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Mam, can I have this?
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Your dinner will be ready soon love.
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But please, I'm starving.
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Just say yes Julie. It's
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been a long week.
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What else has he had today?
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Come on just one.
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Saying no will only
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make you the bad guy.
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No. If you're hungry
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you can have cheese and crackers
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or fruit. Let's go easy on the treats.
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Start with smaller ones less
0:29
often to keep your family healthy. Good evening,
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everyone and welcome to this
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evenings Webinar. My name is Jen
0:33
Hogan and I'm delighted to be
0:37
your host for this event. This
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webinar is brought to you by the
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START campaign. A public health
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awareness campaign from
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safefood, the HSE and healthy
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0:46
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0:46
in Northern Ireland. The
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campaign has been designed to
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help parents and guardians start
0:52
their kids on a way to a
0:52
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1:00
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1:04
This evening, we're focusing on
1:04
the topic of how best to
1:06
moderate our children's treat
1:06
food consumption. Research with
1:09
parents and guardians for the
1:09
START campaign revealed that
1:12
while they want to reduce treats
1:12
like crisps, chocolate and
1:14
biscuits for children, saying no
1:14
is difficult, and there's very
1:18
few parents who don't struggle
1:18
with the amount of treats that
1:20
they give to their children.
1:20
Sometimes it just seems easier
1:23
and faster when life is busy.
1:23
But most of us would like to
1:26
make healthier choices for our
1:26
children and encourage them to
1:28
make healthy choices to was
1:28
striking a balance, of course.
1:32
And making sure that food
1:32
doesn't become an issue or a
1:34
battleground. Who doesn't need
1:34
help getting that balance right?
1:38
As a mom of seven children, I'm
1:38
certainly interested in hearing
1:41
our panels expert advice. And
1:41
this webinar is all about
1:44
supporting you, parents and
1:44
guardians who have joined us
1:46
this evening. So, if you have
1:46
any questions for our panel,
1:49
please submit these into the
1:49
question and answer section. I
1:51
will put them to our guests a
1:51
little later on. Before I
1:55
introduce you to the panel, we
1:55
want to hear from you. We have a
1:57
couple of questions appearing on
1:57
our screen now asking how often
2:00
your children have treats in the
2:00
week. So that's foods such as
2:03
crisps, chocolates, sweets,
2:03
biscuits, or sugary drinks. Is
2:07
it every day, five to six days a
2:07
week? Three to four days a week?
2:12
Or once or twice a week? And how
2:12
confident are you to start the
2:15
conversation of moderating
2:15
treats with your kids, very
2:19
confident, quite confident,
2:19
slightly confident or not at all
2:24
confident. So, while you're
2:24
voting, I'll introduce you to
2:28
our panel. I am joined this
2:28
evening, by safefood's chief
2:33
specialist and nutrition Joanna
2:33
De Silva, child and adolescent
2:37
psychotherapist, Coleman Noctor
2:37
and HSE clinical lead on obesity
2:41
Donal O She. So, have we any any
2:41
results here in anything that we
2:45
can have a look at. It's more of a spread than I
2:46
thought to be honest, I was
2:48
Joana, what are the actual
2:48
guidelines? I think that's part
2:50
thinking it'd be more heavily up
2:50
to the five or six days or you
2:54
know, even every seven days
2:54
because honestly, in the
2:57
discussions we were having
2:57
before, we've all struggled
3:01
keeping it below eight days a
3:01
week for treats! And that's the
3:05
challenge. It's a massive
3:05
challenge. So that's good.
3:09
There's a lot of parents on here
3:09
who are doing really well,
3:12
actually. Then there's more that
3:12
are looking for, hopefully some
3:17
of the tips that will come out
3:17
of this evening's webinar.
3:25
of the confusion, parents don't
3:25
actually know.
3:27
We can touch on what
3:27
we have been doing. We have some
3:31
data that says that about one
3:31
fifth of the calories that
3:35
children are consuming comes
3:35
from these types of foods. And
3:39
we know that in about 1/4 meals
3:39
we are including a treat food,
3:44
or a sugary drink. Now this data
3:44
was pre COVID data and we spoke
3:48
to parents recently, they told
3:48
us that this actually increased
3:53
during the pandemic. So, when we
3:53
talk about treat foods, the
3:57
guidance is really for the
3:57
smallest (child) to have a small
4:01
tiny treat once a week. And for
4:01
the older child up to twice a
4:06
week. This would be about a
4:06
square of chocolate, or about
4:10
five crisps for the smaller
4:10
child and the 'fun size'
4:14
chocolates and biscuits or
4:14
crisps for the older child. So,
4:18
it's encouraging to see that
4:18
some of the parents are doing
4:22
really well. And it's
4:22
encouraging to see that some of
4:26
us want to want to improve on this.
4:29
I am shocked I have
4:29
to be honest, I am shocked at
4:32
how little makes up a treat. I
4:32
think that is something that's
4:35
going to surprise a lot of
4:35
people because I wouldn't
4:39
consider a square of chocolate a
4:39
treat. I think that's something
4:42
I suppose that we're going to have to get our head around and I suppose we associate eating
4:43
treats so much with obesity, and
4:48
that's obviously your area,
4:48
Donal. What levels of increase
4:55
are we seeing in term in terms
4:55
of overweight children and obese
4:58
children?
4:59
I mean what's happening
4:59
is encouraging in a way and that
5:04
the levels of stops going up.
5:04
And we are now looking at levels
5:08
of unfortunately, it's one in
5:08
four of our children are either
5:12
overweight or obese. And that is
5:12
way too high. If you were to go
5:18
back 30 years ago, that level
5:18
would have been maybe 6%. So,
5:25
children living with overweight
5:25
or obesity has gone up about
5:30
four fold in the last 25 years.
5:30
It's a combination of the types
5:36
of food and nutrition that
5:36
they're eating, and what's
5:42
happened physical activity and
5:42
our sedentary lifestyles. And
5:47
it's that perfect storm of the
5:47
combination that has led to that
5:51
increase. That's why you have to
5:51
change a number of things.
5:56
Simply focusing on the energy in
5:56
is not going to address the
6:01
problem, you have to work across
6:01
our physical activity,
6:06
infrastructure as well.
6:11
That's a scary number
6:11
one in four, do you think
6:13
parents are recognizing this
6:13
because, you know, we're looking
6:16
at our kids everyday and
6:16
sometimes when you see somebody
6:18
after you haven't seen them for
6:18
a little while, and you notice
6:21
if they have lost weight or
6:21
gained weight, is it perhaps
6:23
that parents are oblivious to this?
6:25
We know that as parents,
6:25
we don't recognize a weight
6:30
problem in our children. And
6:30
that's why it's really
6:35
important. The changes that are
6:35
coming in now in say, GP
6:40
contracts, so that when both as
6:40
adults, or children, you go to
6:45
your GP, it will be routine to
6:45
be weighed, and measured. Then
6:49
you'll get the feedback. And if
6:49
you get that feedback, when
6:53
you're just overweight, whether
6:53
you're an adult or a child, it's
6:57
much easier as the adult to make
6:57
changes yourself. If your child
7:05
is overweight, if you were told
7:05
that, you won't be thinking
7:08
that, but the fact that you're
7:08
told will mean you can introduce
7:11
changes at home, that might just
7:11
improve the nutrition side of
7:16
things, and you can come to some
7:16
decisions about being physically
7:20
active. So identifying it as an
7:20
issue is a real challenge. But
7:30
is is beginning to be addressed
7:30
now, with work that's been done
7:34
with primary care and the GPs.
7:36
And I know, it's not
7:36
just obviously about appearance,
7:39
it's not just about how somebody
7:39
looks if they're overweight,
7:43
what are the actual health
7:43
consequences of a child being
7:46
overweight?
7:47
I mean, if it was a
7:47
purely cosmetic thing, it
7:53
wouldn't be an issue for the
7:53
health service. It's really
7:57
important that children do not
7:57
have issues around shape or
8:03
feeling that "one. look is the
8:03
look". And you know, we were
8:08
talking about Snapchat earlier
8:08
on and Tik Tok and the looks
8:13
that are put out there as being
8:13
desirable, are broadly
8:19
unobtainable, unless you are
8:19
obsessive around your behavior,
8:25
both on the nutrition side and
8:25
the physical activity side. So
8:30
we need to move away from that
8:30
kind of obsession with image,
8:36
have a positive attitude to the
8:36
fact that people come in all
8:42
shapes and sizes. If you wind
8:42
the clock back 200 years, there
8:46
was always a spectrum of weight
8:46
from underweight through
8:49
overweight, through to people
8:49
living with obesity. It was just
8:53
a tiny percentage of those
8:53
living with obesity, and now
8:59
that has come back into
8:59
childhood, unfortunately, when
9:04
it just wasn't an issue before.
9:04
That's why we have to address it
9:08
as a society. But the health
9:08
benefits of being a healthy
9:13
weight, if you can reach the age
9:13
of 18 at a healthy weight, then
9:19
your lifelong weight trajectory
9:19
is so positive. Whereas if you
9:25
carry overweight or obesity into
9:25
early adulthood, the challenge
9:31
to achieve or maintain a
9:31
healthier weight is so much more
9:37
But I suppose if
9:37
you've mentioned Snapchat there,
9:37
difficult. and some of the other social
9:41
media platforms, and we're
9:43
always talking particularly as
9:43
kids get older, and they become
9:46
more aware of these things, how
9:46
do we get this balance right?
9:50
How do we become aware of the
9:50
implications for children if
9:55
they're obese or overweight at a
9:55
younger age? How do we bring
9:58
this into a family discussion,
9:58
in terms of making some making
10:02
sure somebody doesn't become
10:02
obsessed with weight? We may be
10:06
displaced one problem with
10:06
another one. Coleman, I'm
10:09
looking looking to you here, How
10:09
do we get this balance? Right?
10:11
Yeah, we have to be really careful around the narrative around food. It should
10:13
be about health and not weight.
10:18
It should not be about good and
10:18
bad foods. It's about good and
10:21
bad amounts of foods. I work
10:21
with young people with eating
10:25
disorders, and oftentimes on the
10:25
opposite side of the spectrum,
10:28
more restrictive types. It can
10:28
be triggered by a class in
10:33
school that talks about bad fats
10:33
or something. A child could
10:37
become obsessive about it, or a
10:37
comment from peers or, the
10:43
parental behavior of strict
10:43
dieting at home, and how we all
10:47
speak about our body and shape.
10:47
All of these things can create a
10:50
relationship with food, weight
10:50
and shape, and a childhood lasts
10:54
a lifetime. And so what Donal
10:54
was saying about, you know, if
10:57
you can achieve a healthy
10:57
relationship up until the 18
10:59
years, the prognosis of you
10:59
keeping that is really positive.
11:03
But if you've an unhealthy
11:03
relationship with food, weight
11:05
and shape in childhood, it's
11:05
really hard to get over that.
11:09
And so, when we're talking about
11:09
how do we introduce a child to
11:14
healthier eating? I think it is
11:14
about moderation. I think it's
11:18
not about extremes. I think it's
11:18
not about fads or obsessiveness.
11:23
And I think absolutely, it's not
11:23
just about food, either. I think
11:26
that energy outpoint that Donal
11:26
made, again, you know, it's
11:29
about activity, it's about
11:29
having the right balance. So
11:33
although the treat conversation
11:33
is hugely important, it's only
11:36
one of the components to how we
11:36
should formulate health in that
11:42
way. Would you agree Donal?
11:44
I would agree. I agree
11:44
fully with that. And when I was
11:48
coming up here this evening, I
11:48
was thinking, what's the one of
11:51
the key things I'd like to get
11:51
across? And it's just how
11:56
difficult it is for parents. The
11:56
single thing that I would like
12:03
to get across is, it is, and I'm
12:03
not going to say it's an
12:07
impossible ask because we can't
12:07
say that, it's just a really
12:11
difficult ask around the
12:11
physical activity environment,
12:14
around the promotion of the high
12:14
fat, high salt, high sugar
12:19
foods, not just in the shops,
12:19
but through Snapchat, and
12:26
Tiktok, the prompts come up, and
12:26
that's all you need is that
12:30
trigger. You say, "oh, yeah,
12:30
maybe I am [hungry] and maybe I
12:33
will go and have that
12:33
McDonald's, or Burger King." Or
12:37
maybe " I will have Oreos" that
12:37
are promoted all over Snapchat.
12:44
So if parents know that it's
12:44
really difficult, I hope that
12:51
will allow that conversation to
12:51
happen at home about let's be a
12:56
little more moderate. Let's
12:56
acknowledge the fact that it's
13:00
really difficult. And see where
13:00
we can make some changes.
13:05
I know, I was talking
13:05
to you in the past Coleman about
13:07
different things. You mentioned
13:07
nagging doesn't work. So I
13:11
suppose particularly if you're
13:11
going near teenagers, maybe who
13:14
have that access to pocket money
13:14
or if they have a job
13:19
themselves, and they have that
13:19
freedom to go to the shops and
13:22
make these choices. We're not
13:22
always there, policing every
13:25
single thing. So is it a case
13:25
really, that we actually need to
13:29
involve them and engage them in
13:29
the conversation? It's not about
13:33
dictating to them, you can't
13:33
have this or you mustn't have
13:36
that but maybe perhaps about
13:36
making them more aware of the
13:40
choices they're making?
13:41
Yeah, I think it's a
13:41
real challenge to get that
13:44
balance right in that regard.
13:44
Because, again, you know,
13:47
nagging doesn't work and
13:47
encouragement probably works
13:50
better. But the task of
13:50
childhood is regulation. So from
13:54
the point of view of when you
13:54
say no to your three year olds
13:58
in Tescos for buttons, and they
13:58
have a tantrum on the floor, you
14:01
hope by the time they're 19,
14:01
they don't do that anymore,
14:04
because they've learned to
14:04
regulate emotion and all that
14:06
sort of stuff. But you have to
14:06
regulate for them when they
14:09
can't do it. So things like
14:09
portion control and managing
14:14
that. For example, if a child
14:14
finishes a bowl of ice cream,
14:18
they're going to ask you one
14:18
thing, which is can I have some
14:20
more. And as a parent, you say
14:20
no, you've had enough or you
14:23
think they're going to get sick
14:23
if they eat anymore, so I'm not
14:25
going to give you any more.
14:25
We're teaching them about
14:28
portion control. So, there is
14:28
an onus on us as parents to the
14:32
adults in the room to say this
14:32
is what's okay, and this is not.
14:36
But following on from Donal's
14:36
point about how difficult it is,
14:40
and the marketing around it is
14:40
very psychologically good. This
14:44
is not a new thing. Back in the
14:44
day, I remember going into
14:47
Superquinn. When you go in, there was the smell of the bread, beautiful bread, and
14:49
you'd buy tons of bread, and
14:54
you'd have a trolley full. It'd
14:54
be hard the next day but you'd
14:57
have bought loads of it because
14:57
the smell. If you go into Lidl
14:59
or Aldi, it's the sweet aisles
14:59
you see first. And then on your
15:02
last aisle, it's the Daz and the
15:02
toilet roll and the stuff that
15:05
you don't need. So you should
15:05
never shop hungry, as they say,
15:09
from that point of view. So that
15:09
kind of psychological
15:12
manipulation is everywhere, and
15:12
it's really difficult to be
15:16
immune to the triggers or to not
15:16
fall for that trick. And
15:21
children are being promoted to
15:21
create pester power to create
15:26
the nagging 'but so and so gets
15:26
more, and they have no problem
15:30
to treat' and you're comparing
15:30
Parent to Parent. So it is
15:34
really, really difficult in
15:34
today's climate, especially
15:37
where we have so much of the
15:37
temptation in our wake to
15:41
actually keep discipline. But as
15:41
the adult in the room, we
15:46
sometimes have to give our
15:46
children what they need, not
15:48
what they want. that can be very
15:48
difficult. But I think the year
15:52
that has been in it, has been a
15:52
real component in this. I
15:56
remember saying to my sister
15:56
last year, you know, what are
15:59
you giving up for Lent? And she
15:59
said, "absolutely nothing, food
16:01
is all I have left". There was
16:01
so much that we had given up.
16:05
And so things that we would have
16:05
rewarded children with like
16:09
going to the cinema, or going to
16:09
the Play barn, or, you know,
16:12
we'll do this, we'll do that. It
16:12
just became the default position
16:16
was the treat press. So I do
16:16
think, however difficult it was
16:21
in February 2020, it's quite a
16:21
bit more difficult now.
16:25
It's not just about
16:25
treats. I think we are here and
16:29
there the start campaign, and
16:29
we're talking about treats
16:31
today. I'm a bit biased. But
16:31
what START does well, is to talk
16:36
about different health behaviors
16:36
in a very positive way. And that
16:41
acknowledging that it's very
16:41
difficult for all of us. We
16:45
often say that start is a
16:45
campaign from parents, for
16:48
parents. That's not just a
16:48
tagline, we actually talk to
16:52
parents in different communities
16:52
and we try to understand what
16:56
the challenges are and what they
16:56
are readyto take on and to
17:00
change because the last year was
17:00
very difficult for everyone. But
17:06
I think we are now in a better
17:06
place. It's encouraging to see
17:10
parents willing and wanting to
17:10
change and to try new things. I
17:14
do think that it's important to
17:14
involve the child, and that the
17:18
child has some ownership on that
17:18
decision and on that plan. I
17:23
think it's important that then
17:23
we we lead by example, as
17:26
parents, too.
17:27
We were having the chats actually there, Joanna, just before we came on, and you
17:29
mentioned the things that treats
17:33
are displacing and perhaps
17:33
that's really something that we
17:35
as parents need to think about.
17:35
Especially because over the
17:38
course the pandemic like the
17:38
guys have pointed out, we may be
17:41
handed kids treats, we treated
17:41
ourselves an awful lot more,
17:45
because life was really tough.
17:45
You were just taking your little
17:48
joys where you could get them
17:48
but then they obviously became a
17:51
habit.
17:52
That's an important
17:52
point, because it's not just
17:56
about healthy weight. So, first
17:56
of all, it's about having a
17:59
healthy relationship with food,
17:59
and Donal was talking about what
18:03
tracks into adulthood. I do feel
18:03
that positive relationship with
18:08
with food also tracks into
18:08
adulthood. So that's important.
18:11
But it's also about displacing
18:11
other foods. And that's why
18:15
sometimes it's important to make
18:15
those swaps. So, is your child
18:19
genuinely hungry, and do you
18:19
need to give them something when
18:22
they finish school go off to
18:22
football practice? The packet of
18:27
crisps is not going to give them
18:27
any calcium or any protein, or
18:31
any vitamins and minerals that
18:31
they do need for growth and
18:34
development. So just to keep
18:34
that in mind sometimes, and to
18:38
be very realistic, too. If your
18:38
child is looking for a packet of
18:41
crisps, you're not going to
18:41
offer them and it's not going to
18:45
work. So, maybe some crackers
18:45
and some cheese, maybe some
18:48
popcorn. I would invite
18:48
everyone to check our website
18:52
because we have very
18:52
practicaladvice and we all need
18:54
very practical advice to be able
18:54
to change something.
19:01
When you were talking
19:01
about the promotion to kids. If
19:05
you go into the supermarket, the
19:05
products are placed very
19:09
cleverly. So for the three year
19:09
olds, the products are a little
19:13
lower, they are designed in both
19:13
taste and packaging to appeal to
19:17
a three year olds are at a three
19:17
year olds eye level. Seven year
19:20
olds are a bit taller. So the
19:20
dairy products and the sweets
19:24
that are again, targeted at that
19:24
age group with taste,
19:29
development done so that it's a
19:29
bliss point for the seven year
19:33
olds. That's another problem
19:33
with the treat culture is that
19:39
if the child's palate gets
19:39
habituated to sweet at a young
19:45
age and we're designed to like
19:45
sweet because that's the
19:50
earliest energy we took on board
19:50
when we were single cellular
19:53
organisms. So sweet is good. But
19:53
if you get used to sweet you You
20:00
won't diversify, or you will
20:00
diversify with great difficulty
20:03
to the foods that are healthy
20:03
and full of vitamins, fiber and
20:09
minerals that we need for good
20:09
health.
20:12
That's very interesting to say that Donal, because, you know I have seven
20:13
[children] and I thought, you
20:18
know, I weined them all the same
20:18
and introduced them all to the
20:21
same foods. And yet there are some of them, who are their mother's children and have
20:23
incredibly sweet teeth. When the
20:28
apples don't fall that far from
20:28
the tree, you know, you do feel
20:31
a certain degree of responsibility. But the other side of it is, and I actually
20:33
don't know, sometimes what's the
20:36
best thing to do here so I'm
20:36
really curious to hear your
20:38
views on this. If your child
20:38
won't eat anything, and will
20:42
actually go hungry, rather than
20:42
have a food that isn't quite as
20:46
good for them. What do you do?
20:46
particularly if it's like the
20:50
school day, and you're trying
20:50
to make the lunch and most
20:52
schools have the Healthy Eating
20:52
policies, and they're sending
20:55
you home advice that involves
20:55
raw vegetables and fruit and
20:59
your child doesn't eat an apple
20:59
unless it's peeled, and they
21:01
might eat carrots with their dinner, but they're certainly not eating them cold. You're
21:03
just thinking, if I put a CoCo
21:06
pop bar in there, they might eat
21:06
that at least, and they'll have
21:08
something to sustain them.
21:08
What's the right thing to do? Do
21:11
we dig the heels in? Or do we go
21:11
something is better than
21:16
I think you need to
21:16
use your judgment. First of all,
21:16
nothing? are you really worried about
21:20
your child not getting any
21:22
nutrition. If you do have
21:22
worries in relation to a child
21:27
being underweight, you should
21:27
definitely go and talk to your
21:30
healthcare professional, because
21:30
there may be something there
21:32
that needs to be explored
21:32
further. You need to expose them
21:37
to food literally not just
21:37
taste. From a very early age,
21:42
they should be able to touch to
21:42
smell. Involve them. Now, it's
21:45
easier said than done. You're
21:45
busy at home trying to raise
21:49
two, three children, you're not
21:49
going to try and get them to
21:53
chop vegetables with you or to
21:53
see how you do it. It's
21:55
difficult, but it's the way to
21:55
go to expose them to foods. Give
21:59
them time, it may take between
21:59
10 to 15 times for a child to
22:03
get used to a flavor. And also
22:03
to acknowledge that there are
22:06
foods that they don't like. I
22:06
don't eat strawberries every
22:10
day. And that's okay! once they
22:10
are not restricting a huge group
22:17
of foods completely, that's
22:17
fine. Now, if your child doesn't
22:21
eat fruit and vegetables, no
22:21
[that's not fine?] but if the
22:23
child doesn't eat strawberries
22:23
and broccoli, and they're fine
22:26
with everything else, then I
22:26
wouldn't have major concerns and
22:29
they are entitled not to like
22:29
one or two types of food.
22:32
So do you then encourage your child to [unfinished sentence @22.32 mins?]
22:35
Now keep calm. No
22:35
pressure. Don't fight over food,
22:40
you don't want them to, in any
22:40
way to develop an unhealthy
22:44
relationship with food. But yes,
22:44
find things that they like, [for
22:50
example] if they definitely
22:50
don't want peppers or apples,
22:54
but they are happy to bring a
22:54
pear or or a banana. So talk to
22:58
them, see what they want what
22:58
they like. Start small, use and
23:06
use other strategies like mixing
23:06
those foods, if you're talking
23:09
about vegetables, with foods
23:09
that they actually like in a
23:12
sandwich, for example. So, it
23:12
needs a bit of thought.
23:15
To build on that there is
23:15
a question. A four year old who
23:23
eats only bread, drinks milk,
23:23
and eats watermelon or
23:27
strawberries. That's great.
23:27
Trust the child and try and add
23:35
things. They want sweets, and
23:35
you're at your wit's end. So you
23:39
have to limit the sweets. But if
23:39
a child is working off the food
23:45
pyramid, all the good shelves
23:45
and top shelf is little you keep
23:51
that little, then you can trust
23:51
the child's hunger, you can
23:54
trust the child's sense of
23:54
fullness and satiety and then
24:00
gradually try to broaden out.
24:02
I think that's a
24:02
very important conversation,
24:05
we're talking about treats and
24:05
moderating them. And sometimes
24:08
we touch on limiting but I think
24:08
we also need to focus on adding
24:12
because there are plenty of
24:12
foods that we can very slowly
24:15
add to our children's diets and
24:15
they will see the benefit of it
24:18
If you do have a
24:18
child like Trish there who has a
24:21
child that has what appears to
24:21
be quite a restricted diet, and
24:25
there's some healthy options in
24:25
there. Is that okay? Is it okay
24:29
to accept that your child?
24:31
It's okay. I would
24:31
definitely encourage parents
24:37
then to introduce and try to go
24:37
with foods that will have a
24:41
similar consistency and flavor
24:41
at first, but definitely you
24:46
need to encourage variety there.
24:47
You want to come in on that Coleman?
24:49
we sometimes are not
24:49
introduced to different foods,
24:53
so we facilitate the fussy eater
24:53
in some respects. I wouldn't
24:59
be encouraging anyone to have
24:59
six pots on the go with six
25:02
different dinners for six
25:02
different children's needs. But
25:06
we can build things in. We have
25:06
to be encouraging children to
25:09
take on the choice of taste. So
25:09
oftentimes children go, I don't
25:13
like that but you've never tried
25:13
it.. So reward the effort, not
25:17
the outcome, reward them for
25:17
trying the new thing. Whether
25:20
they like it or not. But their
25:20
pallet will increase. It's very
25:24
few children, like starving in
25:24
that sense. I've seen my own
25:29
kids, and they would find a heal
25:29
of bread, and they'd be chewing
25:32
away on that in between, if they
25:32
didn't like the dinner that was
25:37
on or whatever. The case is
25:37
about broadening the range. But
25:41
again, not forcing and not
25:41
making a big issue. Less is more
25:45
when it comes to mealtime
25:45
battles. For me, I just think if
25:48
we have this huge tension around
25:48
it, it becomes a point of
25:52
visibility. This is how I get
25:52
attention in the family just by
25:56
saying I don't eat that. And
25:56
then the big uproar that
25:58
follows, oftentimes won't end up
25:58
in them eating it but it will
26:03
end up in a big row. Smaller
26:03
children especially, are very
26:08
irrational beings, from the
26:08
point of view that they can't
26:11
find their shoes, but they can
26:11
find that sliver of onion in the
26:13
bolognese that you tried to
26:13
sieve out!. And so from the
26:16
point of view of it isn't about,
26:16
again, what they want, but more
26:20
about what they need.
26:22
You know, when you
26:22
have a birthday party, or you
26:26
have an occasion, and there's
26:26
some parent who you thinks they
26:29
have sussed out the whole diet
26:29
thing, you don't see their child
26:33
inhaling chocolate on a daily
26:33
basis. But then they go to a
26:37
party, and then you have a
26:37
totally different situation.
26:39
Does restriction perhaps make
26:39
foods more attractive? Do you
26:44
have this whole idea that you
26:44
will see the child who is never
26:46
allowed to ordinarily have
26:46
treats or certainly has them on
26:49
a very restricted basis, go
26:49
crazy when there's a free for
26:53
all, and there are sweets in
26:53
front of them? I suppose in the
26:57
nature of parties, you can go
26:57
and help yourself generally. Is
27:00
that just coincidence? Or is
27:00
there something about it?
27:04
I'll leave the bit
27:04
about what the child feels. But
27:09
I do think we need to
27:09
acknowledge that we celebrate
27:12
with food we celebrate with
27:12
treats. We start Christmas, the
27:15
week after Halloween, we bring
27:15
it until mid January and then we
27:20
have chocolate or easter eggs
27:20
for Easter on the shelf. So we
27:27
are exposed to these
27:27
availability of treat foods,
27:31
they are also very affordable.
27:31
So it's very difficult for
27:34
parents to navigate that and for
27:34
the child because as Donal was
27:38
saying, the child knows exactly
27:38
what they are. My children, we
27:42
brought them to Frankfurt many
27:42
years ago, and they wanted to
27:46
visit the Haribo factory, I
27:46
didn't even know that Haribo
27:49
were based in Germany, but they
27:49
did and they were small. So I do
27:55
think that's very tricky.
27:55
Birthday parties and
27:57
celebrations definitely don't
27:57
make things easier for parents.
28:01
I would never suggest that
28:01
restricting a certain type of
28:04
food is the way to go andit
28:04
would definitely impact on the
28:10
child's relationship with food.
28:11
Yes, prohibition
28:11
doesn't work. It either
28:14
demonizes something to the
28:14
extreme, or It specializes
28:18
something into something that
28:18
it's not. So I mean, again,
28:22
getting off the good/ bad food
28:22
narrative, but a narrative of
28:25
good and bad amounts of food
28:25
would be what I would suggest.
28:27
And again, that kid at the party
28:27
who gets their hands on
28:31
something that they've not had
28:31
for months, of course they're
28:34
going to kind of overindulge in
28:34
that moment. But again, I just
28:40
think moderation and middle of
28:40
the round all the time, rather
28:43
than any sort of extreme
28:43
conversations around food. I
28:46
think extreme conversations
28:46
creates extreme relationships
28:50
with food, weight and shape.
28:52
And I think for parents is important to acknowledge that we make a plan
28:54
and we try our best to [stick to
28:58
it] and I'm sure we all did it
28:58
here. Then sometimes life gets
29:02
in the way and we don't do as
29:02
well the following weekend. It's
29:05
actually fine to have that
29:05
conversation again and to
29:09
restart and reset the clock and
29:09
to try again.
29:13
When we're talking
29:13
about labels on foods - what's a
29:16
good food? What's a bad food?
29:16
What's an okay food? Do you
29:19
think that's that's kind of
29:19
healthy? Or that it's a good way
29:22
to go? Is this the sort of thing
29:22
that we should be encouraging
29:25
our children to be aware of? I
29:25
suppose, Donal, for you to see
29:30
certain foods labeled as good or
29:30
bad. Is that helpful in the
29:34
whole fight against obesity?
29:36
I don't think so. I think
29:36
it's important to know what
29:40
you're eating. I think it's
29:40
important in the environment, we
29:45
live in that, you know, if
29:45
you're having a cappuccino and a
29:51
muffin, you know that that's
29:51
probably 550 calories and maybe
29:55
close to half your total daily
29:55
energy requirements when you're
29:59
just sitting down for have an 11
29:59
o'clock snack. So I think things
30:04
like calorie posting on menu
30:04
boards are good for adults, and
30:07
that educates us. And then we
30:07
can transfer that to the kids
30:12
when we're choosing for the
30:12
younger kids. Food labeling is
30:20
very important, in general,
30:20
anything that had been
30:23
vehemently opposed by the food
30:23
industry is highly likely to
30:28
work. So food labeling has been
30:28
opposed, clear food labeling,
30:33
the traffic light system that
30:33
goes red for high in all the
30:38
things that [aren't good for
30:38
you], then amber, and green for
30:43
the foods that are clearly
30:43
mineral rich and fiber filled.
30:48
That's what consumers have asked
30:48
for. And it's vehemently opposed
30:53
by the food and drinks industry
30:53
as over simplistic. Good food,
30:58
bad food is not the concept we
30:58
want to bring into the home or
31:04
into the kitchen and focus on
31:04
weight shape and health is that
31:09
the term used? I like those
31:09
three together, we want health
31:16
to be in there all the time. One
31:16
of the star campaigns involved
31:24
portraying the parent as a hero.
31:24
And for me, that's what the
31:29
parent has to feel. The parent
31:29
has to feel good about
31:33
moderating the crap that the
31:33
kids are getting, and the kids
31:38
job is to get as much of that as
31:38
they can. So I was just
31:44
interested, at what age do you
31:44
involve a child in that
31:49
conversation in the family,
31:49
because there's no point in
31:51
talking to the three year old at
31:51
all. I know its a little
31:56
different for every child.
31:58
I mean, I think you
31:58
drip feed the knowledge,
32:01
according to their developments.
32:01
As they get a little bit older,
32:03
you're able to kind of decide a
32:03
little bit for them, like
32:06
regulation. The core aspect of
32:06
being a parent is to become
32:11
redundant. So what you want is
32:11
for them to not need you
32:14
anymore. So you should be
32:14
stepping back and allowing them
32:17
more control over their own
32:17
choices. But it's oftentimes
32:21
best done when they show you.
32:21
For example, it's not a human
32:25
right to have a treat. But it's
32:25
a responsibility to be able to
32:29
open the treat press and go at
32:29
it for yourself. So you don't
32:33
get the rights before you show
32:33
the responsibility, you show the
32:35
responsibility first, and then
32:35
you earn the right does that
32:38
make sense? And so from the
32:38
point of view of it's about
32:40
trial and error, and about
32:40
children and giving them
32:43
choices, and they will fail,
32:43
they will make bad choices,
32:45
they'll eat too much, they'll
32:45
indulge too much. But then they
32:50
don't get the choice the next
32:50
time until they start making
32:52
smarter choices. So I always use
32:52
the example of if you want your
32:55
child in at eight o'clock over
32:55
the summer, and they want to
32:58
come in at 10 Say to them come
32:58
in at eight o'clock, three
33:01
nights in a row, no arguments,
33:01
no rows, and on time, and then
33:04
we'll push to quarter past eight
33:04
and then if at quarter past
33:06
eight they come in three times
33:06
in a row on time with no
33:09
arguments it will go to half 8.
33:09
So you earn the right for more
33:12
choice, rather than opening the
33:12
floodgates early and then try
33:16
and close them. That's when the
33:16
problem is. So you're turning
33:18
around to a 15 year old and
33:18
saying, I know I've never
33:21
limited treats, but we're going
33:21
to start now. That can be a real
33:25
challenge. So it is going to
33:25
start as you mean to go on, but
33:29
I encourage them to self
33:29
regulate, but only at a level
33:32
that they can. I think three
33:32
year olds can't do it. Eight
33:35
year olds can't do it. You're
33:35
talking about starting at around
33:39
13.
33:39
Can you predict when a child can like[start self regulating? (unfinished
33:41
sentence)] I suppose that's a hard one. it really depends on
33:42
how interested they are and the
33:45
whole nutrition side of things
33:45
and the benefits for them.
33:48
I don't think they get
33:48
that till teenage years and
33:51
again, you've tight grip on the
33:51
treat press early and then
33:56
loosening it very slowly. But I
33:56
think really at the point of
34:00
knowing health, weight, that
34:00
those concepts are kind of
34:04
complex.
34:04
I would think about
34:04
the13 / 14 age is and that's
34:09
also mid puberty. And puberty is
34:09
hormones gone mad. Therefore
34:16
your taste and kind of cravings
34:16
vary with with that. And the
34:22
other thing, parents become
34:22
particularly - and I am going to
34:27
say "the enemy" when hormones
34:27
kick in, and that's a natural
34:31
thing. You know, hormones kick
34:31
in, you've reached that stage in
34:34
your life where, as we talked
34:34
about kind of evolutionary
34:38
terms, your job is to push them
34:38
out of the nest and go off and
34:42
make your own life. So you're
34:42
meant to do that to the parents.
34:44
Push them away at the very time
34:44
that the parents are saying
34:47
now's the time to have
34:47
conversation about moderating
34:50
treats. So you know, the the the
34:50
'hero bit', I think is great
34:57
because I think you have to
34:57
navigate within your own family,
35:02
you have to look at your kids
35:02
and go, well where are we
35:06
getting it right? Where could we
35:06
do things differently? And I do
35:13
think access is one thing. It
35:13
applies to anything addictive,
35:18
cigarettes, alcohol, and high
35:18
salt, high fat, high sugar food,
35:23
it's the same part of the brain
35:23
that cigarettes hit and that
35:27
alcohol hits. So if it's in,
35:27
will be consumed. You have to
35:35
have it in. But it has to be in
35:35
quantities that are manageable.
35:46
And when they're gone, they're
35:46
gone.
35:49
That's exactly the sentence that I was thinking of. That's what my mother used to
35:51
say, when we were growing up, I
35:53
can't wait until they're gone -
35:53
If there was a boxing USA
35:55
biscuits, because they weren't
35:55
replenished. You know, once they
35:58
were done, they were done. On
35:58
Thursday, if there was treats
36:01
bought on the Thursday night
36:01
shop and if they were gone by
36:05
Friday, they were never refilled
36:05
till following Thursday. So that
36:10
encourages you to self regulate
36:10
because if you want something on
36:13
Monday, you make it last.
36:16
Do you even notice if
36:16
you go to the supermarket or to
36:18
your local shop, or wherever and
36:18
you're buying treats, it's often
36:22
cheaper to buy the bigger treats
36:22
than to buy the smaller snack
36:25
sized treats. So if you're on a
36:25
budget, and you're trying to buy
36:28
treats to go around to a few
36:28
different people, you're nearly
36:30
encouraged to buy the larger
36:30
treats, still only counting as
36:33
one treat but it's obviously a
36:33
much larger portion than what
36:36
the snack sized treat would be.
36:36
It's so easy to fall into that
36:40
habit really isn't it, it's so
36:40
easy. But just to go back to the
36:43
labels again, and the good food
36:43
and bad food. And again, I
36:46
suppose Coleman, coming back to
36:46
you again on this because it is
36:48
so important when we're trying
36:48
to make sure children and
36:51
teenagers have a healthy
36:51
relationship with food. If you
36:54
label food as a good food or bad
36:54
food, and you're trying to
36:57
educate your child, and again, I
36:57
do understand the whole need to
37:01
teach them to self regulate. But
37:01
is there not a danger then that
37:05
you have kids feeling guilty
37:05
about food or you're literally
37:08
setting them up for feeling
37:08
they've done something wrong in
37:12
having a treat instead of it being a treat?
37:14
you'll always have the
37:14
extreme reactions to these
37:16
things where we just said that
37:16
over the pandemic, we saw a huge
37:20
increase in treats. We've also
37:20
seen a huge increase in eating
37:23
disorders over the pandemic. So
37:23
we've seen huge presentation of
37:26
children who've over controlled
37:26
their intake and you know,
37:30
watching these YouTube workout
37:30
videos five and six times a day
37:33
andwho take it excessively. So
37:33
it all depends on the person.
37:38
Watch the 'counting steps' it
37:38
might be a very useful thing for
37:41
someone trying to be healthier.
37:41
But, if you put that in the
37:43
hands of a very self conscious
37:43
14 year old girl who's really
37:47
struggling with self esteem and it could become the most dangerous thing you'd ever put
37:48
on their arms. So all these
37:52
things have the potential for
37:52
[unfinished sentence] but when
37:55
we go back to the relationship
37:55
with food weight and shape and
37:57
the good and bad foods the
37:57
extremes. And again, I don't
38:00
know whether you can even trust
38:00
labels, you can have this kind
38:03
of water meadow drink and it
38:03
looks like it's amazing but,
38:07
there's 17 bowls of sugar in it.
38:07
So there's something a bit
38:11
distressing about that. There
38:11
was a question just in there I
38:13
saw about using treat as a
38:13
reward. So I think it may have
38:17
been about a school teacher who
38:17
rewarded children with sweets on
38:20
a Friday if they did well on a
38:20
test. I'm not so much against
38:24
reward, I am against using it as
38:24
a soother for distress. So when
38:30
we have difficulty with food
38:30
relationships, in terms of like
38:33
binge eating disorder, people
38:33
will oftentimes turn to food
38:38
because they feel bad or they
38:38
feel that the food will make
38:42
them feel better or else not
38:42
eating will make them feel
38:46
better. So the idea that if I
38:46
control my weight, I feel that
38:49
I'm in charge of something.
38:49
That's where the relationship
38:52
becomes dangerous, in the fact
38:52
where it becomes a coping
38:57
strategy to either overeat or
38:57
under eat.The issue is that the
39:01
food is not the problem. But
39:01
it's becoming a coping strategy
39:04
for the problem. And so, when
39:04
we're looking at how these
39:07
relationships form, [we like
39:07
rewarding a child or get like,
39:13
if you win something getting a
39:13
bag in Haribos and stuff that's
39:16
part of life.] I don't think
39:16
that's a desperately bad
39:19
message. But it's almost like
39:19
saying, you know, if you're sad,
39:23
there's a liquor cabinet, you
39:23
know, have at it and it'll make
39:25
you feel better.
39:26
Yes, it's when you
39:26
normalize rewarding behavior
39:32
And the food industry
39:32
have very much used the 'treat
39:32
with food. yourself you deserve it' over
39:40
the last two or three years to
39:46
normalize the concept and to
39:46
link treat inextricably, to
39:53
sweets, chocolates, biscuits,
39:53
and it's very clever. So I think
40:02
they have ownership of the term
40:02
treat. A treat now means only
40:07
one thing. We mentioned reward,
40:07
you can't replace a treat, which
40:15
is a this minute thing with a
40:15
trip to the cinema or a walk, or
40:21
a game of football at the
40:21
weekend. Because they're not the
40:25
same thing.
40:25
It's immediate rewarding.
40:27
Yes, so it's moderating
40:27
and it's about people being
40:35
aware of that and saying, right,
40:35
look, it's an uphill battle, but
40:41
we can try to do better.
40:43
Isn't it interesting
40:43
how the narrative has changed. I
40:45
think when I was growing up, it
40:45
was junk food. Now it's treats.
40:48
It's even turned into something
40:48
positive. I don't remember being
40:54
called treats when we were
40:54
growing up, it was junk food.
40:57
I know, we've looked
40:57
at the whole idea of looking at
41:00
it beyond just obesity and
41:00
beyond shape, and things like
41:05
that. But if there is a parent
41:05
out there who is aware that one
41:09
of their children is overweight,
41:09
and they want to do something
41:12
about it. They know that treats
41:12
or junk food has been a
41:16
significant contributing factor
41:16
to it. They know that this is
41:19
something that they need to
41:19
change. How do they address
41:23
that? We've talked about
41:23
discussing it as a health
41:27
benefit and stuff. But if you're
41:27
very conscious that maybe a more
41:30
drastic change needs to happen
41:30
to try and get a child's weight
41:34
under control. How do you
41:34
address that without making a
41:38
child feel really bad or feel
41:38
they're being punished? Because
41:41
the language has changed, and it
41:41
has moved from junk food to
41:43
treats, like you pointed out
41:43
there. How do we do that?
41:47
I think you incentivize
41:47
health, and you sell it and you
41:50
pitch it as something that is
41:50
positive, as opposed to just
41:54
kind of punitive sanction based
41:54
you're not good enough, because
41:58
you don't control your weight
41:58
and or you're not disciplined
42:01
enough or this is not
42:01
acceptable.It's almost a concern
42:05
that you could get a lot more
42:05
out of your life, if you had
42:09
more energy, if you were able to
42:09
kind of get some fresh air to be
42:13
more active, these are things
42:13
that will offer you something as
42:17
opposed to necessarily it being
42:17
critical.
42:20
We also know that because
42:20
there's such a strong genetic
42:24
component to weight gain, that
42:24
if there is a child with
42:29
overweight, that it's likely at
42:29
least one of the parents will
42:34
have struggled and have
42:34
overweight or obesity. So that
42:39
parents saying, I've decided I
42:39
need really need to do something
42:43
and get healthier, will you help
42:43
me? And what can we do, and
42:52
involving the child and helping
42:52
the parent, and as a whole
42:58
family thing is the only way.
42:58
Focus on the child, I would say,
43:06
is a highly likely to end not
43:06
well, no and not positively.
43:10
[change to not end well or on a
43:10
positve note?]
43:12
Also, the success of
43:12
something like an exercise
43:15
regime, if it's done in company
43:15
is way more likely than if
43:18
you're trying to do it solo. If
43:18
you have someone else who's
43:22
journeying with you and will go
43:22
for a walk every day. And this
43:26
is the thing, cultures are
43:26
always difficult to introduce in
43:29
the house. So for the first six
43:29
weeks it will be a Battlezone.
43:33
And people will go [hesitiant
43:33
noises]. But after six weeks, it
43:37
just becomes what you do [the
43:37
norm?] once you can get past the
43:40
initial resistance. For example,
43:40
say you go for a walk on a
43:44
Sunday, your teenagers will moan
43:44
about that for the first six or
43:48
seven times you do it. But then
43:48
it'll just be what you do on a
43:51
Sunday. Culture has to be
43:51
created. It's not something that
43:55
you can just invent overnight.
43:55
You have to kind of sit with the
43:59
disgruntlement in the initial
43:59
phases for that to become a habit.
44:03
That's something I didn't
44:03
realize, for a long time working
44:07
in the field weight management.
44:07
It's that the six week /40 days
44:16
period is almost a magic number
44:16
to change or begin to change a
44:23
habit or begin to change a
44:23
culture. So, if you know that
44:28
then you're prepared for the
44:28
four to six weeks of uphill
44:33
failure and then things should
44:33
begin to get a little bit, I
44:38
wouldn't say easy, but easier
44:38
after that because a lot of
44:44
people would give up after a
44:44
fortnight. [They would think?]
44:46
Oh my God, look, it's a
44:46
disaster. Whereas, if you know
44:49
you have another four weeks to
44:49
push through and as parents, you
44:53
need to keep taking the lead.
44:53
You just may get there.
44:59
That is important,
44:59
isn't it? Any change you're
45:01
looking to make, it's to be made
45:01
as a family. It's not you or she
45:06
or he, it's us. I think that's
45:06
empowering for both the parent
45:10
and the child.
45:11
I'm conscious that
45:11
we're going to come to some of
45:14
the viewers questions now in a
45:14
second Joanna, but I just wanted
45:16
to address something. Again, there were conversations happening just before we went
45:18
live. Parents not really knowing
45:23
what treats are and the amount
45:23
of foods. [that we were sitting
45:25
here feeling a little bit small,
45:25
you know, because we gave them a
45:28
yogurt, it's yogurt to name but
45:28
perhaps not totally, not totally
45:33
healthy for them.]
45:34
It's still a yogurt.
45:34
Donal touched there on the
45:38
labels and it's important. Some
45:38
yogurts will will hit the red
45:43
sticker for some nutrients. When
45:43
we talk about treat foods
45:47
strictly, you're talking about
45:47
crisp, chocolates, sweets, cakes
45:53
and ice cream. And then of
45:53
course, just with any food,
45:58
there are two extremes for each
45:58
food group and you can get
46:05
better quality or not. [For
46:05
example, we talk about whole
46:08
grain cereals, we talk about
46:08
vegetable spreads instead of
46:15
butter.] But I think the focus
46:15
on treats should be if you look
46:19
at the food pyramid at the top
46:19
shelf in red. It's quite subtle,
46:24
but it's actually disconnected
46:24
from the rest of the pyramid.
46:27
And that's to translate the
46:27
message that we don't need them
46:30
for health. We don't get
46:30
essential nutrients from them.
46:35
Okay, well, before we
46:35
go to the viewers questions, can
46:38
I ask you [to give?] your top
46:38
tips for broaching this
46:41
conversation with your children?
46:41
This whole idea of broaching the
46:44
need to moderate treats?
46:46
I think for me, first
46:46
of all to know that you're not
46:49
alone. That we all have the same
46:49
challenges and struggles. I
46:53
think that's important. Aim for
46:53
something achievable and
46:57
acknowledge that it's going to
46:57
be difficult.
47:00
Okay. Coleman.
47:01
Yes, I think keep it
47:01
about health, not about weight.
47:04
Be patient, because it's not
47:04
going to be easy to do. And just
47:08
be aware of maybe how we're
47:08
being manipulated, I guess,
47:12
through the marketing things and
47:12
be a critical consumer. That's
47:18
what I'm going to take from
47:18
tonight anyway, from talking to
47:21
the guys.
47:22
Yes. I think I wouldn't
47:22
really add much [more?] to that.
47:26
I think be aware. I think that
47:26
to do it within your family. I
47:33
think the hero tagline is really
47:33
good. Parents need to become
47:36
heroes in the face of a food
47:36
industry that are only thinking
47:41
about this year's profit, and
47:41
nothing beyond that. The parents
47:46
are thinking about the next 70
47:46
years for their kids, and trying
47:50
to overcome that power of the
47:50
food industry. So, if they know
47:58
they're up against it, and then
47:58
if they have a conversation as
48:02
'us' , [and discuss?] what way
48:02
can we change things to make our
48:09
lives a little healthier. Then
48:09
there is that six week
48:15
[timeline?] don't give up until
48:15
you've given it a six week go.
48:19
If at the end of six weeks, that
48:19
particular change hasn't worked.
48:23
Look at one other. One thing at
48:23
a time, one small change, don't
48:31
try three things.
48:34
Just to say, Donal
48:34
touched there on the hero
48:36
tagline and I find that tagline
48:36
quite empowering, too. Someone
48:40
was asking about grandparents
48:40
and how to talk [to them about
48:44
changes?]. I think it's actually
48:44
very empowering to say to
48:46
someone, look, we looked at what
48:46
we were doing at home, we want
48:50
to make some changes. And I
48:50
would really appreciate if you
48:53
could support us here. So, if
48:53
the kids are going to stay over,
48:56
we do try to think about
48:56
something beforehand. But we are
48:59
trying to manage treats, and we
48:59
made a plan and we would like to
49:03
stick to that as much as
49:03
possible. I think it's actually
49:05
okay to talk to other people
49:05
about it. And you'll actually
49:09
find out that other people have
49:09
similar struggles to yours and
49:14
similar challenges.
49:16
Yeah, I don't think your child will ever thank you for being strict. But they
49:18
certainly won't thank you for
49:22
not managing it for them either.
49:22
It goes back to Donal's point,
49:26
if at 18, you have a good
49:26
relationship, it's a lifelong
49:29
habit. Whereas if you don't,
49:29
that's a lifelong habit too. So
49:33
just because they're not
49:33
grateful, doesn't mean it's not
49:36
important.
49:37
I think we'll go to
49:37
some of the questions now will
49:40
we because there's loads that
49:40
have come in, absolutely loads.
49:42
I can see one there from Sabrina
49:42
asking, if a child doesn't eat a
49:45
meal you make do you give them
49:45
something else that they will
49:48
eat? I suppose that's what we
49:48
were talking about a little bit
49:50
earlier on those battles, do you
49:50
make them finish their corn? Do
49:53
you offer them something else or
49:53
do you let them go hungry? Do
49:55
you remmeber the days where your
49:55
mother reheated your dinner for
49:59
your breakfast the next morning
49:59
if you didn't eat it! Is that
50:01
what we should be doing?
50:03
Yes, don't make a
50:03
battlefield out of the dining
50:06
table. For sure, try your best
50:06
and see if there is, depending
50:11
on what you're eating, a bit of
50:11
the meal that the child can eat?
50:15
Can you negotiate a bit, and
50:15
try to expose them to those
50:19
foods? Or is there a genuine
50:19
dislike for something? But I
50:23
would definitely not put any
50:23
pressure or don't make it
50:29
confrontational it wont lead to
50:29
anything.
50:32
Agreed lads? Yes.
50:33
Be very patient.
50:36
Emma is asking what
50:36
healthy snacks can we give our
50:39
children?
50:39
I would ask Emma to
50:39
check our website or the HSE.
50:44
The guidelines have a huge suite
50:44
of resources with ideas. Again,
50:49
does your child need something
50:49
very light such as a piece of
50:51
fruit yogurt? Two or three
50:51
crackers? Or do you need
50:55
something a bit more
50:55
substantial? Like half of a
50:58
bagel with a bit of peanut
50:58
butter? Does the child need a
51:01
piece of toast and a bit of
51:01
cheese and tomato before going
51:05
to football practice? There's
51:05
plenty of ideas. So I would
51:09
definitely go to the Safefood or
51:09
the HSE website for those.
51:13
Okay, we had another viewer I can't see the question there now but there was somebody
51:15
there, just asked there a few
51:17
minutes ago. In the case of
51:17
separated parents where mom is
51:20
very conscious to make sure that
51:20
the child only has a certain
51:23
number of treats. But when the
51:23
child goes to dad, all those
51:26
rules are out the window, how do
51:26
you balance that? Because that's
51:30
a different [unfinished sentence].
51:31
Very carefully would be
51:31
my answer to that. I think that
51:33
the triangulation of a
51:33
separation, the child becomes a
51:37
token of the currency of good
51:37
cop, bad cop and all that sort
51:40
of stuff. And this would be a
51:40
symptom of their relationship,
51:44
as opposed to necessarily
51:44
anything that could be fixed in
51:47
isolation. So, I don't think
51:47
it's about the treats. But it is
51:50
about being the favorite. And
51:50
it's a bit like the
51:53
grandparents, we don't like
51:53
saying no to them because
51:55
they'll be in bad form. You can
51:55
try and explain what you'd like,
51:59
and try to explain what you're
51:59
trying to do. But I think that
52:03
may go deeper than just a
52:03
conversation perhaps.
52:08
I suppose it's the
52:08
same that we saw there again,
52:10
think about the teacher, maybe
52:10
giving treats at the end [of the
52:13
week?] I suppose it is the same sort of thing, isn't it? Perhaps with grandparents, it's a treat.
52:14
So I know, my own my own pair
52:19
stuff as well. You're often
52:19
cursing what they give. But is
52:22
that not a privilege of being a
52:22
grandparent, is there not a
52:25
difficulty there? I know you
52:25
want to keep people on board.
52:28
But you are also talking to
52:28
somebody who has raised a family
52:31
and might feel a bit put out to
52:31
suggest [unfinished sentence]
52:35
It's really hard.
52:36
Grandparents can be
52:36
hypocritical as well. I find
52:38
that my parents give my children
52:38
far more treats than they ever
52:41
gave me! I don't mind it in the
52:41
points that I see them coming
52:47
home in the car and they have smuggled jaffa cakes or something up their sleeves, that
52:49
nana has given them on the way
52:51
out. Once it's in moderation, I
52:51
don't think it's necessarily a
52:54
source of great argument. And
52:54
again, it's not about ruling out
52:57
every treat and becoming really
52:57
militant about it. Those extreme
53:01
views will create extreme
53:01
relationships. But just within
53:04
reason, maybe asking Nana to
53:04
tone down a little bit rather
53:08
than saying no more treats in Nana's.
53:10
It is all about the language isnt it? I see one there from Bernadette that I
53:12
would say is of particular interest to you, Donal. Should
53:14
government's ban all high sugar,
53:17
fat food and drink advertising
53:17
aimed towards children,
53:20
including those shown on
53:20
technology before watershed.
53:23
This would possibly involve
53:23
taking toys out of cereals and
53:26
meals etc.
53:28
So, I could read that
53:28
sentence for the rest of the
53:31
night and just change
53:31
governments and should around.
53:34
Yes, so governments should act
53:34
and legislate. Not against all
53:45
high fat high sugar food, but
53:45
it's the promotion to children.
53:48
It's the product placement in
53:48
shops. It's the Buy One Get One
53:54
Free bog off promotions, which
53:54
are always of the treat high
53:59
fat, high salt, high sugar
53:59
foods, and never on the fruit or
54:07
healthy sections. So the
54:07
government has a role to play.
54:10
There is a plan for an obesity
54:10
public health act, similar to
54:15
the public health alcohol bill,
54:15
which will look at all these
54:20
things as a suite of measures to
54:20
really effectively help parents
54:26
with making the healthier
54:26
choice, the easier choice and
54:32
that's what society needs to do.
54:32
And that is also going to
54:36
address active transport to and
54:36
from school and issues like that
54:42
because that physical activity
54:42
side of the equation is really
54:46
important. It's about energy
54:46
balance. And you don't address
54:51
energy balance just by looking
54:51
at one side of the equation.
54:56
There are some kids who do so
54:56
much sport that the rules about
55:02
what they should eat and drink,
55:02
there aren't rules, they need to
55:07
trust their hunger, trust their
55:07
satiety, and you hope that their
55:12
focus is a healthy diet. There
55:12
was one question in there from a
55:16
parent, my child loves veg, but
55:16
hates fruit. That's great. You
55:21
know, the seven or five a day
55:21
that we're meant to have from
55:24
the shelf on the food pyramid,
55:24
the more veg and salad there is,
55:31
the better. And if it's all veg
55:31
and salad, that's fine.
55:34
Okay. There was
55:34
actually there was a question
55:36
there as well from a parent
55:36
about a fussy eater. If you have
55:40
a really, really fussy eater,
55:40
and you have somebody who just
55:43
refuses to try a different food,
55:43
what do you do? And I mean,I
55:48
think I own one of them who just
55:48
digs his heels in. I know how
55:53
hard that is, I hear that
55:53
parent. But what do you do?
55:55
Because I want to know!.
55:57
You are a patient,
55:57
don't fight over food, and you
56:00
keep trying. It's hard. It's
56:00
very hard. Now, if you do have
56:05
concerns about your child not
56:05
getting enough nutrients?
56:09
Absolutely, I would definitely
56:09
recommend going to your GP who
56:12
will be able to then direct you
56:12
to registered dietitian.
56:16
Absolutely. But if your child is
56:16
having enough from all the food
56:20
groups, I do think it's about
56:20
exposure and trying again and
56:24
being patient.
56:27
You can contradict me if
56:27
this is wrong, but I've spoken
56:30
to a lot of the psychiatrists
56:30
that I've worked with who work
56:34
with eating disorders, and
56:34
they've had a lot of
56:37
discussions. A focus on healthy
56:37
eating within a family will not
56:44
trigger eating disorders, the
56:44
genesis of eating disorders does
56:49
not come from the focus on
56:49
healthy eating. Now, if that
56:54
focus is obsessive, and if it's
56:54
on bad foods, good foods and
56:59
weight, then that's a different
56:59
thing. But a conversation in a
57:04
family about how can we become a
57:04
bit healthier and discussing
57:08
that we'd like to be healthier,
57:08
and we'd like to eat healthier
57:10
[and questioning] what can we do
57:10
and involving the kids in that
57:15
will not generate an eating
57:15
disorder.
57:18
Yes 100%. Once it's
57:18
not demonized and extreme. It's
57:21
absolutely fine. Actually
57:21
children do pick up on those
57:24
habits.
57:25
The trick is to
57:25
normalize those behaviors. So
57:27
you actually don't have a lot to
57:27
talk about them because they
57:30
become the norm.
57:31
I think we could talk
57:31
about this all night. I'm afraid
57:34
it's time to wrap up. So I think
57:34
we're going to revisit the poll
57:37
again. And to have a look at the
57:37
poll.
57:40
As well while that's
57:40
coming up. I just think there is
57:42
another side. The narrative at
57:42
the moment is a lot about access
57:45
of everything. If you look at
57:45
Emlyn Unlimited, [?] binge
57:48
watch, all you can eat data, all
57:48
these sorts of things. We're not
57:52
immune to that stuff. But it
57:52
normalizes excess. It just means
57:56
we have to be more vigilant and
57:56
on the ball because this stuff
58:01
is everywhere. They're really
58:01
unhelpful turns.
58:05
That binge watch and
58:05
boxsets, everything is in
58:09
excess.
58:13
[Poll Results] So, 40%
58:13
now are very confident and 47%
58:18
quite confident Oh yeah, you actually have 87%
58:19
that are quite or very
58:22
confident, it's very good.
58:23
That is very positive, isn't it? That is absolutely great. So, as I said
58:25
that we could have spent hours
58:28
here and discussing and I have
58:28
certainly learned some useful
58:31
tips. I won't be reheating the
58:31
dinner for breakfast after that.
58:37
I think poll two may be coming
58:37
up or sorry, that was poll
58:40
two.Sorry. We hope that you're
58:40
feeling more confident and
58:42
empowered to start that
58:42
conversation of moderation with
58:45
your own children at home. And
58:45
we just wanted to ask you that
58:49
same question, which is what the
58:49
poll was, and now that you've
58:51
heard from our experts, so if
58:51
you have anything new to add to
58:54
the poll, please do. And it is
58:54
great, absolutely great to see
59:00
that people are feeling so much
59:00
more confident about it now.
59:04
While you're submitting your
59:04
answers, I wanna say a huge
59:06
thank you to our panelists who
59:06
were absolutely brilliant
59:09
tonight. And to everybody at
59:09
home for tuning in. I really
59:12
appreciate it and all the questions that you sent in thanks also to everyone involved
59:14
in the organization and
59:17
production of the webinar. And
59:17
if you want to watch it back,
59:20
it's being recorded and will be
59:20
available on the events section
59:22
of Safefood's website in the
59:22
coming days. It'll also be
59:25
emailed to everybody who
59:25
registered for the event.
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