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today here on the podcast. Real

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talk about a Well, it's a question

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from a collar, a side hustling collar is

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having a problem with her side hustle.

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Is the problem that no one is buying? Nope.

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Is she having some difficulties with customer service?

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Nope. Does she have question about pricing?

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Well, I could go on for a while, but let's just fast

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forward. It seems like business is going along

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okay. Except for something that isn't

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directly related to the project itself, it

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is her partner who is uncomfortable. Her

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partner is uncomfortable with the amount of time

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she's spending on the side hustle. And

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listen, I would say this is the first time I've heard of

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this dynamic, but that would not be true

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because I hear about issues like this all the

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time. Sometimes when

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you start the side hustle, there's money

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involved. Hopefully, you're making money, not just

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spending it, but you're making money. Which

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is great, of course. But sometimes it's not

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always perceived as great by everyone else.

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Sometimes it can change a dynamic in

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a relationship. So there there's a lot that

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could go into this. Right? So we're not gonna be able

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to solve solve everything here, but I do think it's

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important to talk about what might be going on

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and how some other people in this situation have

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handled it. So we're gonna talk about

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conflicts with a partner over a side

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By Chris and team, I have a problem that

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I suspect is more common than most people

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think. In short, I'm

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sorry to report that my partner is not

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very supportive of my side house I'll

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spare you all the details, but basically

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they resent the time it takes even when

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it's not really time that intrudes on something

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we were supposed to do together. It

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also keep asking questions about

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when I'm going to finish as if it's

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a one off project that's just going to wind

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down. I don't want

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it to wind down. Look like

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I'm just getting started. I

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know you aren't a relationship coach, but

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Do you have any advice for me?

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Hey, listen. Thank you so much for calling, and

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thanks for sharing this. I really appreciate your

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just honesty and and straightforwardness here.

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Because as I said, you know, this

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is kind of common. It's

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common or least it's not uncommon. It's

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also complicated because of the root cause.

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The root cause of this whole situation varies.

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It could be a lot different things. In

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some cases, it's just a matter of

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someone not feeling included. You

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know, or or maybe they feel

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weird about the other person suddenly earning more

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money than they do. Maybe as I

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said, that creates a a shift in dynamic in some

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way. Maybe they want their own side hustle,

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and they feel bad that their partner has kinda

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beaten them to it. Or,

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you know, again, as I said real talk here, it could

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just be a simple matter of control.

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And that is more of a relationship issue than

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a side hustle school issue. That's

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easily fixed by, like, here's the plugin

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that you add to your WordPress site, you know.

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You have to kind of discern and decide

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what your level of comfort slash discomfort

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is in these situations, you know?

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What is what is okay to tolerate?

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What is an easy fix here? Versus,

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like, oh, this is a deeper issue. You know,

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it might need to create some other bigger change. But,

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you know, whatever it is, like, whatever

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the problem is, it's probably good to address it

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directly, like everything kind of

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flows from that. So it's like, hey, partner,

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you know, there's something

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going on here and and I don't

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quite know, you know, what's wrong

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or what's bothering you, but I want to know that.

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You know, so how let's talk about it so that you can

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feel heard and that both of us can

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have our priorities on the table. Because,

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you know, for me with the side hustle, here's where

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you say, you know, whatever your goal is, like, I'm trying to

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build some long term income. I'm trying to build

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passive income or, you know, whatever

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it is. The point is it's not just like I'm doing this

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for you know, two weeks and then it's done.

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Like I'm actually trying to make a really positive change

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in my life and perhaps it could be positive

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for both of us, you know. As I said, this is complex.

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The root cause tends to vary, but I think,

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you know, first of all, know that you're not alone. It is

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somewhat at least not uncommon. And,

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you know, these direct conversations, like, that's

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where I would start. And, of course, a lot can

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happen from that point. So so

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hang in there, and good for you on starting the

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side hustle, good for you on moving forward.

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I'll be thinking of you. And listeners, if you've

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had some experience with this, you wanna share Maybe

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we can do a compilation of responses. Happy

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to do that. At some point, we'll

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see what comes in. Site us at law school dot

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com slash questions. Wherever you are in

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the world, whatever you're up to, take care of yourself, try

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to do something to get closer to a goal you believe

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in. And of course, Subscribe,

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follow-up more is coming up. My name is Chris Gillebaut.

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