I remember being at a wedding and sitting at the table with other couples my age. We were looking at the bride and groom on the dance floor, and one husband said, “Give them and few years, and they won’t be acting like that anymore.” Everyone at the table laughed, including yours truly. Isn’t that what most people think? We laughed, but it was also pretty sad to think that. I mean, is that as good as it gets? I don’t think it is. 

There was a truth in what he said.  They won’t be acting like that. In other words, they won’t be doing the things that keep the passion alive and growing. If you build a fire and don’t keep it going by adding wood, it will eventually burn out and grow cold.  

Realistically, life can get in the way of keeping the passion and spark alive in the relationship if we let it, and I find that most couples do. We stand face to face at the beginning focusing on each other and the relationship exclusively. Then we have kids, and we turn shoulder to shoulder to raise them, build careers, handle chaotic schedules, and try to juggle all the balls we are responsible for. 

We take our eyes off of the relationship. It isn’t that we let things slide intentionally. We don’t know any better. Most of us were keeping our heads above water. This is the most common dynamic I see in the couples that come to me for help. Passion falls by the wayside because we don’t keep it alive.

In this episode, I'll give you four ways to get the fire burning again.  For the complete transcript for this episode, you can go to http://reviveyourmidlifemarriage.com/66