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Hi, my name is Kay

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Mao, Thomas Stroh, my pronouns

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are they them and this week I

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wanted to talk about why the

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devil does not need an advocate.

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Least of all. This is your

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response to a comment that I

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received on an article I wrote

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titled, why you're still a

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Swifty, the comment was left by

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a black woman who basically

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dismissed all of the harm that I

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talked about in the article from

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misogyny Anwar, to white

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privilege to black feminism,

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being the center of any feminist

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movement. In media. When I

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looked at the meaning of what it

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means to be the advocate of the

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devil, it says a person who

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advocates and imposing or

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unpopular view often for the

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sake of argument, that last bit

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is the most important bit

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because it's really not to do

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any. It's not to progress

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forward, it's not to cause less

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harm, impact. Even in that

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description, a person who

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advocates and opposing our

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unpopular view, it's actually

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almost always the most harmful.

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And in doing that, this person

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is not prioritizing trust or

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respect in the relationship of

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the people, they're having the

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conversation. Because if they

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trusted the person who respected

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the person, then they wouldn't

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be advocating for the devil who,

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in fact, does not need any

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advocacy. I don't know if you've

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seen the state of the world. But

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yeah, the devil is doing fine.

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The people that do need advocacy

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are the people stating the harms

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or bringing harms to your

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attention or having a trying to

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have a conversation with you on

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how to best move forward in the

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relationship. And you advocating

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for someone who's not even a

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part of their relationship is

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telling to save them. And this

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is in no way shape, or form me

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saying that Taylor Swift is the

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devil. That's not the point. But

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if someone brings harm to your

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attention or harm the other

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people are causing to your

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attention and you decide to side

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with the person causing that

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harm. We're then bringing

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advocacy to the person that is

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most harmful in the

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conversation, and not

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prioritizing trust and respect

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in the relationship. Hope this

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helps