I want to share a couple of questions with you today that are going to help you reframe your thinking when your child is being aggressive, rude, disrespectful, destructive, or willfully defiant.

Because the minute you peg their behavior as negative, you start looking for ways to shut it down and two things can happen: they either escalate and the situation gets worse before it gets better, or they shut down and close off a part of themselves. Either way, it is actively disconnecting you from your child.

But sometimes these moments are so triggering, right?

The first step, always, is to start to notice when you're getting triggered and take a step back to regulate yourself. If you're skipping this part, this is your work.

But when you're able to do this and you can recognize that you're getting triggered because it seems like they're doing it ON PURPOSE, these questions are going to help guide you to your next right step.

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