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Ted Audio Collective. Hey
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everyone, it's Adam Grant. Welcome back to
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Rethinking, my podcast on the science of
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what makes us tick with the Ted
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Audio Collective. I'm an organizational
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psychologist and I'm taking you inside the
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minds of fascinating people to explore new
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thoughts and new ways of thinking. My
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guest today is Jared Cohen. He was
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a Rhodes Scholar and has been named one of Time's
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100 Most Influential People. He
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worked in the State Department under both
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Condoleezza Rice and Hillary Clinton, then
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fought extremism as founder and CEO of
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Jigsaw at Google. Today
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he leads global affairs and innovation at Goldman
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Sachs. In his spare time,
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Jared is a history buff, and his
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new book, Life After Power, is a
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riveting look at who seven American presidents
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became after they left the Oval Office. It's
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brimming with insights for anyone who's
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ever wondered, what's next? Hey
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Jared Cohen. Adam Grant. I
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want to talk to you about a lot of things, but I
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have to start it. When did you become
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obsessed with American presidents? Because you've been into
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them as long as I've known you, and
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I know a lot longer than that. So
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look, my career has spanned
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foreign policy, technology, and
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now finance, and the only thing that's
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consistent in my life is an unhealthy
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obsession with the US presidency. I
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suppose it started when I was eight years old. My
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parents bought me this children's book called
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The Buckstops Here, and it had rhymes that
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went with each president. So I
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remember, you know, 10 and 7 Johnson A, they almost
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took his job away, and it was kind of very
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catchy for a precocious young kid. And
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presidents, you know, when I was growing up, they were the most famous people in the world. My
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early memories are of, you know, George
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H.W. Bush going on TV announcing the
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war in Panama. Desert
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storm and so for me these were the
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most visible figures that I remember and I
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just Developed an obsession with it
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One of the big interests that I had
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was what happens when presidents die in office
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and these abrupt Transfers of power
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and how they changed the course of history
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and my last book accidental presidents kind of
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captured that and When that
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book was done, I asked myself the question What else
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am I interested in and I got
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really consumed by this question of okay? I
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focused on what happens when presidents die in
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office but what happens when they survive the
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office and they come down from
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the stratosphere and There's years
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and sometimes decades that they still have
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to live and exist in a world
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where they're constrained in a much lower
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station It's it's such a fascinating
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topic I think not just for heads of state but
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for all of us because there comes a point in
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our career in our lives when We
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decide we're gonna step back from our positions
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of greatest influence and the question is Now
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what and I want to talk about what you learned about
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the now what but before we do that I'm
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struck by the fact that you said unhealthy obsession
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How have you suffered from being interested in
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in presidents? I would describe
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the unhealthy part of my interest
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in presidents as manifesting itself in
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Strange ways somebody can ask
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me about anything and I can take it
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on a tangent into some seriously obscure geeky
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Presidential history that people may or may not be
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interested in I collect presidential oddities
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As well, I like owning these
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pieces of history that make
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you feel like you exist in the past
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So I have the vial of poison that
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Charles Gattow's sister sent to him when he
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was in prison after he murdered President
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Garfield You know, I have
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the one of the few surviving Champagne
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glasses from the John Adams White House,
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you know It's these artifacts are these
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things owned by presidents or that touch
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different parts of presidential history You picked
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a series of presidents you obviously weren't going to write a
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book about all of them But I think one of the
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things you did was you chose presidents
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who were archetypes for different choices That
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you can make about what to do
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once you are you were done leaving
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the country whose whose choices surprised you
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the most. So. The first thing
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that I'll say adam is that look,
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there's no more dramatic retirement or fire
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and then leaving the Presidency of the
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United States Him You go from having
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more power than anybody else in the
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world to living with a muzzle. On.
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Your mouth and being constrained with a sense
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that there's nothing left to to to achieve
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so that that the question itself was very
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interesting and as you mentioned all of us
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at different stages of life for asking this
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question of what's next. we ask it in
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microwaves throughout the course of our life and
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then we eventually get to this thing that
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we call retirement which is really more of
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a mirage and a transition I and a
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milestone and that that net than anything else
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and when I was struck by is very
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few Presidents' of the United States after leaving
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office. Had a good experience. In
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quote the political afterlife for a
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lot of them. They got stuck,
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get bogged down in settling old
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scores, and they were grumpy. Some
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were alcoholics, one of them join
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the Confederacy, one of them Via
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was a Northerner who became a
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Southern sympathizer during the Civil War.
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But the combination of health, finances,
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broken relationships, lack of purpose all
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these things aggregate in the post
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presidency to create conditions for a
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pretty unpleasant life for a lot
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of them. On so the question
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is who's left standing as focus on
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Thomas Jefferson and the founding of of
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the University of Virginia, John Quincy Adams
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who became the leader the Abolitionists in
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the house of Representatives, Grover Cleveland to
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mounted a successful come Back to the
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Presidency William Howard Taft to finally got
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his dream job of being Chief Justice
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to the Supreme Court, Herbert Hoover who
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was on a long pass to recover
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a path to serving the world after
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being broken by the Great Depression, Jimmy
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Carter who found a way to create
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a never ending presidency. As a former Presidents
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and George W. Bush who found a way
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to completely. Move. on p stood out
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in the sense that his popularity has gone
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and he's done less to invest in
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it than any others. And that for me
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was worthy of a study. But
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what's interesting is there really were only seven that
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I thought warranted a deeper look. And
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they had some things in common, but
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each of them pursued life after power
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in a very different way. And they
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do represent seven different archetypes. And what
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I find fascinating about that
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is there's not a
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perfect monolithic blueprint or playbook for
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how when we are going through
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transitions in our lives, whether it's
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towards the end, in the
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early stages of life, or the middle of life,
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there's not a playbook or perfect blueprint
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for how to do that right. I
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think the one that I found most interesting in the
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book was John Quincy Adams. What
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was powerful for me about his story
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was he had higher impact
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from a lower seat. Talk to
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me about what he did and what you took away from it.
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Here's a man who began his career
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appointed by George Washington to serve in
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his administration. And then he dies
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serving in the House of Representatives alongside
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a freshman congressman from Illinois named Abraham
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Lincoln. I mean, talk about a living
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connection between the past and the future.
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His presidency was the least eventful part
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of his life. It was basically an
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intermission between two of the greatest acts
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in American history. The first act of
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his life was a series of steps
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and jobs that led him on the
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path to be president. And that was
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largely architected for him by his famous
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parents, John and Abigail Adams. But his
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presidency is a political stillborn and
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cries of corrupt bargain basically
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make it impossible for him to achieve
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anything as president. And so then much
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like his father, he's defeated for reelection
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in 1828. And
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he's completely distraught. I mean, I got really,
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really deep into reading his diaries. And I
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would say I sort of appropriated some of
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his melancholy in the process. I mean, it's
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hard to imagine a more self-loathing, self-pitying,
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miserable human being than John
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Quincy Adams after he's defeated.
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Okay, you actually just explained why this is an
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unhealthy obsession. You
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went into the depths of somebody
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else's despair. His writings and his
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diary, they describe a man just
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completely destroyed. And so he
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goes back home to Quincy, Massachusetts, and
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he annoys his wife, he's annoying his
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kids, he's annoying his friends, he's spending
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all of his time fighting with people
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who wronged him at every stage of
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his life. And finally, everybody sort of
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gravitates around this idea just get back
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into service so you stop annoying the
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rest of us. And the only thing
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that John Quincy Adams knew was
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a life of service. And he'd already been
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Secretary of State, he'd been president, he served
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in the US Senate, he'd been an ambassador
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to multiple countries. And the
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only thing left was the lowest
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station of all, which is a
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mere representative in the House of
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Representatives. And he basically agrees to
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run, he's elected, and he
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ends up as this sort of ex-presidential
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novelty and sort of a joke
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in the lowest station he's ever had in
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his career. For his first year and a
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half, he does what a member of
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the House does in the late 1820s, early 1830s, which
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is you get petitions and you read them. And
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what happens is some of these
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petitions are petitions to abolish the
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slave trade in DC, petitions to
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emancipate the slaves. And then
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the reaction from the slaveocracy in
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the House of Representatives really astonishes him. And
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he realizes, wait a minute, they
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don't want me to read these petitions, that's
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an abomination to the right to petition. So
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then he starts reading more of them. And as
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he reads more of them, the slaveocracy gets increasingly
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agitated and they end up gagging him. And
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so then it's the right to petition is curbed,
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then the right to speech is curbed. And
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it all sort of culminates when he fights
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to rescind the gag order and
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defends the Amistad slaves before the Supreme
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Court. And what he realizes
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is that without searching for it, the
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cause of abolition found him and in
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a much lower station, he found a
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much greater calling. stumbled
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into this mission that frankly he
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had never championed at any other
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stage in his life. And
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he gets elected to nine terms in
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the House of Representatives. And before John
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Quincy Adams, the abolitionist cause was viewed
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largely as a fringe movement or a
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radical movement. And we know that Abraham
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Lincoln was inspired by what he saw
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from John Quincy Adams and that the
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intellectual architecture around the need for a
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constitutional amendment to get to emancipation inspired
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that young congressman who would go on
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to become one of the great presidents
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of the United States. That's an
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extreme example of not just bouncing back
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but bouncing forward. To
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go from complete despair, an unsuccessful
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presidency, to helping to plant
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the seeds of the
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emancipation proclamation, pretty extraordinary.
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His story tells you that if you're patient
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and you just kind of let things
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play out, you may actually find
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the greatest cause of your life. I
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wouldn't describe him as an open-minded person.
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I would describe him as an impatient
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person. He was meandering
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at the right moment. But
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had he leaned into some sort
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of deliberate cause, he may never
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have become the champion for the
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abolitionist movement that changed the course of history. It's
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a strong case for patience. It also
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makes me think about something that
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developmental psychologists have been interested in
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ever since Eric Erickson first coined,
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the distinction between generativity and stagnation.
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The question that I think all of us face
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around, am I going to contribute to the next
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generation? Or am I going
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to basically let my knowledge kind of
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ossify and not share it
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with others? And it
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seems to me that in some ways
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John Quincy Adams confronted the tension
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between happiness and meaning. He could have
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done lots of things that were personally
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pleasurable and enjoyable, but a little bit
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devoid of purpose. And through
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seeking something that was more meaningful, he
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found what might have been a little
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bit less fun work. but
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ultimately more enjoyable contributions
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to make. I think that's right.
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There's something else about John Quincy Adams that's worth
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calling out, and this won't be relatable to everybody, but
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he had a fighting spirit. He loves
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fighting with people and quarreling with people and
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intellectually out-foxing people.
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And he shows up in the House
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of Representatives and he just thinks these
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members are just the epitome of mediocrity.
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His success in the House was a
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combination of being motivated by this cause
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but it was gradual. What keeps him
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going is just the day-to-day, play-by-play of
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winning and outsmarting,
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and it's what drives him. At the
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end of the day, he's a political and an
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intellectual animal. There's so many sayings
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about how power affects people, right? So
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we think about Lord Acton, power corrupts.
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I've found that to be oversimplified, and
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I feel like a lot of the
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research in psychology says actually power doesn't
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corrupt so much as reveal. It
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amplifies the values and traits that you
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might have hidden when you were on your
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way up the ladder, but once you've gained
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enough influence and status and authority, you feel
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like now you can kind of show your
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true colors without major risk. I'm interested in
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how these dynamics play out when people lose
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power. So I guess the
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question for you, Jared, is does losing
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power uncorrupt people or
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does it also have a way of
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revealing or concealing who they really are?
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Jared Polin If I reflect on the
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seven presidents that I write about, the
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only one that I think really enjoyed being
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president and reveled in the power
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of the office was Jimmy
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Carter. And I think
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therefore it's fitting that what Jimmy Carter did
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that's different from any of the others is
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he was the first one to
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really build infrastructure around being a
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former president. He basically built a former presidential
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administration, but I think
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for the rest of them, the power of the
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presidency and a lot of respects. It
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actually got in the way of what they wanted
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to do. And the architecture
14:04
of the presidency ended up
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hindering the areas where they
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were most passionate, right? Jefferson his entire life
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was very clear about what he wanted to
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do. All he wanted to do was create
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the very first arts and
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sciences university, but he had
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this founder's obligation where he had to keep coming
14:22
back and serving. He had to be vice president.
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He had to be secretary of state. Then he
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had to be president twice. And all that did
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was cut years off his life and
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delay what he actually wanted to do, which
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was found a university. Herbert
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Hoover, before he became president, was
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one of the most revered men
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in not just the United States, but the
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world. He was the man who fed the
14:44
world after World War I. He was the
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hero of the recovery after the Mississippi floods.
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He was an orphan who rose to be
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a self-made millionaire. He's a man who lived
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90 years, and he's defined by three and
14:54
a half of the Great Depression.
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I think his view is, one, democracy is
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a harsh employer, something that he had said. But
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I think that he would have been a
15:04
very happy man had he never had to be
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president, because he would have been the great
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humanitarian for his whole life. And
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so at least for the
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seven presidents, or six of the seven
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that I focus on, I think what's
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fascinating is once they move to life
15:19
after power, once they leave the presidency
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behind, there's a period of time where
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they work to kind of
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rediscover who they were before
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they were president. They almost have to
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exercise out of them all of the
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sort of poison of the
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office and the politics and the baggage of
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the presidency. And each of them got to
15:38
that pretty quickly and rediscovered their race in
15:40
death tray. And it looked a little bit
15:43
different, and it evolved from the time from
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before they were president. It's kind of a
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tale of two types of power, the power
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of the office, which is intoxicating for some,
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but the power of purpose, which
15:54
I think defined a lot of these men that I write
15:56
about. It also makes
15:58
me think about the a classic triad
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of implicit motives that David McClellan put
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on the map in psychology. The idea
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that some people are driven by achievement,
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they want to succeed. Others
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are primarily guided by a desire for power, they
16:11
want to have influence and control. And
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then some are drawn to affiliation, they want to
16:16
connect and belong. As I hear you talk about
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the six that were not that happy
16:20
as presidents, they sound like they follow
16:22
the arc that David Winter has captured
16:25
in some of his research where it's
16:27
almost misplaced ambition. You're
16:29
an achievement motivated person and the
16:31
highest form of success is to become president.
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But then the process of having to campaign
16:35
and also to govern is not
16:38
about achievement, it's about power. And
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if you're not somebody who's power motivated,
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it's extremely frustrating to be blocked from
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achieving your goals, to be
16:46
constantly having to wheel and deal the
16:48
amount of smoothing that's required. It's really
16:50
counterproductive and annoying for an achievement motivated
16:53
person. And then you
16:55
leave the office and you
16:57
have to recalibrate, you're freed from having
16:59
to accumulate and exercise power, but
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your achievements seem really small or
17:04
what you're capable of achieving seems really small.
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And so then trying to figure out how do
17:09
you express that motivation, it's a bit of an
17:11
adjustment at some level. What
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do you make of all that? With each of the presidents
17:15
that I write about, each of them
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either enters the post-presidency
17:20
or discovers something in the
17:22
post-presidency that they become dogmatic
17:25
about in terms of some kind of
17:27
cause or motivation. And
17:30
whether they realize it at the
17:32
beginning of their post-presidency or later
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in their post-presidency, they come to
17:36
discover that unshackled from
17:38
the office and all the politics
17:40
and constraints, they're better positioned to
17:42
do something about it than they
17:44
were in office. Look,
17:47
even Jimmy Carter, who loved the
17:49
presidency more than anything, over time
17:52
he came to appreciate the fact that, wait a minute,
17:54
what I care about is human rights, free
17:56
and fair elections, curing disease,
17:59
and the post-presidency. and being a
18:01
former president that's willing to criticize
18:03
my Democratic and Republican successors, means
18:06
that I can basically do all the things with the presidency
18:08
that I loved, and I don't have to deal with any
18:10
of the garbage that bogged me down. We
18:12
all know people, they got offered the dream job
18:14
that they wanted, and the timing wasn't right. Maybe
18:16
they had a challenge with one of their kids,
18:18
or they didn't want to move somewhere, and they
18:21
had to turn down something that they really lusted
18:23
after. That was William Howard Taft,
18:25
except it's because he chose to basically
18:27
be subservient to his wife and his
18:29
three brothers and his mentor Theodore Roosevelt,
18:31
and he basically turned down the court
18:34
multiple times because everybody else wanted him
18:36
to be president. But he never lost
18:39
this sort of desire or this sense of
18:41
purpose to one day serve on the court.
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And William Howard Taft, his final 10
18:47
years of life were the happiest years
18:49
of his life because he served as Chief Justice of
18:52
the Supreme Court. Each of these presidents,
18:54
what's fascinating is as they get older, as
18:56
their legs give out, as
18:59
their health fails, as all their friends start dying,
19:01
they actually accelerate their activities. Herbert Hoover was the
19:03
most busy from the ages of 80 to 90.
19:06
William Howard Taft was most busy in his
19:08
last 10 years. And
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I have a theory on this that
19:12
because those first years out of office
19:15
are such a challenging transition, and
19:17
because they reflect back on the presidency
19:19
sometimes as lost years, which is
19:21
interesting, that towards the end of
19:24
life, they become conscious of their own mortality,
19:26
and they accelerate their activities because they feel like
19:29
they have to make up for lost time. And
19:32
that brings us to your presidential outlier,
19:34
George W. Bush, who you
19:36
spend a lot of time with and who
19:40
is just a complete enigma to me.
19:42
When I think about the motive profiles, the
19:45
research I've read scores him low in
19:47
both achievement and power compared to
19:50
affiliation. And I guess that
19:52
sheds some light on his choices, but it's just
19:54
so hard for me to fathom going from the
19:57
enormous station of...
20:00
president and also the complicated legacy, the
20:02
guilt of an Iraq war that didn't
20:04
need to be fought to saying, I'm
20:07
just going to paint. I
20:09
can't imagine it. Can you help make sense of this? If
20:12
you look at the active post presidents,
20:15
Bush's popularity has gone up more than any
20:17
of them. And so among
20:19
the living ex presidents or
20:22
the active living ex presidents, he's
20:24
the outlier. It's also true that
20:26
he has probably done less to
20:28
proactively invest in his legacy than
20:31
any of the other active living presidents.
20:33
So I think we can all agree that
20:35
that's worthy of a study. A journey into
20:37
George W. Bush's brain is like a psychological
20:39
thriller into things that for most of us
20:42
are impossible to understand. Right. When I sat
20:44
down with him, the first thing that he
20:46
said, he said, look, when it, when it's
20:48
over, it's over. I
20:51
don't miss it. He lives his life in
20:53
chapters. Right. So once the political chapter was
20:55
over, he just completely moved
20:57
on. That's one aspect that I think
20:59
just makes him unique to the other
21:02
presidents. He's just able to do that. So
21:04
that's point one. Yeah, I would I would
21:06
maybe add low tolerance for ambiguity to that
21:08
puzzle. Very, very low tolerance for ambiguity. And
21:11
he didn't just sort of stop being an ambitious person. So
21:13
the question is, where does all of that go? So the
21:16
way Bush ends up painting is after he
21:18
raises money for the Bush Center and has
21:21
this nervous energy just by happenstance, he's
21:23
meeting with historian John Lewis Gaddis. And
21:26
Gaddis basically says to him, you seem kind
21:28
of bored. You should paint Churchill painted. And
21:30
the way Bush describes it is he got
21:32
sort of historically competitive that if Churchill could
21:34
paint, he could paint also. He
21:37
didn't embark on painting for any esoteric, deep reason.
21:39
It was just like, oh, I'll try this. And
21:41
the more he did it, the more he realized,
21:44
you know what, this is giving him an endless
21:46
learning experience. It's something that
21:48
he will never master. Through painting,
21:51
he can actually embrace a post
21:53
presidential voice around things
21:55
that he cares about and categories of people
21:57
that he cares about and push
21:59
an agenda. without undermining his successor.
22:02
And that's what it's become. It did not start that way. And
22:05
he has a very quarrelsome view about
22:07
legacy. I mean, he said over and
22:10
over again that this idea of spending
22:12
the present, investing in when you're dead,
22:15
it just doesn't make any sense to him, right? His
22:17
view is that they're still writing books about George Washington.
22:19
By the time they get to him, he's gonna be
22:21
long dead. And so he really
22:23
just has this adversarial view of spending any
22:25
time investing in legacy. And
22:28
yet he's conscious of, and sort of amused
22:30
by the fact that by basically
22:32
not doing that, the
22:34
joke's sort of on everybody else because his legacy seems to
22:36
be the one that's actually gone up. I
22:39
was gonna ask you, and you've shifted already my thinking
22:41
about the answer, about does
22:43
he not care about his legacy? But I
22:45
think what you're saying is he's not indifferent
22:48
to it. He just knows it's mostly out
22:50
of his control. I asked him
22:52
if he paints out of guilt. I said a lot
22:54
of people think you paint out of guilt. And there's
22:56
no evidence of deviation from the decisions that
22:58
he made other than that he acknowledges they
23:00
were controversial. And he just has this view
23:02
that decisions are made, and
23:05
it takes decades upon decades to
23:07
understand whether those decisions were
23:09
worth it. And he thinks that legacy is
23:11
something that gets written about in the history
23:14
books, and life is meant to be lived.
23:16
He's invested so much in
23:18
his faith and in his family. I mean, the one
23:21
thing that I'll say about him, a lot of
23:23
these presidents that I write about, they
23:25
leave the presidency with their family just
23:27
in complete tatters. He is
23:29
authentically close to his family, authentically close.
23:32
It's something that he did
23:34
before he was president, invested in when he was
23:36
president, and as soon as he had more
23:38
time at his disposal, he made sure
23:40
that he doubled down on that. And
23:42
I think that that's also a pretty
23:45
important set of things that
23:47
kind of keep him grounded, because his view
23:49
is like the history books will write about
23:51
me as president, but when I'm kind of
23:53
old and frail, it's a question
23:55
of like, do my daughters love me? Does my
23:58
family love me? Do they wanna be around? me,
24:00
the ambition that takes one to be governor
24:03
and president not once but twice doesn't
24:05
lend itself towards somebody who can live in
24:08
the present. And yet he's like totally at peace.
24:11
And he doesn't think about the future.
24:13
He doesn't think about the past. And
24:15
this is bothersome to people who want
24:17
him to kind of have a reckoning
24:19
about his legacy and, you
24:21
know, decisions that they disagree with.
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and our good times. I
26:10
want to do the lightning round through the
26:12
lens of your presidential history obsessions. Most
26:15
overrated president. John F. Kennedy.
26:18
Worst advice a president has ever given. I
26:21
would say the worst advice
26:23
a president has ever given is some
26:25
combination of the multiple
26:30
slave owning, civil
26:32
rights obstructing presidents
26:34
that through the platform
26:37
of the presidency have slowed social
26:39
and racial progress in this country. Best
26:42
advice a president has given. I
26:44
always love Theodore Roosevelt's advice to get in the
26:46
arena. Hard to argue with that one. What's
26:49
the presidential biography that most people
26:51
haven't read but should? Ooh, that's
26:53
a good one. There's a book
26:55
called Destiny of the Republic by
26:58
Candice Millard that is
27:00
like a thriller into how James
27:02
Garfield's doctors in an attempt to try
27:04
to save him from a non-lethal wound
27:06
ended up killing the president. Wow.
27:09
All right. Putting it at the top of my thriller list.
27:12
What's something you've rethought in your life
27:15
from studying presidents? I
27:17
think that there's this assumption that we
27:19
all have that you
27:22
can wait until later
27:24
on in life to figure out
27:26
the last chapter. I think what's striking
27:28
from each of these presidents is the
27:31
investments that make for a good final
27:33
chapter in life, they start at the
27:35
middle of life. The people
27:37
you have around you, the relationships, the family,
27:39
the hobbies, the intellectual
27:42
interests, the ability to detach from
27:44
the burdens of the past.
27:48
I think what I've learned is if you defer all
27:50
of that until later, it's too
27:52
much. What you really want towards the end of
27:54
life is to have something
27:56
purposeful that keeps you going, something
27:58
that you can ... keep learning and
28:01
people around you who love
28:03
you despite any of the things that you've achieved
28:05
in your life. What's
28:08
the question you have for me? Out
28:10
of all of the seven presidents
28:12
and all the
28:14
different paths that they've taken from
28:17
a behavioral psychology perspective,
28:20
what surprises you most? I
28:23
think for me the biggest surprise is that more of
28:25
them aren't like Jefferson. I really would have thought that
28:28
a successful post-presidency is about doing something
28:30
bigger and more
28:32
meaningful and lasting. I guess
28:35
I expected them to be more grandiose and the
28:38
sort of walking out of the office
28:40
like you described it. You're giving
28:42
up some of your power, but you're also
28:44
free of all kinds of constraints. So
28:47
you have enormous status, you
28:49
have a world-class network, and
28:52
now you can pursue your vision. I guess
28:54
I'm surprised that not every one of them
28:56
sat down and said, okay, I'm going to
28:58
build a great university and change the face
29:00
of education in America. Their ambitions were so
29:02
much more diffused
29:06
and kind of, I
29:08
don't know, I don't want to say pedestrian, but ordinary.
29:13
I guess I'm curious Jared. I think you
29:15
know more heads of state than anyone in
29:17
our generation on Earth. You're
29:19
in frequent communication with many presidents and prime
29:21
ministers around the world. It
29:24
seems to me so narcissistic to
29:27
even think that you could be capable of doing
29:29
a job that complex. What do
29:31
you make of them? It's a
29:33
very lonely job and it's a very isolating
29:35
job and the longer you are in a
29:37
role, the more
29:39
isolated you become, the lonelier
29:41
you become. Trust becomes very
29:43
difficult. Information flow
29:46
changes. And so I think when
29:48
I'm struck by with a lot of these leaders, I get
29:50
to know them in a very personal way.
29:53
I spend big chunks of my
29:55
day joking around with them and sending
29:57
each other memes and engaging them
29:59
on a very very informal way, there's
30:01
plenty of substantive engagement as well.
30:04
But when you break down those
30:06
barriers of formality, I'm struck by
30:08
how little space they have for
30:11
just regular friendship and
30:13
emotion and the value
30:15
that they feel when they can let their
30:17
guard down and when they know they can
30:19
really trust somebody, right? So
30:22
things like trust and informality and
30:24
friendship become really, really sought after,
30:26
rarified things
30:29
and the walls and the barriers only
30:31
get higher as they accumulate more power.
30:34
And so what's interesting is when they
30:36
eventually leave office, and I found
30:38
this also with the presidents in my book, they
30:41
lose the power and they lose the platform, but
30:43
all those barriers are still up. And
30:46
the transition comes, they may be the
30:48
same person, but they're
30:50
psychologically discombobulated because the guardrails are
30:52
still up. And the presidents who
30:54
were able to break that down
30:56
end up, I think, being the
30:59
happiest. I love the
31:01
point you made earlier about how sometimes
31:04
it's a mistake to rush into finding your purpose,
31:07
that actually sitting in a transition
31:09
and sort of allowing
31:11
your peripheral vision to kick in can
31:14
prevent you from diving headfirst into something that
31:16
might not end up being aligned with your
31:18
values or interests. Are there
31:20
any other life lessons that you've taken away from this
31:22
project that we should be aware of? Because
31:24
now would be the time to tell us. I
31:27
think whether you're a president of the United
31:29
States or a CEO, one
31:31
of the most important things to
31:34
do, and I would argue it's a
31:36
necessary step in order to be able
31:38
to have a successful life after power,
31:40
which is to unburden
31:43
yourself from what
31:46
your successor is doing. Whether it's
31:48
your chosen successor or successor
31:50
you don't want, you're going to
31:52
have to watch them dismantle some portion of
31:55
your legacy. You can completely detach
31:57
from it and move on. Here's
32:00
a lot of brush for you. You can say, you know what?
32:03
My thing is going to be that whether
32:06
it's this successor or another successor, I'm
32:08
going to be completely unchecked. And
32:10
that's the Carter principle, and it worked for
32:12
him. The problem is most people
32:15
end up in this in between, which is a bad
32:17
place to be, where you
32:20
say that you want to move on, but
32:23
you can't resist the urge to
32:25
settle scores of the past and
32:27
press rewind and undermine your successor.
32:29
And by the way, whether
32:32
you do that in public or private doesn't
32:34
matter, because the interesting thing with a lot
32:36
of the presidents that I write about, their
32:39
biggest obstacle is their own head, right?
32:42
They mentally just have a hard
32:44
time getting past what's happening to
32:46
things that they created and what's
32:48
happening to their reputation and what's
32:50
happening to their legacy.
32:52
And so that limbo or
32:54
that hybrid of intellectually
32:56
telling yourself you've moved on but
32:59
impulsively not moving on is,
33:01
I believe, the greatest obstacle that
33:04
prevents people from making a
33:06
proper transition. It's
33:08
obvious how that applies to job transitions. I
33:10
think anybody who's going through a transition at
33:13
work can make a commitment to giving up
33:15
the reins and actually moving on and not
33:17
interfering with the person who's filled their shoes.
33:20
I also think this applies generationally in
33:22
families, that it would
33:24
be really nice if parents stopped telling
33:26
their kids how to parent, right? It's a
33:28
version of the same mistake. I
33:30
remember saying to my mom at some point, if
33:33
you wanted me to learn this lesson, you should have taught it to
33:35
me when I was growing up. Your window
33:37
has passed. Now it's my job
33:39
to figure out how I want to raise my kids.
33:41
And I wonder if you think this
33:44
lesson applies to that kind of transition
33:46
too. Yeah, absolutely. On
33:48
the surface, it shouldn't seem like
33:51
learning about and reading about the lives of
33:53
seven presidents and their search for meaning and
33:55
purpose after the White House could
33:58
be applied to something like the... relationship
34:00
between a parent and a child
34:02
over how the next generation parents and
34:05
I think it's an extraordinary story that something
34:08
so kind of other stratosphere would have
34:10
so many prescriptions for something that in
34:12
some respects seems so relatively
34:14
mundane When compared to
34:16
like things we read about in the history books
34:19
and I think that's an amazing part of
34:21
behavioral psychology Which is look at the end
34:23
of the day, you know this better than
34:26
anyone else Adam There's only so many different
34:28
types of human beings or archetypes of human
34:30
beings and whether they're presidents or parents or
34:32
CEOs or Middle managers human beings are complicated
34:35
in only a certain number of ways and
34:37
the prescriptions for how they navigate Their
34:40
complicated brains and their complicated lives They
34:43
kind of transcend whether one is at the
34:45
pinnacle of power or whether one's
34:47
power is simply a matter of The
34:49
fact that this is my child mom and dad
34:51
not yours. So leave me alone well
34:54
put Jared as always this has
34:56
been a lot of fun. I've learned a lot. Thank
34:58
you Adam. I really enjoyed it This
35:03
conversation got me thinking about the arc of
35:05
success over the course of a lifetime It's
35:08
good to plan your path up a mountain But
35:11
it's also important to consider what you'll
35:13
do once you reach the summit and
35:16
who you want to become on the way back
35:18
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I Collect
35:56
locks of presidential hair which I'm
35:58
no longer shy about because if
36:00
you're a lock of hair collector, you
36:02
need to kind of own it and lean into
36:04
it. Somebody can ask me what the weather is,
36:06
and I could say it's so interesting. That reminds me
36:08
of when John Quincy Adams, you know, was defeated
36:10
for reelection and ended up serving nine terms in
36:12
the House of Representatives as an ex-president. When
36:15
my three daughters and my wife tell me
36:17
it's unhealthy, that's sort of the
36:19
vote of the majority, and I deem my obsession
36:21
unhealthy. That's fair. About once a week, our
36:23
10-year-old hears me talking about something and says, Dad,
36:26
stop nerd talking.
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