Prince charming isn't just going to show up on your door step. Not until you've done the work. Listen in while we explore the languages of love and uncover how they can be utilized for character development.

Show Notes:

• Your emotions work like the tuner on a radio. If your dial is set to sadness, you will receive sadness. If your dial is set to joy, you will receive joy.
• When someone’s personal frequency is set to the “lack of” there is nothing that can be said or done to change that. Like attracts like. That is Law. With that said, the best thing that one can offer to someone who is on a lower frequency is silence and an open ear. However, many of us feel like we aren’t being helpful if we aren’t actively engaged in the interaction, so we say things like “love yourself first, the rest will come”. These words only offer more suffering because it’s a reminder of what they do not have. Their frequency is set to sadness and loneliness; they cannot hear you.
• Exploring love languages are a great way to understand how you feel love. It can also be used to develop a character’s motives in a scene.

i.e. A female protagonist commits a number of heinous acts after her husband divorces her. It isn’t enough to say that she lost her mind because she “misses her husband’s companionship”. Giving her a love language will take her from being an archetype to more of a three dimensional character.

• Everyone has a primary and a secondary love language.

Love Language Breakdown

Words of Affirmation: This means that you feel love when someone say’s things like: “I love you” or “You mean the world to me” or “I would do anything for you”.

Acts of Service: When someone does something for you like: cleaning the house, walking the dog or even little things like opening and closing doors. For these people, actions speak louder than words.

Receiving Gifts: Pretty self explanatory. These folks feel love whenever something is given to them. 

Quality Time: People with this love language appreciate spending time with those they love. It’s all about them getting your undivided attention. 

Physical Touch: Nothing means more to those with this love language than an appropriate touch.

• Once you have figured out your love language, you will be able to articulate what it is that you feel is “lacking” in your life. From there, the path to loving yourself will become clearer. You’ll know exactly what it is that you need to work on.
• Any want or desire is something you believe will make you happier in the having of it. The answer is to be happy first, then the rest will come.
• We’ve been conditioned to believe that good things come with struggle, but the truth is that what you’re feeling determines what you attract into your life.

“Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don’t belong. You will always find it because you’ve made that your mission”. Quote from author Brene Brown

• Make your mission that of joy, harmony and clarity. Enjoy the journey. The rest will come.

Resources

5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

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Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown

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