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I got there and they
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don't allow you to have bras in the psych ward, like
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they don't allow you to have a bra because you
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can strangle yourself with it. allow
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you to have a sports bra, but I didn't, I mean,
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I had just come from the office, so I didn't have
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any, I didn't have anything. I had a real proper
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bra, so, so they took it away.
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was like, okay, stand
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here, saggy. I'm not a small person. I will say
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that I was saggy just the whole
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time I was there. All right. Whatever
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welcome to another episode. Today.
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We have Tanushree Sengupta
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Tanushree is into biking
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and baking and reading. she was a mechanical
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engineer, turned industrial designer,
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turned high school math teacher in
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New York city. She is also
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the founder and host of the Desi
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condition podcast, which is a platform to speak
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more openly about mental health taboos in
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the south Asian community and explore why
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stigma exists and how
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to upturn it. Welcome Tanushree
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to the show.
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Oh man. I don't even know what I can add. You already
1:25
know my life story. Like basically my life
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story is that crazy career trajectory,
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but I am happy to be
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Yeah. I mean, that's amazing.
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curious to know, how did you get
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into the mental health space
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from being an engineer or designer to now
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a teacher? I know these are your
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day jobs and then like you also
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do your mental health advocacy your
1:46
podcast. That's like our night job
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My night job, my nights and weekends job.
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I don't have a life outside of working
1:53
all the time constantly. no,
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so I got into it because, well, I, I always
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kind of had some kind of mental health, like
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thing going on. I was about to say disaster, but I
2:02
thought maybe I should be a little bit nicer to myself. There
2:05
was always some kind of disaster, right.
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Good for
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Yeah, no,
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so I, there was always something going on. I
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always just knew something was off. So I
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was diagnosed later in life.
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So like only a couple of years ago with dysthymia,
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is, not major depressive disorder, it's
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persistent depressive disorder. I think
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they say major depression can affect,
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at some point I think like a 25%
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of adult Americans will experience that.
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Something like that, like as a much bigger percentage, whereas
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persistent depressive disorder is much less common.
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It's like one or 2%. because it's something
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that is often, it, I,
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I think that it can be doable. I don't know too much about like
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the bio chemistry of it, but, I'm a
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math person, but I, I believe
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that it can be developed. I'm not sure,
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but from what I understand, it's something
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that is genetic. It's like something that you're very much born
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with. And so like that, that was the chemistry of my
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brain. Like from day one, I,
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what happens is you have this consistent,
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like underlying level of depression, and
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then you just have like episodes where
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it gets really bad.
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okay.
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I could say that I've never not
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been depressed. So I don't know what it's, I don't
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know what it's like to not be depressed. So that's
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where I was at that point. And finally,
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like, somehow I started realizing that for
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like a lot of different reasons. and
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I was like, well, maybe
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so there was a turning point, right. I had a suicidal
3:28
episode. and that, that
3:30
was really the turning point for me because I thought, well,
3:32
maybe this could have been avoided, but I don't know.
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I don't know how it could have been avoided, et cetera, that it was just,
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I was just reflecting on my past. Why did it take
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so long? Like I knew I had a lot of issues before,
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but I chose not to do anything about it.
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and then, then I started thinking about. My,
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my, culture, I guess my
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family, and just thinking about my background
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and that's, that's why I run the Desi condition.
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Like that's why it's a south Asian podcasts, because I think
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when you think about de-stigmatizing, when
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you talk about de-stigmatizing, you really have to talk about
3:59
culture. And so for now, I
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mean, who knows, like what my advocacy
4:04
will look like in the future. but it's
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been very much focused on the south Asian space
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and then sometimes I'll write articles or do like,
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like a talk or something somewhere. And
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that is much more like a much
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broader spectrum, or it's not
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just limited to south Asian, but at least when
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I podcast it is specifically south Asian
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and that's, that's why that happened. so yeah,
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I just got into it because I was like, well, I went through
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these things. I'm sure that a lot of other people
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are doing the same thing. I'm experiencing the same
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thing and let's just like dissect
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it, and figure out even why
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it exists, like the stigma and figure
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out, kinda, I think about it as like, what's
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the word I'm thinking of a scenario map. Scenario
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mapping different people's, mental health stories,
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hopefully just kind of help each other out.
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speaks so much, I think to both Angie
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and I, because that's why we are doing a
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podcast. And as,
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east Asian, as like Chinese we
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also come from a place where
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mental health is not prioritized. not
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only do we talk about it, we
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avoid talking about it.
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if some auntie or some uncle.
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You know, is
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it experienced trauma? They either
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just laugh about it or, or
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we, we just don't talk about this person in the family,
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as kids, we see that,
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and then we emulate that. And so we're like, oh,
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we learned that it's not okay
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to talk about this. So then we end
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up internalizing all of our pain and
5:29
trauma and frustration. then
5:31
now as millennials,
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we're adults now, and we're like, well, what the fuck
5:36
happened? And I got lost stuff
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brewin' and I think we need to talk
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about it. So all the things that you had
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just said, I think really resonated. okay,
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this is the first time I've heard of this dysthymia
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So I did a bit of Googling and I got basically
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what you just said. You mentioned
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you just got diagnosed a few years ago.
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But then there was a suicidal episode. Was
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this before or after, how did you get to a place
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where you went and
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asked support and ask for help? Like
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what's happening to me.
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Oh, I didn't ask. I didn't, I was
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taken, I was whisked away because
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I was, because I was having these suicidal
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ideations and I had plans and I was going
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to care like act on those plans. so,
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the weird thing is, I don't know if this happens in
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Canadia, but police show
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up anyway,
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Yes.
6:25
police came, that happens there
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Yeah.
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Makes no sense, not mental health professionals.
6:30
but whatever. So the police came, they were, they
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were super nice about it. and then they,
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I guess, made the decision to call the ambulance
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because they are health professionals, whatever.
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don't know, whatever. I'm just lucky that they were
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like good, nice people. Right. anyway,
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so they, they, called the ambulance. I was there,
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I would think to the hospital and they were like, we
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can either like force you
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to go. Like, by sedating
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you, or you can just choose to do. And I was like, eh,
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I'm just gonna, I'm just gonna walk in there. It's fine.
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because they, they did me and they realized like,
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no, this, this woman seems like she's
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might hurt herself. So, so yeah, so
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I was admitted to a psych
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ward for a little bit under a week. And
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I had known full well at that point that
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I was depressed. I, that I had
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a problem. I just kind of thought I could manage it on
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my own. And then, that happens, obviously
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something peaked. So, then
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that's where, like we were talking about it and they figured
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out that no, actually like you have thing
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called dysthymia. Yeah. So that's how I learned
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about it.
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Okay. First of all, you were given the option
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of being sedated or not being sedated.
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and clearly if you're in a place
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where you're about to do harm to yourself,
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that is not a calming
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It was after I got to the emergency room that
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they were like, okay, we've decided that you really need to
7:44
be admitted. So either you can like,
7:46
come like actually walk with
7:48
us there or like we were going
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to have to sedate you. You seem like a smart person, just
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come.
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just that experience alone seems really traumatic
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just listening to you. was
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also, to a
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psych ward before and same
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thing. Like it, it wasn't
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a place where I chose to go in. It
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was placed where there they think wasn't
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causing harm to myself. They afraid
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that I was going to cause harm to others. And
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so I was 11
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or 12 at that time.
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And I was in elementary school
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and basically I
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was acting out a lot. From my
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own shit that I was going through and
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they're like, oh, okay, well, it seems
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like you're a mean person, so
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we're just going to take you in and call your parents.
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And then next thing I know I was whisked
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off into the emergency room and
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I was there for two weeks.
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oh, wow.
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I'm like, yeah, feel you.
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Oh my God. And you were 11, 12 years old.
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That is a really scary a
8:52
kid, that's.
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it's very traumatic. We did talk about it
8:55
and like episode two in five,
8:57
I believe. And I remember one of the things
8:59
that I pointed out, so. The
9:01
action or the situation that made the teachers
9:04
go, Hey, this girl is trouble. We need to send
9:06
her to the psych ward to make sure she's not a psychopath.
9:08
Uh, was the fact that there was a girl
9:10
who was bullying Kristy and Kristy
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decided to retaliate and like attack
9:15
her, but didn't actually do any physical
9:17
harm. Just try to, like, I don't know, like,
9:19
you know, like when Homer Simpson grabs Bart
9:22
and kind of like shake them like that, that's basically
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what Kristy was doing.
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That's actually what I
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yeah. That's like, so
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I guess, because it was the action of like on the throat
9:31
that made people go, whoa, and I pointed
9:33
it out like, Hey, if you guys were boys,
9:35
do you think it would have been treated the same? And
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honestly, I don't think there'll be. Yeah,
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because this was like, what 2001, 2002.
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And just, everything was still very things
9:45
are slightly better now, but things were, yeah.
9:49
Things were bad. Like I know you're an educator
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and that's not something you would ever do to,
9:53
to your kids, like your students. And,
9:56
Kristy works in healthcare and she
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would never forcibly ask somebody if they want
10:00
to be sedated. And I think that just points
10:02
to really the fact that, Hey,
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these are our individual stories. We all have
10:06
these, experiences on the good
10:08
and the bad side of mental health
10:10
and mental health care. but Hey, look,
10:13
if everybody has a story and everybody's
10:15
story is so different, it means it's
10:17
a systemic issue. And
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that's exactly why we're all here.
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Yeah, exactly.
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What was that experience like for you when
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you were admitted into the hospital
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it was really weird. Like
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I just remember, so I remember my
10:32
first night there, it was a Thursday evening.
10:34
I was still like in my work clothes and,
10:37
I got there and they
10:39
don't allow you to have bras in the psych ward, like
10:41
they don't allow you to have a bra because you
10:43
can strangle yourself with it. allow
10:45
you to have a sports bra, but I didn't, I mean,
10:48
I had just come from the office, so I didn't have
10:50
any, I didn't have anything. I had a real proper
10:52
bra, so, so they took it away.
10:55
was like, okay, stand
10:57
here, saggy. I'm not a small person. I will say
10:59
that I was saggy just the whole
11:01
time I was there. All right. Whatever. So,
11:04
me being braless by the way, side note is not
11:06
a comfortable thing. Like I know a lot of girls love that. Not
11:08
comfortable for me. Like too
11:10
much here for that to be comfortable.
11:12
then anyways, so,
11:15
Yeah. W it was, it was a weird
11:17
braless experience for me. remember
11:19
getting there the first day like, my,
11:23
so, like I had roommates because I was in like
11:25
the, I guess, lower threat
11:28
level of the psych ward.
11:31
so I had a roommate, but, I remember
11:33
her just like staring at me,
11:35
watching me sleep. And I was just like,
11:37
totally fine with it. But any,
11:40
any other time, like if I'm in,
11:42
I mean, I grew up in New York city. So like, if somebody
11:44
is looking at me for a second too long in the subway, I'm
11:46
like, what the fuck? Like, where are you looking
11:48
at? Who's this person, like, I'm about to start
11:51
a fight, it
11:53
was just like, that's fine. I'm sorry. She's like, watch
11:55
me eat breakfast. I was like, it's cool. She probably
11:57
needs to do that. It's all right. She's
12:00
got a reasons. So it was very
12:02
much like just casual insouciance
12:04
the whole time throughout. And I
12:07
made friends there. Actually switched
12:09
roommates at one point and it was this girl
12:11
who was sleeping and she woke up and she
12:13
just immediately started talking about Harry Potter and I'm like,
12:15
I'm with it. So I
12:18
keep in touch with her. And there's this other person that,
12:20
that I met there. yeah, no,
12:22
I, it was, making a sound like it was like this,
12:24
this trip. No, it was not like this
12:26
Yeah.
12:26
we went on, but yeah, it
12:28
was, I don't know. it was kind
12:31
of a blur because I feel like I remember,
12:33
I think that you would imagine someone
12:35
would sit there and be very
12:38
reflective and try to like analyze.
12:40
And there was definitely that happening, but there
12:42
was also a lot of me reading,
12:44
like children's novels because there are slim
12:47
pickings in the hospital library.
12:49
Like I read tuck everlasting. And
12:52
just stuff like that.. Like, you don't have technology,
12:54
you just kind of like live. So sometimes, like there was
12:56
an ice cream night and I was like, I'm living for this,
12:58
like this, this is my ice cream night this is thing
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that's happened to me.
13:02
Wow. That's. Wow.
13:04
what was the hardest part of it
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it was really tough. But then at the same time, I
13:08
remember just like laughing and joking
13:10
with people. We were just like playing board games. Like I'm
13:12
really making a sound like it was fun. It was not fun.
13:16
I remember just like being so numb
13:18
that I didn't know how to like be sad,
13:21
properly sad about it. So I'm still like, yeah,
13:23
it was definitely a bad experience cause it was numb. I
13:25
knew that it was serious in the back of my mind. Like I knew
13:27
that this is very serious. I have to take this seriously, but
13:30
I wasn't ready to take it seriously until
13:32
after I left the ward
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after. It was a whole different scenario,
13:38
very different person. So after
13:40
I left, remember
13:42
going into the office for like weeks
13:45
and weeks at a time, I would sit
13:47
there, maybe work for like an hour or two total
13:50
and just stare at the wall. And then I went home,
13:52
I took the bus home, got
13:54
home, turned on my TV and stared at the TV. Like
13:56
I just, I just was existing. I was just a shell
13:58
of a person at that point. and that lasted
14:00
for months because that's when I was finally like, okay,
14:02
I'm back in the real world. And
14:05
I don't know how to do this. And,
14:08
and I, I know that I don't want
14:10
to leave. I don't want to die. I just
14:12
also don't want to live, you know, that
14:14
feeling. So that was
14:17
existing was hard. Just simple things
14:20
were hard.
14:20
I hear you and I'm saying
14:23
this in a way where I'm, I'm like,
14:26
I hear what you're feeling, but I also
14:28
acknowledge that every person's experience
14:30
with depression and with their own mental health has also
14:32
different. A couple months ago,
14:34
I was in this very
14:36
depressive state where I, what
14:39
you had just said, I, I didn't
14:41
want to die, but I also didn't want to live
14:44
and I remember during that
14:46
time, I thought about admitting
14:48
myself back into the hospital because
14:50
I remembered that when I first went into
14:52
the hospital. Yeah. I,
14:56
I watched beauty and the beast I read
14:58
Nancy drew book in there, you know,
15:00
we played board games and I had
15:02
three meals every day brought
15:05
to me. I didn't have to think about all those things.
15:07
And yeah, it sounds like it's a
15:09
good time when we say it like this, but there's
15:11
also the really traumatic, scary stuff
15:13
as well. Like all the doctors
15:15
and people talking to you and
15:17
Yeah.
15:18
and all of those things. But, but
15:21
the, the part of the
15:23
memory of being in the hospital
15:25
was watching a lot
15:27
of movies was like talking
15:29
to these kids and, trying to be friends
15:31
with them. And a couple
15:34
months ago, I thought I'm like, I kind
15:36
of want to do that again because I cannot function
15:38
in this reality right now. I can't function in
15:40
my society I just
15:42
want to be put in a place where I don't really have to think,
15:45
and I don't really have to function the way that
15:47
I'm supposed to function
15:49
and that made me want to go back to the hospital
15:52
because I wanted to be in a place
15:54
where it was like simpler times where I can just watch
15:56
Disney movies and it will be okay.
15:59
Yeah, well, I mean, wow, you got movies. I didn't have
16:01
the luxury of movies. I
16:07
had tucked over the last thing, which
16:09
I remember I read in fifth grade and I thought it was just the greatest
16:11
love story of all time. And then I read it in the psych
16:14
ward and I was like, this is a 15 year old
16:16
and an 18 year old in love with each other. This is
16:18
kind of weird and problematic. That
16:20
was just like very critical of that. It was like word,
16:22
instead of thinking about my own problems. So thinking about this
16:24
book. Yeah, no, no,
16:26
we very much knew that it was, it
16:28
sounds nice, but when we were there, we were very,
16:31
there was a lot of like dark humor
16:33
over there. Yeah, which I kind
16:35
of enjoyed because we can't make that kind of, those
16:37
kinds of jokes outside of a psych ward. It's a
16:39
very special brand of comedy,
16:42
where we're like, yeah, you know, we're in, we're
16:44
in a resort, like all inclusive
16:46
there's food, there's everything like, you know,
16:48
So after you got diagnosed and
16:51
that was when you started to feel
16:53
this level of like non-existent
16:56
ness, how did you
16:59
overcome period
17:01
of time?
17:02
Yeah. So I,
17:05
it wasn't even the diagnosis. The diagnosis
17:07
definitely helped because I was like, okay, this is starting
17:09
to make sense. and it helped
17:11
to know that I. There,
17:14
there is kind of a way out
17:16
of it. Like I could do therapy, so I was going
17:18
to therapy and I was like trying to find medications
17:20
and stuff. my first,
17:23
Ooh, this is, this was a major setback for
17:25
me, but my first experience. So they
17:27
set you up with the therapist, before you
17:29
leave. So the therapist they set me up with
17:31
was within their, their system. So
17:34
I visited her. It was, I want
17:36
to say like four days after I left
17:39
the psych ward and she was awful.
17:41
she was awful. I told her that
17:44
I was just like talking to her about my history with
17:46
depression and suicidal thoughts and stuff. I told her,
17:48
like I had had suicidal thoughts before. Like I was nine
17:50
years old, the first time that happened. And
17:52
I told her about
17:55
that and what I was thinking, what my plan was and like
17:57
how I'd acted on it. I,
17:59
like, I won't get too much into like the details
18:01
of that, but basically
18:04
like I was using nine year old. To
18:06
try to like harm myself.
18:09
And it didn't work because I was nine years old and I didn't know
18:11
what I was doing. And that's perfectly possible for a nine-year-old.
18:14
she like, kinda laughed after
18:16
about it it was very much
18:18
not okay
18:19
oh, my goodness.
18:20
She was like, oh, so like, what'd
18:22
you do the next day? Like you just went back to school and
18:24
I'm like, well, I mean, what do you want me to do? I'm nine years
18:26
old. I don't have any over where
18:28
I go. My mom took me to school, so that's where I wanted
18:31
to go. Cause that's what I did next. so
18:33
that was a setback. I was
18:35
like, wow. Like I'm at a point where I'm finally telling
18:37
somebody that this actually happened to me as
18:39
a child. And like,
18:42
was just getting laughed at, she like kind of smirked at me. She didn't
18:44
like laugh out loud, but she was definitely
18:46
smirking. so that was
18:48
Okay.
18:49
people be careful with your therapist out there.
18:51
I think there'll be in general is always a good
18:53
idea, but like. If
18:55
somebody, if a therapist makes you feel
18:57
less, like you got switch or you can always switch
18:59
therapists, just switch.
19:01
Yeah, I think that's really, it's really good
19:03
that you advocate for yourself like that. And like when
19:05
she did that, you're like, okay, no, this is not okay. And
19:07
I think a lot of people, who are in vulnerable
19:09
spots, like, especially if they're just kinda
19:11
like going with whatever other people are telling
19:14
them to do, you wouldn't know to stand up
19:16
for herself like that. And yeah. Like anything
19:18
in life, like there are good and there
19:20
are. And there are good therapists
19:22
and there are bad therapists, unfortunately.
19:25
but that's, I can't believe she's marked that's.
19:28
exploring out. Okay. And it's lucky that I've
19:30
always had like an attitude about other
19:32
people giving me shit. I'm like, I'll abuse myself as
19:34
much as I can, but like with other people
19:36
try with me, no, fuck that. Like no
19:39
only I have the right to hurt myself. You
19:41
don't backwards
19:44
logic, but that that's how it was. But for
19:46
anybody else, that is somebody that isn't maybe isn't
19:48
like that. Like, I, I can only imagine
19:50
how bad that could have been. So
19:52
then. Yeah. So I think
19:55
like that was, that was definitely really hard. And
19:57
then just, it was, it was just trying
19:59
to spend, I just spent the next few months
20:01
trying to reckon with this fact that I'm,
20:04
I consider myself a pacifist. I've
20:06
always I've I don't think I've ever had a violent
20:08
urge. Very truly. I don't think I've ever had
20:10
a violent urge. Like my, my revenge
20:13
fantasies are, people are like, oh, I'm gonna pour coffee
20:15
on your laptop. Like, they're not even real, you know,
20:18
not like violent things.
20:20
I'm like, oh, get your drawerstuck. I
20:22
will like put gum in your pockets. They're not real
20:24
things. Right. Kristy's
20:27
like cracking up at me. Yeah.
20:32
But like, I don't have violent thoughts, I
20:34
had this extremely violent thought about
20:36
myself. And I just couldn't reckon with that because
20:38
it was like an identity thing too. Like I, I,
20:41
I, I pride myself in my peaceful tendencies.
20:44
and so that was hard for me too,
20:46
because I was like, why, why did I let myself
20:48
be the exception as a self hate really? That. one
20:50
thing that helped obviously like things like therapy,
20:53
whatever helped, but, the starting
20:55
the podcast helps because it
20:58
really just helped me connect to my surroundings
21:01
my roots like the people
21:03
around me and I was started to meet people. And I think
21:05
like when you're depressed, you feel
21:07
like you're very alone and you feel
21:09
like you're the only one going through it. And just
21:12
for me, best thing, the
21:14
best antidote to that is always just to
21:16
reach out whether it's like people or even
21:19
just nature, just going outside and existing
21:21
in the world. Like, I, I think that
21:23
it's very easy to just live
21:25
in your own universe when
21:28
you're in that head space. So I just needed to get
21:30
out of it.
22:32
And do you mind me asking you what it was like
22:34
with your family and friends once they found
22:36
out that you were
22:37
yeah. So, it was, it
22:39
was. You know, it was something that I said
22:42
maybe a little bit too casually. So
22:45
for the first couple of months afterwards,
22:47
like I was just taught, I
22:49
was like talking about it. Like I knew that it was something
22:51
that was kind of heavy and I probably shouldn't talk about
22:54
it. But if, if a friend happened to be in touch
22:56
with me, happened to reach out. I was like,
22:58
oh yeah, this thing happened to me, la dee da
23:00
whatever, no big deal. I
23:02
didn't think about the effect that that would have on other people.
23:05
So, I mean, now I think
23:07
about it. So obvious if a friend comes up to me and tell me like,
23:09
Hey, I want through this thing, I, I would definitely
23:11
feel some type of way about it. Right. But I
23:13
just didn't think about that. so I
23:16
remember I told a friend of mine
23:18
and she didn't really, I think
23:20
she didn't necessarily know like to
23:22
follow up with me about it. Like, she was definitely checking
23:25
in on me and stuff, but, we didn't like
23:27
sit and talk about my feelings. It was more like she was there as company,
23:29
which is like, which was good. Like I needed that. It
23:31
was her birthday came up like three months later
23:34
and you know how girls get drunk
23:36
and we're just like, reallylovey doveywith
23:39
each other. And we're like, oh my God, I love you. And
23:41
we're crying and we're happy. So like, we were
23:43
doing that. And then suddenly we were sad
23:45
awww
23:45
or like, oh my God, I love her. And
23:48
she's like, oh my God. You know, like
23:50
I couldn't, I couldn't do anything
23:52
for like three days. And I was like, huh, that
23:55
makes sense. Like, I would have felt, I w
23:57
I would have felt the same way if she had turned around and said the same
23:59
thing to me too. so I just, I
24:01
was, I just didn't even, I, this is what I
24:03
mean. I mean, I needed to think outside
24:06
of my own universe, I didn't even stop
24:08
to think about what would happen, like to other
24:10
people who heard this about me. Like I
24:12
figured, okay, well, I didn't die, so
24:15
everyone's fine. No,
24:17
like there's more levels in that.
24:19
Yeah, I, you know what, that's the really
24:21
hard part. when I was going through like
24:23
this really rough patch for myself as well, it
24:25
was kind of like shortly before I was diagnosed with bipolar
24:28
and same thing. I went through this really depressed
24:31
episode and there were a couple of people, including
24:34
Kristy, who are really there for me.
24:36
Kristy was really good at handling it because you know, she's
24:38
been a mental health expert, so she was
24:40
11.
24:41
Not an expert.
24:42
you you, have been in the realm of mental health
24:44
space. Yeah. Since you were 11.
24:47
Uh, but yeah, other people around me, they didn't really know
24:49
like how to help. What check-in
24:52
and stuff like that. And, but I did have
24:54
a couple friends who told me that it was exhausting
24:56
to be my friend
24:57
oh my God.
24:58
and I was, and that I was selfish and
25:00
of course, for good reasons, they are no longer friends.
25:03
Like I'm no longer friends with them, but I did
25:05
think about it after the friendships
25:07
ended, because when, we're depressed
25:10
and when we're in that space where like, just
25:12
trying to stay alive, the last
25:14
thing we're going to think about is how we're
25:16
affecting other people. Cause we're just like
25:18
trying to keep our nose above the water
25:21
so that we can survive another day that
25:23
we forget, like, oh, and I think to the
25:25
people who might not as be understanding,
25:28
or maybe, maybe they're not as, well-versed
25:31
in that area, it might come off really
25:33
selfish. Cause like we don't really care. Anything
25:35
else, except to type of like, Hey, I'm just, I
25:38
need to like, make my bed and just like go
25:40
lie on the couch for a bit. Right? Yeah.
25:42
So the fact that I think
25:44
you recognize that from your friend being
25:46
like, oh my God, like I couldn't sleep for three days.
25:48
I think that's a, that's a really good revelation
25:51
to kind of pull us out of that
25:53
hole. Do you think that helped kind of pull
25:55
you out of that hole a little bit?
25:57
Yeah, definitely. I mean, in the beginning
25:59
I just kept talking about it because I gave no
26:01
fucks and I had no filter. Right. But
26:04
after that happened, like I started being more cautious
26:06
about it and I was like, all right. It just made me
26:08
want to connect more,
26:10
like, just keep reaching out. Whether it's like,
26:12
like I traveled a bit after that. I
26:14
was like making new friends. I started podcasting.
26:16
I was just like, I just need to ground myself.
26:19
And you'd like to it's like, I imagined myself
26:21
as a tree with roots coming out and just trying to
26:23
like grab onto the earth. Like,
26:25
I feel like that's what I was
26:26
Hmm. I like that. imagery
26:29
It makes me wonder now because
26:32
I, as a mental health advocate,
26:35
try to speak about mental health. Very
26:37
openly candidly
26:39
and very like, I don't give a fuck.
26:41
This is what's happening. Like I
26:43
have depression, you know, I, I
26:45
have an anxiety attack right now. Like,
26:48
I will just speak to it as if
26:51
it is as
26:53
if it's okay. Oh God, no, I'm uncomfortable.
26:55
This is great. Every time I'm uncomfortable. I'm
26:57
like, this is good stuff because our
26:59
podcast this is about. But I try
27:01
to speak it in a way where I'm not making
27:04
it a thing, because I feel like mental
27:06
health, people make it a thing. Like
27:08
they were like ooo mental health, you know?
27:11
And so the way I approach it
27:13
with my community, my surroundings,
27:15
my friends, my workplace. I
27:18
speak to it as if it's any other
27:20
illness. Like had a cold
27:22
or I had a flu, or I went to the hospital
27:24
because I had meningitis, you know, I,
27:27
I had depression. I needed to stay,
27:29
stay in and I needed to take care of myself.
27:31
It's it's the same thing. But
27:34
in this conversation, I'm thinking like,,
27:36
could I be causing second hand,
27:39
trauma or harm to someone
27:41
else if I'm so nonchalant about it?
27:43
Hm
27:44
And I don't, I don't have an answer to this,
27:47
but it just made me question my
27:49
own way of being a mental health
27:51
advocate. Is that actually, am
27:53
I causing more harm or, or
27:56
is it, is it also harmful to just
27:58
be like trigger, warning, everything. maybe
28:00
that is also harmful too, because we can
28:02
never. Quote unquote, normalized mental
28:05
health. If we keep putting trigger warnings
28:06
yeah, no, it's a good question.
28:08
Where's the, where's the balance?
28:10
It's it's a great question. It's a great thought
28:12
that you had. I,
28:15
I mean, I guess I don't have an answer for this either
28:17
for me, at least the thing that I was talking
28:19
about was like very heavy.
28:22
was talking about a very heavy experience. Like I
28:24
tried to die type of thing. Right. I
28:27
don't recommend just dropping that on anybody
28:30
obviously, but
28:32
I have casually mentioned like,
28:34
you know, I was just really depressed, so I couldn't do this
28:36
thing, so I just didn't do it. I
28:38
do do that. I, I don't
28:41
think it's a huge bomb to drop
28:43
it, but I guess it depends on your, it depends on a lot of things.
28:45
It depends on your audience. I don't think I would just
28:47
say that in the workplace, but, if
28:49
it's an acquaintance or a friend, I would feel much
28:51
more capable. It just depends who you're talking to or knowing what
28:53
it is.
28:54
Yeah, don't do it drunk at a club to a random
28:56
person. And I, and I that
28:58
from personal experience.
29:00
the one,
29:01
No, I I'm speaking from personal experience.
29:04
Like this was when,
29:06
this was, this was when, like
29:08
my depression was at its worst. This was also
29:10
when I was suicidal again. I
29:12
also had an incident when I was nine. Like,
29:15
this so serendipitous? We have like some similar
29:17
events. I don't know if that's good or bad, but,
29:19
I was like not in
29:21
a good place and I
29:23
had just started medication and I should
29:25
not be mixing with alcohol, but honestly,
29:28
like I, I was off of work.
29:30
I took a sick leave from
29:32
work and, somebody was doing
29:35
like a birthday type of things or like, like
29:37
some sort of party. So I went and
29:40
it was one of those things where they say like, Hey, when you have
29:42
depression, you can be in a room full of
29:44
people, but still feel lonely. That
29:46
was like exactly what I felt. It was like
29:48
the epitome of that definition. And
29:51
I was just willing to drop by and say hi to a couple
29:53
people and then I wanted to leave, but
29:55
then I stood there just like looking
29:58
at everyone and everyone just looks so happy
30:00
and so full of life and just loving
30:03
life. And I'm just like, why can't I
30:05
feel like that? I'm like, why don't I feel
30:07
like that? And I walked out to the, onto the
30:09
balcony and I kind of just like
30:11
breathed in this fresh air,
30:13
kind of looked at the city lights and I was like,
30:16
you know what? I can be like that. I can totally
30:18
be like that. Which, you
30:20
know, not a good idea to do force
30:22
yourself into a better mental state
30:24
using alcohol, which is what I did that night.
30:27
so instead of dropping by to say hi, I
30:29
ended up staying and
30:31
we ended up getting into a party
30:34
bus, and then I got even more drunk.
30:36
peed at Stanley park, like,
30:39
we went into the club.
30:40
It's basically central
30:41
It's basically like the central park of Vancouver.
30:44
and then I made, I became like BFFs with
30:46
this like one person right away, you know, when
30:48
you're drunk, but then he just broke
30:51
up with his boyfriend. So we were kind of like bonding
30:53
over. Failed relationships.
30:55
And then he ended up puking behind an
30:57
alley. And I went into the club with everybody else
31:00
and I was so drunk. I don't remember this. I
31:02
only remember it like little blips
31:04
of it in hindsight, but I was talking
31:07
to some guy who I've never met
31:09
before. And I was just talking to him about
31:11
like, life, like philosophical
31:13
stuff. Like, why
31:16
is life so monotonous?
31:19
How do you get through the drudgery of
31:21
daily life to just eat? And
31:23
I'm like, look around you. Everyone's just here
31:25
drinking. Just to try to forget about their
31:27
problems. When in reality, we should
31:29
all be, I just
31:31
like saying all this stuff at a club and
31:33
this guy just sitting there like staring,
31:37
he was not the audience.
31:39
it was not the right audience. It was not the right
31:41
place, not the right mental state. It
31:43
was okay. Obviously in hindsight, I'm
31:45
like, that's hilarious that I did
31:47
that, but the next morning
31:49
I was mortified. I'm like, oh my God,
31:51
I'm never drinking again. cause I remember the
31:53
look on his face. It was just utter
31:56
fear. It
31:58
was like a combination of fear and
32:00
awkwardness and just shock. So,
32:04
yes, back to your point, audience
32:06
really matters.
32:08
Yeah. Yeah. Some people are really uncomfortable with
32:10
mental health talking about it and like to does
32:12
you just can't.
32:13
That's what podcasts are for.
32:14
What is something that you are uncomfortable
32:16
in sharing with your parents?
32:19
Yeah. So, oh my gosh. I have
32:21
such a long mental health story. So like I
32:23
got diagnosed with ADHD when I was in
32:25
college. So it's been like 10
32:28
years at this point, something like that. was
32:31
diagnosed and I started taking medication
32:34
and oh my God. I told them
32:36
that I was taking medication whatever
32:38
reason. I wanted them to know. my God.
32:40
I have never fought with my parents like that
32:43
ever. Like, it was so bad
32:45
the way that we fought. it was so like,
32:47
it was just so. Ah, what's
32:50
the word I'm thinking about? Animalistic
32:52
I feel like is the word, but it wasn't,
32:54
it wasn't like physically, like we were
32:56
harming each other's. I mean, it was just very, this
32:58
is a very like verbally violent,
33:01
the way we were fighting with each other.
33:03
what was their stance
33:04
So their stance was very much anti-medication
33:07
I was like, no, I
33:09
I'm at a point where I, I just got
33:12
a 1.8 GPA and
33:14
that was not a cute look for me. So
33:17
I was like, no, I'm definitely smarter
33:19
than this. And I think there's an issue happening here.
33:21
And that was when I got diagnosed with add, and,
33:24
they're very much anti-medication and I was
33:26
very much pro because I was like, oh, that's not
33:28
just, it's not just school. It's also like
33:30
my social life social also like me running errands
33:32
on a Sunday, you know, just like trying
33:34
to like live, like I do have
33:36
ADHD My
33:39
dad's nephew. So my
33:41
cousin, I never met him. He died before
33:43
I was born, but he died. what it sounds
33:45
like I don't have the full story really.
33:48
And I don't know that anyone really knows the full story,
33:50
but I believe that it was a drug
33:52
overdose due to prescribe medications.
33:56
We're talking about India in like the
33:58
seventies where a psychiatric medicine
34:00
was not good. definitely very
34:02
stigmatized. Who knows who he saw as he, who
34:04
knows if he was even prescribed or if it was just like
34:06
some drug dealer, like who knows. So
34:08
anyway, he died, from
34:11
a drug overdose. And so they're very much against
34:13
like psychiatric medicines. And I understand
34:15
that. but I was trying to tell them that like, things
34:17
are different now, but they're, they're not gonna
34:19
feel that way. Especially
34:22
like my dad and he went through something traumatic. He lost
34:24
his nephew, so
34:25
Yeah, I can, I can see where they're coming
34:27
from. Like, they don't want you to have
34:29
the same fate. Of course, you're their daughter
34:31
and they don't want you to meet the same fate as their
34:33
nephew did. but sometimes it's,
34:35
yeah, sometimes they're so preoccupied
34:38
with the notion of protecting. You
34:40
that they forget that you have
34:43
something to say as well. So how
34:45
is your relationship with them now
34:47
in terms of, your mental.
34:49
Yeah, so it's still, we
34:52
don't really talk about my mental health.
34:54
It comes up now and then I,
34:56
I don't even bother telling them that I'm taking medication
34:59
at this point. I think that my mom like
35:01
knows, but at this point, I think she's kind
35:03
of like, you know what, like, I can't do anything about it. My
35:05
dad would definitely disapprove if he knew.
35:08
I'm like, at this point, I know what I'm doing.
35:10
I'm not going to sit here and like, take adderall just
35:12
for fun. You know, I'm not doing that.
35:15
I'm not taking recreational drugs. So
35:17
I'm like, I don't feel bad about it if he doesn't
35:19
know, it's fine. Like I'm not doing anything wrong.
35:21
They do both know that I have depression.
35:24
my mom has seen
35:26
me, she was like visiting me in the psych
35:28
ward and stuff. So she like understands the extent
35:31
of it. but it's still something
35:33
that we don't talk about.
35:35
You know, I, I can't just walk up to my
35:38
and be like, I'm having a depressive episode.
35:40
I think their solution would be like, some
35:43
water.
35:46
Eat some fruit
35:47
Yeah, I
35:50
got it. So I'm just like, eh, whatever, we
35:52
don't have to talk about it. It's fine.
35:54
Yeah.
35:55
and, and that's something that like, you know,
35:57
both Angie and I are also grappling
35:59
with because it's, it's it's
36:01
difficult to share
36:04
with your immigrant family
36:06
who like went through so much trauma
36:09
of their own and then come to
36:11
a brand new country to give you
36:13
a better life. And then. Here
36:15
you're like talking about something that they just
36:18
don't understand because health
36:20
is not something they've been
36:21
Yeah.
36:21
on. And when
36:23
their sole thing is
36:25
just survival, it kind of seems
36:28
like first world problems. When you talk about
36:30
mental health
36:31
Yeah.
36:32
their eyes,
36:33
exactly what it is. They're
36:35
like, what do you mean? Like, you know, you have everything
36:37
in there, you know, you don't, you don't you'll get over it.
36:39
Just, just wait it out type of thing. No,
36:41
I never really got over it, but
36:43
Yeah.
36:43
I mean, they, they don't, they, they, they do mean,
36:46
well, they just, they
36:46
Yeah, Yeah, exactly. And, I.
36:49
I have a pretty good relationship with my mom.
36:51
that's only because after she moved
36:53
to Canada, she pursued education
36:56
as well. So she's like an early childhood educator.
36:59
So because of that, she has to go to all these workshops.
37:01
She has to learn all these like Western
37:04
methods of rearing children, you
37:06
know? And, so she's a lot
37:08
more understanding, like really understanding
37:11
actually. And I'm so lucky to have
37:13
that kind of support. And when I
37:15
told my mom when I was nine and I
37:17
tried to kill myself, she didn't
37:20
berate me. she w I
37:22
was crying, so she was crying too. She's just like, I
37:24
wish you told me so I could have helped you. But
37:26
then I was like, well, if I told you, then it'd
37:28
be completely different, right. Because back then she
37:30
didn't have the emotional tools. And
37:33
I didn't tell my dad, but then she told
37:35
my dad that I was diagnosed and now I'm on
37:37
medication. And he would just like,
37:39
you know, like back in China, You
37:41
know, when I was born, like all
37:43
these babies died and I'm like, what does
37:46
that have to do with anything? But that's just again,
37:48
right? Like they, they
37:50
come from the same background, but you
37:52
know, my dad's actually is a nicer person
37:54
than my, well, they're both great people, but
37:57
my mom, because she's had the education,
37:59
she reacts differently. So I can't, I can't
38:01
blame them, but it's also like a really
38:04
frustrating.
38:04
Yeah, it is really frustrating. I mean,
38:06
at this point it's like, I'm not going to hide
38:08
anything. just also not going to actively
38:11
volunteer that information. So like, my mom
38:13
knows that I'm on antidepressants. You
38:15
know, it was that I'm taking, Adderall or some
38:18
type of drug for my attention level.
38:20
I think for her, she's also
38:22
just kind of, she is definitely more educated
38:24
about it now, but I think she's also like she saw me
38:26
in the psych ward. Like she doesn't want me to have that
38:29
to happen to me again. So I think for her, it's like,
38:31
just let her do this. and if it starts getting
38:33
bad, like I gotta trust that my daughter will start to
38:35
deal with it. If it starts getting really bad, like
38:37
I'm a grownup
38:38
Yeah, you don't need to ask for permission.
38:40
yeah
38:41
what is one thing that you're doing right
38:43
now, for your own mental health?
38:45
So, oh my gosh, I, this
38:47
is such a great question because the
38:50
answer is effectively not much
38:52
at all, it's,
38:54
it's only for this very short window of time
38:56
and I promise I'm going to get better at it because
38:59
I'm, I'm in a, I just started grad school.
39:01
Um, I'm in a training program. Thank
39:04
you. I'm training to be a math
39:06
teacher, this program will allow you to teach in
39:08
school, will teach while you're in
39:10
school. So, so that's why I
39:12
say that I'm a teacher, cause I am actually teaching and
39:14
I'm also in school for teaching.
39:17
And so the summer program, they basically
39:19
just throw you in the classroom. so I teach for
39:21
four hours a day and then I have
39:23
training for a couple of hours and then have class with three hours.
39:25
So I'm up at six and I'm not stopping
39:28
until seven 30. That's what, that's my schedule
39:30
these days. It's it's okay.
39:32
It's six weeks. It's not that bad. I
39:35
only have two weeks left. I'm almost done,
39:37
but, self care for me right
39:39
now just looks like budgeting
39:42
my time in a way that makes sense. And knowing
39:44
how to prioritize self care
39:46
a little bit later is going to be
39:48
going to a spa and having a spa
39:51
day, at this point, like, my
39:53
schedule is so rigid, there are not a lot
39:56
of options. This is probably like better.
39:58
This is probably a better time for me to
40:00
answer this question. Then another time where I have
40:02
a lot more time on my hands for like more
40:04
fun self-care sometimes
40:06
self-care needs to happen when you're in a crunch.
40:08
Right. For me. Yeah. Like
40:10
I said, prioritizing and being really
40:13
valuable with my time, but also like giving myself
40:15
options. So, even with my
40:17
priorities, I remember
40:19
like I had this project to choose
40:21
between like lesson planning for this thing, or
40:24
like this project that I wanted to. And I just like, could
40:26
not wrap my head around this project. I just couldn't
40:28
do it. Like I was just like, this is the time that a
40:30
carved up to those project and I just didn't want
40:32
to force myself to do it. So I procrastinatedthat
40:35
with other homework. But sometimes
40:37
you just gotta give yourself choices when you're in a time
40:39
crunch. I think that's the best that I have
40:41
been able to do. And I, I don't negotiate my
40:43
sleep. I'm sleeping
40:45
seven hours a night. It's happening. It
40:47
doesn't matter what's happening. And so it does make me
40:49
work harder during the day, but
40:52
I sleep well at night. So those couple of things
40:54
have helped. I'm trying to drink a lot of water,
40:57
trying to make myself some granola.
40:59
Got to incorporate some of those parental advice
41:01
in there. Lots of water, lots of sleep,
41:05
lots of fruits and vegetables.
41:07
I feel like that's what a lot of. Asian parents
41:09
do, like, no matter which part of Asia you're
41:11
from, they're like here's some cut up fruit.
41:13
Yeah. I went to whole foods and
41:15
I found this oat based whipped cream.
41:17
And it's better than milk-based with cream.
41:19
I'm over the dairy whipped cream.
41:22
I'm over it because this is so good. And so
41:24
that's like my, I can have
41:26
as much as what I want type of
41:28
food so it's another self-care
41:30
mechanism. Right. Just have as much as you want or
41:32
this one food. So I just
41:35
Gorge on fruits and whipped cream.
41:37
That sounds really good.
41:38
I try to have days where I'm mostly vegan
41:40
actually down thinking about it. That kind
41:42
of is a self-care technique. Cause I feel good about it at the end
41:44
of the day. I'm like, all right. I was completely vegan today. I
41:46
feel good about that. And like working towards
41:48
Yeah, that's actually a great way. Like insert
41:51
a little bit of altruism into
41:53
your daily, uh, self care routine. Yeah.
41:56
Do somebody for someone else. So it feels
41:57
Yeah. That's actually, one of the tips
41:59
is when you're depressed, like what one of the coping
42:01
mechanisms is like help somebody it'll
42:03
make you feel better.
42:05
Yeah. Yeah.
42:06
Well, I think we just had a really good conversation
42:08
today. How are you feeling?
42:10
I feel great. I love talking to You guys
42:12
You guys are great.
42:15
One thing I want to say is your Instagram,
42:17
highlight stories where it spells
42:20
Oh my God.
42:21
Yes. Thank
42:23
yep. I want to be like, that is the
42:25
Brilliant.
42:26
I need to tell her this. I need to be like,
42:28
yo, we just talk about the
42:31
first?
42:31
so good. I love it. I, when I saw that
42:33
I was like, Kristy, did you see this? She's
42:35
like, yeah, I already saw it. I was like, oh my God. I'm
42:38
so
42:38
I them.
42:39
I believe that it has gotten me more
42:41
followers than I would normally get, and
42:44
I spent so long making it happen
42:46
and I'm scared to update my stories now, because then I'm going
42:48
to have to update everything. you know, like the,
42:51
the last highlight will go to the
42:53
front then, and that's so annoying. Why
42:55
doesn't it just stay in
42:56
Yeah. Oh yeah. That's true.
42:58
like scared to update them, but I'm going to have to, it's
43:00
going to have to read some more, says at some point,
43:03
plural, and I'm gonna have to deal with that.
43:08
if our poop troops don't know what we're talking about,
43:10
you guys are just going to have to go and check out
43:12
Tanushree's Instagram page. We're going to link
43:14
all of that in the show notes. Where else
43:16
can our listeners find you?
43:18
yeah. So you can find us on Instagram
43:20
and Facebook at the Desi condition. I feel like I'm
43:23
doing the end on my own podcast
43:25
and I'm like, you can find us here, here, here. you
43:27
can also email us at the desi condition
43:29
at gmail dot com or you can tell you that us at
43:31
TDC podcast underscore, we
43:34
love hearing from you. I
43:38
hope you guys. I have here. hope you
43:40
make good choices. Oh
43:43
my God. Okay. I can't take myself seriously.
43:45
It just rolls off the tongue after awhile,
43:47
after you said it about like 5,000 times.
43:49
Yeah, exactly. Only, only that many times.
43:52
yeah, you can, you can email me. You can find me
43:54
on Instagram. we are also starting,
43:57
what is called the Desi collaborative. as
44:00
was mentioned before I have, I
44:02
have a master's in industrial design. I
44:05
went to our school, the whole shebang,
44:07
and I noticed that there were only
44:09
like a few other brown people there.
44:11
And I thought that was very interesting because the south Asians
44:14
are so lively and colorful with
44:16
their, their artistic way. So creative, like
44:18
there were, there were a lot of other Asians or there just weren't
44:20
in south Asians there, which I thought was so interesting.
44:22
So, I decided to,
44:25
to use that space, it's kind of an offshoot
44:27
of the desi condition to explore that intersection
44:29
between mental health and specifically
44:33
for creative professionals, that's
44:35
something that I feel like it took me
44:37
a long time to get over. There
44:40
was something there. Right. There was something that stopped me from getting
44:42
into industrial design in the first place. that's
44:45
something that I want to use that space to explore and just
44:48
to like connect people with each other. So yeah,
44:50
you can also find us on the DC collaborative.
44:52
They'll be things like, I mean, it's called the Desi
44:54
collaborative, but like really it's for everybody. so
44:57
we're planning to have like Q and A's and like
44:59
webinars and, interviews
45:01
and stuff with, with people who can just give
45:03
like real valuable advice to other
45:05
people and just, try to connect people with each other, particularly
45:08
south Asians in the creative industries. So
45:10
yeah, you can find us there. on, on
45:13
Instagram at the Desi collaborative
45:15
website is to come or just find out
45:17
that, that they see a condition where around.
45:20
of course, all of this is going to be in the show notes.
45:22
Yes. Love it.
45:24
Thank you for coming onto the show and sharing your stories
45:26
and talking about your experience in
45:29
hospitalization, being diagnosed,
45:31
sharing with your friends and family the
45:34
stigmas with our parents
45:36
and medication. that's the whole right?
45:40
So thank you very much for sharing that with us
45:42
and to our listeners.
45:43
thank you. It was great talking to
45:45
Yeah, it was so nice to meet you and
45:47
to have your energy and your
45:49
hilariousness on our show,
45:55
it's feel good feedback
45:57
And today. Oh
46:05
boy.
46:09
Okay. Give us, give us the good
46:11
feels. Give us the good feels.
46:14
So this, feel good feedback is from
46:16
Natalie. Hello, Natalie. Natalie
46:18
says just listen to episode
46:20
six. It was crazy. How many times I
46:22
said to myself, wait, that's
46:24
not normal. That whole bridge story
46:27
you talked about. I can't tell you how many times
46:29
I've had similar intrusive thoughts.
46:31
Mine is definitely more a conversation
46:33
in my head. Ha ha but interesting.
46:36
I thought the current disaster of my apartment
46:38
was because of me being lazy, but I couldn't
46:40
understand why I didn't have the motivation
46:42
to do anything about it. Thank
46:44
you, Angie and Kristy for talking about shit
46:46
we don't talk about.
46:47
As always, they make me feel good.
46:50
That's why they're called feel good feedback. Thank
46:53
you, Natalie, for sharing that with us. And
46:56
I think what
46:58
do I, what do I really want to say? Thank you
47:00
for also being vulnerable with us and sharing
47:03
how the bridge story spoke to
47:05
you because you were also in
47:07
a place of vulnerability. So thank you for.
47:10
Yeah. So that wraps up this
47:12
episode with Tanushree Until
47:14
next time.
47:14
Peace
47:48
what was that?
47:50
That was me trying to mimic our
47:52
segue music.
47:54
do it again. I
47:58
did not recognize it.
48:01
Well, it was just the first two new notes. Newts.
48:08
I'm not even the one who's reading Harry Potter.
48:10
You're the one who's been
48:11
Oh my God. Yeah, I'm trying to fit it. I'm
48:14
trying to finish the seventh book before
48:16
my puppy at rise.
48:18
Oh my God. Okay. Let me try Doon,
48:22
Doon, Doon.
48:24
Okay. Gotcha. I
48:27
was wondering which, which segue
48:29
you were thinking about.
48:32
Okay, we're
48:32
Yeah, let's just I'm going to stop because
48:35
yeah. Okay.
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