In this episode of Rise and Find, Blake speaks with Mel Yu, a motivational speaker, mental health advocate and host of the podcast, ‘The Authentic Me.’ In 2017, she founded MCO Events, a corporate and private events organization based in Melbourne.

To begin, Mel talks about the impact of COVID-19 on her business and how it led to a shift towards personal development and coaching. As a society, we have stopped listening and we need to return to kindness as a fundamental tool of interaction. While suicide rates are not ‘technically’ up during the pandemic, the real impact remains to be seen. More than ever, it’s important to practice self-awareness and be open to dialogue, even if it feels a bit weird.

Mel emphasizes the importance of becoming a victor over your circumstances, not a victim. Even though the pandemic initially made her uncomfortable, she decided to double down on her gratitude and is confident that she will come out stronger in the end. One of her favorite ways to practice positivity is through meditation. By taking control and finding a routine, we can quiet the chaos in our mind and be truly present in our lives. 

Unfortunately, it is human nature to say that we’re fine. That’s why it’s important to be consistent and check-in on your friends. Showing that you care proves that you’ll be there if anything goes wrong. This is true for men and women. Despite biological differences, mental health struggles exist on both sides. We must create a safe space to share our problems.

Each of us is unique. Mel encourages everyone to discover the ‘why’ in your life. Reject the lie of social media and be conscious of what you’re consuming. The most uncomfortable questions can change your life. When you figure out your purpose, it will translate to everything you do.

Just remember that anxiety comes in many forms. Medication is helpful, but it is not a substitute for being mindful. Early education is key, as well as understanding you’re not alone. Start your day with gratitude and believe you’re okay. Each day is a chance to take control of your life.

Timestamps

(2:58) Kindness is the foundation to suicide prevention. Be willing to listen and truly hear what others are saying.

(7:28) Due to the pandemic, reaching out is more important than ever. We will appreciate face-to-face meetings when the time to gather together comes again.

(14:13) Practice positivity. You wouldn’t let someone speak to you how you speak to yourself.

(22:43) Checking-in when someone doesn’t need help proves that you’ll be there when they do.

(26:05) We must be courageous and dig deeper. Surface-level relationships don’t inspire change.

(30:25) Mental health is not a problem exclusive to men or women. There are biological differences, but an open dialogue must be had by all.

(32:50) Questioning someone’s qualifications based on age or gender is limiting on their part.

(35:16) You control whether to buy-in to the lie of social media. Become a gatekeeper and choose healthy habits.

(40:17) Only the most confronting and honest questions can give you the answers that you need.

(46:34) Suffering is inevitable. Be prepared for when it comes.

(48:45) Medication is not a standalone solution. Life tools are essential in regaining control.

(51:25) You are not alone. Don’t hesitate to seek help.

(53:50) Be present in life. Everything that you do can be mindful.

(57:51) No matter what, you are okay. Practicing gratitude helps you appreciate what you have.

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