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Hey , ladies , welcome to the Single
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Moms United podcast , where
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we cannot spell United
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without you . If
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this is your first time joining , welcome
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If you're a repeat
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listener . Thank you for your
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loyalty . You
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know , today I want to talk about Independence
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Day . Oh , what a coincidence
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. Today is Independence Day
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, or we also call it the 4th of
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July , in which we celebrate
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with fireworks and
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outdoor eating and all
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that fun stuff as
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it relates to America's independence
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, which is great . But
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, as I mentioned in the past for
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other holidays , how are you explaining
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this to your children ? What
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are you explaining to your children ? How
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are you explaining to your children ? I
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don't think I ever did , to be honest
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with you . The kids just
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knew that you know we were going to go
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see the fireworks and generally
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it's the start of summer and
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so we're just having a good time , but
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never explained the whole reason of
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why we celebrate the 4th of July
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. So hopefully , ladies , you
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will take this opportunity to do
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your research and share
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with your children about Independence
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Day or 4th of July , so
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they just no longer recognize hey
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, it's the great time to watch the fireworks
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, right ? I really understand why
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we celebrate Independence
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Day or 4th of July . Now
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, part two to this is you
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know what about your own Independence
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Day , ladies ? You know
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, let's take America
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out of the equation and let's
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just look at you and talk about your
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Independence , what that means
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. And so I'm just going to go through
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some basic characteristics
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of an independent woman , some
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you may agree with and some you may
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not , and guess what ? That's
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okay , that's what makes the world
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go around . But when you think
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about Independence , you
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also think of a
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strong woman as her ability
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to make decisions on her own
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, without help , because
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when we look at Independence and
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how it's defined , we're
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not relying on anything or anyone
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to help us to get to where we need to go
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in life . In a nutshell , it's
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freedom from the control , influence
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, support , aid or
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the like of others . That's
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what Independence means to you and
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us and me . When it comes to
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being a single mom , you're
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going to have to do some things on your
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own . You're going to have to make some decisions
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on your own . When you
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choose to go the route of
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public assistance , it's not
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meant to be long term . It's meant to be
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short term , until you get your
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feet grounded on
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your goals in life and
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how you want to get there and how you want to
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get your children there or your
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child there . I'm just
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going to go through a list of
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what it means to be
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independent , the importance
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of being independent . It's
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just really , overall , that desire
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of not having anyone control
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you , that freedom , it's
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a great thing , it's a beautiful thing
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. As a mom , you sacrifice yourself
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in order to look after
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you and your children . You learn
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the value of love and sacrifice
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. It's your sufferings
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that give you the strength to get you
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from day to day . I am
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a true witness of that . So
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you have to show unconditional love
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. Then you have to learn to love yourself . Ladies
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, you have to learn to love
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yourself . So many times
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, as a single mom , we get
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so distracted and we forget
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about us . It's the truth . We
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forget about ourselves because
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we're trying to do this for the child . We're trying
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to do that . That's what a real mother
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does . In the midst of failures
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, heartbreaks and setbacks , you
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know how to get up and keep moving . You
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don't sit there and have the pity party Whoa
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, it's me , whoa it's me . No , you keep
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going and your children need to see
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that . But guess what ? You can also
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be soft as well as tough
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. Being tough doesn't mean that you
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are not allowed to show your emotions
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. I'll say that again Being
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tough doesn't mean that you are not
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allowed to show your emotions
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. There are days you are gonna cry
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. There are days you're gonna be like
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, why me ? Why
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? every time I turn around , there's another
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issue , And that's okay
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. That's okay that
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you acknowledge that , but
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you can't stay there . Okay
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, you can have that one day of whoa
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, it's me , why is me ? But
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then you gotta keep it moving
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, not just for you but for your
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children . And then you have
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to realize being a single mom is not
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easy . We're still labeled negatively
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as a single mom . Oh , she's not married
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. Oh , she has a child . Oh
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, she's just sleeping with anybody . You know how
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they think . You know how they judge us
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. You have to remember you're
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a single mom , and not just a
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single mom . Single mom , but a
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strong one . Your opinion
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they will shun it . Because
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you are a single mom . Your achievements
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will be belittled
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and mocked , but you learn
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from the best and you won't
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stop until you get what you want
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. That's why you have goals in life
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. That's what an independence
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does for you . You don't get
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satisfied or complacent in
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where you are in life And
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then you never look back . Regardless
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of what type of relationship you
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have with a child's father , you
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learn from that . And especially if you
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don't have a relationship with him which is
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okay , as long as he's able
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to continue to see the child and be in the
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child's life , it's okay . You
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don't look back on the
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negative parts of your life . You
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learn from them and say you know
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what , i'm not gonna do that again Because
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you can't change it . You have
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to stay positive . At least attempt
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to stay positive . I was there
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. I learned my lesson . Now I'm moving
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on . You have to learn patience
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and faith . So much courage
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and wisdom does not
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come on its own . You
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practice patience in order
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to wait for the good things , and faith
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so that it helps you during
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rough times . And you are
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going to have rough times
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And guess what ? And
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when you know you're gonna experience
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some challenges in your life , it's
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gonna be easier . You're not gonna
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be as stressed about
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it . Yes , there's gonna
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be stress , but you're not gonna be as stressed because
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you knew this day was common . Right
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, It will pass . They all
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do . I look back now
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on some of the challenges and potholes
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I experienced in my life raising
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my children . It wasn't
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that big of a deal . Now that I look
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at it , it just wasn't . I just
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made it a big deal . So you control
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that . You control that . Don't
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let stress control you . That's
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another form of independence . Okay
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, this happened . Okay , all right , and
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we keep it moving , but you don't let
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stress control you . Ladies , you
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control stress . That's
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your independence . Learning
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how to be a good mother
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. Some of those characteristics are
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being protective , loving
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, kind , compassionate
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, courageous and smart
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. A good mom , as
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you're independent , you're making these decisions
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. You're teaching your children
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lessons , letting them
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handle some of life
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situations . Of course
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, not when they're younger . You wanna
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start this after 10
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, experience some life situations
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. Again , that's just my timeframe . You
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don't have to agree with it . That's just
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my timeframe As a single
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, independent mom . You're leading
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by example . Remember , kids
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are constantly watching and
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saying , hey , i learned that
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from my mom . I saw my mom do that
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. I say that I even say that
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today , with what
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I saw my mom do and
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some of her characteristics as
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a strong woman . Now she was married
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, but she's still a strong
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woman . She still displayed those characteristics
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. That makes me who I am
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today And you can
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do that as well . Single mom . Happy
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Independence Day , not just for
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America . But for
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you , single mom , for
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you , you
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can do this . Hold your
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head up high , be confident
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. There definitely is a difference
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between confidence and arrogance
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. When you're confident , that means
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they can't break you . They can
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try , but they can't do it . You
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won't allow it . You know why Because
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you have an independent mindset
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. You make the decision
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, you make the choices . All
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right , i hope you enjoyed today's
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episode of Happy
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Independence Day And
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I hope you will share with another single
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mom who needs to be encouraged
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and motivated . That's
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what this podcast is all about
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And if you like it , share
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it , tell another single mom
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, give me some feedback at
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singlemomsunitedpodcastcom
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or on YouTube . Remember
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to like this episode . I
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would love to hear from you . Enjoy
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the fireworks , love on your
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children , spend time with your children
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And you take care .
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