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You're a man of action. You live

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life to the fullest. Embrace your fears

0:04

and boldly chart your own path. When

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life knocks you down, you get back

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up one more time, every time. You

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are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged,

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resilient, or strong. This

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is your life. This is who you are. This

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is who you will become at the end of

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the day. And after all is said and done,

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you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen,

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welcome to the Order of Man podcast.

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Glad you're here. Glad you're back tuning

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in. I want to talk with

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you today about settling. So

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many of us as men often settle in

0:35

our lives. Sometimes we don't think

0:38

we're worthy of having more. Sometimes

0:40

we're resting on

0:42

our laurels or writing other people's coattails

0:44

because we get lazy. But

0:46

there's all sorts of reasons why we might settle

0:48

in our lives. And what ends up happening is

0:51

we feel frustrated to say

0:53

the least. We become anxious.

0:56

We become frustrated. We become

0:58

irritable because inside we

1:00

know that we're capable of so much

1:02

more. And yet our performance

1:04

is not matching the thought. There's

1:06

the gap between what we know

1:09

we ought to be doing and the way

1:11

that we're actually showing up. It's very easy

1:13

to do. It's very easy to get sidetracked.

1:15

And today I want to share with you

1:17

five mindsets that have helped me as

1:19

I incorporate these mindsets into my life to

1:22

ensure that I'm not settling for mediocrity,

1:25

to ensure that I'm not settling for less

1:27

than I'm capable of, and that I'm always

1:29

showing up fully for myself, for

1:31

my family, for my loved ones, for my

1:34

clients, and for people who are relying upon

1:36

me to show up in a very powerful

1:38

way. Now that's not to say that I

1:40

have never fallen short or never not settled.

1:43

I certainly have settled in times

1:46

in my life and it produces

1:49

less than favorable, to put it mildly,

1:51

results and sometimes disastrous results. So let's

1:54

just jump right into this today. There's

1:56

five mindsets here. Number one is I

1:58

think it's important that that we know that

2:01

we are worth so much more than

2:03

we think we are. I talk

2:05

with men every single day and one of the

2:07

reoccurring themes that I hear from these guys is

2:09

they don't believe that they're worthy

2:12

of having something great. They don't believe

2:14

that they're worthy of doing

2:16

something incredible, like starting a business

2:18

or having a thriving marriage or

2:20

having a deeply committed relationship with

2:22

their children or having

2:24

the six pack abs or going

2:27

on vacations or becoming independently wealthy.

2:29

Guys, if you don't believe

2:31

that about yourself, then you're not

2:33

going to do the work required to get

2:35

there because you know it's futile. Regardless

2:38

of how hard you work, nothing is gonna work

2:40

for you. You know, you talk

2:42

with guys who say, oh man, this guy and

2:44

that guy, they're so lucky. If I had that

2:46

then, no, it's not luck. It's

2:49

hard work. Those individuals who have

2:52

success in their life, especially if

2:54

it's a long-term consistent replicatable are

2:56

not getting lucky. They're

2:58

doing something that other men aren't in

3:01

order to produce those results. There's

3:03

an inherent danger in believing

3:06

that somebody has success because they

3:08

got lucky. And the danger is

3:10

this, if you believe that

3:12

success is the result of luck

3:15

and nothing more, then all you can do

3:17

in your life to have success is to

3:19

get lucky. And what do we do? We

3:22

sit back and we wait and

3:24

we hope and we complain about what's

3:26

not working well, hoping that one day

3:29

we'll hit gold. One

3:31

day your ship will come in. Guys, it

3:33

doesn't work like that. But in

3:35

order to produce those big results, you have to

3:37

do big things. And in order to do big

3:39

things, you have to believe that you're

3:41

worthy of it and that you're capable of

3:43

it. Guys, you are here on

3:45

this planet to do something wonderful. You

3:47

have a set of experiences and beliefs

3:51

and failures and victories and

3:53

skill sets that are making

3:55

you uniquely qualified to offer

3:57

more value in the world.

4:00

are valuable, you're inherently valuable.

4:02

And that's not to say that just because

4:05

you are a valuable being that you're going

4:07

to achieve the success that you want, you

4:09

have to put forth the work. But it

4:11

always starts with believing that you're worth it.

4:14

Guys, you're worth fighting

4:17

for in a relationship. You're

4:20

worth having at an organization because you

4:22

can add value to the organization and

4:24

to the clients that you serve. You're

4:27

worth, weight and gold, if not

4:29

more to your children who are relying on you

4:31

to show up in a powerful way. When

4:33

you believe that, and you

4:36

think about that, and you internalize and that

4:38

becomes part of your DNA, you are more

4:40

likely to do the work required to achieve

4:42

the inevitable results that you desire. Number one,

4:44

believe that you are worthy. Number

4:47

two, know that nobody owes you anything.

4:50

Just because you are worthy of something great,

4:52

just because you are capable of so much

4:54

more than you might even believe yourself to

4:56

be, doesn't mean that others are going to

4:58

bend over backwards to make it happen. It's

5:00

on you. And look, I

5:03

don't want to get calloused because I think this thought can

5:05

be taken to the extreme that there's nobody who wants to

5:07

help you. Nobody who can do it as good as you.

5:09

You hear guys who say, if you want it done, you

5:11

have to do it yourself. Not

5:14

necessarily. There's, there's

5:16

incredible people in my life who

5:19

are part of this movement, for example,

5:21

that facilitate different parts of the movement

5:23

that we have here and the operations

5:25

behind what we're doing. They do it

5:27

significantly better than I can. So

5:29

I'm not saying that there aren't going to

5:32

be people in your life like your wife

5:34

or your children or your coworkers or employees

5:36

or neighbors or clergy members or

5:38

people in your church congregation who are going to

5:41

be there to serve you. They are. But

5:43

at the end of the day, your success is your

5:47

responsibility. Nobody's going

5:49

to bend over backwards to help you accomplish

5:51

what it is you want to accomplish, especially

5:53

if you're not willing to communicate and share

5:55

it. And if They

5:58

care more about. Your.

6:00

Success! The New do. You've.

6:02

Got a problem? By. We've all worked with

6:04

somebody who said they want to help and then we go to

6:06

help of neat. We realize they don't want health they want us

6:08

to do it off. That's. A

6:11

person who. Doesn't. Believe that

6:13

the responsibility is fully on their shoulders

6:15

to achieve what they want to achieve,

6:17

and that's where it is for you.

6:20

The. Responsibility of your life is

6:22

on you. It's. Not on

6:24

anybody else. is not your wife's job to

6:26

make you happy. Is. Not your

6:28

employer job to keep you employed or did

6:30

you clients is not your clients job to

6:33

I used to but you can make livelihood

6:35

now. Does that happen? Sure, but it's not

6:37

their responsibility. It's. Your

6:39

responsibility. And. So we have

6:42

to bring in the right people and

6:44

that those individuals and surround ourselves with

6:46

right people served them diligently. So.

6:48

That they will contribute to

6:51

our overall goals and objectives.

6:53

The. Guys realize that. No.

6:56

One owes you anything. No one's going to rescue,

6:58

No one's going to save you. It's.

7:00

Not all on your shoulders, but the

7:02

responsibility is all on your shoulders. Number.

7:05

Three realize that you're either growing and

7:07

life or you're dying. There's. No

7:09

Cruise control for life. Sometimes we believe

7:12

there is. I've. Done this in

7:14

the past where I'd had business success.

7:16

And. Because I I enjoy the success

7:19

that. I've I've earned

7:21

frankly that I can just toast.

7:24

That. I can just sit back. That. I no

7:26

longer have to do anything that the you

7:28

know the gods a fortune have smiled down

7:30

upon me and rained upon me. There are

7:33

abundant blessings. That. It

7:35

isn't true. What ends up happening if you're

7:37

resting on your laurels or something that you've

7:39

done in the past is that you begin

7:41

to falter. You begin to slip. They start

7:43

falling through the cracks, Things start piling up

7:45

that you may not see right away, but

7:47

it's going to happen at some point. Eyes.

7:51

I have a friend and my former

7:53

football baseball coach in high school who

7:55

would always say you're only as good

7:57

as your last that that. The.

7:59

Only as. Is your last at bat? So.

8:01

People will talk about how great they

8:03

are and how much money they made

8:05

three years ago, what their business did

8:07

ten years ago and will kind of

8:09

high school You know, athlete they were.

8:12

I. Don't care about any of that. Know.

8:15

But neither does anybody else. You're the only

8:17

one who cares about that. And. Guess

8:19

what if you did something ten years

8:21

ago? Congratulations, what did you do today?

8:23

It's like going into a restaurant or

8:26

hotel and you see on the wall.

8:29

Best. Hotel in the area for

8:31

two thousand and Ten Eleven Twelve Thirteen,

8:33

Fourteen Fifteen an adult. how were the

8:35

best for five years and or of

8:37

two thousand and fifteen? That was nine

8:39

years ago. Where's. The plaque

8:41

for Twenty Twenty Two, Twenty Twenty Three Twenty Twenty

8:43

Four. Oh, it's not up there. Guess what? You're.

8:46

Not what you used to be, Because.

8:48

You let things slip. You.

8:50

Have things fall. Go. Look

8:53

in the mirror. Good naked right now. Go look in the

8:55

mirror and ask yourself, are you was good Today. As.

8:57

Far as your body composition as you

8:59

were last year or five years ago

9:02

or ten years ago. If.

9:04

It's not the new coast. it. You.

9:06

Rested. You. Believe

9:09

that you arrive. Potentially Even in that she no

9:11

longer have to address those things well. The

9:14

reality of life is that

9:16

what you don't pay attention

9:18

to will gradually rust, decay,

9:20

fall apart. breakdown. That.

9:23

Doesn't apply just a tangible objects

9:25

like a car technology. Applies.

9:27

Relationships. It applies

9:29

your business. It. Applies to your

9:32

health. If. You don't take care of

9:34

it. They. Will break down, continue

9:36

to maintain and grow because if

9:38

you're not wrong again, you're dying.

9:41

Number four. And his ties

9:43

into the first one about worth You already have

9:46

everything it takes to be successful. Insiders.

9:50

And. Resources or and frankly, us there.

9:52

there's no better time in the

9:54

history of. This. Planet and

9:56

our species. To

9:58

have success. However, You

10:01

want to measure success. The

10:03

technology that we have here. The.

10:05

Ease of travel. Ecommerce.

10:10

Capitalism in general. Access.

10:13

To life saving medical

10:15

information, Access to financial

10:17

abundance, Access to educational

10:19

resources. Mean. Think about trying

10:21

to gain access to books. Well.

10:25

Be. Quite. Frankly, before there was

10:27

even the printing press. Who. Had

10:29

access to those. The. Ultra

10:31

exclusive. The ultra wealthy. That's it. Not the

10:33

common man like you and I. Are

10:36

because we have the printing press. Now I can go

10:38

to the library attorney the buy a book. On.

10:40

Go to the library with a free library

10:42

card. Pick. Up a book by my

10:44

favorite author. Read it, or some of the

10:46

smartest man throughout history. Read it, and then

10:49

immediately start applying it. If I don't

10:51

want to go to the library, I can jump on

10:53

this little device. I have my phone. And

10:55

download something. Maybe I don't even want to read it.

10:57

Cool. I'll listen to it. Tastes.

11:00

The information's there. You.

11:02

Have All of the resources. now. The

11:04

only thing I think that separates those

11:07

who are successful from those who aren't

11:09

is not access to the resources. It's

11:11

utilization of those resources. He.

11:14

Lot must utilizes resources better then

11:16

I would say the average person

11:18

as it pertains to. His

11:21

business and capitalism. Now.

11:23

You might say, Well, yes. more money? Oh yeah.

11:26

Why? Because he utilized his

11:28

resources better than the average individual

11:30

like myself for example, I

11:33

get to that point. And people say

11:35

well, the rich get richer The poor get poorer Right

11:37

is either growing your your die. Let.

11:41

Give you the counter example that must say

11:43

that you put into the lottery a new

11:45

one. Ten million Dollars. How long without the

11:48

financial acumen to earn ten million dollars? How

11:50

long do you think you would have ten

11:52

million dollars in your account if you win

11:54

the lottery? It If you're being honest. In

11:57

a year, how much would you have less or more. In

12:00

five years would you have less or more than ten million

12:02

dollar that worse in ten years with the have less or

12:04

more. I. Think if you don't have

12:06

the financial actually made you to all of us if we're

12:08

being honest would have less. Because.

12:10

We haven't earned the right to that

12:12

amount of money and so we default

12:15

back to what we know. So you

12:17

have to continue to put forth the

12:19

effort and have to continue to grow.

12:21

But know you have all the mindset

12:23

he had, the abundance, yet the prosperity.

12:25

Yeah, the opportunity. And all that

12:27

we need to do now is to employ

12:29

it. Correctly. And.

12:31

Successfully. Part.

12:33

Of a way that we do that is by listening to information

12:35

like this. Hiring mentors or and

12:38

coaches going to courses programs

12:40

he says signing up for

12:42

newsletters, listening to podcasts, reading

12:44

books, It's all there. I

12:47

wish that you use it. I can

12:49

remember who said but intimate a butcher

12:51

this quote but ah. The man

12:53

who does not read. As

12:56

no advantage over the man who cannot read.

12:59

The. Man who does not read as no advantage

13:01

of the man who cannot read. So if you

13:04

take an individual who's in capable of achieving. And

13:07

you compare that to you or me, we're capable

13:09

of achieving and yet we're not implying the resources

13:11

the way they should be employed. And. We

13:13

have no advantage over the guy who can't do it.

13:16

We were the same camp as I guess. So.

13:18

Guys, let's employ our resources correctly.

13:21

Let's. Learn to invest in ourselves. To.

13:24

Utilize what we have available to know that were

13:26

worthy of it and to go out make it

13:28

happen. On. And.

13:31

And the last thing here that

13:33

I wanted to share is that

13:35

there's gonna be people in your

13:37

camp who are. Wanting.

13:39

To see when. They're. Wanting to see

13:41

you succeed And there's people who don't want you

13:44

to win and don't want to succeed. For.

13:46

Whatever reason, we don't have to get

13:48

into all those reasons, but it's our

13:50

job to discern who the individuals in

13:52

our lives are that want us to

13:54

succeed. And. There's gonna be some who

13:56

are indifferent and then there's the be those who

13:58

don't want us to succeed. Our

14:01

job in this. Situation is

14:03

to identify those individuals even if it's

14:05

close family and friends who are sabotaging

14:07

you. Undermine. Are you bringing negative energy

14:10

into your life, hoping that you fail

14:12

in some way because it's an indictment

14:14

against them, not necessarily you. You need

14:16

to get rid of those people. You

14:19

cannot have those people in your life

14:21

because if you do, They're.

14:24

Going to drag you down. And. That's exactly what they

14:26

want to do. They. Want to drag you

14:28

down? Conversely, There

14:30

are people in your life who you may not

14:32

even fully acknowledged to the degree that maybe ah,

14:34

to. Who. Wants you to wind, Who wants

14:36

you succeed, Who wants to do well, Who will support

14:38

you, Who will invest in you Who do believe in.

14:41

Those. Are the people and matter? You. Find

14:43

those kind of people. And. Purge all

14:46

the people who are distractions a negative

14:48

energy. And. Toxicity to what

14:50

you're trying to create, and instead

14:52

you invite through intentionality the right

14:54

people who care about you and

14:56

wanna see when they're smart. they're

14:58

successful, They're willing to share their

15:00

humble, their gracious, their kind. Man.

15:04

You're going to be unstoppable. I. Know that

15:06

might be a little bit town or to what

15:08

I said is that you know no one's going

15:10

to save you. And what I mean

15:12

by that as as thought the responsibility But you

15:14

better believe there are people in your life who

15:16

want you to win and who will do. What?

15:19

They can to help. That. Become a

15:21

reality. This is a very short one. But.

15:24

It's important I don't want you to

15:26

settle a life. Guys have a plan

15:28

right? Have some action stabs making sure

15:30

that you're doing the after action reviews

15:32

that we've talked about, evaluating your progress,

15:34

pivoting, adjusting, correcting along the way. Those

15:36

are all tactical strategies that we could

15:39

talk more about and we have talked

15:41

about the past. I just want us

15:43

to get right in the mind. First.

15:46

Because. Once it's right up here and then

15:48

we get down in the paper it in

15:50

the absence everything else is gonna move for

15:53

for their let's recap real quick. Number one,

15:55

you are worth so much more than you

15:57

might believe yourself to be. Don't.

15:59

fall into imposter syndrome. Don't let

16:01

anybody speak disparagingly about you

16:03

or beat you up. Don't

16:06

let that into your life. Don't even

16:08

do it to yourself. You're worth

16:10

it. And you are worthy of having

16:12

something great. I don't even know how else

16:14

to say it other than God wants you

16:16

to win. He wants you

16:19

to succeed. You are here for a reason. We just have

16:21

to figure out what it is and then start putting it

16:23

into action. Number two, no one

16:25

owes you anything. Now there's going to be

16:27

again people who come in your life who are going to

16:29

serve you, but they don't owe you anything. Your

16:32

success, your results are a

16:34

direct reflection of your responsibility,

16:36

the level of your responsibility for

16:38

your life. Number three, you're

16:40

either growing or dying, no cruise control.

16:43

You're getting better or you're getting worse.

16:45

You're rusting, you're eroding, you're breaking down

16:47

or you're growing and thriving and building and getting

16:49

better. Number four is you

16:51

already have everything that it takes. You

16:54

don't need anything else. Sometimes

16:56

we have so many guys who are

16:58

in this paralysis by analysis or this

17:00

perfection paralysis, I call it, where everything

17:02

has to be just perfect before they

17:04

launch. No, it doesn't. You

17:06

have everything to get on the path

17:08

right now. Just make sure you're utilizing

17:11

and employing it correctly. And

17:13

again, the last point here is that there's going to

17:15

be some people in your camp who are rooting for

17:17

you, who are allies, who want to

17:19

stand shoulder to shoulder with you. And there's

17:21

some traders in your midst and

17:24

they're not always doing it

17:26

out of some malicious intent. In

17:28

fact, I don't think, I think most of the time they're not,

17:31

but that doesn't matter because what they

17:33

bring is actually detrimental

17:36

to what you want to accomplish. Identify the

17:38

traders in your midst, identify the

17:41

allies, and then take steps and

17:43

actions appropriately and accordingly. Guys,

17:45

I hope that serves you. If you have

17:47

other thoughts about what you'd like me to

17:49

share or thoughts about this subject in particular,

17:51

just take a screenshot, post it

17:53

up on Instagram, post it up on Twitter, post it

17:55

up on Facebook. And also while you do that, just

17:57

message me and say, Hey, right, here's another thought for

17:59

it. for you, or make

18:01

a comment on Instagram or X or

18:04

Facebook and let me

18:06

know what you're thinking. This is a community, order,

18:09

meaning organization, fraternal organization. This isn't just

18:11

me sharing my thoughts and ideas, it

18:13

should be all of us sharing our

18:15

thoughts and ideas collectively so we can

18:17

all be served by it. The

18:20

only announcements I have for you today is that

18:22

we have, I believe, two spots available for

18:25

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18:27

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18:59

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