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Hello and welcome to Rosebud,
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the podcast about interesting people
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and their first memories. We've
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had extraordinary guests from Dame Judi
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Dench to Sir Michael Palin, actors,
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entertainers, writers, Oscar winners, an
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astrophysicist, an archbishop of Canterbury,
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all sorts. And this
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week is no exception. Though
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this week I'm not in our usual
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studio at Groven House in London's Park Lane, I'm
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on a train travelling from London
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to Burton on Trent, where
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I'm meeting up with the man
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who aspires to be the United
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Kingdom's next Prime Minister, Sir
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Keir Starmer. A
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lawyer by training, an MP since
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2015, leader of the opposition since
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2020, you've seen him on
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TV and at the dispatch box. But
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who is he? Where does he come from?
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Who were his parents? What
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were his boyhood, hopes and dreams?
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What made him what he is? I
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promise you, there'll be no party politics here,
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but some interesting stories I hope, some
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laughs and even perhaps some
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tears. Hear the music. I
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want to begin Keir, if I may, with the
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same question I always begin with. What
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is your very first memory?
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I've never been asked that before. So
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in terms of memory and impression, I think
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I must have been about four years old
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when we got our first
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car. a full Cortina, a blue
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full Cortina. And I remember the
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build up to this and then
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waiting by the front door for hours for
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my dad to come home with
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this new car. That
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was a first, if you like, vivid
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memory that I have of
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me sort of in shorts and a
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T-shirt, best striped T-shirt and the
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wonder of this thing called a
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car. Where was this
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happening and who was your dad? So this
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was in our house in Oxford,
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her screen on the Surrey-Kent border.
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And my dad was
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a tool maker, worked in a factory all his
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life. My mum
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was a nurse until she suddenly got
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too ill. So
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we didn't have a lot of money. And so a
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car was a really big deal to get this
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Ford Cortina. So I
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remember that. And I've
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also got a memory of cleaning it. I
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want this amazing thing, I wanted it to look nice
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at all times. You were very proud of it. Very
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proud of it. And do you remember your first
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drive in it? No,
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I mean, I remember, I wouldn't say
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the first drive, but the general setup
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was, because
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they had the, if I remember rightly, sort of right
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across the back, no seat belts, I don't
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think, and four kids we had all
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sitting across the back like a sort
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of row of children being driven
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around in this Ford Cortina. I mean, as we got
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older, we each got a
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dog. So we had a point where we had
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two adults in the front, four children in the
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back, and four dogs in the car
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at the same time. I
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can tell you, it was a bit
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of a squeeze. So you can imagine
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this family setting off year after year,
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we would go every year to the Lake District, to
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the same row of cottages in
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Langdale Valley. So the row of old
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were quarry miners cottages. And
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we would drive off. a
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roof rack, four children, four
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dogs, and mum and dad in the front,
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all the way to Lake District every
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year. What was your dog called? Percy,
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a red setter. And did you name him
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Percy? I did. I think I
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named him Percy after the
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railway books and Percy
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the train engine. Oh. Tell me
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about your parents, your dad, Rod, was his
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name, was your middle name? Yes.
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What was his character and what sort
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of personality did he have?
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He was a working
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man, proud. He
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was a toolmaker. He
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would have liked to have gone to university. He really would have
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liked to have gone to university. But he
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didn't have the money. The family didn't have
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the money. They didn't get the chance. So
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he became a toolmaker. He
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worked at night school to
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get his qualifications in apprenticeship
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and worked in a factory with his
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life. For most of his life, if he worked for somebody else
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towards the end, he was self-employed.
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Very skilled. So my image
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of him at work is this guy
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in big steel toe caps, overall
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on, swarf eager, you know, cleaning
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himself every night. Standing on
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decking because if you stand in a factory
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all day, you stand on decking because you
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know that the concrete floor is
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very hard and decking just gives you a little bit
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of give, makes you less tired over the course of
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the day. And he'd work in
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that factory long, long hours.
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But he felt, he
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felt disrespected. And
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I have this memory
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of my mum and
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dad having people around to the house. And
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the inevitable conversation, what do
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you do for a living? And
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he would come to his turn. He would
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say, I work in
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a factory. And for my dad, there
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was a gap
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in the conversation at that point where
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nobody knew what to say and
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that made him feel that he was disrespected
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he wasn't valued and he hated it and
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it ate away at him and I
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mean I've seen this more clearly in retrospect and after
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the event I have to say but
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it caused him to retreat
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so we didn't have people around
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very soon. He would very rarely go
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out with friends for a
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meal or whatever and I think at
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the heart of that was this sense that
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he felt because he worked on the shop
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floor he was disrespected by other
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people and for
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me that helped
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me because respect
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and dignity are two of things that I care
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about hugely in politics you've got your big
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policy issues here there in every way. Did it
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make it difficult for him to be a
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warm father? This sense of holding
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back being... It did.
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I mean was he affection towards
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you? No he withdrew.
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My mum
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was very ill very very she had
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Stills disease that's like juvenile arthritis but
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very aggressive and she got it when she was 11 and she
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was told two
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things you
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won't be having children and you'll be in a
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wheelchair by the time you're 20 and you won't walk
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again. My mum
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was a very determined woman and
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she was a name Joe and
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so Rod and Joe they were an item in
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the sense that it was never Rod
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without Joe never Joe without Rod. She
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had a brilliant consultant up at Guy's
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Hospital who tried her on
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this sort of one drug steroid based
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drug and that meant
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that she didn't go into a wheelchair when she
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was 20 she had lots of
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operations difficult operations but she carried on
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walking and she was not prepared
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to accept that she wasn't gonna have children so
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she had four children. struggle.
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She was very ill, she
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was touch and go a number of
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times in intensive care. And
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my dad dedicated
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his whole life to her, everything,
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complete commitment, undying
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love, knew
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every symptom she had, knew exactly what
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had to be done when she was
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at hospital, sometimes for a prolonged period. He
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wouldn't leave the hospital unless he left with her,
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bring her home. And
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that, so all of it, if
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you like, his emotional energy went into that
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relationship of supporting my mum, but it meant
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there wasn't any space left for children. And
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so we weren't close. It
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wasn't an emotional relationship. I
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can't even remember the last time I hugged my dad before
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he died. And
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therefore, it was
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a lonely space, I suppose, as a child in some
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respects. My mum was very warm and bubbly, very, very
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warm woman, but my dad not so
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much, partly because he was withdrawing, because he felt this
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sense of disrespect, and partly
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because everything he had was being
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emotionally invested into this relationship, supportive
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relationship of my mum. And I
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knew that somehow this had to
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be mended, this relationship with my dad, or I've
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had to find a way of addressing it. And
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I don't have any regrets in life. But one of them
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is, I never addressed that whilst
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he was alive. So
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my mum died just weeks before I became
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an MP. And
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then my dad died three years later.
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Quite quickly and unexpectedly, but I knew
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he was dying. And I didn't
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take that opportunity of talking to
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him about our relationship, my relationship
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with him. So when you were small, who
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were your close relationships with? Your brother and sister? Where
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were you in that? So I had an older sister
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than me. 18 months later Then
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my younger brother and sister who were twins for about 18
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months after me So we're quite and so you they were
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your best friends when you were a little boy. Yeah, we
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were we were a group
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of kids doing our thing
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and That was close
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We had a three-bedroom house mum and dad in one
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the girls in the other of me and my brother
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in a in the small room We did a bad
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bargain with my sisters and got the small
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room with a bunk bed Which is where I grew up
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and we had a field behind us and we would go and play
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in the field and
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Things changed when the 11 plus
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came along because I passed and my siblings
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didn't so I started Now
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a different track getting a bus to school In
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Rygate every day whereas they were Oxford at the before
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you get to be in level What were the games
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you played as a boy? What were you what were
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them in your bunk bedroom? What
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were you doing? Oh, I was out the bunk bed room
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as much if you if you're in a small room with
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your brother with bunk beds You're out the room as
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much as you can. It was just wasn't enough space out
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the room Football football football.
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So if I could get outside I was playing probably three or
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four times a week There was
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a local club
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bolterst athletic in
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her screen, so I signed up with
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them as soon as I could and After
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them I played for a team in Eden Bridge but
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that was for me football was massive
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release it was a great thing and bolterst
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athletic was the local village
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boys team and one
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day one of the guys was running
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it managed to get this clapped out old van and
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We put two benches
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Along the side of the van inside the back had no
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windows Painted it with the
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bolterst athletic clubbers and for
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us This was like a VIP coach as
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we went around the villages playing our
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games our away games city All
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the boys including me sitting in the back no
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windows side on on this bench No
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seatbelts or anything. Well, you were a
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happy little boy, really. It was fantastic.
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What's your first recollection of sadness in
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your life? Do you have grandparents who
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died? Was there something that happened that
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made you sad, ever? Yes, it
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was when I was about 13. And
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my mum was in
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hospital. And
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I was at home
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with my siblings. My dad was at the hospital, of
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course, at my mum up in London. And
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he phoned. I was in the
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kitchen. And
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he said, I don't
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think your mum's going to make it. Exact
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words. First
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time in my life, I actually thought we
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were going to lose her. And
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that is a very raw
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memory. She pulled through.
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And then we went through that
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a number of other times. But that was the very first time
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as a 13-year-old. And
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he didn't, for a moment, what he was going
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to say. He didn't say, I've got
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something difficult to tell you. He just said. But
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he did tell you. It's interesting that
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he told you, in the sense that he
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did reach out to you at that moment. Did he call the
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others as well? No, he asked me to tell them. Which
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I can't
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remember that bit. I can't remember how I did that.
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That's one of the most obvious. It was just
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that I remember holding the receiver and
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hearing those words. So
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what age were you when
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you were already grown
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up by the time she did die? Yes.
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So it was a roller coaster. It
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was a roller coaster. She would be in
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intensive care, get
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better, back into intensive care for other
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things. She would always get up and walk. I want to
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walk. I want to walk. I want to walk. Which is
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why it's amazing to go to the late district. What
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do you do if you can't walk? If you're my mum,
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you go to the one place where the only thing you
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can do is walk. So she's doing it. determined I am
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going to walk and then
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there came a point about
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probably 10 years before she died where she
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got so well she had to have her leg amputated and
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this was the end of the walk
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forever the one thing that kept her
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going and that then I
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think destroyed her spirit and she
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was then in a wheelchair she couldn't
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get in and out of bed gradually
14:27
lost the ability to control her hands
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didn't speak and
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I think that I genuinely think
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that not being able
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to get back up and walk which had just kept
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her going in the end broke
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her spirit and sadly
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as I say she died just before I
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became an MP which she would have
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loved she'd have loved to have seen that day and
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our children were young and
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so they never had a conversation with her because by
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the time they saw her she wasn't
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able really to move to get out of bed to
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communicate with them and that's a
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real sadness for me because they've
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never seen her as she really was when you
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were young as a teenager did you share this
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with your with the twins and your sister do
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you talk about these things no
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we were quite a I don't
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know there's a certain sort of I don't
15:23
know English families that in
15:26
a funny kind of way we just it
15:29
was get on with it territory and
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so we didn't talk about it the way we didn't the
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wasn't a sort of habit within our family of
15:37
talking things through we just
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sort of got on with it even when there were
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those difficult moments but we do talk
15:44
about it a bit now but we didn't as you'd
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thought you'd have thought we would you know what are we gonna do
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Wow. Who's
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your best friend at school? One
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of my best friends at school is still one of my
17:21
best friends, so I've had very, very long friendships. A
17:23
guy called Colin, I've called him John all my
17:25
life, so he calls me John. I called
17:28
him John, don't know why. What do you call
17:30
him? He wants to be called Keir by him. How
17:32
does that mean a nightmare being called Keir? Well, I
17:34
now really like being called Keir. Well, it's quite useful
17:36
now. Yeah, it is quite useful. It puts you in,
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you've got a bit of a heritage there. But when
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I was growing up, I was
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one of these kids that I didn't want to stand
17:44
out, I didn't want to be the centre of attention,
17:46
and being called Keir made me stand out,
17:49
and Keir rhymes with a lot of things
17:51
that kids love saying at school. So I
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just wanted to be called Pete or Dave
17:56
or John. Not Rodney. Not
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Rodney, no. I've never liked that then. Okay,
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so when you're this age, I
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knew what I wanted to be by the time I was 11. Did
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you really? Oh, yes, but it was a
18:11
multiplicity of things. But
18:13
you had that clarity of... I had that clarity,
18:16
yes. I was 11, 1959, and I
18:18
stood in the school mock election. Right,
18:22
so you really did know when you were.
18:24
Certainly. I was the candidate as I was in
18:26
64, 66. Oh, absolutely.
18:28
I was there right from the beginning.
18:32
The public decided otherwise that I had to
18:34
think of other things to do. No, I
18:36
was clear. I had a
18:38
variety of ambitions. I wanted to write, I wanted to be
18:40
prime minister, I wanted to be an entertainer.
18:43
But I could picture it all. What
18:46
were your daydreams when
18:48
you got into the grammar
18:51
school and then passed the 11 Plus,
18:53
which was exceptional in your family? Yeah.
18:56
You were nearly a clever boy, loved the
18:58
football. But what did you hope? What were you in your head? What
19:00
was going on? In
19:03
terms of what I would do, not a lot.
19:07
I wanted to play football in the end.
19:09
I wasn't good enough. But
19:11
I didn't know what I wanted to do.
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I think there were two reasons for that, which actually I'd
19:17
carry with me because I think they're very important. The
19:20
first is I hadn't
19:22
been exposed to a lot of things. My
19:26
dad had retreated within my mum,
19:28
so we didn't have other people around
19:30
the house who did other jobs. So I wasn't exposed
19:32
to it there. The only work
19:34
environment I'd ever known before I left
19:36
to go to university was my dad's
19:38
factory. I'd never been in an office.
19:41
I'd wanted to leave university to study law. I'd never
19:43
met a lawyer. I had a pretty little
19:45
idea of what lawyers did. In the end, I
19:48
did law because I think I'd got very interested
19:50
in politics. I think my parents had thought those
19:52
are dangerous items. We need to get him off
19:54
that idea. And
19:57
he needs a secure job. Law is
19:59
a secure job. and so you know
20:01
they helped
20:03
me decide that I was going to do law.
20:06
That was the first thing, the second thing was
20:08
opposite to your experience, so I'm really fascinated. I
20:11
didn't think, insofar as I thought about politics
20:13
and an MP, I
20:17
didn't feel that was for me, that
20:19
wasn't for somebody like me and that
20:21
was something that
20:23
happens in your head. So the two things
20:25
I take into schools now when I go
20:28
for a visit, firstly don't let that voice
20:30
in your head that tells you that
20:32
this isn't for you, don't
20:34
listen to that voice. And the
20:37
second thing is make sure you're
20:39
exposed, have lots of a set of businesses, get
20:41
in your school, nobody can
20:44
aspire to do something they don't know
20:46
anything about. Kids all have brilliant aspirations
20:48
and ambitions but they need
20:50
to see the idea to be planted with
20:52
them. Did you have childhood heroes there? Were
20:54
there people that you admired? Footballers, all footballers.
20:57
Yeah, yeah, pretty much. Did
20:59
you go to church? Was faith part of your
21:01
childhood? Well, I was christened
21:04
into the Church of England. Were
21:06
you confirmed? No,
21:10
no, so I was christened, must have
21:12
been about two, I think. My mum
21:14
went, there was St John's Church up
21:17
the road and my mum went
21:19
to that every Sunday. We
21:22
went to Sunday school for a while but we
21:24
didn't go into the main service but my
21:26
mum was pretty religious and so
21:28
long as she could walk or get about she would
21:30
go up to church every Sunday. Is faith now part
21:32
of your life at all? Yes
21:35
and no and I know that's a bit of an odd answer. I'm
21:38
not a believer in
21:41
the sense of believing
21:44
in God but I do believe
21:48
in faith. I think faith is really
21:50
important. I think there's incredible
21:53
strength in faith and
21:55
the way it has the ability to Bind
21:58
people together to give people a sort. Said
22:00
sense of something because original nauseam
22:02
brought us. With
22:04
interface Oh well again a slightly
22:07
just and I said my my
22:09
wife's. Dad fix.com
22:11
as Juice His family
22:14
from Poland, Civics extended
22:16
families Jewish Vic's Mom.
22:19
Vs when she got married.
22:22
But let that that wasn't
22:24
universally accepted within their family.
22:26
a vessel. Technically, I'm my
22:28
wife is not Jewish and
22:30
therefore neither our children, but
22:32
because it's such a big
22:34
passes her family, her extended
22:36
family both here and with
22:38
relatives in his wrath. We
22:40
are bringing the kids up,
22:43
know about their grandfathers face
22:45
and religion, and know so
22:47
we do some of the
22:49
Friday. Nights press for example and
22:51
meals so you're saying and I
22:53
am and as a value and
22:55
or listens as a mother when
22:57
I am a controlled christians and
23:00
I love the the traditions, the
23:02
or the mean all that as
23:04
gov value of us Back to
23:06
your childhood you talked about your
23:08
status symbol for of memory of
23:10
sadness through your first moment of
23:12
joy, fragments in your use. Of
23:16
well yes or know.menu item is
23:18
that because a place for or any
23:20
time we stored or one was
23:22
a moment of great joys of most
23:25
of the deepest said says. Happiness.
23:28
I suppose I was when
23:30
I. Left hand
23:33
because university by then I had
23:35
a year off or put together
23:37
some money and aborted. National.
23:39
Car on I'd.in that
23:42
car, my bags, and
23:45
drove with a mate to leeds university
23:47
this was too humdrum on never been
23:50
to mates never be or hops on
23:52
his settles and drive up over two
23:54
hundred and how many miles from my
23:57
village in sorry on the or to
23:59
border to the city of Leeds and
24:02
I remember this real sense of
24:05
happiness and freedom and I
24:08
was driving to another world almost,
24:10
another chapter of my life and
24:14
so it was and so there was this incredible happiness
24:19
that I was moving on, I
24:22
was getting away from
24:24
this village into a much
24:26
bigger, because my dad had
24:29
retreated in, it was quite a small world in
24:31
many respects that I was
24:33
living in, fields out the back, family,
24:35
dogs and then
24:37
go to this city of Leeds and
24:40
that was amazing, I'd never been to a city but
24:42
I hadn't lived in a city. And did you have
24:44
a wild time? Did you have a wild time? Yeah,
24:46
a really good time, it was just, you know, everything
24:48
was going on but there were nightclubs,
24:51
there was curried chips, I'd never had
24:53
that before, there
24:55
was a cultural explosion in Leeds, lots
24:57
of different cultures and
24:59
exposure. And you lived in
25:01
a flat or how did you work out? To
25:03
start within a university hall for a year and
25:07
then in houses in Leeds with
25:09
groups of six with mates which
25:11
was fantastic and then down
25:13
to London to live in grotty flats paying
25:16
about eight times the price. And
25:18
what did you look like? Were you good looking? I
25:20
consciously... That is for others
25:22
to determine. Were you
25:24
smooth? I'll put it, when I left for Leeds, I
25:26
was leaving the village, I had fairly long hair, I
25:34
don't know whether you remember the football
25:36
of Ray Clements but he had the
25:38
hair down to his shoulders, so there
25:40
was my car, my Ray Clements haircut,
25:43
the sort of boomtown rat's elbow under
25:45
one arm and a jumper
25:47
on. Then
25:49
I got to Leeds, I met this guy John Murray
25:52
within a few weeks, he was very
25:54
cool and trendy and had
25:57
an independent music magazine that he was
25:59
flogged. Tom Razz, he
26:01
had this nag-nag-nag independent magazine
26:03
he was doing for himself. And
26:06
then within, I'd say,
26:08
weeks, suddenly, hair cut
26:10
different clothes. And so
26:12
by the time I left Leeds
26:15
University, I've been through a sort of special
26:18
sort of snap
26:20
course on independent music and looking better
26:23
than I did when I arrived. What
26:25
were your hobbies there? What were you
26:27
doing as well as the law course?
26:30
Football, a little bit of politics, the
26:32
minor strike was on. So that
26:35
was close because we were in the middle
26:38
of Yorkshire, obviously. And that was very intense
26:40
in terms of political
26:42
thinking. And enjoying life. I
26:44
mean, this was freedom. This
26:46
was cooking
26:48
our own meals. This was deciding what we do.
26:51
I was also, and this sounds
26:53
curious, I'm trying to sort of instill it
26:55
in my kids, I
26:58
was enjoying learning. I
27:00
didn't particularly take to O levels or
27:02
A levels. And then when I
27:04
got to Leeds, having not known anything about the law,
27:06
I loved it. I
27:08
really enjoyed studying it. And I was
27:12
enjoying the privilege,
27:14
although I didn't see it as that at the time, of
27:17
learning. What
27:24
do you think of the law?
27:27
Is there anything from your use that
27:29
you are ashamed of? Remember
27:31
the first time you told a lie or did something you
27:33
now, I know you're not full of gretts, but now you
27:36
do feel, I can
27:38
give you several of my examples, but I'm not going
27:40
to, because I want to hear yours. I
27:44
don't know. I mean, I'm trying to think. I mean,
27:46
there are lots of things that
27:51
I suppose I didn't do in the way that I would
27:53
have liked. Really, for
27:56
me, it's not so much
27:58
lying, it's loyalty. I'm a big believer. and
28:00
loyal fit, which is why I've got lifelong friends. And
28:03
so any time when I felt
28:05
I wasn't doing the best for my friends would have
28:07
been a feeling. I think I really meant something that
28:10
embarrasses you all. I think, oh my goodness, oh God,
28:12
can I, did I do that? Oh well look at
28:14
some of the outfits I was wearing when I arrived
28:16
at Leeds and that sort of thing. Yeah.
28:19
Well I'm no one to talk about people's fashion sense. So
28:23
what do you think, what is your, now
28:25
you're here. Are you,
28:27
do you want to be liked? Did you want to
28:30
be liked as a young person? Just thinking
28:32
of you having this quite isolated life at home.
28:35
You've become gregarious when you're out on the
28:37
football pitch. You've now broken free or at
28:39
Leeds University. Do
28:42
you like to be liked? Yes. I
28:44
think we all do. I mean I
28:46
think people who say no, I'm
28:49
not so sure they're being completely
28:52
honest. Of course want to be liked.
28:54
Want to be accepted. Want to be,
28:56
you know, we're human beings. We
28:59
are, you know, we're families, we're groups, we're
29:01
friends. So yes I
29:04
do. It's a difficult thing for a politician though. I
29:06
mean the reason I ask is because a
29:08
successful politician has to be ready
29:10
not to be liked and to
29:12
be ready to say no,
29:15
whereas everybody, one's instinct, I always want
29:17
to say yes to everything and everybody. Yeah. And
29:19
that is obviously a hard part of politics, you have to
29:22
say no to people and to think. I
29:26
think being upfront about when
29:28
you've got to say no actually it
29:30
helps and it's quite liberating and sometimes
29:33
for both parties to a conversation that ends in
29:35
a no, there's a relief because
29:37
there's sort of pretense that the answer might have been yes. So
29:41
there is that in politics. I think it
29:43
goes at different levels. I think when we're
29:45
being liked I have very very strong friendships
29:47
which have been life enduring. And
29:50
so in that sense I still want to be liked, I
29:52
want to be in those deep
29:54
friendships, the sort of people I can talk
29:56
to about anything, not particularly political actually, a
29:58
lot of people. I knock around with a
30:01
not particularly political and I have that safe
30:03
space away from politics because politics is when
30:05
you know this It's it
30:07
can be an isolating brutal
30:09
place where lots of people
30:11
don't only not like you But they revel in
30:14
not like you in fact, you know the whole
30:16
setup in the chamber. It sounds Until
30:19
you do it. I mean I'd be really interested your Standing
30:22
at the dispatch box. So you're on your bench
30:25
you stand up you move whatever it is a
30:28
Yard yard and half forward start
30:30
the dispatch box Suddenly every friendly face
30:33
is behind you and all
30:35
you've got in front of you is a wall
30:37
of faces of the opposite party Who are
30:39
doing their level best to make
30:41
sure that whatever you're trying to say doesn't
30:43
land and and that is that's the tribal
30:45
nature Apologies, you got be remind you do
30:48
like him. Wow Winston Churchill wasn't as you
30:50
said, you know, the opposition I The
30:54
members of policy on bridges behind you at the
30:56
moment we're doing all right, but
30:58
yeah I
31:01
think what people outside The Commons
31:03
don't realize is that much of what
31:05
you're doing on those witnesses is actually
31:07
rallying your own troops It's not necessarily
31:09
for consumption beyond it is for consumption
31:11
beyond but it's also performs a role
31:13
within I think that's really important
31:17
because people think well Where
31:20
again have you pinned this answer
31:22
or pin that answer? It's much more of
31:24
a roller coaster of emotion who's up who's
31:26
down whose side is pleased with the way
31:28
that their Leader has gone
31:30
into or come out of PMT is
31:32
in that sense. It's much more sort
31:34
of primary colors Okay, we're running
31:37
out of time I
31:39
think it's fascinating talking to you just
31:41
I want to finish with can you remember the
31:43
moment you first set eyes on your wife? Yes
31:49
We were doing a case together She's
31:51
a lawyer as I was a lawyer. She was a lawyer and
31:55
The first time I set eyes on her was after
31:57
I'd spent to run the whole on the previous occasion
32:01
So I was at court because I was about
32:03
to argue this case and
32:05
Vic, my now wife, was the
32:08
lawyer who prepared all the files and done all the real
32:10
work in the case. She was back in the office and
32:13
I was about to go and stand in front of the
32:15
judge and make these various arguments. So I said
32:17
to those that were with me at court, are
32:19
these schedules accurate? Because this case is going
32:21
to stand and fall on the detail in
32:23
this material I've got in front of
32:25
me, these documents. They said yes, it is completely accurate.
32:27
I said well, you say that but who put this
32:29
together? Victoria
32:32
Alexander. I said well let's get her on the phone then so
32:34
I can talk to her. So I get her on the phone.
32:37
These files, did you put them together? Were
32:39
they accurate? Can I absolutely rely on this?
32:41
Yes, yes. Then she
32:43
puts down the phone and looks
32:45
round to her colleagues in
32:48
the room and says who the F does
32:50
he think he is? And
32:52
so that was the start of this beautiful relationship,
32:54
what a beautiful one. And then I
32:58
met her, she's a fantastically gorgeous and
33:00
brilliant woman and
33:02
rather tentatively we
33:05
patched up and eventually got married. But
33:07
it wasn't the best of starts. But
33:09
that's very Vic which is very street
33:12
wise. I'm not going to be beguiled
33:14
by this barrister who the F does
33:16
he think he is as we etched
33:19
on her heart about
33:21
me. Well thank you for giving us the
33:23
flavour of your childhood. What finally do you
33:25
think you've learnt from it? What do you
33:27
think? What's your
33:31
view of the world now? From
33:34
your childhood? My childhood, firstly
33:39
I want my relationship with my children to be very
33:41
different to my relationship with my dad. So
33:43
I've really worked hard at that.
33:46
So spend a lot of time with them,
33:48
make time for them because in politics you will know
33:50
this, it's very easy to use up your time. Any
33:53
politician can fill their diary and
33:55
think that that means they're doing good
33:57
work, sometimes making space. on
34:00
a Friday we sometimes need prayers and Friday night meal
34:02
but I'm always home at Friday with the family. If
34:05
Vic's dad comes around then we've
34:07
got the family making
34:09
time for the children but also
34:11
Vic and I when our boy was born,
34:14
our first boy, our boy, we sort of
34:20
agreed with each other happy and confident.
34:23
So for our boy who's now 15
34:25
going on 16 doing his GCSEs
34:28
and our little girl who's 13 the
34:31
only thing that we are wanting
34:33
for them is that they're happy and they're confident and
34:36
that is really important to us.
34:41
If by any chance you lose your
34:43
seat at the general election what
34:45
would you do with your life if you were totally
34:47
free now? Oh I've already got
34:49
that planned there's a
34:51
little bookshop on Kenton Georgetown High Street and
34:55
I've always fancied working there so
34:58
if all goes badly you can
35:01
come and see me in my bookshop and bring
35:03
your book and I'll make you a cup of
35:05
coffee and we
35:08
can have a longer discussion so either
35:10
a booktime session or your book not mine
35:12
there. And I'll tell you a while, I'll tell you some
35:14
of my stories. That
35:28
one's a minimal conversation. I hope you
35:30
enjoyed it too. Thank you so much
35:32
for listening to Rosebud this week. We
35:34
love knowing you're there and we love
35:36
hearing from you so do keep in
35:38
touch. Keep listening and keep recommending us
35:41
please to friends and family. Before
35:43
I go it's time for some of
35:45
your first memories. These are so fascinating
35:47
and so evocative so thank you to
35:49
everyone who's sent something in. We've heard
35:51
from Angela Halstone who says, my
35:54
first memory is still with me. I
35:56
can clearly picture being in my pink painted
35:58
coat on Christmas morning. morning, and
36:01
being given a big cuddly grey
36:03
stuffed toy dog called Cuddles. He
36:06
stayed with me for many years. I
36:08
was born in central London and spent my early
36:10
childhood there. Escaping to the British
36:13
Museum on a wet Sunday afternoon to look at
36:15
the mummies was always a treat. I
36:17
particularly enjoyed looking at the mummified cat
36:20
and wondering if it had been owned by a
36:23
little girl like me. We
36:26
love hearing from you, thanks for that Angela,
36:28
and finding out about your first memories.
36:31
So if you want to get
36:33
in touch, drop us a line
36:35
at hello at rosebudpodcast.com and
36:38
we may well read out your
36:40
email in the podcast in a few weeks
36:42
time. Thank you. This
37:13
is
37:16
produced
37:18
by
37:20
Halyard
37:22
Jane, artwork by Freya Betts, and
37:24
music by Phil Leggett. Thank you.
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