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Good afternoon everyone, it's Dr. Nairogan,
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our next episode of Psychology Unplugged.
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really a pleasure and again a
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heartfelt thank you. So
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today I'm going to go back into, I did
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IQ last week. This
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time I'm going to revisit a topic that I did
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have done in the past and I'm sure I will
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revisit again, is narcissistic
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personality disorder and
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some variations that you're not going
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to find anywhere in
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the DSM-5. So
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personality is,
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you know I've done a lot of episodes
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in this and this is probably this topic
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of personality disorders in and of themselves is
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certainly an interest for me as I, you
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guys who follow us, you know I don't
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do a lot of therapy but I primarily
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treat borderline from a very
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cognitive behavioral, rashly motive perspective
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but personality is sort
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in my personal and professional opinion
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I think are often
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missed by mental
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health professionals. They
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are under diagnosed despite somebody
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meeting diagnostic criteria because people
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for some reason believe that
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you shouldn't diagnose somebody because they're
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not 18 and that is absolutely
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ridiculous because nowhere in the DSM
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with the exception of anti-social for
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a legal reason doesn't say that
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you cannot diagnose prior to
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somebody meets the diagnostic criteria. So it
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is definitely a frustration for me and
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a lot of people depending on their
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education don't always get a
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lot of training in diagnostics
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and personality disorders and
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really understanding personality and
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how it's constructed. The
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work of Theodore Milan, the work of
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Alfred Adler, the probably the pioneer and
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really parsing out what really is
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constitutes personality and just as a recap
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it's our belief about ourselves, a belief
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about other people, a belief about the
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world in general and the therefore the
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conclusions that we draw. So narcissism,
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is it a bad thing? I think
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that's a tricky question. I
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think narcissism is definitely
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very different than narcissistic
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personality disorder. Narcissism,
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if we just take the kind of
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the textbook example, you know use Donald
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Trump. There's a classic example
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of they will call
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an overt narcissist
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and an overt narcissist is pretty
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much textbook in what's in in
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the DSM. The grandiosity,
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fantasies of success and
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power, brilliance, artistic creativity.
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They believe that they're special, they possess,
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never in a psychotic sense but just
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special and unique. and
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only can be associated with people who
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are on their same level, even
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though they still believe that they're on their same,
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that someone else is on their same level, that
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the people below them really are people on that
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same level they perceive, they really
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believe that they're, you know, below them.
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They, you know, they require excessive
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aberration and the
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sense of entitlement, unreasonable
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expectations and almost,
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you know, automatic compliance with
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someone's, with their
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expectations or wishes, spoken or
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non-spoken, and talk about, you
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know, they expect,
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I think people are mind readers, you
4:40
know, that they're interpersonally exploitative.
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They will take advantage of others to achieve
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their own goals. They will take advantage
4:48
of others to destroy
4:50
them. And I'm going to get to
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that in a minute. They
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lack empathy and
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they're envious
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and they believe that others are envious of them. And
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they're arrogant in their behaviors
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and their attitude. And
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a lot of times it's very easy to spot
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what we would call an overt
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narcissist because these behaviors are
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so over the top,
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the grandiosity and the
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entitlement and the wrath
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that comes with narcissistic injury
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and the narcissistic injury is
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revenge. So that
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kind of segues into, we don't have
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a, this is not a formal clinical
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diagnosis, but there's a different group of
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narcissists that are
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called, they fall under what we would call
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covert narcissists. Now
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these individuals, they
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slide under the radar all the
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time. They're
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meeting the diagnostic criteria for all
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of these, but because
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they're covert, they lay
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very low and they're
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not as easy to recognize or
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to spot. And I'm
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going to use some non-clinical terms in,
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you know, throughout this episode. So
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again, the insult to
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any type of narcissist is
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revenge. And not just
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revenge of an eye for an eye, but
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revenge for an eye for your life. And
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the narcissistic injury can be
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incredibly dangerous. It can
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be extremely
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destructive, whether that's
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through ruining someone
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financially, ruining someone
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through their career, ruining someone
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through social media. And it can
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be relentless because the
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covert narcissist because they believe
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that they are entitled to
6:56
that and how
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they put on a great facade and they're able
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to fake a lot of people because they're able
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to hide it. And I
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think why the covert are harder is I
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think they're more calculating. The
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overt narcissist, they
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talk a big game and they
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blow their whistle and they're very loud,
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but their attention, I think gets distracted
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pretty easily to the next person that they
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perceive the insult, but it is committed some
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insult with a covert
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narcissist is more likely to
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engage other people. What you
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know, a non-clinical terminology is
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a flying monkeys. And that's taken
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from, you know, the wizard of Oz where
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they will send other people to kind of
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look at your social media accounts or maybe, you
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know, meet you for a drink to kind of
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find out because their goal is they want to
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see, if you hurt them, they want to see
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you not just fall. They want to see you
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fail and they want to see you be
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completely obliterated. And the best thing you could
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do in dealing with
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narcissist and this is the old saying
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the best revenge is living well and
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that will that will drive a narcissist
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crazy They they
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are unable to even sleep. They
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could be pacing the room their
8:14
mind is racing They're there, but
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they're also cowards Remember
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I talked about the personality Nurses
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are huge cowards. It's the Wizard
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of Oz This is
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Oz's mighty powerful creature Maybe that'll be
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more the overt one But this is
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the same premise of the covert one
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is they they present this facade whether
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it's very overt and boisterous Or
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very subtle Behind that
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curtain they are terrified. They are
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terrified that total will just pull
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that back and Realize
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that there's nothing there. They are these
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are vapid individuals Who
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live on the sense of entitlement
8:53
and superiority and have no regard
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for? Individuals, it's white. This
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is why you do not see these people come into
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treatment now. I have diagnosed This
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in people but these people aren't coming into treatment
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then and when they do come in a treatment
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There's usually a reason because someone's telling them
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to or their their job as a stake
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or their their marriage or their relationship Is
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at stake, but these are really easy to
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spot We have tests that are really good
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at the Rorschach is great at being able
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to pick up narcissism So is the MMPI
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and other assessments and just you
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know listening to how someone talks And
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Refers to themselves and the stories
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that they tell but but
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narcissists are incredibly Vulnerable
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in their self-esteem and
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again, like I said, they're hypersensitive
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to injury From
9:46
any kind of criticism or perceived defeat they can't
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let things go and again not to you know
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I'm not it's not a political argument, but you
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see like Donald Trump with the election. He cannot
9:54
let this go years later This
9:56
is how this is how the
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person persevereats. In an amphibian
10:00
up to say where you have you
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don't be a dictator for days. This
10:05
is this is the trajectory the somebody
10:07
will go when the fragility of a
10:09
self esteem and a so fragmented ah
10:11
been. This is why is this is
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a dangerous personality disorder This is one
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as as as you would involved with
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the covert ones. There are various happy
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of. His long as you
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do what you're told. And
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if you split them not only see
10:26
my new but I'm coming after you
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are and I think it's good to
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a point where big to make an
10:33
individual question their own sanity question. You
10:35
know the snow, the term, gas lighting.
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A lot of this comes into play
10:40
with with the Edo you are the
10:42
root of the problem. You do did
10:44
this and they're able to distort reality
10:46
because the you know if you have
10:49
the sense of entitlement and you believe
10:51
they are special, you're spinning stories. Ah,
10:53
I'm and these infants
10:56
are very calculating and.
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Ah, Of. They. They they
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tend to project a lot on to other
11:03
people. So these are you. Go back to
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the absurd. I did. Rod.
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Defense mechanism so they they
11:10
react to disdain raids. Edison
11:14
like defiant counterattacks. Ah,
11:16
I'm. In
11:19
sometimes the humility. If they are
11:21
supposed to have a larger population
11:23
the humility is is way too
11:25
much for them to handle that
11:28
they they they had the potential
11:30
to eventually retreat but if if
11:32
if a person acts has out
11:34
in the narcissist source said they
11:37
did something whether was a mistake
11:39
or been widened business dealers that
11:41
something was is exposed about the
11:43
person. the colbert one
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doesn't generally jump on to ah
11:48
a verbal tirade in towards the
11:50
individual they really want to have
11:52
a poke the bear a little
11:55
bit of tennessee like you know
11:57
upwards of feelers out where the
11:59
right But their whole goal now is you
12:02
injured me and I'm going to destroy
12:04
you and that's you know Then
12:06
they will start to go out through the periphery
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will start to go out through people who are on
12:11
you know fringe Friends
12:14
and gradually work back almost like like
12:16
a Yes, we've
12:19
somewhere like peeling an onion, you know where you're
12:21
the peer that you're at the core and they're
12:23
trying to Dismantle
12:26
all of the social structures all
12:28
of these social connections until
12:31
they get to a point where they believe that
12:34
they have they
12:36
have won and they they have been vindicated
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and The relentless nature
12:40
of the covert narcissist can
12:43
be again Incredibly
12:45
scary it could it could certainly
12:47
push push somebody who
12:49
may be already Psychologically
12:52
fragile into a depressive
12:55
state exacerbate anxiety
12:57
create paranoia you
13:00
know if if if this is if you know
13:02
getting from from From
13:06
the perspective of the covert narcissist
13:08
and it doesn't you know mean
13:10
these are bad people It's just
13:12
when that self-esteem is so so
13:16
Fractured and almost non-existent
13:19
that their self-esteem is determined by the
13:21
you know, the fans that show up
13:24
the Part of
13:27
they drive The
13:29
job they have this is
13:32
very boastful Audacious
13:36
presentation to the world that
13:38
they are better than you and sometimes they
13:41
can have a Magnetic
13:43
personality these individuals be very
13:45
charming. They can be
13:47
incredibly charming and incredibly engaging and Fun
13:51
to be around the life of the party And
13:54
You know some some do have access to
13:56
different means and some people get benefit from
13:58
it, you know, hey guys. The nice
14:00
house you over the pool party
14:02
in. This is great but again
14:05
once you cross that line and
14:07
if you expose as any more
14:09
it's more about if you would
14:11
expose them. I guess it would
14:13
happen. probably it a direct one
14:15
on one confrontation but it's much
14:17
more problematic if you if you've
14:20
expose them to need that, the
14:22
their colleagues or the social circle
14:24
or to anybody that's in the
14:26
periphery. we're now the spotlight is
14:28
on them and they. Are they
14:30
are hell bent as booting the
14:33
spotlight and not only movie as
14:35
but smashing into the ground. It's
14:38
basically into your face. This. Is
14:41
this is this the vengeance of
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dealing with nurses as of raids
14:45
because again the relentless nature of
14:47
this as a as a note
14:49
in the cluster be personnel in
14:51
categories which is where the histrionic,
14:53
the borderline or the anti social
14:55
are so ah. It's
14:57
is it. You know you met me
15:00
To heaven is put a dependent of
15:02
the nurses together. reveal that's that's going
15:04
to work out just fine. but get
15:06
a once once you cross the narcissist.
15:08
there's really no going back. And ah
15:10
you know they could. They could be
15:12
you Down are only two left them.
15:16
And you know as anybody is in
15:18
this type of predicament or. Do.
15:20
May be in the beast really should be
15:22
no falling down as inevitable staying dollars a
15:24
choice. And that's
15:27
a really important of. It
15:30
was a metaphor. really important message. Ah,
15:32
in I'll say the Gaelic falling down
15:34
as an axe and staying down as
15:36
a choice. And of you
15:38
know the alias had to be
15:41
noted. Dempster. Really, it's it should
15:43
be a battle. but the best
15:45
way to defend yourself against nurses
15:47
is to just avoid them and
15:49
so no sign of weakness. Ah
15:52
of that any of their tactics
15:54
and they will bentley amp that
15:56
up and and until a point
15:58
or eventually become. Because
16:01
you hope for your behavior just moves
16:03
to extinction.
16:08
It's definitely much more common in men
16:10
than women. And I
16:12
think a lot of times it has to do with
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like sports and early
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parental images or early parental messages
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of you're basing, you can
16:21
do no wrong, you're special. I
16:25
think sometimes it can border on
16:27
delusional thinking, but for the vast
16:30
majority, I don't have
16:33
a clear explanation why it's more common
16:37
in men, but it does tend to be. And
16:39
that could be just the
16:41
structure of which Western society, we have not
16:43
got to a level of
16:46
parity or equality where I think men and
16:48
women should be paid the same and have
16:50
the same opportunities for jobs. And I
16:52
think we say that, but I don't think we do enough
16:54
to really get to that level. So most
16:57
men in the United States are in
16:59
upper level management positions and upper level as
17:01
soon as they have access to more money,
17:03
some more stuff like that. So developing healthy
17:07
narcissism is not necessarily a bad
17:09
thing. And then I think you
17:11
equate that with self-confidence,
17:14
but humility is
17:16
the antithesis of narcissism, is
17:19
the complete opposite. Lacking
17:21
empathy is definitely because if they're
17:24
on a path of trying
17:26
to destroy you in passive ways
17:29
and there's
17:31
a lack of empathy, that would give
17:33
cause for concerns. It's very similar to
17:36
the antisocial. They lack
17:38
empathy and
17:41
that's why they have no regard
17:43
for the violation of societal norms.
17:45
And I talked about that in
17:48
the episode on associopathy and antisocial
17:50
personality disorder. But
17:53
narcissism, especially the covert type,
17:56
because like I said, the term flying
17:58
monkeys, they enlist other people. within their
18:00
social group, they want to gather information about
18:02
you and they want to be able to
18:04
infiltrate as many aspects of your life to
18:06
try to make you crumble, to try to
18:10
make you fall. They often
18:12
create, they will develop and
18:15
perpetuate a smear campaign. Again,
18:18
that can be very passive
18:21
because again, there's this word, the fragility.
18:23
It's like, hey, with the covert, talk
18:25
a big game. You
18:28
know, once you confront me, they're not going to confront you
18:30
because they're scared to death that if they
18:32
confront you, that you're going to call them up. You're
18:35
going to pull that curtain. That's why
18:37
dealing with narcissists is very tricky. And
18:40
again, you don't see them often
18:43
in treatment, but you know, these
18:45
are individuals that unless they really
18:48
hit rock bottom, don't
18:52
tend to get better until they hit
18:54
rock bottom or for some
18:56
miraculous, there's
18:59
some miraculous aha moment. I
19:01
have not, that is I think very
19:04
much the exception. Certainly
19:06
not something that I have seen, but
19:09
you know, in talking with
19:11
individuals, the covert narcissist,
19:13
if you just read the DSM,
19:15
it looks like that classic just,
19:17
you know,
19:20
this cocky person who just cares about
19:23
themselves and disregards the feelings of the
19:25
welfare of other beings, other people, when
19:28
you get into the covert narcissism,
19:31
they don't, they're, they're good. They're
19:34
good chameleons. They're good at
19:36
hiding this stuff and they want something and
19:38
they have an agenda and
19:40
they will pursue things and they, they, because
19:43
they, they're this sense of entitlement and they
19:45
will, they will, they will work their way
19:47
into people's lives and get what they want
19:49
because they believe they deserve it. Then
19:52
they mean, this is true. This is their belief
19:54
of, I deserve this. Not that I want this.
19:56
Yeah, they may want it, but they believe they
19:58
deserve this and I don't believe they deserve They
20:00
believe they're entitled to it. So if
20:02
you believe that they believe they're entitled and deserve it
20:04
and you don't give it to them Shame on you
20:06
and how dare you how
20:09
dare you confront me? And again,
20:11
that's where the confrontation is when it's exposed Not
20:14
the one I want to be a conversation that
20:16
across the dinner table or an island but say
20:18
a wife says something to Her
20:21
friend group and the friend group now brings
20:23
it to the country club and now that
20:25
now the narcissist the covert and everybody loves
20:27
And these gregarious and he's great. This is
20:29
amazing now. He's exposed as being
20:33
Maybe unfaithful or you know lying
20:35
in business and what once
20:37
that gets out. That's when the covert narcissist
20:40
is gonna smile The
20:43
they could likely retreat because
20:45
the humility is too much for them. But
20:47
then comes the revenge we did want
20:49
to No,
20:52
I didn't want to spend a heck of a lot
20:54
of time on this I know that in my in
20:56
my practice Narcissists
20:59
tend to be Very
21:02
fragile in this in
21:04
a very unique way People
21:07
can present as very charming When
21:11
you're in practice for you
21:14
know a Fair amount
21:16
of time you start to get that
21:20
The antenna goes up You
21:22
get the vibe and
21:24
if you don't do what they want you
21:26
to do I've
21:29
had examples of this in my
21:31
practice not currently but in my
21:33
my full-time previous jobs working
21:36
with people I've
21:38
had to deal with narcissistic
21:40
schistic rage It
21:43
made me in it would make you feel unsafe
21:45
and it's scary because they can come off as
21:47
quite tyrannical They're
21:51
easy to upset I
21:54
say them like they I feel like narcissism is
21:56
on a continuum and if you look at anything
21:58
on social media that has any anything to do
22:00
with what people look like
22:02
and how they present to themselves. I
22:05
don't want to tear down the Kardashians, I really
22:07
don't. But it's
22:09
image. So it's about that
22:11
hollow Easter Bunny. It's the
22:14
image. It's all about the image. And if
22:16
that image is shattered, then,
22:18
and I'm not suggesting that any of
22:20
the Kardashians are narcissists, I'm
22:22
just saying what they project
22:25
to the world is just an example of
22:27
when I grew up, I grew up with magazines
22:30
and I grew up with like Brooke
22:32
Shields and you know, Christy Brinkley in the
22:34
swimsuit, you know, they were at
22:37
newsstands, they weren't in my face, they weren't on
22:39
television. So only
22:41
in movies. So I was
22:44
lucky enough not to be surrounded
22:46
with that by that. The
22:49
other thing I wanted to say is that, yes,
22:51
they are very fragile, but narcissists come
22:54
off as very charming, but they, you
22:56
will know very quickly, because
22:59
they always want something from you. They're
23:02
not there to give you anything except take.
23:05
And that is I'm talking about full
23:07
blown narcissism. I'm not talking about narcissistic
23:09
tendencies, because I think on a continuum,
23:12
we all have narcissistic tendencies. I mean, you
23:14
can't go through life not wanting something from
23:16
somebody. Does that mean
23:19
it's narcissism? No, not necessarily. But if you're
23:21
looking at like the DSM-5 and you
23:23
know, the diagnostic criteria to formally
23:26
diagnose someone with narcissistic personality,
23:29
you can pretty much sniff those out
23:31
in real time. They,
23:33
you know, I don't know, I think women have
23:36
come a long way. I
23:38
also think that, you know, there are narcissists
23:41
that do, you know, if you're going to
23:43
bully someone online, and
23:45
you're hiding behind the curtain, you're
23:48
a coward, you know, and that would
23:50
be some perfect example of a covert
23:53
narcissist, I would imagine. And
23:56
there's a lot of cyberbullying. Everyone's
23:58
seen it. So
24:01
if you're in a relationship with someone like that, you
24:04
know, try to get some help. Talk to
24:06
your primary care if you don't have a therapist, try to get
24:08
into treatment. The only thing if you change is
24:10
you. You're never going to
24:12
change that person. They typically do not, like
24:14
Cora said before, they do not engage in
24:16
treatment. They can't tolerate it. And
24:21
you know, I know there's one other thing I wanted
24:23
to say, but they, I say
24:25
it like a they, but they
24:27
are very unique. And
24:30
like I said, fragile. And
24:33
there is narcissistic rage and
24:35
revenge. So you
24:39
know, I don't want to get into politics. I
24:41
mean, Cora made a statement earlier and you know,
24:43
I guess I would agree. It's
24:46
kind of like you're banging your head against the wall
24:49
and you're like, like,
24:51
am I crazy? And
24:54
they prey on dependent personality. So
24:58
that is something that is kind of like
25:00
a two
25:02
wrongs make a wrong. I think
25:04
they prey on dependent personality, but
25:06
prey on people who are vulnerable,
25:08
vulnerability, people they can exploit and
25:10
people that can give them something.
25:13
Right. They're takers. So
25:15
they're givers and takers and they're 100% I
25:17
would believe in full blown narcissists as a
25:19
taker. There's one thing I do
25:21
want to say. I know
25:23
Cora will get back to it before I, I'm
25:26
asking you guys a huge favor
25:29
to, if you can, if
25:31
you're on Instagram, please follow us. We
25:34
have a lame
25:36
page. I know it. It's
25:38
the only way that I can get information
25:41
out to you guys about what
25:43
I'm caring about, what I'm concerned about
25:45
for humanity. And I
25:48
am posting stories because
25:50
I'm so bad at Instagram. But
25:53
if I post these stories and you see
25:55
them and then you follow me, I get
25:57
stronger out there to. vie
26:01
for innocent animals and
26:04
I'm not going to say much more than that but
26:07
on Instagram return to freedom in
26:09
their bio I have it on my story
26:11
I very often
26:14
will post them linked in
26:17
their bio if you
26:19
go to they ask
26:21
you to sign a petition I'm not forcing
26:23
you to sign a petition but if you
26:25
look at the material and you feel like
26:27
comfortable with that you it
26:29
literally directs you if you scroll down to what I
26:32
can do what can I do how do I
26:34
make a stand and then you click on
26:36
that and then it immediately brings you
26:38
to you know where do you live enter
26:41
your zip code gives you your representatives
26:43
of Congress Joe
26:45
Biden President Biden and all these
26:47
other you know heavy hitters and
26:51
the people who really need to be reached in
26:54
order for there to be change and
26:56
there is some good news coming down the pike but
26:58
I think that we have quite a fight ahead of
27:00
us but if you could please follow us Instagram I
27:03
would appreciate it thank you so much
27:06
and thank you for looking at my
27:08
story and just starting education about wild
27:10
horses sorry
27:13
just gotta get it in there and borrows alright
27:19
so yes narcissism
27:22
is definitely it's
27:24
prevalent I know from
27:26
speaking with a lot of you guys the
27:28
question whether you might be in a relationship
27:31
with someone or suspected a
27:33
parent might be these
27:36
are these are dangerous ones and like I
27:38
said the covert I just want to really
27:40
draw attention to that because they they
27:43
blend in they blend in and it's
27:47
scary when somebody operates from
27:50
perspective of entitlement that
27:52
they're special that what they
27:54
want they deserve So
27:57
you can if you if they don't get it. This
28:00
isn't they're gonna go. You know? How
28:02
did the Roman and an end jewelry
28:04
hissy fit this is? I'm gonna come
28:06
after you. And. I'm gonna make
28:08
sure use a pain you caused me
28:11
real or imagined is exponentially more than
28:13
what you caused me. And and again
28:15
listening other people a good novel clinical
28:17
term but flying monkeys eliciting other friends
28:19
who may have come out of the
28:21
one where because they wanna know why
28:23
you're up to they want to know
28:25
They want the know that you're failing.
28:27
They want know the you're hurting, They
28:29
want to know that they are cutting
28:31
off the things are important to you
28:33
and as wise importantly you safeguard yourself
28:35
you say Pete. Also, you safeguard your
28:37
house is safeguards, jobs. As as much
28:39
as you can because the relentless nature.
28:43
Of narcissism in a one of
28:45
when across them to psychopathology. That's
28:47
where it becomes dangerous and and
28:50
and concerning. And the cover ones
28:52
ah and said would you animals
28:55
had their charming. People.
28:58
Miss some all the time and
29:00
the the edo the abusive behavior
29:02
certain convince. The we started
29:04
to think of yourself or convince yourself
29:06
that you are. Byo.
29:09
Your you see this diametrically opposite
29:11
bind said it yourself. sorry that
29:13
chains. Definitely please get into therapy
29:15
or view of their be talk
29:17
to your own therapist about this
29:19
is a large as a Maybe
29:22
this me, maybe I'm crazy and.
29:25
The best, The best and really only
29:27
way to deal with the nurses. This.
29:31
Is to live wealth. And
29:33
to not fall and to not
29:35
go down a path of destruction
29:37
and this is where therapy be
29:40
really helpful and pointing out know
29:42
what's you, watch them and you
29:44
know we're in. A word of
29:46
the to it's in enter Intersect
29:48
so holsters was helpful. Ah I
29:51
will definitely revisit ah of this
29:53
again at some point. So. i
29:56
appreciate all of your see
29:58
bags and involved and and
30:01
engagement you can reach
30:03
out to us through
30:06
psychologyunplugged.com you
30:09
can contact me through psychology today
30:12
you can follow us on Instagram at
30:15
psychology underscore unplugged underscore you can even
30:17
contact me directly at 617-750-9411 East
30:21
Coast Standard Time in the United States until
30:25
next time take care of yourselves
30:27
take care of each other be well ask
30:29
questions and I will talk to you guys
30:31
next week thanks guys bye
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