My guest today is Wes Bertrand who runs completeliberty.com and happinesscounseling.com. Wes is a guy that I greatly respect who has done some magnificent work in the areas of liberty, non-violent communication, adverse childhood experiences, and personal growth and recovery.Our conversation centers around the question of whether or not our children would grow up to have negative self-talk, toxic beliefs, and an inner-critic if they were raised in a non-domination paradigm—a truly peaceful, fulfilling, and connected world.And I want to add and make very clear that this is not a conversation about parents who overtly abuse and neglect children. I think everyone is on the same page that overt abuse is destructive and has lasting consequences. This discussion is about the “normal” parenting practices, and schooling practices, and discipline practices, and cultural norms, that have destructive and lasting consequences that the mainstream conversation, frankly, refuses to consider or discuss.Here's some highlights of this conversation:Jay Early’s seven types of inner-criticsHow to heal your inner-critic by recognizing it as a teacher rather than a bad part of you that needs to be hidden away.Nathaniel Branden's questions for parents regarding meeting the needs of children and interacting with them in a way that protects them from developing these harsh inner-critics.There’s a lot of overlap with schooling, daycares, religion and other societal institutions...There’s a section on spanking, punishments and rewards, and a whole lot more.I know this is a really long episode, but it’s chock full of insights and information that will exponentially deepen your connection with your child, so find a way to listen to the whole thing. If you can’t block out a single chunk for listening, then just listen to it in small doses. You can listen to 20 minutes, pause it, come back tomorrow, that sort of thing.We’ll be having a follow up discussion in the Reboot Your Kids Facebook group if you want to join in. Thanks for listening.Jay Early's Seven Types of Inner-CriticsPerfectionist - unconditional loveThis critic tries to get you to do things perfectly.It sets high standards for the things your produce, and has difficulty saying something is complete and letting it go out to represent your best work.It tries to make sure that you fit in and that you will not be judged or rejected.Its expectations probably reflect those of people who have been important to you in the past.Guilt-TripperThis critic is stuck in the past. It is unable to forgive you for wrongs you have done or people you have hurt.It is concerned about relationships and holds you to standards of behavior prescribed by your community, culture and familyIt tries to protect you from repeating past mistakes by making sure you never forget or feel free.UnderminerThis critic tries to undermine your self confidence and self esteem so that you won’t take risks.It makes direct attacks on your self worth so that you will stay small and not take chances where you could be hurt or rejected.It is afraid of your being too big or too visible and not being able to tolerate judgment or failure.DestroyerIt makes pervasive attacks on your fundamental self worth.It shames you and makes you feel inherently flawed and not entitled to basic understanding or respect.This most debilitating critic, comes from early life deprivation or trauma.It is motivated by a belief that it is safer not to exist.MolderThis critic tries to get you to fit into a certain mold based on standards held by society, your culture or your family.It wants you to be liked and admired and to protect you from being abandoned, shamed or rejected.The Molder fears that the Rebel or the Free Spirit in you would act in ways that are unacceptable. So it keeps you from being in touch with and expressing your true nature.Taskmaster