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talking and all the i have no idea what

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you're saying to me right now your voice

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is like by law and i ever so i

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don't know all the words that you disappear the pit

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front row that's a april wanted know in this

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the hundred thousand people i'm pretty sure the stadium

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and we're in that we were literally humans way for

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being front stage and

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so and a half because i would one is asleep

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that you were in front of me actually yeah was typical

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i am camera man what a move into sort of the me and

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i wear my shit kicker boot so i'm like taller

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than every one and could start both for and

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stay to anyone who's listening that we met

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the so who the i like a we have

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you and i want the name various names

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their business and folks in australia and returning

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local folks i i remember some of them

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on ice and so shudder to you

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because actually felt very safe and that man

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sandwich number one i feel safe

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no matter what same over five and i'm of my shit kickers

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i'm five eleven and i dance like a wild

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beast the my hair hits people in faith and

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i had water bottles and to pockets on my

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caped the number to your gray

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person to go to show it gives you see him behind

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me and you could still like a little see and i'm like perfect

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but the bottles and my caper i think we hit a lot

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testicles an accident wonderful red hot

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chili peppers came on irvine these shove them

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in like the front of my jeans i didn't hit

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testicles my hair still here we had of lazy

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bubble around us and they are all very nice people

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they're very messy both of your one those nice people

2:24

we really appreciate he was so good want

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to have to getting to the front in the pets guy

2:29

the in april so i'd say funny things

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is like what do we do as like your you'd

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say excuse me excuse me out i think the bathrooms

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like oh like forgot my child in the front row i

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gotta i gotta but i say funny things to each

2:40

person that seems to be getting pissed well i think the second

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hackers once we go they will make friends with people

2:44

say that makes as a brutal and nor them

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like my i'm not going to be smoke a pack of marlboro reds

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here last time you know don't worry about how many

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good to know my neighbors are you know be together for about

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three hours so and you can't the

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bathroom so no can't buy drinks

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in the pits of get okay are you like a came

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at a we had a pit plan we did were like no

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drinks after your mother says that was so nervous

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about and are going to say with as about but it's in his

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pocket going on there you

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with his doctor will around and be

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at odds and they now have their own podcasts

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be known them for years willow

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is a taoist met an

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acupuncturist and and eastern as and

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expert leah is that tundra

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expert in it's as well in third time

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a lot about that before i

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i've had

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act like i'm i could i get my turtle prefer

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always forget oh really i

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always always never i've always about april

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going to be fabulous and really

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fun and also it's really fun we get to do in

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person when because this is more

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real energy i like we have no talking

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the minority what we're doing of the you about

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the a lot of knowledge and they're

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actually your friends of their funny as hell near

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funny ladies are like these ladies okay

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so rapers excrescence yeah i haven't

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read it read it know i'm in a closed my eyes and drop

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in the when they are and say before i do sex question

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is my worries mate cracked it's been like a pre

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pubescent i'm i'm sound like a teenage

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boy and so what i've been doing i literally have

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a bottle of eu blu ray here

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and actually learn his check from a brawl when

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your voice is like not point and little

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sketchy to put a little bit obe live in or

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out over the does not say that you should eat it but they

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also do say if it gets the mouth and second hurts

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you i've probably twenty

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pumps of that into body

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actually

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bad for my direction do that

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that ready for next question is are

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right here we got my wife's in iron and are

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late thirties and in a monogamous

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says had or of marriage almost two

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decades she'd stay in i am bisexual

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as of late my wife has entertain the idea

5:48

of allowing me to explore my sexuality with

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other men and much more although

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nothing has really taken place sudden on that

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front with that said she told

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me that it hurts her a year

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me they that i don't care if she talks

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to other men and even if seen sexy photos

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the them i'm comfortable with it because

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i trust her and i'm coming from a place

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of love and not indifference how

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can i do a better job and helping her understand

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this or whatever two decades away

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their energy other sports like for almost twenty so

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what they were ten when they met of the exact it is

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around thirty eight they have gotten for

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a run eighteen years i've seen the language little

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bit i was like whoa whoa whoa hold

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up as kind the same thing others have managed others

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out up now i gotta go to the base we

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got together they're eighteen okay the

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want to argue they get a get together and and sweaty hundred

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in a monogamous says header of marriage

6:37

he's bisexual see straight and

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she's down for him to explore his

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sexuality with other men and even more and

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when he said that he's

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actually the pretty like down or comfortable

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with her connecting weather gets

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even exceeding sexy photos with other men she

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was bummed about it hurt her feelings and

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use combo because he trusts her and he's

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like you know it's coming from place of love

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and more like know the silk the income persian is

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the word that people use the comparision

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by the way it means you're you're getting players or

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joy off your partner receiving pleasure

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like cuckolding know, that's different

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we

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are doing a second cuckolding podcast in a

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couple of months are

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not google ever go a shameless x like comments or so

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i ago and that's not what that is i

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think cuckolding compersion the part

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of that that's what i thought just that there

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could

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be in a umbrella and

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some other version

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of non-monogamy, but they get to

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up yet of course, describe what that is are or define

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that but so she's open to him,

7:51

make starting to explore with men as bisexual

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and he said, just said, the [unk]

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more i don't how much more

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he is and he said, hey, i'm totally

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down for you to start kind of exchange with other

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men and even sentence if the photos and she's

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like a hurts my feelings because i'm i

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guess is that it makes sense of the or

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it inspires a feeling of you don't

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care about me that much you to feel jealous

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maybe are like insecure and the

8:14

your openness is that and and

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we don't know because we're not talking to her and

8:18

there isn't more information on that but my as my guess

8:21

is that with what's going on with her experiences can be

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a perfect play

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situation where they they can discuss

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this however he could say i'm

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really suck in care about you

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and what what you're texting two years

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even though he doesn't like you know like but i trust you speaking

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kind of lay out a ground work and then role

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play into unless this is something

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she's like what do you really you really just don't care

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about what do because i love you

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and i want you to be jealous yes i wonder if they could

8:48

make that more of fantasy thing and

8:51

in a turn on for her somehow totally

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ai the mind the of christian many others

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the christian like hathaway like a sexy average

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i love chris has been are bike as most well times

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do your friends ex educator and

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and the other the one thing a given my for me years

9:05

so with my partner

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so my bar and i have is open exchange of

9:09

i went to this place and flirted with this

9:11

person and person was then they

9:14

really hot and the my printer

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will be like oh printer what i'm feeling

9:18

is i'm like some

9:20

excitement elsa little bit of like elsa little jealousy

9:23

but it's not and like an eight year he describes

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as this as hear in the it it changes

9:27

my every second or second minute or whatever that

9:30

his his stand as anger phase because

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we just like this couple permissions

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were there

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it i'm not going nigga hey i flirt with someone

9:37

but i know you not cool with it it's more like which

9:39

was places hot guy were flirting

9:41

is a really good and mean of course i'm coming home

9:43

to you but i'm just saying that certainly there's

9:45

a smoking hot babe in there

9:46

his ago actually feeling some things are now

9:49

spears a smile on his says he's like the

9:51

jealousy bonus sit with their what can you act

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on those things if you wanted to win

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now in my world yes is that we would have

9:58

no we would negotiate it so my world

9:59

right now the arrange the that we had

10:02

is he the in any sort of engagement with

10:04

the people beyond flirting negotiated

10:06

beforehand and or together

10:08

in which one minutes and a new

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rec first

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for the everyone gets to make their own

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definitions for that by adding

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this kind of coincides with what you're saying you

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know i would get curious if you're prone to she

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says she's hurt was ,

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meme was dismissed yeah i'm

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saying i'm as unimportant

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out as you want you to feel jealous possessive

10:28

and if so like a boss i can you role play that then

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maybe is like dude does

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is are more explanation of feelings

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i come from you and

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around this that can help to

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me or satisfy some needs that she has

10:43

a know if you need to feel really special like possess

10:45

year like she's only one ear like i don't care be further

10:47

people at then she's like oh another

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special now what does she need feel special

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would of the things he the actions that happened

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that you both agree on the core erotic theme

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yes exactly you know

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i'm chapter now yes you

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are and lives and all about

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this and episode number two about how to understand

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your koranic seems that

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and then there's a book on a cop erotic my image

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afp marine all about this i need to

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episode two i'm episode carry it actually sounds

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pretty good as it really is an emperor it

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baby in it pod camera in baby

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when i go back like oh my god oh my god i hope we don't that

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ehrlich well we actually sounded pretty

11:23

damn good for been brand new i have

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the i have to go back and listen i'm and get mortified

11:28

at those kinds of things yeah that the

11:30

i know you get scared she is she's she is she's

11:32

she's real married him special intelligent

11:34

human and isn't like to hear

11:37

when things are done some flow smoothly

11:39

but honestly sometimes i was in love like we're

11:41

better than the we are now or audio in fair

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that some of our flow some anyways

11:47

and gotcha episode two

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maybe open up the conversation with my curiosity

11:52

about feelings and expressing more

11:54

about your feelings around this and

11:56

in then negotiation with each other and

11:58

and then were able said make it how can he

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make it hot happy eroticism this

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in the last meal say maybe april one more thing

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add is dipping toes

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and lightly you know that what is you

12:09

start with her flirting

12:12

with someone did she wants to have her you

12:14

can't make her do anything if you want to go flair with

12:16

someone that we can the

12:17

these are on instagram

12:18

and then invite her to share

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with you and but

12:22

their how she'd prefer for uterus

12:24

ahead of time and see how that

12:26

feels before you go deeper a

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might be a an easy way to dip toes into this world

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and work together in a way that works for both of you also

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from the semantic a institute developed

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core desires yeah we been no longer

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that you're right well movie know the movies movies

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are still from the themes from jack marines

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process a for the erotic mine

12:45

but there's is called the they did

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reframe it and if you look the

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left and danielle on our

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own schumer said if yeah i don't know that others

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don't even look up some attica institute i think

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it says my app up and our yeah yeah

12:58

but they took they created own format like

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there was there was i'm inspired by

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the core roddick seems as well kind of

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is it isn't it a where they develop

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it into a i think it's just

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a little bit more modern cena take on

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a bring into their their education they

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created semantics which is it been a bring

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in psychological body work with more than that intimacy

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such different said there are everyone that even

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in a were running book everyone is going to have different

13:23

them what you hear in our podcast and then work with them

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lazy everywhere else so we're all learning from

13:27

each other and the more knowledge the merrier

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bio off the know i love

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transcendence starter willow

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brown and leah piper spring a

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wealth of with them through combined forty

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years of expertise in human sexuality

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health and spiritual growth leah

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is leah sex master coach and

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positive psychology facilitator

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while doctor willow brown is a chinese

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in person and we very

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rarely gets a record in person other

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than

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in person time

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of to other humans

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folks who also know how to speak to all

15:00

humans from a way that's inclusive

15:02

because a lot of people they hear the woolly language had

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moved onto others on the unapproachable

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or i want to know about that but i've never done

15:09

it or it sounds like spirituality or

15:11

religion a and we've worked with them

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in various

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i've never gotten your show he

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and will have been are so is there

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player for

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time for the fourth time and

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leia i have witnessed many of the workshop

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in there were super happy to have you here i think that

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this would be very sitting for our audience

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in where you are when and oh about

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transcendent or

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gazans and cervical orgasms

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and maybe we'll talk about other orgasms but

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really those ones that blasts you off to the moon

15:38

and you're like was , one

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long fifteen minute or guys

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them or was that like fifteen different

15:45

orgasms and fifteen minutes or twenty

15:47

or what i don't even know but i will keep track of

15:49

time and i ain't happening we exact time

15:51

from hair is yeah you're

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there for that too yeah it's like a heart

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attack or organisms like sexual

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void your body's convulsing like the that

16:00

was like you which he'd have

16:03

area shapeshifter comes out than

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the absolute reset of your entire

16:08

nervous system and like the

16:10

i mean it's deep medicine is

16:12

yeah very people at so and i'll explain

16:14

the about why i'm so curious

16:16

but let's somewhere to read your bio

16:18

in the intro bet that's let used to

16:20

individually sir with our listeners

16:23

a little bit about yourself how he got into the field

16:25

sexuality know more about your journey

16:28

though i had an interest in childhood

16:30

and midwest the and started

16:32

off my live in a born again

16:34

christian colts food i had a casa

16:36

church baby we were singing the praises

16:39

of as guy to a lot of the combo like

16:41

what we call and hunters active i'm a

16:44

, up in church and i'll never forget it

16:46

either like this guy named guild the mash would come

16:48

every year old girl managed to say over

16:50

our lord of the and i were in for like i

16:52

was five at the time but i wasn't allowed to do

16:54

it until i was five and i would watch all

16:56

the adult like you know he pray

16:58

do the whole third eye in l shelf

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osha old footage have served

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pitchers of osha doing the shock teapot thing and

17:06

, would fall down their toys be another

17:09

adult behind the dot that was falling down to catch

17:11

him and put a month the my brother i

17:13

couldn't wait to do that sir like what is going

17:15

on some magic ,

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it was our turn he's two years older than me and

17:22

gilgamesh the hope and my

17:24

brother false i'm next i'm fall

17:26

down and we both kind of open one i

17:28

turned towards each other to go nothing

17:31

and i have no back and i was the day

17:33

my brother became an atheist says

17:37

, have you been any

17:39

they say any more united sold

17:42

until this point and so

17:44

yeah then i had to get baptized in the catholicism

17:47

at about ten eleven and when catholic school

17:49

and then got a chance got another

17:51

uniform now did you wear a uniform i sure did

17:54

that the bet your bottom dollar my

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, bank now leah so

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like ally

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and

18:02

wonderful religious confusion

18:04

i'm there is a feeling oh

18:06

you know a sense of spirit that

18:09

my mom was really beautiful about

18:11

know like i could feel the genuine

18:13

quality of something

18:16

bigger in our lives that she was really connected

18:18

to and so that was something

18:20

that i took away that experience but

18:23

the other thing that with a part

18:25

of the conditioning she's lot of fear guilt and

18:27

shame and dumb

18:29

and there are some sexual abuse of my history so

18:31

coupled with like the religious thing

18:33

and then and then abuse thing

18:36

there's a real kind of we

18:40

did and have

18:43

broken mess and you noticed a sense of like there's

18:46

something really wrong with me and i might not ever

18:48

recover from it so that was point

18:51

and then us kind of waking up and i

18:53

don't because of the sexual abuse i already had

18:55

orgasms very

18:57

inappropriate age but could feel

18:59

the pleasure and so it never made sense

19:01

to me when adults acted like kids

19:04

only started to feel pleasure once saturn

19:07

so , another sort of isolating

19:09

feeling of like i must be super unusual

19:12

these my body knows this feeling feeling

19:15

is also wrong and and harp on harp so

19:18

coming of age and having the

19:20

rules be so different like between

19:22

my brother and myself like boys

19:24

would get the high five girls had to stay

19:27

pure oh yeah so like

19:29

so much of this double standard

19:31

and and i at this point in my life i'm

19:34

pissed and i'm feeling

19:36

rebellious and yet still afraid to

19:38

get pregnant we're get yeah

19:41

and so he really wasn't until

19:44

i was a senior in high school him with this

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really him old boys

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man a he was a drummer finance

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and a , go

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to the bonga and and so she was my

19:56

first sort of see through the vargas

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you it's my first concert

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and down thought

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i dislike i went to places

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that i sensed was possible that

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you didn't believe any what i mean didn't

20:10

know how to get there that he was like

20:12

that combination of got i'm horny

20:15

fan gotta keep a guy like that whole lives

20:17

like how do those two things come together

20:20

and those began to blend

20:23

and then he oh harry and eighteen nineteen

20:25

twenty as that as a user to roll

20:27

forward and the life of the because

20:29

i always want to talk about this to intersex thing

20:31

and i'm also the most intimidating person

20:34

in the room because oh

20:36

my god she way too much about sex so

20:38

i was kinda staring all the off

20:41

like test my third eye and i'll fall down

20:43

right right shut department

20:45

but

20:48

the are so

20:51

that began my career builder men and

20:55

, modi we're that the lead

20:57

over they now know as

20:59

limits that limits because that it

21:01

like i really wanna know the anyways

21:04

and i manifests in one but

21:05

mack

21:07

well let's add

21:09

another way of feeling yeah

21:12

so that's kind of my beginning

21:14

so that book for that first

21:16

guy when i was eighteen when ,

21:18

broke up he laughed

21:20

all of his artwork analysis literature and

21:22

that was when i saw the book counter the

21:24

art of conscious levine in his like

21:27

hands the books he left at my house and

21:29

town i read this park and i

21:31

thought holy shit this is describing

21:34

everything i experienced experienced is

21:36

really helpful because i was getting him all

21:38

the power i felt this

21:40

because it's him it's experienced

21:42

love because of him and it took

21:45

me a little while to realize it wasn't because of

21:47

him his gift was he pointed

21:49

it out where it lived in me

21:52

and this is mine and this can share

21:54

it however i play it helps you feel safe

21:56

to indiana experience the yeah

21:58

i [unk] ready to see the yeah are your options are

22:00

opportunities that he didn't even they may be are you

22:03

you are media w the kind of i

22:05

believe so like like like

22:07

when you talk about transcendent orgasms

22:09

or transcendent sacks i i have this

22:12

memory of like

22:14

floating above my body having

22:16

this or gastric experience i'm like

22:18

filling up the whole room with

22:21

the sensation that i'm running through my body

22:23

it's repeating itself it's like a big

22:25

spiral that keeps on a sunday and

22:28

i'm lou i'm feel like i'm partly out of

22:30

my body and felix i'm at at the top

22:32

of the ceiling watching myself and

22:34

then i'm also like in the room filling

22:36

up the room and it was so

22:38

memorable and so trippy in it

22:41

took a while before i met other people who could relate

22:43

to that so i have to say like those first

22:45

seven years of trying to out

22:47

love and sex was kind of isolating

22:50

and lonely but also exciting

22:52

and

22:53

you know

22:54

yeah and then you went on from that

22:56

book so then coated with author

22:59

i have a nurse and that's kind

23:01

of for an hour to an era julian adam

23:04

i know the our with teaching because

23:06

that what took place here in the santa cruz

23:08

area where you know that was in santa cruz mountains you

23:10

retarded your pleasure shudder to mom

23:12

to as volunteer in a letter

23:14

shops i can go to wanted work like your

23:16

mom percent more going to get into the trends

23:19

in an orgasm he's but we need

23:21

also hear from willow

23:22

well i get right into the chance

23:24

and and or now where do we really need my

23:26

whole his

23:27

three but just a little an elevator

23:30

pitch of who you are

23:31

nearing as you have order well

23:34

i'm scared to tell you now so

23:37

i grew up in a backgrounds

23:40

fortunately in my household

23:42

sexuality nudity

23:44

the much more just came as pretty

23:46

as the natural rhythm and way of life

23:48

grew up with her and nurse for a mom

23:50

says he has bodily functions i mean i

23:52

got my period before everyone in junior

23:54

high snow not even junior high and crazy

23:57

why think of as the end

23:58

read while i'm my

23:59

that i've done that a com bugs here's your

24:02

fallopian tubes in your us your

24:04

ovaries announcer really kind

24:06

of always been raised with that i'm

24:09

i'm not into anatomy and

24:11

medical in your body is natural and

24:13

sexuality as natural that wasn't really

24:15

legs talked about ally with

24:18

assists except it wasn't taught

24:20

by any means and then i went

24:22

through my sexual trauma when i was nineteen

24:24

i was raped and i got pregnant from that that

24:27

ah led me to who do feeling

24:29

very on fire about reforming sexual

24:32

educate than i thought i would do that in the school

24:34

systems and in the public

24:36

schools the yeah i'll i'll going on i

24:38

am but then i took a closer look at ban

24:40

said cel know that my my path so

24:43

then i went into medicine

24:45

in own chinese medicine and just saw the healing

24:48

worth and i've done over the years

24:49

the have never found a

24:51

more potent healing modality

24:54

than sexual energy

24:56

i have never found it just can

24:58

eradicate all the trauma

25:01

of all the stories all the believe

25:04

everything , limits a person and

25:06

hold them back in a single session

25:08

is so powerful so that's

25:11

really you know in a nutshell why

25:13

i love this work so much much

25:16

you're reading a book that will made up

25:18

like a little more the and that people can learn and

25:20

i love the the title of it

25:22

as another change that sucks that

25:24

is it sucks as madison as edison

25:27

and so as i will talk about these transcendent

25:29

orgasms and various pieces

25:32

of how with his can be medicine and the first

25:34

thing first would like to just say is

25:36

to just a statement question and

25:38

because whatever orgasm and i think a lot

25:40

of people was i think we should the on your cell

25:42

about they get that on orgasm be in that willow

25:45

is with the show it will the oh no and there's an

25:47

there's ah we were and about the goal

25:49

oriented that everyone has to have

25:51

an orgasm summaries a sex

25:53

as medicine or was overturned orgasms

25:56

or cervical orgasms we're not saying you

25:58

have to have them all the time or not saying that

26:00

is invalid if you don't have them were know that there's

26:02

a hierarchy of orgasm that something

26:04

that i feel that to be

26:06

shared and needs to be understood by people

26:08

there's no hierarchy orgasms

26:10

hierarchical i on

26:13

the your get your way of orgasm easier as you

26:15

know if you're completely happy with it and that's that's

26:17

awesome for you about what curious it today

26:19

is to talk about this transcendent

26:22

experience it leo's segments you the

26:24

whole room and the vortex in like almost

26:27

like this this this yeah no one missing godliness

26:29

and and they will i was just go right into

26:31

it

26:31

where will we were like no no no no william a thug

26:34

the so transcendent orgasm

26:36

believe that we call it going

26:37

church oh yeah

26:39

that that place where their head

26:41

of the clock meets the off the

26:43

tip of

26:44

there an egg know when you'll

26:46

you'll have

26:47

jessica i mean and subaru

26:49

and because the

26:51

wind is good so there's a lot of

26:53

ways that you can start to open up the cervix

26:56

cause cervix cause of people services are really

26:58

as an amd you know they can feel

27:00

cramped these sensations or pain

27:03

or lives has is that had is

27:06

hitting the cervix a woman thing pulling back

27:08

and like oh that's painful so a

27:10

lotta times and painful sex can even

27:12

look like that when the cervix

27:14

hasn't been massaged opened and

27:16

trauma released from the cervix

27:18

i think we hold so much i do a lot

27:20

of public for work on women i think we hold

27:23

so much of what's not even

27:25

ours of what was passed down from

27:27

generation to generation like this epigenetic

27:30

trauma of like don't

27:32

speak up for what you want don't even

27:34

know what you want because it's not safe to speak

27:36

up as so there's there's the loss

27:38

of of voice and of through

27:40

san of sovereignty and side of women

27:42

and so i of it as the if lacking

27:45

gates to the temple brian so

27:47

like we get right of the in there and having

27:49

and we start

27:50

relief just emotion

27:52

like you don't even have have a story or know why

27:54

this rage or this grieve for this

27:57

emotion is coming through by just

27:59

to let it come true and release it

28:01

banned the tissue of the of

28:03

the off of the opening

28:05

of the

28:06

irving starts to open and starts to

28:08

soften insights

28:09

release than when you're going

28:11

and for an intern

28:12

to go to church

28:14

had an o'clock in the opening of the cervix

28:17

come together that sake there's a stillness

28:20

like it's not fucking you know you're not

28:22

in and out the rest saying it's like you're

28:24

in that place in that point of connection

28:27

and both people right there

28:29

and you're just so president you can't be

28:31

anywhere else and there's like a a

28:34

yin tied movement

28:36

that sort of flow through your body

28:38

and just super super

28:40

magical medicinal plus it opens

28:42

the vegas nerve right so then you might

28:44

have a cry gas i'm really thrilled

28:47

laughing gas i'm release and

28:49

that just the lads

28:51

all this oxytocin through your body

28:54

which pushes out all the cortisol

28:56

the cortisol bringing the love hormone and

28:58

and pushing the stress hormone out and

29:01

leaving you feeling a leg

29:03

a whole new person after

29:05

that and i want to say to

29:07

even if you have had a hysterectomy

29:11

parcel hysterectomy the womb removed

29:13

you still have the energy

29:16

of the womb there any org and spleen

29:18

oliver am anything removed you sell energy

29:20

of it there you still access

29:23

this type of orgasm even

29:25

if you had removal of the organs

29:28

now i think it's probably more energetic

29:31

in that sense by

29:33

i've yet to do

29:34

our research and dive into that tokyo

29:36

mine

29:36

we have to crawl before we right

29:39

so i am holding onto this piece

29:41

of the preparatory

29:44

guess foundation if you will

29:46

for opening the cervix could you you mentioned

29:48

massage i want to know

29:51

how the fuck you massage your cervix because

29:53

my fingers out that and

29:55

want oh one attachment

29:57

or there's just a why you could use a dell dell

29:59

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30:02

at okay , you're a higher

30:04

a surging internally though he has

30:07

a wand i would not play internal internal

30:09

new narrative are not aware that yeah not that

30:11

kind of the baseball their original cristo

30:13

want that's one that i remember that

30:15

we have another her mother it reads as a as in made

30:18

out of a hard abs plastic

30:20

and we actually i think we of pleasure because

30:22

of your recommendation maybe we i'd ago

30:25

and it looks like the enjoy

30:27

not the pure oh on the phone one but it was

30:30

made of applause more like a lighter fluid sale

30:32

for a lot of the vibrator now or it's a non

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by running item of see this is all important

30:36

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30:40

got that was a sacred floss the sacred

30:42

spot is i'm not a movie all

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k against you gotta teach teach

30:47

me something me think of this sacred spot as

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the direct like acupuncture meridian

30:51

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that you are you aware of what the g spot as you thought

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i got that yang winner the known as the clitoral

31:10

you know it's it's i'm getting a see mine is the right now

31:13

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31:15

side the area up in in towards

31:17

the belly button really i like

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they have announced yet

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the actually showed the sacred spot is found

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so when you kind of

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started to become were energetically sensitive

34:56

and you start to make the connections that we

34:58

don't end of the tip of our fingertips

35:01

when we are playing ties right like we can

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actually feel sensation be and our skin

35:05

we start can tap into the felt

35:08

sense of that and then you apply that

35:10

when you're touching someone elses body

35:13

and , connect that to your heart's in i can start

35:15

to think okay i'm giving sacred

35:17

smarter willow what would i want willow to feel

35:20

what would i want give well from my heart to

35:22

her body i wanted to feel gorgeous

35:24

i want her to feel safe i want

35:26

her to feel like she belongs i want her to feel

35:29

embodied i want her to feel glorious

35:32

you know all these things these send through

35:34

my tights through my eyes to my words

35:37

did my heart so on and so forth so the

35:39

idea is when the user to connect

35:41

were powerfully to energy minister

35:43

to touch these energy meridian points

35:45

they start to open up into the

35:47

unfolding of that opening that

35:50

allows people to have these really big

35:52

or gastric states that tend to go

35:55

longer

35:56

they can be mine hands they

35:58

can be very overwhelming lead

36:00

to all sorts of of emotional

36:03

sensation so this is something is a button your tinder

36:05

profile i want you know such

36:07

my sacred saw i fly like

36:09

that i want yulia to touch my i

36:12

, well i'd either side is a proud

36:14

that array array

36:16

the cutler really really out of as he can't have her

36:18

release yeah i should win but with willow and

36:21

before and it inspired

36:23

a of in a was an orgasmic

36:26

and but infernal of the police in tears

36:28

as i realized realizing the way that have been

36:30

showing up for myself what are the ways i've ways

36:33

holding back are putting other people first

36:35

and insects are in the outside world in and and

36:37

and then just crying and it felt really

36:40

am deeply healing and therapeutic

36:42

and i've had sessions also able to both of work and

36:44

says psychological body workers

36:47

i workers with other hands on tonto workers and

36:49

had experience these pieces and i also

36:52

had exudes and outside of the therapeutic process

36:54

and will get to that her the animal people

36:57

to work with you know so many modalities

36:59

now but it's needed transcendent

37:01

orgasms so i hide

37:03

it's i could probably count i make

37:05

the as you define it to for folks it

37:07

was able to it will die like that that

37:09

kind of like vortex where i don't that

37:11

my definition for me is personally

37:14

i don't have don't have minutes of one long

37:17

live a mind blowing air i months

37:19

some of their planet which he

37:21

pleasurable emotion

37:24

all

37:25

worldly experience or

37:27

it like one long version of that there's a whole bunch

37:29

of them it's just your in this in this

37:31

slow to slow say is

37:34

deeply so powerful

37:36

so powerful and it's and for me when i've been

37:38

in an elmo ceiling could do it forever when

37:41

it happened when i'm when i'm in that and like this

37:43

could i do this for our young and

37:45

then something more than two sisters obviously can't

37:47

an army of the things that event of an

37:49

hour that the energy sector the with a person playing

37:51

with by i have yet to learn

37:54

how to replicate it like to hey we're going

37:56

to have the funded orgasm and

37:58

when it happened

37:59

and has only from cervical

38:02

touch sometimes has been from just detached

38:04

from like the first inch of my and

38:07

or can now and it has happened

38:09

under the influence of t

38:11

h c before it happened

38:14

under the butler hi there are

38:16

half an hour or happen said sober

38:18

but really exhausted like

38:21

didn't sleep at all the night before it

38:23

happened at behind you are high strange

38:25

how does it say hi and i'm like i

38:27

server sorry more it is anymore

38:30

either

38:30

the library

38:31

i said you know and yes i high and that

38:33

hannah in there and as also

38:35

happened during the end of a

38:37

break up when and i knew that the celestial

38:40

going to end and all the sudden that

38:42

this thing happened so for me is hop

38:44

and not from the fingers on the quit it's

38:47

some sort of internal stimulation and

38:50

sometimes it just fingers or or a

38:52

cock in the first edge and then

38:54

and sometimes it is friends and penetration

38:56

around the service but it always

38:58

seems to have like since specific

39:00

conditions and am not always says

39:03

he has one of that one of with someone's leaving and

39:06

one of them as i'm dead exhausted and

39:08

within i'm like well like don't have the wall that from suppliers

39:11

is i'm so curious about this you know

39:13

that how not to seek to me that how

39:15

does one learn and speaking

39:17

for ourselves as ourselves as the owning

39:20

people and and also the bullet to learn how

39:22

to maybe provide this year like

39:24

how one learn do that when like for me most

39:26

my stories of seem to add unless you all for you

39:28

that for me you know what it is

39:31

a good question

39:31

and i think one of the most thing

39:34

in tracking by the i love atlanta

39:36

for like a little isn't probably under ten to fifteen

39:38

times yes as

39:40

of us foreign things i think is here

39:42

wanting to create this and you lovelace

39:44

is setting the intention for and because

39:47

intention is everything in this

39:49

is whether or not and happens in

39:51

a in a particular session is not the

39:53

point but just having be intention

39:56

that that that almighty markham

39:59

through and

39:59

he this experience what's the mass

40:02

a slab of a because guys yeah did

40:04

say he now has like the divine

40:06

the divine feminine the thus shocked

40:08

t the life worth one the the

40:10

gene see as of life

40:13

it's the arrow is what creates

40:16

all of life is why we have reached for

40:18

something for someone because

40:20

there's this drive in the citizen air

40:22

the difference between intention and gold and

40:24

is v

40:25

mine because you talk a lot about her goal

40:27

people in their heads yeah you like sunny and

40:29

in beforehand but it's not like we must

40:32

have tried to i almost think it's a mistake

40:34

to go shooting for transcendent are got some okay

40:37

i , it's try and be like what you've tracked

40:39

it's sort of like this bizarre

40:42

oh visitation that just

40:45

happens during either

40:48

like something very mundane or super

40:50

extraordinary like it catches you

40:52

somewhat by surprise know you

40:54

can sort set the stage right

40:56

i'm stage right an hour and a half from taken

40:59

some x to see tonight and i'm

41:01

gonna a seven hour tantric

41:03

love making throwdown you know

41:05

and and in those altered states of

41:07

reality is when it's likely

41:10

going to get very big and spacious inside

41:13

of you you combine that with some breathing

41:15

and like really digging the person

41:17

you're with being super super present

41:19

really opening and

41:22

being aware that there's a desire

41:24

to be so open with someone

41:26

you're going to improve your chances but

41:28

i kind of think it's a mistake to go

41:30

into sexual situations with super

41:33

strong aim or goal or expectation

41:35

in a there's a saying that arm

41:38

expectations are preconceived resentment

41:40

and , i think what will have seen his

41:43

intention can be so powerful and

41:45

so powerful you say out loud what you most desire

41:48

it's super good practice yeah has it

41:50

puts you in touch a with desire but

41:52

be it starts to build a between

41:55

you and with ever is out

41:57

there that's bigger than house that has sort

41:59

of

41:59

it's own

42:01

connection to our beans into our

42:03

bodies i don't know what people call that everyone

42:05

got different name for it but i always think

42:07

of intentions like this is my desire

42:10

i'm give the jar of the the universe

42:13

a job with his desire i'm in a name

42:15

and i'm gonna send it there and now my

42:17

let it go and a given i am

42:19

i look at your will be done look so let's

42:21

say because i run a mere having

42:23

sex the i went in i obviously am

42:25

a layman of or allay woman

42:28

when it comes to some of the terminology

42:30

and so if i don't really absorbing

42:32

the information from his podcast and i want to

42:35

express my intention to my

42:37

partner the answer amy

42:39

rare but we are so you provide both you say

42:41

to me so and and i don't know how to frame

42:43

that you would have our email not quite

42:46

ashamed that think i really easy to remember

42:48

and there's so many different variations of

42:51

types of intentions that can help you think about

42:53

it but my two favorite cancer basic

42:55

an easy to remember is what when is release

42:58

a no longer serves me

42:59

what what i bring into my life that would ninjas

43:02

name in those two things kind of goes

43:04

this is this is what i want the

43:07

release and the opening of my

43:09

body to procreate with this person or

43:11

this is what is to cooperate myself

43:13

of i'm pleasure in myself and those who simple

43:16

questions basically open you up to ceremonial

43:18

space now you've dropped into more

43:20

of a sacred space just by setting

43:23

in that tone you're getting

43:25

into

43:25

your intention way to has

43:27

he said

43:28

perfectly his desire about

43:30

desire were desire gets tricky

43:33

as when we are attached to the outcome of

43:35

that desire when when i have a

43:37

desire like alan have a chance and an orgasm

43:39

with your amy i really want you to get up right

43:41

in there next to my injury like give me one of

43:43

those yeah pressure as i

43:46

know pressure on ,

43:48

is yeah but see that i am

43:50

everyone suffering a band the last

43:53

ads like when you look up with someone like why didn't you squirt

43:55

know mike wanted to go fuck yourself

43:56

like

43:59

uncommon in every like okay

44:02

to let me dirt and if

44:04

they have they have begins abuses and not

44:06

only for business owners and over under some

44:09

the way i have one question regarding

44:11

cervical orgasms okay

44:14

, anatomy an anatomically

44:16

speaking are cervix drops meaning

44:19

vulva owners during the course of

44:21

your cycle right monthly as

44:23

so in terms of accessing

44:26

cervical orgasms during times when sometimes

44:28

it is you talked about pain and sometimes incompatibility

44:31

which comes into play so it

44:34

is that something you need to work around when you're

44:37

a goal oriented a goal are non

44:39

aspiring for cervical orgasm but is it something

44:41

each consider if you want to access

44:44

this possibility of having a cervical orgasm

44:46

is is your cycle definitely yeah there's

44:48

going to be certain times of year cycle where

44:50

your whole body is more sensitive

44:53

and year

44:54

the original gonna be more sensitive and times

44:56

when the cervix rides a lower inside

44:58

of the vaginal canal

45:01

the vaginal one of the lego incomes

45:03

in room

45:03

forget room in there that is

45:06

more than a hallway i know i will when horizon

45:08

that version in a room at some everybody

45:10

my career this room for them into the mouth covered

45:13

, soon

45:17

as a whole world area i ran really

45:19

is but i'm gonna write but book called the

45:21

vagina raise from within

45:23

earlier comment he my bad

45:25

key as a , there and

45:27

story than than things going in so

45:30

there's that and then there's also when

45:33

you are in an orgasmic say

45:35

that the reading level of arousal

45:37

yeah peace arousal the womb actually

45:39

does this place bounds dip

45:42

that the round yeah so at high

45:44

levels of arousal the cervix and uterus

45:47

contract and pull up and goes up

45:49

and down so when you think about

45:51

it's there's ejaculate shin

45:54

inside of the body inside

45:56

of the vagina and kind of seats down below

45:58

and that pelvic ball and

46:00

then in this a orgasmic are

46:02

high state of arousal is that service comes

46:04

down actually slurps of the seem slow

46:07

video or yeah i know like have batted

46:10

yell marvelous business that i learning

46:12

about is my went to school for

46:14

human sexually incest san francisco say in they

46:17

were talking about how the

46:19

process i mean is also like naturals the next in

46:21

and like or diversifying would have that murder the

46:23

genetic code he me and how they're

46:25

orgasm process the belief is that because

46:28

it's contract he literally is trying

46:30

to in sperm is meant

46:32

and again we're not just thinking straight folks who

46:34

won penises and their pussies and

46:36

by it literally is signed actually like whole

46:38

up from there were through the orgasmic and

46:41

in then the divers that find the genetic code

46:43

is like but it have sex with a lot of different

46:45

people so we can keep a diver ray

46:48

, and his m as a whole

46:51

nother story out like fire garmisch

46:53

i other sites like for different types of sperm

46:55

and the whole only really really wait for yeah

46:58

i have different job oh my gosh yeah

47:00

within one him it's like an accident when load

47:03

yeah yes and if they've been

47:05

a of are met on what having sex

47:07

with multiple partners that have sperm then

47:09

that answers the sperm react

47:12

differently the that sperm is it's sharing

47:14

only they are not yet interview sherry when the iran

47:17

and and on and show about is that the women's anatomy

47:19

rather media and so this would be the sperm and egg

47:21

oriented and are members of are series

47:24

of and as something

47:26

bad mere something own doesn't have the personnel

47:28

got interview she talks about i'm

47:31

so low experiences

47:33

with cervical ,

47:36

and how to start to like prepare your body's

47:38

cause the intimacy martha

47:41

he added one of those the other night

47:44

yeah it out my little bombed out another

47:46

gonna be playing with how the other

47:48

vehicle orgasms with wonderful beautiful

47:51

people let me play with one play

47:53

with own and

47:56

it it because the cervix so in

47:58

my seen sorry to interrupt but my friends

48:00

went after the orgasm

48:03

takes place and then the cervix

48:05

opens up even more subversive

48:07

always have this the orgasm

48:09

this reverberation happens at

48:11

the cervix and then it kind of like those up

48:13

into the whole womb so in dallas

48:15

sex allergy we call it more

48:17

of a womb gotham so this even this to

48:19

cervical orgasm is sort

48:21

of

48:22

new on my horizon i've been calling

48:24

it an a a uterine orgasm for

48:26

a long time and they say in the dow

48:28

that that's the highest of all the oregon

48:31

orgasms that can have like you

48:33

can have an orgasm to your heart or

48:35

to your liver or it's your kidneys or to any

48:37

please in your body doesn't even have to be a

48:39

gland or and oregon all of

48:41

these we call superior orgasms

48:44

but the womb got some or the cervical

48:46

[unk] orgasm is considered the highest

48:49

of all of the superior orgasms

48:51

and with my point well when you say superiors

48:54

were saying that as like the most healing modalities

48:56

and so it's not like it's better like if you just

48:58

can only have a a tab , something's

49:00

wrong with you that's not what she's been limit

49:04

decide yeah not wild about the

49:06

word superior the word it was just

49:08

at [unk] su

49:09

the

49:13

i love it because that's

49:15

what it feels like to me and say good so

49:17

much more from some metal body

49:20

experience rather than just like

49:22

a localized focused point

49:25

orgasm am and

49:27

so and i think of than actually

49:29

and sort of a an identifier

49:31

that that is a transcendent orgasm that's different

49:34

link the other orgasms as that because it

49:36

feels like there's a rippling effect

49:38

that is us sen dean upward

49:40

it's not just your feeling all

49:43

is tingling sensation in your cervix

49:45

and your clutter is and it's like it's rising

49:48

up and in a ballooning up into

49:50

your body so you're feeling it in the back

49:52

your throat you're feeling it and your breath

49:54

you're feeling in your lower belly you're feeling it

49:56

your hair follicles you know every cell

49:58

you have come out of pocket are

50:01

you know where you know to browser history

50:04

me going on here he is trying to lose

50:06

control of like a lot of your

50:08

yeah well as adding some this exceeds

50:10

i had a hallows hear the oh well

50:12

as yeah for that was an bus

50:15

at the one some of the ones i've there's been deafening

50:17

like the saw beat me after

50:19

an led lab partners of the the were

50:21

like you could hold it for

50:24

me and it's yeah the all the different

50:26

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52:59

one question i had about this so

53:01

what of cervical because april question about

53:03

yeah i when i have technical it

53:06

because it's so there's the a spot

53:08

that people refer to write a

53:10

that's behind cervix is sandra your your

53:13

walls okay blaine more about this

53:15

like we're talking about a cervix there's area

53:17

of the cervix so the cervix is like a cone

53:19

shape right and depending whether you've

53:21

you've had a pregnancy that's come to term or not or

53:24

you've had an abortion or you've never been pregnant is

53:26

going to a it's going to affect the shape of your

53:28

cervix slightly so if you

53:30

take one finger or two fingers and

53:32

you get into a position that you to kind of squat

53:34

a little bit so that your cervix can be a bit

53:36

lower and you start to circle

53:39

around your cervix wasn't

53:41

going to use lube that's right yeah

53:43

and go really really like right now i'm doing it with

53:45

my fingers you all can't see it i'm going way too fast

53:48

so it's movement and

53:50

it's micro slow and your what's your feeling

53:52

for is just bringing your cervix into

53:54

shape and a lot of women are cervix

53:57

is misshapen because it's been

53:59

the have that

53:59

the afghan and pushed at him build kind of bruce

54:02

so it can be really sensitive and if

54:04

you had any kind of health

54:06

trauma or painful

54:08

abortions or we'd

54:10

all sir all the reasons there's lots of reasons

54:13

why we could have could have so caesar's

54:15

missing and in a month to one and but a

54:17

lot of pain lot of physical pain so

54:19

this is why been warmed up his own

54:22

people

54:22

than someone is able to have

54:25

a cervical orgasm it's because they are

54:27

aroused enough that

54:29

this cervix this now kind of doing

54:31

that slurping thing it up

54:33

and it moves down and you know like

54:36

it when you're when you're ah

54:38

if you are a vulva owner and you're getting

54:41

a hard one of the middle any hard

54:43

when up the middle don't really matter you know when it's

54:45

like you're really want to hard you're really a

54:47

d by be year at your own i really

54:49

i catch the that hard one of the middle you are pulling

54:51

it towards you and you like involves and even

54:54

your and golfing that thing and

54:56

you just one at all the way in that

54:58

only occurs really at peak

55:00

states of arousal for most people mecca

55:03

be mental arousal speech typically

55:05

physical arousal and so

55:07

that's like deep ,

55:09

you know those other times and it's like that

55:14

like it's like been hoped that the ass

55:16

and again it or her teenage son

55:18

and for many of us we sort of indoor that moment

55:20

until everything loosens up

55:22

so then i mean by taking

55:25

a fingers of you could use one of the ones

55:27

it's curved and just slowly

55:30

with some love and attention

55:33

going , the cervix and bringing

55:36

it back into a more smoother shape

55:38

and it could take many many cervical

55:41

like this to start of take out

55:43

some of always there at the surface

55:46

of the surface surface then it becomes

55:48

more comfortable and you

55:50

feel you anxious

55:52

about having attention at the cervix

55:54

because i think a lot of us are i've

55:57

never actually been relaxed enough

55:59

to

55:59

joy cervical attention yeah

56:02

because all it's ben is gonna eat

56:04

it in a crowded and so that's

56:06

why stillness is one of the key

56:08

elements that and starts to open up

56:11

at this cervical experience it's a lot

56:13

of stillness it's a lotta like patients

56:16

it's lot alike breath and it's a lot of curiosity

56:19

where we're sinking into our body

56:21

were allowing ourselves to fully drop

56:23

in and co like

56:26

, is this who am i let

56:29

me just

56:30

nectar this feeling right now

56:33

and they were with and nine and he the idea

56:35

you know like is it might hurt or it might

56:37

be numb or it might be funny feeling

56:39

like a key feeling and he just he stay

56:41

with that until the next sensation

56:43

arises so i think the

56:45

magic and stepping towards the cervical

56:48

experience is a lot of stillness

56:52

curiosity into a waiting until

56:54

it unfolds he adds a very very

56:56

high healing experience to

56:59

to give to yourself it's

57:01

like a deep dive into the sun

57:03

your creativity

57:05

there's no more map

57:07

potent creative organ and

57:09

the body than than the womb for us

57:11

though the owners and damn

57:14

again the womb has been removed the energy

57:16

of at of at and rare so

57:19

he still have that potent creative

57:21

lifers energy that you can tune into and

57:23

and for anyone who's never felt there's

57:26

before as like i don't really even know what

57:28

the cervix is basically you

57:30

can think about like the your whole

57:32

uterus is like a balloon and

57:34

the right at the tip for the tie of that

57:36

balloon is is the serve x

57:39

so it's more of a i'm you

57:41

know is the best and

57:42

gibson the dog

57:44

cones that you put peanut butter end yeah

57:46

they dot com yeah that's

57:48

interesting it's almost like a like a don't know

57:50

anything back or cause sometimes it's just like

57:52

one part of the kong with them and it goes down it's

57:55

like the fall a little baby com yeah

57:57

shin know so

57:59

wine indiana knowing i guess that's

58:03

a lair idea when you put your fingers

58:05

have been there and there's going

58:07

to be times as the months of like when you're

58:09

all the lady more it's and it's will

58:11

be easier to seal so you're in the shower

58:13

and you give and little squat you put one

58:15

or two fingers been you can seal

58:18

it feels like the tip the month nose

58:20

or the tip of tip chin and it's

58:22

usually a sign of soft

58:24

and around it there's like and little divert

58:26

like a little acupuncture time as

58:28

the prostate the other describe other prostate

58:31

see like a prostate yeah in edo

58:33

and yeah penis honors ass honors like the bigger know

58:35

the data in the the rest the rest and like you cheeks

58:37

nine and i have the okay so

58:39

we're we're sitting here together

58:41

there's for vulva owning owning

58:44

human and we have a lot

58:46

of hope that listen that are penis owners that

58:48

love playing with all owners they have partners

58:50

are not love or what whatever it is and

58:53

this might sound like chinese

58:56

to them rather meet reading mandarin like what the fuck

58:58

are they talking about do you have any

59:01

pointers for folks that are interested

59:03

in learning how to tap into or

59:06

i know obviously communication because ah

59:09

their bodies money about your own body

59:11

as the owner of this serve x

59:13

is important i loved the techniques

59:15

that you talked about with the gentle

59:18

soft swirling board

59:20

slow swirling so what could a penis

59:22

owner do to help

59:26

with this process of

59:29

discovering what a cervical orgasm is

59:31

and trends and ignored

59:33

as and and i wouldn't i would add onto that

59:35

someone else who doesn't even have a penis

59:37

uses using one of those ones like their

59:39

beer or wine would want anyway and i'm

59:42

sorry to bother owner

59:44

like what are those steps how

59:46

do you kind of create the space

59:48

to make that comfortable and

59:51

possible one of their

59:53

one of the amazing techniques that

59:55

source time to teaches that i love

59:58

his leg always

59:59

reading on the outside warming

1:00:02

up the vulva most of the nerve wracking thera

1:00:04

the our war a month the army or the

1:00:07

, breathing but it to

1:00:09

manage all yeah yeah a reasonable

1:00:12

to they are switching back and leave the i

1:00:14

don't go diving is and finger

1:00:20

pineapple my give it say i am

1:00:22

, a gynecological exam everyone and

1:00:25

that leg up the vulva

1:00:28

and asked permission before answering

1:00:30

he now and then when then woman and ends as

1:00:33

the receiver and so is good to practice

1:00:35

saying like i'm not ready i even as he do

1:00:37

feel ready like why not practice saying

1:00:40

not i'm not ready yet i would like

1:00:42

more stimulation on the vulva stimulation would like

1:00:44

to get more turned on before

1:00:46

you enter and

1:00:48

then even nina when you really are ready

1:00:50

then there's are section of of

1:00:53

the vault on that how happens is opening

1:00:55

at the in troy this of them front porch

1:00:58

them them of the as sherry with

1:01:00

say you know the vagina and it gets

1:01:02

kind of sucked kind so the singers can go

1:01:04

singers and then just going really

1:01:06

slow like again not

1:01:08

like i'm gonna find that survey where

1:01:11

is it it's way up and there you know just

1:01:13

letting your fingers be

1:01:15

guided by the energy in the intention

1:01:18

of like a cam open i'm cam

1:01:20

to this possibility of

1:01:23

doing like deep healing worker

1:01:25

this amazing orgasm this amazing

1:01:27

comes through but this is really

1:01:30

just about being present staying

1:01:32

with brass saying with sound staying

1:01:34

connected eye to eye with

1:01:36

whoever the receiver is that makes them

1:01:39

the on really say that of a threat has been

1:01:41

a specific physician do you recommend

1:01:43

kind of word because they can be in any of

1:01:45

the line is that i feel good friend than

1:01:47

okay if i often on the backend

1:01:49

it depends on the mood like when they're the

1:01:51

tenderness that circle like a vulnerability

1:01:54

just like a sweetness been the

1:01:56

fetal position is actually really relaxing

1:01:59

any changes in rob's the position

1:02:01

of both being able to have access to the

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g spot and the cervix and that comes

1:02:06

closer so often times that

1:02:08

can be easier access but it may not

1:02:10

be as activating right it's going to be a little more

1:02:12

chill which in this case could be really powerful

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i'm sometimes i like to be on my belly

1:02:17

and have someone entering me from behind a

1:02:20

that's a little bit harder to do this

1:02:22

cervix because the cervix is sort of in the opposite

1:02:25

direction so being on the back

1:02:27

being on your side i think our two great positions

1:02:30

think the other thing that i

1:02:32

really love for my

1:02:34

own body but i also think it's helpful

1:02:36

for all volvo owners for

1:02:39

the person who's given to just

1:02:41

be still and not do a lot movie nut

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that's really hard to do let's said

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i know that i'd be like squirrel oh

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god i like i normally that's

1:02:51

really hard for me to say oh my god

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like i mean n

1:02:55

n someone who's had the privilege to touch other

1:02:57

volvos i had no

1:02:59

idea like i

1:03:01

thought i was being still but i

1:03:03

was in to you know i honestly sincerely

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but i was being still but like

1:03:08

there's a lot of energy up there my hand

1:03:10

is a mind of it's own so i will often switch

1:03:12

to them if you're right users left

1:03:15

ah says it has

1:03:17

a last your hand of intuition yes

1:03:19

and it anymore i am a happy of

1:03:22

your dominant hand can have can of it's own

1:03:24

were just thinks it has to do something

1:03:26

you're either leave your less dominant

1:03:29

hand is really great for this

1:03:31

april injury and injury guess is that from

1:03:33

second rate

1:03:34

the i don't work out of later

1:03:37

right like a six year old right

1:03:39

now yourself and i

1:03:41

right i to my or

1:03:43

a to resuscitate him and

1:03:44

though and men have the receiver

1:03:46

to the movies now as

1:03:49

the receiver we it's hard to like

1:03:52

so damn sometimes sensation

1:03:54

that smelling were in a perfect aim of our family

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stick myself a thread on your fingers in

1:03:59

else is

1:03:59

right on man a strap on you're wearing like

1:04:02

that says it's in because you don't always have

1:04:04

that we get really comfortable in aware

1:04:06

of anatomy and i think sometimes

1:04:08

litter boxes tipton tilted

1:04:11

uterus uterus can get tilt

1:04:13

toward the tell both

1:04:14

or a over to the left over to

1:04:16

the right

1:04:16

and can be a little bit

1:04:18

security kind of find that connection

1:04:21

but again if he just allow the intention

1:04:24

to find mechanics rapport you rather than

1:04:26

you doing it let it do

1:04:28

you say because they this is

1:04:30

it's allowing you to sink into

1:04:32

your body and try to get less

1:04:34

mental about it so it helps

1:04:37

me go okay be in your pelvis

1:04:40

leah be in your hips leah

1:04:42

arts and move like play

1:04:44

with contraction me bearing down right

1:04:46

well sometimes oh guy and

1:04:48

and other times i'm doing subtle micro

1:04:51

moon a sort of just adjusted

1:04:53

listening my finals and i'm really trying to

1:04:55

tune in and then for my heart and

1:04:58

for my partners or wow all i

1:05:00

think that might be the temp this

1:05:02

, know to kind of give me that listen i

1:05:04

was none of said the play play every second

1:05:06

because i got a minute it's just think

1:05:09

and but it's it's kind of like oh

1:05:11

going on an adventure and we're going to discover this

1:05:13

together what are feeling what am i

1:05:16

and and then once you can get the lay of the land

1:05:19

of any cuban building upon that and then your next

1:05:21

experience is gonna be different from that and then your next

1:05:23

experiences going to differently from that

1:05:25

every experiences difference so

1:05:27

i think

1:05:28

hum added in the beginning was

1:05:30

just a lot of curiosity and

1:05:33

allow yourself give yourself permission

1:05:35

as a receiver to do a lot of our chain and

1:05:37

movie and then trim your nails fire

1:05:40

have added you and your final

1:05:42

nail funny just put on a what are we the i

1:05:44

agree but do think glove so you actually

1:05:46

delegates on that and then you

1:05:48

put cotton balls on the tips of our side

1:05:51

the glance the got another third set some make

1:05:53

sense out of in a nails a nails

1:05:55

rains a gray she's of this

1:05:57

is a genius and to come to strap on it i and away

1:05:59

no essential people yeah i think about it i'm like

1:06:02

i felt some and snag i ,

1:06:04

hand at once the weapons reminded of

1:06:07

married with the close this since of but

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with the term and be

1:06:11

an easy dancing you're being dance

1:06:14

by the gray were yeah

1:06:17

i don't know i both i've experienced that

1:06:19

for sir before but i remember letter that i don't understand

1:06:21

he dances is unless it's dances music moves

1:06:23

you and you're not actually ah you're not the mardi gras

1:06:26

a know it it's almost like he

1:06:28

has almost red hot chili peppers is as an outsider

1:06:30

new you don't know that you're not like that vaguely

1:06:32

now i'm right left right left her

1:06:34

room hips move in the in his great movie

1:06:37

his more like my body's is listening and

1:06:39

doing things because i'm being dance

1:06:41

but you're talking about it being deafness it more of it

1:06:43

in his central in his way and you're in that

1:06:45

transcendent essay and it is follow

1:06:47

the thread and where one am also hearing is it

1:06:49

might happen might have in the next say

1:06:52

and if it does happen a mile am i now have in the

1:06:54

next time rhino it's always changing

1:06:56

ever evolving but a key piece here

1:06:58

and i'm here is this a slowness stillness

1:07:00

curiosity presence obvious

1:07:03

is a huge part of it safety is a big part

1:07:05

of it as well and then just kind of like

1:07:07

following this thread and allowing

1:07:09

and setting an intention that isn't about goals

1:07:11

but is about speaking desires

1:07:14

of my summary or a number for ask people how can

1:07:16

humor video that leaking desires

1:07:18

is okay to be like i have a desire to experience

1:07:20

chance and the orgasm a cervical orgasm

1:07:22

an are not set on it and they

1:07:24

we have the two questions that is shared earlier that will be

1:07:27

and is shown us because they dance and

1:07:29

because or any out of time you too

1:07:32

have your api can ask you to

1:07:34

also both individually work with people

1:07:37

in person and online

1:07:40

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leah you should if you're not aside i

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when i'm like went because she yeah so

1:08:11

i do coaching an antique people on private retreats

1:08:14

and i teach online courses group courses

1:08:16

and and and of however

1:08:18

yeah so you have to a

1:08:21

few days with me and i'm

1:08:23

and yes i can find can don't

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go diving and have done i no

1:08:30

longer offer all the cards so

1:08:32

you have to do and too late

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but i felt in a gay

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so yeah my

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1:09:02

how to use sexual energy we

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call it jing ke in the dallas

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system shock t in contrast

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system how to use this i'm

1:09:11

potent life force energy

1:09:13

the back creates new by is

1:09:15

that we have so many amazing

1:09:17

access to

1:09:19

you had to create whatever in his

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to what people

1:09:25

, know what's the difference between the downtown

1:09:27

toronto i get that question allied in

1:09:30

lilies that hunter that i teach it's really

1:09:32

more about taking sexual energy and using

1:09:35

it to help heal ourselves emotionally and

1:09:37

then to to transcend that into and a weekend

1:09:40

process and and weekend more weekend

1:09:42

experiences of the presents whereas i

1:09:44

doubt he said same sexual energy and

1:09:46

then uses it to apply vitality

1:09:49

to the bodies were even heal yourself from

1:09:51

low libido and different illnesses

1:09:54

and you can really strengthen your longevity

1:09:57

i with your life and alzheimer's

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and

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the man in every morning only other

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and he's really nice it all and eventually

1:10:05

fantastic , and i want everyone

1:10:07

out there that is unfamiliar with

1:10:09

either of those methodology is

1:10:11

an ancient practices to know that they're

1:10:14

not talking about penetration

1:10:16

and said let it it is involving

1:10:18

a lot of exchanges of energy contra

1:10:20

can just be holding each other

1:10:23

and my gazing and and tao

1:10:25

te literally the be found everything i buy

1:10:27

and has to be done by yourself as i know

1:10:30

partners are quite likely how about white

1:10:32

time to though and is not some sort of

1:10:34

because i remember my mom's

1:10:36

ah as she had some of book when i was

1:10:38

younger that was about tantric

1:10:40

sex and i was like probably a nine years

1:10:42

old and she probably doesn't even know that i i

1:10:45

had access to that but as ago looks

1:10:47

like it always was always about a

1:10:49

man and a woman and they were having

1:10:52

sounded like everybody i've repossessions

1:10:54

and rilo that's not what it's about

1:10:56

because is why i always

1:10:58

almost pigeonholed myself into thinking that i wasn't

1:11:01

a person that was capable of having tantric

1:11:03

sex more taoist sex or

1:11:05

because i was i was thinking i was at where we are hip

1:11:07

enough hippie enough as am

1:11:10

so mainstream understand commissioners down

1:11:12

not just getting with now

1:11:14

i'm out loud so thank you

1:11:16

though for a night i think you to a

1:11:19

as a whole having a podcast siberia

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that's rad so so you will

1:11:36

oh thank you leon have enough for

1:11:39

human they've only a more

1:11:41

we we your wells remove

1:11:44

any time there is some yoga woo

1:11:46

woo yoga movement as say this is the follow us

1:11:48

who we are going have some clips on instagram

1:11:50

of this if you want to who were actually talking

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as we have some set several

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now i'd i'd like

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the eighteen year old lot i

1:12:02

see and they love talking shit so i

1:12:04

have some props because it's we think

1:12:06

it's funny and we love each and every

1:12:08

one of you are are are handled

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i use it as the for same sex you'll find as also

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cervical orgasms and transcendental

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i'll get it right at some points are a job

1:12:32

that's really all love each and one you in

1:12:34

this room and out there in the

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vortex that is not my cervix but

1:12:38

that is use yes such a service is

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nice this we all wanna get

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