Negative self-talk can our work-life balance or ability to manage parenting challenges. In this episode, Shawna Scafe, Counsellor and Coach, discusses how to identify common cognitive distortions and challenge them to help rewire your self-talk to be more empowering and motivating. 

This episode is a follow-up to the introduction on Cognitive Distortion (Episode 199). Listeners sent in examples of situations in their day where they struggle with positive self-talk. In each example, I point out what cognitive distortion might be at play and offer some questions to open up awareness of other ways to talk to yourself. Topics and related links covered in this episode

normalizing the struggle with self-talkhow negative self talk impacts us, vs how positive self-talk impacts usthree things to know about how our brain works when it comes to negative self-talkusing CBT to reframe self-talk (and cautions about using it as an emotional bypass)

156. 3 things to know about feeling negative emotions

Scenarios covered in this episode:

The inability to feel good enough at work or at home - the inability to properly balance either to the point of feeling like you could possibly be proficient in both.

Window of tolerance mentioned, you can hear more about it in the Meeting Your Needs series

When you have many littles, don’t get enough sleep often and are sleepy grumpy during the day and can’t seem to shake it!

74. Show up for momlife with these empowering mindsets73. How to deal with the emotional struggles of being a mom of babies and toddlers162. Think the best of me, or not. Allowing the hard and awesome in ourselves and in our lives.

When you work so hard to get everything done, just to start over again. And when you’re feeling annoyed at your family

Byron KatieHunt, Gather, Parent 

 Joining the NEW Patreon, the Life on Purpose Community!

The scenarios covered in the follow-up Patreon Episode:

When you just can’t get to that workout/assignment/projectWalking into a room with confidence when insecurities seek to make you feel less than or unwelcome in a group setting.When I’m tired or sick - I find it difficult to not feel lazy when I want to rest. And though I know I should rest - it’s hard!When I'm procrastinating but have a work deadline loomingMaking it through long, cold winter days without much social interaction. It's so cold that I literally go to work and come home. I'm a teacher and don't have a ton of adult interaction during my days and I feel like the winter blues are getting the best of me.

EPISODE TRANSCRIPT

0:06Hey friends is Shawna your nerdy girlfriend and counselor from simple on purpose.ca Welcome to the Simple on Purpose Podcast.

Guys. How is it March? How is where did February go? Okay, February felt like a blur of hockey. I've been setting up a new office to do some local sessions and getting that painted and all set up and I just look up and suddenly it's March. Oh yeah, by the way, I had a kid turn 13 last month too. Isn't that crazy? What's also crazy is that means I've been sharing with you guys for almost 13 years because the very first thing I ever posted way back on a blog spot called duck tail blog was the story of my C section. And I had a lot of big feelings about it. A lot of disappointment and frustration and anger and and nurse had recommended that I write about it. That was the first blog post that really started this whole online community online relationship that we were able to develop and how it's grown, how we've changed how we've grown together. And now we're talking about things like cognitive distortions and motherhood and mindsets and just really keep digging in deeper and peeling off the layers and going deeper together, which I just I cherished so much, that you guys are on this journey with me and we can do it together. Alright,