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Hey ladies , welcome to the

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single moms United podcast

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. I'm so glad you decided

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to drop by today because I know

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, i know , i know you could

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have listened to some other podcasts

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, but you decided to turn

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on single moms United and for

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that I am grateful

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. If this is your first

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time joining , welcome . And

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if you are a repeat listener , thank

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you , thank you , thank

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you for your loyalty . As

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I mentioned before , i do dabble

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in poetry . I find

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it exhilarating . It

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just relieves all kinds of tension

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and stress that I may be encountering

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because it's allowing me to

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introduce some creativity

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around my own skill set . Now

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, i'm not saying I'm Maya Angelou

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or anyone else out there that's famous

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with or famous poet . I

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just like enjoying this and I like

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encouraging the single

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mom . Now , with

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today's poem , it focuses

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on the dad . How

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about that , with Father's Day coming

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up right around the corner

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? Again , this is designed to encourage

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, motivate you and

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if you have a string relationship

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with the father of your child

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, hopefully after listening to

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this poem you'll rethink your

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relationship with them . It

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is still important

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for the father

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the dad to be included

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in your child's life . They're

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the ones that's going to help continue

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to form that mental

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setting that they have and

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need to be successful

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in this world . As a single

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mom , i know I thought I could do

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it all , but I couldn't . I still

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needed their father

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to be in their lives . Ladies

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, irregardless of what you have

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going on with the father and

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that you may not be getting along for

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whatever reason , and he

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wants to be a part of the child's

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life , let him . Let

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him . It's important

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for your child's development

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. Alright , i'm going to dial

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it back as I feel the blood

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boiling in my system

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and that's not fair to you . So

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let's talk about Father's Day

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. This poem , again , is dedicated

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to dads , to

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dads , and there is a distinct

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difference , and I did do an episode

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about this about a week or so

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ago . So if you want to

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know exactly what I'm talking about , go

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back and take a listen to the difference

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between a father and

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a dad . So here's kind of an abbreviated

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version that I put in a poem . So

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here we go . Many

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think the title of father and

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dad are the same , but

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there is a clear difference in

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that claim . A father is

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someone who donated his time

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in the bed , versus

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dedicating his time to you

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and your child instead

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, while a dad

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never has to be asked

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. He already knows

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his task . He

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will proactively provide

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and generate support , so

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there won't be a need to take him

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to court . Sing a mom if your

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child's father is a dad , oh

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my goodness . Be glad . Rejoice

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in knowing you made the right choice

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. Now it's easy

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to not get along , but

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when it comes to the kids , you

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know that it's wrong . Take

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this opportunity to make a man

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, because it's all

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about the child in

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the end . Sing

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a mom no , true dads are hard

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to come by , so make

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every attempt to try

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. You

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may think he doesn't have a clue , but

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neither did you . Please

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make sure you don't make your child sad

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. It's important for them to

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have a relationship with their

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dad . He may

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not be financially responsible

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, but him having a relationship

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with a child should be the goal . Please

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learn to share your parental space

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, even if you can't stand

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seeing his face . So

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what if he found someone else

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? Take this opportunity

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to improve yourself

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. Co-parenting

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is a learned skill . When

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working together , just imagine

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what you can fulfill

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. Life is

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short . This is not

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the time to consider his role

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in your child's life as a last

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resort . Co-parenting

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requires both of you to generate

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and integrate ideas

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to ensure your child's

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long term success . Incorporating

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a healthy balance of parental ideas

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between mom and dad makes

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you wonder why it took so long

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to realize what you had

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. Stay strong , learn

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how to get along . Co-parenting

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has no training skills , so

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take it day by day . You

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will learn valuable lessons

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along the way . All

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right , ladies , there you have it . As

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Father's Day approaches , if

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he wants to be a part of

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your child's life , let him

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And as long as he isn't

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showing bad

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behavior in front of your child

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and you know what constitutes

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as bad behavior in single mom

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, and that goes for you as well let

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him have a relationship with

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the child . It's

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going to pay off long term because

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, remember , you have to release your

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child into the world . Some say

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at 18 , some say

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25 , some say 30

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. But you got to release them into

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the world . They have to be able

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to function in society

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. It took two to make the

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child . It takes two to

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raise the child . Think about

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that . All right , if you

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enjoyed today's podcast or

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episode , leave me some

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comments . I'd love

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to hear from you . I'd love

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to hear from you . You can go

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to singlemomsunitedpodcastcom

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. Go to my blog

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. Leave some notes there . You

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can go to my YouTube channel . Leave

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some notes there If

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you like the page . Like the page

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. I need to know if

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how I'm doing with my poems

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or my poetry . Do I still need to work

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on them or am I almost there ? Am

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I 50% there , 60 , 70

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? I just

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need to know . So I would love

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, love , love , love to get some feedback from

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you . Hope you have a great day , have

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a great week . See you next year .