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Over 40 and child-free. Hello,

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everyone. Oh, wow.

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Okay. I wish you could have seen Tracy's face lock. He

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was saying that. Piping up. All

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right. I got my sugar rush. I'm ready

1:05

to go. Yes, we just got

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done snacking on the most delicious snack

1:09

ever. If you guys don't know

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what nothing Bundt cake is, you

1:14

are missing out. We've

1:16

been eating this for years. Actually. I think we talked

1:19

about it last week because we had the At

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the party. So they come in like little mini

1:24

they're smaller like mini cupcakes. I would say

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that size. Those are Teenie's

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and then they have frontlets, which are

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like of like, A miniature

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Bundt cake, but like a single serving.

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And we get the teenies. These are the Butler.

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It's usually a bumbling cause I'm who

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doesn't want a Butler. The fall answer. Amazing.

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But today we tried their new on and. It was chocolate

1:46

with Reeses PCs and they had like Reese's pieces

1:48

in the center. And it was amazing.

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It added their chocolate's good. It added

1:53

a little bit of something to their chocolate. I

1:55

mean, you could throw peanut butter in anything

1:57

and I will eat it. So, so that,

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so that's what we're doing. Maybe eating

2:02

maybe who slapped peanut butter on

2:04

keys. I would eat though. Oh,

2:06

maybe I'll try that. Peas and

2:08

peanut butter. That sounds like a great combination.

2:10

I mean, I never thought peanut butter on a hamburger

2:13

would be good. It is true. That was good.

2:15

Yeah. You need to hold one,

2:17

but the little sample was, was pretty good. So

2:19

one time at a vendor event, we were there

2:21

a shopping event and somebody was there

2:23

with their food, like a caterer, and they were

2:25

sampling hamburgers. But they put

2:28

peanut butter on the hamburger. And

2:31

I'd heard of it before, but I

2:33

was like, I got to try this and we did.

2:35

And it was actually not bad. I

2:37

think it was at the food and wine festival. It

2:39

might've been, which we missed this year. And that made me

2:41

very sad. We did. But that's okay.

2:44

But yeah, so I don't know if. Try it try peanut butter

2:46

on a hamburger. If you like, if you're a peanut butter fanatic.

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My question is, did he just slap

2:50

the peanut butter on there? Was it. In

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it, I can't remember. It was definitely on

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there on the top kind of like catch up on. I

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believe it was peanut butter on the Hamburg. You

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probably want to look up a recipe and see like, Berger.

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Or McDonald's burgers. Peanut

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butter on it. I mean, you never

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know. I'm not gonna lie. I'm not

3:10

a chef. I do not cook. You do not want

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to eat my food. So maybe taking

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recipe suggestions from me is not

3:17

the best idea. It's like last week

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we were like, we are not medical professionals.

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So please talk to your doctor. We

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are not chefs. So please look

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up a recipe. The Google could probably

3:28

cook better than I can. That's for sure. That actually

3:31

is probably a true statement. Really

3:33

is. So, yeah. So

3:35

earlier today we went to a craft

3:37

fair. I love this time of year. And

3:40

speaking of this time of year, It

3:42

is warm here in Pennsylvania today. Yes.

3:45

The sun is beating on my back right

3:47

now through the window and I am sweating and

3:49

it is October 28th and

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I'm pretty sure I saw in like, Upper

3:53

Michigan and North

3:55

Dakota places you would expect they're

3:57

covered in snow already. So I'm not going to complain

3:59

about 80 degree weather. I think that

4:02

fall weather, I love fall weather. I like

4:04

that. In-between weather. And

4:06

I wish we would get more of it. Not that I'll turn down

4:08

80 degrees. Oh, I won't. But I'm

4:10

hot. Today's a little hot, like this

4:12

week was very warm.

4:15

Yes, today's hot. Yes. I

4:18

thought it was a good fall week.

4:20

Yeah. Until today. Yeah. That's

4:22

okay. You know what I'm really not happy about.

4:25

I do. Very high on happy.

4:27

It's going to make me angry talking about it

4:29

right now. Go ahead. I'm

4:32

angry that the Phillies lost and they

4:34

are not in the world series and that the

4:36

D bag. Bags, I mean a D backs. I made it

4:38

to the world series. Why I'm angry

4:41

because you make me get into the goddamn

4:43

games and then they lost, I

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mean, they weren't supposed to lose. He even went

4:48

and got a sweatshirt. Well, now you are a true fan.

4:51

I guess it starts all over again. I

4:53

think they said like 67 days, they report to

4:55

spring training. Well, that's not going to happen.

4:58

I'm not on board for the full baseball

5:00

season. It is a long season

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with a lot. To how they're doing.

5:04

I will pay attention to watch all the games.

5:06

I will pay attention to see if anybody gets traded,

5:09

because now I know they're starting lineup. Oh,

5:11

yes. Well, Aaron NOLA probably

5:14

might most likely get traded.

5:16

He was a pitcher, but he kind of pissed me

5:18

off. So. If they don't

5:20

trade Kimbrel. Yeah. I'm

5:22

boycotting. He's the one with the weird

5:24

stance when he pitches or any sure is why

5:27

does he do that? I don't know what I kind of

5:29

want to punch him in the balls. He

5:31

really acted up. I was very sad

5:33

at my Alvarado. Is that

5:35

his name? Yes. Yeah, he didn't do

5:37

good in the last game either. No, no.

5:40

Mike Mike and I disagree. We had an argument

5:42

because I, I think that the manager

5:45

should take most responsibility. He didn't change

5:47

up the lineup. He kept seeing the entire

5:49

time, and obviously wasn't working. Something

5:51

needs to be changed even just to change it up, just

5:53

to change. Like the energy

5:55

of things, you know, like

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he just, he made some decisions that were just poor.

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Mike on the other hand and a lot of people. So

6:02

it's like 50% blame, mostly the manager, I think. 50%

6:05

blame the team for not hitting cause they

6:07

would like they didn't hit the ball in the last two games.

6:10

They had like a total of like four hits or some. Shit

6:12

like that. Like they didn't do good. So

6:15

I'm not as angry at the team as I am at the

6:17

manager for not trying to do something. And then putting

6:19

that stupid picture in two, not two games in

6:21

a row when he lost. First game.

6:24

Why would you put me in for the second one? Well,

6:26

but I think wasn't that the game that they

6:28

literally went through their entire bullpen.

6:31

There was one that they did that, but I don't really care.

6:33

I'm just saying. The plan plan. Glenn

6:35

better, buddy clan better. Both

6:38

teams did like they were out of pitchers

6:40

by the end of the game. Yeah. So

6:42

baseball season is over. And

6:44

that's really sad because we sell football.

6:47

So, I mean, I mean. That's

6:50

my thing. So yeah, I mean, I love

6:52

football season. Yeah, that's my favorite of all the

6:54

seasons, but I just wish our teams were doing better.

6:56

Yeah. Yeah. I mean,

6:58

I'm a Patriots fan. Tracy's giants.

7:01

They are not doing so high. Mike's an Eagles

7:03

fan, so he's happy right now. He's

7:05

somewhat happy. You're having conversation

7:07

on the way home on Thursday. And he's a little

7:10

nervous about the game on Sunday and

7:12

he probably just doesn't want to get his hopes up. Cause he had his hopes up

7:14

for the Phillies and then they should all overhand. I

7:16

mean, isn't that just the true

7:19

nature of being a Philadelphia fan?

7:21

That's what I'm on. That's what I'm beginning to understand,

7:24

because let me tell you their shit

7:26

on. I'm a partial Philadelphia

7:28

fan. So I like the Phillies, the Sixers and the flyers

7:31

I have been looking at seems like fliers have

7:33

started off pretty well. They did start

7:35

off pretty good. So I don't know if they're in,

7:37

they are in a rebuild,

7:40

which they are very open about that, the inner rebuild.

7:42

And then I, like they're saying they have like

7:45

a theme this year. And

7:47

I forget what the theme is, but they're all on

7:50

board. They got the team on board. It sounded like, so.

7:52

And the Sixers should do good. Yeah,

7:55

I'm not watching it. I don't

7:57

hate basketball. I just. I

7:59

don't know, I don't enjoy watching the NBA.

8:02

I will watch a few games here and

8:04

there. Like if they're on, I'll put them on. Or if I'm crying,

8:06

when I need something to watch. I'll really get into

8:08

it in the playoffs is. Really watch

8:11

it. And then the, and then the six years will then

8:13

shit all over us to we'll be like, oh,

8:15

they're going to do something. And then they don't and like,

8:17

do something, do something. I

8:19

mean, I do like March madness. Yeah.

8:23

I do like. I can watch some

8:25

of that. But for some reason, I don't know. I can't get

8:27

into the NBA. I still can't

8:29

get into flyers games. Watching them from

8:31

home. Like I want to be at a hockey game

8:33

watching and Mike likes to watch from home.

8:35

So we are just on different pages.

8:38

She does say that if we were like millionaires and he could just

8:40

go out and buy tickets, he's just mad at how much you have to spend

8:42

to go out. See a game. I do

8:44

feel like at least the flyers tend

8:46

to have good packages. Yes. But you can

8:48

get. See, I don't mind. I

8:51

watched. Hockey forever

8:53

on television. And it was very odd

8:55

to go to my first game. Cause I didn't realize no

8:58

one was announcing during the games. It

9:01

started. I was like,

9:04

why is it so quiet? It was very

9:06

weird and that. Oh, now

9:08

I get it, but now, now I get it.

9:10

Now I'm into it. But I do, I don't mind

9:12

watching hockey on TV. I do like that. Okay.

9:15

They just aren't good right now. So.

9:18

Maybe they're going to maybe they'll get better. So I

9:20

don't know. So if we have any sports fans out there, you'll

9:22

have to tell us what your teams are, how

9:24

they're doing. I will follow your teams as

9:26

well. Yeah, unless you're. The

9:28

back. Sam. Or a Cowboys

9:30

fan. We don't care about them. Sorry. I

9:33

don't know that we can get on board with that, but. Go

9:35

team go. Other teams. So other teams

9:37

go sports. Sports.

9:40

I love a little go sports ball. The

9:42

sports ball. It was squirts box. So,

9:46

yeah, so that was our week. I didn't really do

9:48

anything. Shocking. I know. No,

9:50

no work work, or go into AC.

9:54

So I am excited for that as my. I've

9:56

been at my job now for two months. It's

9:58

my first time I got to take some time off.

10:01

So I'm excited for that. It's a vacation

10:03

days, so we're using them and we're going to go to AC

10:05

the weather supposed to be really nice. Nice. It's

10:08

fall weather. I think they're supposed to be a little bit of rain, but

10:11

we don't, we probably won't really leave the hotels.

10:14

We were staying at the Borgata, which is

10:16

nice. Which is not connected to the

10:18

other ones, but if we go up to the boardwalk, you

10:20

can just walk through the. You

10:22

got to go to that digital place. That was

10:24

always my favorite noodle place a couple months ago

10:27

in the Morgana. When we went down, maybe I'm

10:29

actually, it might've been a year ago at this point. Or

10:32

in the fall, I'm not sure at some point. Within

10:34

the last year we went to the Borgata just on a random

10:36

like Friday night or Saturday night. And

10:38

we did eat at the, I love the noodle place

10:41

and it was just as good as it was when we were

10:43

there. So a long time since I've been to

10:45

AC. Yeah. So it's it's

10:47

good. I do have, I

10:49

am excited for this week. Because

10:51

my work is having

10:53

a, I think it's like an HR

10:55

summit. I don't know if it's the HR summit or the budget.

10:58

I don't know. They're having a big meeting for the leadership

11:00

team. So I have a.

11:03

My work bestie who's coming in from

11:05

South Carolina. So I get to see

11:07

her this week. So that's exciting. I'm

11:10

McKayla. That

11:12

she is exciting. Yeah. She

11:14

moved away on me. Now

11:16

I only get to see your face on teams or zoom.

11:19

You know, isn't that pretty much. Pretty much everybody

11:22

except for my work. Everybody shows up. Cause we have

11:24

to all work in person. And I'll

11:26

have a work best. Oh,

11:29

right. Totally. I'm going to tell him that. On

11:32

Monday. You are now my husband, he

11:34

could be. He's only. It could

11:36

be my kid. Yeah. And that's not awkward

11:39

at all. I used to have a work husband, but

11:41

he retired. So. Okay. Now

11:43

I'm just back to work wives. He

11:45

could be my work kid. We go. Speaking

11:48

of work children. So,

11:51

yeah, I have been working

11:53

a crazy amount, trying to get caught up because

11:55

my days. I don't

11:57

know where the days go. I feel

12:00

like I'm constantly doing things, but not

12:02

getting anything done that I need to get done. That's.

12:04

Yeah. So I end up working like

12:07

evenings. I'll probably work tomorrow

12:09

while I watch football. That's

12:11

a lot of working. And you don't get paid enough

12:13

to work that much. It is. It is, but,

12:16

you know, it's kind of one of those things

12:18

and it was funny because we were talking.

12:22

Randomly because I've been working so

12:24

much and we were talking about whether or not other

12:26

people do this. Which

12:28

some do, but they're usually like

12:31

a higher up position. And get

12:33

paid a lot more. But

12:35

it led me to think about.

12:38

You know, are tiled

12:40

for you, women. Biased

12:42

in the workplace, I guess you could say. I

12:45

know, I will say. At the job

12:47

I'm at now, like I'm not required

12:49

to do that. So it's just on my own

12:52

actually takes my anxiety down that

12:54

if I have like a big report to do that,

12:56

it's not going to be late. So I do that. But

12:59

I have worked at previous jobs.

13:01

Where we would be scheduled for things.

13:05

And I was always the one,

13:07

if they had an early appointment or a late appointment

13:09

was basically just like, Tracy can do it.

13:12

Because she doesn't have kids, she doesn't have

13:14

to, you know, take her kids to the bus

13:16

stop or get her kids off the bus at the end of

13:18

the day. That is not acceptable. And

13:20

that's, it's a true thing. And I

13:23

actually started looking it up because

13:25

I was like, is this just me? You

13:28

know, it was just my job, but no,

13:31

It is like a big thing that

13:33

women in the workplace who are

13:36

child-free. They're

13:38

expected to work more.

13:41

They are not

13:44

given preference when people

13:46

want to take off. Oh, yeah, that actually

13:48

just happened. Not that I could have, not

13:51

that I couldn't have done something about

13:53

it, but I wanted to take off the day after Thanksgiving.

13:56

And in reality, like our boss, wasn't

13:58

going to be there cause she lives in another

14:00

state. So she was going to go home for Thanksgiving.

14:03

It wasn't going to be there. I only left one other

14:05

person in our department. And she was

14:07

saying that she and her other kids were going

14:09

out to see her daughter who lives in another state.

14:12

So I felt like I had to be like, You

14:15

know, even though when I, the first

14:17

week that I came in, I gave my schedule

14:19

of days off that I wanted. Right. As

14:21

soon as I came in and said, these are the days that I

14:23

need off. And so I felt like I needed to back

14:25

that. All right. And just say

14:27

that I would come in. Because, you know,

14:30

And it wasn't like whatever, but, you know, they.

14:33

It was definitely the kids. Right. Reason

14:35

that made me feel like, okay, well, I don't

14:37

really have anything to do the day after. I enjoy

14:39

black Friday. I enjoy shopping and I'm probably

14:42

gonna do some of my own stuff. So like, I

14:44

really wanted to take off. So now I'm just hoping

14:46

the company gives us off because that's also a possibility,

14:49

oh, that would be nice. It would be so, yeah, so

14:51

that literally just happened. Yeah. And

14:53

it's actually like a true thing. It's

14:55

not just a hit or miss thing. I actually

14:57

found they did this company,

15:00

did a survey. And

15:02

it was 938

15:04

respondents. And

15:07

they said it should be noted that eight out of

15:09

10. Respondents were

15:11

parents. So it's not just

15:14

a bunch of child-free people whining

15:16

at a survey. They were more parents. So

15:19

the findings were. Nearly

15:21

three and four respondents believed

15:24

that parents are treated better in the workplace.

15:27

Not having kids resulted

15:29

in being denied time off.

15:32

Having to work overtime and

15:34

being given a greater workload. 85%

15:38

of the respondents feel employees with

15:40

children get priority when planning vacations

15:43

and days off. 87%

15:45

say working parents have more benefits.

15:48

81% assumed child related

15:51

reasons for absences. Are

15:53

more important to their employer than

15:55

the reasons of child-free employees.

15:58

And then 92% said all employees

16:01

should be treated equally regarding flexible

16:03

working hours while 84%

16:06

share the view that employees with

16:08

the same role should be treated equally

16:10

when it comes to the workload, regardless of

16:12

whether they have children. So it's

16:15

nice that, you know, People see

16:17

the bias now. Do

16:20

people who have children use it in their benefit

16:23

when they meet. I don't know.

16:25

But, I mean, I've been in situations

16:28

where, you know, they will just flat out

16:30

say I can't do that because I have

16:32

to, you know, Take my kid to

16:34

the doctor. You know, whatever

16:36

it is, get my kid off the bus. And

16:39

it's just kind of like, okay. Whereas,

16:43

you know, what if I said, I have to get home

16:45

to take Winnie out. Right. They

16:47

wouldn't think of it as, as, as important. B.

16:49

Okay. I would, I think I would

16:51

be okay. One, if it's fine, if they

16:53

can't be there, but they're still responsible for their

16:55

work. Like I don't want to have to take on their workload

16:57

and not to. If

16:59

they're getting. And

17:01

I don't know how it works, so I can't say it does, or it doesn't

17:04

happen, but as long as they're getting Dr. Hour.

17:06

So if they're, if it's, so they need to use

17:08

up their vacation time and if they've used up their vacation

17:10

time, then they'd better be on paid time

17:12

that they're taking. So at least for that would make

17:15

me feel a little bit better. Like those two things

17:17

happen because. I think

17:19

that and you know, at least. In

17:21

the last couple of places I've worked, I've had

17:23

that like, Well, I have worked for myself

17:25

for a long time, so I don't have to worry about that. But. The

17:27

place prior to that. There wasn't too

17:29

many people with kids cause they are all in their twenties.

17:32

Just getting married. Mostly worked

17:34

with. And, and I will tell you

17:36

they were not flexible, no matter you

17:38

had kids or not. So it didn't really matter

17:40

there. But, and this job seems pretty

17:42

flexible. I don't. I have now. You just

17:44

can't leave the built-in. I just can't leave the bill Haley

17:46

of the building, but if you have kids, you can't leave the building

17:49

either. So. I mean, it's all

17:51

fair. There, but yeah, I think

17:53

there, there will be some, you know, some things, but. But

17:56

like, I don't know. I definitely. I

17:58

definitely see it. Yeah. So it

18:00

was just one of those things. Like I said, I don't

18:03

really have that problem now. Like. The

18:05

extra work that I do. It's. My choice.

18:08

But it definitely has affected me

18:10

in the past. So I thought it was interesting

18:12

when I started looking things up. I'm

18:14

wondering after outside of the workplace,

18:17

where else do you think that, is there bias

18:19

anywhere else or is workplace is just the place

18:21

that we see it most often. And where

18:23

else would you say that maybe there is. I

18:25

don't know necessarily that there's biases.

18:29

Cause I was researching like, oh, what

18:31

other things are affected? It's

18:33

more like stereotypes

18:35

or like quote unquote. Child-free

18:39

people like. You know, they're cold

18:41

and heartless because they don't want to have kids. Yes.

18:44

Fuck those kids. I mean, I am cold and heartless,

18:46

but not. That's not the reason I don't want

18:48

to. Hi. I know my soul is black.

18:50

My. My heart is black. But I do like

18:53

kids. Yeah. I mean, I just got a

18:55

new sticker that says dead inside,

18:58

but caffeinated. So, I mean,

19:00

I am, but that's not how I think.

19:02

But I babysat or here nor there. Yeah,

19:05

I enjoy kids. I babysat for years,

19:08

I have taken care of other

19:10

people's kids like that.

19:13

I mean, I think there probably are child-free people

19:15

who don't like kids and I think that's okay. You don't

19:17

have to like but I also think

19:19

there are parents who have their own kids and really don't

19:21

like other people's kids. There were parents

19:24

that have kids that don't like their kid. That's

19:26

true. So, I mean, I feel like you don't,

19:28

I feel like people just think you should have to like

19:30

chill. You don't really have to like

19:32

them. Yeah. I don't even think you should have to

19:34

tolerate the light, You know, I mean, in

19:36

certain places you're like, you know, screaming

19:38

kids, I think that comes down to it. Restaurants, airplanes,

19:41

and then people get upset. If you say no kids allowed.

19:43

Right. But again, you're

19:46

our decision was to not have children. Your decision

19:48

was to have children. We don't push, you know,

19:50

we don't really push on them. Right. I

19:52

think that's our pushback is to have child-free places

19:55

and they don't like it. Right. So,

19:57

yeah, I feel like we're discriminated against for

19:59

not having kids like suck it up. My

20:01

kids are going to be there. But.

20:04

It's not the other way around you. I know what I mean anywhere.

20:07

Well, actually not, not, not anywhere. Virgin

20:09

is actually taking. I took a step in diversion,

20:12

you know, and then some, some destination places

20:14

you can go or childbirth. Like adult only. So it's nice

20:16

that I did just see. And we talked about

20:18

this in a few episodes. Go about the airline.

20:21

That's not anywhere near, we're not flying

20:23

it. I started a child-free. So I'm hoping

20:25

that maybe like that. Yeah. Can

20:27

I share a random, just a random, like,

20:29

this is how stupid people are. This has nothing to do

20:31

with our topic, but I have to share it. Absolutely.

20:34

I love learning how stupid people

20:36

are really funny and has to do with travel. The

20:40

airport in Austria. Okay.

20:43

As a desk. Like somebody at a desk.

20:45

Just for people that booked a flight to

20:48

Austria who meant to book a flight to Australia.

20:51

That's how many people mess that up, that they have

20:53

their own desk there. That's crazy.

20:57

Well, I'm not gonna, not gonna

20:59

make fun of people who like book

21:01

on the wrong day. But

21:05

to the wrong place, you would think that

21:07

would be something that you would double and triple check,

21:09

like Austria, Australia. I get it. But

21:12

like, how do you know there's extra letters

21:14

there? It's not like it's. Austria

21:16

and Austria, like. Random

21:19

letter in the middle. Anyway. So that's

21:21

my random thing of the day that I learned and I

21:23

just had to share. Wow. That's funny. So

21:26

anyway, back to child-free. Thanks.

21:29

Just curious. And

21:32

how long does it take you to actually walk

21:34

up to the desk and admitted that you're

21:36

in the wrong country? And

21:38

then I wonder, like how much. There and

21:40

go, do I just enjoy Austria

21:42

for a while? I'm actually

21:44

thinking, I think that unless I was going

21:46

for like a certain reason,

21:49

like if I was just going on vacation and I did

21:51

that, I think I would just end up staying in Austria

21:53

and feel like. Oh, you had another time.

21:56

But if I was going for something, I guess I would have. Walk

21:58

up, do a walk of shame. To that.

22:01

Desk and be like, I made this mistake.

22:04

So, no. I would just travel

22:06

there and sit in the airport and watch the spot.

22:08

Isn't that crazy. So I thought

22:10

that was pretty good. That's awesome. Yeah,

22:13

so some of. Some

22:18

of the other myths. Is.

22:22

We haven't found the right person yet.

22:24

Which is funny because half the people

22:26

that don't have kids are married

22:29

and they together decide they don't want

22:31

kids. Yeah Mike. Does not want

22:33

kids So that's weird

22:35

unless they think that People are

22:37

in the wrong relationship because

22:40

their partner doesn't pump kids i don't

22:42

know it's very strange another

22:44

myth is that we're lonely

22:46

Aka the crazy cat lady right

22:49

I mean the crazy cat lady is not lonely

22:51

she has her cats That's true. So

22:54

maybe she just prefers cats over humans

22:56

let's face it there's some people that have kids

22:58

that shouldn't have kids so then there's people

23:00

that don't have kids then maybe they shouldn't have kids and

23:02

they recognize they And i had kids If

23:05

there if you're a person out there and you think that every

23:08

woman should have children then i think

23:10

there's something wrong with you yeah I

23:12

mean. There's many days that i'm not

23:14

even sure that i'm fit to be a dog

23:16

parents Let alone

23:18

a child Right Yeah. This

23:22

one always gets me the myth that we're

23:24

not nurturing Oh right

23:26

that is Archer my dogs

23:29

I don't carry them around like little babies

23:31

and i dress them and i feed them and i

23:33

love them We're nurturing

23:35

people i mean what about what

23:37

about plant ladies They love their plan

23:39

and they keep them alive And I plan on

23:41

nurturing towards plants but some people

23:44

don't have a good green thumb Just

23:47

saying And then this one caught me off guard

23:49

We're not feminine It says people

23:52

seem to have this idea that people are

23:54

either totally feminine or totally

23:56

masculine but you can't be a mix of both

24:00

but not wanting kids in short

24:02

pretty much says That

24:04

you were less feminine Well

24:07

that's the dumbest thing. Yeah

24:09

well That doesn't make any sense so

24:11

stupid i love to have my days where i'm super

24:13

girly and then i have my other days where i

24:15

look like a homeless dude like especially

24:18

is what it is i love sports i could talk about

24:20

sports you would think that leans on But

24:22

it has nothing to do with Just

24:25

cause i don't want pop out some babies. Like

24:27

i'm not a girly girl but I've

24:30

never been that way but that isn't

24:32

the reason why i don't want to have kids Oh that's

24:34

so weird so weird We'll come up with the weirdest

24:36

things I will say

24:38

if i ever had kids i was definitely

24:41

meant to be a boy mom than a girl Yeah

24:44

I was not mad to have kids because coming

24:47

out of me if i would have had to adopt

24:49

children or had a surrogate

24:51

Yeah i maybe would've i

24:54

just didn't like i would have liked to baby but

24:56

then i don't want to watch how to take care of it That's

24:58

really the problem I didn't really want to take care

25:00

of them now. I want it to adopt it I wanted to adopt

25:02

older children that we could take places And

25:06

then they'd be out of the house And Later i would

25:08

like to adopt a college student Yes.

25:11

But after they've already paid for their college

25:13

I don't want to pay for it i will help them apply for student

25:16

loans Preferably

25:18

an athlete who's going to the nfl I

25:20

mean if i could plan that Yeah,

25:23

Anywhere Anywhere that they're going to make mommy

25:25

money. And

25:27

See again why some people just shouldn't have children

25:31

Interesting just thought it was interesting

25:33

because you know it, there's so many

25:35

different things out there that You

25:38

don't fully recognize as a

25:40

child free person because not everybody gets

25:42

these i mean i've never actually been told

25:45

any of these things i was

25:47

always told i would change my mind

25:50

and you know when i got older

25:52

i definitely had those things

25:55

But i didn't change my mind

25:58

You know i was lucky nobody ever told me i would change my

26:00

mind and had my parents were very

26:02

supportive from the beginning and people would ask

26:04

me if i was going to have kids and i don't know if they just held

26:06

it to themselves but I would say no

26:09

Well actually No I

26:11

don't know, Even say my in-laws they were just

26:13

disappointed that i didn't want to have kids but they

26:15

didn't tell me i would change my mind right

26:18

They just were like it was ever family that actually

26:20

said that it's the random people that

26:22

ask you and then they look at you with

26:24

a pit, like a pity look And they're

26:26

like oh you'll change your mind like people

26:28

that don't really know you who want to give you their

26:30

opinion That's really nice of you to think that

26:33

you don't know. No I

26:35

don't mind i'm always like Nope.

26:37

And here i am didn't change my mind

26:40

We should go back and find that. Didn't

26:42

change my mind super happy with my life

26:45

Thank you That's a shirt we should pick

26:47

Proud to be child-free hashtag

26:50

didn't change my mind Yes Maybe

26:52

we'll work on writing. Yeah. So

26:56

yeah so i think what it's going to be are have

26:58

a question of the week Question

27:00

should be like have you ever been

27:03

either discriminated against

27:05

or you know what what are the

27:07

things you've been told as a child-free

27:09

person That wasn't true

27:12

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