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I have with me Linda Bogdanoff
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. She is a divine
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feminine coach yummy
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and she helps people harness
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their sexual energy . I'm
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just saying right now I'm pretty sure it's
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going to be a juicy conversation , come
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on . So thank
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you , linda , for joining me today . I'm really
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excited .
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Thank you so much . I'm really excited . Thank you so much . I'm super excited
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to be here to chat with you as well .
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Will you please tell our listeners
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what you do , and who you
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help .
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Yeah , so , as you said , I'm a divine feminine
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coach and I help men
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and women connect with their
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divine feminine . So that means allowing
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you to receive
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more , whether that's pleasure , more
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abundance , just receiving , which
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is a very hard thing for a lot of people to do
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so receiving
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listening to their bodies , the wisdom
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of their bodies and their intuition , so
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that they can make the most aligned decisions
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for themselves , instead of needing
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it to come from externally .
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I love that and let
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me back up just a second . So you
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said you help men and
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women with
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bringing out their divine energy
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. So I imagine bringing
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out their divine energy . So I imagine male listeners right now are
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doing a little in their brain and and wait , wait a minute , wait a minute
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. I'm a man . What are you talking about ? Feminine
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? Like that might feel threatening
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to guys . What can
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you speak to ?
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that , yes , so
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I think our world
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is very imbalanced in the masculine
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energy and that is the
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energy of doing , um
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, for the sake of doing sometimes
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, and and some
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, you know there's other things , but , um
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, we're stuck in that masculine energy . And
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so the feminine , you know , everybody
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has masculine and feminine energy
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. It doesn't it's not just . You
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know , your sex indicates which
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energies you have , and the
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whole idea is to balance the two . And
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a lot of us , including women
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and especially men , have
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that imbalance of the feminine energy
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about nurture and love
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and , um , intuition
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and embodiment , um
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, so we
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, we kind of need both , yeah , yeah
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, and so it's really important for
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everybody to have
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that balance . Otherwise , otherwise
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, where we may be , like women
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operating from masculine
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energy and men operating
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in very masculine energies
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, and and , and then
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the feminine energy is left out and
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it's needed to create , to to
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provide kind of that direction as well
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for us provide
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kind of that direction as well .
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For us , yeah yeah , feminine and masculine energy don't really have anything
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to do with man , woman . We got to like separate those because
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because , yeah , being feminine is
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not does not mean being weak at
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all , it's just accessing this
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, this other part of us . So I'm glad
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that we got a little clarity
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on that definition right off the hop . So
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, men , listen up , oh my gosh , it's like
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the more men are in touch with
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their feminine , they don't feel
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so insecure and needing to prove themselves
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all the time . And just you know , being the stud
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when they can get in touch with their feminine
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energy , being
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the stud when they can get in touch with their feminine energy , ooh , there's
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a level of security there and like security in their masculine
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security out in the world , like just
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being in touch with more parts of themselves . Oh
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, it's so delicious when you're with a
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man who's who's getting in touch with this feminine
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.
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Yes , yes , and it
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might be jarring for some of us . So like
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initially , when you do meet a man
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that is feminine and masculine
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, um , because you're just not used to
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someone being vulnerable and , in their feelings
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, like allowing their feelings to
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come up . So , yeah , even
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in the evolution of my relationship with my husband
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we've been together for 12 , 12 years
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and very different people
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in the beginning and like
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when he started to balance
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his feminine energy
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and it's still kind of a work in progress but
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in the beginning I remember being like oh
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, wow , like I wanted him to do this
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, but I didn't expect . You
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know how it was going to unfold . It didn't
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. I don't know if I was necessarily prepared
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for that , but now you know it's
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. It's just been a really
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beautiful kind of I don't
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know it's a different energy , but but
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his masculine does feel more secure as
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a result of that .
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Well , I love that , and
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I love that you've got evidence in your own relationship
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to back this up
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. That's so good , so good . So
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let me ask you what brought
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you to this line of work ? That's
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a great question .
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It's definitely a personal experience , but
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I really started the the first
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half well , not first half , but
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the first 30 years of my life um
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, basically being so in
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that masculine energy , like
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I wanted to just
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work and be independent and , you
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know , not need a man or whatever
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. So I was just like compensating for
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that , for like wanting
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to prove myself that
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I , that I could be fiercely independent
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, and I
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went down the path of analytics , actually
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so making very
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logical decisions , using
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data coding
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, you know , doing all of this stuff
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. That was very mind oriented
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, like we couldn't
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get anything wrong , you
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know , and it was just very
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, very masculine and
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I was on that path for maybe
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10 years and I
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just it was
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actually my 30th birthday where I
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was in the Turks and Caicos , and
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at this point I've traveled quite a bit and
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um use travel as a
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way to escape , but
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during this journey , this
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trip , I couldn't escape
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, like I was miserable in
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paradise , and that's when I realized
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something has to shift , something
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is not right in my life , because
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I can't even be happy . In
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paradise there's turquoise , blue
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waters and it's like perfect weather and
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it's just incredible , like
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in the 3D . It's incredible , but
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like internally , I just felt so
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miserable , and
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so that was a turning point for me . I was like , all
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right , I got home and I was like
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something needs to change because , like who
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, who is miserable in the Texas
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Bay coast ?
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Right , and we think that external , you
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know , Ooh , I'm going to go somewhere or
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I'm going to do something and that'll make me happy
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.
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Yeah not really Exactly
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. And then you know , the next thing that
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was like very pertinent in my life was
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my job . So I was like , okay , I
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just have to change my job , my job
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situation . But I started
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building my own e-commerce
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business during the time
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that I was working in corporate and then
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I ended up leaving shortly
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after that and just being
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full time in my business . But
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I realized , even in my business I was very
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masculine about it . And
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they say that when you go on your
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entrepreneurial journey , lots
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of things come up . It's kind of like its own
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spiritual awakening with relationship
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and with your journey to
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entrepreneurship . And so so many
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things were just coming up and I was just realizing
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that I was still trying
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to prove myself through my business
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, like I was trying to prove myself
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in my job , in my corporate
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journey , and it
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just forced me to go down this
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healing path . And that was several
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years ago now and
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that had led to
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lots of different retreats , lots of different
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like doing a lot of inner child work
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, doing lots of different experimenting with modalities
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to try to fix myself
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, because I was like there's something wrong
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. Um , I'm still not like
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internally , I just still feel so unsatisfied
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. And so , yeah
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, the search kind of was before
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. That was like , okay , let's search for external
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things that can make me happy . And
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now it was like okay , I know , I have inner work to
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do , things are coming up . And
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I remember there was one night in particular
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where I was , I
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saw like a YouTube
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video on Tantra and
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I'm not sure if you're aware of Salma Isadora
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she
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actually okay . So she
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, um , her story is really beautiful and I
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watched this 30 minute video and
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she was talking about like basically
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, her sexual trauma and how tantra
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she used tantra to help heal
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that trauma . And it was just
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this beautiful story . And
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after I watched that video I
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was like I need to work with this woman , like
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there's something here Like we all mean
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sexual healing , and
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I was super excited . And I found
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out that she had passed away like
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years before and
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I was just , I
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was crushed . I was like this was my
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chance , like to , you know , work with somebody . And
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she was a woman and I felt comfortable
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with that . Especially , I had some sexual
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trauma with a man
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and I was just like I
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want to work with a woman and
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I got this clear message and
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it was like it's your turn to
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take on this , this role , and
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help women
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heal and men , and
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men as well heal that part
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of themselves . And at
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the time I shut it down like I heard
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the voice and I shut it down because I was not ready
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for that .
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Right , because you're still on your own journey
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. And who are you to be the teacher when
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you're still a student ?
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Yeah , and I had
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like I'd suppressed
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my sexuality and there
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was like a lot of shame and
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judgment around talking about
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the topic , you know , and being
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a person , like a public
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person that talked about
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this and taught other people that , let
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alone not having that
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kind of fully healed yet , and
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I was just like this is too much . Like
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, what are you ? The first thing was like what are people going
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to think of me ? And
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I was just crying and crying and my husband
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, remember , he was just like holding me and
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he was so supportive
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. He was like , if this is your truth
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, it doesn't matter what they think . And
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and I , I think I just I went
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to bed after that and then kind of forgot
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about it until
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, um , I
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went on a retreat , um
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, and this retreat was a general
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spiritual retreat and it was to heal
12:28
, a healing spiritual retreat , and
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I didn't have the intention
12:34
to heal sexual wounds or
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anything , but that's just what happened
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. The kind of sexual trauma came
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back up and this whole time in my life
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I knew about it , but
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I didn't . I didn't like
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admit to it , but I didn't . I didn't like admit to it
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. I didn't in my mind tell
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myself it was real . Um
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, until this retreat , I was like this happened to me , I know it and I claimed that and
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I released it and it was like this opening
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up in my body , um
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, and my sexuality just felt like
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liberated and free , um
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, and it was the first time I felt
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free within myself and
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it was such a beautiful , beautiful moment
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, um , and it was the first time I
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had seen the goddess in myself
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, like she came out . Yeah
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, I just I felt so sexually liberated
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, so so liberated in general
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within myself , and
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that was the feeling I decided
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. I was like
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this is what everybody
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needs to feel , like this
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freedom within ourselves , because
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then we wouldn't
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rely on these external sources to make us
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feel happy
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and fulfilled , because
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it doesn't work anyways , right
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, not for the long term yeah
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yeah and I I find
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that , um , I can totally relate to that feeling
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of when you have a breakthrough
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and you have a release and
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you have this , I guess
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, opening of new
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possibilities .
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It feels so good that
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at least for me , like I'm a teacher at
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heart , just always
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knew that from a child , from when I was a child
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, I wanted to teach . I
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was a child , I wanted to teach , and so a part of me just wants to give that gift to everybody
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else and anybody else who is suffering in some way similar
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to me . I want to give them
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that transformation too . So
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I can understand how you would
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go through that , that
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healing , and just want
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to help everyone
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else heal .
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And yeah , and then I went down like kind
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of the medicine , the plant medicine
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journey . I felt
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the call to do ayahuasca . The
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first night . I
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ended up getting this message
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that I was a goddess of pleasure
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in like a past life and
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it was really beautiful . Like there
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were a bunch of people that came
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to like basically heal
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themselves sexually in what looked like
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my palace , but then
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there were people that I guess
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were armed , that came and like burnt
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down my palace and
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so there was a fear there that
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I had realized . There was
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a fear of being in my pleasure because
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I would hurt people
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, it would destroy
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my palace , it would hurt the people around
15:43
me that I really cared about . And
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then I kind of
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released that that
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fear . Um
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, in that first night and then the second night
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I was like , okay , it was a
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goddess of pleasure , like show me
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what pleasure is . And
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it was the best night of my entire
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life , like my whole
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entire body felt just so
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incredible , so blissful
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. It was the most blissful experience I've ever had
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and I was connected
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to you know , something bigger
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than myself , like my higher self or God
16:20
. It was just so magical
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, like every ounce of my body was just
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um
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, felt like ecstasy and I I
16:29
was dancing and I remember , before I got
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up to dance , I remember asking
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how do I , how can
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I be in my pleasure in dance
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while everybody else is clearly suffering
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? And the message was
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when you step into your pleasure , you
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will heal their pain and
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theirs was the people around me , but
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also my ancestors and
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it was this beautiful message of we
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don't need to struggle , we don't
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need to be in pain to heal other
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people . You actually can't do
17:02
it that way , but by being light
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pleasure you actually
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give people permission and you heal
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and dissolve kind of their own struggle
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right , yeah , yeah
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.
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You have to be on the boat to throw
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the buoy to help someone who's drowning . You
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can't
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be splashing around with them , you got
17:24
yeah , exactly
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, exactly , um , yeah
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.
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And I think after that I was like oh
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yeah , this one's really juicy , this
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one's really juicy . So after ayahuasca
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, which was like a November , it's like November
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21 that
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January I set
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an intention for the month to
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have a self-sufficiency practice
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every single day of that month , and
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it was also something
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that I wouldn't allow myself to do , like
17:57
, or if I did , I would feel
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really guilty about it , and I hadn't , in
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my relationship , done that because I was
18:03
like well , you know , he's available
18:05
, like I don't need to do this . But
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it was at that retreat that I was like no
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, I get to do this . And
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so in January I was like well , let's just experiment
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with this . And so every day I was like have
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some sort of self-pleasure practice
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, even
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if it's for a little bit . And
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at this time I also learned
18:29
that the clit was basically
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made to just have orgasms , like
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the function of the clit is just
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to receive .
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Right , it's all about pleasure . When you think
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about it that way , yeah , there's no other function
18:43
than
18:45
to just have pleasure .
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Yes , and it's so beautiful and
18:50
that you
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could have unlimited . Pretty
18:54
much women can have unlimited orgasms
18:56
, and I didn't really know this and
18:58
I didn't , you know . I think we have like one
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and it's like okay , that's enough
19:02
, like that's , that's
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good enough for me , right , just even have one sometimes
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it's a miracle . But
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I built on that and
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I was like let me play with this , like let's see how many
19:14
I can get to . It wasn't like a competition
19:16
or anything , but I was just like doing
19:19
it from a place of curiosity and
19:21
I ultimately built it
19:23
up to a point where I was able
19:25
to have like 20 orgasms at least
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, because I kind of lost count , but
19:30
I was able to get to 20
19:32
orgasms in a session and
19:34
in some of these sessions
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it just like opened up this beautiful
19:39
portal and like
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was so blissful and
19:44
like really felt like I connected to God
19:46
, like in those orgasms and
19:48
they like time stopped and
19:51
I was like whoa , there's
19:54
something deeper here , like this
19:56
connection with the divine , which actually
19:58
led me down the path of tantra , training
20:00
in tantra , so that
20:03
february I started training
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um , doing like a tantra yoga
20:07
, training um remotely
20:10
, but they were based in India . And
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then , a year after that training , I went
20:15
to India to study
20:17
from a different school just
20:19
to have my bases covered . It has
20:21
been a beautiful journey of allowing
20:23
myself permission to
20:25
go into the
20:28
pleasure , because that was
20:30
the first thing that was like really hard for me
20:32
I was denying my own pleasure
20:34
, right .
20:36
So let's define Tantra
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, because I know years ago I took
20:41
a lot of Tantra training myself which
20:44
is like absolutely incredible
20:46
and life-changing . I looked
20:49
up the definition on Google or something
20:51
Tantra , pooja and
20:53
all the definitions I found out
20:55
there . I'm thinking that
20:58
does not resemble what I
21:00
have experienced with Tantra . I'm
21:02
sure some listeners are like what the hell is Tantra ? And
21:05
they're Googling it as we speak . So
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what
21:09
does Tantra mean in your world ?
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The high level definition is basically
21:14
that Tantra is a tool for expansion . That's
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kind of the main
21:19
high level summary . There's different um
21:22
different paths of Tantra
21:24
Um , but that's kind
21:26
of the idea is it's
21:28
a tool for expansion . So
21:40
whether that is using mantras
21:42
, which are spoken syllables and languages
21:44
to connect with the divine
21:47
, or yantras , which are symbols for using sex
21:49
, or yoga or
21:54
yoga , it's one of the tools to connect with um
21:56
, liberation and freedom and expansion um in connecting with the divine
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, and so that's kind of the gist of the high
22:01
level version um , but
22:03
there's there's different elements of it that
22:05
I personally kind of practice
22:08
and that is um
22:11
. Basically , tantra
22:14
is about presence . It's
22:18
being so present in
22:20
every situation that
22:22
you're in . So and creating
22:24
everything is treating , everything is sacred
22:26
. So if you think about sex
22:28
, it is being fully present
22:31
and experiencing the sacredness
22:33
of the act , whether it's
22:35
with yourself or with a partner or whatever
22:38
it is , and
22:40
it can be in cooking or even
22:42
cleaning , like everyday
22:45
things can be
22:47
beautiful . You don't
22:49
have to go to the Turks and Caicos because you could be
22:51
miserable there anyway .
22:53
Right yeah , there's a whole
22:55
buffet of bliss
22:57
inside your own home
22:59
.
23:00
you know I guess yes
23:02
, and it's actually realizing that first
23:04
, that you're able to experience
23:07
the world
23:10
through the lens
23:12
of . Let me experience
23:14
it , as it is not what I expect it to
23:16
give me or allow it to
23:18
feel oh
23:21
, I love that yeah
23:24
, so practicing presence has
23:26
been a huge one on this tonic
23:28
path . For me , um and
23:31
um . The other thing is
23:33
connecting with goddesses
23:35
is a big one in the divine feminine energy
23:37
. So that is
23:40
either channeling the goddesses , asking
23:42
for guidance , working with them , um
23:44
, in some capacity , and
23:47
allowing the divine feminine to
23:50
enter your life . So
23:52
that is a more flow , connecting
23:54
your body , um
23:56
, as the , the guidance for wisdom
23:59
, um and just
24:01
yeah , there's so much more more
24:03
there , but but generally speaking , um connecting
24:05
with the divine feminine , connecting with the divine
24:07
feminine .
24:09
Right , and so you've
24:11
mentioned the word goddesses . So
24:24
is that a specific religion or is it more down the spirituality path ? Because I can see , sometimes
24:26
when we throw out certain words , like when you throw out the word God , that
24:28
means so many different things to so many
24:30
different people , depending on whether they're
24:32
religious or not , and so
24:35
it's a loaded word and I can see
24:37
goddess for someone who
24:41
belongs to an orthodox religion
24:43
, then they would throw
24:45
out everything you're saying just because you use the
24:47
word goddess . So let's unpack
24:50
the
24:52
word goddess or goddesses so
24:54
that everyone because
24:57
I believe that everyone regardless of
24:59
their , their faith , their beliefs , spirituality
25:03
, religious , all that , um , that
25:05
they can benefit from from this information
25:07
.
25:08
Yes , absolutely so . There
25:10
are goddesses from different religions
25:12
. Like you know , hinduism , they practice
25:15
working with goddesses from um
25:17
, like the hindu goddesses . So
25:19
that's a big um those are
25:21
, that's big . In the tantric path
25:23
is working with those specific goddesses , like
25:26
khali , churgath , um
25:28
, satsavati , pravati
25:31
. There's a ton of goddesses with
25:33
different kind of shadow aspects
25:35
, with different gifts as well
25:37
. So there's that
25:40
. But there are also other goddesses
25:42
and Mary Magdalene and
25:45
Mary . You know those are some of
25:47
the goddesses in Christianity
25:49
. Mary Magdalene
25:51
has a different reputation of Christianity you
25:53
know Catholicism than this kind
25:55
of spiritual goddess kind
25:58
of world , if you will . But
26:01
yeah , it can be from myth or
26:03
like from stories from you know
26:05
ancient traditions as
26:08
well . I kind of work with all of them
26:10
, the ones that kind of resonate
26:12
at the time , depending
26:14
on my journey , depending on the day , and
26:18
I believe that we all have
26:20
a god goddess within us . We
26:24
are that . That's
26:26
in everybody . That's what I believe
26:28
.
26:29
Right , and isn and isn't it ? I mean even
26:31
pulling back even
26:33
further . Isn't
26:36
it really just a permission slip to
26:39
call upon some external
26:42
or internal source of
26:44
power and
26:46
some of for some of us who don't are
26:48
, don't have a high sense of
26:51
confidence or self-esteem
26:53
, self-worth then it's
26:55
easier to look outside of us for some
26:57
source of power . And
27:00
isn't that just a permission slip
27:02
to say , yeah , I'm
27:04
calling upon the power of this
27:07
thing that's going to help me
27:09
reach some
27:11
goal in my life or attain some
27:13
something that I want ? It's
27:15
just permission slip , I think . Call
27:17
it a goddess , call it God , call
27:20
it higher self , call
27:22
it whatever you want , call it aliens , I don't care
27:24
. It's whatever works for you
27:26
. It works . It's like a
27:28
placebo effect . It doesn't matter
27:30
really what it is , as
27:32
long as it aids you . It
27:35
how it's of service to
27:37
you . Big old permission slip
27:39
to go yep , you
27:41
deserve that . Yep , you can have that
27:43
. And here's the path
27:45
yes , I love that
27:47
.
27:48
I love that . You said that and and it really that's
27:50
it . It's however you
27:52
want to , however it feels called to work with
27:55
the divine . That's what I used
27:57
to call it . God , goddess , whatever
27:59
um it's
28:01
, however , it wants to show up for you now , however you feel
28:03
called . Yeah , and
28:06
, and I agree when , sometimes
28:09
, when we're starting this path , or maybe just
28:11
like starting to learn about the
28:13
goddesses , it's like it's
28:15
outside of us because
28:17
you know we don't
28:19
realize how much power we
28:22
have , how powerful we
28:24
are , um
28:36
, so seeing this gives you like that inspiration and um allows you that permission exactly
28:38
to step into that eventually . And now I step into it all the time and I know
28:40
that that's it's me and
28:43
I got to work with them
28:45
, but they're still in . That
28:48
makes sense yeah , absolutely
28:50
so .
28:52
what is that ? What does tantra actually look
28:54
like ? For those people who
28:56
don't know anything about tantra
28:58
and all I mean a
29:00
lot of people I find confuse
29:03
. Kamasutra and
29:05
tantra , like this , is all about sex
29:07
positions , and tantra is not
29:09
that at all . It can incorporate
29:11
sex , but , um , it's not about
29:14
, okay , how many different sex
29:16
positions we can get into . It's not
29:18
about that at all . So so
29:20
what's it ? Look , paint me a picture of what that looks
29:22
like and hold
29:24
on , I'm gonna take a bella break . Okay
29:27
, I think this is the first time
29:29
in the podcast we're taking a Bella break , so
29:31
I want to explain what this says . I
29:34
have a little goddess here and
29:36
she's called Bella and
29:38
she's a furry goddess . A
29:40
lot of people call her a cat and
29:44
she likes to be treated
29:46
like a goddess and have the door open
29:49
for her , even though she's got not
29:51
just a cat door , she's got a dog
29:53
door , like it's huge door
29:55
little flap that she's got to push with
29:57
her face . Sometimes she doesn't want to push it with
29:59
their face to get out , so I'm just
30:02
going to open my door to let this
30:04
goddess out . She
30:06
heard her name , there we go . She heard her name , there
30:11
we go .
30:13
I can sit .
30:13
I stressed about that , thinking
30:15
oh my goodness , how
30:20
am I going to deal with Bella when I'm doing a podcast interview
30:22
? Because sometimes , if I'm home , she has
30:24
to be let out with the door . If I'm
30:26
not home , she'll
30:29
use that flap all day long . Or if I'm sleeping in the middle of the night , she'll use the flap , but if I'm sitting right , she'll use that flap all day long . Or if I'm sleeping in the middle of the night , she'll use the flap
30:31
, but if I'm sitting right here , she's
30:34
like mama , come on , treat
30:36
me well , open that door for me . So
30:39
I thought no , let's just keep it real , let's just take a bella
30:41
break occasionally . That's
30:43
perfect . Okay
30:47
, so paint me a picture of
30:49
tantra . What's this look like ? What ? What are
30:51
two people engaging in tantra
30:53
do ? What's it look like ?
30:56
yeah , well , even before engaging
30:58
, you know somebody else , I'll take
31:00
a little step back from that um
31:03
. So for me , what that
31:05
looks like in my day is I
31:07
start the day basically
31:09
connecting with my
31:13
higher self . And how do
31:15
you do that ? I call in
31:17
basically my higher self , um
31:19
the divine , to guide me through the day
31:22
. I'm , throughout the day , I'm always like talking
31:24
to the divine um , manifesting
31:27
and asking for guidance
31:29
, being gratitude um
31:31
, and then I will usually
31:33
do meditation and then go
31:35
into yoga , tantra yoga , and
31:38
tantra yoga is like
31:40
it's . It's like yoga , except
31:43
you're holding the pose for like 15 minutes
31:45
each , so it's very
31:47
intense , um , there's a whole
31:49
practice within each
31:51
pose , but it's working with that
31:53
sacral well , not just the sacral energy
31:56
actually , um , but that's a big
31:58
one . For you know , working with sexual
32:00
energy is tuning into that sacral
32:02
energy , even breathing into it
32:04
, like when you're taking a deep breath
32:06
. Maybe you , you can do that right now . So
32:09
let's take a deep breath into
32:12
that sacral , so deep belly breath , deep
32:15
, deep belly breath , and
32:18
just feel that energy circulating
32:21
and bring
32:23
it up through the
32:25
chakras , up through the , the
32:27
crown , and you just like allow it to
32:29
circulate and energize you . Um
32:32
, because it's about waking , awakening
32:35
, kind of that , those energy , energy
32:37
fields , the chakras , and um
32:40
allowing your life force to circulate
32:42
, its energy , which is this flow
32:45
through our entire system , um
32:47
, which is connected , very much connected
32:49
to all the chakras . But the sacral
32:51
chakra is that sexual chakra
32:54
. So I'll usually do like
32:56
like one chakra
32:58
, um that I target where
33:00
, like I tune into my body , I'm like where is
33:03
it tight , where am I feeling tense
33:05
, and then I'll just I'll
33:07
kind of release that tension , so
33:09
so I'll use my , I'll tune into
33:11
my body and then
33:13
throughout the day , yeah , I'll just notice
33:16
, I'll just be super , ultra present . Sometimes
33:18
I'm not able to do this for every single
33:20
thing I do throughout the day
33:22
, but I try , when
33:25
I'm walking my dogs , really
33:28
tuning in to what
33:30
is happening around me and
33:32
within me . So that is connecting with
33:35
the trees and just feeling
33:37
how alive they are and tuning into the energy and
33:40
almost like receiving the energy from the trees
33:42
actually really energizes , because
33:45
nature can be very energizing . Um
33:48
, and then it's when
33:50
I'm cooking breakfast . I'll
33:53
just feel into how good that feels , how much
33:55
I'm nurturing the appreciation , gratitude
33:57
of how much I'm nurturing my body and
33:59
I'm very careful about sourcing good
34:02
ingredients from local farms
34:05
and things like that in California . I
34:07
moved here a little over a year ago from New York City so
34:09
I've been eating that all up , the
34:12
sourcing of the
34:14
local fresh ingredients
34:17
. It's been so good . It's
34:26
been so good , um , so relishing in that , like seeing where sometimes , seeing where , like the ingredients
34:28
are coming from , seeing the whole process of how it got to me , and just having
34:31
so much immense gratitude before
34:33
I put it into my body and I
34:36
try not to be distracted while it
34:38
eats as well so
34:40
like just enjoying every bite . Um
34:43
, so you can kind of pick and choose , like where you start
34:45
, right , working with
34:47
presence and treating whatever
34:50
it is as sacred . Um
34:52
, and by the time you get to the bedroom
34:54
like for me it's the evening
34:57
I , I like , I , like
34:59
you know , I don't know , it's
35:01
like like the sun is the masculine
35:03
energy , the moon is the feminine
35:06
energy , so I'm more likely to
35:08
feel , you know , in
35:10
my feminine or feminine
35:13
at night , and
35:15
so during that time
35:17
I'm more prepared and
35:20
more in that feminine energy and
35:25
it is just treating that whole act of secret .
35:27
And slowing down , yes
35:29
, and not trying to rush through
35:31
it or race towards a finish line
35:34
, but just slowing down and
35:36
kind of basking Right
35:38
. That's why I really wanted
35:41
you to be on the show , because our agendas
35:43
for the lack of a better word align
35:45
. That's what I teach women
35:47
all the time is slow
35:50
it down , just slow
35:52
everything down , don't do anything fast
35:54
, just really bask
35:56
in it , and that alone totally
35:59
starts to transform how two
36:02
people are relating to each other in the bedroom . You
36:05
know so that slowing
36:07
down is just
36:10
like , even when you're , when
36:12
you give your guy a kiss
36:15
in the morning or you know little peck before
36:17
he goes off to work Slow
36:19
it down , like make that kiss last
36:21
for seven seconds or something . What
36:24
would that do for someone's relationship
36:27
If every time they kiss their guy , they
36:30
made it a seven second kiss ? Ooh
36:33
, that I think that would ignite just a
36:35
little bit more passion and and
36:38
presence to that relationship
36:40
. Totally , totally
36:43
.
36:43
Yeah , yeah , and and
36:45
it's in those little , in those everyday
36:47
moments , that you , you can
36:49
practice that , that
36:52
ultra presence , because we're
36:54
so fast , we're so distracted , we're so we're
36:56
always doing multiple things at once , our minds
36:58
are like multiple
37:06
things at once , our minds are like spinning , spinning , and so the slowdown
37:08
is so critical , um yeah , and I have some tips as well to go into
37:10
when we're ready yeah , I would love to hear some tips yes
37:14
, so um , so
37:16
first um . For
37:18
me it's about setting that sacred space
37:20
, and that
37:22
can be with candles , with music , with you
37:25
know whatever makes you feel
37:27
into that energy . It could be lingerie
37:29
, it could be , you know whatever it is to
37:32
create that space
37:34
where you know you're not going to be interrupted
37:37
and you know close a door
37:39
and um
37:41
, create that sacredness
37:44
from the beginning in the space . Make sure it's
37:46
not messy , um and
37:48
cluttered , so that the energy
37:50
can like flow and
37:52
you want to also regulate your nervous
37:55
system as well
37:57
. So that is
37:59
, and it could be together .
38:01
It could be separately , but like breathing
38:03
, um , meditating , you
38:06
can do that together and you can really
38:09
just like make that
38:11
part of the , the
38:13
kind of foreplay , if you will
38:15
, right so when
38:17
you say , um , regulating the
38:19
nervous system , correct
38:22
me if I'm wrong , but are you talking about
38:24
, like , getting out of a place
38:26
of stress and hurry , and
38:29
you know , go , go , go . That's the
38:31
sympathetic nervous system , nervous
38:45
system where it's more relaxation . You know more , more of the relaxing hormones
38:47
are pumping through your veins , as opposed to adrenaline and cortisol , and you know , is
38:49
that what you're talking about ?
38:51
Yeah , exactly Because you know we're
38:53
most of the time , our nervous system
38:55
is generally go , go , go and
38:58
this is dropping , about dropping into
39:00
the body and going to
39:02
that relaxation , um , getting
39:05
out of the mind , trying to slow
39:07
that , that mind down
39:09
right , setting aside
39:11
the to-do list for a little while yes
39:14
, yeah . So I find
39:16
that , like just doing
39:18
deep breaths can help , even
39:21
if it's just deep breaths , um , whether
39:24
it's you or
39:27
doing it together and creating
39:29
that intimacy as well
39:31
before sex . So that
39:33
could be through kissing
39:36
first , just touching
39:39
, you know , the erogenous zones
39:41
, or um , eye
39:43
gazing is a big thing in tantra , and
39:45
looking into your partner's eyes and connecting
39:48
before anything happens
39:50
, um , your hand , the heart
39:52
, those are all things you can do to
39:54
build that intimacy before
39:56
you go into penetration . And
39:59
then one of my favorite
40:01
things to do honestly , like
40:03
I love this so much , is playing
40:06
the role of the goddess
40:08
. If you're female , if this
40:10
feels good , feeling like a goddess
40:12
, it doesn't have to be religious , it doesn't have to be any particular
40:15
goddess , it can be just you owning
40:17
that you're a goddess and
40:19
then your partner is god .
40:22
And if that is too much , just practice the goddess
40:24
thing right or
40:27
think , maybe think of it as like king and queen
40:29
.
40:30
True , yes , if that's , if that takes
40:32
it out of the religious realm , and yes
40:34
, yeah , and that
40:36
just takes it to
40:38
another level , when you were
40:40
imagining yourself in this , you
40:43
know elevated kind of optimal
40:46
version of yourself being
40:49
with your
40:51
partners yourself , or optimal
40:54
version , or , you know , king , whatever
40:56
it just it
40:59
just feels so juicy and
41:01
you feel so special
41:03
and so held
41:05
in secret .
41:08
Right , there's an element of honoring
41:10
honoring yourself Like I am a queen
41:13
, I am a goddess , I'm a I'm
41:15
freaking fantastic . So
41:18
honoring yourself and also honoring
41:20
your partner , treating him like the king
41:22
that he is yes
41:24
, god that he is , like there's this
41:26
, this self love
41:28
and love and honor towards
41:31
your partner , which I think just
41:33
those alone like treating
41:35
your partner like there's
41:38
someone to be respected and admired
41:41
and honored that alone
41:43
could move the needle in someone's relationship
41:45
instead of just someone , you can get something
41:47
from . I'm just going to get an orgasmic
41:49
release from this interaction with
41:52
you . That just totally
41:54
changes the vibe altogether
41:56
.
41:57
And then this is so we're still not going
41:59
into penetration yet . And then this is so we're
42:01
still not going into penetration yet . But one tip that I've played with that
42:03
has been so
42:06
magical and , oh
42:08
my gosh , it just makes
42:11
me want , it makes me
42:13
feel so ready . But this concept
42:15
that the goddess needs to beg
42:18
at least three times before she
42:20
is penetrated , she
42:26
has to want it so bad that she
42:28
cannot resist .
42:30
Oh my gosh , I
42:35
love this so much because it puts the foreplay or the outer
42:37
course I suppose inner course in
42:39
the forefront Like we could have a lot
42:42
of warming up , a lot of juiciness
42:44
, a lot of touching , a
42:46
lot of a lot , all the the
42:49
pre-penetration stuff before
42:52
penetration . Yes
42:55
, yes exactly .
42:56
That's awesome . I guess the
42:58
last couple of things is one is releasing
43:00
that expectation of orgasm
43:02
and just being present to
43:06
how good it feels in
43:08
any moment throughout . Because
43:11
if you have so much , um
43:14
, some of so much of your intention
43:16
on the orgasm , it
43:18
could not happen because you're
43:20
so focused on something else instead of being present
43:22
to what it feels
43:24
like right now , which can
43:26
feel so good . If you follow all of those steps
43:29
and even one of them , even if you take one
43:31
of these little tips , um , that
43:33
can make such a big difference . And
43:35
then the last one is
43:37
slowing down , like you said . So
43:39
if think slow , like
43:42
think slow and then go even
43:44
slower than you think
43:46
, because we're so conditioned
43:48
to think that sex is fast
43:50
and that's , you know , sometimes it feels good
43:53
but like , try going
43:55
slow , you know , try going slow and
43:57
then go slower and see how slow it can get . So you know , try to go
43:59
slow and then go slower and see how slow
44:01
it can get .
44:02
Right , Because we think when we go fast
44:05
that's more stimulation , Whereas
44:11
when you go slow that's not less stimulation . That can be more stimulating
44:14
and drool
44:17
worthy , you know like it's . I
44:20
did that a lot when I was seeing
44:23
male clients in my office . When
44:27
they're getting closer to an orgasm , I would
44:29
slow down . It would drive
44:31
them crazy , drive
44:33
them crazy , and so
44:36
, yeah , that
44:38
slow has been underestimated so
44:41
much . Fast and furious
44:44
is not really where it's at . I mean there's
44:46
a place for it , but oh , that's
44:48
like teeny tiny piece of
44:50
that pie , the bigger part
44:53
of the pie . Slow . Slow
44:56
equals moan . People Write that
44:58
down Slow equals
45:00
moan . He will moan
45:02
so much more when you go
45:04
slow and vice versa . And to train
45:07
your guy too , to train him . Oh
45:09
see how this feels really great when
45:11
we go super slow . Yeah , same
45:14
here . So you're kind of training
45:16
your guy to to
45:18
go slow with your body too and
45:20
take his time and that's going
45:22
to see how much you love it as
45:24
well .
45:26
And there is another thing that
45:28
came to mind , and that is they
45:31
say that men have a lot more fire
45:34
. Generally speaking , there's
45:36
more fire , energy in them , energy in them
45:38
, and so that means that
45:40
if they are the
45:42
ones exerting force , mostly
45:55
they will orgasm quickly , and so it's really beneficial , if you want to like
45:58
extend the session , to have the woman be on
46:00
top as a way to circumvent
46:03
that and kind of
46:05
not do all the work . But you
46:07
know , the the person on top is generally the
46:09
one that's um , has
46:12
more fire , and that
46:14
will help with slowing things down
46:16
and kind of elongating the
46:19
.
46:19
The Right , because
46:22
we don't always orgasm at the same time . Often
46:25
not always , but often , women we need
46:27
a little bit more warmup time before
46:30
we're going to have an orgasm , so
46:33
we need to slow that train down just a little
46:35
bit . Let us catch up . Exactly
46:39
, yeah , yeah , and that can
46:41
help .
46:45
I love that . Maybe you can have multiple orgasms after today's session , knowing that
46:47
it's possible . You
46:49
know Right . Yeah
46:51
so good , I
46:54
love this conversation . I can talk about it all the time oh
46:57
yes , yeah
46:59
, this is .
47:00
it's a juicy conversation that has
47:02
so many facets to it that
47:04
we could easily talk for hours and hours
47:06
. Are there any parting
47:09
thoughts that you want to leave the listener
47:11
with as
47:13
far as tips or things to
47:15
keep in mind ?
47:17
I think one thing I didn't cover was like the
47:19
energy component
47:21
, which I won't go into detail with . But
47:24
you know , there's this term called sex
47:26
magic and that
47:28
is Sorry . What was that ?
47:29
Sex Magic . Sex
47:32
magic . Oh , ok , do
47:34
tell , do expand on .
47:35
That won't
47:45
go into all the details , but the the idea is that you basically um use kind of your orgasm to manifest
47:47
faster . So
47:49
you kind of the idea is that you hold
47:51
the thought of what you're trying to manifest
47:54
um before you orgasm
47:56
and you then use
47:58
that energy as your orgasm to
48:00
basically send
48:03
the energy out there so
48:05
that manifestation
48:07
kind of comes to you . Remember
48:10
how we did spoon bending in the
48:12
business conference seminar ?
48:14
Yes .
48:15
Yes . So it's kind of like that You're working
48:17
that energy , that
48:25
energy it's so active and you can use that energy to kind
48:27
of send it to something that you're calling in much faster . Right then , just using
48:29
your mind , right , I
48:31
was able to bend the spoon with my sexual
48:33
energy , exerting and redirecting
48:36
the energy towards that physical spoon . I was
48:38
able to bend it .
48:39
So it's kind of like yeah
48:41
, so , so , um , and for the listeners
48:44
who don't know what we're talking about so
48:46
there was this exercise we went
48:48
through where we're holding a spoon and
48:51
, um , we're not trying to , you know , muscle
48:53
it and bend it , but we're just
48:55
trying to get the spoon to a state where it's
48:58
it feels like rubber , like it just
49:00
wants to bend on its own pretty
49:02
much , and doesn't take any brute
49:04
strength to do it , and it's
49:06
all just , you know , using
49:08
your mind and getting yourself into a certain
49:10
frequency state to get
49:13
the spoon to bend , and
49:15
it does . We
49:17
are more powerful than we think . It's
49:20
not just about muscle power that makes
49:22
things go , it's about
49:25
brain power too , and that's probably the most
49:27
effective way actually to do
49:29
things is to line up with the energy
49:31
of that thing that you want first
49:33
. You know it takes way
49:35
less effort to do that than to muscle
49:38
through it . So
49:40
that's what she's talking
49:43
about Linda's bending spoons with
49:45
her mind , like in the matrix . If you saw
49:47
the matrix and the , the , the little
49:49
kid sitting on the floor and holding the spoon by
49:51
the handle , and the head of the spoon just
49:53
like droops over , like it's melting
49:56
or something .
49:57
Yeah , Welcome to our world . World . There
50:01
are different techniques which I won't go into now , but
50:03
, um , you can just breathe into
50:06
that sacral , like we kind of did earlier
50:08
. Um , either
50:10
you know when you're orgasming you're already using
50:13
the energy in that area . Um
50:15
, but just in general , like you
50:17
can just breathe into that area and work
50:19
on energizing
50:21
it yourself before even
50:23
, you know , going into
50:26
using it for sex .
50:28
So yeah , the breath
50:30
is super powerful . It's underestimated
50:33
. But when you really consciously
50:35
breathe , gives
50:37
me shivers every time , like when we did the deep
50:39
breath down into the belly . Gives me
50:41
shivers every time , like when we did the deep breath
50:43
down into the belly I don't know if you saw I
50:45
was like going up . Oh yeah , it
50:47
um , every time I sit down to take
50:49
, take
50:54
deep breaths and just consciously breathe Cause we do it unconsciously all the time . Thank
50:56
goodness you know that we can breathe unconsciously
50:59
. But when we when I bring
51:01
my attention to it and really deliberately
51:03
breathe and follow the breath into my body
51:06
and feel it expanding my body
51:08
, oh , magical things happen . It's really
51:10
quite , quite cool
51:12
, just sensationally .
51:14
Oh , it's , it's divine , it's so delicious
51:16
, yeah we only spend a few seconds there
51:18
, you know , imagine going longer
51:21
, you know it might . You
51:23
might get an orgasm if you're an energetic
51:25
type Actually
51:34
like we all are kind of different in that way but breathing
51:36
into it for a long time can give you an orgasm
51:38
.
51:38
So , yeah , yeah , powerful stuff . It's
51:40
so good . Linda , you are blazing
51:43
a trail for people to
51:46
have incredible relationships and
51:48
a level of intimacy that people
51:50
outside of the world of Tantra cannot
51:53
even imagine , cannot
51:56
even imagine . Thank you
51:58
for being such a bright
52:00
light in this world doing this
52:02
work . It's just , it's so important
52:05
and just so delicious
52:08
and
52:10
life changing and heart opening . I love it so
52:12
much . Where can people go
52:14
to find out about your trainings
52:16
?
52:17
Get more of you . Get
52:24
more of you . I really appreciate you holding space for me , for me to tell my story and for giving these
52:26
tips , and hopefully people can just take this and apply it to their lives . But
52:29
if they want to work on
52:31
a deeper level , I do offer
52:33
currently offer a one-on-one coaching
52:36
. You can find me on my website
52:38
at tantricasoulcom
52:41
.
52:41
We'll definitely link it in the show notes , but I
52:43
yeah , I will spell it for people who are just listening
52:45
in their car or whatever Tantrica
52:47
, so T-A-N-T-R-I-K-A
52:51
soul S-O-U-L
52:54
. Tantricasoulcom
52:56
. Yeah , and I'm on
52:58
Instagram as well . Well , thank you so much
53:01
, Linda , for being on the show today
53:03
. Thank you so much for
53:05
having me .
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