The term "trauma bonding" was originally coined by Patrick Carnes, who was a proponent of the concept of sex addiction. He originally developed the term to describe "the misuse of fear, excitement, sexual feelings, and sexual physiology to entangle another person." A simpler and more encompassing definition is that traumatic bonding is: "a strong emotional attachment between an abused person and his or her abuser, formed as a result of the cycle of violence."
Problematically, the term is often misapplied to survivors rather than focusing on perpetrators and their choices and tactics. In this episode Ruth and David discuss 4 ways the concept works against survivors:
David and Ruth also explore the connections between the concept of trauma bonding and Stockholm Syndrome, co-dependency and learned helplessness. They also examine the differential impact of this term on poor and indigenous women, women of color, and trans survivors.
Toward the end of the show David and Ruth talk about how the Safe & Together Institute's approach offers professionals alternative approaches to working with survivors including:
Listen to other related episodes:
Episode 2: Victim blaming
Episode 3: Language and professional terms which cover up realities of abuse
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