You hear the same demeaning, dismissive things from narcissistic Hijackals all the time. It wears you down and they put your down. You need tools and strategies to neutralize the poison when it's being poured on you. This episode gives you spec

THE DREADED SILENT TREATMENT

Jun 1st, 2021 33m 4s

Ugh! The narcissistic Hijackal falls silent, ignores you, and won't respond. What's up with that? What are they hoping to achieve? What's your internal dialogue? What ways are most effective to respond? That's today's episode. So dismissive! Hi

HIJACKALS & THEIR WARPED SENSE OF FAIR, JUST & EQUAL

May 25th, 2021 36m 54s

Hijackals & other narcissistic people have neither thought nor intention of leveling any playing field. No, it's about the all important winning. Why? What can you do or say? Use the ideas in this episode to step back from the crazy-making! Whe

8 Damaging Roles Narcissistic Parents Assign to Their Children

May 18th, 2021 37m 43s

You had no choice in the role a narcissistic parent created for you and assigned to you. You were stuck with it--while usually being quite unaware of it. It's just the way your family is, like it or not, right? NOW, in this episode, see your as

Why Power is the Enemy of Love

May 14th, 2021 41m 48s

Power in relationships can be a very difficult and disturbing issue. Of course, if you have a Hijackal parent, partner, sibling, or adult child, you're well aware of that! This episode will give you new insights into solving ever-arising issues

How All-Or-Nothing Thinking Creates and Comes From Fear

May 11th, 2021 32m 12s

Everything is a potential deal breaker when all-or-nothing thinking prevails! People who were raised in emotional abusive homes learn to think that way. If you are with one, you may be on the receiving end and need to understand and name it. Yo

The Scam, Sham & Spam of Pseudomutuality

May 4th, 2021 35m 8s

You know how some people and families both "put on a front: and are "a closed shop?" You can sense that something is off but the story they tell sounds good. They may be SO good at the story that you can't help but believe it. Why would you que

What a Formerly Toxic CEO Learned That Transformed All His Relationships

Apr 29th, 2021 49m 47s

Have you experienced a toxic boss? Were you one? Today's guest, Krister Ungerbock, admits to, at one time, being an aggressive boss. Maybe, even, a toxic one. He changed. Learn why and how it became important to him to shift, and how that lead

RECOGNIZING REACTIVE ABUSE

Apr 27th, 2021 34m 52s

Do you ever wonder if you're the problem in a relationship when you know that the other person is forever pushing your buttons, blaming and shaming you? You may be suffering from "Reactive Abuse," and that's a cycle that you can put a stop to.

PASTCASTING™? What it is

Apr 20th, 2021 35m 13s

Wonder why you don't seem to create the momentum to address your toxic relationship? PastCasting™ is one way. It's my term for a well-established internal program that immediately causes you to stay stuck, even when you know you're settling and

10 Childhood Traumas You Need to Recognize & Recover From

Apr 15th, 2021 1h

Ever wonder why you give difficult or toxic people too many chances? Ever wonder why you make a plan to leave, execute it, and end up going back? It happens, and it has a reason...or twelve! Childhood trauma often is recognized when it was obvi

Wonder Why People-Pleasers Attract Emotional Abusers?

Apr 13th, 2021 45m 31s

Growing up in an emotionally abusive home, or an overly compassionate home, or even and emotionally neglectful home can set you up to accept emotional abuse. It's not your fault! Maybe, you had a perfectly lovely home, but you were encouraged t

Feeling Stuck & Second-Guessing Yourself?

Apr 6th, 2021 32m 41s

Yes, you are wise to be self-reflective, asking yourself "What is my part in the relationship difficulties?" #Hijackals and other toxic people want you to taking responsibility for the whole relationship. They are happy to tell you that everyth

MEN: How to Revive a Dormant Sex Life After You've Killed the Connection

Apr 3rd, 2021 49m 10s

Men, would you like to know what to say when your female partner is really angry? The answer--and many more--are in this episode with GS Youngblood, author of The Masculine in Relationship. He says, "There are so many couples in pain in the wor

Future Faking

Mar 30th, 2021 28m 53s

All those promises! All those dreams! Was it future faking? That's a very common way that #Hijackals keep you engaged in the relationship. Learn how it works...and, what really doesn't work about it. You need to see this clearly, or you'll be h

Renowned Thoracic Surgeon Shares How Doctors Can Increase Empathy & Compassion

Mar 25th, 2021 53m 52s

Why is this episode important on a show about toxic relationships? Because your doctor--and other healers--need to be empathetic, aware, interested, listening, and compassionate. Some are wonderful. Others, not so much. You need to find one tha

7 Unhealthy Patterns You Learn Growing Up in a Narcissistic Family

Mar 23rd, 2021 43m 1s

You may not even know you picked up all this from narcissistic family dynamics in your life. When you hear these things, you may find the key to unlocking relationship difficulties you've had in your adult life. Definitely worth listening to! W

GASLIGHTING: Sneaky Emotional Abuse

Mar 16th, 2021 36m 57s

Understanding the many faces of gaslighting helps you see it coming. Then, seeing it for what it is, you can discount it, reject and deny it. In this episode, I help you see ten faces of gaslighting that can help you recognize it for what it is

How Toxic Relationships Can Wear Down Your Body & Ruin Your Health - Guest: Dr. Elizabeth Hughes

Mar 12th, 2021 42m 8s

You may think that you're experiencing the natural wear and tear on your health. But, if you're in a toxic relationship, it is making things so much worse! Learn about the most likely ways your body and its immune system can respond to toxic re

How to Finally Believe A Hijackal Doesn't Love You

Mar 9th, 2021 33m 38s

You want to believe that a Hijackal--a toxic, difficult, perhaps narcissistic person--love you. You SO want to believe it. They don't have much love to give and here's 16 ways to recognize that they aren't giving it to you. An eye-opener! Peopl

How Hijackals Hook You Into Toxic Relationships

Mar 2nd, 2021 33m 2s

Hijackals create toxic relationships, and it's important to see the patterns, traits, cycles, and behaviors clearly. That's not easy, but it is necessary. If you've been with a Hijackal or other toxic person for long, you may feel as though you

Can Narcissists Actually Make Lasting Changes to Stop the Abuse? GUEST: Dr. Laura Dabney

Feb 26th, 2021 42m 16s

You hope, hope, hope that a narcissistic person will change. You buy into their promises to change. And, you cross your fingers! Change occurs for a hot minute...or even a warm week, right? And, then, nothing. What's up with that? People with

How to Handle the Emotional Abuse of Microaggressions Using the PWR Response

Feb 23rd, 2021 30m 20s

The small, subtle, often sneaky words, actions, and gestures that are small or brief slights, insults, insinuations, or put downs used to marginalize you are microaggressions. These behaviors are frequent and painful. But, they are small and th

How Vulnerability and Healing Can Prevent Toxic Masculinity

Feb 19th, 2021 41m 36s

Ever wondered how you could possibly find forgiveness for a seemingly unforgivable act? Like being raped, beaten, and left for dead? Today's guest, Lois Wagner, found it, and she shares that journey with you today. Toxic relationships include m

EMOTIONAL BRAINWASHING

Feb 17th, 2021 34m 28s

Sneaky stuff this emotional brainwashing! It often starts slowly and seems understandable. But, it continues and tips you over into second-guessing yourself and questioning your sanity, right? And, down the slippery slope! Listen in to uncover