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holy fuck. That entire one and a half
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movie was one giant
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episode of shit we don't tell mom.
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Yeah, because there
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was a lot of things that she didn't tell her mom,
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and then it piled on and on
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and on and on, and then exploded.
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Welcome back to another episode of shit. We don't
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tell mom this.
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this is Christie
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And today is our season
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three finale. And we're going to be talking
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about the movie that
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just came well, we're not going to be just
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talking about the movie, but we're going to talk about some
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topics that are very important
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to us that were
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covered in the movie, turning red
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and Chrissy. And I both watched the movie last
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week. we actually accidentally
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not even, we serendipitously
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watched it on the same night without
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even knowing, like, without knowing in advance.
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I only found out when I logged onto
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our Instagram to post something about it on the story
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and saw that Christie had already posted
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something. And I was like, oh my God. So I messaged,
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her right away. I'm like, oh my God, are you watching this? I'm watching
1:30
it too. I'm going to tell you so many opinions
1:32
after.
1:33
C R wavelengths are still
1:35
riding in the same frequency, even
1:38
though we are in three hour time
1:40
zone differences apart.
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Yes. Yes, we are vibrating at
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the same gigahertz. I
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don't know. I don't know. Anyway. so what
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were your thoughts about the movie? How
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did you feel during the movie?
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How did you feel after the movie?
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How do you feel now?
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okay. Before the movie
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even started, like before
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the turning. Oh, by the way, listeners
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major spoiler alert from
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here on now. So
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if you have, so you
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have not watched the movie come
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back to this episode after
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you have watched the movie turning
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red. Okay. Spoilers
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begin. So even
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before the, the scene
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where it says turning red, you know, where like
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the title comes on, right? Yeah.
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Like the one minute before that
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I was already grinning
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like crazy, just plastered
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on my face. And from that moment, it just
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stayed on for the entire one and a half hours.
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So that was my foundational.
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Or your motion was just like this massive
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grin on my face. And then throughout
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the movie, during all the different scenes and,
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and all of the, you know, different
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story climaxes, I
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would either be laughing with
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the grin on my face or crying,
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like bawling,
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like, like I'm talking real ball
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with, with snot
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and sticky stuff coming out of all
3:18
sorts of my facial parts.
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that's so gross and so sweet at the same
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time.
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And then, but I still could not stop
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smiling because of all
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the thousand and one Easter
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eggs that have been placed in
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this movie. And every single one of
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them made me smile. I've
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categorized them into three different parts. One
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is the nostalgia. So the 2002
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early two thousands era, then
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there's the Asian representation. And then.
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The Canadian culture and
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every time I see any one of those three,
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and oftentimes it'd be like every single
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fucking scene on this
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storyboard, I would,
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I would just grin at the
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representation and just grin
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at the familiarity of it, you
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know? And that's why
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I kept smiling throughout the entire movie. How
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did I feel afterwards? very
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emotional nostalgia aside.
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I think there was a lot of themes that
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we can relate to and we can touch more on that
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later in this episode. but it, it
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made me feel, it made
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me feel. So
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few episodes ago in this season, sometimes
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during the season we had an episode on
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hanging out with our inner child. And
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not only did it feel like I was
4:43
hanging out with her while I was watching
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this movie, it made me feel
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like she was crying and
4:50
I was giving her a hug. Like
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she was hurt. She was in a place
4:56
where she was really hurt
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and had a lot of pain. And
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there was someone there to
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hold her that.
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And I think a lot of the
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pain represented
5:16
in the movie without making
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it feel like this movie is, you
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know, very sad and depressing because it is
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totally not, but
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it has touched on themes that
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will bring up some of these emotions.
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And I think part of that
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is the scariness.
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When you transition from being
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a kid to feeling
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like you're becoming an
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adult and like the movie set,
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there's a lot of growing pains that come with
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that. And I think, I think
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back to when I was going through
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those growing pains, it didn't
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feel like I had a lot of support.
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Maybe I did, but I just didn't recognize. So
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I felt lonely. And so now when
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I watched this movie and I see some of these themes
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come up and, and they're being represented
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on TV with someone that
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looks like me, except the
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red hair part, it,
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it felt like I'm
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allowing myself to revisit that part
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of my past and then allowing
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myself to feel comforted. Even though I
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felt so alone at that time when it happened,
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yeah, it's a very complex
6:30
relationship with the movie that
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cannot be, cannot be narrowed down to
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a couple of emotions based on. For
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me, prior to watching the movie,
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I saw, you know, there was that, male,
6:44
white movie reviewer or whatever,
6:46
where on Twitter, he said that the movie,
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unlike other Pixar
6:51
movies, this one was very difficult to relate,
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unless you're a part of a very specific,
6:57
narrow slice of society
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or something like that. And I was like, ah, excuse
7:02
me. so like with that in mind,
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it set up the expectation that there were
7:07
going to be a lot of specificity. Fuck
7:10
it. It gets specificity.
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it gave me the idea that there
7:18
would be a lot of specific things in
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the movie and
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like it met. So that really met
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and exceeded my expectations. So many
7:29
things that made me go, oh yeah. Oh my
7:31
God. Yeah. Oh my God. Yeah. Like, you know, those
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moments you know, we can't talk
7:35
about this movie without talking about representation
7:38
without even mentioning the word representation.
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So like yes, that made me feel super represented.
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I will say that the part for
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me that was not as relatable for me. Was
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when it was about 2002. And
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when I was mailings age, I was still
7:53
kind of getting used to life in Canada. So
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a lot of things that were in the
7:57
movie I never had, so I never had a Tamagotchi.
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I don't think I had Tim Horton Timbits until
8:02
university. there was just all these other things
8:04
that I didn't really experience
8:06
when I was that age, which
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doesn't mean that it makes any bad because you know, I'm
8:11
not this like white male movie
8:13
reviewer, that's narrow minded. Like,
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it's so great for me to see, but on a personal
8:17
level, it wasn't as relatable for me.
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I also never listened to boy bands. I
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never went to a concert. I also didn't
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really have that many friends, but
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watching the movie almost
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helped me relive that part.
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It made me feel like included.
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Mm.
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Like they were my friends, like Miglin and
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her friends were my.
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Hmm.
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And I didn't have friends like that until
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I got older.
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So it's interesting because in both of
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our versions, we
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somehow went back to our own childhood
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and. Basically
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like relived mine because I
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did have a Tamagotchi. I,
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I am still very into boy bands,
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like that has not
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grown out of the, I still live in
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the early two thousands. I
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attended my first concert
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ever in 2003.
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So basically Malin.
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you
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I was 13. I
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was 13, 2003 attended my first
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concert saved some money, went to this
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event without any parents felt like a grownup,
9:31
you know? And That would have.
9:33
must mean so much to you. Like it has so
9:35
many parallels with your own life and
9:37
you're living in Toronto right now.
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I know exactly. Okay. So here's the thing like
9:42
Malin, there's this entire movie.
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Okay. You're not gonna, you're not gonna relate
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a hundred percent. That's like not
9:48
possible. I mean, it is possible, but it's highly
9:51
unlikely that you're
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going to be able to feel
9:55
every single thing that happened and relate
9:57
to every single detail, right. Because that's
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mainland's life. And then Angie, this is your life.
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I'm going to give this a critic.
10:05
Like, I don't know, two minutes
10:07
of our time. And then I don't want to talk about him anymore
10:10
because he does not deserve space
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on our platform right now.
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That's true.
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But I just want to say how fucking,
10:18
like
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rude. How
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rude
10:23
how privilege it is
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for this person to feel
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like every single movie they need
10:30
to relate to and how
10:32
threatened. They feel
10:34
that when the moment somebody
10:37
else takes the big screen and
10:39
they don't relate to it, they feel like
10:42
that shouldn't be on their screen.
10:45
Yeah. And that's exactly why it was such a problematic
10:47
tweet and that's exactly what, everybody on the internet
10:50
was just like, fuck you, dude.
10:51
it goes without saying that he
10:55
feels definitely threatened. And the fact
10:57
that if
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you, you know, what, I don't even, I
11:04
don't even want to go into
11:05
yeah. Let's not even go to it. Loo it,
11:08
we, yeah, that's a completely,
11:10
we're here to focus on
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us. Not, not this,
11:14
you know, bozo,
11:16
going back to the movie. Yeah. I
11:18
felt super
11:20
heard and validated,
11:23
and I feel like we should drink every time we say the word
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relate
11:25
relate representation.
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Nostalgia.
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it's going to come up like 5,000 times
11:32
in this episode. and yes, all,
11:35
all those Easter eggs about Toronto. I
11:37
now live in Toronto. If
11:39
I had watched this movie in Vancouver, I
11:41
think I would have still loved it a
11:43
lot, but maybe like 0.5%
11:47
less excited than I am now because
11:49
I see streets that I
11:51
recognize. Like, I look at Chinatown,
11:54
I'm like, that's fucking Spadina, you know?
11:56
And then she's running down
11:58
the alleyway. I'm like, that looks like Kensington market,
12:01
you know? And, and it's like, Daisy
12:04
Mart is a real.
12:05
Oh, really? I
12:07
It's not made up. That shit is real.
12:09
That's the convenience store. It's all over in
12:11
Toronto. So it's, you know,
12:13
these little, little things, right. And Skydome
12:15
is actually called Skydome. Like it's still part
12:17
of the trunk, Toronto
12:19
culture, trunk, Toronto,
12:22
Tony, and you know what, I'm not going to try.
12:24
specificity. Oh my God. I actually
12:26
said it right that time.
12:28
What I really, really
12:30
tugged at my heartstrings is
12:33
the Cantonese that was in the
12:35
movie, not
12:37
just the chanting, but like the Cantonese speaking.
12:40
You'll see it in random places. Like when they're
12:43
watching TV, when Malin and her mom
12:45
oh yeah. Watching the Chinese
12:47
television. Yes.
12:49
Yeah. And there were watching like the, the ancient,
12:52
dramas, which is exactly what
12:54
I, yes, the period dramas on
12:56
my fucking art. I, I, I would binge
12:58
that shit, you know, and I,
13:01
I used to watch it on cable.
13:05
People watch things on cable and
13:08
hearing Cantonese being spoken.
13:10
That was really special to me because I
13:12
think at least for me, it
13:15
feels like a lot of times when
13:17
Chinese culture is being represented it
13:19
a lot of times it's a Mandarin. So
13:23
when I heard Cantonese, when
13:25
she's running down Spadina
13:28
avenue in Chinatown, and you can hear
13:30
people in the background, speaking Chinese, you can
13:32
hear the Cantonese on the TV show.
13:35
You can hear the grandma's saying, say
13:37
sailor or something like that. S I,
13:39
why I'm pointing. She's like sailor. And
13:44
what I also love is when. I
13:47
like to actually watch movies with subtitles on,
13:50
so I'm I'm team subtitles and
13:52
every time they spoke in Cantonese, they
13:54
would not translate
13:57
that in the subtitles. It will just say
13:59
bracket IX, speaking
14:01
Cantonese, which I really
14:03
appreciated because I
14:05
don't know if you've seen the west side story. It's
14:08
a musical. Okay. So I
14:11
know we're talking about turning red, but in the west side
14:13
story, like twenty-five percent of the movie
14:15
is in Spanish and
14:18
they do not put subtitles when
14:20
they are speaking in Spanish. And the reason for
14:22
that is because the director does not
14:25
want to like elevate English,
14:27
like the language as
14:29
something, you know, more superior,
14:31
right? It's like, if you understand Spanish, great,
14:34
if you don't, well, they're speaking Spanish,
14:36
that's it. And I felt like I
14:39
don't know what the intention was, but when
14:41
I saw that all of the Cantonese
14:43
that was spoken in the movie was. Subtitled
14:47
or translated at the bottom. It
14:49
just felt like an extra, you know, oh,
14:51
here's, here's a little something, something for all you
14:53
Cantonese speakers out there.
14:57
yeah, actually you're right now that I think
14:59
about, I'm trying to think of a movie
15:01
in recent times where they spoke Cantonese
15:04
instead of Mandarin. I can't really think of any
15:07
like crazy rich, Asian they spoke Mandarin
15:09
of course, because it was Singapore. And then, In
15:12
farewell that happened in China.
15:14
So that's actually, I do appreciate
15:16
that Domi did that because she is from China
15:19
and not she's from a Mandarin speaking
15:21
part of China from actually.
15:24
So taking a step
15:26
back from talking about representation,
15:28
the intergenerational trauma was very,
15:31
parent and. Important.
15:35
I'm really glad that that was really highlighted.
15:38
and it was, it was, it was a theme that
15:40
I think anybody, maybe not anybody,
15:42
but I think a lot of people can relate
15:45
to and also identify
15:48
right away. Cause I think that
15:50
interracial, interracial intergenerational
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trauma in other movies are probably
15:56
not as, front and forward.
15:59
It's usually like at the back of the plot, but I
16:01
think this was like, this was like the apply,
16:03
you know, like the, the,
16:06
every generation of women in
16:08
the family turns into a red Panda.
16:10
Like that's very generational, right? So
16:13
it was like very front and center
16:15
in the movies plot. whereas in
16:17
most other movies it's kind of in the background, like
16:19
off the top of my head, crazy rich Asian
16:21
Kung Fu Panda.
16:23
Shout out to Encanto. What
16:26
were some points that you felt like the
16:28
intergenerational trauma was represented
16:30
well in the movie and
16:35
whisper was maybe. Represented
16:38
not as well.
16:40
For me personally, the
16:42
part that was like just right
16:44
nail on the head kind of kind of a
16:46
moment was when the mom was like,
16:48
how could she do this to me?
16:50
Um,
16:51
was the most relatable because my mom
16:53
has said that before. And
16:55
she has expressed sentiments
16:57
in that regard before she understood
17:00
what it's like to not
17:05
put your own happiness on
17:08
your kid. Like
17:11
she's an only child. her parents she's
17:13
like the center of her parents' world and
17:16
she has to be this perfect kid and do well
17:18
with everything because you know, her parents
17:20
sacrifice so much for her and
17:22
she's trying to uphold that
17:24
expectation and trying to deliver. But
17:27
of course she struggles because that's not who she really
17:29
is. And that was really relatable for me.
17:31
and I think the representation
17:34
of Chinese fathers, because
17:37
Mailyn's dad was, he was there,
17:41
but he kind of played a side
17:44
kick role to the mom. And
17:46
that was very relatable to me too. I'm
17:49
not sure about other people because I know how I know
17:51
I have friends whose, whose, dads
17:53
played more the primary
17:56
parent figure. So in this
17:58
case, like, it's not like when we watch
18:01
movies based on. Like
18:04
white people's lives, where the parents are very,
18:06
like, they're like both reading a
18:08
book to their child at the same time,
18:11
which is like, how many families Chinese
18:14
were not, does that happen to you? Right. so for me
18:16
that was relatable. Like the one parent
18:18
really taking on all the responsibility,
18:21
because I don't think it's because
18:25
she doesn't trust her husband
18:27
or that she's bossy.
18:29
I think she expects that that's
18:31
her role as a mother
18:34
and that's expected of her and to
18:36
be a perfect mother, you have to be
18:38
like good. They could
18:40
pick up the helicopter while your kid
18:43
I think you touched a really great point here because
18:45
it's not just about Malin
18:48
and her growth, but there's actually
18:50
a lot of growth from
18:52
the mother as well. I
18:55
think there's this one scene towards
18:57
the end of the movie when Malin and
18:59
her mom and all the aunties and
19:01
grandma went to this other
19:04
dimension
19:05
the spirit world.
19:06
yeah, exactly. And they're about to,
19:08
split their Panda and
19:10
their human self. And mainland
19:12
finds her mom as
19:16
a kid feeling
19:18
super stressed out saying
19:21
the same words that Malin had said,
19:24
feeling all that pressure of trying to be perfect
19:28
and feeling like she can never live up to her mother's
19:30
expectations. And
19:33
clearly that, that was a cyclical
19:36
moment for Malin too,
19:38
to even witness. Can
19:40
you imagine meeting
19:43
your 13 year
19:45
old version of.
19:50
like, I've heard stories. So
19:52
I kind of have an idea, but
19:55
no, I cannot even imagine like
19:57
10% of what it was like for her
20:00
and like it, you know, this is all hypothetical
20:03
unless we have time Turners, but
20:05
just for a moment, imagine
20:08
what that would be like. And
20:10
that amount of empathy
20:13
and compassion that you will feel
20:16
after that encounter. With
20:19
13 year old mom, we
20:21
hear it from our parents all
20:23
the time. Like, I've been young
20:25
ones, I've been in your shoes, blah, blah, blah. But
20:27
when you hear that, usually it's like, you know, part of
20:29
some argument and every time
20:31
I have one those conversations with my mom, I,
20:33
my first thought is, well, that was a different generation.
20:36
Like you were in the other side of
20:38
the world and no standards
20:41
were different. Expectations were different, et
20:43
cetera, et cetera. So I'm like, You cannot say, you
20:46
cannot say you understand me because
20:48
we we're, we've grown up in different
20:50
places. And so basically everything
20:53
that she said would, would turn into shit, right? Like
20:55
there's zero credibility. When she says
20:57
she relates to how I feel when
20:59
I was 13. So
21:02
seeing that scene play
21:05
out actually made
21:07
me feel a
21:10
little bit more forgiving
21:13
to my mum because I'm
21:15
sure she had a
21:17
fuck ton of pressures as well. And
21:20
I think about my, my mom's story and I don't want to
21:22
go too much into it because that's her story, but she
21:24
lives. Majority of
21:26
her youth all the way up
21:28
into early twenties. Nope.
21:31
Lie all the way up into her,
21:34
late thirties, doing
21:36
all the things that her mom wanted her
21:38
to do. So my, what my grandma wanted
21:41
for her. So she lived her life for
21:43
my grandma. And,
21:47
and I know it's because grandma wanted
21:49
the best for her, blah, blah, blah. And then my
21:53
mom probably unknowingly
21:55
picked up a lot of these teaching methods
21:58
and started to expect the same from
22:00
me. And then I would feel
22:07
I would hold a lot of grudge against that, especially
22:09
because I grew up in a different world and
22:12
I see things a little, I see things differently.
22:16
And the movie
22:19
reminded me that there are things
22:21
that I still need
22:23
to forgive. My mom.
22:26
oh, I think that's exactly
22:29
why I was like, what I'm
22:31
hoping that this movie will
22:34
do slash is doing for a lot
22:36
of, Mother daughter relationships because
22:39
it as kids, we always
22:41
underestimate our parents, we
22:43
always do. Art podcast
22:45
name is to under estimate
22:47
and undermine our parents. But
22:50
obviously, you know, the listeners, like if
22:52
this is the only episode you've heard of, like, please
22:54
go and listen to our other episodes because we respect
22:57
our parents a lot. And, it's a reverse psychology
23:00
now what I mean now? I mean,
23:03
Wait, wait to plug some episodes in there.
23:05
yeah.
24:07
Okay. This movie though, I have to say, after
24:09
I finished watching the movie, of
24:11
course, I'm like giddy. I'm still,
24:14
you know, bump into four town music.
24:16
I've already downloading it on Spotify. But
24:20
my first thought was, holy fuck.
24:22
That entire one and a half movie
24:24
was one giant episode
24:26
of shit. We don't tell mom.
24:29
Yeah, because there
24:31
was a lot of things that she didn't tell her mom,
24:34
and then it piled on and on
24:36
and on and on, and then exploded.
24:40
And then it talked about, you know, communication
24:42
and forgiveness and understanding
24:44
and growth. And
24:47
sometimes. Not sometimes
24:49
in life, we move on, we
24:51
change and we need to accept that
24:53
change as part of our growth. And then how
24:56
do we manage these changes within our
24:58
relationship? And I think that was beautifully
25:00
done because at the end it wasn't, it
25:03
was like, there
25:06
was some flavors of bittersweetness
25:11
because both mom and MeiLin
25:14
still treasure, the times
25:16
that they had together before mainland,
25:19
you know, grew up, but
25:22
also allowing MeiLin
25:25
to grow up and
25:28
knowing that those memories that they have together,
25:30
that's always going to be there. It's always going to be treasured,
25:33
but moving forward, it's not going to be the same
25:35
routine anymore. And then accepting that, accepting
25:39
that. So
25:44
it's like a bittersweet moment and no matter,
25:46
I think where you are in
25:49
terms of your relationship with your mom, there's,
25:52
there's always going to be some level
25:55
of change that had happened throughout the years.
25:57
Like that's inevitable, right? People
25:59
grow up and your relationship
26:02
is not going to be the same forever. And
26:04
some people try to hold on to
26:08
what it was, but
26:11
you can't, and the more
26:13
you try to hold onto it, the more it kind
26:16
of backfires on you. And so really
26:19
it's almost a story of
26:21
letting go and accepting as
26:23
well.
26:25
and now I just want to go and hug my mom. Hmm.
26:30
I will say that like this movie has also
26:32
made me feel very lucky in
26:34
some regard as well. Well, I mean, yes, it
26:36
has made me feel very lucky because on
26:39
one side, there's just so much wholesomeness
26:43
in our community, you
26:46
know, like in the whole Asian American,
26:48
community, just everyone is just
26:51
wanting to. Really
26:54
get in touch with those, with like
26:56
that more vulnerable side of ourselves.
26:58
And we're really lucky
27:00
that we're in a generation that's doing that.
27:04
I think like, Relationship
27:07
with my mom has gotten to a very healthy
27:09
place and I have forgiven her
27:11
for a lot of things. And of course she's given forgiven
27:13
me because she is my mother. and she has learned
27:16
to set boundaries, learn to take step
27:18
back, learn to understand me.
27:20
And I've learned to understand her and
27:23
everything you're saying that you want to
27:25
forgive your mom and you want to just
27:27
see her side more. It
27:30
is really hard to do that when the other person
27:32
doesn't reciprocate. And
27:35
I think I only got so far with
27:37
my mom because she
27:39
has been very good at reciprocating
27:42
that sort of a respect and willingness
27:45
to grow.
27:46
I do agree in
27:49
some way that you need both
27:51
parties to be available, to
27:53
have proper communication, to do
27:56
this work of growth and, and
27:58
either building or fixing
28:01
a relationship. But
28:03
I also think that forgiveness can
28:06
come from one
28:08
side. I
28:10
can choose to forgive people,
28:14
whether it's my mom or friends
28:16
or whomever on my
28:19
own and on my own terms
28:21
without having the other person involved,
28:23
because forgiveness
28:26
means that I had something
28:28
I was holding on to some sort of a grudge.
28:30
And it's, it's up to me to let that
28:32
grudge go. When
28:39
I'm at the beginning of the movie, the friends were
28:42
like, Hey, let's go. Karaoke thing, blah,
28:44
blah, blah. And then millions like, oh, I can't,
28:46
you know, it's cleaning day. And
28:48
the friends are like, oh, but it's cleaning day every
28:50
day. Now, if we played
28:53
the stereotypical trope, mainland would be
28:55
very upset. Right. She would have wanted
28:57
to go to karaoke. She would have been like, I
28:59
fucking hate chores. Why does my mom force
29:01
me to do this? I hate my mom. I hate my
29:03
life. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Right now
29:05
I'm not saying she doesn't have some of those
29:07
feelings because of course she wants to go karaoke
29:10
with her friends, but she also enjoys
29:12
cleaning. She's straight up, said
29:14
it in the movie. She's like, but I like cleaning.
29:16
Yeah. And she
29:17
I like exactly.
29:19
She likes hanging out with her mom
29:21
and she likes doing all those things and, and
29:24
the way that they depicted it in the movie, they're
29:26
having fun. Like. You know,
29:28
it's like such a, a team work
29:30
for them when they are managing the temple
29:32
together. When they're cleaning together, when they're sharing
29:34
stories, when they're, you know, doing their customer service,
29:37
like it's none of that is yes,
29:39
of course it's work, but it's,
29:41
they're not doing it begrudgingly. Right?
29:43
Like they're, they're having a good time
29:46
while doing that. So, so
29:49
I really loved that. They,
29:52
that, that's how they tell the story
29:55
of mainland. And her mom is that
29:57
they don't have this like super
29:59
strained relationship where
30:01
one hates the other and one dominates the
30:03
other. No, it's, it's in
30:05
some way, it's pretty
30:08
healthy. They high-fived each
30:10
other at the end of the
30:12
temple tour. And that was
30:14
so sweet for me because I'm like, I would
30:16
have, my mom was not cool like that
30:18
she would not have
30:21
high-fived me, you know? And,
30:25
and I thought that. Really
30:27
nice. And it made us
30:29
feel like, oh, any negative
30:31
feelings mainland may have about mom
30:34
or just the negative feelings about growing
30:36
up is
30:39
very, is muted and in
30:41
the background. And I think
30:43
that is so realistic because
30:47
a lot of us, I don't think we
30:49
like hate our parents.
30:52
You know, we love them. We do the things
30:54
that we do because we love them. But
30:56
also like we're not oppressed by
30:58
our parents is what I'm trying to say.
31:00
Yeah, we're not, we're not oppressed.
31:02
Like they make us seem to be in
31:04
some movies with the tiger mom trope.
31:07
And they show a vulnerable side to her, which
31:09
they don't with, like tiger
31:11
mom, tropes and other movies.
31:15
And like mainly and enjoys math, right?
31:17
Like she's like having a good time
31:19
doing her math homework, you
31:22
know, like, it's
31:24
not like, oh, my mom forced me to do this.
31:26
And like, I got to be here. Like,
31:29
it just seems like that's part of her life.
31:32
And I'm sure, you know, when,
31:34
when we were in school, there's going to be some
31:36
subjects that you had truly enjoyed
31:39
and maybe they were viewed as like, like,
31:45
oh, you're, you're trying to achieve
31:47
academically for your parents. But no, it's also because
31:49
like, I, I enjoy school.
31:52
yeah,
31:52
I enjoy doing these things. I'm good at
31:54
these things, you know, like,
31:56
Yeah. That was a, that was very relatable for
31:58
me was one her flute case. Cause
32:00
I played
32:01
Oh my God. Yes.
32:05
also I did really well in math
32:07
and French. That
32:10
was very relatable. Yeah. Some was.
32:13
Yeah, not relatable for me, although
32:15
I did play the clarinet,
32:17
Yeah, I know we were in band before
32:20
you went to choir. You
32:22
were at bandwidth for one I one time.
32:25
that is correct. I was at band
32:28
and at one point, yes.
32:30
Okay. Anyway,
32:31
that's, that's just like I wanted, I really
32:33
wanted to point that out that the,
32:35
you know, tiger mom trope was not
32:38
depicted in this movie and it showed
32:41
a way more realistic relationship between
32:44
a mom and daughter.
32:46
yes. Much more
32:48
realistic for us,
32:50
at least I'm sure there are still
32:53
people, whose parents are,
32:55
you know, very trope ESC,
32:59
Oh Yes. I mean, they exist
33:02
for a reason.
33:03
Yes, exactly. The key takeaway
33:05
here is that they gave. the Chinese
33:08
mom, a 3d character,
33:11
sh you know, they gave her an
33:14
arc. They gave her personality
33:17
and she is her
33:19
own person. The mom
33:21
is her own person in this movie.
33:24
exactly. And, and we had kind of talked about
33:26
that earlier, too. Where at this movie? Yes, of
33:28
course. It's centered around Malin. She's
33:30
a protagonist. She goes through this like
33:33
growth and change and then acceptance
33:35
afterwards. But soda's
33:38
mom, mom also went
33:40
through a stage of growth
33:42
and change and acceptance at the end of
33:44
the movie.
33:46
one other thing that I just got
33:48
reminded me of that I really liked is
33:51
that there were no cheesy
33:53
love story or love
33:55
Oh, yes. Oh my God. Oh
33:57
my God. Let's just
33:59
just
33:59
around of applause.
34:01
everything is about boys. Okay. Like
34:03
when we were that age. Yes. A lot of things were about
34:05
boys, but not everything was about boys.
34:07
Okay. Here's the thing like, I, what I
34:09
really liked is the way that they
34:11
did represent boys, because, you
34:14
know, she was like obsessed with that guy from
34:16
the Daisy Mart, Devin. And
34:18
then later in school, she sees this other
34:21
kid, right. And he like
34:23
flips his hair and she's all like Google
34:26
Gaga on it. And,
34:28
and I think just
34:30
that, where she switches so quickly,
34:32
it's like, when you're
34:34
going through puberty, you're going to notice
34:37
boys. And you're going to notice a
34:39
lot of boys and you're going to
34:40
boys, you don't have so many crushes
34:43
and your crush is going to change every three months.
34:46
Like it's going to, your crusher is going to think
34:48
to the moon cycle, you know,
34:49
And I think that I love
34:52
that. That's how they, had boys
34:54
in the movie and they didn't
34:56
develop any romantic story
34:59
at all. And the only time
35:01
that boys show up is how
35:03
she notices different boys at different
35:05
times, but so quickly, because
35:07
that's what happens when you go through puberty,
35:10
you notice these things and you feel
35:12
a lot of things. And like you said,
35:14
there's all these crushes and
35:17
a lot of, a lot of emotions. And
35:19
then you have like sexy thoughts, but then you're
35:21
13, but you
35:23
have sexy thoughts anyways. And I love that. She
35:25
actually said that like, may Lynn, she
35:27
said the word sexy thoughts. And,
35:31
and she was like, huh, like
35:33
why, why am I having me?
35:36
Yeah, I don't want to have them. Yeah. She
35:38
thought it was like a disease.
35:40
And then, you know, When
35:42
she was drawing at one point, she was
35:44
drawing all these pictures of Devin. She
35:47
just like allowed herself
35:49
to see what's going to happen. So she allowed herself
35:51
to explore this new side
35:53
of her. And how was that?
35:55
Is just that's puberty. she's happening
35:58
to me, what the fuck's going on. And then
36:00
she gets to learn from that. Right.
36:01
Yeah. And also the other guy that ended
36:04
up being their friend that was kind of bullying,
36:06
Malin or picking on her, I was
36:08
like, please don't let him turn
36:10
into a love interest. And he didn't.
36:12
And I was like, yes, thank God. Because
36:14
that's also such a trope to, you
36:17
know, like, just cause
36:19
like he bullied you a bit doesn't mean that something
36:21
has to bloom from it. And it's probably not
36:23
very healthy, you
36:24
exactly. It probably shouldn't be dating all your bullies.
36:27
yeah. that's the thing, though. It has been such
36:29
a big trope, oh, like you're off to a
36:31
rough start, but then you end up falling in love and
36:33
that's just not healthy, you know? Yeah,
36:36
no, I love that. I love that he actually became
36:38
one of the girlfriends and he became,
36:41
a fellow for townie, you know?
36:45
Yes. That was one other thing that I think
36:47
they did a really good job. Even though it's
36:50
not my favorite movie it's
36:52
a movie that I can really, really appreciate.
36:57
Yeah. And I think you don't, you don't have
36:59
to be a Chinese Canadian to appreciate this
37:01
movie. You don't even have to be Asian to appreciate
37:04
this movie, right? Because intergenerational
37:07
trauma is everywhere.
37:10
Like there's no racial boundaries
37:12
to that. Growing up, going
37:14
through puberty. is no
37:16
racial boundaries to that. so
37:19
I think, you know, all these, all
37:21
these things will make the movie
37:23
really relatable I
37:25
could probably talk about this a lot, a lot
37:28
more, but I, I won't, but, listeners,
37:31
if you enjoy turning red,
37:34
as much as either
37:36
of us did, but especially as much
37:38
as I did. I want to read, a few
37:42
quotes from the movie that I thought. Pretty
37:45
meaningful.
37:46
okay,
37:47
house. the first one, which is at the beginning
37:49
of the movie, Malin says, I'm
37:51
finally figuring out who I am, but
37:54
I'm scared it's taking me away from
37:56
you. And
37:58
she's talking, she's speaking specifically
38:00
about her mom, which again,
38:03
like we were saying is part of that, being scared
38:05
of change, being scared of growth. And
38:09
when the movie opened with that, I'm like,
38:11
yep. I'm going to like this one. I
38:14
don't know where this one came from, but
38:17
it goes, we all have
38:19
a messy, weird. But
38:22
a lot of us don't let it come out.
38:24
I remember that quote.
38:27
I think it actually represents a lot about what we
38:29
do on this podcast is, is being
38:31
vulnerable and allowing ourselves
38:34
to feel all sides of us and
38:36
giving ourselves the space
38:39
to have
38:42
negative emotions, negative thoughts,
38:44
and, you know, and
38:47
process things, process trauma,
38:50
be uncomfortable, all these like
38:52
things that are typically
38:54
represented as icky or yucky
38:56
that we try to hide away or
38:59
even just the weird parts of us. don't
39:02
want to show other people because we're afraid to be
39:04
judged in our podcast. We
39:07
want to embrace all of those sides and
39:09
we want to welcome
39:11
all of these uncomfortable feelings because only
39:13
then can we truly feel comfortable about
39:16
who we are and our own skin.
39:18
And so that quote really
39:21
solidified the idea that
39:23
this movie is a giant shit
39:25
we don't tell mom episode.
39:27
I remember you saying that to me. And I was like, oh my God.
39:29
Yeah, totally. Cause
39:32
that's, that's what we're here to try to do.
39:34
Right. Talk about these
39:36
things and improve
39:39
the overall collective
39:41
mental health of our community, which is
39:43
what I think that this movie has contributed
39:46
to has really, really given,
39:48
like a big platform to the fact that like,
39:50
Hey, like there
39:53
are people like
39:56
us that are struggling with
39:58
this type of stuff. We're not just your typical
40:00
immigrant, you know, those
40:03
Asians over there. Like we have our own stories
40:05
too. And I really happy that it's
40:07
getting a bigger audience because
40:09
a lot of kids are gonna watch this and
40:11
they're probably not going to be just
40:14
Chinese kids. And then their parents who probably
40:16
never would have watched a movie out
40:18
of their comfort zone, like this would watch
40:20
it too.
40:21
We had such a, emotional
40:24
and We had such a reaction to
40:26
this movie, I think
40:29
not just as quote unquote kids,
40:31
but I think any parent
40:33
would also be able to
40:35
have a reaction for
40:39
the mom and have the compassion and empathy
40:41
and understanding of where the mom's coming from
40:44
as well. out of my 5,000
40:46
quotes, I will end with one that
40:48
was similar to the second one because
40:51
let's, let's be all feel good. See about
40:53
this. And
40:55
this one actually came from the dad and
40:58
the dad said. The
41:03
dad said, people have all kinds
41:05
of sides to them and some are messy.
41:07
The point is not to push it away.
41:11
Yeah, I really love that quote. And I just loved
41:13
that. He showed the video to Malin was like,
41:16
like, I like this version of you. You're
41:19
funny. And
41:23
that, that level of acceptance shows
41:25
a lot of love from her dad. So
41:28
all, all, you know, just a
41:30
lot of good feelings
41:33
so basically the takeaway from this episode
41:35
is go watch turning red
41:37
if you haven't already. But I really,
41:40
truly hope you, you already
41:42
did, because by the end of this episode,
41:45
we just ruined everything for you.
41:48
Oh yeah. That's true. They listen
41:50
to this. They we're like, we
41:52
just told them everything in the movie, but go watch.
41:55
But
41:56
but I hope everybody who has listened
41:58
all the way to the end already
42:00
did watch it. And I hope,
42:02
you know, you would, keep supporting
42:04
the movie by watching it again,
42:06
because we need to continue to have these stories
42:08
being told. Right. And not just, not just
42:11
because of the Asian representation, although that
42:13
felt really good because Angie and I
42:15
are Chinese and we're from Canada
42:17
and this story speaks about a Chinese Canadian girl,
42:19
but also like just, it's more
42:21
demand for different stories that we
42:23
haven't, that we didn't grow up with. Right.
42:26
No matter what, race or religion
42:28
or sexuality or whatever, whatever
42:31
time period as well, like we need to
42:33
have more stories that
42:36
weren't told as much.
42:38
yeah, yeah. That's right.
42:41
And that's it for season three.
42:43
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42:46
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42:48
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43:53
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43:57
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44:00
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