Fearing Rejection
Building Your Dating Resilience, Part 4 of 5
Season 1, Episode 17

Is the possibility of rejection stopping you from being your best?

If you are dating, you’ve no doubt faced hurt, disappointment, rejection, and a myriad of other emotions that have left you questioning if there are better ways to spend your free time. 
Building your Dating Resilience will help you stare down adversity, allowing you to roll with the punches dating and life throw at you. 

Today I share with you my first rejection after getting back in the dating game, and what I learned from the many that followed. 

Dealing with Rejection

The emotions that follow rejection fuel the flame for more hurt, and a string of disaster movies playing in your head for weeks to come. 

I was aware that if I didn’t date, I could avoid the discomfort altogether, but that would keep me from experiencing the possibility of love and partnership that I was seeking. 

What’s Behind the Feeling We all Hate?

The most interesting thing about rejection is where it originates. We look at rejection as something done to us by another person. Rejection is less about what the person says to you, and more about what you say to yourself when they stop talking. 

When they stop, that critical voice in your head starts. And when your critical voice talks, it reminds you of all the negative things you already feel about yourself. It’s your own critical voice afterward that brings on the hurt and emotion.

The imagined rejection would start the conversation going in my head. The doubt about me already existed. Being turned down, or even imagining it, kicks off that negative internal dialogue. 

In most rejections, you never get a clear cut reason why you are being rejected. Without a reason your mind goes to whatever you see as your shortcoming. 

It took me a while to realize I can’t be all things to all people, nor do I want to be. I was far from perfect, but to the right person, I could be a perfect match. I just had to realize that and not give up searching each time I got stung with another letdown.

Steps to Building Your Rejection Resilience

It’s a positive thing that rejection hurts. It means that your heart’s in it. It’s important to you, as it was to me. I never got to the place where I enjoyed rejection, but I did learn how my own feelings added fuel to the fire. 

Today I'll share the tips that have helped myself and others look at rejection from an angel you've likely never thought of! 

Today’s Podcast is sponsored by ReDiscover Dating: What’s Keeping You From Getting Back Out There? The book, available on Amazon and Kindle Unlimited, is a step-by-step guide to help you rebuild your confidence, recreate your social life, and find love again.

“The fear of rejection is worse than rejection itself.” – Nora Profit

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