Eddie Capparucci is a licensed therapist and certified in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He runs a private practice with his wife in Marietta, GA and works with men struggling with sex/porn addiction, as well as their wives who are dealing with betrayal. Eddie recently wrote the book, Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction and talks with Dr. Rob on how men can build their emotional IQ and reconnect emotionally with their families. 

TAKEAWAYS:

[4:30] Eddie believed he was a broken and perverted person when he struggled with his own porn addiction. 

[6:20] If you want to work on your addiction, you need to be able to sit with discomfort. 

[9:45] When you’re by yourself after the wife and kids are gone, do you experience anxiety and discomfort? 

[11:10] How does Seeking Integrity work with trauma? 

[14:05] Eddie wants you to move away from shame or thinking that God hates you. 

[15:10] Men, you don’t have to be absent in your family’s lives because you’ve worked long hours! 

[16:40] A lot of men that walk into Eddie’s practice have a low emotional IQ. 

[19:00] Despite living through a chaotic childhood, you don’t need to distance yourself from your current family. 

[21:45] Men get a lot more satisfaction in their work lives than they do in their home lives and that might be because men don’t know how to seek satisfaction in their home lives. 

[24:05] Your partners are asking you for memorable moments. Whatever is on the computer or TV is just not as important. 

[25:15] What you’re about to do, is it good for the relationship? 

[26:35] Eddie and Dr. Rob are not just talking about sex or porn addiction, they’re talking about all addiction. 

[29:05] What’s wrong with watching porn? It’s not hurting anyone! 

[32:50] Who should read Eddie’s book, Going Deeper? 

RESOURCES: 

The Porn Panic: Is Porn a ‘Public Health Crisis’?

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101 

Seeking Integrity

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men 

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency

Abundantlifecounselingga.com

Innerchild-sexaddiction.com

Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction by Eddie Capparucci

Email: [email protected]

QUOTES:

• “We can’t sit with our emotional pain so we learned to distract and escape.”
• “Don’t just assume something you don’t like or doesn’t interest you, don’t assume that’s the way it is.”
• “Maybe there’s a part of you inside that’s longing to play with your family and longing to be loved and connected.”
• “It was like that in the past, but it doesn't mean it has to continue.”
• “We don’t necessarily know how to grow closer to others at home, so it’s kind of avoided.”