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Welcome to the Paradigm you

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podcast .

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You're listening to the Paradigm you podcast

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. On today's episode we have a short

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but powerful episode that packs

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a punch . If you've ever felt

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the FOMO fear of missing

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out , you want to listen to this episode because

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we take that concept and flip it on

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its head . Enjoy .

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You're listening to the Paradigm you podcast

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. You're about to start transforming your life by

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growing your mind and expanding your paradigms

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. Here we'll cover real life topics

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, just like the stuff you'd share with a good friend . This

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podcast will serve up topics that weigh on

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our hearts and keep us up at night , whether it's

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navigating parenthood and becoming an adult , or

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wayfinding , personal development , marriage and

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money . You , my friend , are in the right place

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. I'm glad you're here .

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All right , it is a new week . Happy

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Wednesday . Welcome to the Paradigm you podcast

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. My name is April Marluski-Hydzinski

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and I am here with the

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incredibly brilliant Lisa

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Sarnowski . How's it going , lisa ?

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Hello , I'm great . How are you doing

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? Brilliant , that's so kind of you , right

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back at you .

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Oh man , you didn't know we were going to be fluffing

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each other on this episode . Oh

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, that's all we're going to do back and forth .

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How many compliments can I give you ?

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Well , hey , you know what ? This episode is

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a really exciting topic for me because

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it's had such a profound

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impact on my life and , I'm

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guessing , yours as well . And you

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know , as I'd say

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, just people who believe in good karma when

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we've learned about these things , we want to pass them

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on to our listeners . So , yeah

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, welcome to the episode called

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Jo Mo . Jo Mo , woohoo

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, lisa loves

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this . What's Jo Mo ?

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Joy of missing out

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, man , when you told

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me that my whole body

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seemed to have this humongous

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, amazing party . Like

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what ? This is a thing I can actually

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celebrate . Missing out on things , Love

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it .

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Yeah . So I'm sure all

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of our listeners , I'm sure you've heard of

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this concept of FOMO , right

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, we see memes about it , we

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hear people talking about it I

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mean you hear it everywhere . You're having

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FOMO , which is fear of missing

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out . But the

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opposite of that could

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actually be true and if you think about FOMO

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, it really does have

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this negative energy associated

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.

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It's so heavy .

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It is , there's comparison

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, there's judgment , there's

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maybe even some shame or guilt

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that you're having because you're missing

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something that you think is

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something you should be participating

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in doing , showing up that

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way . But this concept of

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Jo Mo is a little

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bit different . It takes the idea

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of FOMO and it flips it on its head

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, and it's actually something that

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we want to educate you on and invite

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you to consider applying in your own life . I

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love it and what

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have you ?

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how have you been using it ? April ?

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Thank you for asking . So

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, jo Mo , I really do

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feel like it's the joy of missing out

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. You know , I had a good friend years ago

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tell me , if it's not a hell , yes

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, it's a hell , no . And

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I've applied that in so many ways

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. But even when I'd asked myself

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and get cleared to myself , okay , is this something

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that's important to me ? I'd

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still have those feelings of like , oh

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man , am I the weird one

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? Am I like the strange one that doesn't

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want to participate in XYZ or

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do XYZ or look

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a certain way . But when I started

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applying the idea of Jomo , the joy

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of missing out I realized

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how important it is to

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love up on yourself and

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to show yourself the self trust

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of knowing what's going

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to serve you best , not anyone

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else . And when I started asking

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myself that it really

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did allow me to lean into this

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joy of celebrating who I

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am and not necessarily living

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for other people , living for social media

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posts or any kind of attention

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, right , yes

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, it really did start

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asking me or encouraging me to ask

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myself okay , what

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is going to serve me

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and my family best ? And

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then how can I just celebrate that

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, even if it is missing out on things ? And

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we've even started applying this in our home

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and talking to our kids about it . You

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know we've talked on episodes previously

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about parenting and overachievement

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and over committing

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, and we really do invite

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our children and we ask them okay

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, if you're going to say yes to this , what

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are we saying no to ? And so now

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when we offer up opportunities to our kids

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my oldest is great at that she says

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if I say yes to this , what do I have to say no

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to ? And what we've

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started doing is we've

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been role modeling and inviting

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our children to celebrate saying

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no to things and recognizing

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when something doesn't motivate

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them or light them up and they don't want to participate

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, just to participate , because then they

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can show up fully to the things that

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they're really excited about and celebrate

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, creating space and opportunity for other

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people to lean into what they want

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to do , because if everybody does

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everything , that doesn't make anybody unique

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either .

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Yeah Well , and it's a good recipe

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for burning out , right ? If our motivation

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is to just keep up with everybody else , first

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of all , that's impossible , and so

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we can intellectualize that and go yes , I

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know that's impossible , and yet look at

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that family and what amazing experience they

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had with their kids , or look at that business

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and how amazing they did at that

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particular event or whatever it is , and

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it's okay to just pause

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and get mindful and really present

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. I feel like it's a different way of saying being present

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and learning how to just live

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inside your vision of success , inside

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your values . You know

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, we took a weekend recently where

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it was rainy all weekend and we had

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a lot of different ideas of what we were going to do . Outside

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, it's fall over here in Wisconsin

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, it's beautiful , and

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so hikes we didn't want to hike in that kind of weather

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or go kayaking or anything , and so

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instead of going somewhere and

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crafting some crazy experience inside

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a museum or you know these amazing

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things we have access to living in a city we

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said what if we just stayed home and baked , thank

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you . And what if we just cuddled on the couch

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and , like , had a nice little cup of tea ? My kids

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are tea drinkers . April . It's

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like it's amazing and

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that's what we did , and it was

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just so rewarding to

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have the joy of their

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presence and for them to

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fully experience the joy of ours

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.

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There you go , you're applying it . Joy

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yes , it really is

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the joy of missing out , and I think

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it's all driven by our values

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. When we have clarity on

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what's important to us , then

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we can actually say , yeah , this is a

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hell yes , or this is a no . I

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don't want to participate in this . Yeah , because

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we know we've already established those boundaries

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, we understand where we're headed in life

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and what we want to create , and so

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then it really does make life a little

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bit easier .

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It's so much easier when you feel like you're not missing

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out on anything , when you can really get in that

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mindset and I think , with

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access to so many things , with visual

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access to so many things , of what's possible

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with our global world and economy

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and just how everything really is accessible

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. For for most

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it , it's almost challenging

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to figure out where to cut . You

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know where it can feel almost

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stifling to say , well , what if I don't expand

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my mind and travel over to Europe

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every year ? What if I don't ? And it's

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like just be happy , what if we

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just focus there ? What if we got a pumpkin

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and we carved it together and just had

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a great time and a good laugh , right , like

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it doesn't have to be so hard

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? But the achievement culture

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as well within parenting today and

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for our kids , I think

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that equally embeds here is

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we have this interesting competitive spirit

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, is being a human , just this desire to

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do more , always more , more , more

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, better , better , better . And it's okay to

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tap into that and say , what if more

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and better is actually doing less and

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just doing less better ? So that's really

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when you said , joe mo , I just my whole like

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. I said my whole body was like I just wanted to

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have a dance party Like , yes

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, I just want to do this more , and

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because of that topic .

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We also have decided to keep this

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episode really short , super

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short , because one we

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wanted to introduce this concept in this topic

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to you . But we also want to respect

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your time and recognize that

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you know what we want to carve out additional

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time for you to just enjoy

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. Enjoy , joe

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mo , my friends . Joe mo

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, go enjoy your day . Go enjoy

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your day and enjoy , missing out

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on all of the things that no longer

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or don't serve you . Amen

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, yeah , and that note it is closing

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time . Go and have a great week . Cheers

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, good karma

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. There you go . We did it together

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.

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Thank you for listening to this entire

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podcast . I hope this episode

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has left you feeling curious and

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inspired . This podcast is intended

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to create expansion in your life

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through unique stories and shared experiences

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, and if you enjoy today's episode

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, I have a request . I'd like to ask you

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to share this podcast with your friends and

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family . I bet they'd enjoy it just

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as much as you have . And , if you found value

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, please share this on your social media

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outlets . That is good karma

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in action , my friends . All right , it

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is now closing time . Cheers to

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good karma and the power to

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choose joy . If

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you like this , tell your friends

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, stay tuned

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for the end , because we have outtakes .

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And now for the outtakes

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. And now for the outtakes

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hold on .

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I'm totally using this as outtake . Go for it

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.

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Oh , that was fun . I got tongue tied . Hey , you've

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been listening .

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Test one , two , three four

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.

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Okay , now say hey , welcome

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to the podcast . Hey , welcome

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to the podcast . Oh wait

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, we can do it better . Hold on a second . Okay

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on the count of three . One , two

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, three cheers , cheers to good

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karma . We

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did it . We have to work on our

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counting , but , on that note , go

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out and make it a great day .

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You're really great .

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Everyone , everyone that's listening

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to this podcast , even if they don't even hear

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the rest , even if they only can listen

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to a part of it because of a

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screaming baby . You're all really

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awesome .

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Yeah , thanks for listening , bye bye , bye

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, over and out .

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Thanks for listening .