Intro- How do you define “home?”

• Home felt unreachable to me as a child, because my idea of home was built around a nuclear family dynamic that I didn’t have.
• After my mom spent a year in the hospital, and ultimately survived Leukemia, I felt like home could always be taken from me.
• It took years to learn how to find home within myself.
• How can you find home within, so you can be “at home” with others?

Selima Lust interview

• Clinical Herbalist, medical astrologer, and spiritual teacher
• My wife Tami and I started our company in 2011 manufacturing body care products.
• Came out of a need to find solutions to our health concerns that were not being addressed in the medical field.
• After years of healing physically, I recognized the remaining inflammation was trauma related.
• You have to heal your emotional wounds to heal your physical pain.
• So many people are afraid to go into the past and heal what’s hurting them, but it’s so worth it.
• You can’t even imagine the kind of things that are waiting for you on the other side.
• You go through so many layers of healing the same trauma.
• • At some point, you develop a process for yourself for triggers or resistance, you’re able to move through it with more ease and grace
• When you make space for the new, all kinds of things change.
• The Tower Card has to happen, it is going to happen. AND--it’s only a moment. You will move through to the new.
• Boundaries
• • How do you walk the line between explaining why your boundaries are what they are, without telling someone how to do their own process?
  • There is a compassionate way to communicate a boundary, and that needs to be at the center of the communication.
  • To the other person, this new boundary is divergent from what’s always been the dynamic. And that takes a practice of compassion.
  • It’s an educator role, and a reinforcement for yourself too.
• How did you and your wife process your trauma together, and build a business around that, without losing your boundaries or individuality?
• • A natural thing that happens in any relationship, especially the beginning, is you start to dissolve into each other, but you find your way when you realize “oh we’ve melded too much with each other. Let’s find our way back to our individuality within this relationship.”
  • We like the same things.
  • We talk a lot.
  • • I had to learn how to move and push through my uncomfortability communicating.
    • We don’t try to soften blows.
    • We listen to each other’s perspectives.
    • You need to communicate because your behavior is changing based on your thinking, and your partner can’t read your mind.
    • Call out and notice changes in body language. So much communication can happen non-verbally, and be used in the moment as opposed to letting a story build up in your head about what the other person was thinking.
  • You can communicate anger or pain, and if you do it with an open heart, it will be received in a way that can be processed. 
• If you’re working on your stuff, and becoming more and more whole, you’ll be able to find the balance between expressing vulnerability and acknowledging that it’s your work to do and not theirs.
• At first, we didn’t want kids. But after 6 years together and healing trauma, we opened up so much space and so much love to give, and that’s how we came to be parents.
• • If I keep growing, and keep healing trauma, my son will be ok.
  • Even in utero, practice talking to your kids like they’re 20 or 30. Talk to them like you have the relationship you want to have with them when they’re 20 or 30.
• Working through your trauma can change your ability to care for others, including children.
• What is your favorite product to use with clients?
• • Immunity syrup--we have the ability to maintain our health and heal ourselves, away from traditional power structures.
• Words are like seeds of intention. What seeds would you like to plant with our listeners to grow the queendom?
• • Choose joy!
  • • In every decision consider, your choices, your words...what’s in alignment with joy? Even if it's the harder thing, choose joy.

Q&A : What’s your relationship like with water?

• We are mostly water, it is fundamental to our existence.
• Who has access to clean water? How do we keep the water we have access to, clean?
• Use less water at home.
• Be intentional about noticing the gift of water, everytime you use it.
• Water takes on sound frequencies, it responds to emotional cues. Water is conscious. 
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• or @chloecofresi

Moment of Flow

“Flow with Love and Light” by Chloé Cofresí

I feel angry.

Flow with anger. And send Love and Light.

I feel beautiful.

Flow with beauty. And send Love and Light.

I feel sad.

Flow with sadness. And send Love and Light.

I feel joyous.

Flow with joy. And send Love and Light.

I feel weary.

Flow with weariness. And send Love and Light.

I feel hopeful.

Flow with hope. And send Love and Light.

I feel dark.

Flow with darkness. And send Love and Light.

I feel sensual.

Flow with sensuality. And send Love and Light.

I feel lonely.

Flow with loneliness. And send Love and Light.

I feel ecstatic.

Flow with ecstasy. And send Love and Light.

I feel confused.

Flow with confusion. And send Love and Light.

I feel sure.

Flow with surety. And send Love and Light.

I feel alive.

Flow with life. And send Love and Light.