Intro- Queens Fight because Black Lives Matter

• I share my grief over the murder of black men and women in this country
• My personal familial white-washing of our African ancestry deeply affected me
• How can you take action?
• • Financially support organizations like 
  • • Black lives matter
    • Blackoutday2020
  • Boycott white-only owned companies and products
  • Vote for black men and women in every level of government
  • Defund the policy
  • Teach your children history, literature, and science from BIPOC curriculum
  • Speak out against racism and white privilege at your family dinner table
  • Go out of your way to shower love on black people
  • Read and learn about your own privilege. Your own racism. Just because you don’t actively hate, doesn’t mean you’re not racist. You are born into a racist system. You don’t just one day say “I’ve looked at my privilege, I acknowledge it, I’m not racist.” You are called to reckon with your own racism daily, just as your body needs to expel its own waste daily.

Rev. Dr. Brook Brimm interview

• Metaphysical practitioner and spiritual guidance counselor for women.  “I teach yoga and movement meditation.”
• I speak to the joys, struggles, and triumphs of women of color
• How important is it to grow up knowing that you have a powerful voice that deserves to be heard?
• • My program: Release the UnYou, Live as the Real You
  • • Examine your basic wants, then your expectations (what was expected of you at home,school, community?)
    • Trying to figure out what you like and what you want, can be a struggle for black women
    • Some of the effects of slavery are still there: don’t use your voice, walk the straight line, do what you’re told, take care of others, do what other people want, don’t tell the family secrets
    • If you’re repeatedly growing up with that, then as a grown woman, you may find you don’t know who you are, how to use my voice, and I’m repeatedly abused and taken for granted.
  • Mainstream women are mostly white women, and I can’t speak to their childhood or what their freedoms were to speak up or share their stories, but they’re still women.
  • My work is to look at the legacy of slavery keeping women’s voices down, and help them move past that expecation. 
• Very similar theme with Latina women, because of colonialism, your identity as a woman is tied to that of colonialism. 
• • Other aspect of colonialism is this hiding game: we know we have this power, and we’re told to keep ourselves muted. So we start to hide and use this innate power to manipulate, and that becomes a darker energy and makes it more difficult to own your voice and power. 
• How do you encourage women to use their voice and own their story?
• • Mirror work was one of my first practices. And it was so powerful to just stand in front of the mirror and say “I love you.”
  • • Really powerful tool to help keep you from looking for someone else to give that to you.
  • First, I made a pact to not criticize my stomach, and now I’m at the point where I can actually compliment her.
  • Growing  up hearing “Watch your mouth, it’s gonna get you in trouble,” conflicted with my inner voice that knows I have a voice that is valid and powerful. I’ve learned it's my strength.
  • It’s healing to others when I use my authentic voice.
  • My voice is influential, so it’s my responsibility to figure out how to use it.
• So important to do this work with other women!
• • Until you can start magnifying and amplifying your voice with other women, you won’t have that skill set ready to go when you’re on your own in the world. 
  • Being with other women helps you feel seen and heard.
  • I had to create spaces that were healing for me, that then turned out to be healing for others
  • Growing up, I felt like I noticed only manipulative women. Once I started healing, I found women that were powerful and nurturing and loving.
  • Once I was able to forgive myself and forgive others, I was able to find others on that same path to form a community.
• Millennials have taken all the stratifications of womanhood and made them equal; they’ve made us question what was given to us.
• • How have your daughters changed your views?
  • • Date rape: My generation can see how it may be a misunderstanding, because I see how men of my generation were socialized.
    • • I told my daughters that they needed to be careful when they went out, that if they took a drug they couldn’t say they got raped. They told me “Hell no! Rape is rape.”
    • If we as women are not pushing to say rape is rape, this pattern will just continue.
    • I’m trying to instill safety in my daughters, and they are pushing for revolution. And both are needed. 
• Words are like seeds of intention. What seeds would you like to plant with our listeners to grow the queendom?
• • Live, Love, Give, Grow
  • • These four words encompass everything you need to have a good life.

Q&A : How can I protect myself from negative energy?

• Nut milk baths with herbs and essential oils
• Basil, bay leaves, black pepper, cardamom, cinnamon, lavender, mint, myrrh, nutmeg, patchouli, peony, rosemary, sage, and turmeric.
• Can also do an altar with tobacco/sage
• This is based in an Afro-Caribbean spiritual practice, and can be used for purely physical benefits as well as spiritual. 
• Write to me, let me know how it’s going!
• Send in your questions: [email protected]; IG and FB- 
• Online video coaching with me through BEAM+Flow “Embodied Flow Sessions” (bodywork, feelings, hormone balancing, creative coaching)- [email protected] IG and FB: or @chloecofresi

Moment of Flow

“I AM” by Chloé Cofresí

I am wise.

I am open.

I am soft.

I am tender.

I am beautiful.

I am intuitive.

I am a seeker.

I am an artist.

I am a free spirit.

I am captivating.

I am powerful.

I am strong in my vulnerability.

I am love incarnate.

I am worthy.

I am a diosa. 

I am me.

Still.