When you want to grow your business, you need to build the know, like and trust factor. Our guest today is someone who helps business owners to hone their speaking skills and create effective speeches.

Carrie Sharpe is a Communication Consultant and Speaker at He says, She says. She has been married to her husband, Ryan, for over nineteen years. They have five children, including twin daughters.

Carrie believes that the foundation of every great relationship is effective communication, so she loves to help people overcome communication challenges and strengthen their relationships. She coaches clients in public speaking, marriage and family communication, workplace communication, and pageant interview skills.

Carrie earned her degree in Political Science and Psychology from Lake Superior State University. She homeschools her children full-time, and she runs her communication business from home. She is a Huffington Post Contributor and has been quoted in a variety of publications. Carrie has spoken across the United States and Canada about marriage, relationships, and communication skills.

IN THIS EPISODE

2:08 Carrie's fun fact is that she's worn a dirndl multiple times.

4:22 Confidence and comfortability is important when you are married and sharing a conversation. While someone may need to speak to their husband or someone else, it's a lot easier to talk to a third party about the problems instead of talking with that person about what's bothering you. You have to be courageous enough to get vulnerable. You have to be courageous to get vulnerable.

8:55 If there are brain patterns of having anxiety, getting yelled at, negative experiences, from the past, you have to work through those emotions and deal with them. There are mindset issues you have to walk through. In coaching, Carrie works through these emotions differently depending on what she's coaching on.

9:09 If it's a public speaking coaching, I try to get them to switch their mind from feeling scared to feeling excited. I tell them to say "I'm so excited to share this," "I'm so excited."

9:52 If it's networking, a lot of that fear comes from them not being comfortable with what they're selling. If I get them to understand that what they're selling is helpful and useful to their audience.

10:31 Change the brain. It's all about what you're telling yourself. If you're telling yourself that people are going to hate what you're offering, telling yourself that you hate this. If you change the story then you can change the outcome.

12:13 Start with a one on one conversation at a networking event. Instead of seeing the crowd, see a person you can talk to. If you do that, you'll get better results because you're building that relationship. Conversation starts can be asking good questions of someone. They feel like they can connect with you and they'll sing your praise. That will make them feel comfortable and you can build the conversation off of the answers they give. Names are really important to remember and if I say them during the conversation, it helps me feel important and remember the person's name.

20:23 What I hear from people is I know I need to speak and get my message out, but I don't know what to talk about. So I first dig into what they're already talking about and then we work on that message. So many times we're asked a few questions frequently. You find what you're most excited and passionate about are what you can develop into a message. Then there are other fears that are developed and questions that come up. That's when having a coach is helpful. We work on an outline for the talk and find an outcome for that talk. We set things up to support that one topic and it's 3-5 bullet points and every point needs a story. Stories are what make you human and what allows you to be human and memorable. Keep it simple and narrow down on one particular thing.

26:51 We know so much, we want to be so helpful and we want to cram it all in, but you're being more helpful when you leave it out. You don't need to change their life, you just need to change their day.

28:29 I love seeing results. I have clients who come in with so many ideas and then seeing them develop a speech, and deliver it is amazing.

29:34 Someone needs to hear your story. So get out there and share it. So many of us don't give ourselves the credit for the experiences we've had.

31:31 You've been given these experiences in your life for a reason, if you don't go out and share them, then your experiences were for nothing. You want to share them and make that experience worthwhile. And it doesn't have to be speaking, it can be online on Facebook Live, it can be in so many ways.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Confidence and comfortability is important when you are married and sharing a conversation.
• How Carrie works with her different coaching clients to overcome fear or anxiety.
• Changing the brain makes a difference in how you see a situation.
• How to handle a networking event.
• You don't need to change their life, you just need to change their day.
• Someone needs to hear your story. So get out there and share it.

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