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This is not a video . When I was coming

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out , we had to go outside the city . We

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had to go travel , go out of town , beat down doors

0:14

. This was the first time Bill has ever gone on this set

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.

0:19

He said here comes the token . This is not a

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video . And out of my mouth I

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said F you , my

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friends , are asking for positive women and you

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know , with family and business , it's

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like you know that's what we bring to the show and yet

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still , it's like , oh , she's boring .

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It's my real story . This is really who I am

0:37

.

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I build myself off a dollar and a dream

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, without a man's help , without a basketball

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player , particularly the patriarchal

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box says white cisgender

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males have defined for us should

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be how we define ourselves

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. I didn't

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say it , that's what we're saying . It's

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free to have you and the bulletin . Welcome

1:06

, welcome , welcome . You are now tuned into

1:08

another amazing edition of Sonya

1:10

on Air . I'm your host , sonya

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Hudson-Pain , and how do I start off each

1:15

and every single episode ? You

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for you coming up in just a few short

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1:26

, a Bravo TV's , married to

1:28

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, you've been tuned in from season one

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1:44

, did she decide to enter into

1:46

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1:49

doctor , especially when we don't see

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too many doctors , black

1:53

doctors , when black women walk

1:55

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1:57

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Dr Simone , a Bravo TV's

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, dr Simone . Paging Dr

2:54

Simone . How

2:57

are you today ? How are you ? You

2:59

have such a busy day and you're still here

3:01

.

3:02

Yeah , it is amazing

3:04

. I'm like that would be my luck . I would have

3:06

a patient in labor on a Friday

3:08

. I like to have my Fridays to myself .

3:11

Me too . I try to call it low stakes Friday

3:13

, but sometimes it doesn't happen that way . It doesn't

3:15

work out , does it Not at all

3:17

? But you know , I'm so excited

3:19

to have you in the sign

3:21

you on your studio . But the first thing

3:23

that I really want to talk about is you

3:25

being a black woman in the medical field

3:28

, something that we rarely see , and

3:31

so many studies are coming out about the disparaging

3:33

treatment that women of color are receiving

3:36

when they go see the doctor . I

3:39

want to ask you for some advice for women

3:41

of color . What should they be

3:43

looking for when they go see an OBGYN

3:46

doctor ? What are some red flags that indicate

3:48

this may not be the right doctor for

3:50

me ?

3:52

I think the main thing when you go

3:54

see an OBGYN or any

3:56

doctor in any specialty for

3:58

that matter is making sure

4:00

that you have a

4:02

doctor that seems like they're not in

4:04

a rush , that you have a doctor who's answering

4:07

your questions . Be prepared

4:09

when you go to the visit

4:11

. If you're having a concern or a problem

4:14

, google it so that you can come in

4:16

with a list of questions . Have those

4:18

questions written down . We take our cell

4:20

phones everywhere . There are

4:22

notes in the cell phones

4:25

. But just be prepared , be

4:27

engaging . Don't be texting

4:29

on social media doing your appointments

4:31

, and if you have a doctor that

4:33

is not listening to you , that

4:36

doesn't want to take the time , it's time

4:38

to look for a new provider .

4:41

Those are good talking points and

4:44

advice for my listeners , because sometimes

4:46

we look at you doctors , as the gurus

4:48

, as the gods , and you're going to lead us in the right direction

4:50

and , like I mentioned , studies are coming

4:53

out that women of color just aren't receiving

4:55

the treatment that they deserve . So

4:58

I'm a seasoned woman

5:00

of a particular age I am 51

5:02

years old and I'm older than you

5:04

and

5:06

you look good , girl , you look good , Thank

5:09

you . So what

5:11

should women who are in their

5:13

fifties ? What type of life changes

5:16

should we be on the lookout for ?

5:19

My favorite subject women over

5:22

50 . So first of all

5:24

, we want to make sure that we are getting

5:26

in to see a primary care provider

5:29

as well as our OBGYN

5:31

. If you have a history of normal

5:33

pap smears , you can do pap smears

5:35

every three to five years . If

5:37

you're changing sexual partners , going

5:40

through a divorce , going through a breakup

5:42

, getting a new sexual partner , you

5:44

need to protect yourself against HIV

5:47

, syphilis , hepatitis B , hepatitis

5:49

C , goddaria , chlamydia , human

5:51

papillomavirus . Those are just

5:53

some of the things you need to be protecting

5:56

yourself . But you need to

5:58

be actively with him

6:00

, using condoms for 60

6:02

to 12 months before you allow

6:04

that condom to come off . But

6:06

making sure that your cholesterol

6:08

is good , your body mass index

6:11

and your weight is good , your

6:16

EKG is normal , your blood pressure

6:18

is normal , your blood sugar and

6:20

hemoglobin A1C are normal

6:22

. You want to make sure

6:24

that , as you are headed into

6:26

menopause or through menopause

6:29

which means no more periods that you're

6:31

having a talk with your gynecologist

6:33

about , you know , should

6:35

you get a bone scan

6:38

, taking calcium every day to make

6:40

sure that you don't develop bone loss ? Those

6:43

are some of those type of conversations

6:45

. Over 40 , you need your mammogram every

6:47

year . Breast cancer is one in eight

6:49

in this country , whether it

6:52

runs in your family or not

6:54

, and you just want to make

6:56

sure that mentally , you're

6:58

in the best place you could be , whether

7:01

or not you need to increase your exercise

7:04

, need to be on a multivitamin

7:06

, you need to be eating healthier as we're

7:08

aging . Sometimes

7:11

you just might need to sit down with a therapist

7:13

because work is too stressful and you need

7:15

to figure out how to de-stress

7:17

from work .

7:18

Yeah , you know , you ran a long

7:21

list of things that we should be looking

7:23

out for , and I am already extremely tired

7:25

because it's hot no

7:28

, no , but this is information that we need to know

7:30

. But there is one topic that my friends

7:32

and I are always discussing , trying to find

7:34

tips and remedies and solutions

7:36

for , and it's these doggone

7:38

hot flashes . Yeah about

7:40

those .

7:41

I love talking about hot flashes , so

7:43

you're in the right place . But first

7:45

of all , you want to decrease your caffeine

7:48

intake . You want to decrease

7:50

your alcoholic beverages

7:52

, because those are helping to make hot

7:54

flashes more aggressive . You

7:57

want to make sure again that you're exercising

8:00

and you're eating healthy . You want to decrease

8:02

those complex carbohydrates

8:05

like bread , sweets , pasta

8:08

, rice . Those are all things that

8:10

make hot flashes worse

8:12

. You can consider getting

8:14

supplements like black cohosh

8:17

to see if they will help your hot

8:19

flashes . Soy supplements if

8:21

you don't have soy in your diet

8:24

will help your hot flashes . Drinking

8:27

more cold water will

8:30

help your hot flashes . Keeping a little

8:32

mini fan around will

8:35

help you in your personal summer . And

8:37

then , if none of those things are working

8:39

, sit down , have a conversation

8:41

with your gynecologist about whether

8:43

or not you need more aggressive

8:46

therapy with actual medication to help

8:48

the hot flashes .

8:50

Those are all great tips , because I thought that I had

8:52

it figured out with the hot flashes , but

8:54

those things that you mentioned that I should not

8:56

be doing , I'm doing everything

8:58

that you said not to do .

9:01

Yes , you have to cut back on that , you do . You

9:03

know that if you're going to be at a holiday party

9:06

and you're going to have a cocktail , you

9:08

also need to have some ice water nearby

9:10

. Those are just some of the things

9:12

you need to do . Great

9:14

tip and dress cooler , sexier

9:16

.

9:17

Yeah , yeah , you say , have a little pank top .

9:21

Lending is excellent , but

9:23

they have all kind of cooling sheets

9:25

and cooling blankets now for your bed

9:28

. And I say go to bed in

9:30

your birthday suit , so that you don't have

9:32

to wake up with a nice little sweater , right

9:34

? Yes , yes .

9:37

So these are all great tips , tools

9:40

, resources , because I'm finding that this conversation

9:42

for women over 50 , we're not really

9:45

having them in a transparent and

9:47

candid way . So I really rely

9:49

upon your expertise , because I'm a super , super

9:51

fan of you , dr Simone

9:53

, thank you , thank you so much . So thank you

9:55

for the tips and the solutions . So

9:58

we're going to just jump right into it , because I know that

10:00

so many of my listeners

10:02

are tuned in to marry , to medicine

10:05

every single week .

10:08

Some days at 9 pm Eastern Standard

10:11

.

10:11

Time and I am tuned in

10:13

, let's say , about 8.40 , just sitting

10:15

there waiting for 20 minutes . Let's

10:17

go , every single thing

10:19

, thank you . So , oh , no problem

10:22

. Season 10 just started

10:24

and we're seeing you and your husband

10:27

, cecil , in kind of a conundrum

10:29

with your young adult children

10:31

. You feel as if they should

10:33

move out . He feels as if

10:35

they should stay home . Now I have

10:38

an adult daughter as well and we're going through the

10:40

same thing . How are you

10:42

and Cecil navigating parenting

10:44

with two different types of opinions

10:46

and approaches ?

10:49

We have totally different parenting styles

10:51

, but because he's

10:53

a male and because

10:55

his mother spoiled him , he's

10:58

relating to them and he's wanting to

11:00

continue to spoil them . I'm

11:02

more the mean mom

11:04

, trying to get them to

11:06

understand that we're not gonna always

11:09

be here and they need to be

11:11

prepared for this thing we call life

11:13

and be able to financially support themselves

11:16

. And the sooner they're able

11:18

to financially support themselves

11:20

, the better right that I'll

11:22

be feeling and off their backs . But

11:25

I have finally

11:27

come to that place in my life

11:29

where I'm allowing Cecil to parent

11:32

however he wants to parent . I'm

11:34

gonna parent however I want to parent

11:36

, and I try to do

11:38

it in a way where we're not

11:40

at each other's necks . It's

11:43

hard cause I wanna choke him

11:45

out sometimes . Why

11:48

? Because how many years have you two been married ? 27

11:51

years , wow , yes

11:53

, wow , 27 years .

11:55

It isn't easy , it isn't easy .

11:57

The other thing is it's just taking this generation

11:59

longer to get it figured out

12:01

for the majority of them , and

12:04

I just have to let them be on

12:06

their journey and

12:08

just have patience and not try to overthink

12:11

everything and not try to control

12:13

their every move . But I'm gonna tell

12:16

you like my therapist told me one

12:18

day honey , let them be

12:20

on their own journey .

12:21

Anything you don't wanna pay for , just

12:23

say no , exactly

12:26

, and that's the phase of life that I'm in

12:28

as a mother to a

12:30

young adult daughter . I might just go

12:32

right ahead . I'm choosing my arguments , my

12:34

battles , focusing on my mental health

12:36

and my pH balance too , yeah

12:41

, yeah . So

12:43

, okay , we talked about the parenting and

12:46

we kind of broached upon

12:48

your relationship with your husband and

12:50

we saw the ups and downs of

12:53

a marriage every season

12:55

, a marriage to medicine , and at one point in

12:57

time in the season , you two were going to write a book

12:59

and then you stopped . Can you please

13:01

tell my listeners what was the reason for

13:03

you holding the book ? Because we were excited

13:05

to read it .

13:06

Yes , Ciso and I came up with

13:08

this bright idea about writing a couple's

13:11

book and sharing with other couples

13:13

about our journey and some of the

13:15

tools that we've used

13:17

to make it . But , as you can see

13:19

, we still have struggles that we have

13:21

not been able to get over . Like our parenting

13:24

styles , they're different and

13:26

we're not ever able to come to

13:28

an agreement , and I made a decision

13:30

last year that I

13:32

didn't want to write a book

13:35

or do anything that might actually

13:38

tear us apart . We

13:40

just needed to continue to strive

13:43

to come together and

13:45

work on our marriage , and we really

13:48

didn't need to be adding any

13:50

stress or strain , and when you're working on

13:52

a project together , they're

13:54

stressed because we have

13:56

more disagreements , even as simple

13:58

as what the title of the book was

14:01

going to be , and so

14:03

I just I threw the towel in

14:05

and was like I don't need another thing for

14:07

us to disagree over ? Yes

14:10

, we'll be fine without it .

14:12

So being on the show and hearing

14:14

the audience's reactions or

14:16

feedback , was that another reason

14:19

why you two decided not to write

14:21

the book , because it was an additional stressor ?

14:25

The audience is really not a

14:27

stressor for us . The

14:30

audience is so supportive

14:32

of our relationship and

14:34

they give their feedback and I am

14:36

always open to constructive feedback

14:38

. I often hear from the fans that

14:40

they don't like the way I talk

14:42

to Cecil honey , but I'm like

14:45

little , do you know ? He deserves

14:47

the way I'm talking . But

14:49

we have so much love and

14:51

support from our fans , especially

14:54

our day ones , who've been watching us

14:56

from day one I

14:58

really wish we could have given

15:00

them a book . I felt like the fans

15:03

were eager for us to write a book . I

15:05

just I didn't want to put my

15:07

marriage through another stressful

15:10

thing of trying to get this book out and

15:12

I'm busy , busy as an OBGYN wife

15:15

, as a business owner . Honey , I didn't

15:18

have time and he was stressing me about it .

15:22

So , if your time frees up , do you

15:24

think UNC Seoul will revisit

15:26

the conversation of this book ? And I'll

15:28

ask you . I'll tell you why I'm asking this question

15:30

Because , like I said , we don't hear from

15:33

too many seasoned women talking

15:35

about the challenges and how to navigate

15:38

through those challenges so that you can be successful

15:40

in any space . So , because we

15:42

rely and we trust and we love you , we

15:45

kind of look at UNC Seoul like , ok

15:47

, they have it together . What are the ingredients

15:49

to their success ? So , if time frees

15:51

up , will you to revisit the conversation

15:54

? I ?

15:55

think we can revisit the conversation

15:58

. But again , I think people

16:00

just need to understand that a lot

16:03

of what we go through , how we feel

16:05

, how we navigate , is normal

16:08

and that feeling of wanting to file

16:10

for a divorce is normal

16:13

. But like you saw my breakdown

16:15

, I didn't have enough sense , enough

16:17

self-discipline to not go

16:19

through with filing for a divorce . That's

16:22

where you want to be able to stop yourself

16:24

. And again

16:27

, we will get

16:29

to a place one of these days where I think

16:31

we will be able to share either

16:36

in couples conferences

16:39

or even a couples book

16:41

. And we talk about doing

16:44

podcasts and doing couples

16:46

conferences . I just don't have time

16:49

.

16:49

I understand Because your

16:51

relationship with your husband , Cecil

16:53

, like it , resonated with me . My parents

16:56

were married for 51 years

16:58

and I would always compare their relationship

17:01

if they were married to Fred Sanford

17:03

and on Esther . But

17:08

from the outside , looking in , people would think

17:10

like , oh , that's a toxic relationship and I'm just

17:13

like no honey they've been married .

17:14

No , they make it work .

17:15

Exactly so . We need to see those

17:17

nuances because it's OK

17:20

. So , thank you , it is OK

17:22

With your marriage

17:24

on married to medicine . Now let's talk

17:27

about some of your cast mates

17:29

, because this is like

17:31

a smorgasbord of different type of personalities

17:34

, but it works so so , so , so

17:36

good . So let's talk about Dr Heavenly

17:38

first . Let's do it so

17:41

. Before , like last season , season

17:44

nine , the cast had really got on Dr

17:46

Heavenly about her online vitriol

17:48

and she promised that she was

17:50

going to do better . But now that we

17:52

are in season 10 , I'm

17:54

still seeing the gossiping

17:56

on the show , on social

17:59

media , on different podcasts

18:01

. Where do you two stand

18:04

in your relationship ? Because she said some

18:06

hurtful things about you in the past . Have you two

18:08

been able to kind of come together

18:10

and resolve the deficits

18:12

in your friendship ?

18:14

Heavenly and I are doing much

18:16

, much better , but

18:18

I think part of it is just

18:20

understanding . She loves being

18:23

on social media , her fans

18:25

love for her to be on social media

18:27

and she's

18:29

giving her unfiltered

18:32

thoughts and opinions on social

18:34

media Right , and

18:36

the thing is I try

18:38

not to tune in when she's on

18:41

there and she's being negative , especially

18:43

when she's being negative towards me . But I try not

18:45

to tune in on that and

18:47

focus on that Deep down

18:49

. Heavenly is a good person . She

18:51

just so darn messy

18:54

. She's so messy . I

18:56

have a friend but you know

18:58

, every now and again I call her up , like I

19:01

heard you said , you

19:04

know , or somebody will send me a clip or

19:06

something she said . But you have to let

19:08

people be who they are

19:10

, accept them for who they are

19:13

and we all have our good and bad traits

19:15

. If I were a perfect

19:17

person , she would have nothing

19:19

to talk about , about me right . So

19:23

we all have to accept each

19:25

other for our good and bad traits

19:27

, and we have to do that all year round

19:29

in every relationship

19:32

in our lives .

19:34

That's true , accepting your friends or

19:36

associates for who they are , who they

19:38

are If .

19:39

I called Heavenly right now and was like

19:41

, girl , I need you

19:43

. My child has said could you help me

19:45

? She would help me out . If you need

19:47

her and need a favor , she has a good

19:50

heart . She's there for you .

19:52

You just got that old messy mouth child

19:54

, I know , but I'm sorry you mentioned that

19:56

because sometimes television we get the snippets

19:58

of the relationship , the toxicity of it

20:00

all , and I'm glad that you cleared it up that

20:03

you two are two friends , no matter what you

20:05

may see on television . True friends and

20:07

true sisterhood . We work it out

20:09

and we accept our friends for who they

20:11

are . So now accepting another

20:13

cast member for who they are . A

20:16

latest and newest addition to the show

20:18

is what's her name ? Leticia or

20:20

Sweet Tea . She's

20:22

been sharing the nuances of her

20:24

relationship with Dr

20:27

Gregg . What advice

20:29

do you have for women who talk about

20:32

the ups and downs of their relationship

20:34

with other women and other women they don't even

20:36

know ? What advice do you ?

20:38

have . So that would have been

20:40

my key point

20:42

of advice to Leticia , which

20:44

is girl you don't know Dr

20:46

Heavenly that well , and Heavenly

20:49

is going to run on down to

20:51

the YouTube channel and dog you out

20:53

. Don't do it . Don't give her

20:55

any information until you get to

20:57

know her and you can honestly decide

21:00

what you want to share about

21:03

yourself to Heavenly . And

21:05

I think that Sweet Tea was

21:07

just too naive , too

21:10

naive .

21:14

Has she learned her lesson so far , though ?

21:16

She has , but she's

21:18

mad about the lesson that she

21:20

learned .

21:20

And what ?

21:21

I'm trying to talk to her about

21:23

is so much is just understand

21:25

the lesson , accept your

21:28

part that you played in the lesson and

21:30

then understand Heavenly is

21:33

who she is . It ain't that deep

21:35

move on .

21:37

Yeah , yeah . So in the

21:39

upcoming episode and I'm super

21:41

, super excited for it , Like I told you , I'm a true

21:43

Die Hard fan , my daughter and I she's

21:45

28 years old I have her tuned into Married

21:47

to Medicine . I love that . Every full Sunday

21:49

at 9 PM on Bravo . Thank you so much

21:52

. Oh , no problem , good TV is undeniable

21:54

, so you don't have to thank me , like I should

21:56

be thanking you for giving me good TV . So

21:59

on the upcoming episode , sweet Tea , she's

22:01

going to talk about the disconnect between

22:04

her and Toya . I'm surprised

22:06

. What is she going to reveal ? Can you

22:08

share that with my audience ?

22:12

Well , you know Toya Basi

22:14

, she's Basi and

22:18

Toya is

22:20

like a big sister to

22:22

Tea and she's my

22:25

little sister , but Toya's so

22:27

Basi and the way that she

22:29

tries to help you sometimes

22:32

if you don't know her , it

22:35

can be harsh . And

22:37

so , again , Sweet Tea

22:39

is still learning all of us and

22:42

that's where the disconnect is is

22:44

understanding people's intention

22:46

and then just understanding that

22:48

we got baseline personality

22:51

traits that you got to work around

22:53

. I just think

22:56

that Sweetie is still learning

22:58

the different nuances

23:00

in terms of our personalities

23:02

and how we roll and once

23:05

she gets that down , she will understand

23:07

Toya's heart , Toya's intention and

23:09

they're going to be fine .

23:11

You got it . Yeah , you know , friendships are hard

23:13

to come through Exactly

23:16

, I think when people first meet me

23:18

I'm straight cookie chaser

23:20

, like straight chaser . You know

23:22

it is what it is . It is hard for people

23:24

to acclimate to my personality , but

23:27

once they know who I am , they fall in love

23:29

with me .

23:29

Though that's so cool , you

23:32

know , but ultimately just be

23:34

yourself and the people

23:36

who should migrate and gravitate

23:38

to you , they will . Everybody else

23:41

can keep it moving .

23:42

Exactly , show up authentically

23:44

. So that's another test

23:46

. Yes , let's talk about Ms

23:49

Quad , ms Quad , ms Quad , why

23:52

did Ms Quad show up to that bachelorette

23:54

party ? She knew she was dead wrong for

23:57

doing that . Did you talk to her about

23:59

why did she make that decision being

24:01

led by Phaedra Park ? She should have known

24:03

better why .

24:06

Well , here is the thing . She should have known

24:08

better , but I think Quad was hurting

24:10

disappointed that we , as

24:12

her group of friends , were even allowing

24:15

Letitia in the mix , and

24:18

so she wanted to make a statement

24:20

, and I'll be done she

24:23

made an appearance that made a statement

24:25

.

24:27

Yeah , because I'll be honest , Dr Simone

24:29

, if I was your friend and

24:31

you're building relationships with my ex's

24:34

new boo , we

24:36

have a problem . Houston . We have a problem

24:38

, yes .

24:39

Well , make sure , if you're my friend

24:42

and you don't want me building relationships

24:45

with your ex's new boo , that you

24:47

come around and you don't put me on

24:49

ice , because when you put me on ice

24:51

, girl , I got you on ice and I'm

24:53

out here doing other things .

24:55

Rolling on . I know that

24:58

Ms Quad had you on ice for a few seasons

25:00

. Has the ice melted where you all

25:02

able to sit together and just drink

25:04

some fine champagne ? Has the ice melted Well

25:06

, I ?

25:06

need for you to continue

25:08

to tune in , because

25:11

you will get to see

25:14

where Quad and I , how

25:16

, where we arrived to and what

25:18

place that is . You have

25:21

to treat people like you want to be treated

25:23

, and I love being a

25:25

mirror to people . Ok , I'm going

25:27

to give you the video and Quad would be no exception

25:30

.

25:31

I get it . I

25:33

get it . I'm reading between the lines , Mm-hmm

25:35

. So let's talk

25:37

about because we briefly mentioned her name

25:40

Phaedra Parks , who is a

25:42

new addition to Married to Medicine . We

25:44

saw her on Real Housewives

25:46

of Atlanta . Do you think her joining

25:48

the cast of Married to Medicine is

25:51

good for the sisterhood and the

25:53

relationships amongst the women , or do you

25:55

think they just brought her on because she's just

25:57

great ?

25:58

TV . I think Phaedra superficially

26:01

knew all of us . Anyway , it was an

26:03

easy transition and

26:06

she's a professional in this community

26:08

in Atlanta . We all knew her

26:10

, she knew of us , and so

26:12

I think it was an easy transition

26:15

. And Phaedra

26:17

has a doctor boyfriend and

26:20

so naturally , hey , if

26:22

I were on the outside looking in , I'd want to be a

26:24

part of this group too .

26:26

Me too . I want to be a part of the group .

26:29

I mean , honey , as a doctor boyfriend

26:31

, we can shoot , I'm a fine one .

26:33

I'm a fine one , I'm a fine

26:35

one . So I just

26:37

have a few more questions , like one or two . I

26:40

want to talk about Mariah Huck . Is

26:42

that how you pronounce her last name , huck Huck

26:45

? Yes , so she was

26:47

previously on the cast . We saw

26:49

the relationships between her and the woman kind

26:51

of dissolve on television . I don't know what it's like in

26:53

real life , but she is still an

26:55

executive producer With

26:57

the executive producer title . Is she's

26:59

still connected to you as women

27:02

in a positive way ?

27:05

I would say that she's not

27:08

connected to us by

27:11

her choice and by ours .

27:13

Oh so it's just

27:15

strictly the relationship between what

27:17

happens behind the scene bringing the show

27:19

together but not with the cast Correct

27:22

? So

27:25

do you two have a friendship or no ?

27:27

We do not have a friendship any longer

27:29

. I am not harboring any ill

27:31

feelings towards her . I

27:34

haven't heard that she's harboring

27:36

any ill feelings toward me

27:39

. Her daughter entered Spelman this

27:41

year for college . I

27:43

continue to follow her on social media

27:45

. She continues to follow me . We just don't

27:47

have any contact . Sometimes

27:49

you have . You know there's a season where

27:51

people in your life and when they're gone

27:53

they're gone you don't reconnect

27:56

and we have not reconnected . But I'm not harboring

27:58

any ill feelings towards Mariah

28:00

.

28:01

Got it , but that's you know , another

28:03

grown woman ish . Just

28:06

because we have to separate as friends

28:08

, it doesn't mean that there's any animosity .

28:10

It doesn't mean that I mentioned it

28:12

just going into , our time

28:14

has passed , our road ended .

28:17

Exactly . The church service has ended

28:19

.

28:20

Can we just say amen and move

28:22

on Amen .

28:25

So you know , I believe , that whatever experience that you

28:27

embark upon , you're supposed to grow

28:29

in some capacity . What

28:31

type of growth have you seen in yourself

28:34

being a cast member of Bravo TV's

28:36

Married to Medicine ?

28:38

I'm so glad you asked that question . I

28:41

have learned how not to hold grudges

28:43

with my friendships and in my marriage

28:45

, to let some of that stuff go

28:47

and to be a less petty person

28:50

. I am so petty

28:52

and I had no idea how petty

28:54

I am until I watch myself

28:57

on national TV and

28:59

just still trying to be a good

29:01

steward of friendships and

29:04

to nurture and honor the friendships

29:06

that are good to me .

29:08

I love it and you know I didn't mention her

29:10

before . But since you talked about nurturing

29:12

the friendships , I am so happy

29:14

as a viewer to see the

29:17

relationship and friendship between you and Dr Jackie

29:19

Absolutely Lunches that you have

29:21

where you're carving out time just to talk

29:23

. That serves us so

29:26

well . So , dr Simone Paige

29:28

and Dr Simone , keep doing

29:30

what you are doing because you are so

29:32

inspiring I mean personally

29:34

, professionally . We're watching

29:36

and we're rooting you on . So

29:39

for those who are tuned in to Married

29:41

to Medicine every single Sunday at

29:43

9 pm Eastern , why should

29:45

they be tuned in ?

29:47

They need to tune in because we have real

29:49

relationships , the OGs . We've been together

29:51

for 10 years and we're showing you

29:54

how to navigate in your relationship

29:57

or with your marriage . We also

29:59

sharing our challenges with these

30:01

kids . We can learn from each other , so

30:03

just tune in , get on social media

30:06

and let us know your thoughts and comments

30:08

.

30:09

We will continue to support , we will

30:11

continue to cheer you all on

30:14

. Dr Simone , thank you so

30:16

much for blessing and gracing

30:18

the sign on your space . Like I

30:20

said , I'll be tuned in every single

30:22

Sunday . But , like I said , even though the

30:24

show starts at 9 , I'm sitting there at about

30:27

845 , just patiently waiting

30:29

for the amazingness

30:31

.

30:32

We appreciate you and thank

30:34

you for interviewing me today , truly

30:36

appreciate it .

30:38

Dr Hevlin . You go back to ooh , not

30:40

in , call you Dr Hevlin , it's okay For

30:42

today . It's okay , dr

30:46

Simone , you go back to being amazing

30:48

and I know you have a baby to deliver . So

30:50

because you carved out time , once

30:53

again , I am truly grateful . Thank you

30:55

so much . Thank you . Have a good holiday

30:57

season , you too . Take care

30:59

, continue blessings , all righty

31:01

, bye-bye . So

31:04

there you have it , dr

31:06

Simone . I can't believe I called her Dr Hevlin . She's

31:09

chat . It's been a long day . It's

31:11

been a long day . There you have

31:13

it , dr Simone . So we talked

31:15

about so many things

31:17

. We talked about if you are a woman

31:20

over 50 , let me tell you something . Our

31:22

parents I'm talking to the women

31:25

who are in their 50s Our

31:28

parents didn't talk about the

31:30

hot flashes that will come . They

31:33

didn't talk about making sure that

31:36

your pH balance was okay . So

31:38

if you are sexually

31:40

active excuse me shout out , I'm burping on If

31:43

you're sexually active and you

31:45

have another partner wait

31:47

, what did she say ? Six to nine months

31:49

before you take off that condom , because some of y'all

31:51

just be raw-dogging it you

31:54

meet him and he

31:56

tells you everything that you want to hear , and

31:59

then it's just like no

32:01

, protect , protect , protect yourself

32:04

Because , like I said , like Dr

32:06

Simone said , changing sexual

32:08

partners it can interrupt your

32:10

pH balance . And I didn't even

32:12

talk about these diseases out

32:14

there . You could just walk by

32:17

a person nowadays and it just seemed like

32:19

you're infected with something , if it's not COVID-19

32:22

. We talked about women

32:24

of a certain age parenting young

32:27

adult kids . It's

32:30

not easy . Like I mentioned before , I have

32:32

a daughter who is 28 years old and this level

32:34

of parenting is so different , but

32:37

what I've learned to do , I truly

32:39

pick my battles

32:41

Because at that age and

32:43

Dr Simone's two boys , they

32:46

are in college , but I believe they're like either

32:48

in their early 20s . I will

32:50

say that the conversations are

32:52

different . Let them figure it out

32:55

. Parents , you've done your

32:57

job . The only thing that we are there to

32:59

do is support and sometimes

33:01

there will be some corrections or feedback

33:04

, advice . Don't you do that moment

33:06

but for the most part , let

33:09

them fly . We've

33:11

done so many years of

33:13

the parenting , even though the parenting doesn't stop

33:15

, but we have to start to decrease

33:18

the level of parenting but still

33:20

making sure that we are there . She

33:23

mentioned also about some of her cast

33:25

members and exploring relationships

33:28

, navigating the relationships and

33:30

also understanding that allow

33:33

the people that you call friends to

33:35

be their authentic selves

33:37

. I was going to say

33:39

something , but then I'm a thorough friend of the bus so

33:42

I won't say it . First

33:45

, the moments where there's ups and downs

33:47

in friendships with

33:50

females in

33:53

relationship , intimate relationships

33:55

just allow grace and mercy

33:57

. Allow people to be who they are , if

34:00

it's not too much of an interruption to

34:02

who you are . Allow

34:04

people to navigate through the relationships as

34:06

themselves . And I truly

34:09

do respect when I see Dr

34:11

Simone and Dr Jackie carving

34:13

out time during lunch to sit

34:15

outside and just talk and catch

34:17

up . I'm so glad they are back

34:19

to a better place . But when I tell

34:21

you this season of season 10

34:23

of Married to Medicine , it

34:26

is truly giving me and I'm

34:28

sure you as audiences , everything

34:30

that we need . We

34:33

don't really see what season women , especially

34:35

women of color , on television

34:37

and hearing these candid

34:40

conversations . So this is

34:42

why I'm tuned in every single week and

34:44

, like I said , our parents didn't have the conversations

34:46

with us as women who

34:48

are over 50s . This

34:51

is why I introduced Married to Medicine to

34:53

my daughter , because now

34:55

it fosters the conversation

34:57

, it opens the doors for a conversation

34:59

so that we can have these teachable moments

35:02

about child when you get about

35:04

40 something , the

35:06

private summers . So now

35:08

she , because at first she didn't understand

35:11

why I had to have one leg out under the cover

35:13

and the window open and

35:16

the AC . Now

35:18

she kind of gets it , because now

35:21

she's able to witness other women

35:23

going through the same thing on

35:25

television , courtesy of Married

35:27

to Medicine . So great job

35:29

. Now , when it comes to the question

35:31

that I asked her about Phadra

35:34

or was it Quart ? I would say

35:36

Ms Quart , ms Quart and

35:38

Phadra , you know really being great

35:40

additions to the sisterhood , or

35:42

is it just because they are great

35:44

TV ? I think it's a combination of both

35:46

. Producers know

35:48

, they know who to put on the show

35:51

and who not to put out the show , because the goal

35:53

of every single producer

35:55

is to make sure that people are tuned

35:57

in . So Phadra and Ms

36:00

Quart , darling , they are giving everyone

36:02

what they need . They are adding more

36:04

flair to

36:07

the conversations , to the narratives

36:09

on Married to Medicine , even though the flair

36:12

, you know it isn't always what we want

36:14

to see , you know . But it is great

36:16

TV . So make sure , like I said

36:18

, that you are tuned in to

36:21

Married to Medicine each and

36:23

every single Sunday , 9

36:25

pm Eastern on the

36:27

Bravo Network . Also

36:30

, make sure that you subscribe . Make

36:32

sure you subscribe to every Sanya

36:34

on the Xtreme platform and

36:37

on every channel and streams , of course , every

36:39

major streaming platform . And if you're watching

36:41

this on YouTube , make sure you hit

36:43

the notification button . So this

36:46

is what I'm going to do . Sometimes I , you know , talk about

36:48

celebrity news and all those things , but

36:50

it's been a busy day and I'm sure you

36:52

have a busy day too . So until next

36:54

time , my love Smooches

36:57

, take care .