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Okay and at what age did
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you try to i guess hug
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over your brother and I was
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twelve and he was making. More
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compact other people's lives. I'm Joe Santa Gotta
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I'm Greg Die Back! For anyone out there
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get back to you Today we're speaking to
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a woman who has incest fantasies. She wrote
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in her email. I know it sounds absolutely
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wild and I've been having these thoughts since
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before I remember. I also try to act
0:42
on it with my brother once so we're
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going. Talk about where she thinks this all
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came from and how she is actively. Working
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through it and therapy and in her life. so
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we've got the guess on the line. Thank you
0:52
so much for being on today. Thanks.
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For having rigours? Yeah, of
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course. So. I
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know he said that you've had these fantasies
1:02
and thoughts before you can remember, but. Is
1:04
there a time that you can pinpoint
1:06
where you started to realize that you
1:08
are having these thoughts and that they
1:10
sort of may be raised? Some flags
1:12
in your mind. Ah
1:16
yeah. I.
1:18
Think so. Very. So.
1:23
When. I was. I think that
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probably round time when I was
1:28
very to a discover like learn
1:30
I guess is were was like
1:32
okay. I. Think that I'm
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I might be. A. Little fucked up.
1:38
About. Especially
1:40
cause like. Like. Tumbler Back
1:42
in the day when it was like
1:45
pouring faith and I was like, really.
1:47
And the tumbler? There was a lot
1:49
of. Weight. Info
1:52
stories and there was some
1:54
access porn at work like
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make. People. Showing
1:59
their ideas her like proves that their
2:01
siblings and then you know going and
2:03
doing for like that and when I
2:06
when I stumbled upon by think that's
2:08
where I really was like oh. Yeah.
2:12
I think I my pillow traumatize. We
2:15
were settling in and real incest point.
2:17
like obviously there's a category else you
2:19
know, brother, sister and all that like
2:22
you are kind of stumbling on like
2:24
people proving that they were siblings. Yeah,
2:27
so like Tumbler was really
2:29
on monitored at that time
2:31
period so I'm late. It
2:34
was like twins are like.
2:36
People. Who were like legitimately showing
2:38
their ideas my paper or certificate
2:41
pepper stop to prove that they
2:43
were like. Genuine. Family
2:45
or like mother daughter's they
2:47
do woes or. Whatever.
2:50
It was arm. And
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yeah, what about that was attractive
2:55
to you? Aren't
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even. ah, Ah,
3:04
That's an interesting question. sorry.
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On I don't know I I
3:09
think that. It.
3:18
Sorry. Know it's
3:20
a certain and I am. I
3:22
think it just. Tastes.
3:24
Like my interest I don't know like
3:26
isi and I was like oh I've
3:28
never seen anything like this and I
3:31
did and I didn't realize that that
3:33
was like a thing on and then
3:35
it just kind of progress from bear
3:37
and I like patents or rather than
3:39
was like reading stories and. There's
3:42
a can. Really like massive communities
3:44
Who thinks it's okay? What's It's
3:47
totally not. and I understand that
3:49
now. But. Did
3:51
you know that at the time like when you first
3:53
found like what this is you realize like oh this
3:55
is. Not. Typically.
3:58
When people are attracted to but I clearly him.
4:01
You know, so I have a
4:04
lot of guilt over it and
4:06
I still do to. And I
4:08
felt that Ben as well. I'm
4:11
I. I. I always
4:13
understood that it was not normal
4:15
and that was not late a
4:17
common thing that people. Like.
4:20
Fantasize about i guess I'm and
4:22
then obviously like you hear all
4:24
the people being like. People.
4:27
In the south? What the fuck? Their brothers or
4:29
whatever. But. Ah
4:34
yeah, I don't know I'd I knew it wasn't
4:36
right. people make fun of us at other times
4:38
so. So. You stumbled across this
4:41
and then a peak your interest
4:43
and totally understandable that it's. Hard
4:45
for you to even say why by
4:47
the sort of just you know whether
4:49
it's whatever the taboo facto, just the
4:51
fact that was one of the first
4:53
kind of things in porn and sexuality
4:55
that he stumbled on our but you
4:57
can go deeper into this community. So
4:59
you just mentioned Reddit and things like
5:01
that. but there's. Does. Their
5:04
community of people advocating like this
5:06
is okay. This is normal. Like
5:08
siblings should have sex with each
5:10
other. She's
5:13
now basically at those really massive
5:15
community on read and that still
5:17
like active to this day where
5:19
people are just like it's mostly
5:22
just people expect a like explaining
5:24
their experiences with the on. On
5:27
a lot of the is rooted in
5:29
trauma like if he read into it
5:32
from like a outside protect proof specter
5:34
of it's like bees fathers are these
5:36
brothers or whatever it is putting these
5:38
ideas in to their head and my.
5:42
Arm. Making them feel like
5:44
it's okay. I'm. I
5:46
mean that's definitely were mild stuff.
5:48
all started is like. I
5:51
have a lot of drama
5:53
with my dad so on. Gap.
5:56
I don't know it. I am. It's.
6:00
The very active: Today. But
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a d you but is very active. Like.
6:05
The community on Reddit and even
6:07
on Tumblers still where people are
6:09
just like a a like encouraging
6:11
news and being like it's the
6:14
most intimate thing however experience and
6:16
lake stuff like that again. he
6:18
also send your email that you
6:20
did try to act upon this
6:22
with your brother. Can we talk
6:24
about that? Yeah.
6:27
It's a very weird. Big.
6:30
The talk about but yeah we can. Yeah.
6:35
Is your brother old or younger than you? And
6:38
we all have a pretty big age
6:40
gap. So my brother is twenty seven
6:42
I am. or he's. Sorry.
6:44
He's twenty nine. Now on,
6:46
I am twenty one and
6:48
my little sister is fifteen.
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Okay, and at what age did
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you try to. I guess ago
6:56
be your brother. I
6:58
was twelve and he was nineteen. And
7:01
so can you just walk through of we
7:03
know what happened. And. What his
7:06
reaction were. Yeah
7:08
I mean I was really scared
7:10
so as he was drunk. And
7:14
I basically as the time period
7:16
he had late or basement to
7:18
like his entire south. And
7:21
I basically just went down there. And
7:24
he was laying down. I just cannot Problems who
7:26
is bad? And
7:29
I don't fully. Know.
7:33
Is. He Lake. Understood
7:36
that that's what I was
7:38
trying to do by arm.
7:40
After a while of just like laying there with
7:43
him and like cuddling I guess I got I
7:45
got to Hs and was like I read i
7:47
don't know if I could do us and then
7:49
we ended up just like cuddling and bought a
7:51
your sleep together. So you're
7:54
pretty young when you discovered all this. if
7:56
you are twelve by the time you. I
7:59
guess even brought your son to sort of attempt
8:01
that with your own brother. they won't Wow old
8:03
were you when you kind discovered this community and
8:05
this type of porn. Yeah
8:08
so I was a when
8:10
i got my first smartphone
8:12
so i rob ugly like
8:14
down the tumbler and stuff
8:17
when i was like ooh
8:19
like nine ten. On.
8:22
And that's when I like stumbled upon
8:24
it. So few years of that So
8:26
for you to. Make. That
8:29
move with your own brother. And like you
8:31
said, you got anxious, nervous. but. The
8:34
feelings must have been extremely strong at that
8:36
point for a twelve year old were you
8:38
were sort of willing to step out from
8:40
the online world of this community and. Gonna.
8:43
Give it a try yourself. Each
8:46
fun. Well yeah so like like I said
8:48
the on my i have a lot of
8:50
from of my father. On
8:52
And that's really where all of the started.
8:54
Mathias Alberta to yeah sorry As you can
8:56
say if you if you're willing to kind
8:58
of share, that if he, if you feel
9:00
like you're able to pinpoint. You. Know where
9:02
this comes from? We'd love to hear that. Death
9:06
course I'm so like. I.
9:11
Was I guess. Sexually
9:13
assaulted by my father from
9:16
like the time I was.
9:19
I mean, that's before I can remember, but
9:22
like my therapist and I have tried to
9:24
pinpoint it to be like three or four
9:26
arm until I was eleven. And I think
9:28
that that's why Lake because he or my
9:30
mom kicked him out the house when I
9:33
was eleven. So I think that. That's.
9:36
Why I try to this to started with my
9:38
brother because I was like I guess is kind
9:40
of missing that connection and that's why I started
9:42
at I tried to start it so. Quickly
9:44
after. But.
9:48
I guys is always. I always grew
9:50
up. With. At an.
9:54
Intimate situation with my
9:56
dad. While
9:59
okay, Andy It did you
10:01
say you think this had a direct
10:03
quote correlation to your attraction to this
10:06
very taboo thing. Yeah
10:08
I'm so like most of the time and you
10:10
are like a sexual assault. Survivor.
10:13
A either goes either way. so
10:15
you're either a hyper sexual and
10:17
new like love sex It it's
10:19
like all you like you have
10:21
like as a sex addicts and
10:24
or you are completely opposite that.
10:27
I'm at least for a point of
10:29
time like you just I'd like access
10:31
and don't my get on. So and
10:33
I swung to the hyper sexuality of
10:35
it on because I guess it was
10:37
just like a way of coping. Ah,
10:41
Yes, I don't have her making sense of. Know
10:45
it's fun. Ah yes Know you? You
10:47
absolutely our foot Adidas Kind of like
10:49
okay after you have like that now
10:51
you like cells, sleep with your brother
10:53
in the bed. I'm. But
10:56
was the next few days like were you
10:58
thinking about that? Was there like another attempt?
11:00
Are. You. Know how to that sort
11:02
of change your path. With all this. On
11:06
slack. never tried again.
11:10
I did like. Share.
11:12
A bed with my brother quite often
11:15
after that I'm but we never like
11:17
did. Anything on.
11:20
And. I
11:23
mean, I know that like this is,
11:26
I feel so awkward talking about that
11:28
bilic I'd I'd definitely like masturbated to
11:30
the idea like out quite often. Ah,
11:34
And yeah as a bit silly I
11:37
like was like. Picky.
11:39
About my sexuality and like the
11:41
thought flights shifted from hand to
11:43
like. My little
11:45
sister. And
11:48
lay my mom and lake it's
11:50
I never acted on anything ever
11:52
again as I think that I
11:54
just felt like the gilts took
11:57
over. And I didn't want
11:59
to. Do.
12:02
To them what my dad did to me. If
12:04
I make sense for for you had
12:07
this sort of sexual fantasies about. All.
12:10
Of your family members. Basically.
12:13
Yeah and I dislike
12:15
woods watch porn and
12:17
imagine it being us.
12:21
Do. Any of your family members know that
12:23
you're going through this. No,
12:25
absolutely not and I would never
12:28
tell them. But so I can
12:30
I can imagine. And
12:32
Is is still active Like is is still something that
12:34
you can deal with on a date. Is it. On.
12:40
Yeah. So. Like
12:42
I obviously a try really hard.
12:44
Not. To do. Anything like
12:46
that but I have like
12:49
been. Watching. Porn
12:51
or even having sex with my
12:53
boyfriend which is really weird and
12:55
like notice myself like starting to
12:57
imagine it being a family member
12:59
and then being like oh fuck
13:01
that's weird I need a soft
13:04
and my correcting my thoughts which
13:06
is something that I'm working on
13:08
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13:12
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13:14
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13:21
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18:56
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about kind of all your family members. Was.
19:01
They're sort of a boiling point of guilt
19:03
or shame or different things you feeling that
19:05
made you think I should try to get
19:08
help for this because I don't want to
19:10
have these fantasies for life. Yeah,
19:13
I'm so when I
19:15
was. I
19:18
would say it was probably late of
19:20
lake i was like aids he likes
19:23
him is when I really was like
19:25
okay this is not normal and this
19:27
is not healthy for me and that's
19:29
when I was like really starting to
19:32
think about it because my for my
19:34
family wasn't like very late mental health
19:36
positive like they still don't understand why
19:38
i'm in therapy arm. So
19:41
I'd guess I just never liked
19:43
thought about it in like and
19:46
late. Buses. Trauma.
19:48
Base way until I went to college
19:51
and I was around people who were
19:53
more mentally pop out of the the
19:55
and then I was like okay maybe
19:57
this is the brooded in trauma and
19:59
maybe this is. How be. And
20:01
it's like continuous thing, continuing the
20:03
trauma like it's. And it
20:05
causes the like a lotta flashbacks for
20:07
me. Sorry. With her father
20:09
to say. Yes, Yes!
20:12
Does your family know about what happened with
20:14
you and your father in the past or
20:17
that also secret? On.
20:19
So. I
20:23
have a lot of locked
20:25
out the memories from that
20:28
time period. I
20:30
don't remember a lot. But.
20:34
I've been talking about it a
20:36
lot with my therapist and mostly
20:38
it's just. We.
20:41
Think that my my mom
20:44
knew the entire time and
20:46
didn't really stop it. Arm
20:48
weights again would play and to
20:50
like me thinking it was more
20:53
more and meeting that like this.
20:56
Was. That late. Something. The
20:58
all families do. It is like
21:00
an intimate connection. The ink on.
21:04
Yeah, my brother knows as well, but
21:07
my sister doesn't know. And
21:09
do have a relationship with your father in our
21:11
he's nine, your life. On
21:13
I have not seen him since I
21:15
was swells a Houston. I. Hope
21:17
I never see him again. S
21:20
do you think part of healing
21:22
would ever be confronting your mom
21:24
about? that? Are having your family
21:26
know. You know truly about this
21:28
past trauma and how it's affected you. And.
21:33
So when I was lake.
21:35
Twenty. I basically like broke
21:37
down crying on my older brother
21:39
and like spilled everything the ham
21:41
and he had no idea I'm
21:44
and then we like confronted my
21:46
mom. Together. And
21:48
she basically told me I was lying
21:50
and she told me that I am
21:52
that that never happened. And
21:54
that. See.
21:58
Ah, Would have stopped if it
22:01
bed and am Now as an
22:03
adult I realized that that's not
22:05
true, but he added so that
22:07
also causes a lot of. Issues
22:10
in Belgrade. And
22:12
he said you like in therapy right
22:14
now but you also had mention that.
22:17
We. Will Pop probably know more about this than
22:19
your therapist. Is there a reason why you
22:21
guys. Don't. Open up too much about
22:24
as your therapist. And.
22:27
I. Think said. It's just really hard to talk
22:29
about as rest of us when it's someone
22:31
that you know and you see everyday like
22:33
you guys are never going to see me
22:35
again Says is easier to liked I guess.
22:37
Trauma dump. But.
22:41
My therapist. We.
22:43
Talked about it looks he knows
22:45
but were more focusing on like
22:47
the background of at right now
22:50
and then. we'll probably like switch
22:52
over as a journal about it
22:54
which is really offered. Oh probably
22:56
switch over to at I get
22:58
more and a few months. Okay,
23:01
yeah, I mean it's.
23:04
It's such a weighted seems like and
23:06
so much. To.
23:09
Be a we. We have a lot
23:11
of people on the show who has
23:13
certain fantasies or tanks are things that
23:15
could be extremely taboo or might offend
23:17
others and a lot of people we
23:19
speak with. They. Kind of
23:21
lean into it. They advocate their
23:24
advocates of it, and they're not
23:26
necessarily looking to stop their fantasies
23:28
or stop their kings. But as.
23:31
You with something that. You.
23:34
At. This point of feel like you don't
23:36
want to feel like urges you don't
23:38
want to have and you're constantly fighting
23:40
them off because they're just happening to
23:42
you. I'm south feel like all different
23:44
dynamic and scenario that that you're working
23:46
through and it's that's a lot but
23:48
it is cool to hear that you
23:50
are soaring to open up and talk
23:52
about and get to the root of
23:54
it as well. So you know deathly
23:56
commend you for that because it's I'm
23:58
sure not easy does. Speak about Anyone.
24:02
Yeah I mean it's is so I would say
24:04
it's is mostly embarrassing like I just feel like
24:06
I'm bless him right now was and kicking my
24:09
feet. Now I'm. Sorry,
24:12
I'm. Yeah,
24:14
I don't know I it's disappeared. So.
24:17
What is the ultimate goal for you is
24:19
it's a kind of work through to the
24:21
point that you just never have these thoughts
24:23
again. Hopefully yes
24:25
and I don't know said at
24:27
all ever fully reach that point
24:30
on sadly. but hopefully we I
24:32
can. I'm trying to work on
24:34
it now while I'm young. I'm
24:36
so that whenever I'm like. In.
24:39
My thirties or forties. I'm not
24:41
like still fantasizing about my little
24:43
sister. That's a makes me feel
24:45
sick to my stomach and one
24:47
of those I'm interested like. Why
24:50
did you reach out to us like why did
24:52
you want to tell us? has this is something
24:54
that you know Odyssey and and I mean we
24:56
appreciate. It was like I said to Isabella immediately
24:58
busy being super on a some. Are
25:00
like you know what was the initial thought behind? you know
25:02
I want to reach out and and a talk about this.
25:06
On I wanted to like.
25:09
On a side is kind of idyllic. Bring awareness
25:11
to it because like I always
25:13
felt very. Oh oh
25:15
mon and the way I
25:17
thought especially cause read it
25:20
and make tumbler and everything
25:22
really encourages that I'm so
25:24
it makes me feel like.
25:27
Maybe. I am. I
25:31
don't know, like wrong, I'm and I
25:33
just wanted to lake if somebody else
25:35
is having these thoughts be like hey
25:37
like it's nam war and it's probably
25:40
rooted in trauma and you can probably
25:42
fix it if you like are not
25:44
fix it by help it. Cope.
25:46
With that if you like. Get.
25:48
Help and new I'm
25:51
wants. To make.
25:53
It better and I don't want
25:55
anyone to feel. Like
25:57
be. Self hatred die so.
26:00
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27:45
really well said because you know you see
27:47
it a title like this episode or you
27:49
see those words together in says fantasy and
27:51
you can't help but it's sort of judge
27:54
before hearing the conversation and thinks like who
27:56
is this person This is six like that's
27:58
disgusting. Why would they come. That to
28:00
listen to someone who's you know saying
28:02
like this is fine this is. You
28:04
know they're still fantasy of mine. It's
28:06
a king. Ah but this is something
28:08
that. Isn't your fault and that
28:11
you're actively trying to cope with and you
28:13
know, see, have you're going through this I'm
28:15
feeling that then that immediately means that you're
28:17
not the only one in this world going
28:20
through that and it's It's a lot to
28:22
bear in a lot to shoulder. so we
28:24
do thank you for that because it's to
28:27
be able to bring awareness to the to
28:29
these things that. I
28:31
don't. Get platforms. Really?
28:33
Ever her Hobbs is it's it is early
28:36
school to know that it will probably reach
28:38
one other person who's going through this who
28:40
might feel so alone and think that they're
28:43
the only ones in the world going through
28:45
this. and they're not. Yeah,
28:47
I mean whoa, You're thinking me by
28:50
for like a really stupid good gear.
28:52
You're giving me the opportunity to discuss
28:54
this on a platform that will reach.
28:58
Around and that a lot of people which
29:00
is. Crazy, but I'm
29:02
sure that it takes a lot of courage
29:04
said. It's a say all the things that
29:06
you just said to us. Ah, Blue A
29:08
really really does and that doesn't go unnoticed.
29:12
Things. They see it. So.
29:15
Before. We wrap up or their
29:17
arm like on that note of
29:19
maybe someone hearing this where they
29:21
have something similar or anything anything
29:23
rooted in trauma that has you
29:25
know created a reality for them
29:27
Now that they are trying to
29:29
you know cope with arm as
29:31
having urges are things that they
29:33
don't want to be having that
29:36
they know are wrong essentially. What
29:39
are like some stuff that have been most
29:41
helpful for you were that you think will
29:44
be most helpful in this kind of recovery
29:46
journey that you're on. You mentioned journaling therapy
29:48
on but anything you know specific that we
29:50
didn't discuss that could help someone. To.
29:54
Yeah, so on I do
29:56
stuck right journaling, mostly what's
29:58
his arm. Like a
30:01
the thought you have b
30:03
y u have that guy
30:05
and then see the way
30:07
that that makes you feel
30:09
and then you like journal
30:11
about. Like. Why
30:13
you felt that way? Why
30:15
you. Have
30:18
the thoughts talk about your arm
30:20
like trauma and just like really
30:22
like I guess then I'm and
30:25
it really helps. Like I know
30:27
it's incredibly exists and like it
30:29
will make you late. Terrified.
30:31
But it really helps to like
30:33
V that to your therapist and
30:35
like get it out because if
30:37
you're still like bottling it all
30:40
up inside, it's not. It's.
30:42
Not going to leave if
30:45
that makes sense. Doesn't.
30:49
Know. Is gonna say I'm in
30:51
a week again. We appreciate someone
30:53
being so honest. I imagine this
30:55
is. Definitely. Not
30:58
something that I would be super comfortable
31:00
telling anybody. And
31:02
it's them As I understand your you know your
31:05
point of being like I delegates. Only one that
31:07
I know who involved in a therapists. I see
31:09
them. but I'll never talk to you guys again.
31:11
I'm a yeah we we appreciate you coming on,
31:14
taken the time and and not talking to us.
31:16
Thank you so much. Now
31:18
thank you for giving me the opportunity
31:20
to talk about it yes course and
31:22
wishing you the best of luck. Know
31:25
in this tourney and I'm you have
31:27
these conversations health and again we appreciate
31:29
it. If of course thank
31:31
you so much as I thank you have good
31:33
on. You. To fight. As
31:47
a rough one and I dislike.
31:51
For. As well as a fucking piece
31:53
of shit guitar the way. and it's
31:55
kind of crazy to not crazy, but
31:57
like is just another example of. Those.
32:00
Young ages, especially when it comes
32:02
to sexual abuse. Like. What
32:05
that can do to a person
32:07
like moving forward is. The.
32:09
Enough. The. Of whatever
32:11
it like it I mean anything couldn't Fucking
32:14
low Oh my god As I can imagine
32:16
three will have no one is he doesn't
32:18
like fragility of. Just.
32:20
The Ab A person, all that aids
32:22
the and As As and then it's
32:24
obvious that like something like this would
32:26
stem from something like that. Chino and
32:28
all these of psychology language around. The.
32:31
Reasons why is another thing. but
32:33
like. It's. It's
32:36
fucked manner and now like see
32:38
you know it's obviously this is
32:40
very taboo saying end it's very
32:43
strange of course to. Be.
32:45
Thinking about your fucking sister who is
32:47
a minor. And like. Not.
32:50
Good. You know what he means
32:52
and imagine having those uncontrollable thought
32:54
I'd I'd is that are just.
32:56
Like peppering. Your mind and you're trying
32:59
to push them out. I.
33:01
Don't even wanna think about. I
33:04
mean yeah, it's it's it's crazy.
33:06
I mean, I'm happy that there
33:08
is no like acting upon any
33:11
of this. Obviously, I'm. But.
33:13
It's it's five in the whole thing as kind
33:15
of like forty know and I'll take that this
33:17
is. there's anything. You know, Of
33:21
nothing he a shot at this person's character
33:23
at all or mrs like an unfortunate situation
33:25
like obviously the my through a very dramatic
33:27
upbringing and there are ramifications for that because
33:29
you'd as a fucking piece of shit I'm.
33:32
And now you're just gonna have to do with
33:34
this thing and our to things that I feel
33:36
bad about is that like there's no one to
33:38
talk to about this you know like you can't
33:40
have a fuck can you explain this to the
33:42
average person of like you know like we've created
33:44
the setting here to have like a serious conversation
33:46
but how does it come up and I don't
33:48
have to tell what are your friends that like
33:51
without them being like what like you know like.
33:54
There is some nuances in this in there that
33:56
you have to kind of go through to have
33:58
that conversation for real like this. Possible to
34:00
do even walking into therapy like
34:02
you know and is saying that
34:04
were big advocate of their therapy
34:06
and I don't think either of
34:08
us have discussed something to that
34:10
degree in are wrong but like
34:13
what a same thing, safe environment,
34:15
whatever but that's still a stranger
34:17
like to sit down and say
34:19
those words to someone repeatedly session
34:21
after session like she's. It's
34:23
awesome that even got to that point and
34:25
that is continuing. Man it seems like it's
34:27
kind of a slow build. They're really trying
34:29
to talk about the route trauma and you
34:31
know this is probably a long journey for
34:33
her. but man just woke coming on our
34:35
show and just saying that and the works
34:38
is doing in therapy that such a like
34:40
hill to get over to even get to
34:42
that point. So that is. Awesome!
34:45
To hear for her like that is actively
34:47
working on it. Ah. But.
34:49
Wow! and just from a high level?
34:51
it's just one of those reminders on
34:53
the show. I think it's important to
34:56
hear. Like. To lead with
34:58
something like incest, fantasy and like our sang
35:00
to her the kind of immediate judgment that
35:02
comes with that. But then to be reminded
35:04
of. The have sex
35:06
that. Trauma or and
35:08
up around can have on someone uncontrollably for
35:11
them to now have to deal with this
35:13
in their life like that is is always
35:15
important to remember and I think the other
35:17
thing is it's made me think again like.
35:20
So. Many things that are hard for
35:22
people like the boy say like I wish
35:24
they would are just told me this are
35:27
on their friend or this and us. So
35:29
much easier said than done. Like you know
35:31
not know what someone is going through in
35:33
silence that they're keeping inside and it's scary
35:36
to think about but he would Just from
35:38
the outside looking in you just never know
35:40
Sometimes never know that someone could be dealing
35:42
with something. New. No to that level gym.
35:45
And I mean, I think that trauma. Like I
35:47
said, it's it's it's. It's. Wilds the
35:49
effects that that has on people and not
35:51
even just children but she was a child
35:53
when I was happening. but like on pronto
35:55
through the many people go to way toward
35:58
the combative Ptsd the care for can sleep
36:00
the night terrors their fucking whatever you think
36:02
they want that like Odyssey not like they
36:04
it just completely throws off how they used
36:06
to be because they went through something traumatic
36:09
and this is the same thing I'm sure
36:11
she's I brought on of fucking be attracted
36:13
to my brother or like whatever the fuck
36:15
but like. I. Had
36:18
a dusting is wrong and I want to
36:20
deal with said i want to Six said
36:22
i don't want to like, You know, act
36:24
upon it or like even think about sad
36:26
or whatever. Like that said, prison. theoretically. I
36:28
mean like that, harm, and or prison And
36:30
it's it's. it's yeah, it's just not good.
36:32
It's it's not great, but I mean I.
36:34
We wish her the best and you know
36:36
I'm I'm glad that she. Picked.
36:39
Us to talk to and to come on
36:41
and kind of like you know, whatever because
36:43
I guess we're just trying offer different perspective
36:45
on this show so that people can kind
36:47
of understand because ago saying if you just
36:49
talk to the average person and you try
36:51
to have this conversation. Emilia.
36:53
Most of the tires going to be
36:56
written off as like this person's fuckin
36:58
watched him and like whatever but not
37:00
understanding like where this could potentially come
37:02
from and like. In. Are
37:04
not something that I was. It's not the
37:07
same as huge as liking girls at None.
37:09
The name is built through something different than
37:11
that, like it's a more nuanced conversation and
37:13
that's difficult and it's hard not to lead
37:15
with judgment and and whole everyday life or
37:17
of you know selling memoir you're not expecting
37:19
like that. Yeah, you'd need to have the
37:21
conversation to eventually get to the point where
37:24
now years saying shit that were saying right
37:26
now i'm a for them are gonna lie
37:28
you see is as fancy. Go okay stereo
37:30
buckle up to what are we talking about
37:32
Said ice the you know but. A
37:35
sauna? Know it's it's it's a difficult
37:37
and I are. You know we can
37:39
only wish are the best. I hope
37:41
that she's making strides overtime and and
37:43
hopefully this helps. Maybe she. Found
37:46
words or in ability that you didn't have
37:48
before to even talk more openly about era
37:50
just by getting it out. That would be
37:52
cool. Maybe she shows the sir therapist one
37:54
day who knows of the it helps in
37:56
some way via. Via
37:59
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