How to change your own attitudes to failure and success, and how failure relates to regret. This and the following episode offer more in-depth suggestions for how to put insights about failure into practice. Our contributors describe personal attitudes that may be helpful, like looking your failures right in the eye, or constructively doubting yourself, or adopting a distanced or curious stance on your own experiences, or acknowledging the importance of pretence and performance, or working out what is worth caring about. We explore the overlaps and the differences between failure and regret.