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Hello and welcome to Real Bible Stories . Join
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us as we deep dive into the historic , religious
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, cultural , political and
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lives of real people in the Bible and the
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stories we've all grown to love . Hello
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and welcome to Real Bible Stories . I'm
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your host , imran Ward , and we are joined
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by my wife , selena . Hi and our teacher
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, Pastor Ryan Brown . What's going on everyone ? I'm
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sure that if you're tuned in here , you're
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noticing that something's a little bit different . We are
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now doing this on video
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, All right , so really
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what's happening is that by the way , Imran did not
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tell us we were doing this on video so
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I mean we showed up and he showed
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up looking great . The rest of us are uh
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, it's like huh , I don't know
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, I basically figured it out on the way over
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. I was like , if I'm not , if I wasn't gonna do it , now I'm not gonna do
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it , so we're gonna try it out . So we
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are in the new uh
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palms baptist church studio that we've been working
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on the last like two months in
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here , and so this is now the first kind of large
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format broadcast that we're doing inside
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of the room . So we're just taking the podcast
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and now you are now seated in the room with us
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as we enjoy a
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real Bible stories
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message from our pastor , pastor
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Ryan Brown and our coffee , which usually
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it's more bougie than this . Yeah , so
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they got the cups and the milk and all
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the things .
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But I think you got to tell them what's
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going on .
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Well , why are we ?
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here , and why are we not ? Why are we not bougie today
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?
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So usually we're doing this recording
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in my house , but what is going
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on now is that we're actually packing
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up our house . So if you've been listening
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to a couple episodes , you know that I'm in the Marine Corps and
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so I actually got orders over to Quantico , Virginia
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, so I'll be heading out there in
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the next month and a half to two months , so
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my wife's heading out , Selena's heading out in the next couple weeks
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, and then I'll be heading out a few weeks after
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that in the next couple
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of weeks , and then I'll be heading out a few weeks after that . So
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this episode we actually I wanted to spruce it up and we're actually sprucing it up because it's going to be our last
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one for a while . We're going to
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be pausing and
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really praying a lot about what
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this transition is looking like and if
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we can really continue the podcast
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in the way that we really want to while
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we're in Virginia and and Ryan's
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here . I mean , God made a path for us to
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build this studio in our last two months
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here . So that's , uh , this like
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this didn't exist yeah . We didn't have
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an option two months ago and now we have a really
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, really nice place where Ryan can come in
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and teach from um , even if we're
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doing it kind of disparate . So
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just keep us in your prayers as
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we transition over to Virginia . Keep Ryan
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in your prayers as he continues
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to grow as a young pastor
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and teaching the youth of our church and also
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leading this pastoral
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ministry as well . That is Real Bible Stories
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. I actually got such an awesome story
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from him right before we started where a
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truck driver that goes to our church told him that
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this podcast is what led him to , uh
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, become saved , that the , the
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clarity and the detail that came from the kind of the
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, the in-depth studies that we do
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on the podcast , is what really drew him um
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in to the family completely
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, and so I know that this podcast is
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touching lives . I know that it's um
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, I know that definitely
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for me , it's grown my depth and my understanding
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. It's really made it so that God
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just becomes more and more real every time we do
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this and , ryan , I truly appreciate you for that
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.
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I appreciate you all and I'll
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tell you this Emran chose a doozy of
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a week to record this one of a week
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to record this one , to make this kind of our last one for break , because we're
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going to hit probably one of the most seemingly
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offensive verses .
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Controversial .
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Yeah , in the Bible , but it's
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actually very beautiful once you understand
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it . So don't listen
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to it and then just click off because it makes
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you so angry Stick with it , oh my gosh yeah
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. But the reason I chose this cause I
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didn't know this was going to be our last one for a while Um
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, it's cause . This is actually when we first started this when
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we first met yeah , not even started this
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when we first met . My introduction
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to Emron and Selena was like hey , uh
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, our marriage is in shambles . Like can you save
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us and I'm like I can't save you to anything , right .
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Like um you , you know only god
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can do that . I was told to come talk to you .
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Yeah , and he's like well , I was told you're the guy
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and I was like , okay , well , you know what's going
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on and and some of the initial
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I get , and I'm just not counseling but like
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discussions , yeah , discussions that we were having
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just about what was going on and I had
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brought up this study , um , because
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it was one that was somewhat recent at that time , and
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um , they've been asking to do
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this since we began the podcast and
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we've never done it .
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And this was almost two and a half years ago
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.
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This was so . I was like you know . It's also like one of the most
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popular studies you've done at the church
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. It's like the women's ministry talked about it .
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It is . It is one , yeah , it
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is one , that is . It
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is one people have remembered , that
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is true , and but one . I did this for them because we can't go on break and with the uncertainty of the
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future and what that's going to look like and not actually have done it . But
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to your point , right , with
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this study , you know what ? Before
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I even get into that story , I think we should
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read it first , just so people know what
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we're talking about .
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Okay , yeah , absolutely .
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We're going to be dancing around this , but
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we're going to anchor here because this is one of those
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, like I said , it gets everybody's feathers
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a little ruffled .
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So get ready , go for it , selena All right , yeah
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, so our verse is 1 Peter
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3 , verses 1
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through 7 . Oh , this is .
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Peter Peter 3 , verses 1 through 7 .
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Wives in the same way . Submit yourselves to
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your own husbands so that , if
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any of them do not believe the word , they
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may be won over without words
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by the behavior of their wives when
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they see the purity and reverence of
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your lives . Your beauty should
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not come from outward adornment
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, such as elaborate hairstyles
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and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine
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clothes . Rather , it should be
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that of your inner self
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, the unfading beauty of a gentle
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and quiet spirit which is of great
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worth in God's sight . For this
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is the way the holy women of the
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past who put their hope in God used
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to adorn themselves . Of
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the past , who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves . They submitted
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themselves to their own husbands . Like Sarah , who obeyed Abraham
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and called him her Lord , you
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are her daughters if you do what is
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right and do not give way to fear
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Husbands . In the same way
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, be considerate as you live with
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your wives and treat them with respect
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, as the weaker partner and as heirs
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, with you , of the gracious gift of
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life , so that nothing will hinder
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your prayers .
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And where is that from again ?
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First Peter , chapter three , one
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through seven .
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One through seven . Okay , thank you so much . So
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, actually , before the podcast started , brian
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told us the scripture . I didn't hear
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him say the scripture but I was reading
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the scripture . Yeah , she was reading it and I was like oh man
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, that sounds like proverbs .
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31 and you got like three long answers
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, not proverbs .
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31 , I was like oh well , then it sounds
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like first corinthians , because I just um a few
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few months ago now
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uh , I was going through first corinthians
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, um , for my sister's wedding
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. I did a tribute
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. What's it called ? A toast . I did a toast and I quoted
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some scripture out of first Corinthians , and Ryan's
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like nope , not there either . And I was like is this , is
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this Paul at all ? And he's like nope , not that either
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. I was like all right , well , I have no idea . It's like I
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know these words , but I
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said .
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It's one of those that if you
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do not understand what is going on
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with that statement , it could sound
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very abrasive , right ? So , women be
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subject to your husbands right . Call
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him Lord . Men like
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, even when it goes to the men , right . Men likewise
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like be considerate of your
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wife or she is the weaker partner . Right
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. Like it's even offensive . What version
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of ?
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this Bible is this it is NIM .
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So we're going to break this down , because
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not only does it one
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, is that not really the point being made
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? It's actually
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teaching us to a much higher ideal
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than a Christian
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ideal that we don't talk about much , and
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when we do talk about it , we talk about it like
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almost in the confines of only exclusively
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marriage and um , which is
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submission right . And um
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, submission is a very Christian concept
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. It is to
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men , it is to women , it is to husbands
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, it is to wives , it is , it is to
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everybody . Um , this is not something
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just for women and wives
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, right ? This is an expectation
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of every single believer who calls
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Jesus Lord . It's to submit
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Submission
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, right , about this particular verse or
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this series of text . Peter's
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actually not leading the
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reader to a point about marriage
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. Oh really , he's
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using marriage as an example for
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something else . So the whole point
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of the text isn't even actually meant to be teaching
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you about marriage . Now , it's
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exposing a truth or a reality about
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it , but it it's not like
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he's not teaching on marriage at this point . Does that make
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sense ? It
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actually belongs to a much larger main
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point and this is like a substantiating
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point to that higher message
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. So I
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would also say that submission
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in itself , it's
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not as black and white as people
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like to think . It is
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Okay . You know what I mean . Like like
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this is one of those verses that
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unfortunately has been abused
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um used to abuse and suppress
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women for for um
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you know , throughout history .
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Let me take it out of context .
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Um , you know , you , you , let me take it out of context
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. You
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know you take something like this out of context and you take only that , not understanding
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the larger reality of what it belongs to . It's
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used against women , and you
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know . If you
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know , it says right here in the Bible , right ? And if
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you are not equipped to understand
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what it's , what it's really saying like
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you silence a
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voice right where if
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she's trying to be faithful and God honoring
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as a woman and she may
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be like that doesn't feel right or doesn't seem to make sense
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. But at the same time the Bible says
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it and I know Christ is real , but
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I struggle with that . So I guess I'll you know . Guess I'll
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do it . I know Christ is real but I struggle with that , so I guess I'll you know , I guess I'll
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do it . I don't know . You know what I mean . Yeah , um , so
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they end up trying to live to a biblical
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principle faithfully , in
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confusion , and
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that can , but that can also
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leave you open to exploit as well .
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Correct , so even if you're not , even
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if you're not living in a society that's intentionally suppressing
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or oppressing women or
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whomever . If you're saying
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like , well , I must submit because that's Christ-like
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, but you're not doing it with the right context
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in mind , you can be opening yourself
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up to abuse and exploit
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as well you know . So that's speaking .
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And it has . It has been used for that Right
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, and the sad reality is and we're going to talk about
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it more in depth here in a second but
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you know , the
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church over the years
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hasn't done the best job of really
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explaining what
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is a man and what is a woman .
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What is a man and what is a woman ?
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Right , you know , I think the church
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does well with understanding the
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value that human beings were
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created as , and I think it does a good job
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of explaining identity and
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purpose and all those things
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collectively . But what
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are the differentials that separate
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men and women ? Because there are , they're
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obvious , right ? And you look
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in culture right now of you
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know , everybody's
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surprised by the fact that there's so much confusion
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around gender identity in this culture and
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and , and the truth is is that I don't , I'm not
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sure a lot of people really understand , um
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, you know , what
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a man and a godly man and a godly woman is
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like . What does that really mean ? And
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so when you misunderstand that
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and you read a verse like this , it opens
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the door for a lot
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more other stuff that could be thrown in
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there . Some craziness , right ? Yeah . And
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no , I was getting ready to tell
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the story . But , um , when I first
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taught this , we were all going through , first Peter . Um
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, I was the discipleship pastor at
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that time . I was teaching the men on
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Thursdays . No
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, I'm sorry , I was teaching the men Tuesdays . The
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women were doing the same Bible study on Thursdays
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.
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So we were going through the same material and you were
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teaching it as well .
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No , oh okay , I was not , but
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we were doing the same material . So my idea for
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this particular night is I had I said
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hey , as we're talking through this verse
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, like I reached out to Trissa Pittman who
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was on the podcast at one point and said
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, hey , can you just grab
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you and just a couple other strong women and join the
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men tonight , and I just I
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want you in there as we , as
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I teach through this , so you can provide a feminine
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perspective of this verse
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, what these things and concepts mean , Because
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people don't realize how vastly different men and women
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are . Like we are Like people know
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we're different .
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I think people realize it , but
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it's like for some reason we in recent years have
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refused to admit it , like most
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of all of human history
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. We understand that we're different
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.
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No people understand . But I don't think people understand
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how different and a lot of the thing
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with that is , because that's how God made us . So
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it says that in Genesis 127
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, let us make them both male and female in
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our image . That means the image of men
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was out of God's image and the image
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of women are out of God's image . They
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took the feminine qualities of God . We
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took the masculine qualities of God . We took the masculine qualities of God . So one of
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the good thing is that you should actually recognize the difference between men and women and
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, as a woman , you should be looking at men and saying what does understanding
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men particularly if you're married , right , like my husband
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, what is he communicating to me
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about the character of God ? Because
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he was created in his image , so
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the things that are central to
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his desires and his purpose and what he
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needs , which seems to be so much different for
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me , like what does that show me about
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who God is ? And men likewise , we should
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be looking at women like well , as
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women are like , created out of his character
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and his in his image , and taking
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on that quality . What is what do they teach us about
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God ?
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Yeah , right . So that's kind of fascinating
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too , cause once when you put those , if
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like with marriage , the concept of marriage , um
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, I guess the closest to an image of God we would
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have would be the man and the woman together
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They'll be closer to the full character and unity
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of the full identity and image
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of God . Yeah , that's fascinating identity and image of God in marriage
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.
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Right and um , you
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know , women I think I was just actually talking to my wife about
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this right before I came . Um , there
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just seems to be this thing , you know , with
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women , where it's they
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either get into this place of either
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they feel a place of insufficiency
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that I'm not enough , Like I'm not . I'm
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not enough as a wife , I'm not enough doing enough
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as a mother , doing enough as a daughter
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or sister , or you know whatever . And
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if they're not feeling the sense of shame
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of not being good enough , they're
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, on the other end , being told you're too much
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right , You're you're you're . You're
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too sensitive , you're being too dramatic
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, you're being too emotional , you're right . Particularly
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things . Men tell them Right , and they've
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then fully . Then they're like okay , so now I'm being
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too much , but if I'm less
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of that , it's not who I feel like I need to
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be , but then I'm insufficient . There
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it's like where is that sweet spot for
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women ? And men need that too , right . The
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reason I'm kind of focusing on the women , though , is because
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of this verse , right . Right , the reason I'm kind of focusing on the
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women , though , is because of this verse , right , and this is
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really kind of where we're going to be anchored to understanding
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this a little bit more . But
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my point was is that I brought in the women and to this men's Bible study to get their
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perspective , and it went really , really great , like it was awesome . So Trista
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was like hey , can you do the same
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thing for us Thursday ? I
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was like you want me to bring some men in ? She's like well , can you
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just teach it ? Like I think just you being there providing
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that perspective would be enough . I'm like , oh , that'd be great
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. Yeah , awesome , right .
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Yeah .
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Not thinking about the fact that I'm coming in to teach on
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submission to your husband , and
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so I , man , walking in with this group of women , I could tell you what the looks . I got the tension
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in there . When we first started I was like , oh boy , I was not prepared for this and um , why
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didn't she warn me ? Oh yeah , it was , it was , it was palpable , right
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. And it turned out fine . It's a texture
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in the air , yeah . It turned out fine
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, but it but
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initially right , like there's cause . It's one of those verses . So as we
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get into this , let me just kind of , I think , crush a couple myths
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about submission as a whole . Okay , cause
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, like I said , it's a larger Christian concept , right
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? I
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think some people believe that submission
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in itself is like almost
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like it shows that you're weak , that you're
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weaker . So if you're
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to be an alpha man
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right , an alpha male to submit
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means I have to go be a beta . Yeah
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, I think that's definitely a big cultural thing
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, it is .
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Yeah , as one that interacts
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with hundreds and hundreds of 18-year-olds
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every day Marines right . Young
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Marines of our
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nation's fighting core . Uh , it
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is so important to them to be seen
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as strong at
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the expense of reason
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, at the expense of uh
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intelligence , at the expense of
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slowing down and making clear and concise
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decisions . Uh , they're more
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focused on being cool or
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being out and above than
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doing something that makes sense . You
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know , it's like if this guy can jump here , I'm
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gonna try and jump up here . Oh , and I'm gonna try and
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jump up here . Oh , I broke my ankle , you know , but
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I was cool when I did it
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. You know , it's like that there's
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, and I guess I was there too , yeah , that's
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definitely me well it's like , yeah
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, that was you in high school For
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some reason .
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I married you . But you also see , though , like you know
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, in particularly and I see this with women too , women
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bicker probably more than men
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do to be . I mean , would you disagree with that
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?
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I mean , I tend to see How's
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Christ Women's Fellowship with the bickering ?
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Right , there is a lot of drama .
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I'm just saying she's like I'm not about
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to confess anything . I know you don't want to .
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I'm not going to confess anything . Generally
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there's more drama within those circles . But
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I will say this when I see it with men right
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is that when you see those , you got two
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men who are their egos are
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matched and where one of
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them just needs to submit Right
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, and there's generally always some sort of construct
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or like there there's
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a boundary to understand . Now
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, like , as a man , I need to submit to this other
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man in this issue , in this situation
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.
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And you know , there's like an established chain of command
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or something rules or like
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rules of manhood Right , like , we just
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understand or like .
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but I mean even beyond that like rules of manhood right , like we just understand or like . But I mean even beyond that like
19:26
. And part of what we're going to talk about tonight is like a hierarchy
19:28
of look , if you're in church and you're in
19:30
it with your against your pastor right , there
19:33
comes a point where you just you have to submit to your pastor . You're
19:35
told to do that right . Marriage
19:37
there comes a point where you
19:40
have to submit to your wife , you have to submit to your husband
19:42
, like , there's just certain you
19:44
know , boundaries that are set with that . And
19:47
what you see is when men feel
19:49
like , particularly men to man to man , or woman
19:51
to woman , it's like , well , if I , if
19:54
I submit , then I'm going to be seen as the weaker the beta
19:56
. Right , and that's not true . A
19:58
submission takes strength . Sometimes it takes more
20:00
strength than it is to continue going
20:03
Right . The other thing I would say too
20:05
is .
20:05
I think that to submit is different than to be
20:07
kind of broken into that
20:10
submission , so like if you were like I'm not going to submit
20:12
, I'm not going to sit , and then you get broken into that and
20:15
now you are forced to
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submit , then I can , I guess could
20:19
be seen as weak .
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But if you submit out of strength of understanding , like it is not my place to be , that right now , well
20:33
, forced submission is forced submission is slavery , ooh , right . So being forced to submit to something , that
20:36
that's , that's tyranny , that that is not , particularly as we're speaking to scripture
20:38
right Is ? That's not the
20:40
freedom that we have in Christ
20:42
. You
20:44
know God's not a tyrant . So
20:48
forced submission , you know that's not the kind of submission
20:50
we're talking about , right , and I think that's a good that you brought
20:52
that up , because that's different
20:54
Right .
20:55
So to submit ? Is you choose to
20:57
submit yourself ?
20:59
Right , yeah , it is a choice and
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I think , like another
21:03
piece of this , it also doesn't necessarily mean like
21:05
obedience in the sense of like , like
21:08
, sometimes submission can be accepting
21:11
the reality of a situation
21:13
of a structure of things
21:16
, particularly powers and things of that sort
21:18
, outside of your control . Yeah , there's just
21:20
certain things you can't control , that's true . Right no-transcript . Right and
21:22
you just have to submit to that fact , Like I have to submit
21:24
to the fact that you
21:28
know our government , you know , isn't
21:30
always matching my ideals
21:32
, yeah .
21:33
It's human beings leading human beings . It's imperfect
21:35
people leading imperfect people .
21:36
It's broken people leading a broken country
21:38
and you have to submit
21:40
to that reality if you're going to be effective to
21:43
the purposes of God and his kingdom right .
21:45
And even just to bring that down , if in a marriage
21:47
, like fundamentally speaking it's a broken
21:50
man trying to lead in a marriage
21:52
, it's a broken woman trying to lead . In a
21:54
marriage it's a broken man trying to submit , it's a
21:56
broken woman trying to submit , and so
21:58
that's never going to be done perfectly either , and
22:06
so you have to submit to that reality as well that your spouse isn't perfect and they're
22:09
not going to be perfect .
22:09
If you want to be good at submission , you have to accept the reality that the person you
22:11
married , the person you work for , your
22:14
government you know what I mean Whatever that
22:16
is you have to accept the fact
22:18
that they are broken people . They're
22:20
not perfect , so your marriage
22:22
is not going to be perfect . They're not going to be exactly
22:25
how you want them to be 100%
22:27
of the time . Yeah . Right Like , submission
22:29
requires that . And I would also
22:31
say , I think , another thing
22:33
people get confused
22:35
with this just because you
22:37
submit does not mean you agree . Submission
22:40
does not mean agreement . It actually
22:42
assumes the opposite . Right
22:44
Like , I don't have to submit . Like
22:47
if I got home from work today
22:50
and my wife was like hey , I
22:52
just bought you this three-day chartered fishing trip in
22:54
San Diego . Wow . Like , all
22:56
right , honey , I'm going to submit to you in this .
22:58
I'm going to go on my three-day chartered fishing trip .
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Submit to accepting this trip . You know what I'm
23:03
saying ? That's not submission . You
23:05
submit to this gift . You submit to things you
23:07
disagree with . So , submission
23:09
actually assumes disagreement . So
23:12
just be clear , right ? If a
23:14
Christian principle is submission , then
23:17
that means that there's going to be things as
23:19
a believer you disagree with that you
23:22
have to submit to .
23:23
I mean Jesus literally says you have to pick up your cross
23:25
each day and die to yourself daily you
23:27
know , it's like , which assumes that your
23:29
flesh wants something . You want
23:31
something , but you have to be willing to submit
23:34
yourself to the things of God . And
23:37
so if you're willing to assume
23:40
, if you're you know of the kingdom and
23:42
you're saved , then you're willing to work
23:44
on submitting yourself to Christ . Why not also
23:46
work on submitting yourself to this life
23:48
partner that you know ?
23:50
Christ has blessed you with . This is what we're going to talk about , right , because
23:52
? So submission as a whole , right
23:54
, like I think some people think that if I submit
23:56
them , that's that's a admission
23:59
that I am wrong . Right
24:02
, like , if you and me are in a disagreement and I'm like , all
24:09
right , I'm just going to submit to Emran in this , that , like , that's
24:11
just a confirmation that , all right , emran , you were right , I was wrong . Right , that's not
24:13
true . Um , what biblical submission looks like is saying I
24:17
don't agree with you in this , but I will
24:19
submit to it , like with
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you , knowing the fact that I disagree with
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it , but I'm going to submit to you . Just , please be considerate
24:26
of me , which is what it's talking about here in terms
24:28
of marriage . Um , be
24:31
considerate of my perspective of this right
24:33
as I go into the submission
24:35
. But then not bringing it up after
24:37
submission is not saying
24:39
, all right , I'm like , particularly in marriage , right
24:41
, I'm not . Submission is not . I'm going to
24:43
submit to you in this decision . Then
24:45
you make that decision and then , months later
24:47
, you bring up the fact that you made this poor decision
24:50
. I didn't want to even do this , I didn't want to , and
24:52
you bring up that fight again , or that argument or
24:54
that debate again . It's like that's not submission
24:56
either . Right , like some , but that's
24:58
just you tabling the argument right
25:00
. That's not real submission either .
25:02
that's true and then but I mean the reverse of that
25:04
too if , um , if that submission
25:06
does take place , it would be tyrannical
25:08
for the , the , the
25:11
other party , to see themselves as the victor and
25:13
to lord over and it's like I knew I was
25:15
right .
25:15
You know , that's not what it means . You know , then
25:18
, them submitting to you doesn't mean that you're right . Them
25:20
submitting to you doesn't mean that they also think you're right
25:23
. Right , and I think people
25:25
I think particularly like married people need to
25:27
have this conversation to understand this right . Like
25:29
if selena
25:31
submits to you , that does not mean selena
25:33
agrees with you or you've changed
25:35
her mind yeah where she now . She thinks
25:37
you're right , right , it's
25:39
understanding that and almost
25:42
in the essence of that , that should turn your heart . She's
25:44
like man , like I know she doesn't agree with me and
25:46
she's submitting to me like that
25:49
. That should almost soften you a bit , to be like hey
25:52
, okay , hold on , let's talk about this a little
25:54
more than yeah , and what I mean , what that can lead to
25:56
if you're doing that well is effective
25:58
compromise , you know .
26:00
so it's like , okay , let's continue to work through this . Yes
26:02
, there's going to be some things where it's black or white . We
26:04
have to make a decision , but the vast
26:06
majority of things , there's a compromise
26:08
there somewhere , as long as you're willing
26:11
to be open and honest and have that conversation . But
26:13
just a lot of people don't . They stick
26:16
on their side and it's like it's my way or the highway
26:18
. But that's not effective communication
26:20
, that's not effective compromise . That's not submission
26:22
communication . That's not effective compromise
26:25
.
26:25
That's not submission , that's not building the marriage . You know , right , yeah , and submission
26:27
feels like a sacrifice because you truly think you're
26:29
right . So it was like party
26:31
A thinks they're right , party B thinks they're
26:33
right .
26:36
And yeah , the disagreement , right , um , it
26:39
assumes disagreement . Like you can't
26:41
, you just don't submit to things you agree with . You
26:44
know what I mean ? Like so , you just
26:46
have them I also think that that's very telling
26:49
, the fact that how often submission is mentioned
26:51
and is told of our expectation
26:53
to it . Um , that
26:57
we don't follow some fairytale
26:59
Bible . It's a very practical , real
27:01
Bible . It's very real about the fact that you're
27:03
going to have disputes . You're
27:05
going to have disagreements among
27:07
believers , within the church , in
27:10
your marriage , at your workplace
27:12
, with your kids , right , like you're going
27:14
to have disagreements . You need
27:16
to be good at submission if you want
27:18
to have a sustained witness
27:22
to the world . The
27:28
last thing I would also say is submission is not cowardice either . Um , kind
27:30
of like it assumes disagreement
27:33
. It also submission assumes
27:35
strength . It is . It
27:38
is not like it
27:40
. You could say in terms of , like proper English
27:42
, if
27:45
you get really angry at me , to where
27:47
you like , buck up and you're like , hey
27:49
, if we don't come to terms soon , we're
27:51
going to fight . Yeah , and I get really scared because
27:53
you're big and you go to the gym and I'm like , okay
27:55
, okay , okay , that's not really me
27:57
submitting , that's just me being
28:00
afraid .
28:00
It's just conceding , you're just conceding
28:02
that fight . Conceding .
28:03
Right , Um so . But
28:06
real submission looks like is you buck
28:09
up and I'm like , well , I could buck up too , Right
28:12
, and I could , I could throw a punch , or you know , we could do
28:14
this . You know what I mean , but then choosing not to right
28:16
, it takes strength . It
28:19
is meek meekness you have
28:21
. You cannot be meek if
28:23
you're weak , nor can you be submissive
28:25
if you're not meek Right
28:27
. So submission requires strength from
28:30
from both people . Yeah . A weak person
28:32
has a really hard time submitting because
28:35
they're just not in control of their emotions
28:37
, right . And they're
28:39
just following their , following
28:41
their emotions wherever it takes them . Yeah , following their
28:44
emotions wherever it takes them into , whatever decision , whatever words
28:46
, whatever actions they want to
28:48
do to , you know , improve themselves , right ? Submission
28:51
requires self-control . Submission requires
28:53
strength . Submission requires
28:55
, like all the fruit of the spirit
28:57
, to do that consistently well . That
28:59
doesn't mean something like I'm married
29:01
. I live in reality , right , like me
29:03
and my wife . There are times where our
29:06
worst fights is when one of the two of us it's
29:08
like that perfect storm where we're
29:10
both exhausted , where we're tired
29:13
, and then maybe
29:15
something else happened that we're just already emotionally
29:17
charged and it takes a
29:19
while for us both to
29:22
come to submission to one another . And
29:24
how that often leads is
29:26
sometimes a really bad argument that the
29:29
next day we're embarrassed . By then
29:31
we both come mutually submissive to each other . It's
29:33
like man , if we would have just started that way , none of
29:35
this would have happened . Yeah , right . So , like it's
29:38
, a lack of submission
29:41
is
29:43
often driven out of pride , right , it
29:45
requires humility to be submissive as well .
29:47
Oh , absolutely so all those it's like
29:49
the opposite of pride would be humility
29:51
, Right and you need humility
29:53
to be submissive .
29:55
So that's my point it takes a holistic
29:57
Christian life to
30:00
go to this Christian ideal of submission .
30:06
I brought it up , I think , a couple
30:08
of episodes ago , when we first had our marriage
30:10
counseling and his pastor
30:13
brought up Ephesians , which is kind of similar
30:15
to the submit yourselves . I
30:18
did not take that very well , even though I grew
30:20
up Christian , but it
30:22
rode me the wrong way .
30:24
We're going to talk about that
30:27
verse in Ephesians as well .
30:29
Yeah , I think it's worth the question and we can .
30:31
We can hold it for later , cause
30:33
it will come up .
30:35
Seven years later into marriage
30:37
.
30:37
But what I want to do is kind of now paint
30:39
. I guess this is more of the
30:42
key to this verse is more literary than
30:44
it is cultural . I mean there's some cultural
30:46
things loaded behind this , but we've
30:50
talked about this before , right , where often
30:55
when we read our Bibles we read it very Western
30:57
. So chapter three , we think
30:59
immediately , new thought , right
31:02
. So when chapter three starts off
31:04
with this verse , right
31:06
, wives , submit to your husband , we naturally
31:09
go . You assume that that's where it started . Okay
31:11
. So the main point , like we're on a new thought
31:13
, a new point , and this new thought a new point
31:15
is Peter teaching ? about marriage right
31:18
, but , as we've
31:20
talked about previous episodes , right , that's not
31:22
the case . These chapters and verses do not exist until
31:24
previous episodes . Right , that's not the case . These chapters and verses do not exist until medieval
31:26
. Europe right by a French monk when he decided
31:29
to do this , you know , based off his personal
31:31
opinion . So this was all written
31:33
together , right ? This was all clumped
31:35
together as a free flow of thought
31:38
.
31:38
Was this a letter as well ? Was Peter first Peter
31:40
a letter ?
31:40
This was a letter , yeah , To which 1
31:48
Peter a letter . This was a letter . Yeah , to which church ? So with that , I want you
31:51
to back up to chapter 2 , verse 13 , because this
31:53
whole text operates under
31:55
the umbrella . It is a child of this
31:57
larger parent verse of
31:59
what , the main point of what's actually being discussed
32:01
when he says this . Okay
32:03
, so I'm going to read this . This is uh . First
32:06
Peter , chapter two , verse 13 . I'm going to read
32:08
through 17 . Okay
32:10
, so this is . I
32:13
just want to say this is the primary point
32:15
. Okay , this is , this is the ideal
32:18
, this is what Peter is teaching on , this
32:21
is what he's trying to communicate to
32:23
his audience . This is it
32:25
. This is what the point they
32:27
needed to walk away with .
32:29
Okay , and so this is 13 through 17 . Yep
32:31
, all right . Submit yourselves
32:33
, for the Lord's sake , to every human
32:36
authority , whether to the emperor as
32:38
a supreme authority , or to governors
32:41
who are sent by him to punish those who
32:43
do wrong and to commend those who do right . For
32:46
it is God's will that , by doing
32:48
good , you should silence the
32:50
ignorant talk of foolish people . Live
32:53
as free people , but do not
32:55
use your freedom as a cover-up
32:57
for evil . Live as God's
33:00
slaves . Show proper respect
33:02
to everyone . Love the family of believers
33:05
. Fear God , honor the
33:07
emperor .
33:08
Now understand
33:11
honor the emperor . It's
33:13
no different than it is today
33:15
. That's no different
33:18
than saying hey , everybody , show
33:20
proper respect to everyone you meet
33:22
. That includes Democrats , that includes
33:24
Republicans , that mega Republicans
33:27
, everybody right . Show
33:29
respect to everyone , love
33:31
the church and the family of believers . Fear
33:34
God and honor Joe Biden
33:36
. Oh my gosh , yeah , you know
33:38
what I'm saying Honor the emperor . Now
33:40
some listeners may be like well , what's wrong with that ? And
33:43
there's a whole nother piece of
33:45
listeners are like see , that's a problem . Right , here's
33:48
the thing . Wherever you land there , what
33:51
was happening to these believers by the emperor
33:53
was they were being persecuted economically
33:55
pretty much everywhere Some
34:00
remnants of the Roman Empire . They
34:02
were being persecuted physically . They
34:06
were suffering , they were being thrown in prison . There was
34:08
a lot going on . Right , it was
34:10
a little bit . It wasn't like across
34:13
the entire empire . It was different everywhere you went , but
34:16
to them they're like they're
34:18
under the kingship of the emperor
34:20
. And what does he tell them ? Honor
34:22
the emperor . This is coming from the same Peter
34:25
, right ? If you remember um
34:27
, who he himself was
34:29
thrown in prison um , and was rescued
34:32
um , like all the way back in Jerusalem
34:34
, right ? Paul um
34:36
, beaten , stoned , thrown
34:38
in prison multiple times , who
34:41
was a Roman citizen , who had
34:43
incurred all that also under the Roman
34:45
emperor , Right , Like ? So the point is
34:47
, is that , like , wherever
34:50
you're at , I I highly doubt that
34:53
, as a Christian in America under Joe
34:55
Biden , you have experienced any of that because
34:57
of your faith Right , you may have gone to prison
35:00
under Joe Biden , but it's not because you were
35:02
a Christian right . It's probably because you did something bad Right
35:04
Um under Joe Biden .
35:04
But it's not because you were a Christian , right , it's probably because you
35:06
did something bad , right . Just for some reference to
35:09
, because I was reading kind of the opening in chapter one . So just
35:11
to reference , like who Peter's speaking to ? Chapter
35:15
one , verse one it says to God's elect exiles , scattered
35:18
throughout the provinces of Pontus
35:21
, galatia , cappadocia
35:23
, asia and Bithynia , who
35:26
have been chosen according to the foreknowledge of
35:28
God , the Father , through sanctifying work of
35:30
the Spirit , to be obedient to Jesus Christ
35:32
and sprinkled with his blood . So
35:35
it's like he's speaking to a pretty
35:37
broad audience even here .
35:39
All across multiple regions right . But
35:42
I think the primary point is this right In verse
35:44
13, . Right , this
35:46
is what he's teaching on Submit yourselves
35:49
for the Lord's sake , okay
35:51
. Yeah . Every one of us . Um
35:54
, for the Lord's sake , to every
35:57
human authority , whether
35:59
to the emperor as the Supreme authority
36:01
, or to governors or those
36:03
who are sent by him to punish those who do wrong and
36:06
commend those who do . Right . Now
36:08
, listen , for it is God's will that
36:10
by doing good , you should
36:12
silence the ignorant talk
36:14
of foolish people . And I want you
36:17
to see that
36:19
literary structure there , okay , because
36:21
it really follows kind of these three
36:23
things . Okay , there is a submissive
36:25
proclamation Okay , submit to , right
36:28
, you need to submit to . In
36:30
this particular case , submit
36:33
yourselves , for the Lord's sake
36:35
, right . Then the second thing is
36:37
that there's some sort of human authority
36:39
identified , okay
36:42
, to every human authority , which is , again
36:44
, this is the overarching point . And
36:46
then there's a mechanism by which
36:49
is given of how you
36:51
silence the
36:53
talk of ignorant and foolish people
36:55
, right , in
36:59
this particular case , it says by doing good , okay . So the whole point is submit yourselves
37:01
to Jesus to
37:03
every excuse me , submit yourselves
37:05
, for the sake of Christ , to
37:08
every human authority , for it is by
37:10
God's will that by you doing good , you
37:12
will silence ignorant talk and
37:14
the fools , right ? So then what he does
37:16
is from here he gives
37:19
a set of examples of what
37:21
that looks like . Okay , so
37:23
he's taken very specific situations to
37:25
these people of what was common then
37:27
to give them examples of this is what
37:29
that kind of submission looks like . The
37:32
first one he into the first example are
37:35
slaves submitting to their masters . So , verse 18
37:37
through 20 , excuse me , slaves
37:41
in reverent fear of God . Now notice
37:43
how he ended right . Show respect to everyone
37:45
. Love the family of believers . Fear God . Okay
37:47
, so , slaves in reverent fear of God
37:49
, submit yourselves to your masters
37:52
, not only to those who are good
37:54
and considerate , but also
37:56
those who are harsh . For it is
37:58
commendable if someone bears up under
38:00
the pain of unjust suffering , because
38:03
they are conscious of God . But how
38:05
is it ? To your credit if you receive a beating for doing
38:07
wrong and endure it ? But if you
38:09
suffer for doing good , right
38:11
, because how are we supposed to sound ignorant talk
38:14
by doing good ? So if you suffer
38:16
for doing good and you endure it , it is
38:18
commendable before God . So you see
38:20
, it's that same structure
38:22
, right ? There's a submissive
38:24
proclamation slaves in reverent fear of God
38:27
, submit yourselves to your masters
38:29
. Right , human authority identified
38:31
to your masters Mechanism for silencing
38:33
ignorant talk . For it is commendable if someone
38:35
bears up under the path or
38:37
the pain of unjust suffering , right
38:40
. So now he's saying and you're , and
38:42
you're suffering by
38:44
doing , if you are suffering , cause you were doing good like
38:47
that is commendable before God
38:49
and people see that right
38:51
, just like Christ on the cross . When
38:54
that thief looks over and says this man
38:56
has done nothing wrong , he is
38:58
submitting himself to
39:01
the pain of unjust suffering . That's what Christ did
39:03
right , which is exactly what the whole next
39:06
point is , which I'm going to . Before we get there , though
39:08
, we talked earlier
39:10
right Is that submission doesn't mean
39:12
agreement , right , submission doesn't mean agreement
39:14
, Right . So he just told Peter , just told slaves
39:17
that you're to submit to your masters , whether
39:19
they're good and considerate or they're harsh . Right
39:23
Paul in 1 Timothy
39:26
1 , I
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think it's verse 10 , he states
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slave masters
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are one of the most abhorrent type of
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sins . Anyone who has ever I hear
39:37
this a lot . Well , the Bible never condemns
39:39
slavery Like no it does . Yeah 1
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Timothy 1.10 . Paul says
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slave masters . It's listed in
39:46
one of the worst kind of sins . Okay
39:48
. So
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Paul hates slavery . He hates the concept of it . It is
39:54
not of God , it is counter to
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the grace of Christ . But then
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in the book of Philemon , he
40:01
meets this runaway slave named
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Onesimus . And what does he tell Onesimus to do
40:06
?
40:06
We did a whole episode .
40:09
Go back to your master . So this is an example
40:11
of Paul , in his leadership
40:13
, disagreeing with
40:15
the concept of slavery because he could have took his
40:17
righteous opinion , and you know no
40:21
, no , I'm against slavery . Let's
40:23
start at the Underground Railroad Right
40:25
. But why
40:28
do we submit what ? Does it go back to the main
40:30
point . Submit yourselves . For what , the
40:32
Lord's sake ? Yeah . Because
40:34
this is one thing Paul knew with Onesimus If
40:37
he would have not had Onesimus return
40:39
and kept him or let him escape
40:42
, right then
40:44
other Christians could be like so
40:47
we need to get the slaves freed . And
40:49
then what that would have done . Which slaves ? And
40:51
you know slaves are defined differently throughout history
40:53
. Right , there's indentured
40:55
servants or slaves . There's
40:59
those who were forcibly , right , put
41:01
into slavery . There's some who voluntarily
41:03
went into it and the conditions for
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them , you know , were very
41:07
different throughout history , also
41:10
throughout different regions of areas . You know what I'm saying . You
41:13
know we always think of American history and antebellum
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slavery , right , and
41:18
not that like one's worse than the other . Right , Because
41:20
it was abhorrent then . But
41:22
the point being was that he
41:25
did not agree with it . But slaves
41:28
made up 25% of the Roman economy
41:30
, Of the labor force . So if
41:32
the Christian movement had , at that particular
41:34
time , became known to be
41:37
a movement of freeing
41:39
slaves , then they would
41:41
have looked at as
41:44
the way right Followers of Christ
41:46
, as those who are trying to crush Rome
41:48
. Right , they would
41:50
not have been attractive
41:53
to the gospel . Yeah Right , so the one thing
41:55
more important than Onesimus' man
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, that's a word , Onesimus' . Actions
42:01
, Freedom . So
42:03
one thing more important than Onesimus' freedom
42:05
and the
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righteous position of Paul . The
42:09
one thing that was superior to that was
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the gospel . I see . Therefore
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, paul , onesimus , submit
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yourself for the sake of Christ
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. Does that make sense ?
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Yeah , Something I was thinking about
42:23
while you're mentioning that was
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one the writings that came
42:27
out of some of the Jews
42:30
that were in
42:32
the internment camps during
42:35
the Holocaust , and some
42:38
of the strongest writings that come out of there is
42:40
those that found peace and
42:43
tried to do good even while in that abhorrent
42:46
condition , that
42:48
impossible situation to predict
42:50
or even plan for , but they
42:52
still were able to find
42:54
a peace in it , and it was by taking care of
42:56
those around them , by submitting to the authority that
42:58
was there and and continuing
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to represent you know
43:03
God in that environment
43:05
. And then the thing that popped in
43:07
my head after that was actually the books that
43:10
the power of a praying wife and
43:12
the power of a praying husband , books that
43:14
that Selena's , selena's read through Power of a
43:16
Praying Wife . I've got Power of a Praying Husband on my desk
43:18
. The way it was written I didn't
43:20
get as into it , but I do remember . The points
43:23
that were brought up in there is
43:25
that the book really talks about how
43:28
, if you're trying to
43:30
change your spouse , then
43:33
look to , through prayer and petition
43:36
, work on yourself
43:38
and pray for your spouse , and
43:40
it talks a lot about that submission process
43:43
, that combat
43:45
is not how you change your spouse .
43:47
That is the whole point of what Peter makes here . When we get to
43:49
the wives , submit to husbands piece . So
43:51
hold on to that .
43:52
Okay .
43:53
Because that's his point . But
43:56
we'll get there in due time , right ? So ? Example
43:58
one , right Main point submit yourselves for the Lord's
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sake to every human authority
44:03
. Right so that by
44:05
doing good you should silence ignorant
44:07
and talk of foolish people , right ? First
44:10
example he gives hey , slaves , here's an
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example . Submit yourself to
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your masters . The second example he
44:17
gives is the example of Christ
44:19
and his own submission , in verse 21 through 25
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. He
44:30
says he committed no sin
44:32
. Most deceit was found
44:34
in his mouth when they hurled
44:36
their insults at him . He did not
44:38
retaliate when he suffered . He
44:41
made no threats . Instead he
44:43
entrusted himself to him
44:45
. Who judges justly ? He
44:48
himself bore our sins in his body
44:50
on the cross so that we might
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die to sin and live for righteousness
44:54
. By his wounds you have
44:56
been healed , for you were like
44:59
sheep going astray , but now you have returned
45:01
to the shepherd and the overseer of
45:03
your souls . So that's an encouraging
45:05
word to a slave who is saying like
45:08
go back to your harsh master , submit to
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your harsh master . He says remember Christ on the
45:12
cross . He submitted to
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the cross unjustly , just
45:16
like you . But what you need to work
45:18
on is following his footsteps . You're
45:20
going to suffer , you know . You may
45:23
suffer like Christ did , but it was unjust
45:25
because he did good . So go be like Christ
45:27
. Do good in your situation , no matter
45:30
the injustice of it . Submit
45:32
to the reality that surrounds it . Right
45:35
, you need to submit to the reality of your situation
45:37
and do good within it . By
45:40
submitting to your master , you're also submitting
45:42
to that reality , right
45:45
? Does that mean that we live a defeatist life
45:47
? Like , well , this is just my life , like I guess
45:49
I'm just going to live this , like that's not what he's saying
45:51
. What he is saying is that it
45:54
is for Christ's sake that you submit
45:56
. I keep saying that over and over because
45:58
that's the main point and it leads us into our text here
46:00
in a second where I think it's going to make a little
46:02
more sense within marriage context
46:04
. I do want to note that do you have
46:06
a ?
46:07
point that it's
46:09
a very real thing from like a military
46:11
strategy perspective , to
46:14
just you have to accept where you are in
46:17
order to move forward . You know , if
46:19
you're fighting the reality of the state that
46:21
you're in , then you're never going to actually
46:23
be solving the problem that you need to solve . So
46:26
, um , I , I , I think that to
46:29
to kind of clarify your , your
46:31
point what is the term ?
46:33
embrace the suck right .
46:34
Yeah , Embrace the suck right , Like in order to just got to embrace
46:36
it in order to improve your position , in
46:39
order to uh make your position
46:41
more tenable , more resilient , more defensible , you
46:43
have to accept that your position sucks
46:45
and you have to choose and have the will to like
46:47
but
46:49
I'm going to continue to work to improve
46:52
it like a battalion defense training event . Oh
46:54
love those , so go out Just sitting there all day Dig
46:56
the trenches .
46:57
Dig the foxholes and it just starts
46:59
pouring rain Right , and this is winter . So
47:01
like for those
47:03
who aren't from around here . The
47:05
desert means dry . It doesn't mean warm
47:07
all the time , like it's warm in the summer , obviously
47:09
it's hot , but it is freezing , cold
47:11
, but it is really cold and dry in the winter
47:13
, and so we're wet , we're
47:16
freezing , and this was the whole training
47:18
. Like we were supposed to be out there for three days just in
47:20
the defense , practicing defensive
47:22
operations . Like there's nobody coming to attack us , like
47:24
it wasn't force on force or nothing , like we're
47:26
just literally in foxholes , water
47:29
up to our knees , freezing , and
47:31
it's just one of those like embrace the
47:33
suck . What you need to do is just accept the reality
47:36
that it is raining , that it is
47:38
cold , and this is where you are and there's nothing
47:40
that's going to change that . Embrace
47:42
it . So , now go be good
47:45
within that situation .
47:47
Because if you didn't embrace or
47:50
accept the reality of your situation , let's say
47:52
you fought it , or you went internal , or you stopped .
47:54
It's when you become miserable .
48:01
It's not just when you become miserable , it's actually where you're now the most vulnerable
48:04
, right like it's , let's say this was a real fight and you're in the foxhole and you're it's raining
48:06
down on you , but you still have to man that
48:08
gun because if you , you know
48:10
, start wallowing and you're not paying attention , you're not attentive
48:12
, down the the line , now
48:15
you're ripe for exploit , you know . So
48:17
if you're , let's look in our Christian life . If
48:19
you're not willing to accept the
48:22
reality of your situation and
48:24
then start making intelligent decisions to improve
48:26
that position based off of that reality
48:29
that you're in , then you're leaving yourself open
48:31
to be exploited by those around you . All
48:34
right , they're going to break through those now weakened
48:36
defenses because you haven't accepted
48:38
, you haven't embraced the suck and started making better decisions
48:40
.
48:41
The whole idea , though . I mean , like
48:45
you were saying , somebody going internal , which you
48:47
see a lot you also see it . When I was up in
48:49
Bridgeport right On top of that mountain
48:51
when it's freezing .
48:52
That's where
48:55
the Mountain Warfare Training Center . Where the Mountain Warfare Training
48:57
Center is , we're
48:59
training for .
48:59
Mountain Warfare for the Rain Corps . You
49:03
get so bad that you see some guys start drinking JP8
49:06
fuel just so they can get off the mountain . It's
49:10
a real thing . Coming
49:12
forward , they actually put
49:17
guards on the generators
49:19
to keep people from drinking
49:22
the fuel , so they go internal . But
49:24
the idea of going internal is really again
49:26
that that's just your
49:29
inability to submit to your situation
49:31
.
49:31
Yeah , and make better decisions . Your refusal
49:33
to submit leads you to inability to cope , yeah , so because , your refusal
49:36
to submit your refusal to submit
49:38
we do to inability to cope .
49:39
Yeah . And an inability to cope leads
49:41
to a lot of other problems .
49:42
Yeah , Because you start fighting the condition
49:45
when the condition conditions outside of your control
49:47
, and so you start doing more and more extreme
49:49
things to try and fight the condition , like
49:51
drinking fuel , right , you know ? So what
49:53
he ?
49:53
says isn't orharm . Submit
49:56
for the Lord's sake , so that you , by
49:58
doing good , you can now silence ignorant
50:00
talk right ? Yeah . Just accept it
50:02
Now . go do your best in that situation right
50:04
Make better decisions as a believer , as a man as
50:06
a woman , you know , go forward
50:09
. So
50:13
that was , as an example
50:15
gives us Christ's submission on the cross
50:17
. And then now we get to the third example , which
50:19
is now wives , submit to your husbands
50:21
. Okay . So , first , one through seven . I'm going
50:23
to read it again Now . It says , likewise
50:26
wives be subject to your own
50:28
husbands . That even if some
50:30
do not obey the word , they may
50:32
be one without a word by the conduct
50:34
of their wives . Okay . So
50:36
notice what of their wives , okay ? So notice
50:39
what it said there . Okay , wives
50:45
, submit to your own husbands , so that , even if some do not obey the word , who are not believers
50:47
, they may be one without a word , but by the conduct
50:49
of their wife . Right ? So
50:52
go back up to the main point , right
50:54
. Submit yourselves , for the
50:56
Lord's sake , to every human
50:58
authority , whether the emperor , supreme authority
51:01
, to governors , for it is God's
51:03
will that , by doing good , you should silence
51:05
the ignorant talk of foolish people . So
51:08
, live as free people , but
51:10
do not use your freedom as a cover-up
51:13
for evil . Live as
51:15
God's slaves . Your freedom as a cover-up
51:17
for evil . Live as God's slaves . So
51:23
, in other words , the problem he's addressing specifically with this is that there was a lot of women
51:25
who were becoming saved , but their husbands weren't . Now
51:29
, that's a problem in every marriage
51:33
where that dynamic is true
51:35
, where one
51:37
is a believer , one is not , I mean you
51:39
don't think about how often you
51:42
have to go back to common ground
51:44
in a marriage and
51:47
a family to build up from Raising
51:49
kids . How do I discipline the kids ? How do we
51:52
raise you know what I'm saying , absolutely kids
51:55
? How do we ? You know what I'm saying Absolutely ? The confusion that creates
51:58
a child when , well , mom's , you know mom is telling me that
52:00
Jesus is the most important thing in life
52:02
and then dad doesn't give
52:04
him a single thought in the day .
52:06
He's still at home in his pajamas watching football
52:08
while I'm here , he thinks the Steelers
52:10
are the best .
52:11
Right . So how is ? How
52:14
? Is this the most important thing ? And if it is the most
52:16
important thing , then why doesn't dad care ? And
52:19
if this is true , then why aren't we doing more
52:21
for dad and dad ? Why don't you come to church ? Now he gets
52:23
angry because he doesn't believe in it , but now he thinks
52:25
his kid hates him , or the kid goes
52:27
like I'm gonna be like dad and you can't tell me otherwise
52:29
, because dad does it right it creates so much problems
52:32
and when you're unequally yoked
52:34
in that way , right and so this
52:36
is a very real thing
52:38
, right ? Yeah , even worse within
52:40
this context is that in those days
52:43
, like it was accepted that your wife
52:45
took on the religion of your husband in
53:02
the Roman Pantheon . And let's say , you were a foreigner from Gaul or Spain or maybe
53:04
Greece and you served different gods Egypt
53:06
, persia , whatever . You had your own family , gods or
53:08
faith you two got married
53:11
. You would accept his gods
53:13
. That's how it worked . That was what was expected
53:16
, right ? So now
53:18
you find Jesus and you
53:21
say , hey , I believe there's only one God . I
53:23
believe Christ died for me . I don't
53:26
think I need your Pantheon . Not
53:28
just I don't think , I know , I don't need your Pantheon
53:30
. What does Imran
53:32
now do ? Right ? So you see how that creates
53:34
this strife , right ? So he's
53:37
going to , and also the family's probably not going to do
53:39
. Well , right , and the whole point
53:41
is saying so . You need to submit
53:43
to your husbands when they're angry about that . Yeah
53:46
Right , this is going to create issues
53:48
, but you win him over not by fighting
53:50
, but in your submission that
53:53
you can win them over , that
53:56
they may be won without a word
53:58
, but by the simple conduct of yourself . Submission
54:01
is supposed to be one
54:03
of the primary identifiers of a believer
54:06
that we submit in a
54:08
way that creates peace and joy
54:10
, that maintains unity that is full of
54:12
grace , right and joy that maintains unity that
54:14
is full of grace , right . Contentious
54:17
believers is
54:19
not a good look . That
54:22
doesn't mean there are not times that you have to stand
54:24
your ground . You plant your flag and you say , nope , I'm
54:26
sorry , there's only one God Christ is
54:29
the only way .
54:30
Yeah , you have to still be clear and concise about what you
54:32
believe . You don't submit away
54:34
from your faith .
54:36
Submission is not the same thing as compromise . Yeah , exactly
54:38
, you're not expected to compromise , but submission
54:42
in the sense that he's
54:44
not going to handle this well . But
54:46
remember , submit
54:48
yourselves , for what the
54:50
Lord's sake ? Right
54:53
, so that he may be won over
54:55
, right back to chapter
54:57
3 , that he may be won without a word
54:59
, but by the conduct of your wife or their wives
55:02
. By doing that good , mm-hmm . Right
55:04
, by doing good , we silence ignorant
55:06
talk , even if that's your own husband . Yeah
55:08
, right . Verse 2
55:11
, when they see your respectful
55:13
and pure conduct , do
55:15
not let your adorning be
55:17
excuse me , I'm sorry , there may
55:20
be one without a word , but by the conduct of
55:22
their wives , when they see your respectful and pure conduct
55:24
. Verse 3 . Do not
55:26
let your adorning be external , the
55:29
braiding of the hair and the putting on of gold jewelry
55:31
or the clothing you wear . Now
55:34
I just want to kind of pause there , right ? Because
55:47
as much as you can
55:49
apply this towards marriage , right
55:51
? Which is this is , I think , specifically talking
55:54
about a certain kind of marriage . One
55:56
of the elements that we do draw out of
55:58
this is God's heart for women , right
56:01
? Notice what he says . Women
56:03
and Selena , I'd really
56:06
love your perspective on this , but
56:10
I've
56:13
been reading this book . It's called Captivating
56:15
. I've
56:18
been reading this book . It's called Captivating . It's by so , this man , john Eldridge . He
56:20
wrote this book called Fathered by God and Wild at Heart , and
56:24
his wife wrote a book called
56:26
Captivated
56:28
. And I'm reading
56:30
it because I really would like to understand , as a man
56:33
, how to better lead
56:35
and disciple my wife and understand her , how
56:37
to better raise my daughter , how
56:40
to disciple the females and youth
56:42
. So I'm reading
56:44
this and one of the things that
56:47
a lot of good things in there but one of the things
56:49
that their premise is is that women
56:51
, part of their creation , as
56:54
they were created , was to
56:56
unveil beauty , and
56:58
you see this within women , this obsession
57:00
almost with beauty . Right , like
57:05
there's a reason that they spend hours getting ready in the morning
57:07
. I mean , imran , you don't
57:09
even have hair . You don't even have the pressure of hair .
57:11
You can be up and ready in minutes . I'm not bald
57:14
.
57:15
It was inconvenient . Like
57:18
I have a full head of hair . I was like man , twenty dollars
57:20
a week , like that's inconvenient whoop
57:22
gone . Like , like , my
57:24
wife , like on a sunday morning is , uh
57:27
, you know , far
57:29
before I am getting ready for church . I'm
57:31
up , take my shower , I'm ready , ready
57:34
to go out the door , and she's still like you
57:37
know doing her thing . And I'm like you're not even dressed , like
57:39
we got to go right , Like we're always late
57:41
, you know , and she's always the reason because
57:43
she's always .
57:45
Wow , put in your boss . I love her , for everyone
57:48
to know .
57:49
No , no , no , no , no , no , no , Because I see you . Anybody
57:51
who knows the . Brown family , and
57:53
my wife knows this to be true . This
57:56
is not a secret . It's
57:58
a , but you know , women have that , and
58:01
there's also this , that element of women
58:03
like . I know it's kind of
58:05
a stereotype , but like , like
58:07
women don't like if , if
58:10
a man and a woman are walking down and a woman's walking
58:12
, she's not looking at the man , she's looking at the woman . She's
58:15
saying how beautiful is she , How's she dressed , how is she ? You
58:17
know what I mean . They're always like comparing themselves , because
58:19
women were part of their . Their created
58:22
being was to unveil beauty . Like that is a
58:25
central element of who they are and
58:27
the function of creation , which is true
58:29
in the sense , because they were the crown of creation . I have a question
58:31
, though Would , then , of creation ?
58:32
Um , I have a question , though . Would would then maybe something
58:35
of the fall be the uh
58:37
, their lack of faith in their
58:39
own , in the beauty they've unveiled by just being
58:41
? Maybe it's like why , why
58:43
they feel compelled to compare themselves and all
58:45
that is like .
58:46
Maybe that's part of I think it's me and
58:48
my wife were actually talking about this was um , she
58:51
picked up on the fact that she was very impulsive
58:53
and that she wasn't satisfied , that women
58:56
can tend to get very like
58:58
I'm not satisfied with what I have , I'm impulsive
59:00
of something else that I don't have , and
59:04
that she went for it . I
59:12
mean , there's a couple of failures there in terms of her and her
59:14
purpose and identity , but also Adam . One
59:17
of the supreme failures of Adam was that he was passive , like men are created to be aggressive
59:19
. Right , the right way , not
59:21
in the toxic way . But yeah , we
59:23
are to be aggressive , like if
59:26
a serial killer breaks down the door . Right
59:29
, like you don't want a
59:32
passive man standing between you and that serial
59:34
killer right or a cockroach . Me
59:44
as a man is like I'm not going to be passive in a situation like that . If I die , I'm
59:46
not dying a weak , pathetic man . You're going to have to plug me full
59:48
of about 40 holes before I go down , and by that time my family
59:50
should at least have enough time to escape , right ? So
59:52
there's times for men to be physically aggressive
59:55
, but more so aggressive
59:57
towards sin , aggressive towards I'm
59:59
seeing danger in my family . I'm being
1:00:01
aggressive . I'm not going to wait for that
1:00:03
to grow . I'm going to attack that
1:00:05
immediately get that out of my house .
1:00:07
Kill culture problems , Aggressive aggressive , aggressive
1:00:10
.
1:00:10
The Supreme , what
1:00:12
made Israel unfaithful from the
1:00:14
time of Joshua , through the judges
1:00:16
, through you know , to David , um , that
1:00:19
entire time , like well , yeah , they
1:00:21
were unfaithful . What were they unfaithful in ? God
1:00:23
told them , told the men you
1:00:25
need to go fight . I told you to
1:00:27
go fight . They were passive . Yeah
1:00:29
. Right . So what you see with Adam
1:00:32
is similarly . He was passive
1:00:34
and seeing the danger of
1:00:36
his purpose and the danger to his wife
1:00:38
. He was a passive man , and so
1:00:41
you see that failure right , and you do see that with
1:00:43
Eve too , I think . but I guess I don't want
1:00:45
to get too off track on that , because my thing was is that when
1:00:52
you , when you go through like creation week , like
1:00:54
we always talk about mankind is like when you go through creation
1:00:56
week , we always talk about mankind , is like we're the epoch , we're the climax
1:00:58
of creation , male and female . Then
1:01:01
he creates man , specifically masculine
1:01:03
man and
1:01:07
you can almost say that we are the capstone , we're
1:01:09
the final piece on top
1:01:11
. But then that's not the last thing . God doesn't
1:01:13
stop there . He puts Adam into
1:01:15
his purpose . So Adam
1:01:18
has a standing relationship
1:01:20
, he's walking with God , he's living in the purpose God
1:01:22
gave him , in the place God gave him . There
1:01:25
hadn't been the fall yet . They're
1:01:27
good , right . But
1:01:29
then God still says it's not good for you to be alone , right
1:01:33
. So
1:01:37
even walking with God and living in that purpose and doing that , he says it is not good for you to
1:01:39
be here alone . So then what he does is he then takes and creates Eve out
1:01:41
of his character as well . Right , and he says
1:01:43
you need the feminine part of this Right
1:01:45
. So if men are the capstone
1:01:48
of creation , women are the crown , and
1:01:50
the whole idea , um , and even
1:01:52
within Jewish thought , was that women were the crown
1:01:55
. They were the crowns of their husband , the
1:01:57
idea being- .
1:01:59
You had to go out and pay a lot to
1:02:01
earn the right- . Oh yeah , they were expensive . Yeah , the dowry To earn
1:02:03
the right to marry . Well , they're still expensive but like- .
1:02:06
They're expensive because the concept is easy .
1:02:08
The process of going out , because we had the episode
1:02:10
on marriage and that process to
1:02:13
go out , and you literally
1:02:15
present an offer to her father , like
1:02:18
to of sheep , cow
1:02:20
land , like whatever you have to
1:02:22
hopefully earn the opportunity
1:02:25
to marry , right , you know ? I
1:02:27
mean , we still have that with like engagement ring no
1:02:30
, I mean like , but I don't have to go to your family and
1:02:32
say , well , I have all , have this
1:02:34
home , this job , and then convince
1:02:36
your family to give me permission . You
1:02:39
know , I did have that conversation with her family
1:02:41
.
1:02:41
I was going to say kind of .
1:02:44
But it's like , but plenty of people don't do that . They
1:02:46
just , you know , let's get hitched . You
1:02:48
know that culture is there .
1:02:50
But the idea , though within , even like Jewish , thought
1:02:52
, right was that , sorry , I keep distracting
1:02:54
from the question . What
1:03:02
was the question ? Men are the foundation , in a sense of like we're
1:03:04
, we're the solid ground .
1:03:05
Women are the crown . Their wives are what make it beautiful .
1:03:06
Yeah , um , without a woman , a man is just an
1:03:08
ugly , stable rock , right , and so
1:03:11
so kind of understanding in terms of like , how the way
1:03:13
they always viewed that in terms of creation . But woman
1:03:15
was the last thing , the last creative
1:03:18
act God made . He said all
1:03:20
has been built , but it's not good for
1:03:23
you to be by yourself . Let me put your crown
1:03:25
on you and he gives them his wife . So
1:03:27
, like women were supposed to be the
1:03:29
adorning of their husband , Do you think the
1:03:31
garden was not beautiful without Adam
1:03:34
?
1:03:35
I think everything was named .
1:03:36
I mean without Eve .
1:03:37
Everything was named and probably very organized .
1:03:39
I don't think life was beautiful without
1:03:41
Eve . I think there
1:03:44
is a longing
1:03:46
and a seeking that
1:03:48
wasn't being filled within
1:03:51
Adam at that time . That's why God says it's not good for you
1:03:53
to be alone . I'm preaching on this actually in June
1:03:55
, when I'm preaching on shepherding your youth
1:03:57
, um , and we're going to talk about a little
1:03:59
more about the Hebrew . That's behind
1:04:01
this , but that's like a whole nother episode of
1:04:03
this .
1:04:04
Okay .
1:04:04
But what's the question ? What's the question ? Well , I was just going to ask
1:04:06
you , like , in terms of the beauty
1:04:08
, right , like , would you agree with that
1:04:10
statement that women
1:04:13
kind of get obsessive with it more so than
1:04:15
men ?
1:04:15
I agree .
1:04:18
Do you feel like it's a longing within you that , like you always feel
1:04:20
like you have to prove your beauty or have to unveil
1:04:23
beauty wherever you go ?
1:04:25
Not really . I actually appreciate
1:04:27
the simplicity . We
1:04:32
had this conversation on Saturday with the men's breakfast . I'm like , wow , I love that
1:04:34
the men just get together and
1:04:36
bring food and fellowship . That's
1:04:38
amazing and and
1:04:40
for me I feel like women's
1:04:43
ministry it makes it really complicated
1:04:45
where you have to get there and
1:04:47
make the entire
1:04:49
decorations , the decorations , the crafts like
1:04:52
you have to make the breakfast beautiful . This is my point , that's
1:04:54
my point he's beautiful . This is my point , that's my point
1:04:57
.
1:04:57
Yeah , that's making
1:04:59
my point , do you agree ?
1:05:00
with the premise that women
1:05:02
are . I see that beauty . Yeah , there's
1:05:04
a thing that they say as a woman when
1:05:06
you guys plan this is what I heard .
1:05:08
I heard it bothers you . You guys are kind of a weird
1:05:10
couple though we are , we're opposites yeah
1:05:13
, you are Generally speaking , though most women
1:05:15
don't let men plan the wedding .
1:05:17
I didn't want a wedding .
1:05:18
She didn't even want a wedding .
1:05:19
I know , I know we had this , I'm saying you guys are weird , but most
1:05:21
my wife did not let me .
1:05:24
She's like you can go carry
1:05:26
the heavy things right , because
1:05:28
women want to unveil that beauty .
1:05:30
There's a thing about when I would plan the wrong
1:05:32
person to ask yeah , do you remember ? Like
1:05:35
even .
1:05:35
Tuesday when we , uh , tuesday night Bible study , we
1:05:37
had a , uh , we did one of those fellowship
1:05:39
potluck nights and like there
1:05:42
was just a few women in the church that , like Amy Biggles
1:05:44
came up and she was , um , you know my wife
1:05:46
. And then there was , there was just a Trissa , there
1:05:48
was a few of them . They're like so Valentine's
1:05:51
day we said , instead of doing the Bible study , we're just going to have like
1:05:53
a little Valentine's potluck for everybody
1:05:55
, because we already have child care and all that . And they're
1:05:57
like well , are you ? You have
1:05:59
decorations . And I was like no
1:06:02
decorations , no . Like
1:06:04
I was like I got a table and like there's just
1:06:06
like this white
1:06:08
table out , like that's where they could put their stuff
1:06:10
and we can eat . And she's like I
1:06:12
thought so and she came with this bag nice
1:06:14
, she came with this bag .
1:06:15
Nice , she came prepared , understanding .
1:06:17
She's like man . Step aside , let
1:06:19
the woman unveil the beauty . Right , and she made it beautiful
1:06:21
and it looked great right .
1:06:24
I will say as one who sees all
1:06:26
the pictures from the women's events and the men's events
1:06:28
, because we do a lot of social media stuff . The
1:06:31
women's events are beautiful
1:06:33
. They are , they are , and
1:06:35
a lot of it is also teaching beautiful
1:06:38
things as well . It's
1:06:43
like the older generation is passing on this unique skill about some aspect of making something beautiful
1:06:45
to the next generation
1:06:47
of women , and I think that that's awesome as well , unveiling beauty
1:06:49
to the world and unveiling beauty
1:06:52
Compared to the men's event , where we literally went shooting
1:06:54
just took all our guns and went out to a random place and just shot . Compared to the men's event
1:06:56
, where we literally went shooting Right , just took all our guns , just went shooting and went out to a random place and just shot . And
1:06:58
then the other major event we did are the potlucks
1:07:00
, where we just Eat food . Put tables outside
1:07:02
Barbecue Eat food . Show up , eat the food . It
1:07:04
was before your time .
1:07:05
We used to have axe throwing stations out there
1:07:10
. Wow , it doesn't matter that
1:07:12
got secured . But
1:07:18
it was a great men's event . But
1:07:24
the point being , though , is that , generally speaking , like her , premise is that women want to unveil beauty
1:07:26
, and I think what's interesting here watch what it says . Do
1:07:28
not let your adorning so
1:07:30
you women as the crowns right
1:07:33
. Do not let your adorning
1:07:35
your crowns be external the
1:07:37
braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry or
1:07:39
the clothes you wear right . Don't make this
1:07:41
materialistic . Don't make it about
1:07:44
your fashion . Don't make it about that's
1:07:46
not what the real crown in
1:07:48
your value and worth is . What
1:07:50
does he say ? But let your adorning
1:07:52
your crown be the hidden person of the heart
1:07:54
, with the imperishable beauty
1:07:57
of a gentle and quiet
1:07:59
spirit which is , in God's sight , very precious
1:08:02
. For this is how
1:08:04
the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn
1:08:06
themselves by submitting
1:08:08
to their own husbands , as
1:08:12
Sarah obeyed Abraham , calling him Lord
1:08:14
, and you are her children , and
1:08:16
if you do good and do not fear anything
1:08:19
, that is frightening . In
1:08:22
other words , you have to understand . For
1:08:25
Sarah to call Abraham Lord
1:08:27
, right , everyone's like oh , so I have to call my husband
1:08:29
Lord , like . That's not what he is saying . What
1:08:32
he is saying is that Abraham was
1:08:34
given a promise by God , and she
1:08:37
said I'm too old , so you better just
1:08:39
go take my servant , go sleep with her , go fulfill
1:08:42
God's promise to you through
1:08:44
this young servant of mine , cause
1:08:46
, god , I have no place in God's promise
1:08:49
. And Abraham , like an idiot , instead
1:08:51
of reaffirming his wife in
1:08:53
the same promise as him , says okay
1:08:56
and goes and does it , yeah , right
1:08:58
, um , then of course that's Ishmael
1:09:00
, and then of course she freaks out . We've talked about this
1:09:02
before . Right , sends the boy and Hagar
1:09:05
away and you have the first single mother in the Bible
1:09:07
, first single mother in the Bible . And you keep so
1:09:09
understanding like Abraham
1:09:11
was called righteous cause he walked by faith , but he was also
1:09:13
an idiot , and Sarah
1:09:16
called him Lord . She knew
1:09:19
he was an idiot , right , even
1:09:27
when it takes him up to sacrifice him on a mountain , she's like that's my Lord
1:09:29
, that donkey up there . You know what I mean , the idea being
1:09:31
is that what made her beautiful
1:09:33
? Because Sarah had a lot of failures in that too ? Is that
1:09:36
what made her beautiful ? Because Sarah had
1:09:38
a lot of failures in that too ? But
1:09:40
for her , is that she , by calling Abraham Lord , was the idea that she submitted to
1:09:42
him and things because she disagreed with him . You
1:09:45
see what I'm saying Like we missed the point
1:09:47
. We
1:09:49
missed the point . So
1:09:52
if you do good and do not fear anything
1:09:54
, though that is frightening . But then it says this likewise
1:09:56
, husbands , we always have to stop
1:09:58
at verse six Husbands
1:10:01
, live with your wives in
1:10:03
an understanding way , showing
1:10:05
honor to the woman as the
1:10:07
weaker vessel , since they are heirs
1:10:09
with you of the grace of life
1:10:11
, so that your prayers may not be hindered
1:10:14
. So again , this is one of those right
1:10:16
Like our target text here , even when
1:10:18
it seems to go to the men , it seems to be very , almost
1:10:20
derogatory towards women . You
1:10:22
know like you need to be considerate of those
1:10:25
weaker vessels , right ? That
1:10:27
is not it . And this is one of , I think , the things that
1:10:29
is very heartbreaking about this verse
1:10:31
, because that verse is also supposed
1:10:34
to be very uplifting of women and
1:10:36
it's been changed . People get
1:10:38
offended by it , people don't like talking about it , they
1:10:40
don't want to even study it because I think they're afraid
1:10:42
of what it means . This is meant
1:10:44
to be very uplifting of women
1:10:47
. So let me break it down Husbands
1:10:50
, live with your wives in an
1:10:52
understanding way , showing
1:10:55
honor to her . So
1:10:57
you are to live as if , try
1:11:00
to understand her to the best of your ability Be
1:11:02
considerate , showing her
1:11:04
honor , you are to honor her . It
1:11:06
is not very honoring to your wife if
1:11:09
, particularly in public , you
1:11:11
just the way you treat her is dismissive
1:11:14
. Woman , stand behind me . Hey
1:11:17
, stop speaking . Stop speaking . Right Men
1:11:19
are talking . Oh there's the cars . Oh , randy , right
1:11:21
, like that is honor
1:11:23
your wife . Yeah , ele . Oh there's cigars . Oh , randy right . Like honor your wife .
1:11:25
Yeah , elevate her Honor Christ .
1:11:27
How do we honor Christ ? How do we honor what does honor
1:11:29
mean ? Exactly what you said Elevate
1:11:32
Right . Look , boys
1:11:34
, if you don't like my wife speaking
1:11:36
at this dinner table , we're both out . Yeah
1:11:39
Right , we're done . Support
1:11:42
empower . You
1:11:45
know what I'm right , we're done , support , empower . You know I'm saying like that
1:11:47
. You honor her among everybody else , honor her with your friends within , at work , um , and
1:11:49
whatever you're doing , you honor your wife .
1:11:51
Yeah um , one of the things that really
1:11:54
for the how right
1:11:56
it really you have to know
1:11:58
, right . So you need to know your wife
1:12:00
in order to be able to effectively honor her
1:12:02
. If you don't know what her dreams , her aspirations
1:12:04
, her goals , her desires are , how are
1:12:06
you going to be able to elevate her in those
1:12:08
things you know , how are you going to be able
1:12:10
to support her in those things ? So , uh
1:12:13
, like , first off , if you're , if
1:12:15
, if you're , if you think
1:12:17
your dreams and your wife's dreams are the same dreams
1:12:19
, then you haven't communicated effectively
1:12:22
, you know , with your wife . So
1:12:24
first you need to listen and ask
1:12:26
those questions so that you can actually
1:12:28
do these things of elevating
1:12:30
her and honoring her , you
1:12:33
know .
1:12:33
So I , yeah , and but
1:12:36
, but this is the piece that gets people right , so
1:12:38
we were to honor her . She'll honor to the woman
1:12:41
as the weaker vessel
1:12:43
. Okay , weaker vessel
1:12:45
, um , let's
1:12:48
just kind of break that down , okay , um
1:12:50
, first , weaker . When
1:12:52
we think of weak , we always , you know
1:12:54
, weak like um
1:12:57
. What do we mean by weak ? The
1:13:00
adjective there
1:13:02
for weaker is more , in the sense , delicate
1:13:04
right , oh interesting . As
1:13:07
the more delicate vessel . Now , you could
1:13:09
then say well , delicate is weak . That's
1:13:11
your cultural appropriation on something right
1:13:14
. Why is
1:13:16
delicate weak right
1:13:20
? Men and women , again , were
1:13:22
both created in God's image . Men and women again
1:13:24
, were both created in God's image . Women who could be more delicate
1:13:27
, whether that's emotionally , whether that is in
1:13:29
terms of sensitivity , whatever that may be
1:13:31
. Physically , we're not just talking
1:13:33
about muscles . Right , Women , they have
1:13:35
smaller muscles . That's
1:13:38
not what he's saying . Delicacy means
1:13:40
the fact that they're sensitive , the fact
1:13:42
that they want to unveil
1:13:45
beauty to the world , the fact that they want
1:13:47
to be romanced . That
1:13:49
delicacy tells us something about the heart of God
1:13:51
.
1:13:52
You want to know something God has that delicacy
1:13:54
, hold on .
1:13:57
Yeah .
1:13:57
God is such a great woman .
1:13:57
If women want to be romanced and that's at the core
1:13:59
of every one of them as a
1:14:01
supreme desire of women they want to be romanced . They
1:14:09
want to be pursued . Right , that means God wants to be romanced . He wants to be pursued . He doesn't want
1:14:11
to . He's going to pursue you with all his heart , but he wants you to pursue him . He's romantic
1:14:13
, right , he is somebody when
1:14:15
we sing worship songs is sentimental
1:14:18
to him . Right , it's romantic to him
1:14:20
. He wants you to pursue him
1:14:22
. He wants you to be romantic to him
1:14:24
. When you see , well
1:14:26
, she's
1:14:32
just being overly dramatic , overly emotional . No , maybe what that's telling you about the character
1:14:34
of God is that he's emotional . That may be because you don't think it's a big deal
1:14:36
. You're not as angry , you're not as upset , you're
1:14:39
not as sensitive . That shows that God is sensitive
1:14:41
to it . You're not sensitive to it because
1:14:43
you took the masculine form of him . She
1:14:47
is teaching you the feminine image of
1:14:49
God , that God is sensitive to
1:14:51
things like that , and I just
1:14:53
have to finish this because I've noticed this
1:14:55
so much .
1:14:56
How emotional is God to send
1:14:58
his son to die for us , like ? How
1:15:00
much emotion is required to even do something like
1:15:02
that ? That's not a logical
1:15:04
response , that's an emotional
1:15:07
charged response , you know .
1:15:09
But to continue with your example , Right
1:15:11
, because he's also very sensitive to sin . You
1:15:13
see this in the inverse in certain regards
1:15:15
. Right , like , okay , so you commit adultery
1:15:18
. What did the law say ? Because the law
1:15:20
is the heart of God , stone him , kill him
1:15:22
, yeah , well , that seems like the heart
1:15:24
of God , then why ? He's just being overly
1:15:26
emotional , isn't he ? He's
1:15:28
taking the woman's side there , right ? Yeah , or
1:15:36
that's what he's telling you , is he's showing
1:15:38
you the sensitivity and how serious he takes sin . Right ? This is
1:15:40
how I treat . I'm this sensitive to sin . You think adultery is bad
1:15:42
, but you don't think it's worth stoning someone over . I'm
1:15:44
telling you , this is how serious and
1:15:47
sensitive I am to sin
1:15:49
. It's worse than you think it is , and
1:15:51
that's often what
1:15:55
I learned from my wife . Sorry
1:15:57
, I'm from the wrong camera . What
1:16:04
I learned from my wife in our marriage is that there's a lot of situations
1:16:06
that are bigger deals than I see
1:16:08
them as . Like I don't see why
1:16:11
is that a big deal , like they shouldn't be upset by that , and
1:16:13
she's like no , it's a big deal . And
1:16:15
she'll expose . She has that discernment , she
1:16:17
has that element that
1:16:20
benefits our marriage , that benefits our ministry
1:16:22
, that I lack God's emotional
1:16:24
sensitivity , so she's more delicate
1:16:26
and aware of certain things that I'm not
1:16:28
. That's not a weakness , that is
1:16:30
strength , yeah Right . That reinforces
1:16:33
my mission as a man , right
1:16:35
, it is very beneficial for me to
1:16:38
have my wife with me and all that , yeah
1:16:40
Right . So we're talking
1:16:42
delicacy . I want to hit a quick point . All that , yeah Right , um , so
1:16:44
we're talking delicacy .
1:16:45
I want to hit a quick point . So we uh I'm not going to say their names , but we
1:16:47
have this uh youth couple in
1:16:49
the church , um , that's . That's fascinating
1:16:52
to me , because the man in
1:16:54
this relationship , um , has a history
1:16:56
of just such anger , um
1:16:59
and
1:17:05
bouts of just kind of fits of rage that he's been
1:17:07
working through over the over , like probably his entire life . But the girl that
1:17:09
he's with now is
1:17:11
, um , very strong-willed but also
1:17:14
very delicate and very girly um
1:17:16
and how she , how she carries herself . And
1:17:19
so I kind of saw a culmination of
1:17:21
uh their relationship
1:17:23
on Sunday because
1:17:25
she had made him this
1:17:28
um hat that was
1:17:30
like a little , had little bear ears
1:17:32
on it . It was super cute . And
1:17:34
so I walk up onto the
1:17:36
uh you know the into the sound booth and I see
1:17:38
him sitting there . He's got kind of this this uh
1:17:41
almost like a mean mugging
1:17:43
face on , as he's wearing this hat
1:17:45
and she's playing with the ears
1:17:47
on his head . And I
1:17:50
saw that and I looked at him and I was like this is why
1:17:52
men need women , because
1:17:54
this is going to make you a better
1:17:56
man , and it's also why men need daughters .
1:18:01
I've never felt more like a man than
1:18:04
letting my daughter paint
1:18:06
my toenails and put
1:18:09
makeup . She still does it . She's like can I do your
1:18:11
hair and do your makeup ? Sure .
1:18:13
Yeah , right , I remember you saw the one pink
1:18:15
nail .
1:18:17
I don't hate it because I actually adore it . What
1:18:19
I hate is makeup Like
1:18:21
I don't know how you women do it , but you just
1:18:23
feel it . You feel the weight on your face . You
1:18:25
try to get it off , it doesn't come off and then it's like you
1:18:28
start breaking out because it's your clog
1:18:30
. Your pores are all clogged , like I'm like , why do they do
1:18:32
this ? This is awful , besides the point Um
1:18:34
, but yeah , that's . That's why we need we need women
1:18:37
, right ?
1:18:37
When I said that to him , though , he kind of
1:18:39
broken this like half grin and I I
1:18:42
don't know if he got it , but it looked like he
1:18:44
kind of something clicked in his head . It's like this is . This
1:18:46
is why you need her . So the other
1:18:48
piece she's making you better .
1:18:50
Weaker means delicate . Right
1:18:52
, it's a delicate , but that doesn't mean
1:18:55
worse . That's what men
1:18:57
need , right ? And
1:18:59
women don't need another
1:19:01
delicate person . They need what
1:19:04
a man brings which is more of the stronger
1:19:06
foundation , who is so oblivious
1:19:09
to some of that reality that she's like , hey
1:19:11
, knucklehead , come here , let me explain to you what's going
1:19:13
on . Right , you
1:19:15
need each other , right ? So
1:19:17
he's saying as the delicate vessel . But
1:19:19
notice , it says vessel , your said partner
1:19:22
, and this is what you got to be careful
1:19:24
with Bible translations , because it
1:19:26
is not partner . It's nowhere close to partner
1:19:28
is that word . The word in
1:19:30
Greek is vessel . But it's not
1:19:32
just vessel , it's not just like
1:19:34
a container , right , what
1:19:36
it actually annotates ? Think
1:19:39
about like a , think
1:19:42
about an irreable
1:19:44
, like family heirloom . Think
1:19:47
about like great grandma's China
1:19:49
. It's delicate and
1:19:51
it's one of a kind , it's valuable
1:19:54
and it's irreplaceable . Okay
1:19:57
, that's the vessel he's talking about . He's
1:19:59
saying she is delicate . He's essentially
1:20:01
saying , men , for the purpose to which
1:20:03
you serve , you better be very considerate
1:20:06
and understanding of your wife's perspective , because
1:20:08
she is like that irreplaceable
1:20:11
, invaluable
1:20:13
, delicate family
1:20:17
heirloom , that china that
1:20:19
if you are not careful and you break that , you
1:20:22
can't replace , that , you can never put it back together . You can
1:20:24
never put it back together . You can't replace it . There's
1:20:26
there's nothing there . Um
1:20:28
, there's no replacement for that . Everybody
1:20:31
just thinks like , oh okay , well , this wife's not working
1:20:33
, let me just go put another one there . That's not how that
1:20:35
works , right . Everybody uniquely
1:20:38
provides their own value . Your wife brings
1:20:40
uniquely immense value
1:20:42
to you . Um I
1:20:45
that you need to be very careful and appreciative
1:20:47
of how she handles
1:20:49
and is able to support you in
1:20:51
your mission . If you truly care
1:20:54
about doing God's will in your
1:20:56
life and being submissive to
1:20:58
what he is telling you to do , then
1:21:00
you should very much care about your wife's
1:21:02
perspective . If you don't care about that
1:21:05
, then now all
1:21:07
the delicacy and all the you know , emotion
1:21:09
and drama and all that intuition
1:21:12
that women bring , that annoy men because we don't understand
1:21:14
it , because it's not us . But
1:21:16
it's completely necessary , but it's completely within
1:21:18
the image of God right that we need
1:21:20
to do what we need to do to be
1:21:22
in God's will . But if I don't care about God's
1:21:25
will , then that stuff that is valuable
1:21:27
to me just now just becomes annoying , right
1:21:30
. And you start seeing that like , okay , you're just , you're just
1:21:32
being dramatic . Why do you have to be dramatic about everything ? It's like
1:21:34
, well , maybe if she's being dramatic about everything
1:21:36
, you're not listening .
1:21:38
Yeah , You're missing .
1:21:39
You're not paying attention and you're not operating
1:21:41
within God's will because you're only doing this half-heartedly
1:21:44
right now . There's this whole other element that you
1:21:46
need to fully dive into doing
1:21:49
what you need to do . So I'm
1:21:51
sorry , women , I
1:21:54
can't relieve you of the
1:21:56
expectation that you have to submit
1:21:58
to your husbands . However here
1:22:01
Peter is talking you need
1:22:03
to be very considerate of them and the immeasurable
1:22:05
value they bring . You
1:22:10
would not take your great-grandma's
1:22:13
china and
1:22:15
then use those cups
1:22:17
to let
1:22:20
the toddlers drink out of .
1:22:21
Yeah , let the dog drink out of you know what I'm saying
1:22:23
.
1:22:24
You don't do that . You treat that with high
1:22:26
value , you protect it , you keep it safe
1:22:28
, you treasure it , right yeah ?
1:22:30
That's how you're supposed to approach your wife . You also don't hide
1:22:32
it away in a box , because
1:22:35
you're ruining the value of it as well .
1:22:39
No , it's an adorning . Yeah , most people
1:22:41
have a china cabinet . If they have that kind of china , it
1:22:44
is there for right . It's the adorning
1:22:46
of her husband . Right , she is to bring
1:22:48
that beauty there it's a crown . So
1:22:52
there's , but then I want to kind of touch this
1:22:54
though . Okay , so now I get to get a little . This
1:22:58
gets a little . See
1:23:00
the unpopular part out loud , controversial
1:23:03
. No , well
1:23:06
, I've made it this far Before I
1:23:08
hit that women
1:23:11
have to submit to their husbands , husbands
1:23:14
have to submit to their wives . So
1:23:18
we always go to Ephesians 5
1:23:20
, right , men , love
1:23:23
your wives as Christ loved the church . Wives
1:23:25
submit to your husband the way he submitted
1:23:28
himself . So we always set this kind of expectation
1:23:30
Men are there to love their wives , wives
1:23:33
are there to submit to their husbands . Right , that
1:23:37
that's Ephesians what ? 521
1:23:40
. Back up one verse . Okay
1:23:43
, back up one verse . You
1:23:47
guys going to it now . I actually didn't have it written down .
1:23:49
Ephesians what ?
1:23:50
Chapter five .
1:23:51
Yep Ephesians , I'm on two , three , four
1:23:53
, five what 21 .
1:23:55
What does Ephesians 21 say ?
1:23:59
Well , I'll read 22 . Wives , submit
1:24:01
yourselves to your own husbands as
1:24:03
you do to the Lord . Verse
1:24:05
21 , submit to one
1:24:07
another out of reverence for Christ
1:24:09
. Boom , okay . And then for 23 as
1:24:12
well . No , no , no , you don't have to worry about that , because you've already made
1:24:14
my point .
1:24:15
Yeah , wives , submit to your husband
1:24:17
, right , we take that back
1:24:19
up one verse . What is the actual expectation
1:24:21
?
1:24:21
to one another .
1:24:31
Husbands are equally to submit to their wives , as wives are expected to submit to their husbands
1:24:33
. And , um , so let me say the unpopular part . Okay , why then , over and over
1:24:36
, do we keep seeing wives
1:24:39
being called to submit to their husbands in scripture , if
1:24:43
the expectations that we submit to each other Okay
1:24:46
, so so let's just start there . Okay
1:24:49
, if Emran
1:24:51
is expected to submit to you as much as you
1:24:53
are to expect it to submit to him , right
1:24:56
, then why is it constantly
1:24:58
coming and saying Selena , you need to submit to Emran
1:25:00
, selena , you need to submit to Emran . You
1:25:04
see what I'm saying ?
1:25:04
It's probably because you're not you
1:25:07
see what I'm saying . I think it's probably because that's what you're going to struggle
1:25:09
with . There you go , and
1:25:12
this is the unpopular part .
1:25:13
I've said this before about men , so let me start there
1:25:15
, just so I can keep this fair . Okay , I
1:25:27
think that if God didn't tell men to be the spiritual leaders of their home , they wouldn't be
1:25:29
, because I think women make them more natural spiritual leaders . Yeah , men are uh , women are far more
1:25:31
relational than men . That's part of that , that , that that delicacy that they , they possess within
1:25:33
that , that piece . I see this all the time
1:25:35
in church . You see , it doesn't
1:25:37
even matter . Like young women , right ? Like
1:25:39
20 years old , 21 years old . They're
1:25:42
like dragging their boyfriends to church by the ear . Absolutely
1:25:44
, absolutely . Families nope , get
1:25:47
in the car . We're going to church as a family . You see
1:25:49
women as the natural leaders .
1:25:50
I feel like Natural spiritual
1:25:52
leaders , natural spiritual leaders in the home . Yeah , so if God
1:25:54
didn't tell men , and men want to lead in , everything else Right
1:25:57
, except ?
1:25:57
spiritually . If God did not tell men
1:25:59
to lead your home spiritually , they would
1:26:01
not . It would be women . So he says
1:26:03
you need to step up . You need to do this right . It's
1:26:05
actually adding your weakness that I'm giving you that
1:26:08
charge . So likewise
1:26:10
. So if that's true , then I think
1:26:12
the reason why you see , often
1:26:15
the command for wives to submit to their husbands
1:26:17
is because I think women struggle with submission more
1:26:19
than men do , and I think you see
1:26:21
that a lot with women's interactions to each
1:26:23
other do
1:26:27
, and I think you see that a lot with women's interactions to each other , um
1:26:29
, I think and of course this is not true of everyone I think everybody has to grow
1:26:31
into learning submission . Um
1:26:34
, I don't think women also realize how much men
1:26:36
actually submit to women . Um , and
1:26:38
this is what I mean , like , submission
1:26:40
comes in the little things right
1:26:43
. Like all men , even
1:26:45
if your marriage is , you
1:26:47
feel like falling apart . If
1:26:50
I were to go ask that man , would
1:26:53
you take a bullet for your wife
1:26:57
, every one of them ? Yes , absolutely , I would
1:26:59
die for my wife , even with our marriage
1:27:01
falling apart . I would be faithful
1:27:04
in that regard . I would , um , I
1:27:06
would absolutely do that Submit
1:27:09
to that fate for my wife . And the
1:27:11
big things Submission
1:27:13
comes in the little things , right . Um
1:27:15
, the game's on . You've had a long day
1:27:17
at work , you're tired , you just want
1:27:19
to relax , and then , hey , can you come take the
1:27:22
trash out ? And then , when you're done with that . Can
1:27:24
you go do this honey-do list ? Okay
1:27:26
, will do , and
1:27:29
you see , that's the mission . Yeah , do
1:27:32
you think men just love doing your honey-to-do list ? You
1:27:34
guys know what I'm saying Honey-do list .
1:27:35
I don't know what that is A honey-do list . Honey
1:27:38
can you do , and they like
1:27:40
.
1:27:40
You know they'll make a list of things I
1:27:42
need you to do . It's
1:27:51
unfathomable to me to ever make a list of chores to give to my wife . You know
1:27:54
what I mean . How that ? Would go . I'm just
1:27:56
saying like . I
1:27:58
know it's not . I'm just being honest . I'm trying
1:28:00
to be honest and maybe I'm wrong , but
1:28:04
it's very clear that husbands are
1:28:06
to submit to their wives , wives are to submit
1:28:08
to their husbands . Why
1:28:11
are ? wives being called out for not submitting to their husbands
1:28:13
, probably because they struggle with it more . Likewise
1:28:17
, men get called out more for not loving
1:28:19
their wives properly their
1:28:21
way . You see what I'm saying . So
1:28:23
you see this . Where so
1:28:25
our wives not expected to love their husbands ? Of
1:28:27
course they are . Wives don't have a hard
1:28:29
time loving their loving their husbands their husband's
1:28:32
way . Men have a hard time loving their
1:28:34
wives their wife's way , right
1:28:36
? Similarly , men probably
1:28:38
do a little bit better with submission to their wives , and wives
1:28:40
do in submitting to their husbands , so it's called out more
1:28:42
right Like submission to their wives . And wives do in submitting to their husbands , so it's called
1:28:45
out more right Like um , that's a pretty simple explanation
1:28:47
, because the most of the Bible is written
1:28:49
that way .
1:28:50
Um , like Paul wouldn't call out
1:28:52
um the Galatians
1:28:54
for their um , their
1:28:57
issues with submissions , with the uh , with
1:29:00
all the sexual debauchery that was
1:29:02
going on . Um , he wouldn't
1:29:04
call them out the way that he did if it wasn't an issue .
1:29:06
Like he just was talking about something else . Ephesians in particular
1:29:08
. Specific context of Ephesians
1:29:10
and the Ephesus church is that they had the
1:29:13
temple of Artemis there . I mean , it was one of the seventh
1:29:15
wonders of the world .
1:29:17
Oh , I might be thinking of Ephesians and not .
1:29:19
Ephesus yeah , yeah , so from there
1:29:22
, like that was a very sexually free society
1:29:24
. If you grew up in that culture and you weren't a believer
1:29:27
, you were sleeping with prostitutes , probably
1:29:29
since you were old enough .
1:29:31
To sleep with prostitutes Right .
1:29:33
And it wasn't frowned upon , it was celebrated , it
1:29:39
was encouraged being able to go choose
1:29:41
any one of you know a , a
1:29:44
gorgeous prostitute of
1:29:46
of of art and one of Artemis's
1:29:48
priestesses , to go sleep with Right
1:29:50
, and even if it's like , well , I belong to
1:29:52
Christ . I don't really believe in Artemis , but I still
1:29:55
have this free act . You know what I'm saying . Yeah . So
1:29:57
husbands , go , love your
1:29:59
wife the way Christ loved us . Stop
1:30:02
that nonsense . Because of that
1:30:04
, also with that culture , there was almost this hyper-feminism
1:30:06
in Ephesus because seventh
1:30:08
wonder of the world , goddess , artemis , priestesses
1:30:11
, the religious authority , were women , right
1:30:14
? So there was almost just like we are in
1:30:16
charge here , right ? He's like no , start
1:30:18
submitting to your husbands . So the point being
1:30:20
is that for both
1:30:22
the expectations you both submit , and
1:30:25
the expectation for both is that you're supposed
1:30:27
to make it easy for your spouse to
1:30:29
submit to you . Yeah . It becomes
1:30:31
much harder to submit
1:30:33
to your spouse when certain
1:30:36
behavior right is
1:30:38
there , and maybe the reason
1:30:40
wives have a harder time
1:30:42
submitting to their husbands is because husbands
1:30:45
don't make it as easy to submit to as
1:30:47
wives make it for us to submit
1:30:49
to them . You see what I'm saying . So
1:30:51
even just because it may be calling that
1:30:53
out specifically doesn't mean that there's not an underlying cause
1:30:55
of that either . You know what I'm saying ? Both
1:30:58
are expected to submit to one
1:31:00
another .
1:31:00
Yeah , because your wife's not going to submit to your debauchery . Your
1:31:02
wife's not going to submit to your sin . Your
1:31:05
wife's not going to submit to your sin . Your wife's not going to submit to your chaos . So it's like
1:31:07
if you're leading poorly , then
1:31:09
don't expect willful submission
1:31:12
. She may , in her maturity , submit
1:31:15
to create
1:31:17
peace and to hopefully change you over time and
1:31:19
do all the things that we talked about in
1:31:22
Peter , but at the
1:31:24
same time , of course , she'll be combative
1:31:26
if you're leading in an un-Christlike
1:31:29
way . It's like
1:31:31
God doesn't say lead your household however you want , you're supposed
1:31:33
to lead it in God's
1:31:35
way , and you both
1:31:37
mean within submission of Christ right . Yeah .
1:31:40
So kind of wrap this up then . So
1:31:43
one to the point . Right , this
1:31:45
isn't your proof text of model of marriage
1:31:47
in the sense that , like
1:31:51
Peter's point was to the larger
1:31:53
main point , which was what .
1:31:56
Submit to the emperor .
1:31:58
Well , we'll submit to
1:32:00
all human authority for the
1:32:03
Lord's sake , right ? So the first
1:32:05
thing , why should we submit ? It's
1:32:07
all for the Lord's sake and for our
1:32:09
witness to the world . Right Submission
1:32:12
is for Jesus . So
1:32:16
let's say you're like , hey , well
1:32:18
, you talked about it . My husband , my wife
1:32:20
is not easy to submit to Right
1:32:22
, so they're one of those that make it very difficult
1:32:25
to . So you know , god understands that
1:32:27
, he sees that he , he's fair
1:32:29
, right . What is this
1:32:31
actual point ? Say Submit to all
1:32:34
human authority , for the Lord's sake
1:32:36
. You're not submitting
1:32:38
to your spouse just for your spouse's
1:32:40
sake , you're submitting to your spouse
1:32:42
for Jesus's sake . So
1:32:47
in other words , in submitting to your spouse , you're
1:32:49
submitting to Christ To rebel
1:32:51
against that and not submit to your spouse
1:32:53
. You are then rebelling and not submitting to
1:32:55
Christ . Does
1:32:57
that make sense ? A slave is not
1:33:00
really submitting to their master . A slave is submitting
1:33:02
to Jesus right
1:33:04
To go . Submit to their master , harsh or not
1:33:06
, they're not submitting to their master , they're submitting
1:33:08
to Christ For
1:33:11
a free . People are not submitting
1:33:13
to an emperor , they are submitting to Christ . Wives
1:33:16
are not submitting to their husbands , they're submitting to
1:33:18
Christ . Husbands are not submitting
1:33:20
to their wives , they are submitting to Christ
1:33:22
and I think that kind of central
1:33:24
piece right All the things that scripture
1:33:27
tells Christians to be submissive
1:33:29
to government . Right
1:33:32
, paul and Romans be
1:33:34
submissive to government , be submissive in your marriage , be
1:33:37
submissive to your boss and
1:33:39
those authorities . Right Like over
1:33:41
and over and over . This is a concept . In
1:33:43
other words , if you could say it this way show
1:33:46
me I can show you your submission
1:33:48
to Christ based off who I see you
1:33:50
submit to Right
1:33:52
. Show me your submission to other people . I can
1:33:54
show you how submitted over you are to Christ
1:33:57
, because that's what he's told you to do .
1:33:59
It's out of obedience .
1:34:01
And ultimate submission to him . Yeah Right
1:34:04
, obedience and ultimate submission to him . Right
1:34:06
, like I have a few . If you love me , what
1:34:08
does he say ? Then go love each other
1:34:10
, right ? If
1:34:12
you love me , go feed my sheep . If
1:34:14
you submit to me , then you need to submit to each other
1:34:16
and all the other worldly authorities . If you
1:34:18
belong to me , then go be holy , for I am
1:34:20
holy . In other words , on
1:34:23
things we do on behalf of Christ as
1:34:25
believers . We
1:34:33
do on behalf of Christ when somebody
1:34:35
in church offends you and hurts you to where you want
1:34:37
to leave the church . He calls you to serve . And how does
1:34:39
it ? Love the people of God , because
1:34:42
I have loved you , submit
1:34:44
to that when people hurt you . I
1:34:47
didn't call you to to to
1:34:50
serve the church for this church's sake or to
1:34:52
serve a pastor . You're serving the church
1:34:54
because you're serving me . I told you to
1:34:56
go serve the church . So when somebody hurts
1:34:58
you , you have no excuse to disconnect
1:35:00
fellowship with them . Let
1:35:03
me just be very clear . I don't mean there's
1:35:05
obviously some things that you're like I need to disconnect
1:35:07
fellowship from you . Know what I'm saying ? What I'm
1:35:09
saying is that just because somebody
1:35:13
has hurt or offended you and
1:35:15
you don't want to resolve it with them . It's just easier for you to leave
1:35:18
and go to the church down the street . He
1:35:20
says that's not honoring . Go
1:35:23
, handle this the way I told you to
1:35:25
handle it , right , go , go . Or maybe
1:35:27
it's a dispute with the pastor ? Go
1:35:29
, submit to your pastor um on
1:35:31
this Right Um cause . In doing so
1:35:33
, you're submitting to me by serving them
1:35:36
you're serving me . Um , so first
1:35:38
we submit for the sake of Christ
1:35:40
and our witness Right . Um , For the sake of Christ
1:35:42
and our witness
1:35:44
right , we do not submit
1:35:46
to our government on things we disagree
1:35:48
with because we agree with them . We're
1:35:52
submitting because we love Jesus . And if
1:35:55
a believer , if
1:35:57
we , how am I ? How are I
1:35:59
to say this ? If we
1:36:01
are , if we lack submission in our walk
1:36:03
, we
1:36:05
are not attractive to people . It
1:36:08
is our faith and our walk that is supposed to draw
1:36:10
people to Christ . Yeah . We
1:36:15
just become annoying , so you could prove yourself right , right .
1:36:17
People love to do that . Right , that's
1:36:19
the easy thing and get the world to hate you .
1:36:21
Yeah , or you could be submissive
1:36:24
, where everybody else would say something
1:36:27
just out of ego to prove themselves . Right
1:36:29
, you submit to draw
1:36:31
people in for the sake of Christ .
1:36:33
Yeah , but it's not to dismiss your
1:36:35
point you still
1:36:37
bring up . This is right , this
1:36:39
is true and this is accurate
1:36:42
. This is what I believe . But I'm
1:36:44
submitting because that
1:36:46
submission is all . You are in a position of authority
1:36:48
and so I'm submitting because this is
1:36:51
also what I'm called to do .
1:36:52
Because if you don't submit , the world doesn't see light
1:36:54
. They see a problem . Yeah . You know
1:36:56
what I mean and you don't want people looking at Christ as a problem
1:36:59
. You want them looking at him as the answer and
1:37:02
, um , remember , it's not just for the Lord's
1:37:04
sake but by doing good that we can silence
1:37:06
the talk of ignorant and foolish people so
1:37:09
people could come at you all day . They're
1:37:11
going to still mock you . They're going to yeah , they're going to do that , but
1:37:14
you continue doing good the way you should , and you
1:37:16
continue to submit right , not being
1:37:18
that problem , right Just to be
1:37:20
the problem , but instead being submissive
1:37:22
in that you're going to silence
1:37:25
their foolish talk because other people are going to look
1:37:27
at that and be like dude , that that dude's an idiot Like
1:37:29
you see the way that he was making fun of the like . These people
1:37:31
are amazing and they may even be
1:37:33
somebody that are like I don't really I'm not sure
1:37:35
I believe in in in
1:37:39
in Christianity and but I do know that those are good people
1:37:41
and they did not deserve that . And and you know what I'm saying
1:37:43
your actions will silence
1:37:45
foolish talk , your words
1:37:47
and your , your tweets
1:37:50
and your Facebook posts and
1:37:52
all of that doesn't draw them
1:37:54
to you , right ? Um , so
1:37:57
first is , for the Lord's sake and witness
1:37:59
. Second , um , and we already kind
1:38:01
of hit it , but submission applies to all believers
1:38:03
, regardless of gender , regardless
1:38:05
of your race , economic or social status in
1:38:08
marriage , whether you're husband
1:38:10
, wife . This is an expectation
1:38:12
to everybody . And then the last thing I would well really
1:38:14
just the last two things . Submission
1:38:17
to the character of your spouse . Um
1:38:31
, when , when it says , men , you are to be considerate of the delicacy and
1:38:34
the value that your wife brings in a marriage . If she feels like you're
1:38:36
not being considerate and you feel like you
1:38:38
are right , like no , what
1:38:40
do you mean ? I'm not being in my best way
1:38:42
, I've been considerate to you and she's like
1:38:44
I don't think you have been Right , it
1:38:47
doesn't matter what you think . Submission
1:38:49
to that is then saying I submit
1:38:51
to what your view of that is . You're
1:38:55
saying I'm not being considerate enough . How am I not being considerate
1:38:57
enough ? I will submit to that . Yeah
1:38:59
, help me become more considerate .
1:39:01
There's a line from the
1:39:03
video game God of War , where
1:39:06
the main character tells
1:39:08
his son don't be sorry
1:39:10
, be better .
1:39:12
That's where you get that from , and
1:39:16
it's like it's kind of interesting there , because
1:39:20
that's what your point remind me of .
1:39:21
It's like don't don't just . It's
1:39:23
like , even if you admit that you're , you're sorry , like don't
1:39:25
just say you're sorry and do the same thing over and
1:39:27
over again . You know be better .
1:39:29
Right and and if we've
1:39:32
talked about this before with you , know
1:39:34
cheating right
1:39:36
, like Selena may have a completely different view
1:39:39
of what cheating means compared to you . You
1:39:41
know what I mean . You
1:39:43
see this a lot with porn . You see this with
1:39:45
couples where she's devastated
1:39:47
, as if he cheated . He's like look
1:39:49
like I don't think it's okay , like
1:39:52
they feel very embarrassed and ashamed , but they're like
1:39:54
but I don't think I cheated , I don't think I broke
1:39:56
a covenant with her . I'm not saying it's right
1:39:58
, I just don't think it's cheating . And
1:40:00
she's just in tears , broken . No , I think
1:40:03
that's cheating . They never had that conversation
1:40:05
, right ? Like a very healthy conversation
1:40:07
for particularly newlyweds who are about
1:40:09
to get married . If you're engaged , what
1:40:12
does the other consider cheating ? It doesn't matter
1:40:14
what you think cheating is . What only really matters
1:40:16
is what she thinks cheating is yeah , and vice versa
1:40:18
, and vice versa right , like that's all that matters
1:40:20
. You need to submit to those things , submit
1:40:23
to that character , I
1:40:27
would say in terms of the character of
1:40:29
the differences between men and women . Right
1:40:31
, like for men , if
1:40:33
God values the
1:40:35
imperishable inner quality of a woman
1:40:38
and says that's her adorning
1:40:40
, that's her crown , if
1:40:44
that's what God values . That's what we should value , more so than anything Right
1:40:47
, and we should affirm our
1:40:49
wives in the fact that
1:40:51
, yes , you're very , very
1:40:53
pretty , but it's just a reality . Okay
1:40:56
, like men , and women just have to accept this , no
1:40:58
matter how good looking you were when you were younger , in your youth
1:41:00
at some point you're going to be 85
1:41:03
years old , raggly , saggy
1:41:05
, not moving around . You know what I mean
1:41:07
? Yeah .
1:41:08
It's like well , how do people stay together for 56
1:41:10
years ? It's not because of outer beauty .
1:41:12
You better start looking and appreciating your
1:41:14
wife for that inner value that she has . Yeah
1:41:17
, and you know , certainly women , you know , pursue
1:41:19
your internal value in Christ more than
1:41:21
the external right and you even
1:41:24
see this Pursue the inner beauty
1:41:26
instead of the plastic surgery . Right , but
1:41:28
you see it in church , right . Like you see some people gravitate
1:41:31
to their church cliques based off their fashion , like , oh
1:41:33
, she dresses like me . I've never seen
1:41:35
that consciously . I've never consciously noticed
1:41:37
that You'll notice it , You'll notice , people will naturally
1:41:39
gravitate Like I
1:41:42
can , like it's . It's to the point
1:41:44
where I'm able to see new people coming in and
1:41:46
I'm able to look at the couple , like I know exactly
1:41:48
who they're going to fit in with and I'm I have
1:41:50
yet to be proven wrong Um
1:41:52
, some of it . That's just naturally
1:41:54
of like where people are in life . So it's not
1:41:56
like it's all wrong . Right , I'm not saying that
1:41:58
, but there have been times
1:42:01
where I've seen certain
1:42:03
women gravitate towards each other just because they
1:42:05
could tell that they like shopping at the same stores as
1:42:08
them and they don't consider other people
1:42:10
, maybe because of that element
1:42:12
. I'm not saying that's everybody , I'm just saying
1:42:14
, as an example , like
1:42:16
women should stop valuing the external
1:42:18
so much , start valuing the internal
1:42:20
and start emphasizing , looking
1:42:24
for within self and others , the internal
1:42:26
value of women and appreciating them for that as well
1:42:28
. Right , Um ? So
1:42:30
I had a few other points here , but it's we'll
1:42:33
, we'll move on , Cause I know it's it's um
1:42:35
how did you teach this all in 45 minutes
1:42:38
? I didn't have you interrupting me , that's
1:42:43
true . That's fair , it does add a lot
1:42:45
. I mean , it really does . This
1:42:48
is probably an hour when I first taught
1:42:50
it . But the
1:42:52
last thing is submission is
1:42:54
relative to the human authority . Right
1:42:57
, like what
1:42:59
submission looked like to government , what submission looks
1:43:01
like to husband , wife , what
1:43:04
that looks like to a boss that changes
1:43:06
over time , cross cultures right
1:43:09
, submission is very , also very relative
1:43:11
. Um , you
1:43:13
know in the fifties what a a
1:43:16
wife submitting to a husband or a husband submitting
1:43:18
to a wife looked like looks much
1:43:20
different then than it probably does now . Yeah
1:43:22
. Right . The same thing goes in
1:43:24
terms of your interactions with your boss Right
1:43:27
, there are certain things that are acceptable now
1:43:29
with your boss . That if you would
1:43:31
have done that , you know , back in the 1920s
1:43:34
that would have been considered like
1:43:36
disrespectful . Like if you
1:43:38
were to say , invite your boss over for a barbecue
1:43:40
on a Saturday , you would have never done that
1:43:42
, like prior , probably to like 19 , you
1:43:45
know 60 , right , like um
1:43:47
, there's just , things change , right . So you
1:43:50
have to also look at things within its context , its
1:43:52
culture as it is now to understand
1:43:54
that balance of what a submission in this situation
1:43:56
look like . Um and
1:43:59
again doesn't mean compromising , but
1:44:02
but submission . What does that submission look like ?
1:44:03
Like it's like we don't have the Roman , uh
1:44:06
, capital , uh , not Roman , sorry
1:44:08
, the um , the uh
1:44:10
, what was it
1:44:12
called ? The tower where they had all the priestesses
1:44:15
and all that in there ? Um , and
1:44:17
we don't have that where
1:44:20
they go and they just have sex with all the priestesses . But
1:44:22
we have , you know , all these websites , right
1:44:24
, you know that technology we
1:44:26
don't have . We don't have this temple that we go to to fornicate
1:44:29
with random people , but we have this
1:44:31
computer , this computer that can bring you to
1:44:33
80,000 different temples . Exactly
1:44:36
Right .
1:44:36
And so yeah , um , we
1:44:42
are to compel people in
1:44:45
faith , based off of our
1:44:47
good action . We're , we're to where , I'm sorry
1:44:49
, we're not to compel them , we are to draw them
1:44:51
, or what should be compelling about us
1:44:53
, is our conduct that draws
1:44:56
them in Right . Um submission
1:44:59
does that because we're ultimately not really
1:45:01
submitting to them . We're submitting to
1:45:03
Christ in our witness right . That's
1:45:06
going to be very hard to do if that's not the most central piece of your
1:45:08
life . If Christ
1:45:10
is not the center , glorifying him is not the center
1:45:13
. Being the best witness
1:45:15
and disciple you can be of Christ is not your
1:45:17
center . Submission is going to be
1:45:19
very , very hard for you .
1:45:20
It's very true .
1:45:21
Right , and what you also find , why a lot
1:45:23
of people have a hard time submitting to other
1:45:25
people . It's just an higher
1:45:28
elevation of self in that situation , right
1:45:31
, like yeah , I value you , I just value
1:45:33
myself far more .
1:45:35
Gotcha .
1:45:36
You know what I mean . So that's why that humility
1:45:38
needs to be there , and then that's why men
1:45:40
understand the value of your wife , you
1:45:43
can submit , if you really truly understood her value
1:45:45
, what she brings to you , you'd have no
1:45:47
problem submitting to her Right
1:45:49
Because it's worth it . And if women
1:45:51
looked at their husbands , began to trust them and understand
1:45:54
and again making it easy to submit
1:45:56
, but understanding the value that their husbands
1:45:58
provide them , it's easier to
1:46:00
submit to Right All
1:46:02
the same Right . It's
1:46:07
easier to submit to right All the same right . Like so , submission must be pure
1:46:09
to lead to pure faith . But ultimately
1:46:15
, though , submission in itself very
1:46:19
Christian concept that we don't talk about enough , in my opinion
1:46:21
, and it touches every relationship
1:46:23
we have not just from this
1:46:26
way , with Christ , but with
1:46:28
each other . It's
1:46:31
kind of like one of those lost arts . But
1:46:34
I have plenty of examples here , but I know we're
1:46:36
already much out of time . Hey , it was our
1:46:38
last episode for a couple months or
1:46:41
whenever we come back , so I
1:46:45
guess I'll open it up for you guys . Did you have any
1:46:47
lasting thoughts ?
1:46:48
I think it's really important to know
1:46:52
this to have a healthy church , Because if
1:46:54
you don't , that's when you
1:46:56
have separation in the church and just
1:46:59
a lot of
1:47:02
disagreements . Same with marriage
1:47:04
, yeah Right a lot of disagreements
1:47:06
Same with marriage , yeah .
1:47:07
Right , Right . This is with anything any relationship
1:47:09
you could
1:47:11
make that statement of
1:47:15
, and it requires a lot of denying oneself Absolutely
1:47:18
. You know , as you said earlier , deny
1:47:20
thyself and pick up your cross and follow
1:47:23
him . Yeah , absolutely he submitted
1:47:25
to us before he asked us to submit to him . You
1:47:28
know what I mean . And
1:47:31
he submitted himself to the government authority . He
1:47:33
submitted himself to the religious authority . He
1:47:35
submitted he was washing feet the
1:47:38
night before he was arrested . Follow
1:47:42
the example of your rabbi .
1:47:43
Yeah , it's like the son of man rabbi . Yeah , it's like the son of
1:47:45
man didn't come to be served , but
1:47:47
to serve , you know , the
1:47:49
? The final point I was thinking
1:47:52
of , too , was we didn't talk
1:47:54
much about just the like , the relationship
1:47:56
between like kind of the father and the son and
1:47:58
the father and the
1:48:00
daughter , mother and mother and their sons
1:48:03
and daughters as well , because that submission
1:48:05
and that love has to be present there as well too
1:48:07
, and it's its own unique dynamic that we
1:48:09
have to work through . So , but
1:48:12
overall , right
1:48:14
. So one of the very first topics
1:48:18
that we ever heard you talk about
1:48:20
, and as we came to the church
1:48:22
, this is what your kind of like
1:48:24
main topic that other people told us
1:48:26
like oh , man brian should tell you about his submission , uh
1:48:29
, a series that he did , or his submission full circle
1:48:32
right . And so now , after you know , three
1:48:34
years of being here , it was probably better than
1:48:36
because it was uh .
1:48:38
You know , it was all new and fresh to me too , and I was all fired
1:48:40
up .
1:48:40
I don't know yeah I think if we had
1:48:42
done that , then , though , I think
1:48:44
we would have both just been , you know , crying or
1:48:47
I don't know . I don't know
1:48:49
if we were ready to hear it then .
1:48:50
Yeah , that's what I was thinking too . It's like hmm , but
1:48:54
thanks for bearing with us too . I know we
1:48:56
talked about like starting off in the closet
1:48:58
downstairs , and then we
1:49:00
took the podcast to our living room and
1:49:02
then the small office and
1:49:05
then we're like we need a bigger office .
1:49:06
We actually converted our master bedroom
1:49:08
. Yeah
1:49:12
, selena moved the entire master bedroom into one of the smaller rooms and then we turned the master
1:49:14
bedroom into a studio slash office space , and
1:49:16
that's where we were for the past about a year .
1:49:19
So every time Ryan showed up I was like this is different , I
1:49:22
don't like it and now we
1:49:24
actually have this spot here at the church to record
1:49:26
.
1:49:26
Just in time for us to leave , I know , but
1:49:28
now it's just in time for you to be able to continue
1:49:30
it here , whether with us or
1:49:33
with another group , it's
1:49:37
something that we can do .
1:49:37
I should get like a pull down . I
1:49:41
was thinking the Palm Church and Real Bible
1:49:43
Stories banner . No , because then you're going to interrupt the
1:49:45
the treatment . I
1:49:47
know well , I'll do it when you leave , when you can't see it , I'll
1:49:50
hear it . I'll
1:49:52
hear it .
1:49:53
I hear paper rustling in the background . What's going on ? How's
1:49:55
that ? yeah , but anyways , thank
1:49:57
you so much , ryan , for everything , and
1:50:00
whether we continue doing this in a few months or
1:50:02
this ends up being the final
1:50:04
episode , I feel at peace
1:50:06
. You know this has been an
1:50:08
absolute journey and it's been an amazing opportunity
1:50:10
.
1:50:10
I hope we can keep it going because it's been
1:50:14
a blessing to me too . But
1:50:17
everything has a season . Everything has
1:50:19
an ecclesiastes right
1:50:22
as an Ecclesiastes right , like
1:50:26
there's a season for everything and season for healing , season
1:50:28
for fighting , season for crying right . There's
1:50:31
a season for podcasts and sometimes there's a season
1:50:33
not for podcasts . So we're
1:50:35
always going into a season of no podcast for
1:50:37
a little bit . We'll
1:50:39
be in diligent prayer until then and I think God
1:50:42
will make it very clear and
1:50:45
very obvious on our hearts once
1:50:47
we get , once you guys transition
1:50:49
, hopefully safely and without
1:50:52
any problems , and you guys get your house
1:50:54
that you're trying to get , and
1:50:57
as you guys do that whole transition and start
1:50:59
a new journey there , that
1:51:02
it becomes obvious and you
1:51:05
know , because you're also going to find another church
1:51:07
family out there that you're going
1:51:09
to hopefully fall in love with and serve the way
1:51:11
you've loved and served us here . And
1:51:15
you know this may be something that we have to let go at that
1:51:17
time and maybe
1:51:19
not . Maybe you hate it there and you're like how
1:51:21
out of our day is just doing the podcast right now . This has been my favorite thing coming out
1:51:23
. Our day is just doing the podcast , right .
1:51:24
Yeah . No but this has been my favorite
1:51:26
thing coming out of 29 palms . It's a
1:51:28
podcast for sure .
1:51:30
Yeah , I think it's something you are certainly
1:51:32
really needed spiritually , certainly
1:51:34
one of my favorite people that
1:51:37
that we've had . So , um
1:51:39
, we're going to miss you , part of
1:51:41
me . We should just keep the podcast , just so I can talk to you guys
1:51:43
still .
1:51:44
That's one of the main reasons why I want Selfishly
1:51:46
just to
1:51:47
stay connected to home
1:51:49
, that's if you don't happen to get a bunch of flat
1:51:51
tires on the day you're supposed to leave . I don't know
1:51:53
how that would happen .
1:51:55
That's crazy . I don't know . You're
1:51:57
not the first person to threaten to cause
1:51:59
harm .
1:52:00
That's good . Good to know , because that means you can't ever say
1:52:02
Ryan said he would do it . There's at least three
1:52:04
different families that have threatened
1:52:06
us to stay . Each one of us will just
1:52:08
take our own tire .
1:52:10
And together we .
1:52:13
But we love you guys and to
1:52:15
those who are listening and who have
1:52:17
been listening , we
1:52:19
do feel encouraged by a lot of the things that you guys write
1:52:22
and when
1:52:24
you guys talk to us , particularly those in the church , um
1:52:26
, and the encouragement because , as you can kind
1:52:28
of see , we just talk to each other in these walls and
1:52:31
um , but but your
1:52:33
guys's interactions have have blessed
1:52:35
us . I've grown in this Um
1:52:37
, this format is not what I'm used
1:52:39
to , it's not what um
1:52:47
used to , it's not what um I am typically ever like preferable of right , like um , but
1:52:50
I've been able to grow a lot in this as well . So , um , for this season
1:52:52
, um , you know , as we
1:52:54
go into this break , you know whatever God
1:52:56
has for on the other end of this um , just
1:52:58
know that we appreciate you all and um
1:53:01
, yeah , I've been
1:53:03
a blessing with you guys here , because , no matter after
1:53:05
what happens after this , we're not going
1:53:07
to be in the same room doing it . So this is really
1:53:10
this is the closing of a chapter for
1:53:12
us that that we're not gonna be able to meet and
1:53:14
talk for hour and a half before drinking
1:53:16
coffee and , um , eating
1:53:18
your your amazing street corn
1:53:20
dip . That I tried
1:53:23
. You gave me the recipe and I completely botched it . Um
1:53:26
, but you know it's , it's . This
1:53:28
is an end for us , so , um , but
1:53:30
, but I love you guys .
1:53:33
We love you too . So , yeah
1:53:35
, amen to that . So , um
1:53:37
with that . Hopefully
1:53:39
, god willing , we will see you
1:53:41
on the next episode of Real Bible Stories
1:53:44
. Goodbye loves
1:53:47
me , so I know that he won't
1:53:49
let go . Only a few things I
1:53:52
know . I know that
1:53:54
he loves me
1:53:56
, so
1:53:58
know that he won't let go . Yes , j Jesus
1:54:00
loves me . This
1:54:49
I know .
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