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You're listening to Ruthie's Table four in
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partnership with Montclair. If
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you're in politics, being outgoing, engaging
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and caring is part of the job. And
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these the words often used to describe
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the Governor of New Jersey, Phil Murphy and
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first Lady Tammy Murphy. But
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having been close to Phil and
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Tammy for as long as I have, I
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know this is truly who they are.
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In two thousand and eight, Phil was the finance
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chair for the Democratic National Committee,
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and as Americans abroad, we supported
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the presidential campaign for Barack Obama.
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Phil and Tammy worked day and night, traveling
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to London so often we thought they
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lived there. Our conversations
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then were always about society and politics,
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the sense of public service that runs
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so deeply in them. Their eyes,
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though, really lit up when we discussed their four
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children. Today we're
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having this conversation in the Governor's
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office in New Jersey, the state
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he is deeply committed to, out of and
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loves, And these are actually the
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very same words I would use to describe
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how I feel about Phil and Tammy
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Murphy. Committed proud, two
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people I love, very
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special you true.
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So the recipe that you chose was
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the chocolate Nemesis. I have to say it
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has been taken once by Ray
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Fines no pressure, but
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we would love to do it again and love you to
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read it. One if you could read the ingredients
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and one the method, or you can both read together,
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however you want to divide it.
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If I read the ingredients, the best part. That's
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why we pick.
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That's why I picked.
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Chocolatesis importantly
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you love chocolate Nemesis, the best chocolate
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cake ever?
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Yes? Do you agree?
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Liked percent?
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Are your chocolate lover?
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Not as much as missus, she's
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insane. So it serves
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ten to twelve Is that a pound
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and a half? Yes, it is a bitter chocolate
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in small pieces.
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Ten eggs and eggs that's
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a big cake.
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If it's a big cake, one pound
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of sugar and one
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pound of unsalted butter
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over the tammy, simple and
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all.
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The ingredients that I love to eat.
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Okay, So preheat the oven to three
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hundred and twenty five degrees fahrenheit. Line
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a twelve by two
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inch cake tin with wax paper,
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then grease and flour it.
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Beat the eggs with of
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the sugar.
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Until the volume quadruples. This
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will take at least ten
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minutes. Heat the remaining sugar
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in a small pan with eight fluid ounces
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of water until the sugar has dissolved
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to a syrup. Add the chocolate
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and butter.
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Stir.
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Then pour the syrup to the eggs and continue
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to beat until combined. Pour
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into the cake tin and place in a band marie
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of hot water. Bake in
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thirty minutes or until set. Test
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by placing the flat of your hand gently
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on the surface. Delicious, served
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with crem fresh.
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That's so good.
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All the things we can't eat, well
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you can so tell me about the Nemesis. Why did
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you choose it?
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Just because it has almost all
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of the taboo items. I love a
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pound of butter, you know, ten
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eggs, a pound of
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sugar, and of course chocolate.
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Okay, so I have to inject.
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When Tammy was a child, yes before
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we met, would sneak into her
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refrigerate, her parents refrigerator, pull
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out bars of
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butter and eat the butter.
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There were teeth barks in all the butter, and it was always
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me. I love butter, particularly salty
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butter.
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Oh you like it salted like salty? Good butter?
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In New Jersey, do they make butter
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here.
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We actually we are the garden
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State, so we actually
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do have some incredible farms
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here. We have some regenerative farming that goes on
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and in fact, we always try and find a
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gift that's typical New Jersey to send
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all of our friends for the holidays.
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Also, this is in a different lane, but we
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we've just we've got an exploding
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winery, distillery, breweries
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industry here.
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What is the wine? Like?
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Wine is good?
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Surprisingly good when you first
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hear wine from New Jersey people, so
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say, wait a minute, that doesn't sound right, but very
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very good. Stands up well, good value
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for money.
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There's one wine that there was
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a blind taste test in Chicago
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before, something called the Governor's Cup where you give out
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these awards for wine.
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What is a Governor's Cup.
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It's where the governor.
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Basically best wine through blind
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testing and we do it at the Governor's
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mansion.
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It's very cool. We do it for wine
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and beer, right.
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Craft beer, Yeah, the Governor's Yes,
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Governor's.
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Cup is wine. I figure what we call the craft beer.
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It's also for not spirits
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but liqueurs like the
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curse. But in
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a blind taste testing in Chicago,
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one of the wines in New Jersey beat out every
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other wine, French wines, Californian wines,
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So that was a big
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deal.
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Yeah, there is there a part of the
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state where the grapes grow. Is there
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one? Is it like Napo or you know where you have a
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region.
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Yeah, it is interesting. We are the fourth
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smallest state in the country.
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Geographically we're the
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eleventh largest population, so we are
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far and away the most densely populated state.
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So space is a challenge in New Jersey.
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It turns out the wineries are
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located largely in rural
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areas, but really up and down the state.
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When we first got into office, at
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least I thought they were all in the southern southern
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part of the state. It turns out there up and down, but
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obviously in rural settings.
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Not a great state, someone told me yesterday.
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Because I've been studying New Jersey. I love that.
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And to talk of densely populated
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and also the most
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it has the most diversity, it does, and
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that's in term. Well we could start talking about
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food right there, because if you have
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a diverse population, you have
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diverse food. Tell me about
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you know, the different people who live here,
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from different cultures, from and how
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that it's expressed in their food and restaurants.
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How about if I start with the cultures and you give me
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the un and the restaurants. We
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are, by many measures, the most diverse American
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state. We have
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one of the top South Asian populations,
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Indian, Pakistani in particular, the
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Latino populations. We're
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in the top three of any of the sub categories
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Colombia, Ecuadorian, Mexican, et
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cetera, booming
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Korean population and Asian
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population generally.
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And then you've got the.
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Populations that have been here for
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a long time, the Irish, the Germans, the
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Poles, Italians, the Italians without
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question, without question, and
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then to your very fair point, big Arab
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community, so one of the largest Arab communities
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in the in the United States,
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one of the biggest and most consequential African
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Americamerican populations,
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and that all of that has
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huge impact on the state in so many
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respects. But certainly per
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our discussion food, how
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would you in well
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food?
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I think one of the things about all of the
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different cultures being here is that because we're
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so small, you can go to pockets
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and find incredible restaurants
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and.
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Cantenas and.
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The very typical food of
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a different culture.
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So you go. We talk all the time about the
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fact that we have some.
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Of the deepest benches
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where people are living right on top of each other,
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where you have no choice but to experience
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someone else's culture and cuisine.
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In New Jersey though, the
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corn, the tomatoes, the blueberries,
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the raspberries, the cranberry
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bogs. I mean, we have the best
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food you can find. And the
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summers here are amazing with everything
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that's available really exciting.
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And so you have these farms, you have people
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different cultures of eating. Is food
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a important part of would you say?
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The diversity as well?
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Lots of diners. We're going to a diner later
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on.
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What do we eat in the diner?
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What are we going to We're gonna go to the Tops diner.
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Yeah, lunch is usually for me a Greek
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salad, minestadions.
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But they have everything.
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I mean, it depends if you're having a
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nail or ham.
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Or depends on what part of the state.
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That's a good question. But they have diners are
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like almost a unique Jersey thing.
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This is a feature.
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Tell me yesterday I was with you know, we
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have a new ambassador Jane Hardley
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and Ralph. So I was with Ralph last
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night and he was saying that the best pizzas
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from Jersey City. Do you know this place?
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Well, we know, we know that
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New Jersey has the best pizzas anywhere
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and the best bagels.
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Oh I didn't.
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And we compete aggressively against New York
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City and Connecticut for both of those titles.
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I like this being a food competition.
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Bill has this Twitter account for the state,
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and the state competes in like lobs
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comments out there, like you know, talking
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about where certain food groups were
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created and who has the best pizza,
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and it's a constant battle going on.
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Yeah, no, it's fo Last.
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Night they were really into the they have a pizza club,
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you know. Ralph and for
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people who were at this dinner was talking about they
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go out every once a month to find the best
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pizza. So they were very impressed
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by Jersey City.
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So going back to the beginning and talking about
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you rating your parents' fridge for the butter, what
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was it like growing We'll talk about both of you,
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but what was growing up in your house food
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wise?
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Well, first of all, you may or may not remember, my mother
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was British.
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She was an excellent cook when
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she chose to be.
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She also had an incredible
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sweet tooth, so we always had lots of sweets around
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for sure. But you
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know, I think back about those days. I'm
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the youngest of five and when everyone
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used to go away. You know, when I be
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the youngest, people were gone, they were gone to college wherever
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they were. And so a
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major period of my life I
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spent having the highlight of the
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week being to go to the grocery store with my
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mother and go to the frozen food
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section and pick out my TV dinner TV
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dinners for each night.
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So it would be the week for the week we would.
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Go and pick out the TV dinners because we
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were You said she was a good cook.
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She was an excellent cook, but she chose to But
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it was so easy, you know.
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And also when we go from cooking
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for seven to cooking for
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two or three, it kind of takes a little
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bit.
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Of the joiney out of it.
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Can we ask it?
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I don't want to take baton
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here, but can you tell us your favorite TV
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dinner that animates
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all of us? No?
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No, no, So I would come home from school
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and sit down and eat. No, this
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is no joke, probably a box of pop
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tarts, a box a box of
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pop tarts, and then after I finished my box of pop
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Tarts several hours later, we would I would tuck into my
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TV.
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Dinner and then you tuck into the butter, right, the
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arazy, healthy person having.
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So we hadn't thought about this, even though we've known
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each other for thirty seven years and when we're going out for
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thirty we hadn't had this conversation untill
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earlier today because we said, what are we going to say to Ruthie
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about food? We had a remarkably similar
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upbringing on the food front. I was the youngest
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of four dinners, not TV dinners
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but chef boy r D and
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a cane.
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How many were you?
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I'm youngest of four and similar to Tam,
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older siblings were significantly older.
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So for most of my formative years it
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was me and my mom and.
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Dad and uh.
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But on the flip side of that, I don't know if you
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agree with this, It made as we
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grew up and grew older our appreciation
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for really good food River Cafe,
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the great Italians.
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I think of you as great eaters.
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Yeah we are, but I think it.
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The other way. But also did both
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did either or both of your mother's work.
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Did they have jobs to do during the day.
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My mom helped my father in his business, but she
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was a a in the garden
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all day long.
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Yes, vegetables or flowers.
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Mostly flowers, mostly flowers. But she
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would work in the garden. By the way, I don't
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want to to
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misstate my mother was an excellent cook,
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but she just when she had to decide that she wanted
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to do it fair enough.
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What did she cook when she cooked?
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She used to cook literally a
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crown roast, she'd cook, she'd cook
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burgers, she'd cook chili, she'd cook
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you know, white fit I mean anything, anything
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and everything, sweets, lots of sweets,
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lots of cheesecakes, lots of lots
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of pastries.
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She used to make a lot of cookies.
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And a lot of her recipes have been handed down, so we all still
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have that little book.
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I do so many people, you know, I've interviewed
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now something like I
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think we're on we're on a hundred episode.
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We've probably this is one hundred and four. But so
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many people do talk about
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the handed down recipe book that they
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haven't And the other thing
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that I've noticed a lot is that people very often talk
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about their grandmothers almost more than their mothers.
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Interesting, and did you well before we go
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to grandmother's, what was your family like cooking?
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Similar to Tammy's, Similar to Tammy's
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And again I think you started to say
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this, and I think you're absolutely right, and
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they're unlike Tammy's mom, there wasn't a
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really outstanding cook in our family. My
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dad actually is probably the closest, and he was
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more of a shortness.
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He called himself a short order cook.
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This is his career. What did this job?
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Oh, he did a whole bunch of things. He didn't get out of high school, so he
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did a whole He was a paid Paul bearer,
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He worked in a warehouse, He ran a liquor
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store where Murphy's.
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After all, we have to drop the liquor in there. So
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he did a bunch of things over the years. But
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I think when you have that sort of
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relationship to food, this is one guy's
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opinion, growing up you go one of two ways.
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When you grow up, you sort
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of stay in that lane, or you
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start tasting really good food and
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you explode and just welcome
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everything. And I think we've all as
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you know, we've lived around
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the world. Tammy lived in London, we lived
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together in Germany, in Asia,
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now in the most diverse state in
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America. Once we crossed
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the rubicon into sort
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of seeing and tasting and feeling
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what really good food was, we never looked
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back. And Tammy's a great cook. Really,
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I can see.
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I was so flattered because I
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came in and this is audio,
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so it's not visual. But if it was visual, I would show the
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cookbook that you brought in with the recipe
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for the nemesis for little tabs through
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the book, which a well worn
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cookbook is a treasure.
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Really, it's it's very nice for me to
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see that meant a lot.
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I need to bring up the show it to you coveted,
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very very nice.
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But when you were growing up, did you have meals
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as a family together? Would you down?
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And we have very few because I was so young
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relative to my siblings,
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and my dad and mom worked different schedules,
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so I more often than
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not had dinner A friend
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would come over and my mom would cook
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something, or one
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of my closest friends was an Italian first
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generation dad and an
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Italian American wife, and
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they were really good cooks. So I would
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try to get to Sammy Chicaloni's as often
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as I could, because I knew I
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did remember, Yeah, mostly
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pasta, homemade pasta and homemade sauces.
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They were first generation Italian.
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The dad was and the mom was Italian American,
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really really good.
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Do you remember the pastas?
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I remember Bolanese was
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the one sauce that jumps out
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in my memory really good,
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and I think it was largely spaghetti. How you
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this was through high school, So
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this is middle school in high school, so seventeen
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or eighteen, from probably nine
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or ten up through there.
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When you had all your when your siblings came
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home, was that then
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that would be an occasion for doing peas? Okay,
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so what would you what would your mom mate?
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She would make, she would there
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would be for Joe to be filled, so there
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would be you know, everybody had kind of their own options
16:18
as to what they what they could go for. But she
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used to make whatever the favorite
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food is for whoever was going to appear.
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So, but conversation a
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big part of the meal was was there a lot of talk?
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Yes, yeah, yes, and.
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You've got at least your sister.
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Robin continues to be an
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outstanding.
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Cook, right, Susan was a great cook, and your.
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Late sister Susan.
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And so when I got involved
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in Tammy's family, so this is now thirty years
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ago, in nineteen ninety four. We met
16:45
in eighty seven. Didn't go out in a date till ninety four.
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I still don't understand that, but for
16:52
another podcast. But
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when I got in the family, your siblings
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really were picking up the mantle.
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Of hosting Thanksgiving, our.
17:01
Christmas holidays, religious holidays.
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Did you have religious holidays? We were both your
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parents.
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My father was Jewish
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and my mother was Church of England, so
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we used to celebrate some of each. We were
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kind of the Hodgepodge, so we would go over and
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spend Friday night dinners with my father's
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family, grandmother. And I
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was thinking about when you just said this, and I remember
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going in. All you could smell was was parsley
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partially partially should be making MutS
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of all soup and all those those
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great, those great yummy tastes.
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And but but we used to celebrate
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it all, you know, Christmas pudding for Christmas.
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I mean it was we were all we were all by
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the way.
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As governor since day one, and
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as ambassador before that, from day one.
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We host a passover
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sata. Every year we do, and
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so we that's especially knew.
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We have iftar dinners for
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Ramadan, we have Christmas
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related and there's food
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and all of them. We have got Hispanic
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Heritage Month, We'll have a huge Hispanic
18:03
Latino food spread.
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It's fun and we invite and because
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we are in this state and because we want
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to bring people together all the time, we will
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not just invite Jewish
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people to the satar. We will not just invite
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you know, Hispanic people if we're celebrating.
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You know, Spanish history or Spanish Heritage
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Month. So we always try and mix it up
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and invite everyone in.
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And it's fun because people have never tasted
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different foods in many instances, so
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it's great.
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The Sadar is the one that sticks out because we actually
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sit around a table the other ones a
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big receptions. Probably thirty six
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to thirty eight of us at one table. Yeah, it's
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a big, kind of a grand table.
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Reminds us of the table that we had when we
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were in Berlin as ambassador,
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and we deliberately to Tammy's points, that
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table will be filled with obviously Jews,
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Christians, Muslims will have
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Hindu representation, will sick.
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I mean, we'll have a.
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And invariably the reaction is, hey, we
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do something similar in our religion, or
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we eat something similar, or it's
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remarkable how people walk away saying, you
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know it, we're actually a lot more like each other
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after all.
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Well, that's also that that night, it's very special
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because we always have someone who leads the satyr
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and you start explaining
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what the meaning is of the different foods that are on the table.
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So it's all centered around food. With you, you should come to
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one and.
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I would love to food
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and religion, food and tradition. I was
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in Mexico recently and the night
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before I left, I went to some friend's house and
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they have I'm embarrassed to say,
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I don't know the Mexican holiday, but there is
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a holiday after Christmas in which it is rather
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like the French pitivier where you find the little
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crown and then you are the queen.
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But in this one, if you find the crown,
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then you have to host another dinner
19:48
a month later. It's all to
19:51
do with family and tradition and bringing
19:53
everyone together, which we and
19:55
memory isn't it.
19:56
Where's the crown? Is it in the food?
19:58
It's in the cake circular?
20:00
Yes?
20:01
Okay, Hm.
20:07
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dot co dot uk. What
20:34
about your father's You said.
20:36
That my dad would do more
20:40
than my mom. Brother? How about you? Did your dad ever
20:42
cook barbecue?
20:43
Barbecue?
20:44
It's interesting, isn't it? How the male thing barbecue
20:47
and you cook? Government tell them
20:49
about the barbecue, tell us about your barber.
20:54
We could just stop, that's
20:56
okay.
20:57
When we were engaged, I
21:00
had a in the backyard. Was
21:05
asked by Tammy to go out and get the get
21:08
the We had a weber grill and to
21:10
get the webber. The charcoal fire going
21:13
and it wasn't going to my satisfaction.
21:16
So I picked up the liquid and
21:19
started spraying it into the embers,
21:22
and Tammy ran out and reminded me that
21:24
the fire could have come right back up.
21:25
And so that was I think that might have been the last.
21:28
Time I heard you know what.
21:29
I've actually determined that it was actually very
21:31
intentionally deliberate.
21:32
Because that's
21:35
a good way, that's a good But
21:38
when you left your homes when you left to
21:40
go to college, so was
21:42
that a big change for you in terms
21:44
of exposure to different foods or was
21:47
it mostly living in the dorm and eating
21:49
and the for me it wasn't.
21:51
The real game changer for me was
21:53
moving to New York.
21:54
Okay told me about that.
21:57
After getting a master's degree, getting
21:59
hired to on Wall Street.
22:01
Living in New
22:03
York was the game changer?
22:05
That was it?
22:05
Like, oh, it was just it was like a someone
22:08
opened a door to a beautiful,
22:11
new, different reality as it relates to food,
22:14
and it got really into some really
22:17
special foods.
22:18
But that was the that was the line
22:21
for me. I don't know.
22:22
Did people take you out for sort of fine dining?
22:25
Was it was it?
22:28
And ethnically I'd say both, you'd
22:30
take you'd go out to fine
22:32
dining, typically with a client. Yeah,
22:35
that was as opposed to necessary on my own.
22:38
But the whole waterfront and that was the game
22:41
changer. For me, and then we went over international
22:44
on that further. What about wine,
22:47
same New York again
22:50
for me, that's forty odd years ago,
22:52
I guess forty two years ago.
22:54
Up until then, I.
22:55
Was did you have wine
22:57
in the house very little with me?
23:00
Very little beer? Yeah, occasionally
23:04
a drink.
23:05
So you didn't know that wine was such a yeah?
23:08
Good.
23:08
When did you kind of become aware of food?
23:11
Yeah? Well, far from the butter.
23:15
I actually think it was more I was more
23:17
switched on when I moved overseas, so.
23:20
Going to London and really focusing.
23:22
I moved to London
23:24
in ND eighty nine beginning of ninety so
23:27
you were so yeah,
23:30
and so just you
23:33
know, the pub fair, I mean, just just
23:35
being able to go and experience different
23:37
things.
23:37
And then living in Germany.
23:38
We lived in Frankfurt the first time, and Frankfort
23:40
being such an international airport, they have an entire
23:42
cottage industry of warehouses where
23:44
food was coming in from every corner of the world. You
23:46
could get Durian, you could get tomatoes
23:49
when you couldn't get them anywhere else, and they were always
23:51
Remember I used to go to that place.
23:52
I loved it.
23:53
What was it called?
23:55
It was an incredible. To say
23:57
it was a market would be an understatement.
23:59
Was a massive because Frankfurt
24:02
is the busiest international airport in the world
24:04
and all this cargo comes in and
24:07
then it goes back out to different directions,
24:09
but they clip a fair amount of it off
24:11
the top and it stays there.
24:12
I was going to say that I do know that you met
24:15
over dinner. Well you met, you had you. It's
24:17
often remarked about your first date being over
24:19
dinner. It was possibly
24:22
remember where it was and what you.
24:23
Yeah, yeah, yeah, so dinner
24:26
was at a restaurant. The first date was at a restaurant
24:28
called Manschans in
24:31
Frankfurt.
24:32
Oh you met, you went out to dinner and.
24:33
Frank But
24:36
then our first that was
24:38
a Sunday, and then we went out again on
24:40
Wednesday in London at a restaurant
24:42
called I'm not I'm sure it's out there, Hilaire,
24:45
Oh.
24:45
Hilaire, I remember.
24:48
It was. It was that
24:51
we always We also liked was the Star of
24:53
India.
24:54
Star of India, a great restaurant on the Fulham
24:57
Road. Yeah. Yeah,
24:59
we got engaged.
25:01
We got the first date to engagement was eighteen
25:04
days. So we got engaged over dinner.
25:07
In an Italian restaurant in Frankfurt.
25:09
Do you remember what you ate? Yes?
25:12
So we we sat it at Table
25:14
nine, which is our table. And they actually
25:17
created Pizza Murphy Pizza,
25:19
Pizza dea Murphy Pizza and it's
25:22
it's basically pizza dough with
25:24
rugola, cherry tomatoes, olive
25:26
oil and really.
25:29
Good main course.
25:32
I can't recall it would have been
25:34
fish fish because they were really
25:36
good. They did a really good They're South Italy
25:39
guys there, Colbrian, Colabrians.
25:41
They're not you, they're not River Cafe,
25:44
but they're well.
25:44
I think Southern Italian food is really good.
25:47
It's really it was really good.
25:48
It's an interesting thing though that when we think about
25:50
how I was introduced to Italian food was
25:52
very much in America the meatballs
25:54
of spaghetti, that's modest, sauce,
25:56
the cheese, and then you go to Italy and actually
25:59
no, it's grilled fish and great herbs
26:01
and there is I mean, both are good, you
26:04
know.
26:04
But we have that experience in New Jersey
26:06
all the time, contrasting to Italy.
26:08
We have that conversation a.
26:10
Lot yea yeah, going
26:12
from getting meeting and have being
26:14
engaged, getting married, having
26:16
four children, How did they grow up
26:18
in the Murphy family with two parents
26:21
like yourselves? And what was meal time like
26:23
for you?
26:24
We'll start and you come in.
26:26
So unlike it your experience in
26:29
my experience when most of our siblings
26:31
were gone. Our kids are two years apart, so
26:33
they're twenty six twenty four, for
26:37
better or for worse. We do a lot
26:39
of meals together and
26:42
which we on the margin really enjoy.
26:45
And I think our kids, I don't think I know this.
26:48
They are so far more advanced
26:51
in their understanding of food and
26:53
cuisine at their ages than I know I
26:55
was, probably you, because
26:58
they've lived Our oldest
27:00
guy has lived both in Asia and in
27:02
Europe. The other three
27:04
have lived in Europe. All four have traveled
27:08
extensively. They appreciate
27:10
it at a younger age, much more
27:12
so than I think either of us, which as I.
27:15
Don't really have much that we eat, we eat. We eat a
27:17
lot of meals together purposefully, intentionally,
27:20
and we schedule our time fill
27:22
and I schedule our time such that we are able
27:24
to ensure we have as many meals
27:26
together as possible.
27:27
And we still try to go out to restaurants.
27:29
But that's a little bit harder in the political
27:31
environment and whatnot, but we still try to go out
27:34
and enjoy a whole range
27:36
of different types of food.
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you. While
28:03
we talk about the exposure
28:06
our children have to food, exposure
28:08
they've had to foreign countries and the exposure
28:11
that they've had to sitting at a table
28:14
or enjoying being a family, we
28:16
know that there are a lot of families
28:19
who don't have that, and I know that you're
28:21
working very hard for that, and I think that
28:23
I'm in my own small way in England
28:25
working with restauranteurs and chefs
28:28
about children and hunger, adults
28:30
and hunger, everyone in hunger, and
28:32
certainly during the lockdown, we were exposed
28:34
to the fact that children who were deprived at lunch
28:37
at school had no food because
28:39
that was their one meal a day. So
28:41
perhaps you could tell me what you're thinking about in
28:44
New Jersey or your political
28:46
process for people who don't have food access.
28:48
You framed it very well, the gap
28:51
between those that have and those that have not as
28:53
wide as it's ever been. It's been a
28:55
big agenda for us in New Jersey,
28:57
and in my time as Governor, Tammy's running
28:59
for Senate it's a big piece of her agenda
29:03
as well. Just this week to give
29:05
you. Having said all that, I think New
29:08
Jersey's probably done more than any other
29:10
state in America to battle
29:12
food and security generally and specifically
29:14
for our kids. And one example,
29:18
just this week, I signed a
29:20
law that will provide access
29:24
for a lot more kids to free school
29:27
lunches and breakfasts than before. So
29:29
we raised the income eligibility,
29:32
and we also extended this not just
29:34
in our public schools, but to private
29:37
schools. So I'm incredibly proud. That's
29:39
one step of many we've taken. But
29:41
the gap is not zero. I wish it were, it
29:43
isn't. And one
29:46
of the observations we made at
29:48
this bill signing was
29:51
weekends. Long
29:53
weekends in particular and summer
29:56
are the big exposures because of exactly
29:58
what you said, Ruthie, is that there
30:01
are many kids in our state, in America,
30:03
probably in the world, where their only
30:05
hot meals are going to be if they get to school
30:08
and if they're not going to school Saturday, Sunday,
30:10
or like this week there was a holiday on Monday,
30:13
they may not have that meal or in the summer.
30:15
So that to my way of thinking,
30:17
I think Tammy agrees passionately.
30:20
That's sort of the next frontier before
30:22
us.
30:23
Tim.
30:24
Yeah, No, I go back to the
30:26
pandemic.
30:27
I think because I started something called
30:29
the New Jersey Pandemic Relief Fund during the
30:31
pandemic to help people on the ground
30:33
precisely the topics we're talking about, and
30:36
food security, supporting
30:38
the food banks, supporting the pantries,
30:41
with refrigeration, with
30:44
ppe, with all the things that you
30:46
know, these mom and pop organizations had normally
30:48
just bumbled along and the need
30:51
went, as you know, went through the stratosphere.
30:54
So I think that we learned a lot of lessons.
30:56
I mean, I'm always trying to focus on the silver
30:59
line, and I think out of the pandemic, I
31:02
think that we learned a lot that we're able to now
31:04
put into law, which is what
31:06
fills.
31:09
Two other quickies. One is we
31:11
got criticized because we waited
31:13
a couple of days to shut schools down in
31:15
March of twenty twenty, at the beginning of the
31:17
pandemic. The reason why we waited
31:19
we needed to get a plan from every school
31:21
that they had a plan in place to get hot
31:24
meals to kids even if they weren't showing
31:27
up. And the second thing is more recent. We
31:29
just got a report that in New Jersey had
31:31
good news in bad news. Good news is what made progress
31:33
on homelessness, which is a
31:36
big challenge for us,
31:38
as it is for everyone. But on
31:40
the flip side of that, the pressure,
31:42
the amount of demand at our food banks
31:45
has gone up dramatically, and
31:48
so we just it's food insecurity
31:51
is inescapable, and I think it's going to require
31:54
whether you're a senator, a governor, one
31:56
of the world's renowned restauranteurs, it's
31:59
going to take all of us.
32:00
Could you ever have a policy
32:03
which gave which it
32:05
wasn't, means tested for every child university?
32:08
Yeah, if we can find the money. The
32:10
other day I was asked that very question. That's
32:12
something that we if we have the
32:14
money, that's something we want to do, probably takes
32:16
us a while to get there. We are
32:18
pursuing a similar,
32:21
different topic, but similar trajectory
32:23
for universal pre K, meaning
32:26
three year olds and four year olds to
32:28
have full day. We've made a lot
32:30
of progress, but we're on a journey. Same with
32:32
food and security. We made progress, but we have ways
32:35
to.
32:35
Go in universal nurse home visitation
32:37
now.
32:37
And universal nurse home visitation thanks
32:39
to this one.
32:40
That is, there's big
32:42
challenges in the United States with maternal deaths. We're
32:44
fifty six in the world for maternal mortality rates.
32:47
And one of the most dangerous
32:49
time is not when a child is
32:51
born, but after the child is born, because
32:54
moms are not seen for the first six weeks. And of
32:56
course children babies are seen frequently
33:00
and so and you never know when the mom is
33:02
seen. Is she wearing her Sunday
33:04
finest, did she take five trains
33:06
and a bus and walk two miles and
33:09
so? Anyway, so we just
33:11
launched two days ago universal
33:13
nurse home visitation, which means within two
33:15
weeks of delivering a baby and nurse goes into the home,
33:18
which means they are able to see is their
33:20
food insecurity? Is there are there
33:22
other resource needs that we can propornastic.
33:24
Violence and sadly on
33:26
the list.
33:28
You know, there's so much we could talk about
33:30
and carry and we'll do part two another time. But
33:32
in London, by the way Inn London, and
33:35
you were talk about food just you
33:38
know, as a way of communicating,
33:41
of expressing love as being something
33:43
delicious to eat, to share, to take
33:45
care of people. It's also comfort.
33:48
And so I always end every interview
33:51
with the question that if you think
33:53
of food as comfort, the food that
33:55
you might reach for, apart from butter,
33:59
you're never going to get that butter.
34:01
But what, Tommy,
34:03
would your spe I would
34:05
have to say if it's if it's not gonna be a sweet, then
34:07
it's probably cheese.
34:09
Cheese.
34:09
I love a specific cut or any depends
34:12
what's in my refrigerator.
34:13
Okay, Ruthie.
34:16
I would go, particularly in cold weather
34:19
stew, a nice beef stew
34:22
with vegetables. We had some the
34:24
other night we did, and it was really
34:26
on a cold winter night in particular.
34:29
That gives me a.
34:31
Can I tell you one other thing to entice
34:33
you back to New Jersey, so hopefully
34:36
we can get you back while Phil is still the governor, because
34:38
one thing we do with the Governor's Mansion is we
34:40
serve as many dishes
34:42
as possible that have Jersey sourced
34:45
food, and we then we then
34:47
put asterisks on the menu to say this is local.
34:49
This is this is from New Jersey and wines
34:51
and.
34:52
Only Jersey Wines, only Jersey Booze,
34:54
only Jersey Beer, and to the extent
34:56
we can only Jersey ingredients.
34:59
Well, if I started out by saying that you
35:01
know you're committed, that you're kind,
35:03
and that you're interested in the
35:05
people who live and work in
35:08
the state, I think that this conversation
35:10
has shown that. And also
35:13
if I say that I love you, you can see
35:15
why. Thank you, we love you. Thanks
35:18
Ruthy, thank you, thank
35:24
you for listening to Ruthie's Table for in
35:27
partnership with Montclair.
35:37
Ruthie's Table four is produced by Atami
35:39
Studios for iHeartRadio. It's
35:41
hosted by Ruthie Rogers and it's produced
35:43
by William Lensky. This episode
35:46
was edited by Julia Johnson and mixed
35:48
by Nigel Appleton. Our executive
35:50
producers are Faye Stewart and
35:52
Zad Rogers. Our production manager
35:55
is Caitlin Paramore, and our production coordinator
35:57
is Bella Selini. Thank you
35:59
to everyone at the River Cafe for your help
36:01
in making this episode.
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