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success because what you learn

1:03

about yourself in any process outweighs

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any result. Hello

1:12

and welcome back to Should I Delete That?

1:14

I'm in Clarkson. And today the Matrix is

1:16

glitching because our

1:20

sound person is making the sounds.

1:22

Hi, Daisy. Hello. That

1:24

was the biggest dad joke I've ever

1:26

heard. The sound person is making the

1:28

sounds. Daisy Grant. That's

1:30

me. I'm doing it all, baby. Behind

1:33

the scenes and on the stage all

1:35

at once. Write the theme tune, sing

1:37

the theme tune. Yeah, literally. How

1:40

are you doing, Dave? I'm

1:42

doing very well. It's really sunny

1:45

here today in Wales, which is surprising because it's

1:47

been miserable for about seven months. So that's nice.

1:51

How are you doing? I'm really good. I'm just home from Japan.

1:53

We got back last night. For

1:56

listeners worried that Alex, girl Alex, is still

1:58

not here. See

2:01

also sledding. I'm just. I'm.

2:03

Just hold it were I say i

2:05

it is no I in team we

2:07

are holding down the for. We

2:09

outside que. Se

2:12

weeks I need to easy digital some

2:14

some. I'm

2:17

loving it. A yeah it's good. it's

2:19

smart you have a girl Alex were

2:21

loving it into the computer fertile that

2:23

we let me come back soon as

2:25

you come back and so have you

2:27

got anything I totally even as he

2:29

gave a fool never never be fair.

2:31

he saw to. His and to tell me

2:33

my only contribution to might with my voice the

2:35

focus has been under to get Big Tire. Thing:

2:38

I'm thirty seven kids I did thing as

2:40

I thought snow had a season one hundred

2:42

the try to three. Have enough to

2:44

snow Thai restaurant maybe nothing that would

2:46

be the sat up your boss or

2:48

not get of. the type of I

2:50

think I get this week is simply

2:52

that me and Daisy and spin it

2:54

your all back together and Wales again

2:56

which is really cozy spin off doing

2:58

separate things and I think is the

3:00

first time off Christmas that we all

3:02

just been settled down Scatter it is

3:04

just comfortable a nice and were having

3:06

a really. Good time and so plus it's

3:08

it's a good you know? Listen the

3:11

contacts go for not talking about

3:13

herself and her have a personality

3:15

into his fiance Full Circle Daisy

3:17

So yeah gun fact together and

3:19

my dog Beddington with it. Spinach.

3:22

Yeah, so Daisy, my fiance and

3:24

I are to having an awfully

3:26

time unless it's good. about as

3:28

much good at the moment. What?

3:31

Matters is on. Fox has assessed time

3:34

I know big thought that I have

3:36

never been so desire to have never

3:38

wanted to come home from a level

3:40

in my life with Mrs On the.

3:43

Of upon which I didn't Amazing time,

3:45

but it was so uncool. Med. two

3:47

whole weeks of like. Adventure

3:49

and it was unsaid. Proud of myself

3:51

that we did it. And line that

3:53

was ethics to see some I say

3:56

far away added another. Don't ever do

3:58

a trip like not done different. No

4:00

would like a baby like it

4:02

was just a matter of adventure.

4:05

But by like day eleven, I

4:07

thought, oh, my God, we could

4:09

go home, soon hang National that

4:12

I would not be mad, we

4:14

were just so tired. And

4:16

into the stage A leading by so

4:18

different what you use two hands. Also

4:21

wanted to somebody just cruising like ease

4:23

again and say you yeah, I just

4:25

wish I'd really love you for coming

4:28

home and now I'm Burke. A nice.

4:30

I'm. Just so happy. Like I'm baffled.

4:32

The same honking of my phone and. Bought.

4:35

Working again button to and does that

4:37

was hard trying to did what thousand

4:39

and stuff and might do some gonna

4:41

nine hours ahead i fellow man i

4:43

would like i needed also. They five

4:45

so far. Defender: you're literally apophis is

4:47

the was some the worth of? No,

4:49

no, not at. All and myself

4:51

leaving but when the as

4:53

A set up into broken

4:55

up into retain some math

4:57

and training on my own

4:59

backyard and. I've got a

5:01

hot all as got high terror again and

5:03

a call again. And my Oh My

5:05

God. Clean Cleanse out of the

5:08

role rather than the least. Like.

5:12

Captures the good So many lands of like

5:14

holiday that's always so good but it does

5:16

get to appoint. Any. Holiday I

5:18

think were a can be too long and

5:20

like the fact that you did that with

5:22

a baby. Fucking Wild on. You guys like

5:24

that. Like Oakland, the I'm Going On in

5:27

Italy I'm finishing. This and I'm going to software because

5:29

I just won't put her in a padded room where she

5:31

can't hurt herself and she doesn't want. To be held

5:33

by me to walk and she's not been

5:35

in lots of all to plan to pay

5:37

between. Men and lots of ways. It's sort

5:40

of know and it was interesting, but I

5:42

think we actually. Have not been

5:44

holding. The schools. But.

5:46

Not in there was nowhere to put she

5:49

the in age from the sidewalk a white

5:51

flight pay off she blocked head over us

5:53

to be paid not self places like get

5:55

off I don't have a sense given say

5:58

that death let me fly. Yeah.

6:00

Stop clipping my wings! Yeah. I

6:02

can walk now. I'm a grow girl.

6:05

Yeah. I am out of here. She's actually

6:07

regressed on the walking spot. She's nailing it. And then obviously

6:09

she's been carried for two weeks and then I put her down

6:11

this morning on her mat and she's just like... She's

6:13

like, I got it. Yeah. So

6:15

anyway, that's good. I'm home. I'm

6:18

so happy. Anything bad, please, my

6:20

lady. It's kind of like a half bad,

6:22

half good. Today, as

6:25

we record, it's Friday,

6:27

which means it's the Traitors final

6:29

tonight, which I'm so

6:31

excited for, but so

6:34

devastated that it's the end of, because I've

6:36

been watching so intensely. Have you loved it? I

6:38

haven't watched it. Absolutely loved it. We just

6:41

have to watch it intensely because Daisy and I have a

6:43

podcast about it. So I take this job

6:45

very seriously of watching the Traitors. Have you, should I?

6:47

So I'm quite sad that it's coming to an end,

6:49

basically. Wow. That's

6:51

my bad. Yeah, I can't

6:53

believe it's already over, but I also feel like

6:56

it's one of those internet phenomenon that

6:58

I've been left out of because everybody's mad on it.

7:01

And you miss the beginning and then you're like, well...

7:03

You've been away. Yeah. So never mind, guys, go on

7:05

without me. I just missed this season. But

7:07

I have seen Claudia Winkleman. Did you see the

7:09

jumper that she was wearing? There's a jumper that

7:12

she was wearing. Everyone's got mad for it. And

7:15

my top six trait is that I thought I could miss it. So

7:18

I found the company that makes it and you can buy

7:20

the patterns for it so that you can knit it. I'll send it

7:22

to you because I'm totally thinking I should do it. I reckon

7:25

you're a good knitter, aren't you? I've been told

7:27

by you. So all evidence points

7:29

to yes. Yes, I'm a good knitter.

7:34

You said you're a good knitter, though. I could

7:36

knit a scarf. I could knit straight lines. Well,

7:38

I've never thought of neckline sleeves and sewing, but

7:40

I'm not going to let that stop me. I also have

7:43

no time. I am time poor. I never have a free hand. I

7:45

don't have time to knit. If

7:47

you get any moment that's free, though, to

7:49

do it, to use it

7:51

knitting, it's just so you

7:53

feel so good about yourself. I

7:55

know. I know. And better than everyone. Better than everyone

7:58

else because I could be sitting on my feet. scrolling

8:00

TikTok while watching TV or I could be

8:02

knitting while watching TV. Exactly. That is a

8:04

good ADHD choice in my opinion. I know.

8:06

I'm just like, I feel you girl. I feel you.

8:09

It's a bit of ass. So let me let me try. You

8:11

should do it. What was, what's your bad? My

8:13

bad was a 14-hour flight with a baby. It

8:16

was just very bad. That's long in there. It's

8:18

over now. Yes. Yes.

8:21

And the night flight was one thing.

8:24

The day flight, whole different

8:26

kettle of fish. We were

8:28

just awake and needing

8:30

her not to cry because

8:32

everybody already hates you. And that

8:35

should be my awkward actually. When you walk onto

8:37

a plane holding a baby, honestly, it's like

8:39

you could have done a shit in your own

8:42

hand and carried it down the aisle for the way

8:44

the people look at you. Like it's

8:46

a kind of like angry disappointment. And

8:48

as a chronic people pleaser, that is

8:50

a devastating look to be on the

8:53

receiving end of. Yeah, totally. It's really

8:55

unfair. I feel so bad. He crushed

8:57

it. She barely cried. Like the guy

8:59

next to me was, yeah,

9:02

he was snoring louder than what she was

9:04

crying. Can I just say? I swear so

9:06

many grown men would be a million times worse

9:08

than a baby. Surely.

9:10

Yeah. I'd rather sit next to

9:13

a lady than him. Like we took his

9:15

shoes off immediately. No. No. And then

9:17

at one point he lifted his t-shirts up and he scratched his

9:19

belly with both his hands. I don't know why

9:21

he had to get, it

9:26

was like a big bear. Like, that's

9:29

such a weird thing to do. Why don't

9:31

you go under the shirt and have a little

9:33

of it? I know. I don't know. He like

9:35

fully lifted up a bit.

9:38

I don't like it. I don't

9:40

like this man. I wouldn't like to see him.

9:42

That's horrible. No, no. And

9:45

actually, just to continue my attack

9:48

on this man's personality. Yeah, give me.

9:50

When we got off the flight, he'd

9:53

obviously been skiing in Japan,

9:55

because you can ski in Japan, and

9:58

he pushed in front of me. with

10:00

my baby and another man holding a baby and

10:03

to get into the list with his big skis.

10:05

I hate him. So the babies couldn't go

10:07

in the list and I just thought... Huh.

10:09

I hope he tripped. I hope he tripped on his

10:12

way home or got stuck in the traffic on the

10:14

particular route that he went on. Yeah.

10:17

I hope he felt that. I hope he paid. You

10:19

know what? The worst thing that Katia ever did. I'm sure I

10:21

told the story on the podcast but I remember when I was

10:23

like eight months pregnant and I was trying to get home from

10:25

Leicester Square and I was so

10:27

tired and just so enormous and it

10:29

was so cold and this old fuck

10:33

pushed him like I was waiting. I called my cab, had my

10:35

arm out and he pushed in front of me. I did tell

10:37

this story and he fell in my

10:39

cab and as he placed his date in the cab and

10:41

as the date went away Katia just slipped

10:43

into his room and continued he was really

10:45

old. She was like, I hate your trip and break

10:47

both your arms. I'm going to

10:49

break both your arms. What

10:53

a good sis. You need help. Yeah

10:55

exactly. Depending on my honour. Did you have an awkward already?

10:58

My awkward is that I walked into the flight but also

11:00

just a second look at it. I also got lymphatic drainage

11:02

this morning which was definitely a good. I

11:04

was so tired after eating

11:06

loads of salt and not drinking loads of water and the

11:08

flight home. So

11:11

had lymphatic drainage which was so amazing. Loved it.

11:13

But at one point the lady went,

11:17

do you mind if I rub your breast? No. That

11:23

one, you've really got some stuff in there.

11:25

We've got to get that out. That

11:29

breast is a bit milky. So

11:31

she just peeled back the towel and

11:33

took, I'm going to say my

11:35

boob in one hand but it's enormous so probably

11:37

both hands and just rubbed it.

11:40

I was like, did it feel satisfying

11:42

or incontinable? I'm

11:44

satisfied. I don't

11:46

know, maybe you just felt satisfied after. Nope,

11:49

that sounds really wrong. I didn't mean it like

11:51

that. I just meant the general lymphatic drainage. What?

11:55

I don't really understand what it is. Things just moved

11:57

on your body. They just rubbed you and it smiled

11:59

and I didn't. I wouldn't have believed in it except I

12:01

did it once after I had a baby because I read about

12:03

the benefits of like it after a cesarean so I did it

12:06

and it was so amazing and then I

12:08

went my friend does facials my sister works

12:10

at a faceless she's a receptionist at a

12:12

faceless and so then I was learning a lot about

12:14

lymphatic drainage of the face so I basically got like

12:16

fully swayed into like the lymphatic drainage thing and today

12:18

I was like you know what this is when I

12:21

need it like I'm so like far

12:23

through as likely for sure yeah my fingers

12:26

are swollen like my ankles are swollen you

12:28

know and like I just felt really small

12:30

yeah and she basically just they just rub

12:32

you yeah in the direction of

12:35

your lymph nodes so like

12:37

two elbows sorry two other

12:39

two underarms yeah it's

12:42

just full mouthful basically and then you just have to drink

12:44

loads and loads of water and it drains you and honestly

12:46

the difference I feel she did one of my legs and

12:48

then made me lift it up and then made me lift up

12:50

the leg that she hadn't done and it was literally like the

12:52

one she hadn't done was full of lead really

12:56

yeah it was amazing that sounds really fun

12:58

yeah it was really good yes

13:06

you should and just be prepared that someone

13:08

might ask you if you'd like your breath

13:10

to be rubbed that's like go

13:12

for it lady give it a red hot go

13:15

I don't mind girl are you kidding girl you

13:18

get in there what about you my friend anything walk

13:20

quick before we get into the interview oh my god

13:22

it's really boring but basically I just don't know how

13:24

my oven works and I think it's just really awkward

13:27

I cried when Daisy got home the other day from

13:29

London because I made it I spent

13:31

I slaved over an aubergine parmigiana and I was

13:33

feeling so proud of it and then we got

13:35

back home and it was burned to

13:37

shit and I just took it out the oven and

13:39

immediately burst into tears and Daisy was like don't worry

13:42

darling I'll still eat it and it was like black

13:44

on top and I was like this is the worst

13:46

thing ever and so I'm just I'm just embarrassed I

13:48

should be old enough to know how my fucking oven

13:50

works but I don't I love that

13:53

don't you literally do

13:56

yeah it's bad it just it made me upset

13:58

that's big Alex I know, I'm actually

14:01

quite a good cook so I was quite sad and

14:03

this is what is upsetting me. I'm like, it's ruining

14:05

my food. The oven, it's not me. Yeah,

14:07

you saw a different over-gene parmigiana.

14:10

I did, I did. I tell you

14:12

who I did. So I'm quite

14:14

demo about that. Anyway, awkward, embarrassing. Fuck the

14:16

oven. Yeah, fuck my oven. So

14:18

who have we got that on the podcast today,

14:20

M Clarkson? As if you wouldn't know, as if

14:23

you didn't spend hours editing it already. It's

14:25

true. But

14:27

I like it, I'll play along. So

14:29

today on the podcast, we have my

14:32

friend, Dan Richards, who

14:35

came to tell his story, which I'm so

14:37

grateful for. So I first met Dan in

14:39

2016. He was one of

14:43

the band of brothers, one of the wounded

14:45

guys on a bike ride that my mum and

14:48

I were doing for Help for Heroes. So it

14:50

was one of the big, bottom-sealed bike rides. And

14:53

I hadn't met Dan before. And he got

14:55

up and did a speech on the third

14:57

or fourth day about his

15:00

story, about his

15:02

accident. He was in a motorcycle crash,

15:05

which resulted in him losing not

15:07

just his arm, but his entire

15:09

shoulder as well. So he had

15:12

this completely life-changing injury and

15:15

lost his job as a result. And he

15:18

spoke so openly about not only his accident,

15:20

but about the mental health implications of

15:22

an accident like that. And it

15:25

was so moving. And

15:28

we became friends literally from

15:30

that day on. We just loved him.

15:32

He came and cycled with us for the rest of

15:34

the trip. And he's been in my life ever

15:36

since. It's been eight years. And I'm

15:38

really, really grateful that he came to speak. He's

15:40

had such an interesting career since then. He went

15:43

on a show called Naked Beach, which I always

15:45

thought was the bravest thing in the whole wide

15:47

world. And

15:50

his journey to confidence and

15:53

body confidence has just been really remarkable

15:55

to watch. So I was really excited

15:57

that he came to speak to us and actually just told us.

16:00

us his own story. He basically gave

16:02

the speech that he did

16:04

that I heard all those years ago. So

16:08

he's just here to tell his story really and

16:10

I hope you love him as much as we

16:12

do. Hello

16:15

Dan. Hello. I'm so excited that you came

16:17

to speak to us. For

16:19

context, Dan and I have been friends for

16:21

seven? Yeah. Isn't it?

16:23

2016, yeah. Wow. So yeah, we met in 2016 and that

16:25

was on one of the Help to Heroes bike rides,

16:31

which we were cycling. Where were we going?

16:34

It was Northern Friday's Battlefield bike ride.

16:36

So Belgium to Verdun. It

16:39

was a long way. Yeah. It

16:41

was your first time doing an

16:43

event like that. I mean,

16:45

this is part of my introduction to cycling, but

16:47

like that ride, I

16:49

got a spot as an ambassador. They

16:52

called him the band of brothers back then. Help

16:54

heroes. The help heroes. And the band of

16:56

brothers was just a community of wounded in the city. So

16:58

it doesn't matter if you were a woman, male,

17:01

female, you

17:03

were kind of a band of brother anyway and

17:05

relatives with the band of sisters. And you could

17:08

be a husband. Got it. Got it.

17:11

It wasn't gender specific. We met on

17:13

that. We met a couple of days in,

17:15

which was at some point in Belgium. I

17:17

met Dan because like you say, there are

17:19

hundreds of people on the ride and you

17:21

got up and you told your story and

17:23

it was so amazing. And you came and

17:26

sat with us for lunch after that. And

17:28

like we've been friends since, which

17:30

I'm very, very grateful for. That was how I

17:32

learned so much about you because obviously you told

17:34

your story so eloquently. So it would be amazing

17:36

for everybody listening if you could kind of tell

17:38

us your story, how you came to be involved

17:40

with Help to Heroes, your accident and yeah,

17:42

everything that led you to do that bike ride in the first place. Yeah,

17:45

sure. Well, pull up a sandbag and I'll

17:47

tell you a story. So I was brought

17:49

up in a military kind of family, really,

17:52

like my biological father who

17:54

I have no relationship with. And

17:56

I think it's a mutual kind of thing.

18:00

When I was four, I was born in Ascot, we

18:02

moved to Germany, and that's

18:04

where him and Mum got divorced and we moved

18:06

back to the UK. We

18:08

then moved to Swindon, where

18:11

I pretty much grew

18:13

up there from about nine

18:15

to 17. But

18:18

Mum had a boyfriend who was an absolute ...

18:21

Yeah, do you know what? He

18:23

was a shitbag. He was a very strict

18:26

man, and I'm the oldest of three. I

18:29

used to get beaten up like a

18:31

man, like, I hit round the head

18:33

and stuff, and my sister was

18:35

abused. Mum had no

18:38

idea what was going on until the

18:40

day she found out, and

18:42

I just remember waking

18:44

up one morning, and it's gone. And

18:47

it was the first time in growing

18:50

up where I felt

18:52

safe in a house, like, between

18:54

after Mum getting divorced to Dad

18:57

and then this guy leaving. So

19:00

it was a

19:02

strange upbringing, but Mum

19:05

did so good with us, and we lived on accounts of

19:07

the staying staff. As kids, we'd

19:09

never know if Mum

19:12

was in financial trouble or anything, because she completely

19:14

kept her away from me. We had a really

19:16

good upbringing, all by four years, with

19:18

an absolute prick of a bloke in the house. Mum

19:21

met my ... For all intents and

19:23

purposes, my stepdad, but he's my dad,

19:25

so his surname is my surname and

19:28

whatnot. So if it is a conversation for the rest of

19:30

today, he's my dad. Mum

19:34

met my dad in Tidworth. He was in the

19:36

army, and every day I was just watching him go out to

19:38

work in his uniform. I'd see him

19:40

with his friends and stuff, and all

19:42

of that all coming around the house. And that whole

19:45

kind of ... Obviously, at such a young age, you

19:47

don't know what that is, but

19:49

I was like, that's what I want. I

19:51

was eight years old, people would say, well, I said

19:53

to Mum and Dad, I was like, when I'm old enough, I

19:56

want to be like, Dad, that's what I want to do. And

19:59

I guess ... As such a

20:01

young age to have that kind of

20:03

direction. And sense of

20:05

purpose if you the height of i knew

20:07

who I wanted to be your new whiny

20:09

to see to get there. So from school

20:11

I knew. It wasn't

20:14

as well as school anyway, but didn't like

20:16

school to be honest. Bomb. Oh

20:18

free school was friends whose in what

20:20

jesus he's to do to get into

20:22

what college or university of guy that.

20:25

Are. More interested in any favorites?

20:27

Face awesomely. Finish school. saw

20:29

basic training and I'm. Yeah

20:33

I the I left time for the first

20:35

time. As seventeen trailer anything

20:37

other than a weekend send to in the army.

20:40

And that's kind of when I.

20:43

Asked. So independence stuff. and

20:45

long as there's the oblivion hi

20:47

I'm kind of been open to

20:50

a. And

20:52

environment that. I'd. Won it

20:54

for so many years. For.

20:57

Me of living the dream. An answer yeah

20:59

I went all I did. basic training less

21:01

spicy trail. most rating was impaired Roy and

21:04

sorry. And then it

21:06

was during those first three months. That's

21:08

all I got. How about regiment with

21:10

the King Street and saw was sold.

21:12

The train was riding horses and right

21:14

number eight and will face. with

21:17

kind of when against why joined the

21:19

army for and. One. Thing

21:21

my dad always told me when I was growing up and

21:23

I was too. And in the arm, is this what you

21:25

do. This with you on a

21:27

day Macys a trade and so would is

21:29

trying. thrown off from the kings and and

21:31

in Feria was one to far as a

21:33

blacksmith I mean she's horse and stuff but

21:35

there's so many different sauces so far as

21:38

well. Said with a minor in the but

21:40

since he was a non deployable unit is

21:42

is predominately a ceremonial regimen. Our site will

21:44

before I thomas of though that there are

21:46

things I wanna day I want the operation

21:48

told what to do some odd own A

21:50

do I went astray. I was some life

21:52

experience humble some world experience say I went

21:54

off the Afghanistan in two thousand and seven.

21:57

i came back track for in a

21:59

poet himalayas And then when we go back

22:01

from that, and this was the end of

22:03

2008 now, I had made it clear that

22:08

I was only in the kingship to become a farrier. And

22:11

if that wasn't a possibility, then I want to be

22:13

transferred out. So it

22:15

was agreed that after a parade, and it was Queen's

22:17

birthday parade, or Trooping

22:19

the Colour, that I could

22:23

start making progress towards getting into the

22:25

forge. I did one full dress

22:27

review of Trooping the Colour, which was 30th of

22:29

May 2009, and I managed

22:32

to get my dad and my grandma the

22:34

last two tickets to come and sit in the stands and

22:36

watch it. My family had never seen me on parade

22:39

in that capacity before. And

22:41

the following day, I handed

22:44

over the guard room, I went out on

22:46

my motorbike, riding back

22:48

to my barracks. I

22:51

don't know what happened, how it happened. I didn't even

22:53

have flashbacks. I

22:56

woke up sort of three days later in

22:58

the Royal London at Whitechapel via helicopter, an

23:00

arm and shoulder liar, amongst some other injuries. And

23:03

I had a collision with the central

23:05

reservation on the 841 Hendon Way, shoulder first, which ripped

23:09

my arm and shoulder off on sight. I

23:11

had lacerated my internal jugular, two broken ankles, and then

23:13

this arm was smashed to pieces as well. And

23:16

there's a picture of me on my phone somewhere of

23:18

me in hospital, not long, a day or so after I'd

23:20

been woken up with my arm suspended in

23:22

a blue foam cast with external fixators

23:24

in it, cast

23:27

up my legs with a

23:29

beaming smile on my face. Yeah. But

23:33

like, the thing is, the thing is,

23:35

is when they woke me up and

23:37

I don't remember much, but I do remember being woken up

23:39

in hospital. And they

23:41

were like, Mr. Richards, you know, I thought

23:43

I was back in my barracks in the back

23:46

of my room in my barracks when I woke up. And then

23:48

as I sort of began to piece together,

23:50

I mean, the first thing that hit me, I never thought it

23:52

is like the peppery anesthetic taste in the back of your throat

23:54

from the anesthetic. I've been

23:56

down in operations before and, and like, it

23:59

was a... Amelia in in his are kind

24:01

of a bad happened to i hadn't

24:03

a wall and as you kind of

24:05

begins his senses le Masque listed up

24:08

Mama Davos today the made with those

24:10

was strange at the time because in

24:12

my room in the barracks and buried

24:14

in mind that room with tiny but

24:16

it was mine never share of anyone.

24:19

My bed was right next to the warm

24:22

weather window was forget how top listed here

24:24

but have. Always. Had their

24:26

varsity the vote based. On

24:29

that was it another say up. Going to

24:31

see the the beds for the warden is

24:33

a High Seas units and and and then

24:35

I'll be to the doctor He martin him

24:37

with his with his assistants and thus from

24:39

a whole given the good news release sites.

24:42

Good news And them and them is

24:45

he been in there was a mess

24:47

on less than a very lucky to

24:49

be allies and what zebra him ankles?

24:52

the different pincers. hey I'm. About

24:54

that he left arm was bright say nothing. When I

24:57

got to be in the road my hand was cup

24:59

in my elbow. says.

25:01

Bed my back on about his. South of about Pets

25:03

V X Rays was a place of a down the

25:05

raiders know wanna. I'm

25:08

a hit the barrier that hard I bust my arse.

25:10

a fool lepers. I bust the second open but as

25:13

it was killed on up. Of

25:15

approval by Hillman. Home from that

25:17

I am medicine muscle reminder of

25:19

how things change. and

25:22

then in a fuss is but when i

25:24

bet i and the dogs have walk around for

25:27

my left arm round about my beds. Came

25:29

up the right hand side. I'm it's of

25:31

what's in him. And

25:33

then the next was have come out. With. A

25:36

Unfortunately. But. They like any

25:38

sentence as costs a fortune they raise

25:40

the level of club promises sides of

25:42

fortune. They offer six half hours of

25:44

surgery. Who. Are they were save

25:47

your right arm off site and soda.

25:49

or bit of flavor and i went

25:51

it but assumes a pillow auto black

25:53

piece of material staple of habit of

25:55

skins cover the old when the doctor

25:57

said that i call be upset disaster

26:00

a massive shock to testing. I was 23 at

26:02

the time as well and I got a bit

26:04

upset and obviously being that age as well at

26:06

vanity is a massive part of your life and

26:10

it's like who's going to

26:12

want me now basically? I'm going to

26:14

be just a broken kind

26:17

of disregarded thing for the rest of

26:19

my life and

26:22

I got a bit upset. Then I

26:24

remember looking around, there were people

26:26

from the regiment, their mum and dad were their

26:29

friends there and they were obviously a bit upset.

26:31

I had this massive shock to the system and

26:34

then the nurse was there and

26:36

I went

26:39

verbatim. I said, is

26:41

the plumbing still attached and working? She

26:44

said, that's fine, you've got a capper to hang out with. I went,

26:46

do you know what, nothing else matters and does it? I said, there

26:48

are people worse off than me. Looking

26:51

back on that moment, do you

26:53

know what, I guess it's the moment I accepted my situation. I

26:55

was like, I'm going to be in my own arm for the

26:57

rest of my life. It's never going

27:00

to grow back. I'll probably never get it

27:02

back so let's just get on with it. It

27:05

was in hospital where I set my first goal. They

27:08

wheeled me into the toilet after

27:11

having an enema and I

27:13

was like, I've never felt more vulnerable in my

27:15

life after having one of those. They

27:20

wheeled me in and they said,

27:23

when you're finished, pull the orange cord and someone will

27:25

come and tidy you up. I

27:27

had a word like, I'm

27:29

quite worried about myself in the toilet. I

27:31

said, if I can't

27:34

wipe my own ass and I've got the capacity to be

27:36

able to do so, this hand was in a cast

27:38

at the time, I need to

27:40

help work with myself. That was

27:42

when I went, I need my independence back. So

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are so many different. Feat

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in itself. Ponzi this line of

29:01

sight games rest of my game.

29:04

Everything so many to even now

29:06

thinks he's you sound very deep

29:08

asked to her ah. I'm

29:10

going to do that. I didn't know it,

29:12

it's harmful. Fundamental lot have been be

29:15

locked, he's in ghosts and will become

29:17

bar smells when it was my spent

29:19

two months in hospital for once he

29:21

had the whole had to call it

29:23

but was at the Defense Medical Rehabilitation

29:26

center where everyone within the military guys

29:28

were busy person or thing though we've.

29:30

lost arms or legs and or nights

29:33

i must really when i play spades

29:35

to other people in similar situations before

29:37

limbless and and do enough author or

29:39

use them as inspiration er my first

29:41

for say com i have a war

29:43

was purely cosmetic it was to show

29:45

for that elaborate one of our and

29:48

ordered to hang their and is kind

29:50

of a gave me as a little

29:52

bit of a glimpse into way would

29:54

be like to live with the paralyzed

29:56

on the amount of accommodating i have

29:58

to do with to putting a

30:00

t-shirt on with this prosthetic arm. I

30:03

was like, you know, I'm glad it's gone because I'd have

30:06

it off anyway. You know,

30:08

it's surplus to a climate essentially.

30:11

And so returned back to the regiment, relearned

30:13

to ride a horse again, because

30:15

I was quite adamant that I'm gonna

30:17

go back to the unit. And

30:20

I'm not gonna let really one bad day kind

30:22

of dictate and ruin what I've spent, well,

30:25

essentially my life kind of wanting

30:27

to do. I was just gonna say

30:29

one bad day. It's

30:32

a very bad day. Very bad, yeah. I

30:35

really like to ride a horse. I took

30:38

a photo shoot and I rock climbing in Spain. And

30:41

it was on the rock face. And

30:43

I think this is like two years in

30:45

now, like post-injury. I remember

30:47

on the rock face, I became the lead climber with

30:49

that little 10 day expedition. And I went, you know

30:51

what? If I can adjust to this way of life,

30:53

like I have, I've got nothing

30:55

to worry about. Like, how

30:58

wrong was I? But

31:01

shortly after that experience and whatnot,

31:05

I then, I was three years in

31:07

and that's when I had a

31:09

medical board. I had a medical board every year. And every

31:11

year that I had them, this was the third one, that

31:14

the previous two I'd been like, now I'm gonna stay in.

31:16

And I met all of the criteria

31:19

that they set for me to achieve. To

31:22

stay in the army. To stay in the army. Obviously

31:24

at the time as well, and this is 2009 was

31:28

the accident, 2012

31:30

was the last one, but in those years, I

31:33

had to meet criteria, you know, to show that

31:36

willing. And I was very much of

31:38

the opinion like, look, I'm coming back to the army. I

31:41

don't wanna be just someone

31:44

that sits in the corner and

31:46

collects dust like a useless

31:49

ornament, if you like. I wanna earn my spot back here.

31:51

I can't do press ups, I can't do pull ups. Well,

31:53

I can run. And

31:55

I did it, I did it. With the metal plates and your

31:57

ankles as well. Well, it was a few. I

32:00

had the bolts out at this point. So

32:02

I went in for this medical board, and that's

32:04

when they said, literally, you

32:07

are no longer insured to do anything

32:09

military ever again, including making

32:11

cups of tea for anyone other than yourself. I was

32:13

in Frimley Park the following day, had

32:15

my ankle fused so I can't run. And the day

32:17

after that, I was in Tebweth

32:20

House, Tebweth House's Help

32:22

Heroes Recovery Center. And leaving

32:24

the military under medical discharge terms is

32:26

a six-month process. I

32:29

was wheelchair bound at the time, non-weight bearing for

32:31

my ankle fusion. So I

32:33

couldn't really get involved on the resettlement

32:35

process. Like the

32:37

buildings were inaccessible. So I just involved

32:39

myself in whatever I could do, and it was

32:42

things like, what can I debunk my CV at?

32:44

Because bearing in mind, I spent the last sort

32:46

of nine and a half, 10 years only

32:49

interested in things that got me into the forge.

32:51

I was not as television. And so

32:53

I spent six months at Tebweth House, and

32:55

my last day in the military was the 28th

32:58

of September And

33:00

that was literally my last paid

33:02

day as a

33:04

soldier in the military. And I

33:07

went back home, and I was a little bit excited

33:09

about the unknown, but at the same

33:11

time, I was thinking, what am I going to do with my life? And

33:13

I had quite a bit of money saved up as well, a bit of

33:15

money sort of saved up. And I had, give

33:17

myself a month off, I got bored after

33:19

two weeks, and that's when I started to

33:22

look for work. And it's like marrying up your

33:24

experiences. And you think, oh, the job I did, the job I did

33:26

in Africa and the sun, the job I did

33:28

in the UK and all the work, I've still got

33:30

some managerial experience. What else am I doing for that?

33:34

It was an eight month kind of process,

33:36

if you like, of which became

33:38

327 job applications, of

33:42

which not one let's say anything sub-basic. I

33:45

think I had about five replies of, you

33:48

haven't got the skills or experiences required. But

33:51

during that time, and before I got to my

33:54

next decision, I kind of swallowed my pride and thought, well,

33:56

I'll go bottom of the ladder, Entry

33:58

level roles, nothing.. The end

34:00

of a run a part of what is as

34:02

well. I'm living on my savings. My mom had

34:04

my mama, step dad and. I

34:07

remember our hats he it was the

34:09

end same of his August Twenty Thirteen

34:12

about i'm a Hazard every tax and

34:14

and saw my car was always uses

34:16

do ideally I went to pay for

34:18

it. I'm a contest fluids

34:20

and a frustrated and defines know some

34:23

I own my bank and five fifteen

34:25

pence to my name and everything is

34:27

on that was will run in parallel

34:29

with Order This trying to find a

34:31

foothold into soy and one morning mom

34:33

and. Step at a

34:35

glance, work on them. Or.

34:37

Glob Shower or my it is a

34:39

snap decision. I'd never thought about doing

34:42

anything like this before. Offshore

34:45

Affection in the Mirror and as the

34:47

I'll Save A Way I was on

34:49

caps no color, nothing like the person

34:51

with the said that you know of

34:53

Qasim. These. Distanced from often back

34:55

of a door for years and forgotten about. An

34:58

I when. If. This were less constant

35:01

for me. Off the everything I've been for

35:03

you. I. Really wanna be policy

35:05

and or when a lot about dressing gown bow

35:07

a lot I wanna run the had both been

35:09

around my neck and I sat on the floor

35:11

and i measure the our enough so that might

35:13

bomb wouldn't touch the floor so his. Thumb.

35:17

And a half way through. And in

35:19

it. And I was. I. Was.

35:22

Month gonna say was finds me. And.

35:27

It was weird. Alliance?

35:29

Hide it or got up. On

35:31

this matter London and that was the

35:33

next goal and I needed my to

35:35

London. How the fuck are Monica with

35:37

fifteen pays homage going to do this

35:39

and in a twist of fate. Of

35:42

itself as a safer. With a

35:44

stop, somebody who castoffs all of the

35:46

workforces. Military The veterans mean

35:48

it's with a percentage being wounded agencies.

35:52

and a women's as sick as a large

35:54

kind of group if you like of is

35:57

not just physical injuries it's it's impossible was

35:59

wealth and can't see, so PTSD. And they offered

36:01

me a job on the spot. Very in the mind, I

36:03

met the founder and

36:06

director of operations at the time. And I mean, I

36:08

was long hair, massive beard,

36:10

a bit overweight, not that I

36:13

mattered, but cargo shorts, a pair

36:15

of manky Timberland boots. Like

36:17

really, and I'm going to be

36:19

driving exposed to like London's elite,

36:22

essentially, business owners of

36:24

like footsie, 500 companies and at

36:26

some point like celebrities and different award

36:28

ceremonies and stuff and a royalty at

36:30

one point. And I moved out of,

36:33

I moved from Somerset and I lived in a caravan

36:35

from 2014, well, all of 2014, through

36:37

15 in this caravan

36:41

in a little village called Raisbury, just

36:43

outside Windsor. And I remember it, this,

36:46

the only luxury of this car of this

36:48

static home that I had was

36:50

that I could flush the toilets and run the taps.

36:53

That was it. It leaked, it had holes in

36:55

it. I go to bed at night in my

36:57

old army sleeping bag. And my

37:00

duvet pulled over me because I couldn't

37:02

afford the gas canisters for the heating.

37:04

Some days I'd have like a year and as the,

37:06

and as the home shopping van

37:08

would turn up, but that was because somebody had

37:11

come to see me and worked

37:14

out my situation. Because in amongst those,

37:16

there were days, there were weeks, sorry,

37:18

where I couldn't afford to go shopping

37:20

and fill my cupboards up. So I

37:23

would live on custard cream biscuits and

37:25

cups of tea. But like, I turned

37:27

up to work for the clients, macularly

37:30

turned out, shirts

37:32

were always ironed, suit

37:34

was never creased, shoes were always

37:37

shiny. And the people I was driving, and

37:40

I was exposed to, and I was exposed to affluence of

37:42

a level I'd never seen before, and

37:45

success and so on. And one

37:48

day I went, I had a bit

37:50

of an epiphany and I just went, what are

37:52

these people doing when no one else is

37:54

looking? Because if it's working

37:56

for them, why can't it work for me? And It

37:58

weren't about becoming. You know, massively

38:01

successful Hideous. the rich com a lot

38:03

of stories over noise as told by

38:05

Just Because. I just it is what

38:07

they're doing when there's no external validation.

38:10

I'm. I'm in the past place to find

38:12

out because are spending more time with

38:15

these people when back in whitehall than

38:17

desk was going to be their families

38:19

as hobbies and the cherry pick kind

38:21

of personally attributes from from these people

38:23

on for is a conversation that was

38:25

the value of time the things I

38:27

could do year before stop days. To.

38:30

Made my day. Less.

38:33

Compact this a lot with I'd consider my mind

38:35

i you know something was up. a slice up

38:37

at like five into more like to be at

38:39

their house or five in the morning. So I

38:41

got like two hours early. Or

38:43

there for war on race for it and it has

38:45

to hold of a sort of us have a tall.

38:48

Is of his and he says one

38:50

is harmful Bus was a was quite

38:52

surprising and a nice how clear my

38:55

mind was hum or white I wasn't

38:57

ready to the day. I

39:00

just who do not like this habit

39:02

that is going to form an. Isis.

39:05

When any opportunity get from now on I don't care

39:07

what is a my rid myself of me so much

39:10

in the past. Have.

39:13

Some say yes or don't have it is.

39:16

Because. I probably with that is not my

39:18

saying I've picked up from somewhere there's nothing

39:20

more expensive than the missed opportunity and say

39:22

with that in mind, Twenty. Four

39:25

wayne are taken away by. A

39:28

by an organization Depth Therapy. He

39:30

took me away to Egypt's. Or.

39:33

Why lads, he's. In the

39:35

run up to Egypt or that soon

39:37

as qualified as an open was he

39:39

was I've with patti put of retail

39:41

copy license for it was have never

39:43

used since I didn't have any we'll

39:45

see who's a spokesperson says for professional

39:47

that was not a tough cyprus and

39:49

then I'll go back from there are

39:51

a win more for the guy's a

39:53

guy was there with windows we will

39:56

forget her name on a lot biplanes

39:58

who will be no money. Wing!

40:00

I did wind. I wind walking,

40:03

just jump up and down in the wind and see how far you

40:05

can go. Wow! I

40:07

love the wind. She gets really annoyed by it.

40:10

It's highly caught, it's annoying. Yeah, headwinds. Gave that a

40:12

go. But

40:14

as we're doing this, certainly those two things, and

40:16

I'm sure there are others, which I can't remember,

40:20

I was beginning to find this

40:22

sense of adventure, and

40:25

it's like I was getting a glimpse

40:27

into the old Dan Richards,

40:30

with a bit of an improvement, and then

40:33

I took up the opportunity to

40:35

go through a selection process, to

40:38

become part of the world's first

40:40

all-disabled crew, to row unsupported across the

40:42

Atlantic Ocean. I

40:45

knew nothing about rowing, and you can imagine the jokes that

40:47

I got. Most of the rosers

40:49

have got two arms, haven't they? And

40:51

so I got a lot of jokes, you know, you can

40:54

go round in circles and all that stuff, but there were

40:56

a lot of naysayers as well, a lot of naysayers, you

40:58

know, what are you doing that for, what's the point, you

41:00

never get it. And do you

41:03

know what, yeah, I didn't get it. I

41:05

went through the selection process, and

41:08

I watched over that time

41:11

as people either removed themselves,

41:13

or they weren't, I wouldn't

41:16

say they're not good enough, that's the wrong word, but

41:18

a lot of it was self-removal, or

41:21

the selection process, kind of like, look, it's not going

41:23

to go any further than this. And I got to

41:25

the final five, I think there

41:27

were about 30 of us altogether, got to

41:29

the final five, and

41:31

I did my final selection, which was a

41:33

24-hour row on the Indoor rowers, with three

41:35

of the selected four crew, and

41:38

so I was a little bit like, yeah, I've definitely got this, this

41:40

is going to be an amazing adventure. And I got

41:42

the phone call, and it was like, we're going to go with someone else

41:44

essentially. Good thing. You

41:47

say that, that's my greatest

41:49

achievement. And it sounds really wanky

41:51

and cliche, and so you should have a couple of

41:53

hashtags at the end of it. But

41:56

no, I learned more about

41:58

myself, one, capable of

42:01

in spite of my limitations, in spite of

42:04

the amount of naysayers and obstacles

42:06

I came up against in

42:09

that process than I probably

42:11

have done of any in any

42:13

other time. It's a matter no matter what I achieve

42:16

from now until the day that I die that

42:18

I'll always be kind of the precipice of which I've

42:20

built everything else upon and with that I put the

42:22

phone down. Thanks very much and well thanks for the

42:24

opportunity I really enjoyed it. I put the

42:26

phone I need to make up to do. I had a bike and

42:30

that was my precursor to cycling and that's when we

42:32

met. I then moved into

42:34

my flat where I live now in South

42:36

London. We helped you build your furniture. You

42:38

did that. You and Alex. Yeah we're like

42:40

the worst people to help. The

42:43

knife rack is still up and working very well. The

42:45

one thing that I got from the

42:50

row was what

42:53

success is and to

42:56

me and in my in my humble

42:59

opinion success to

43:01

me isn't winning. It's not getting the medal. It's

43:03

not getting the promotion. You can put it into

43:05

any facet of life you like and

43:07

there's no shame in giving up and

43:09

no one should be made to feel the shame for giving up

43:12

but running parallel with all of that if you can hold your

43:14

hand and say yeah I did my absolute fucking best here then

43:17

that's success because what you

43:20

learn about yourself in any process

43:23

outweighs any result any any

43:25

tangible results so if you want to get a medal

43:28

you know gold silver bronze yeah

43:31

if you don't get that but you've done you've tried

43:34

your absolute best in

43:36

doing that well then

43:38

the bits that you've learned you can carry over

43:40

to the net if you try again and I've

43:43

taken that forward into cycling I did it

43:45

on our ride the battle for arrival

43:47

meet but we met my thing with cyclists I

43:49

can't stand up and cycle so when

43:51

it comes to Hills I'm confined to

43:54

the saddle but top of the over and

43:56

every hill that we got to in France

43:58

I rode up here.

44:00

I was probably at the back sometimes. I caught

44:02

up with everyone. All they

44:05

waited for me. My thought process on

44:07

that is a hill

44:09

is a hill, at the top of this hill, this would

44:11

be a nice view. It would be lovely. If I

44:13

get off and walk, I don't know, not

44:16

everyone would agree with this, but my was

44:18

like, if I get off and walk, yes, I'll get the

44:20

view. I wouldn't have earned it. That's

44:26

what I do now. I take that into every hill

44:28

that I do, even if I had

44:30

ridden it before, I can get off and walk if I want to. What's

44:34

it taught me? That

44:36

when it gets hard, I can just take the easier way out.

44:41

Take from that what you like. It's not a

44:43

copy and paste thing, but I

44:46

look at losing my arm and shoulder

44:48

now. This probably sounds a

44:50

bit of a cop out, but it's probably the greatest thing that's

44:52

ever happened to me. The

44:54

way I live my life now and the things that I've

44:56

been able to do and the people I've met, Francie,

45:01

Alex, Finlow, and

45:04

Catherine, all that, would

45:06

probably never have happened had

45:10

I not been through this. I'd never

45:12

been on the battlefield bike ride like

45:15

this. I'd never have got the opportunity to train

45:17

and be selected for

45:19

the row. So many things happen because

45:24

of this and it aligns the values of

45:26

how I live my life. It

45:29

was the end of the battlefield bike ride. I got to have

45:31

a done where it finished and I went,

45:33

I'm going to be a cyclist. What can

45:35

I do in cycling? I'd missed the

45:37

incachment deadline for the Invictus

45:40

Games of 2017, which that

45:42

year were held in Toronto in 2017. The Invictus Games

45:44

are the, Prince Harry started them and

45:46

they're the military. It's

45:49

basically, yeah, the Easy way to say

45:51

it is, it's a military. Olympics. Paralympics.

45:54

Paralympics, yeah. But

45:57

it doesn't focus on elite competition. The

46:00

Invictus Games is all about a

46:02

recovery process. People apply to take

46:04

part in it as

46:06

part of their recovery and so on. Because

46:08

sport is a wonderful, wonderful tool when

46:10

it comes to managing anything you're

46:13

going through. And

46:15

I stand by that unequivocally. I'd moved into

46:17

my flat at this point and I had

46:20

no money to kind of afford the

46:22

luxuries of cycling. And so

46:24

I just basically begged, or instilled what I

46:26

could, to train

46:29

for the games. I couldn't afford, I couldn't

46:31

even afford a Zwift membership. Zwift is a

46:33

training platform for cycling. You bloody love Zwift.

46:35

I do now. Do you follow Dan on

46:37

Instagram, Zwift? But very in the

46:39

meanwhile, I couldn't afford this as I was training for

46:41

the games. And that's 13 pounds a month.

46:45

But I did have the internet. And

46:47

the internet, for all intents and purposes, is

46:49

free after you pay the monthly bill. But

46:52

I was using YouTube and Google

46:55

to train to indoor videos and

46:58

whatnot. And I was using

47:01

Google to basically find the

47:04

fundamental basics, and basics at

47:06

best, like nutritional

47:09

kind of things. And

47:11

I'd copy other cyclists

47:13

and professionals and so on.

47:16

Over a two year process, I

47:19

went into various selection processes and then found

47:21

myself in Sydney at the start line, at

47:23

the cycling event at the Invictus Games. And

47:27

it was like, it's a very humbling feeling that,

47:29

knowing that you've worked so hard towards something and

47:31

then you've achieved it. And for me,

47:34

the Invictus Games was my line in the sand between

47:36

that military part of my life and

47:39

the rest of my life. Bloody hell, what

47:41

a story. Yeah. I

47:43

think I've picked up a lot of your time, I'm

47:46

sorry. Yeah, it's so great, Eddie, for sharing

47:48

it. It's so fascinating, it's so

47:51

fascinating. There's like so much to

47:53

dive into. But you are also

47:55

like, it's worth saying, and I say this too, I

47:57

mean, anyone who's ever met you says this.

47:59

same thing which is you are the most positive

48:02

person I've ever

48:05

known. Because in spite of all

48:07

of that and you hearing

48:10

it you're reminded that within

48:13

your positivity there's so much resourcefulness and

48:15

there's so much like want for better

48:17

for yourself and for the people around

48:19

you and it's like to spend time

48:21

with you you feel that but even

48:23

listening to your story just you know

48:25

everybody will have taken that from you

48:28

which is just like an amazing

48:30

like zest for life really. Yeah

48:33

I think because I've seen

48:35

an experience what

48:38

it's like to have absolutely

48:40

nothing but then I

48:42

think I know there's always something

48:44

that can be done by always and I

48:47

think my kind of mental

48:52

outlook if you like is

48:54

probably the wrong connotation

48:56

but is rather

49:00

than focusing on what you haven't got, what you can't

49:02

do, to focus on

49:05

what you can do. I really like that because

49:07

I think humans

49:10

are hardwired to see

49:12

the negatives and

49:14

see the obstacles and

49:18

I think that's so that's a lesson for all

49:20

of us like focus on okay well I can't

49:22

okay yes I can accept that I can't do

49:24

that but what can I do be

49:27

resourceful and focus on what we are able to

49:29

do I think there's a lesson in all of

49:31

us for that. Hearing your

49:34

story that's what you have done

49:36

consistently throughout your life is ever

49:38

since you had that accident. That

49:40

bad day. Yeah that one bad

49:42

day. The day is

49:45

focused on what you can do even

49:48

when you were at you know your real

49:50

rock bottom. Yeah you're like

49:52

there's something to stare still. Yeah there's still

49:54

some like hope. Yeah thank

49:57

you for sharing with us it's really.

50:00

It's so amazing to hear. Yeah, thanks

50:02

for inviting me on. It's been nice

50:04

to meet you, Ali. Yeah. And

50:07

Daisy at the back there. Yeah. Yeah,

50:10

no, thanks for having me on. It's

50:13

been great to catch up here and talk.

50:15

Yeah, I have no doubt you're gonna do some more

50:18

extraordinary things and I look forward to

50:20

hearing about them. And not joining you.

50:23

Yeah, and you know, you did it. Welcome to if you

50:25

like. Thanks,

50:27

Dan. Thank you so much, Dan. Sure,

50:30

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