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Are you stuck in your life ? Do you feel caught

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up in a life loop you can't get out of ? If

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you want to explore ways to get unstuck

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as you navigate your own reinvention journey

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, you've come to the right place . Keep

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listening . Have

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you ever wanted to start over to reinvent

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yourself ? Reinvention is something

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we all do at some point in our lives . Sometimes

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it's simple , sometimes it's complicated , but

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it's often necessary to lead a fulfilling life

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, and it's always interesting

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. I'm your host , julie Bicello

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. Join me for some inspiration as I

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share reinvention stories , tips

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and tricks from real people just

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like you . Let's explore reinvention

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adventures together . Welcome

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to another episode of Reinvention Adventures

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podcast with me , your host , julie

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Bicello . In this episode , I want to talk

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to you about that feeling of wanting to reinvent

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yourself , or even wanting to try something new

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. That's completely different for you , but

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feeling stuck . And , of course , I want to give you some tips

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for getting unstuck Before we begin . This podcast

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. One of the most frustrating feelings to me

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is when I feel stuck in place . You

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know that feeling when you want to make big changes , but

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there are factors in place that are making you feel like your

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feet are glued to the floor , like you're living

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in the movie Groundhog Day . That

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feeling is what I'm talking about . You know you're all excited

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about a reinvention plan . You've thought up , or

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maybe you've thought of , something new that you want

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to try , and you've thought of all the possibilities

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and started to make some serious considerations

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about how to make things happen . And then , bam

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, you get stuck . Getting stuck sucks

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. Yeah , it's a nice little rhyme , right

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, but seriously , it isn't good to feel

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like you can't move forward , and it really isn't cool

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when it's your fault . Yes , I

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went there . Getting stuck is all on you

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, my friend , but I'm here to help you get unstuck

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. Your life is not meant to be on autopilot

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. Let's talk about what causes well-intentioned

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people to get stuck and what you can do about

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it when it happens to you on your journey . As

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an added bonus , I'm going to share winning quotes

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from everyone's old friend , rocky

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Balboa , to help emphasize some of the

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points I share with you . Let's begin with getting

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in your head . Getting in your head and second

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guessing yourself is one of the top ways to get stuck

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. Reinvention is hard , but it doesn't have

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to be that hard . When you think of the whole

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picture all at once , it can be overwhelming

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. When you think of one step at a time , it

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can become manageable . Trying not to overthink

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is really important . When you feel yourself

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start to spiral , it can lead to inertia , and

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inertia is the enemy of reinvention

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. If I get in my head too much , the first

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thing I do believe it or not is I sit

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down and I make a list . Now , this might not

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be for everyone , but this is something that works for

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me , so I'm going to share it . Just making a list

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makes me feel like I'm doing something , and

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once I make the list , I go back and I break

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down each component of the list with action steps

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. If I'm really in my head , I

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will start with the first one or two items . I don't

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even force myself to do the whole list , because

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sometimes that just feels like too much homework . Then

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, when I get those done , I have at least a few action

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steps to work on . Working on even one action

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step can help you get out of your head and back in

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the game . I encourage you to try this . You'd be surprised

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at how well it works . As Rocky Balboa

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said , one step at a time , one

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punch at a time , one round at a time

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. Another thing that can get you stuck is finances

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and , let's face it , this is a real concern

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for a lot of people . If you're not independently

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wealthy , have rich parents or a trust

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fund , you're likely working to keep a roof over

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your head , a car in your driveway , the

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heat turned on in your home , things like that . It's

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so easy to make the excuse that you can't change anything

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. Because what if you don't have enough money to live ? I'm

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not here to lie to you . That is reality

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, and it's the reality for most reinvention journeys

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. So how do you get the money excuse to

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not be a viable excuse ? Well

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, it's about a mindset shift rather

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than an actual money shift . For the average

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person , there will never be enough time or money . But

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you're not average , are you ? I don't think

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you are , and reinvention is one of

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those things that you have to really want to do . So

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there are ways to get out of the money excuse . Maybe

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work a side job briefly to help build up the coffers

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a little bit so you feel a little bit more secure . That's

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one step that's temporary , that can help kickstart

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your reinvention . Or maybe wake up

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earlier so you have a little more time to work on some

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aspect of your plan , or stay up

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later or go out a little less to save

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time and money to put towards your journey . You've

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got to really want this , and if you really want it

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, you can change your mindset to see past

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your excuse and onto the next part of your journey

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. Next up is the instant gratification

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excuse . Reinvention is hard

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, trying something new is hard

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, but at the risk of more platitudes

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, nothing worth it is ever really

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easy . Expecting your journey to be quick

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and painless and then realizing it won't be can

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get you stuck . Just because it isn't easy

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doesn't mean you shouldn't do it , though . When you

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feel stuck because you hit a wall or a roadblock

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, just take a brief , finite amount

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of time to process and regroup . Then

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pivot the heck out of that mess and try something different

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to keep moving forward . There are always going

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to be difficult parts to these types of journeys . As

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Rocky Balboa once said , it

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ain't about how hard you hit , it's about

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how hard you can hit and keep moving forward

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. How much you can take and keep moving forward

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. That's how winning is done . Another

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thing people get stuck on is the fear excuse

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. You know the definition of

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courage is acting not in the absence of fear

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, but in spite of fear . There are

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a lot of things to be afraid of . Fear

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can really weasel its way into the best reinvention

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plans and bring them to a screeching halt

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. But remember nothing

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changes if nothing changes . I

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know it's scary , but I also know you do not

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want fear to stop your journey . So

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what do you do about it ? Talk to other people

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who have been on a reinvention journey . Listen

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to podcasts like this one to help you get outside

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of your head . Read about the ways

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other people navigated their own reinventions

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. Look for inspiration

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and not ways to be afraid . Just

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don't sit and dwell on one aspect of this

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journey Fear is there and it isn't

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all bad . Fear can make you more conscientious

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and help keep you on track sometimes . Just

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don't let fear keep you stuck in one place , as

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Rocky Balboa said . I think you

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try harder when you're scared . Next

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up is the stuff excuse . Another

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way to get stuck is to think that , in order to pursue

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whatever you want to pursue as part of your reinvention

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journey , you think that you need to be able to buy

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all the stuff needed to do what you want to do . And

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if you can't get all the stuff , you put your journey on

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hold until you can , and then

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nothing gets done and eventually you are living

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on autopilot . An example you

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want to start a podcast , but someone told

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you you need a really great microphone and a sound

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board and a booth set up in your home . You

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can't afford all those things , so you make a list and

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then you get caught up in other things . The reality

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is you don't actually need that expensive

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microphone and you can podcast without a

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sound board . It's important to give yourself a

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wish list and then a reality check

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Are the items need to haves or are they

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nice to haves ? Know how to differentiate

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between the two so you don't stop your journey

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for reasons that aren't even reality the

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other people excuse . It's easy to

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get stuck when you have thoughts in your head and then

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others start to give you their worst case scenarios

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for your journey . This is really dangerous

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because you need to be able to view your journey through your

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own lens and not the lenses of other people

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. Your journey is your own . It's a personal

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one . I'm not saying that you can't ask

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trusted people in your life for their insights or feedback

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, but you have to trust yourself and

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your gut instincts to move forward the way

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that you see fit . If what you feel differs

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from what others say , you need to have the confidence

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to move forward anyway . That can be tricky

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. The bottom line for this one is trust Trusting

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others , but ultimately trusting yourself the most

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and moving forward in a way that you believe is

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right for you . I'm going to share another Rocky Balboa

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quote here . I stopped thinking the way other

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people think a long time ago . You got

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to think like you think . The most important

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question in all of this is what are your dreams worth

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to you ? Hopefully this has given you some insight

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into excuse pitfalls to look for on

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your journey . Yes , getting stuck happens

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. It's actually very common . Knowing

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what could happen and how to work around it productively

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will help you stay on your path to reinvention

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. That path is yours and yours alone

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. Every reinvention is a unique one

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. Really , everyone's path in life

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is a unique one . Find inspiration

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that keeps you moving . The bottom line of all

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of this is that any excuse is an excuse

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if you allow yourself to go there . So

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don't Like seriously . Do not allow

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yourself to make excuses to halt your journey

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. Give yourself grace throughout the process

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, but at no point should you allow yourself

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to permanently stop a journey you really

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want to be on . Just put one foot

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in front of the other and keep stepping forward , and

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soon you'll be walking closer to your goal

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than you ever thought possible . Thank

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you for listening Until next time . Thanks

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for listening to this episode of Reinvention

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Adventures .