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This is Burke in the Game and I heard radio

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podcast. Hey

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guys, welcome back to Burke in the Game. So

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totally changing it up, We're going to bring back

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Patti Stanger. I have her right now waiting

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for me in the waiting room, you know, Patty

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Stinger. She is um the CEO

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and matchmaker of Millionaires Club one to

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three dot com and I am ready to date.

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Let's just cut the bs. I

0:29

need to get out there because I haven't been on

0:31

one date since I've been separated,

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divorced, whatever, So um, I think

0:36

it's time, definitely time to at least

0:38

sex to somebody, right Patty?

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Yeah? Sure, Hi?

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How are you good? How are you good?

0:46

Do you look pretty? Thank you? So? Do you?

0:49

Thanks? How does it feel not work

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in the answer with the story? You know, it's

0:53

still I guess hasn't really. I

0:55

mean, it's hit me in so many different ways because I just

0:57

realized who I haven't been able to grieve my competition

1:00

in life prior to Dancing with the Stars. So

1:02

it's been like Dancing with the Stars was a great

1:04

rebound, you know, but um,

1:07

there hasn't been a moment for me to really digest

1:10

it all for the past. God knows,

1:12

since I was eleven years old. But

1:14

isn't that it's ordinary Because like I remember,

1:16

when you know, I walked away from

1:18

Bravo and building your match Winger, I was like, now what

1:21

I felt like like such a part of my identity.

1:23

Yeah,

1:26

new projects will come up, but more importantly,

1:28

you can spend time focusing

1:30

on your love life and healing yourself. You can't

1:32

really do it when you're working, you're

1:34

touring everything. You're trying to focus on

1:37

the career and get the job done right and your

1:40

second especially when you're

1:42

teaching a partner how to dance totally.

1:44

And also I've realized too that everybody

1:46

I know, um here in Los Angeles

1:48

at least it's because of Dancing with the Stars.

1:50

So when you talk about your identity,

1:53

um, yeah, it's been my identity

1:55

and more it's been who I who I was.

1:57

So I feel a little lost to be quiet honest

2:00

now, Um, but I know it's the right decision,

2:02

even though it was the hardest decision of my life. But

2:05

you know, I also know moving forward, what

2:07

I've learned to is not to define

2:09

myself by my career because that's

2:12

not even that has nothing to do, but it's not going

2:14

to keep you warm at night. And it's also I'm not

2:16

consistent right And I

2:18

also think, um, you can't even define

2:20

yourself by your relations yourself

2:22

by you how do you feel? Uh,

2:25

what do you feel? What? What? What's in it for you?

2:28

What? Instead of like you know, we we as women

2:30

were taught to please at a very early

2:32

age. More than you know,

2:34

we're the givers. Basically we're the nurturers

2:37

and we need to be nurtured too. And

2:41

I don't realize that it's not just about money

2:43

and taking me out and going to fancy

2:45

places. It's about are you there when you

2:47

know you're going through this. If you had a lover

2:50

or um a husband, you'd

2:52

want him to catch you. You know, I'm

2:55

trying to regroup, reboot, and where

2:57

are you right now? So now you get were young you

3:00

you got to go right now? I

3:02

hear you. And also I guess I haven't even really

3:05

started the morning process as well of

3:07

my divorce that was official on the premier

3:10

date of the Dancing One Stars, which was in September

3:13

nineteen. So I also compare this to

3:15

the worst divorce um with Dancing on the Stars,

3:17

except it was definitely more amicable.

3:20

UM. But it really

3:23

this one hurt more for me than

3:25

my actual divorce with my ex husband, which

3:28

is UM. It shows me that

3:30

I definitely need to go within

3:32

and and continue to do you know, t

3:34

M transitental meditation, continue to work

3:37

on me. UM. But now

3:39

that I'm really trying to find

3:41

who that is at this moment. But I

3:44

do know that I have so much more self respect

3:46

and love for myself for the fact that of just

3:49

pulling the trigger, because UM, this has

3:51

been a long time coming for me as far as leaving

3:53

the show, and I'm as

3:55

a form as I done TEM for

3:58

eight years now, I'm at the third

4:00

level. It has saved my life. We had

4:02

had I had a lot of anxiety this week.

4:04

I don't know if it's world with anxiety, with the recession,

4:07

and it just felt like in a crescendo,

4:10

it was TM that just you

4:13

know, and you know, I gotta get

4:15

that second one in. I'm always like first

4:17

one part of got

4:20

to meditate towards the day for twenty minutes for those who don't

4:22

know, and it's you know, it's a practice,

4:24

it's a discipline. You know, it's just about

4:26

getting your ass in the chair exactly.

4:30

So I have not dated. So since

4:32

I've seen you last, obviously a lot has changed. I'm

4:35

officially divorced. I have officially

4:37

left show that I've been a part of for

4:39

the yes

4:42

to two big ones. A lot of

4:44

changes happening. And then also

4:46

just personally, it's like I've realized that

4:49

you know, my my friendships

4:52

um because of my sobriety as well

4:54

has changed so much, which was also

4:56

a part of my definition of I

4:58

remember we spent drinking. I could never

5:01

keep up with you and Jenny McCarthy, this little Jewish

5:03

girl, and I don't know about you with Jenny,

5:05

with her Irish, you would put the emergency in

5:07

between us and change drink it. But

5:10

I'm sober, um, not because

5:13

I have a problem. I have major

5:15

major headaches, cluster headaches, and it's triggered

5:18

right. So when the doctor says,

5:20

do you want to be sick in the hospital or you know,

5:22

give it up? It was rough, but

5:25

I feel so much better. So

5:27

I am so proud of you

5:30

because I know it's a journey to health

5:32

and to yourself. Yeah, and again it just

5:34

goes back to the self respect and self love, and

5:36

I don't. And I guess my first question

5:38

to you is do

5:41

you have to be like I don't think I'll ever say

5:43

okay, I'm on healed time

5:45

to date? I um, is there

5:47

a way to do both? Like continue

5:50

the journey you will always be discovering

5:52

asking. Look, I'm in a relationship right now

5:54

seven months. Every so

5:57

often I pull away, then he pulls

5:59

away, and then we have to play this dance of reconnection.

6:01

We hit this amazing date two weeks ago to see

6:03

Elton John and then like last week and

6:06

it was kind of like, you know, because the

6:08

family ship was coming up, and now

6:10

he's got work on his brain, he's trying

6:12

to close the year out, and I'm like downtime

6:15

and I want to play. And sometimes

6:17

you're not in safe with your partner. And

6:19

my my assistant said, you know, last

6:21

night, I went to sleep early, he stayed

6:23

up. You're not in safe this week, And

6:26

I said, this happens. I deal with my class

6:28

all the time, like, you're not always going to be

6:31

in the I'm done, I'm healed.

6:33

It's any otherwise you'd be dead. That's why

6:35

that's why you're here. Um. The Maharashi

6:38

talks about that and t M. He says

6:40

that it's a discovery to yourself, a journey

6:42

back to yourself to clean out your karma

6:44

with others. So the karma is

6:46

cleaned with dancing with the chars. You're

6:49

gonna make new friends, new

6:51

confidence, new lovers, new

6:53

new new besties. They're gonna

6:55

have a whole new world. That doesn't mean they're going

6:57

away. That just means the layers of the

7:00

I mean you're gonna undone. Yeah. And I

7:02

think also, um, to

7:04

say I don't have expectations would be a lie. Obviously,

7:06

I'm no Yogi, but the expectations

7:09

I do have are at least or

7:11

more like boundaries. Um

7:14

is a lot, I guess, more defined

7:16

in my life than ever before. You know, Listen,

7:19

I was gasolate on the last relationship. Seriously,

7:22

gaslet me the matchmaker. He lived

7:25

at a distance so I couldn't check on him. You

7:27

were gaslight. So when you get gas

7:29

lit woman, male, gay, straight

7:31

guy, it doesn't matter your guards up.

7:34

You know, that's not a bad thing. That's

7:36

not my mentor. Dr Pat Allen used to

7:38

say, it's okay to be like that because

7:40

you're gonna be wiser this time and

7:43

you're not going to give your hearts so quick, you know, you

7:45

know when we were in our twenties, we give our heart away like oh yeah

7:47

here, jump into my coach into

7:49

seconds after keep like you know

7:51

we do that, and you're gonna be like,

7:53

whoa, yeah, what's in it for me?

7:56

What do you want? Are you who you say?

7:58

Or do you live where you say? Do you make money?

8:01

Do you drive this? Do you have kids? Like,

8:03

you're not gonna want any stone on China, and

8:05

that is what it's Plus you're doing it with a sober brain.

8:08

Right, I'm way too clear. You'd

8:10

be really you'd

8:12

be so proud of me. This season, there was a little flirtation

8:14

going on with I'm not going to name the name, um

8:17

and uh, definitely I've

8:20

noticed because this was the first

8:22

like flirty in person

8:24

at least UM thing happening

8:26

since my divorce. And

8:30

I am normally attracted to those types

8:32

of men, which are kind of like one

8:34

ft in one foot out. Um,

8:36

I would say, right right,

8:39

because I'm also a competitor, so this is my

8:41

nature and I'm

8:43

tourist rising Scorpio. You're stubborn,

8:46

Okay, you want what you want and

8:48

I don't what I want kidding,

8:51

not always clearly, um, but you

8:53

know, with this guy, he was like, okay, um,

8:55

I can't wait to take you out blah blah blah and

8:58

crickets right. So I ran

9:00

into him again at the finale and it was interesting

9:02

how I normally this would be like

9:05

my fire right,

9:07

this would be like my dosha. We should

9:09

be go and get them and try, and like,

9:12

you know, just this is the challenge that I love.

9:14

And I just let it be. I just said,

9:17

so be it. You. You know, if

9:19

you know how to get a hold of me, you know where

9:21

I am. And there was just nothing.

9:23

And normally I would have been so heartbroken because

9:26

I would have made up this crazy reality in my

9:28

head. But I just let it go and I was

9:30

really proud of myself. The story

9:32

we tell ourselves a story. But here's the thing. Rejection

9:35

is God's protection. So the universe said,

9:37

she's really grown, she's evolved, she's

9:39

sober, she quit her job to

9:42

go on to do other things. She let

9:44

the divorce come. You were very beautiful

9:46

during the divorce. A lot of people are not. You're

9:48

gracious, And the univer said, okay,

9:51

we're not going to give her another douche bag, tester,

9:54

tester. But if

9:56

she rejects it, not mistake

9:59

and not And everybody goes through

10:01

that. I mean, we all have a type that we're

10:03

like, Oh, you know mine was always

10:06

surfers. You know, I was obsessed with interesting.

10:09

Yeah. I loved everything blue crushy. You know. I was one

10:11

of those those girls, even though I didn't

10:13

surf. And it was a great start. I

10:16

would just got back from Manhattan beat. You would have loved

10:18

it there then that I did

10:20

everyone in that town. Uh.

10:23

And you know, just as

10:26

I was getting into relationship, a little surfer

10:28

dude popped in. You know. He had a little bit more money than

10:30

normal surfers. And I was like, where it is and

10:32

he had a lot of women chasing him and he

10:35

enamored with my mind, and he

10:38

texted me and played with me, and I was

10:40

just like, I have no time. I told him off.

10:42

I basically said, look, I think you're a fun guy

10:44

to play with, but you are not the one and I

10:46

have no time. Good for you. Now I'm

10:48

in a relationship. He still Texas, Oh interesting

10:51

locked them because the truth is

10:53

you'll get tested, and once you

10:57

pass the test, the right guy will

10:59

have eventually show up because you're

11:02

not willing to settle. You're like, this

11:04

is my bar. What are seeks its own level? If

11:06

you're not coming here, I'm not coming

11:08

down here. Yeah. And

11:10

he reminded me a little bit of everyone

11:12

I used to be with because it was

11:15

always me being the initiator. And

11:17

I'm so oh my god, I

11:19

would slap you right now if I said,

11:21

okay, rule number one to get

11:24

into which you have a lot of masculinity,

11:26

even though you don't look masculine, you are definitely

11:29

out for the strong person that's going to get

11:31

it. I heard your voice the last time

11:33

you were here. I really soaked it all in and

11:35

I was like, I want to be wined

11:38

and dined. I'm still a woman. I

11:40

know that's okay. You can be worn to dine. I'm

11:42

fine with that. Just let him make the reservation total

11:44

you can allow him. Even in

11:46

relationships, you'll get to a point things

11:48

are smooth, everything is sailing, and boom, something

11:51

happens. The woman has to pull back.

11:53

Now, there's a reason why this is science. You gotta

11:55

have Dr John Gray on your show. Okay.

11:57

So Dr John Gray is like my favorite

11:59

person in issues because he explains it in

12:01

a scientific format. When a man

12:03

has sex, his testosterone

12:05

is going up as he's getting you. When he

12:08

ejaculates, it goes well and

12:10

he's now into estrogen. And the reverse is

12:12

to a woman because when you pull away, we get aggressive,

12:14

we're into our testosterone. So the secret

12:17

is let him go in this cave, pull

12:19

back, go get busy. Now, if you're

12:21

monogamous, you're not gonna go sleep with anyone else.

12:23

You're dating ones. But if you're not monogamous, you

12:27

with other people. And I want preface that you

12:29

are allowed to date if you're not monogamous.

12:31

But if you are monogamous, you get busy with

12:33

your other things in your life and let

12:36

him feel the testosterone

12:38

go back up. When it goes back up, he even says,

12:40

don't have sex for at least a week.

12:43

Once a week the best text.

12:45

You will have the heightened sex, the the

12:48

alchemy will come together in the

12:50

condelini and you'll raise the serpent chakra

12:52

and you will be more in love, not

12:54

just physically but emotionally when

12:57

you wait. But some people over fifty

12:59

have to wait ten it's not one week. But when

13:01

you meet someone high nice with you, you wait only a

13:03

week. No, what it's saying is,

13:06

once you've had sex that

13:08

have keep having it today

13:11

you would wait a week because he wants

13:13

the emotion and the physical to

13:15

be in balanced, and he wants the man to hunt

13:17

the woman. And if the man feels

13:20

too much estrogen, especially as he gets over the

13:22

past fifty and he doesn't take totosterone

13:24

shots or creams to get him imbalanced,

13:27

he's going to want to be the woman.

13:29

And this is where they the men become

13:31

the men, the women okay, sorry, the women

13:34

become the men and the men become the women. And

13:36

then everybody's going like this. No one's

13:38

connected. They feel emasculated and criticizing

13:42

and nitpicking you and everything. It has nothing to

13:44

do with money, It has nothing to do with

13:46

status. It has to do with the

13:49

way they feel inside their confidence.

13:51

They have to leave them alone to bring back their

13:53

confidence to pursue you. Again. It's a

13:55

freaking game and it goes on until you die.

13:57

So something that's going to go away tomorrow. The

14:00

problem is we don't see that we're like

14:02

women are equal to ment there really is that

14:04

what you're doing in your relationship every once a week,

14:07

Well, I had a little pullback this week, even though he came

14:09

over the last night and told me he loved me. But I felt energetically

14:11

was a little bit of a pulledicsh. So I just pulled back and then

14:13

he comes pulled back like that entail

14:16

an energetic pullback, which means you

14:18

wouldn't text him, you wouldn't call him, you'd let

14:20

him like, he's really busy today. My boyfriend,

14:23

he's got a huge work day. I gotta get up at six

14:25

this morning on the roadway seven. So

14:27

he runs a medical company that his family

14:29

owned, and so he was like, I have a really

14:31

bad day tomorrow. And I'm like, that's the time not

14:33

to call him lists an emergency. You have to

14:36

read subtext now. When I was

14:38

shooting, my ex was

14:40

really in a bad place. He lost his job in the

14:42

mortgage banking business. And when I was shooting

14:45

Millier Match Baker, I was sixteen hour days.

14:47

There was woman to pe you know what it's

14:49

like on set, and so he went

14:52

whiney. He became a girl. I

14:54

became the man, and then I go, I don't

14:56

like feeling like a man. Oh

14:58

I stopped it, and then I broke up, and

15:01

then I reevaluated, the pandemic came around,

15:03

and then I basically said, in order to get

15:05

a masculine alpha man, I have to get back

15:07

in my feminine which is what this is a gift

15:10

to you right now. You were now going to have

15:12

the chance to be feminine for the first

15:14

time in a hundred years. You never had

15:16

that chance because once the job

15:18

goes away and your competitive side

15:20

goes away, you have to go returns back

15:23

to your heart center. I mean, is it ever

15:25

going to go away? It will

15:27

never go away in business, it

15:30

never go Like there's times we went to the airport

15:32

on a family trip and he got

15:34

it online. He bought the tickets and the seats

15:36

weren't together, even though they said it was online. So you

15:39

to go the front. I was like, and the girl recognized

15:41

me, and I was gonna pull up high. I'll sign

15:43

anything. Can you fix ticket? So it

15:45

was this airline that charged extra to move the ticket,

15:47

like a hundred bucks, and the girls like,

15:49

oh my god, I love you. I love you, and I'm

15:51

like, and then he goes sit over there and let

15:54

me handle it. I would have been

15:56

the person that goes, but han, I can

15:58

get it done. And so I it okay,

16:01

and he fixed it. But

16:03

it would have been if I had done it from the beginning

16:05

in order the tickets, there would have never been a problem. So

16:08

I'd allow them to make mistakes clean

16:11

up the mistakes while you do nothing, even

16:13

though that you're the smarter sex. Let's because

16:16

when you do try and fix it, which I have

16:18

done every single relationship, they do feel

16:20

emasculated, yes, and emasculation

16:23

is not going to come out like poudy

16:25

or miserable. It's gonna be there'll be nasty.

16:28

They can get out nasty when they when they feel a

16:30

maasket, they start like finding

16:32

fault finding and triggering this

16:35

anything on you right? Anybody

16:37

who's got a virgo boyfriend or

16:39

virgo you know that's my Eastern astrology sign.

16:41

I think the virgos are my

16:44

exes. Well virgos, I will never date it one again. They

16:46

are the most nippicky, critical, yet they are

16:48

the most fun and interesting and smart,

16:50

like canay right? And you

16:52

sit there and you go, I can't deal with this.

16:54

So what happens when men get emasculated

16:57

or feel less than they will go

17:00

for the jugulate? So

17:11

rewind, let's get there, let's actually

17:13

have these conversations in real time, like as

17:15

if I'm pretending I'm in a relationship, but instead

17:17

of the pretend, but instead of the pretend, let's

17:20

let's get me. I'm I've always

17:22

said, I've had done a million interviews

17:24

since I talked to you last, and everyone's like, why

17:26

don't you do a dating app? But I'm like, I'm not doing a dating

17:29

app, but I'm going to talk to So today

17:31

my my interview with my

17:33

interview with Mario Lopez on Access Hollywood.

17:35

We talk about you, and we talk about

17:37

how I refused to use a dating app.

17:40

Mario is trying to hook me up with one of his employees.

17:42

And then Mario is a good Mary's a

17:44

great Courtney and Mario are amazing.

17:47

I love them. I he did season three of Dancing the Star,

17:49

so I've known him since I moved here. Um, he's

17:51

a really great guy. He's he's amazing. But and

17:53

so I said, no, I'm going to be I'm gonna use

17:55

a matchmaking system like Patty Stingers.

17:58

And they're like, oh my god, we should have you do this

18:00

live here on Access and I said,

18:02

well, I'm most likely going to be doing out my podcast,

18:05

but I used to the match making game

18:07

with Access and I was said,

18:10

so they would put all the celebrities on the board. I'd be like,

18:12

oh, this is so stupid, and then I go Ashton

18:14

could me? You could just say, go what, she's

18:17

too young? She was on the sevent shows. I go this, who

18:19

canna get get married? Okay, same

18:23

for you. I guess let's talk about

18:25

this. So if you were to join my club like

18:28

today, like today with outsource,

18:31

if I didn't have anyone pre existing

18:33

right now, which I have to go back to my database because it

18:35

is the end of the year and everybody seems to get hooked up right

18:37

now, and I'm a boutique, I would tell my

18:40

other Matchmaker affiliate programs to pick you

18:42

up. I would get my

18:44

recruiters to go on a hunt, and we go into

18:46

the archives and well we can talk off

18:48

podcast. Why Well, I

18:50

mean, like, because I don't know what I have in my got

18:53

it? Got it to be continued the

18:55

computer, and I have to talk to my advice got

18:58

it. But I would say that your

19:01

search So if you're not gonna happen, you're

19:03

gonna use Matchmakers. It's the same. But

19:06

we all know the law of attraction manifestation

19:08

that both of us do. That the

19:11

key is to change your mindset. So I went on

19:13

a journey on the apps me because

19:15

I can't dat my clients for sexual harassment.

19:17

Oh god, that sucks. And it's a lot

19:20

of the match pickers picking up, but they were a long distance

19:22

and I had a bad, bad experience long distance,

19:24

so I was just now, it needs to be local. So

19:26

I went on Tinder and I went on Bumble, and Bumble had

19:28

a nice interface, but most of the guys were

19:30

out of towners, and um little

19:33

them for me because they want the women to hunt

19:35

them down. A lot of transmit

19:37

on Hinge. So I would recommend Hinge.

19:40

I'm not done it, but I'm just telling

19:42

you I would recommend Hinge because

19:44

it's heo located to your neighborhood. Okay.

19:47

Now on Tinder distance,

19:50

okay, but you don't know what

19:52

they're doing when you're that's true. And I have

19:54

had one in England and we're not going to

19:56

do that because that's not gonna get you married so quick,

19:58

okay, or in a relationship of love.

20:00

So what I found when I went on Tinder

20:03

is I saw that my boyfriend and

20:05

I'm not so sure because I wasn't sure

20:07

about dating online on this app,

20:09

because I thought it was a hook up app. I

20:12

finally went back to him. He had a business, he

20:15

was married, he had three grown children.

20:17

He had all the like stats I wanted. I went out

20:19

of them, and he pursued me hard. He

20:21

asked me in front of my best friend, would

20:24

I be his girlfriend? In front of my best friend

20:26

dad I was married or he was married.

20:31

So he was a really different kind of guy

20:33

than I'd seen in l Like he was born

20:35

and raised in the valley, but he lived um

20:38

in different place. And then on top of

20:40

it, he didn't have any Instagram or social

20:42

media. Now that was my

20:44

sister's dating somebody like that right now, like

20:46

a normal person. He had a huge family.

20:51

Yeah, he didn't want it. He has no time for it. He

20:53

runs the twenty million dollar medical business. Like he didn't

20:55

have time for this ship. What's interesting

20:58

about it was he pretty was

21:00

everything I wanted on my list. There are things that are

21:02

not right there, you know, But in

21:04

the end it worked out. We're

21:07

still only at we're almost a seven months. So

21:10

it was like he didn't know who I was.

21:13

Um, he found that later from

21:15

his family because he has four younger sisters. They

21:18

told him and he didn't care. He's like, so are you

21:20

shooting now? I don't know. And I had a lot of down

21:22

time to work on me, Like yesterday, I felt

21:24

kind of guilty that I wasn't as busy

21:27

as he was and work because we're you know, our industry

21:29

is closing right now, you know, the tramming

21:32

industry. And I said, you know, it's

21:34

funny, I said, I feel like a slacker

21:36

right now. And this year has been a little

21:38

bit of a slacker a year. I rely reinvented myself,

21:40

like you being hard on yourself.

21:43

Now, I have a company, but I don't run

21:45

it. Somebody else runs it. I've been producing

21:47

scripted TV. I'm

21:49

just slacking, Like

21:52

you know what I mean. When you're not going to say I'm not just busy

21:54

for no reason, yes, I mean that's not slacking,

21:57

Like I'm ready to get back on reality TV. Actually

22:00

miss it. So I felt a little

22:02

you know, I was rebooting and working on my social

22:04

media. I'm trying. We're looking for an assistant right

22:06

now on social media who would work

22:08

for us full time. We're really trying to change everything,

22:11

and I realized he's the

22:13

old me when I was working, working, working,

22:15

working, and then we fall asleep

22:17

on my boyfriend because I was so tired, and

22:20

I started to see myself and him and I felt

22:22

compassionate for him. Did you feel more feminine?

22:25

Yes, because I can't. I

22:27

don't like like I bought the ticket Stelton

22:29

John two weeks ago. Okay, but he's

22:32

taken me out, took me on trips, and I

22:34

like dealing with things every so often. And I cooked

22:36

dinner a lot. I'm a big cooked dinner. We cooked together

22:38

actually, so we were very home buddies. We

22:40

live for White Lotus and yellow Stone,

22:43

and we watched TV shows together. We're very

22:45

normal. We took

22:47

a lot of walks in the summer and I love that.

22:49

And I just saw your Instagram. You guys are so cute

22:51

together. Yeah. He just to wrot me tennis sneaker. So

22:54

we're gonna play tennis because it's big tennis person. But

22:56

the when I'm making it, I'm not using a dating

22:58

app. Still, Okay, what type

23:00

of person do you want? Because when I fixed up

23:02

a celebrity, the first thing they say to me

23:04

said, I want another celebrity and I'm like, no, I didn't

23:06

know. I want Andrew Huberman if he's I

23:09

know, if we talked what you said he had a girlfriend

23:11

still on him. I'm kidding, Um,

23:13

he's not married. He's

23:15

not married, but he has a girlfriend, right if I mean.

23:18

I did some extensive research Patty,

23:21

and it was so hard I had to watch. I

23:23

had to watch his interview with Joe Rogan and

23:25

it was like eighty minutes in. I

23:28

finally, as I was getting a massage, was

23:30

he he goes. You know, it was really

23:32

quick because like he's very private. I

23:36

hope he never hears this. This is like then I'll

23:38

lose all the chances. Remember I

23:40

told you, he damned me quickly. It was not like

23:42

anything if the girlfriends listening to worry.

23:46

But it really was just thanks

23:49

because I tuned into his live and then I forgot,

23:51

Like I didn't forget. I just didn't even think about it. But anyway,

23:53

he saw my blue check next to my name probably

23:55

and he was like he just said high and then I responded

23:58

and then I was like, wait a second, he did respond.

24:00

Remember I was telling you. I was like telling you in

24:02

like real time, and

24:05

um, he has a girlfriend, but he's very

24:07

private about it. I don't know. They're definitely

24:10

not Is he jewish? Is he

24:12

Jewish? Pretty sure he is.

24:14

I'm like, why hasn't he gotten to engage it after

24:16

a year? So I don't know. At least

24:18

I know he's not gay. Okay, So

24:21

this is what I would do. Nothing by

24:23

the way, but energetic frequency

24:25

stuff. For the first thing is you would

24:28

definitely use him as your barometer, so you would say

24:30

I want someone like him. I'd visualized

24:32

myself with some of him, because if it's not him, somebody

24:34

else will show up, you know, the rule of attraction. And

24:36

then on top of it, I do some of my

24:39

tool stuff. So the first thing I do is did I send you

24:41

the pragrance? Yes? Did

24:43

you use I've been using it. I use it

24:45

once in a while. Hey, it's a phair amount.

24:47

So it's supposed to track men to you, even in

24:49

my house, even in your

24:51

house, because you know what it'll do is it

24:53

sends a signal out to the universe. It's

24:56

something that's very electro magnetic,

24:58

and it's got a lot to do with the It gies

25:01

melling the opposite sex melling you. Yeah.

25:04

Second thing I would do is have

25:06

you made your list of everything you want a guy?

25:09

I have, yes, a long time. It's

25:11

kind of like a inventory.

25:14

And you don't have to call any excess or anything. You don't have

25:16

to say why did you hear anything like

25:18

that? Do you have to do that? But I would make

25:20

my list short and sweet, not too

25:23

long. I would I would put my non

25:25

negotiables at the top, mum,

25:28

and I would not dat anyone who doesn't have these

25:30

things on the list. And the reason

25:32

is is because if you want to get married and they don't, or

25:34

you want a christianas tree in the house and they don't, these

25:37

things will divide you eventually. You gotta

25:39

make stay on specific.

25:41

Let's do it right now. Okay, so what's

25:43

your non negotiables? Dogs? But I have to

25:46

have my dog with me and dog in in my

25:48

frenchie in the bed. You can't have anybody

25:50

who doesn't like that or is allergic

25:53

to dogs, right, I mean you take an allergy

25:55

pill. But yeah, okay, trustworthy,

26:00

very transparent, honest,

26:03

honest, yes, don't you where he is

26:05

at all times? Lets you you know if you want

26:07

to, you can absolutely.

26:09

Transparency is key. Accountability

26:12

is key. I want to know his schedule.

26:15

I want him to like I want him to be like man

26:17

enough to be like, you know what, I messed up, totally

26:20

messed up. You want kids? Um,

26:22

I don't you know, I don't know if I want to carry

26:25

one, but I don't mind. Like I was thinking of adopting

26:27

just a few months ago.

26:29

Maybe it's a maybe it's it's not like a

26:31

um, it's not an absolute like

26:34

non negotiable, but like I definitely would want

26:36

to maybe adopt, but I'm not going to carry

26:38

one. That is for sure not negotiable. Do you

26:40

care if he has kids? Uh? No, not

26:42

at all. Actually be a lot easier. Is there

26:44

anything religious that would separate

26:46

you? No? But I I mean

26:48

it's not like I mean, I was born Catholic, but I'm

26:51

more Buddhist than anything. So now okay,

26:54

UM, all right, so we've been Now

26:56

what about money? Yes, he

26:58

has to have um, he has to have his

27:00

own home, like he has to own he

27:02

have to make a year? What does he have to make a year?

27:05

You can give me the number. It's okay. The world wants to know

27:07

because they're going through the same thing. You're going through a million,

27:10

A year, a few million a year.

27:12

Okay, so he's pretty much a businessman.

27:15

I would he's, yes, or he's very successful

27:17

as a neuroscientist. Does

27:21

Andrew who will make two million dollars? I mean now you

27:23

would think he has a deal with Spotify?

27:25

Okay, yeah, okay, alright, so he makes

27:28

a few million a year. He's super successful.

27:30

He can be divorced, he can have kids. Yes,

27:32

And it's someone who wants to get married again. You're

27:35

married in general, somebody claims

27:37

you. You want someone who claims you and I want yes,

27:39

and I want someone who doesn't get jealous of my

27:41

career. That someone, someone who's supportive,

27:44

kind, hot would be great

27:46

on top of it all. But who knows someone who has a

27:48

yacht? I'm kidding. Okay,

27:50

so we've got the yis. Yeah, and

27:52

and the list list can be keep getting

27:55

um worked on. You don't have to

27:57

stick what you have now you can always change things

27:59

and throw the is away and add things too, and add

28:01

things alright. The

28:03

age range, I am totally down

28:05

to date a little younger. And also

28:08

at what's the I mean, not like ninety

28:10

five to fifty. I'm thirty eight, so yeah,

28:12

thirty five to fifty good range, even

28:16

thirty three fifty.

28:18

They're gonna have serious money right in

28:20

this particular category of meant or

28:22

if they're a TikTok star, they're going to also have

28:24

some serious mons. Yeah, that's true.

28:27

But they're kind of nerdy and they're

28:29

also probably not in their thirties. Yeah.

28:32

And and we don't need any fame horse true

28:34

that. I mean, can you imagine the dancing

28:36

with the star fame horror? Like

28:39

a secret god?

28:42

Yeah? Alright, so

28:44

we've got that down. Um, I'd

28:46

like them to live in l A, but you're open to

28:48

o C your Santa Barbara right. Oh yeah,

28:50

and my betic astrologers said that I actually

28:53

my place to live is like Mona

28:55

Cito area. Oh really

28:58

okay medic astrologer of that.

29:00

Okay, alright, so now we've got the basics.

29:03

Yeah, we've got like the non negotiables, we've

29:05

got our list, wish list. Now you

29:07

have to spend. Okay, so I cheated

29:09

PM. Don't tell the TM people, because

29:12

so TM gets you in a state of

29:14

alpha where you clear all

29:16

your thoughts. For those who don't know what TM transit denomanitation,

29:19

and it really is supposed to be you're done,

29:22

and you're done. But I

29:24

knew I was in a really happy place when I did

29:26

it, So I would have ten minutes of method

29:30

and I got into the feeling place. They

29:32

probably and you know the marrs just like, don't ad anything

29:34

else. I'm sorry, I like to modify

29:36

my recipe. Well, I had it in minutes

29:38

at the end, in the morning and at night

29:40

when I could get into Yeah,

29:43

I did thirty and he

29:45

appeared in two weeks. But I

29:48

used my system called um

29:50

Manifesting Love that I created within Esa

29:52

Relli. She's one of the biggest manifestation coaches

29:55

on YouTube, and it seemed

29:57

to really bring it in faster because

29:59

once you get in a feeling place of believing that you're

30:01

not doubting it, happy to just visualize.

30:05

I would either go to bed doing it. I would even

30:07

wake up ring or in the afternoon like this today.

30:09

I had a break before I did this, so I

30:11

went upstairs and I was working on something else. And it's

30:14

very similar to that. Continuously

30:17

do this like six days a week, seven days

30:19

a week, and you you don't have to be like a

30:21

you know, a soldier in the army. But

30:23

if you did this on a consistent

30:26

basis for two or three weeks. He will

30:28

show up taking

30:31

the twenty minutes. I do that twice a day, okay,

30:34

adding on five to ten minutes of

30:36

what you want and imagine you were having it. So

30:38

Neville got her the teacher of manifestation.

30:41

This is pre Abraham. He basically

30:43

taught, if we could live in the end of what we

30:46

want, and that's what you're gonna do. You're gonna live in the

30:48

end. Go straight to the end. So instead

30:50

of just seeing you're in the house with

30:52

the kids, happy, driving

30:55

and you visualize you guys cooking and

30:57

making the pasta sauces, kids

31:00

walking in between your mommy this,

31:02

Mommy that, and then you're imagining it and

31:04

you're feeling yourself in it. It

31:07

will come. That's can you visualize?

31:09

Can you do two things like not just personal but also

31:12

career? Absolutely career.

31:14

You could do health. I do health all the time.

31:17

And now do adda mantra? So

31:21

I would add a mantra that, well,

31:23

we know we have our own mantras. And that's a word.

31:26

It's a sound. Sound and

31:28

so even though you could write it down,

31:30

it's really a sound. I added a

31:32

mantra to what I wanted, so I would say

31:35

I'm happily, madly in love in a healthy

31:37

relationship or whatever I wrote down that

31:39

week. And then the rule

31:41

is repetition is your savior

31:44

in this. So if you were to walk

31:46

on, like if you walk every day, or you're on the treadmill

31:49

and you're working out, not lifting weights, but

31:51

you're got the earphones on and you're on the treadmill

31:53

and you feel the music, you're already in that like

31:56

dancing the state. People

31:58

don't. So if you add

32:00

it instead of going down to data, if you

32:02

added your mantra of like I'm happily

32:05

married now, Like say your marriage sucks right now

32:08

and you're having the worst time with your lover. It's

32:10

holidays, everything's wrong, and you were

32:12

to say I'm happily married now, I'm happily after

32:14

five times Superman will tell you

32:16

this, your brain will click in. Okay,

32:20

your brain new click in. We'll start to

32:22

feel you're in a happy relationship. Now, when you

32:24

get happy, they get happy. That's

32:27

contagious. That's the best things

32:29

about it. That's that's the that's the goal

32:31

is to find joy, is to be joy, right,

32:34

and then all good things happen, but it's really hard

32:37

when you are just not genuinely joyful.

32:40

But it's not like you're gonna be like this all the time, so don't

32:42

beat yourself up. So if you go into

32:44

this place of activation of like

32:46

five hundred times minimum, sometimes I can get

32:49

up to a thousand. I can count them, and then

32:51

all of a sudden, I click into

32:53

I've relaxed because all is well. We know

32:55

that from me, and then I

32:58

believe it's really here, so I

33:00

don't I'm not in need anymore and not in heat anymore.

33:03

Then what happens is I become

33:05

it. It's like acting as if,

33:07

and then they become it, and we now merge

33:09

our realities. Because co creation is the hardest

33:11

thing. I can go, get the car, the job,

33:14

feel better, but when I'm dealing with another person,

33:16

it's a lot harder, especially somebody you know. But

33:19

it's you don't know this person. I also

33:21

don't know if I would like him. I don't know. I'm just no,

33:23

no, we're just using him as approach. It is

33:27

approtect. So when you don't

33:29

know this person, you have no resistance.

33:32

It's harder for someone to do this right because

33:34

then those little ship things come in their brain. But

33:37

if you don't know this person, you could do anything

33:39

with this person, so all dark

33:41

and handsome and ripped, and you go, you

33:44

know, Hugh Jackman's my guy

33:46

or Brad Pitt's my guy, and you just use them as a protect

33:48

You hear their voice, you see what they smell

33:50

like, touch like. You can manifest at all

33:53

by getting in the feeling place and then letting

33:55

it go and feeling satisfied. Once

33:57

you're satisfied and content, it shows

34:00

up and you have to let it go. That's

34:02

important. But letting it go is

34:04

not what I mean by letting it go. Letting it go, it's

34:06

not like taking now.

34:09

Letting it go is. I enjoy going

34:11

into my cave, my spiritual

34:13

cave, and I enjoyed doing the process.

34:15

The processes is so exciting. I

34:17

don't even give a damn whether it shows up when

34:20

you get to that place. That's what I did with David.

34:23

I didn't I didn't like care

34:25

whether he showed up. I was like, I was content, and

34:27

I have gone through two years of quarantine

34:30

alone. You know that was a rough time

34:32

for me, and I didn't even though my best

34:34

friends most of my best friends were on the East

34:36

Coast, and my other best friend was here and we would talk

34:38

on the phone and clean our groceries together and face

34:41

time, but we didn't leave our houses. And it was

34:43

like, oh my god. I enjoyed it because I like to

34:45

stay home on my home buddy. But a

34:47

lot of people didn't. They were stressed up because

34:49

they have FOMO. So when you don't have fomo

34:53

of your relationship, not showing up

34:56

happens. It shows up. Yeah,

35:07

And I'm even like, I hesitate when

35:09

you say like manifest you

35:11

know, being married. I'm like, I don't think I'm even

35:13

ready for any of that. But again, that is

35:16

geting and courting, and because

35:19

I've never done that, by the way, ever in my

35:21

life. I don't think i've ever actually And then going

35:23

back to what you said earlier about the people

35:25

who are serial monogamers or monogamous,

35:28

Um, like I am myself. But you

35:30

said to only date one person, right,

35:33

like you you'll only be able Like for me, I

35:35

feel more comfortable dating one. I know you need

35:37

to play the field now, so you hurt

35:40

and so what happens is you I was

35:43

fielding offers when David came in. I wasn't ready

35:45

to give him exclusivity. I pushed

35:47

him away several times. I was like, whoa, I

35:49

just met a guy in Dallas. I kind of like this guy in

35:51

Dallas. Like I was dating a very different people

35:54

online and off, and

35:56

I would meet people on my own, which never

35:58

happens in l A. Because it's like every time I go to

36:00

event, it's girls and game. And I never saw a

36:02

straight man in the midst at any of these events

36:04

that I've ever gone to. And so men starts

36:06

showing up at events. I was like, what's going on? Because I was

36:09

content. I had so much on my

36:11

plate that if I was book to three days

36:13

a week, I was exhausted. I mean, so

36:16

what happened was I just enjoyed eating

36:18

the lobster salad at Nobu, you

36:20

know, going into the theater at the Pantages,

36:23

Like, I just enjoyed someone picking me up,

36:26

telling me I was pretty holding my hand, getting

36:28

me a soda as we sat down to watch whatever,

36:31

you know, a popcorn and a diet coke

36:33

at the movie theater on a game, and

36:37

so I didn't care. There you

36:39

go, I'm a diet girl. Yeah, And so

36:42

I'm not. The other night you went to the theater and

36:44

I regal has pepsied. What is

36:46

the regals crop? I mean, I was like, I

36:48

wanted to go outside and smuggle in

36:51

years exactly. So the

36:53

thing what I'm saying is I was in gratitude

36:55

that someone was taking me out who I enjoyed. I didn't

36:57

go with any just anybody. I had to be. I like the

37:00

guy enough to get out of the house, because

37:02

otherwise I wasn't giving him a second day, right,

37:06

just having someone intellectual

37:08

conversation thing um,

37:11

someone driving and put your hand on your

37:13

leg and saying you're so beautiful tonight. Like those

37:15

little things go along and they're all free, opening the

37:17

card door, paying them that leg. Stupid

37:20

stuff that we forget is the

37:22

whole courtship thing. I don't want to be me. I

37:25

want to try to make a reservation and ask me so

37:27

when you get into that place now, they'll they'll

37:29

be weirdos out there every now and then I went

37:31

on a date with one of the richest guys in l A. He will

37:33

be nameless, but I wish I could say his name

37:36

and the red later it was a fix

37:38

up and he owns half the real

37:41

estate in l A. He rapped about

37:43

his money for like four hours. He had been out

37:45

with him like fifteen times. I didn't think he was

37:47

my type, but I gave it a chance. At the end

37:49

of the date, he made me pay my bell what and

37:53

then yeah, And then that was something I was like, Okay,

37:55

I'm never going out with any You gave him four

37:57

hours of your time like one

38:00

of those like red brag brag, and my friend

38:02

is really good friends with him. So I was like, I don't want to be

38:04

rude. And then I said I'm never doing that again.

38:07

And I knew that if they didn't pay

38:10

the valet for fifteen eighteen

38:12

whatever dollars is, they could not care

38:14

less about a woman.

38:17

They only cared about Narson. So then I thought, Okay,

38:19

he didn't do because he's not gonna ask me again. He asked

38:21

me as I was leaving, really, now,

38:23

what did you say? I said, Um.

38:26

First I said no, and then my girlfriend

38:28

called me up and she said, he wants to know why tell

38:30

him? Tell him because he's gonna screw up. He's in his fifties

38:32

and never been married. And I said um,

38:35

and I told him what he did wrong, and he goes, well, I feel

38:37

if I paid for dinner, you should pay the ballet

38:40

and his that's why he's

38:42

rich. She's so, I said,

38:44

good, that's not the reason he does not

38:47

get the girl but all

38:49

and by the way, no wonder he's single. I mean,

38:52

this is a mahaland a house for days.

38:55

And I sit there and I go, these men are where

38:58

is he right off? By

39:00

the king? By the king on that

39:02

side? Okay, I'm on the other side. So

39:05

one of the things I realized was is that um

39:08

manners are important to me, So that was

39:10

on my list I had. My father was very into

39:12

manners, you know, and I was raised

39:15

that way, you know, like if you gave me a gift, i'd

39:17

write you to thank you. Know. Of course, of

39:19

course a lot of these people don't have manners.

39:21

So I had to make a list of internal stuff.

39:23

And as you date, ship shows

39:26

up and then you go, I don't want that, I want

39:28

this, and then you put that on your list. But when

39:30

you're manifesting, you don't put

39:32

the negative in. You only put the positive. Like you wouldn't

39:35

even think that a guy would make you pay

39:37

the ballot. So I wouldn't even enter your consciousness. I

39:39

mean, I would pay myself. I mean. And

39:42

so Hooperman talks about the

39:44

particular activating system. So when

39:46

your brain is positioned on something positive

39:48

or negative it is, it will find

39:51

what you want. So if you want a red portion

39:53

and they're sold out, there's no more red

39:55

portions in the world, you will find

39:57

one on that highway. You'll see

40:00

and add a second seller selling it on

40:02

CarMax. You will find what you need because

40:04

the briefs. But you

40:06

got to clean the clutter out. And that's what Tim does. Yep,

40:10

yep, I love it. Now, would

40:12

you be setting me up? So if we I

40:14

mean, I'm not kidding, Patty, we need to do this,

40:16

Earl. I'm not going to be dating. I'm just not going

40:18

to do it. And then well we'll set you up

40:21

Eric and I will have a consultation president

40:23

and we'll go from there. Here's what I think

40:26

you need to realize. Okay, as

40:28

we set you up, you might meet people on your

40:30

own. So the energy shifts when you get

40:33

relaxed. A lot of times on the date people

40:37

join my service, male, female,

40:39

gay, straight, doesn't matter by and then

40:42

they go, oh my god, I just joined, I just

40:44

paid and I go, okay, and they

40:46

go, I just met this guy in a plane, I just met the

40:48

guard this girl putting it out there in the universe.

40:51

Do you relax? You relax? It

40:54

always happens at Christmas because

40:56

people go crazy, men panick.

40:59

They don't have any years date when I packed down a Valentine's

41:01

State because

41:04

and so when you do that, don't

41:06

be surprised if you meet people in very super

41:08

an unusual paths like oh, I went on a screech

41:11

with my girlfriends and you know, I was at the barber

41:13

myself getting a nice tea and there he was, like,

41:15

you just will be surprised. So what happens

41:17

when that happened? I have to tell you obviously, No,

41:20

you're gonna tell me now. The coaching is

41:22

really where we excel. So we see

41:25

so many people make mistakes. Um,

41:28

you getting cheated and it's not your mistake. So when

41:30

you are trying to win a man to want

41:32

you and he's an agist, okay,

41:35

you need to under it just

41:38

is somebody that will only date a

41:40

certain age. Really, I'm not sure if

41:42

I like that. It just is really awful.

41:44

They're awful they're in general like I don't

41:46

care, but if I'm not in the age range, I don't like it.

41:48

In other words, let's say a fifty five year old man. I

41:52

remember when they the number one girl

41:54

that people used to ask me for was Jennifer Aniston.

41:56

And I and so I had I

41:59

had a very famous spotal person who went away

42:01

to jail. Remember James right, Yes,

42:04

okay, so James I was my client. He wanted Jenniferston,

42:06

I said. I said great. I said, um,

42:09

she's fifty whatever. It was like, I think

42:11

she'd just her fifty or three and nine. He goes, oh no, no,

42:14

I want I want somebody like her when

42:16

she was on Friends. That's horrible.

42:18

And he was older than her. So

42:22

the point I'm making what do you do when you have clients

42:24

you don't like? Oh? I I say,

42:27

you know, I'm not calling Jennifer Aniston for that.

42:29

Like you fired people, I

42:31

have fired them. But when they've done,

42:33

um, we've put someone in danger, like they're an

42:35

alcoholic, I give them to your I

42:38

give I put the membership on freeze, which I don't

42:40

have to. I can actually cancel it. And I said,

42:42

I need a letter from your doctor. You need to know you're an a.

42:44

I need to know you know you have either

42:46

a sober companion whatever you're doing to get

42:48

sober, because I can't have you drive

42:51

in the car and women

42:53

or men or men just like sober. I

42:55

don't mind if he drinks. I just don't want him to drink

42:58

till he's like completely black, like

43:00

he can if he's not. I can't date

43:02

addicts, and it's very hard when

43:04

you're so true. Actually, rewind, I can

43:07

date an addict, a recovering addict. I just

43:09

can't date someone who's currently in

43:12

using. But it is hard when

43:14

they hit shoot it to quit it and like you

43:17

are now sober and you've got to pick them off the floor

43:19

and then you know it shades of bringing your horrible

43:21

memories. I've seen this. And it's

43:23

also hard when you're dating somebody in

43:26

recovery who wants to

43:28

drink nebi you know, just started

43:30

whatever, and she and they're leaning on you

43:32

too much to make you the sponsor, which

43:34

I've yeah, no, I can't do that anymore,

43:37

right, So I mean I don't drink. He drinks.

43:39

My boyfriend slightly. He's not a big but not like daily

43:41

until he gets wet. But I've think a little ship

43:44

based once or twice on the holiday. But you're not You're

43:46

not an addict either. So I told him to turn

43:48

me off. I said, look that it turns me off

43:50

because he wanted sex. And I said, I'm not giving you sex while

43:52

you're like this good for you? How much are you patty?

43:55

How much pay? How much am I paying you to

43:57

do this well to to paying

44:00

me? Usually for women usually

44:03

anywhere from fifty. I'm

44:05

not good for you? But

44:08

you know what? You mostly? What? What is your ratio

44:10

with like um with you

44:13

know what what works like people who

44:15

have actually worked versus not really quick

44:17

We'll end on this question. I have like you pretty

44:19

much have mostly. One of the things we have is

44:22

usually hit by the third person you meet. You're done, whether

44:24

you gay straight. Really, we

44:27

did a lot of gay this year, which I thought,

44:30

there's no way they're gonna do the straight

44:32

system because they like a lot of variety, and

44:34

I'm talking about buying gay and they

44:37

turned out to be easier than straight people. And

44:39

I was like, they want to do more gay

44:41

people? Yeah, but it's

44:43

women. Women are a little bit more of complainers.

44:46

They like to yenger. I gotta get back

44:48

on the phones. I can't. I'm not a therapist.

44:50

I'll recommend somebody who coach,

44:53

but I can't like listen to the whining

44:55

like where men are just like didn't work out with your kind

44:57

of another one. I love that about men totally,

45:00

but aren't women. Sorry, I know this one. Aren't

45:02

women though, Like I could see myself doing this, like You'll

45:05

think he's amazing for me, and I'll be like, no, let's

45:07

just keep Like I love options, so I'm like in

45:09

general, so would you be so annoyed with that? No,

45:12

I would be. I tell men data as many

45:14

as you can. I and they always said you gave

45:17

me too many women. I can't keep up with the demand.

45:19

And I get new women all day long. I mean with

45:21

Instagram TikTok, I mean, and

45:23

I you know, thank god, knock on wood.

45:26

We have been a really good company. I'm not gonna

45:28

win that. We've never been sued. We

45:30

know what we're doing. We talked, they

45:33

have my number, they have the bat line like I

45:35

will pick up. I remember I was at the Laker game

45:38

before COVID and I got nine

45:40

one one from my and it was a big game. I don't

45:42

remember. It was Nicks or whatever, and I was nine on

45:44

one and I was like, excuse me, I need to leave by floor

45:47

seats. I was like, I had to go to the bathroom to hear the person.

45:49

We do that. You know, when it's our client, we care

45:52

about you. Were they you know, the service

45:54

that cares. That's not to say that I don't

45:56

want to create the next grade matchmaking. Now I have an

45:58

idea that that's

46:00

gonna be my next one, and I will be the

46:03

face of it. Just say it works.

46:06

But you need to understand. You need

46:08

to play the film right now. Okay, but I need your I

46:10

seriously, you need your help, Patty. Or Also, we're gonna have the same

46:12

conversation every time you come back on the podcast. Okay,

46:14

no, no, We're gonna talk and we're gonna discuss.

46:17

I'm having a point sit up with you. It's

46:19

the confidential part is when you get off

46:22

this and then I sit down and we talked

46:24

to you and we go through more details more. Look, there's

46:26

a lot of psychic shit I'm doing

46:28

right now reading your energy. You know I

46:31

need some of that too. I love you, Patty,

46:33

I love you too. Thank you for doing this. Okay, let's

46:35

do this so I will call you an

46:38

appointment. Okay, But

46:41

like everyone needs to know, your

46:43

job is to work for you, like you give

46:45

your figure. And if you don't believe me, you can go

46:47

on Amazon and see my book, or you can

46:49

go to my bio and get the fragrance that and

46:52

that ship. That is actually

46:54

the first thing you said to me is you smell amazing?

46:57

What are you wearing? The first thing you ever

46:59

said to me when you met? I love it? Hi,

47:02

thank you, Thanks to Patti Stanger

47:04

for coming on. And I cannot wait to get

47:06

started and finally go

47:08

out there and date because

47:11

Patty is going to hook a sister up because if she

47:13

doesn't, I will be talking about this forever

47:16

about me wanting to date but never dating. Anyway,

47:18

at the end of every episode, we need to ask the listeners

47:20

the question of the week, which is

47:24

what qualities do you think I should be looking for in

47:26

a guy? Since you guys have been hopefully

47:28

listening for at least a few months now,

47:31

or have known me throughout my career

47:33

on Dancing with the Stars or whatever following me on social

47:36

you guys probably know what I'm

47:38

maybe looking for what you think I should

47:40

be looking for? Please let me know and

47:42

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47:44

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47:47

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47:49

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47:53

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47:56

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47:58

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