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Welcome to the Paradise . New

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Podcast .

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In the professional development space , we talk a lot

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about habits , about how do we acquire those

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behaviors that we can regularly

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follow with ease , but we have one month

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left of 2023 . The easiest

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place to see where your habits are

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, if you feel like you don't understand your habits

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, is to simply look back and

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say , okay , well , what habits

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have I created in the last 11

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months for myself , with my money , with my

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exercise or fitness , with my relationships

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, right Even career ? This is a big

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one . What sort of habits have formed

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in our career or our business ? What

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kind of habits have you created around your weight , your health

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, self-talk , thoughts , even hiding

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? This is a big one for women . What kind of habits

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have you created around hiding or speaking up for

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yourself , or boundaries or people

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pleasing different sides of the spectrum ? And

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so I feel like that is a really great place for people

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to start is to say I don't even maybe

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understand my habits because they are on autopilot

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. Cool , take a pause . Look back

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on the 11 months , look at your life , look

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at your environment and see what's around

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, and then simply recognize that's

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just a habit pattern . And

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then I would like to invite people to consider

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what is the number one habit you could create

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for yourself to bring you the biggest

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impact in your life or business in 2024

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. Because creating that habit actually

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starts now , not on January 1st but

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now You're listening to the Paradigm you Podcast

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You're about to start transforming your life by growing

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development , marriage and money . You , my

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friend , are in the right place . I'm glad

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you're here .

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All right , well , welcome to the Paradigm

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you Podcast . This is a really

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exciting week . I'm so excited because we

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are wrapping up the series on

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harnessing the power of your subconscious

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, and what better topic

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to wrap it up than your habits

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? My friends , let me just be clear

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your habits define

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your environment . Your

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environment , your current life , is a reflection

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of the habits that you do or do

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not have present in your

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life . So if you're wanting to change

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something , changing your habits is

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going to be the key . So today

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, lisa and I are going to talk to

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you about our current experiences

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with habits . We're going to do it in

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a little bit of a more unique way

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. So , lisa , you ready ? We're going to

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do a little bit more of a raw recording

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this week and we're going to just

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talk . We're going to talk about our

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habits , what has supported

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us , what needs to be recalibrated

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and where to go from here

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. All right , lisa , what do you think ?

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Like this is what's been on my heart , because I'm like

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what kind of habits have I been witnessing

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for myself the last 11 months , especially

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with our partnership right , and what kind

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of ripple effect does that have in my life

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? And then , what habits have

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formed out of that which you

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know , habits only have the meaning that we give it and

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that's maybe a topic for another day . But , yeah

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, what's come out of it for you ? When you

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reflect so much greatness , I mean growth

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, and it's interesting to when

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you really do get pushed outside your comfort zone

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, you start to see all the old

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habits come up and how

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some still serve you and

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some definitely don't and just need

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to go away . But having the awareness

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and the ability to say these old

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habits serve me to now , but

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if I continue them , I am

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going to continue to have the same outcome

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that I've always had and

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that's going to be for me in business , that meant burnout

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. I'm going to radically burnout

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. I'm going to burn down

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my business . I'm going to burn

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through relationships . I'm going to not

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be present with my family and have distance

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there with my kids , and I don't

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want any of that now . And

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so what does that look like ? No-transcript

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how , what , what new habit needs to form

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to get the biggest return ? The one habit

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, the singular focus , the mono task

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that I can concentrate on . What is

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it ? It's ? It's something around organization

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and how to roll things out . I'm typically

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one to sprint and so like

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let's have this huge goal and let's sprint towards

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it , versus all right , let's , let's

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continue to like , keep

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building the programs and

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our clients and our followers , while

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also building the strong

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foundation for the business . You know , I usually

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build the program and the followers

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and then try to like catch up with the other

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stuff , and that is a way to

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launch a business , no doubt , but

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I've just done it that way so often that

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it just doesn't stick long term

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for me , because at some point you're

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so busy you just don't have time

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to catch up to the other foundational things

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, and so it just kind of drives me crazy

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.

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How about you ? Everything you just said is

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so applicable to so many people

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. That's why the majority of

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businesses fail in the first five years . Yeah

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, everything you just said is

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the reason that

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most people who get into business

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can't get it off the ground far enough

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to create sustainability .

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You know there's this concept in

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business I know you've heard a million times which

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is you know , build the ship once

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you launch or build the airplane as

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you're flying . There's some truth to that

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, but I've just learned that I can't

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always do that right . There are certain

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elements of the business that you can't

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constantly be doing that with . You

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know there's things behind the scenes

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that really need to be in place

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. It doesn't mean you can't change the tech platforms

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or evolve those things as you grow . It

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just means just pause a

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hot second . I'm not even talking about a fancy

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website or any of that

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that you don't need

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when you first launch , especially as a coach

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or a consultant , but what you

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do need . I think it's important

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, especially for me now at this phase

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, to just say let me learn from

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my past Again . Those

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habits taught me what happens , and

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so now I can build different and new

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habits to create a different result

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I appreciate you . This is so good and

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this is so applicable to so many

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entrepreneurs and for

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women in particular . They don't spend

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a whole lot of time looking back and reflecting

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. It's constantly the looking forward

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, and that's actually not just women

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in particular , I think everybody . But

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I think women have this like

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I got to keep going . I got to keep going , I got to

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look at what's next instead of pausing

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and celebrating . So when you just said

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, I know what

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my patterns are , I can see the

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path that I've been on and now

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I can see how to tweak and adjust it to

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get that maximum efficiency

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, that's just exciting

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.

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It is , and it's a fun space to go . Okay

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, I'm capable and willing to

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do this differently and

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to enjoy that process . I think

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so often we can make that work

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drudgery like , oh

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, I'm trying to be someone , I'm not or I don't

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know . We make up all these crazy stories that keep

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us in our little box and to keep us hiding

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, and none of it's true

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, it's just a habit . It's just what

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do you want ? And sometimes you can't see those

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patterns because you're too in it and

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you don't have people around you . And so that's why

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I've been grateful for the women in elevate

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when they speak up and ask questions and they're willing

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to see something different

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and willing to do something different

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. You know , sometimes you just need

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that partner . Like

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you apes , I need you . You're

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always pointing the way , oh

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gosh .

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Well , it's interesting that you say that , because

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I feel like , as we're growing our

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business , I'm not pausing long

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enough to look back . So this conversation

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is just such a good reminder to just say

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okay , let's look at where

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we've been , what we've done , what's

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worked and what hasn't , and what

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we want differently this time , because we

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get to choose .

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It's a great time of year for it . If

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all we're doing at this phase of the year

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is reflecting back to recognize patterns

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and identify what we want , moving forward , especially

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as business owners , but equally as human

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beings , moving forward into 2024

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, you're winning . This isn't a

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time of year to be launching

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a million new things and running yourself

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ragged . This is a time especially

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we're here in the Midwest , where it's cold . This

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is a hibernating time , a time to go

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inside and be reflective . It's

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a powerful time and it's one

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that , if you use it well and

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if you are able to really hone the

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ability of habits , especially

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with subconscious reprogramming , as we've been

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talking about all month , 2024

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is going to be a phenomenal year .

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I really liked what you said about looking

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back . This is the time to pause

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and be reflective and turn

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inward . You're absolutely right with seasonality

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. We're all

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. I mean that's what plants are doing right now . They're

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going inward , they're like regrouping

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and just

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taking a pause to just let

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it all kind of wash through you

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so that you can actually start

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next year .

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well , but going back to your analogy

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about the plants . I was thinking

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about that the other day and I thought the trees

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without leaves they're not there judging

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themselves right now , this time of year . They're

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just like . I'm just doing my thing , I'm

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in my natural cycle , I

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will come back in spring , and

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so I think the ability

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as humans and business owners and

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women to release the judgment

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oof what

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if we just looked back at everything and looked

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at our habits in 2023 and it

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was simply data . It just

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showed us what we were

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doing or not doing . That's it . That's

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it . That's all it is , and then we can just choose

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how to tweak the data For

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some that might feel right . No judgment

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, and for some that might feel impersonal . For

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me that just takes the judgment and shame

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around it . That's so many people feel .

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And I'm guessing a lot of people are

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myself included . When you're

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in more group settings

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, which

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I know , I feel like I'm more

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exposed to different groups and different people

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this time of year , and then it

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I wouldn't even say it's a judgment

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. It's more of a comparison

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. Yeah , like

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oh , which then leads to judgment right

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, right , you're

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like , oh , okay , well , they're doing this , well

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have , why am I not doing that ? Yes

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, what am I doing wrong ? Yes

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, so you know what

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you want and you've identified

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where you're being met with resistance . Now

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it's time to start applying those

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habits , or releasing the habits , so

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that you can move forward into what you want and

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recalibrate .

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Is it specifically the habit of subconscious

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reprogramming , or what , what ? What

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specific tool ?

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I love that , but that wasn't where I was going . Okay

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, it was more of how do we

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tie this topic of habits into

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the series that we named subconscious

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reprogramming .

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I mean , I think I think calling that out like this

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is this this whole series has led to this

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moment . If you want 2024 to be

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different , based on looking back

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at your 2023 , then

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the one habit so

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right , like okay . So I'm asking

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, I'm asking our listeners hey , consider

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what the number one habit is that you could create

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for yourself to bring you the biggest

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impact next year in

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your life or your business , whatever you're

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focusing on and the spoiler

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here , listeners , is that it's

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subconscious reprogramming . That

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is the number one habit , right there

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. So lean into that

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, figure out where and how and

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when you're going to do that and

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stick with us , because this is what elevate

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our program is all about . We're running two

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of them again in the new year , so

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this is where the number one

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habit comes into play .

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On that note , cheers to Good

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Karma . It's closing time .

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Thank you for listening to this entire

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podcast . I hope this episode

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has left you feeling curious and

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inspired . This podcast is intended

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to create expansion in your life

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through unique stories and shared experiences

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, and if you enjoy today's episode

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family . I bet they'd enjoy it just

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, please share this on your social media

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outlets . That is Good Karma in

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action . My friends , alright , it

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is now closing time . Cheers to

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Good Karma and the power to

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choose joy . If

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you like this , tell your friends

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