07

not cool Oh boo

1:10:09

boos the chat blue.

1:10:13

Of family. Ah, Nosing

1:10:16

he family, Ah,

1:10:20

I salts after reading all the your

1:10:22

the able comments who is going lpt

1:10:24

a whole. List do

1:10:26

the right to hold. A seventeen year

1:10:28

old girl and a whole for not wanting

1:10:30

to caught all over hair. Off the people

1:10:33

just like to comment been things. And.

1:10:35

That's literally get off. League the

1:10:37

fact that she's seventeen years old is

1:10:39

even more I, they even more is

1:10:42

a. Lead. Signal.

1:10:44

To me that you should not maker cut off her

1:10:46

hair. To. Is one like. Impressionable.

1:10:49

To the desires of her parents

1:10:51

and is wanting to follow like

1:10:53

what they ask her. But.

1:10:56

Also like. Hair. Is so

1:10:58

significant? A teenage girls. That

1:11:01

ah. Hit Assembly. We

1:11:04

want to the salon yesterday. Oh.

1:11:06

Wait, sorry I saw the I We went to the

1:11:09

sign yesterday. I. Cried.

1:11:12

I have a really gross a hipster crew

1:11:14

cut now. My.

1:11:16

Aunt was so happy They told her he

1:11:18

wouldn't be ready for a few months so

1:11:20

she bought a blonde wig. Are

1:11:23

You Kidding me? Are.

1:11:25

You Kidding me? She could

1:11:27

have bought the way you the whole time. To

1:11:30

told the she's going to alternate between the

1:11:33

blonde wig and my wig to matter outfits.

1:11:39

I hate this woman so much. I

1:11:43

don't even care of the sound selfish anymore

1:11:45

because I did what they wanted. I hate

1:11:47

not having my hair. I look like a

1:11:49

boy now. I hope that happiness that wig

1:11:51

brought my aunt hopes are get through the

1:11:53

cancer but it won't because she is going

1:11:55

to keep smoking as he survives this Anyways,

1:11:57

I don't know how I feel about anything

1:11:59

but I miss my hair. My mom is

1:12:01

really happy though, so as my aunt so

1:12:03

hopefully I'll just get over my hair. I

1:12:05

don't know. His

1:12:08

aunt. Sucks. And

1:12:10

I feel so bad that she went. That's yeah

1:12:12

to go through this. That.

1:12:15

Swords or do not believe the are

1:12:17

the worst thing. Amateur and on. The.

1:12:19

Worst thing is her alternating the wigs.

1:12:23

The. What's the matter else to say? You know

1:12:25

that.the. worst thing? The fact that she said

1:12:27

specifically, oh, I have to match my outfits

1:12:29

to my wigs. Your.

1:12:32

Nieces. Gave up her air

1:12:34

which meant a lot to hurt so

1:12:36

you couldn't match your hair to you.

1:12:39

I'll sit and like the fact that

1:12:41

she's like. A. Minor

1:12:43

soon young she has no other are there

1:12:45

would probably would guilt trip or and to

1:12:47

probably. So. What They did it. Up. Just.

1:12:50

Let us know we're gonna do and they wield Scepter.

1:12:53

So. As

1:12:56

is like. Oh. My God I hate

1:12:58

everyone I hit the family and I and everyone

1:13:00

in the comments he said that Opie was in

1:13:02

a whole. He's. Up. And

1:13:05

your they will. Oh God.

1:13:08

Knows out doctor. is there anything we can

1:13:10

do to save our boys? I. Not

1:13:14

never knew stores. There's only

1:13:16

one way to do that.

1:13:18

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