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Here's two another great five. This

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episode was originally broadcast on June

1:02

eleventh, twenty twenty one.

1:06

Feminism seems to have taken over the world.

1:09

It's everywhere. I'm

1:13

unapologetically black and I'm unapologetically

1:15

a feminist, and look, depending on what circles are

1:17

in it's hard to be both those things at the same time.

1:20

I am reaching out to you because we need your help.

1:22

We want to end gender inequality,

1:25

and there's so much oppression to deal with

1:28

with being black and being a woman.

1:30

It's in films, on TV shows, and in the media.

1:33

But for some reason, the right seems to

1:35

despise the modern feminist movement.

1:37

Milo, I'm a feminist. I'm proud

1:39

to be a feminist, and a lot of what

1:42

you say, that's okay. I'm sure they'll

1:44

cure you soon. Why

1:47

would anyone be opposed to feminism.

1:52

I'm Patrick Carrelci and I'm Adriana

1:55

Cortes. And this is Red Pilled America,

1:58

a storytelling show. This

2:00

is not another talk show covering the day's news.

2:03

We're all about telling stories. Stories

2:06

Hollywood doesn't want you to hear stories.

2:08

The media mocks stories

2:10

about everyday Americans that the globalist

2:12

ignore. You can think of Red

2:15

Pilled America as audio documentaries

2:17

and we promise only one thing, the

2:21

truth. Welcome

2:26

to Red Pilled America. For

2:40

decades, feminism has been a hot topic

2:42

in Hollywood and in the media, Yet

2:44

the right appears to be unified in their

2:46

distaste for this movement. Why

2:49

what's wrong with feminism?

2:55

Define the answer? We're going to tell the story

2:57

of how your Humble co host was introduced

2:59

to feminism and why she eventually

3:02

abandoned the ideology.

3:13

It was four twenty five am and

3:15

I was dead asleep in a hospital suite

3:17

waiting to give birth when a team of

3:19

doctors came storming in. What's

3:22

going on? I said, in a panic, is

3:24

something wrong with my baby? We have to

3:26

get her out right now, responded the doctor.

3:32

I saw the look on her face and I knew

3:34

it was urgent. My team of doctors

3:37

swiftly started rolling me out of the room while

3:39

working on me at the same time. That's

3:41

when Patrick jumped in, Wait a minute, where are

3:43

you taking her? We have to do an emergency

3:45

c section. The other doctor responded,

3:47

we have to do it right now. So I glanced

3:50

up at the monitor and the unthinkable was

3:52

happening. My baby was flatlining.

3:58

I didn't understand how this could be happening.

4:01

One second everything was going fine, and

4:03

the next second, my baby's life was on the line.

4:07

Anxiety coursed through my veins as

4:09

I fought back tears and tried to steady

4:11

my thoughts. I was thirty four

4:13

years old. I'd been waiting for this

4:15

moment for as long as I could remember, and

4:18

it all started to go tragically wrong.

4:21

I couldn't help but think why

4:23

did I wait so long? When

4:28

I was a little girl, people would often ask

4:31

Adriana, what do you want to be when you grow up? It's

4:33

a pretty common question almost all of us can

4:36

remember. Fielding children often answer

4:38

with things like a veterinarian, or

4:40

a baseball player or a movie

4:42

star. Some of the more ambitious tykes

4:45

might even respond a doctor. Well,

4:51

I wasn't your average little kid. I

4:54

want to be a mom was my go to

4:56

answer. From a very early age,

4:58

I felt the innate desire to one day

5:00

become a mother. I

5:04

had a collection of baby dollies that I loved

5:06

and cared for meticulously. I dream

5:08

of having a little girl of my own and imagined

5:11

how great it would be. What could be better

5:13

than having one of me? My young mind

5:15

thought. But as I got a little older

5:17

and more aware, it became apparent

5:20

that my seemingly conventional aspiration

5:22

turned out to be a pretty unconventional

5:25

answer. A mom, you

5:27

want to be a mom, people would reply.

5:30

They typically pair their response with a look

5:32

of deep disdain. As a little

5:34

girl, I was an overachiever by

5:37

many measures. I learned to talk at

5:39

a very early age. I walked early,

5:41

I learned to read early. I was feisty

5:43

and stood up for myself by making arguments

5:45

that were way beyond my ears. I

5:47

could see that my family and people who knew me

5:49

thought I was going places, but their

5:51

facial expression to my goal of becoming

5:54

a mom said it all. I'd

5:56

shown so much promise, only

5:58

to throw it away by becoming ugh

6:00

a mother. In their eyes, I

6:03

was on the road to Loserville, and I

6:05

was only in kindergarten. What perhaps

6:08

was most surprising was that the people who

6:10

were most repulsed at my goal were

6:12

mostly women who were mothers themselves,

6:15

and I remember how bad that made me feel.

6:19

Eventually, I learned that the better response

6:21

was I want to be a lawyer when I grow up.

6:24

Now that answer would trigger the desired amount

6:26

of adult adulation. As

6:28

time went on, the world around me seemed

6:31

to push my dream of motherhood further

6:33

back in priority. When I was pretty

6:35

young, my parents split up, and my mother was

6:37

left to carry the financial load of our little

6:39

family. Before the break, my

6:42

parents had a traditional marriage. He put

6:44

food on the table and she cooked it. So

6:46

when my dad left us to fend for ourselves,

6:49

my mom was largely unprepared. We

6:52

entered the kind of economic hardship

6:54

that leaves a mark, but with the help of

6:56

my grandmother, Mom was able to enroll

6:59

in a local trades. The

7:02

day Mom got her cosmetology license

7:04

was a proud one. In fact, it

7:06

was such a big deal that despite having

7:08

the chicken pox, I was still there. This

7:11

was pre coronavirus, so people hadn't yet lost

7:13

their minds. Mom had persevered

7:16

and was now in a position to take care of us

7:18

kids on her own. I'd had a front

7:20

row seat to a woman's journey from housewife

7:23

to single mom, and from that vantage

7:25

point a new dream sprouted. College.

7:28

In fact, it seemed like a necessity. I

7:31

became determined to get myself a career

7:33

so that I could always take care of myself

7:36

and my future kids if needed. I

7:38

wasn't sure how I'd pay for college or what

7:40

I'd do when I got there, but I was determined

7:43

to make it happen. I was eventually

7:45

accepted into California State University, Long

7:47

Beach, and in my first year, I took a women's study

7:50

course in feminism At the time,

7:52

I really had no idea what feminism was.

7:54

But I figured I was a woman and it was a

7:56

class about women, so how hard could it be.

7:59

I'm going to come out out of this class with some real womanly

8:01

knowledge, I thought. I certainly

8:04

did not think the class would hurt me in any way.

8:07

At the time, my default position

8:09

was that people with higher education were

8:11

obviously smarter than me, so I took

8:13

everything my feminist teacher taught me as

8:15

the positions of educated people. I

8:18

left that class with the roar that could rival

8:20

the MGM lion. I am

8:22

strong, I am invincible,

8:26

I am woman. That

8:30

was a new soundtrack of my life, and

8:32

it sounded good. Truth

8:38

be told, I didn't walk away from that course

8:40

feeling any less about myself. That

8:43

just wasn't in my nature. I've

8:45

never been one to indulge victimhood. But

8:47

the seed that the feminism course planted

8:50

was to distrust men all men,

8:52

and Dad didn't help in that category.

8:55

I was certain that I was never going to put

8:57

my fate in any man's hands.

9:00

By the time I graduated from college in nineteen

9:02

ninety six, I'd already met my future

9:04

husband, Patrick, and I think it's fair to

9:06

say. We both already had the sense that we wanted

9:08

to spend our lives together. Yeah, that's correct,

9:11

but society was telling us something different.

9:14

At every corner. We were told that our early

9:16

to mid twenties were too young to tie

9:18

the knot. We had to sew our oats before

9:20

we could lock it in, which meant we

9:22

had to wait. She's right. It

9:24

seemed like we were being bombarded with the

9:26

message that two incomes were a must

9:29

even when you had young kids. Every

9:31

movie or TV show, or college class

9:33

that touched on the topic seemed to drill

9:35

that point home. The

9:39

concept of the housewife or the stay

9:41

at home mom was really frowned upon

9:43

in pop culture at the time. It was for

9:46

losers. We were led to believe women

9:48

were being ingrained with the idea that if

9:50

you became a housewife, then you had failed

9:52

in life, because no self respecting,

9:55

intelligent woman would sign up for that. I

9:57

bought it, hook line and sinker, so

9:59

may would have to wait until after I had a career

10:01

in place. After graduating from

10:04

college, I landed a job as a corporate

10:06

executive in the fashion industry. My

10:09

first goal was met. I became

10:11

an independent career woman, and no one

10:13

could ever take that away from me. Eventually,

10:16

Patrick and I reconnected, and eleven years

10:18

after we'd first met, we got married.

10:21

I was thirty years old. The most

10:23

fertile years of my life were now

10:25

behind me, but I didn't let it worry

10:27

me. Career first, babies

10:29

later was the mantra of the successful

10:31

woman, and I was a successful woman.

10:34

Besides, I had plenty of time to have babies.

10:37

Women were giving birth later in life now,

10:39

so after Patrick and I got married, we

10:42

decided to put it off. We

10:44

wanted more financial stability,

10:46

even though technically we were already

10:48

in a good place. Society was

10:50

telling us we needed more success

10:53

before making those crying snot nosed

10:55

little brats, so we focused

10:57

on growing our business. Finally, when

11:00

I was thirty three, I decided it

11:02

was time to get pregnant. Patrick was immediately

11:05

on board, and as luck would have it,

11:07

we hit the bullseye on the first try.

11:10

I'd done everything right, made

11:12

all the right decisions, and things were

11:14

going according to plan. But just

11:16

as I was patting myself on the back, tragedy

11:19

struck. I had a miscarriage. I

11:21

was pretty devastated. We had trouble getting

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Welcome back. So I'm

13:01

thirty three years old and I've

13:03

just suffered a miscarriage and I realized

13:05

that getting pregnant might not be so

13:07

easy. But a little over a year

13:10

later, I was pregnant again. I

13:12

was thirty four years old and one year

13:14

shy of having what's termed a geriatric

13:17

pregnancy, like an old lady

13:19

pregnancy basically, but this time

13:21

the pregnancy was viable. We had a heartbeat.

13:28

The first time I heard that little thump thump,

13:31

a rush of emotion coursed through

13:33

my body. The sound of life

13:35

coming from within me put things

13:37

into perspective. I really wasn't

13:40

capable of understanding what it meant to

13:42

create life until that moment. I

13:44

remember sobbing uncontrollably.

13:47

It was the sweetest sound I'd ever heard.

13:50

I was so ready to have a baby. My

13:52

lifelong dream was finally coming

13:54

true. I had done everything

13:56

I set out to do before welcoming this little

13:58

one, and I was proud of my I

14:00

had a successful business with my husband. We

14:03

owned a house in the Hollywood Hills. We

14:05

had money in the bank. We were killing it. Pregnancy

14:13

was glorious. I wasn't one of

14:15

those women that complained about being pregnant. I

14:18

loved every minute of it, especially

14:21

the snacks. I was a hungry little

14:23

hippo with an insatiable appetite for mashed

14:25

potatoes and vanilla ice cream. I'd

14:27

spent the majority of my twenties and early thirties

14:29

starving myself, but now I

14:32

was eating for two at the oth starvation,

14:34

Hello carbs. It was time

14:37

to indulge, and I took it to the next

14:39

level. At my peak, I gained

14:41

eighty pounds, which was

14:43

hard on my small frame. The good

14:46

part was I carried a good portion

14:48

of it in the boobage area. Everywhere

14:51

I went. My chest would be on time,

14:53

but the rest of me would arrive fashionably

14:55

late. Patrick was kind enough

14:57

to match me almost pound for pound.

15:00

He put on a commendable fifty

15:02

pounds. Yeah, I'd

15:04

later learned that they were called sympathy pounds.

15:07

Each morning, I felt compelled to drive

15:09

twenty minutes out of the way to a crispy

15:11

cream and by two dozen glazed doughnuts

15:14

for the office. Then at night I put

15:16

down a pint of dual set de leche ice

15:18

cream, which is basically vanilla with caramel

15:20

swirls.

15:24

Although being physically pregnant was great for

15:26

me, it was hard on our marriage.

15:29

Patrick thought I was being overly dramatic, and

15:31

I felt he wasn't being sensitive to my changing

15:33

needs. I was feeling extreme

15:35

fatigue, and we'd later learned that it wasn't

15:37

just due to the pregnancy. I had tumors

15:40

in my liver that were growing because of the pregnancy.

15:43

It was draining, but back then we

15:45

had no clue, and we thought about

15:47

it. In retrospect, it's clear

15:49

why we bickered so much during a time that should

15:51

have been filled with happiness. In

15:53

our own way, we were both fighting

15:55

the natural rolls of husband and wife.

15:58

As my pregnancy progressed, I wanted

16:00

to find out the sex of the baby as soon as

16:02

possible. I

16:05

knew in my heart it was a girl, and

16:07

I already had her name picked out. One

16:10

morning, early in my pregnancy, I had a doctor's

16:12

appointment that Patrick couldn't make, so my sister

16:14

agreed to go with me. All right, Adriana,

16:17

don't find out the baby sex without me. Okay,

16:20

I made her promise, all

16:23

right. Later that same morning,

16:25

during my ultrasound, my doctor

16:28

asked, would you like to know the sex? I

16:30

glanced over at my sister, who raised

16:32

an eyebrow at me because she knew what was coming

16:34

next. Yes, yes,

16:37

tell me, tell me right now, he said,

16:39

it's a girl. I knew it. My

16:44

lifelong dream of having a little girl was

16:46

coming true. I swore my sister

16:48

to secrecy, and later that day

16:50

Patrick asked if i'd found out the baby sex,

16:53

and I lied. Fourteen

16:55

years later and I'm hearing the truth for the first

16:57

time. It explains a lot. Sorry,

17:01

blame it on the hormones. Once

17:03

I found out I was having a daughter, something

17:06

inside of me kicked in. I

17:08

felt strong and powerful.

17:11

I finally understood what I am

17:13

woman. Hear me roar truly meant. It

17:15

was then that I came to the definitive conclusion

17:18

that there is nothing better on God's good

17:20

Earth than being a woman, because

17:22

what's more powerful than creating life.

17:26

But just as it looked like the college feminist

17:28

had left me for good, something happened

17:31

that brought it out again. I announced today

17:33

that I'm forming a presidential exploratory Committee.

17:40

Hillary Clinton announced that she would

17:42

be throwing her hat in the race to become

17:45

the two thousand and eight Democratic

17:47

presidential nominee. If

17:49

she was successful, she'd be the

17:52

first woman president of the United

17:54

States of America.

18:00

Now, before we go any further, let me stay

18:02

publicly that this is not easy

18:04

for me to admit now, but I was

18:06

all in for Hillary. There.

18:09

I was a woman who happened to be

18:11

pregnant with the daughter that would one day

18:13

grow up to be You guessed it a

18:15

woman, and we had never had

18:17

a female president before the

18:19

idea of a woman running the White

18:21

House was intoxicating to me. I

18:24

was convinced Hillary had to

18:27

win otherwise what

18:29

kind of a misogynistic world would my

18:31

daughter have to grow up in? Looking

18:36

back, it was clearly emotional. I

18:38

didn't care about Hillary's policies. What

18:41

mattered most was that she had a uterus.

18:44

Hillary was to me what Obama must have been

18:46

to black people. I

18:48

was such a Hillary diehard that I

18:51

campaigned for her. I made endless

18:53

amounts of phone calls, I wrote emails.

18:55

In fact, one email assent was to all

18:57

of my female friends. Were I in

19:00

insisted that they vote for her. If

19:02

you don't vote for Hillary, then

19:04

what kind of a woman are you? The

19:08

thought of it now makes me want to crawl

19:10

into a hole and hide forever.

19:13

Now. At the time that Hillary announced, we

19:16

were big players in the entertainment world.

19:18

Our company had control of budget, big

19:20

budget, and we were channeling most of it into

19:23

filmmakers, musicians and artists. When

19:25

that happens in Tintaltown, you quietly

19:27

get put onto a list. So

19:30

one day late in my pregnancy, I got

19:32

an email. We were being invited

19:34

to a young Hollywood fundraiser at

19:37

director Brett Radner's house in the Hollywood Hills.

19:40

For those of you who don't know the name, Brett

19:42

Radner was a big time film director before

19:44

he got toppled during the Me Too frenzy.

19:47

Think Rush Hour movies, Prison

19:49

Break, TV series and X Men. That

19:51

was Brett. He was a real baller and

19:54

he was organizing a Hillary Clinton

19:56

fundraiser at his house. The entry

19:58

fee could probably get you as starter home

20:00

in a developing country, but we could afford

20:02

it, and I was going to meet the feminist

20:05

icon to boot Patrick, we

20:07

have to go. I'm buying tickets, I

20:09

said, to my husband. He agreed. We

20:12

were so excited. I told

20:14

everyone we knew that we were going to meet Hillary

20:16

Clinton over and over again.

20:24

I bought a new outfit for the big event. This

20:26

is a bit challenging for me because I was nine

20:29

months pregnant. No matter what

20:31

kind of dress I tried on, they all

20:33

made me look like a large tent, a

20:35

red tent, a floral tent, a striped

20:38

tent, just a big old tent. I

20:40

worried people might try and shelter under me if it

20:42

began to rain. It dawned on

20:44

me that my shoes were going to have

20:46

to carry my look for the night. So I

20:49

spent another small fortune on a gorgeous

20:51

pair of cream colored Chloe pumps

20:53

that had gold hardware detailing. When

20:59

I first laid out on those shoes, it

21:01

was nothing short of love at first sight. Leading

21:03

up to the event, I'd put them on, walk

21:06

in front of the mirror and admire

21:08

how gorgeous they looked on my big, fat,

21:10

swollen feet. I

21:17

envisioned that Hillary would say to me, oh

21:19

my, I love your shoes.

21:22

Well, thank you, thank you, Hillary, thank you very

21:24

much. The

21:27

doorbell rang during one of those daydreaming

21:30

moments. So I proceeded to go down the stairs,

21:32

still wearing my amazing Chloe pumps.

21:35

When the unthinkable happened. Halfway

21:39

down the stairs, the left heel gave

21:41

out. It buckled

21:43

under the pressure of my astronomical pregnancy

21:46

weight. My maternal instinct kicked

21:48

in. I grabbed the railing with my right

21:50

hand and with my left arm I protected

21:53

my belly. I heard a snap.

21:56

I wasn't sure if it was my ankle or the shoe

22:00

Patrick Hell. Patrick

22:03

rushed me to the doctor, where it was determined

22:06

I had a very badly sprained ankle

22:08

and I couldn't put any pressure on it

22:11

at all. Oh no, the

22:13

Hillary Clinton fundraiser is tomorrow,

22:16

I cried to Patrick, Honey, don't

22:18

worry about it. We'll get you a wheelchair, okay.

22:21

But that plan was quickly squashed when

22:23

we found out that Brett Radner's home was

22:25

the famed nineteen twenty seven Hillhaven

22:27

Lodge, once owned by screen legend

22:30

Ingrid Bergmann. In other words, it

22:32

wasn't wheelchair friendly. I'm

22:35

so bummed we're gonna have to miss the event,

22:37

I said to Patrick, what I'm

22:40

still going? Excuse me?

22:43

I was pissed. In

22:46

my defense, I was thinking with my wallet

22:48

rather than my brain. They weren't giving

22:50

refunds. The entire rationale

22:52

for us spending a mini fortune on the tickets,

22:54

in my mind, was to schmooze with

22:56

the crowd. It was a business outing. So

22:59

I went to say that I was

23:01

angry that he went without me is

23:03

an understatement, but I finally

23:06

forgave him when the picture he took with Hillary

23:08

arrived in the mail a few weeks later,

23:11

it was terrible. I

23:17

made the mistake of trying to talk to her as we

23:19

stood there. I said something like, I

23:21

bet you're getting really tired of taking these. I

23:24

don't remember her response, but that's nothing new.

23:26

Everything she says is forgettable, except

23:28

for when she called us deplorables. Yeah,

23:30

so Hillary was mid sentence when the shutter

23:33

snapped. The picture was hilarious.

23:36

Hillary's mouth was wide open like a Clinton

23:38

intern, and Patrick's might as well

23:40

have been, because he looked like

23:42

he'd been shoveling dultyvilleche

23:44

and Krispy Kremes into his big pie

23:46

hole for nine months. That's

23:49

karma, baby. About a week

23:52

later, I went into labor and

23:54

everything was going smoothly. Patrick

23:57

was so loving. He was trying to make up

23:59

for his during the pregnancy.

24:01

We got a private suite at Cedar Sinai

24:04

Hospital in Los Angeles, all to ourselves.

24:07

This is the scene here, this is the

24:10

view. What are we looking at? Oh, we're looking at Jerry'sdaily

24:13

That's not bad. It was Jerry's

24:15

Deli. Around two am, the doctor

24:17

told me to go to sleep for a few hours

24:20

until I dilated. More so I did.

24:22

I was deep in a dream about my baby girl.

24:25

What was she going to be like when she grew up? What

24:27

would she look like? Would she have my personality

24:30

or Patrick's? But I

24:32

was woken from my sleep when the doctors came

24:34

barging in. We need to do an emergency

24:36

se section, they said, when right

24:39

now? The doctor replied, our

24:41

baby was flatlining. Time

24:43

was of the essence. Her life depended on

24:45

it. Do

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25:01

America one story at a time. Welcome

25:04

back. So we found ourselves in

25:06

an emergency situation our

25:09

baby was flatlining. Time

25:11

was of the essence. Her life depended

25:13

on it, so the doctor quickly numbed

25:15

up Adriana. I'm

25:19

telling you this was happening at lightning speed.

25:22

One second everything's going as

25:24

planned, and the next were being rushed

25:26

into surgery. The doctor told me to

25:28

put on a smock and follow him as quickly

25:30

as possible. I just remember

25:33

feeling absolutely terrified. My

25:35

wife and daughter's lives were completely

25:38

in someone else's hands. I had

25:40

never felt so helpless. I

25:42

feverishly threw on the smock and mask

25:44

and cap and rushed into the room where Adriana

25:47

was already being anesthetized. I

25:50

was paralyzed, literally, I

25:52

couldn't feel or move my body from the

25:54

neck down. As I looked at her, the

25:56

doctor started opening her up behind

25:59

the curtain, and I'll never forget

26:01

what it looked like. Do you all remember

26:03

the movie Braveheart, or William Wallace

26:05

is laid out on the table being tortured. You

26:07

see his body lightly jerking

26:09

as the executioner is pulling out his

26:12

intestines. Well, that's kind of like

26:14

what I was seeing. It was horrifying

26:18

until I could hear my baby crying Oh,

26:26

it's okay. She

26:31

was alive. The speed that they

26:33

pulled this off was unbelievable.

26:36

From the moment they barged into the room until

26:38

our daughter was delivered, only six

26:41

minutes went by. Six long,

26:43

excruciating minutes. It

26:46

was a close call, but our little girl

26:48

made it through. Now. When I heard her cry,

26:50

that's when I realized I was dropping the ball.

26:53

Adriana had written a six page berthing

26:55

plan that I had to execute. I

26:57

was supposed to grab the video camera and film

27:00

the entire birthing, So as I heard

27:02

my daughter crying for the first time, I

27:04

scooped up the camera and hit record,

27:06

Or at least I thought I did. With

27:09

all the emergency chaos, I guess I missed

27:11

the button. As I held the camera

27:13

on my daughter for the first time, I

27:15

captured nothing. After

27:23

my c section, I was taken to a recovery

27:26

room where I was tended to Emergency

27:28

surgery had taken a serious toll on my

27:30

body. Before I could see my baby,

27:32

I had to wait for the anesthesia to

27:34

wear off. It took hours.

27:37

This was not at all I pictured it would

27:40

happen. Meanwhile,

27:45

I was in phase two of the birthing plan,

27:48

better known as protect the baby at all

27:50

costs the second she comes

27:52

out of my body, Patrick, don't

27:54

let her out of your sight. You know how many kids

27:57

are switched at birth, millions, millions

27:59

and millions of kids. So as they waited her

28:01

and cleaned her up, my job was to never

28:03

let her leave my sight, and I took

28:06

my job seriously. As they were

28:08

closing Adriana back up, I was escorted

28:10

to a room to watch my daughter. That's

28:12

when phase three of the birthing plan kicked

28:14

in. No matter what you do, Patrick,

28:17

do not give her the pacifier.

28:20

This one was a bit perplexing because I had

28:22

no idea why. I'd read in one of

28:24

my many birthing books that giving kids

28:27

the choopye right after birth makes

28:29

it harder for them to latch on to the breast,

28:31

therefore making it impossible for you

28:34

to ever breastfeed. Well,

28:36

I was trying to stick to the plan, but

28:38

something happened along the way that's been

28:40

occurring ever since. My daughter

28:43

convinced me otherwise. As I

28:45

sat there with our little girl, thirty minutes

28:47

turned into an hour, and our little bear

28:49

was cranky and shifting and crying.

28:52

I tried rocking her. I tried talking to

28:54

her, but nothing would work, so

28:56

I decided to go off the script. It

28:58

just so happened that the nurse gave me the thing I was

29:00

supposed to not put in our daughter's

29:02

mouth, a pacifier. I thought,

29:05

what could it hurt? I mean, the damn nurse

29:07

gave it to me. So I did something I haven't

29:09

told my wife until this moment. You

29:12

son of that, I gave our daughter the pacifier.

29:14

Whereas my wife likes to call it choopy.

29:19

It worked like a charm. She settled

29:22

down immediately. After about

29:24

two hours of spending alone time with her, the

29:26

nurse came in and said, my wife was well enough

29:28

to see her this time. I

29:30

wasn't gonna blow it. As I handed our daughter

29:33

to the nurse, I grabbed the camera and

29:35

figured out how to press record

29:42

what you're doing? Not really. Finally

29:46

the moment arrived. Patrick

29:48

walked in holding our baby girl.

29:51

I took her in my arms. She

29:53

was perfect, ten little fingers

29:56

and ten tiny toes. I

29:58

felt complete. To date, it

30:00

remains the single best moment of my life.

30:03

And just like that, we went from being

30:05

a couple to being a family. As

30:08

time went by, we tried to add to

30:10

our little tribe, but it was not to be. We

30:12

couldn't get another bun in the oven. The

30:15

tumors in my liver were preventing another

30:17

pregnancy, so carrying our daughter

30:19

to term was nothing short of a miracle.

30:22

God blessed us with one perfect

30:24

baby. But the thing that I've struggled with for

30:26

many years is that if I had decided to

30:28

get pregnant earlier in life, during

30:30

my most fertile years, I would have had

30:32

a chance to have more children. The problem

30:35

was I fell into the feminist trope

30:37

of career first, baby later,

30:40

I let cultural norms override

30:42

my natural instincts, and it almost

30:44

cost me my ability to become a mother, which

30:54

leads us back to the question what's

30:56

wrong with feminism?

31:00

For starters, feminism is a

31:02

direct attack on the most important

31:04

institution in America, the

31:06

nuclear family. Feminism

31:09

told me that I was oppressed because I

31:11

carried the burden of having babies. That

31:14

idea seated in my mind

31:16

in college, blossomed into putting

31:19

off having a child, something I

31:21

wanted my entire life, and I

31:23

almost missed the incredible gift of

31:25

having a baby because of it. For

31:27

decades, feminist icons like

31:29

Gloria Steinem have told women they

31:31

can't have it all, that we could

31:34

not have a successful career and be

31:36

a mother. One of the big debates

31:38

raging right now at least if

31:41

you read what the media is writing about, is

31:43

this question about whether women can have it all.

31:46

We're still asking that question.

31:48

No, of course, women can't have it all as

31:51

long as we have to do it all. What the

31:53

hell does she know she's never

31:55

had a child. I am living proof

31:58

that the icon of feminism was

32:00

wrong. As Phyllis Schlafley

32:02

once said, women can have

32:04

it all, maybe just not all at once.

32:07

Women are given the incredible gift of creating

32:10

life, and no matter what people

32:12

claim, men will never be

32:14

able to give birth. We should embrace

32:16

our wonderful superpower and

32:19

reject those that want to marginalize it because

32:21

they are part of the force that's trying to dismantle

32:24

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32:26

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