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Hey, it's Gregory Warner. This is
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Rough Translation. I
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used to love making New Year's resolutions.
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As a kid, I was a terrible nerd about it. I'd
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write them out. I'd even put them in
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an envelope. I don't even
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think I ever begged my parents to let me
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stay up and watch fireworks, like my own kids
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do now. I was just
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too excited about waking up early on
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January 1st to get started on
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my list of goals. At
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some point, I just dropped the
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whole resolution tradition. Didn't do the list
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at all. In part, I
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think I just get tired of the sight
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of so many abandoned goals. They haunted me
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with their undoneness. And
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so it was with some interest that
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I came across a phrase recently in a science
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journal, goal disengagement.
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It's basically the opposite of setting new goals for
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yourself for the future. Goal
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disengagement is letting go of old
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goals from the past that you
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will no longer strive for. And
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depressing as that may sound, these
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researchers from NYU were making the
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case that actually one
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thing that can help you succeed in new goals, or at
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least be happier and less stressed,
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is to go through this process, letting go
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of old goals that no longer serve
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you. Saying, you know what?
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This year, I'm not going to try
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to learn that new language. I am not
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going to go low carb, or letting
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go of bigger things as well. When
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I asked subscribers on my sub-stack, what
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have you had to let go of? Yeah,
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I mean, not completely sure
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what I'm doing, but a
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few brave people responded. Because it's not
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easy in a culture that reveres success
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and achievement to talk about
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the ambitions you've abandoned. I guess
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I'm doing this, okay. So for
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many, many years, I wanted to
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become a professor. Or the
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dreams you've had to discard. I
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had a vision of what married life
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would be, and it didn't
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turn out to be that way. The I had to.
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But in all your stories, you did make
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clear what letting go of old goals has
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made possible for you. Now I think I've
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realized that I. I wanted
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to become professor for many years
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to kind of feel security. I
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worked as a school crossing good.
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Which. Was something I never do. It says
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the courage to do. It
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has to be computed the neighbors it. So.
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I have to say I am grateful. So.
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For this end of year message from
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rough translation. At the close
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of a year that as scrambled ambitions for
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so many of us. I
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switched to pull out for you
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three stories from our archives that
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I've found myself listening back to
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stories that really do fit this
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theme of the curious power of
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letting go. And if you're a
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listener who's just discovered this podcast
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even though Mtr has ended despite
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guess going forward, I hope these
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stories might be a gateway for
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you to enjoy our archives of
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timeless narrative stories. One of the
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stories I chose is about admitting
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failure in public and this group.
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That hold these failures. Storytelling nights
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out with have failure is a
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four letter word. Another story chose
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is about learning from failure on
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the battlefield. I used to live
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in Afghanistan, work in Afghanistan. Report
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Afghanistan. I've never heard a story
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like this one about barely missed
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opportunity to an incredible resilience after
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a disaster that was Cold War
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poems. And then finally
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and old San favorite about a
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woman who asked to let go
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of her shame around surrogacy in
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order to grow a new international
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family. Now it's called American Surrogate.
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He. defied all those links below and
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show notes and a link to this
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study a reference about gold disengagement and
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for new stuff brand new stuff you
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on here news stories from me check
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out my subs deck newsletter of the
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sending you interviews as well as audio
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stories I have a brand new,
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very personal story about letting go that
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just won a jury prize. Hope you'll check that one out.
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And I'll also be giving you lots of chances to
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share your own stories, just like
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the brave folks you heard from earlier who
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shared their stories about letting go. And
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of course, the sub snack is the
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best way to keep track of what
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happens, whatever 2024 brings for me, for
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listeners who love rough translation, I
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will be letting you know. So
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you can subscribe for free at
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GregoryWarner.substack.com.
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