Men and women deal with emotions differently, but we all have them. And any man who believes that stuffing and denying their feelings are the path to a happy and successful life - all I can say is that is NOT my experience, nor is it the experience of anyone I've ever met. One of the most painful things a man can experience is the betrayal by his spouse.

Today is part 2 of Recovering From Betrayal, focusing on a man betrayed by his wife.

My returning guest, Vanessa Cardenas, is your trusted advisor for Betrayal and Transformation. Vanessa is a highly experienced C-Suite Executive, Mentor, Coach, and Speaker with a degree in Industrial Psychology. She is also the founder and CEO of Understanding Ear, LLC, where she empowers individuals and groups to heal from betrayal, amplify their authenticity, and find love and happiness on their terms.

Vanessa shares how she went from supporting women to serving more and more men. We explore the pain, secrecy, and shame men experience after discovering their spouse's cheating. Vanessa also explores why men and women have affairs and the most common question men have when they find out they've been betrayed.

While women often want to tell the world when they've been cheated on, that is not the typical response for men. What is so crucial for a man who has been betrayed is to forgive himself.

The core message is to be willing to have difficult conversations before betrayal to avoid needing them after.

Topics and Questions

• 2:12: How different is the experience of recovering from betrayal when you are the betrayed party?
• 7:33 - Vanessa's first male client
• 12:23 - The six most common reasons women cheat
• 16:26 - What does a man feel from betrayal?
• 19:34 - Differences between how a man feels and how he thinks society says he should feel.
• 24:19 - Is this journey of self-forgiveness different if the wife wants the relationship to continue or not?
• 27:47 - Are there any best practices for a man when he discovers his partner is cheating?
• 34:44 - What is the best way for people to find out about everything you are up to?
• 37:02 - The response to Vanessa's first appearance

Links

Vanessa Cardenas -- https://www.understandingear.com

Talk to Vanessa -- https://www.understandingear.com/betrayed-men

Recommended resources

Man's Search for Meaning -- https://amzn.to/43BFxG0

RMF 149 - Men in Emotionally Abusive Relationships

http://realmenfeel.org/2019/09/24/ep-149-men-in-emotionally-abusive-relationships/

RMF 226 - The Abuse of Men by Women

http://realmenfeel.org/2021/02/16/the-abuse-of-men-by-women/

https://www.truthaboutdeception.com/

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