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Steven Meckoff and this is the Slate Culture
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Gap for Civil War. What is it good
1:25
for? Edition. It's Wednesday, April 17th,
1:28
2024. Entre se o, Civil War.
1:30
It's the new feature film from
1:32
Alex Garland. He of Ex Machina
1:34
fame. Annihilation, the TV show devs.
1:36
It's about a not so distant
1:38
future. Dystopian journey through a collapsed
1:40
and war-torn America. It stars Kirsten
1:42
Dunst as a benumbed but legendary
1:45
war photographer. And then Gerard Carmichael
1:47
reality show. It's just what it
1:49
sounds like and yet like
1:51
nothing else in the universe. It stars
1:53
the comedian Gerard Carmichael and
1:56
it's an unsettling confessional regarding masculinity,
1:58
friendship, fame, and culture. coming out
2:00
relatively late in life as gay. And
2:03
finally, gaslighting like trauma and narcissism
2:05
before it is a clinical reality
2:08
that went universal in the pop
2:10
consciousness. Does it still have any
2:12
meaning? We discuss a provocative New
2:15
Yorker piece by Leslie Jamison. But
2:18
joining me first is Julia Turner,
2:20
now of the Annenberg School at
2:22
USC. Julia. Hello, hello. And
2:24
Nadira Gough, of course, is a culture critic
2:26
and all around superstar for slade.com. Welcome back
2:28
to the podcast. Thanks, as always. Thanks for
2:31
having me. Civil War is
2:33
the dystopian travelogue from writer-director Alex
2:35
Garland. He of Ex Machina, Annihilation
2:37
fame, various other things. That's the
2:39
TV show. The United States
2:41
is now divided into five major regional
2:43
factions. The president, such as he is, is
2:45
holed up in the White House as forces
2:48
close in on him. America is
2:50
a giant no-go zone through which
2:52
four dedicated journalists have decided to
2:54
go. What follows is
2:57
a grotesque, picaresque journey through
2:59
a burned-out, bombed-out America. The
3:02
goal of reaching the White House and
3:04
interviewing and photographing the president, played by
3:06
Nick Offerman, the key figure here is
3:08
a photographer named Lee, played by Dunst.
3:10
She's a legendary photographer and war junkie
3:12
whose only goal is getting the shot.
3:15
To do that, she's learned how to
3:17
compartmentalize all her feelings. She does, however,
3:20
in all her work, have a single overriding message
3:23
for the world. Don't do
3:25
this. The film also
3:27
stars Kaylee Spaney, She of Priscilla,
3:30
Wagner Mora, and Stephen McKinley
3:32
Henderson. In this clip, we
3:34
hear aspiring photojournalist Jesse, played by Spaney,
3:36
trying to convince Kirsten Dunst's Lee to
3:38
let her join the group on
3:41
their way to and through the front lines. Beep.
3:47
I'm sorry for jamming my way into your ride,
3:49
OK? I know you're
3:51
really angry about it, and I know you
3:53
think I don't know shit, but. I'm not
3:55
angry about that, Jesse. I
3:58
don't care what you do or don't know. Okay,
4:00
but you are angry with me. There
4:03
is no version of this that
4:05
isn't a mistake. I know
4:08
because I'm it. So
4:11
when Samir is, it's
4:13
my choice. Right. And
4:16
I'll remember that when you lose
4:18
your shit or you get blown up or
4:21
shot. All right, Julia,
4:23
let me start with you. There's the conversation
4:25
about the film as a film. I mean,
4:27
it's, I think, expertly suspenseful and some
4:30
ways, amazing success. And then there's
4:32
a meta conversation about the ideology
4:34
of the film or really the
4:36
kind of radical absence of
4:39
ideology in the film recognizably. So it's hard
4:41
to know who's fighting whom and
4:43
why exactly in this American Civil War and
4:45
people have taken Garland to task for that.
4:48
What did you make of this movie? First
4:50
of all, we discussed the film Men
4:53
by Alex Garland a couple of years
4:55
ago, and I have not hated a
4:58
film and disrespect to
5:00
the film as much as I
5:02
hated and felt contempt for
5:04
men that I
5:06
can't remember disliking something we have
5:08
consumed that much in
5:11
many, many years. So I
5:13
went into this having caught inklings of
5:15
the idea that it's sort of vapid
5:17
and politics free and
5:20
both sides prepared,
5:22
kind of gritting my teeth.
5:24
I thought this movie was great. I thought
5:27
this movie was really well
5:29
made, really powerful. And
5:32
I thought that the absence of a
5:34
specific politics
5:37
was part of the point because it wasn't
5:39
about the specific political situation that we are
5:41
in in America right now. It was
5:44
about when political situations boil
5:46
over to the point of violence and what
5:48
that does to people and
5:51
how the frenzy that you have
5:53
to be in as a
5:55
culture and a society to get to violence
5:58
Is dehumanizing and causing violence. The people
6:00
to dehumanize other people. And then
6:02
it's also about the work to
6:04
journalists do trying to document. The.
6:07
Effects as the frenzy and about
6:09
how that work is also dehumanizing
6:12
that the at the effort to.
6:15
Portray. The. How people
6:17
deem as each other. Sources:
6:19
People themselves to be come on, human.
6:21
So. It's really a portrait of violence and
6:24
conflict. Which. Is an interesting
6:26
subject and the fact that you set
6:28
it in America without explicitly making it
6:30
pro or anti Trump or anybody. To.
6:33
Me was not a problem that I'm dying to hear
6:35
what you as that. I. Have
6:37
a sort of ongoing theory
6:40
about this movies which is
6:42
that your ability to. Not.
6:45
Necessarily enjoy it, but to
6:47
find it. Meaningful.
6:49
Or revolutionary in any way
6:52
as maybe perhaps a direct
6:54
correlation to how cynical you
6:56
office. And
6:58
I say that to say as
7:00
someone who is quite cynical I
7:03
have felt look I think that
7:05
the performances in the movie or
7:07
gray and I do want to
7:09
talk about them. I think the
7:11
cinematography is interesting and really striking.
7:13
ends really cool I think says
7:15
score slashed soundtrack mix is really
7:18
great. But when it comes
7:20
down to the actual message of
7:22
the movie, I definitely walked away
7:24
in the other camp Julia thinking
7:27
okay, and. Like that you know
7:29
I already. I already seeing
7:31
that we. Are at a
7:33
points in our political climate
7:36
in this country. Where people
7:38
have a hunger for violence and
7:40
I already think that the sort
7:42
of reveling in violence that the
7:44
film shows which I do think
7:46
is interesting, I already think that
7:48
that's their and so the movie
7:50
didn't necessarily show me anything that
7:52
I didn't know or didn't expect
7:54
except for the fact that like
7:56
Civil War sucks, it's bad we
7:58
shouldn't do. It. And
8:01
I was just of thinking well
8:03
if if that's the message then
8:05
this movie is great for other
8:08
technical reasons but it doesn't actually
8:10
do much for me as as.
8:13
Far as a statement is concerned, or something like
8:15
that, I. Echoed Maduro
8:17
virtually word for word me try to put
8:19
a smartphone original spin on it though that
8:21
will be hard because that was really it
8:24
for me. but I think I had to.
8:26
Reactions to film One is that as as
8:28
Spence film is nearly flawless, it's it's it's
8:31
expertly tightly directed. I was in the palm
8:33
of the hands of the director of virtually
8:35
the entire time, on the edge of my
8:37
see, did not want to leave to get
8:40
a drink or go to the bathroom. And
8:42
it is. It has a breathless kind of
8:44
nerve. Jangling, Jangling quality
8:46
to it. It's storytelling is brilliant.
8:48
I believe it comes in under
8:51
two hours. It's just expert old
8:53
fashioned Hollywood storytelling beginning middle and
8:55
and and puts a. Really?
8:58
Remarkable pie we symbolically loaded button on
9:00
it that works and set up through
9:02
the course of the entire film. Superbly
9:04
done by Alex Garland who it should
9:06
be said came out of the gate
9:08
really fast as a director he was
9:10
veteran screenwriter to that point, but X
9:12
Mcnabb was his first writer director of
9:14
really turned the whole world on the
9:16
Oscar Isaac and was prescient about a
9:18
eyes and kind of a brilliant John
9:20
reform in and of itself and then
9:22
maybe. I'd kind of agree with Julia
9:24
that sort of squandered it by this
9:26
of hats beginner and not. Insubstantial, he squandered
9:28
it by the time of men. This is
9:31
a huge comeback. It looks to be shaping
9:33
up as a commercial it and I like
9:35
the convincing be plot about the Mentor Mint
9:37
tea, the older women in the younger women
9:39
in the place of one's own humanity in
9:42
relation to a supposedly objective pursuit of journalism.
9:44
I thought that was Trenton and very well
9:46
done and emotionally satisfying. Had
9:48
a second reaction. I wouldn't say that
9:50
I was offended by it's political that
9:53
pity exactly. But. Quite like neera,
9:55
I felt as though my first reaction
9:57
was substantially neutralized by my second reaction.
10:00
Which is. We. Don't
10:02
live in a both sides
10:04
world. Anyone with a brain
10:06
knows that anyone who claims
10:08
that is being not only
10:10
vapid, but either you know,
10:12
sort of toxic by omission
10:14
or commission. There's one side
10:16
that is filled with bloodlust
10:18
and is actively politicizing violence
10:20
and talking about civil war.
10:22
Here's why I resent that
10:24
in relation to this film,
10:26
this film plays upon my
10:28
anxiety, my neuroses, my fears,
10:30
My ambivalence is. About that. That's
10:32
why I was drawn to this film and
10:35
it's a substantial reason why we're discussing it
10:37
and why it will be a hit because
10:39
it is touching is very live nerve of
10:41
a very powerful. It. Force
10:43
and sphere of that It force in
10:45
America only isn't a dearest as to
10:48
suspiciously neutralize it, and it both manipulates
10:50
it and then attempts to tend to
10:52
isolated as a variable in. So yeah,
10:55
yeah, but we're taking.off the table or
10:57
that's what got me to the cinema
10:59
in the first place. It's not that
11:01
I want the movie to say something
11:04
as equally vapid as Donald Trump. Bad,
11:06
mega, grotesque, mega fascism. We know that
11:08
already, right? That baked into our understanding.
11:11
But the not. Expand my
11:13
understanding of the very moment. The
11:15
current moment that this movie is exploiting
11:18
on it's way to commercial triumphs. In.
11:21
Some meaningful, more meaningful way
11:23
then. Civil. War
11:25
is awful. Journalists are heroes. You could
11:27
set that movie in Yugoslavia, Greece, or
11:29
Sub Saharan Africa. I mean, their civil
11:32
wars all over the world in which
11:34
those same lessons can be extracted. We're
11:36
not in a generic situation. we're in
11:38
a highly specific ones. And to make
11:41
a movie about Civil War and Two
11:43
Thousand Twenty Four the tongue answer to
11:45
some. Aspect of that. To.
11:47
Me was it was weird. Not
11:49
not necessarily offensive, it just. It.
11:52
I couldn't admire them movie more Julia in
11:55
all the ways that you say I was
11:57
gripped by it and in some respects really
11:59
loved in. It it but I couldn't
12:01
help but feel like it had. Also,
12:03
he didn't live and on your oven
12:05
and cauterized it in the same. Gesture
12:08
and not confused me. What? Here's
12:10
my theory of that was not a safe. Choice.
12:12
And it's actually a provocative choice. And
12:14
I'm not sure. If I'm
12:16
right about that when the money advances
12:18
and us can can take your not
12:20
to it's I. Didn't
12:22
read the film's lack of
12:25
grounding in the political reality
12:27
of the moment as some
12:29
kind of oh everybody's crazy,
12:31
neutrality. I read the
12:33
fact that photojournalists and journalists generally
12:35
where the protagonist said the sound,
12:38
and I don't think they're presented
12:40
uncritically as heroes. Was
12:43
about how. When
12:45
you are in an oppositional state,
12:47
your relationship to the truth becomes
12:49
challenge just because you're under threat.
12:52
And I do think that across
12:54
the political spectrum with seen that
12:56
I agree with you of course
12:58
that applying both sides mentality to.
13:01
Our. Current political climate does not
13:03
make sense. That I do think
13:05
the tendency to. Reach for
13:07
the facts that confirm what you believe
13:09
is. Does exist.
13:12
Across the spectrum in different ways.
13:14
Not to the same degree, not
13:16
with total equivalency, but it's it's
13:18
a human tendency. That
13:21
is dangerous. And. So I
13:23
read the film is kind of been
13:25
more about that and the the Rises
13:27
that and the people who are trying
13:30
to combat that that the fact that
13:32
they are themselves in a very tenuous
13:34
to this like it wasn't like ra
13:36
ra Ra. Journalists they're just
13:38
can keep doing their staffs an attorney
13:41
and problematic it was like the people
13:43
who are drawn to this work are
13:45
we at lunch and keys are are
13:48
have their own moral failings and their
13:50
own. They have to dehumanize
13:52
to portray what is lost when
13:54
other people. To. humanize and that's fucked up like
13:56
i am i what i liked about the movie
13:58
was that it wasn't not... with
14:01
actually, Nadira, that it didn't have a message, that
14:03
it was not actually trying to drive home a point.
14:06
It was exploring this problem
14:09
of what happens when we
14:12
cauterize our own feelings and our fellow
14:14
humanity and we become capable of different
14:16
kinds of violence,
14:18
whether it's actual violence or the
14:21
kind of violence of just numbing yourself to
14:23
blood such that you
14:25
just can capture it and capture it and capture it
14:27
and think that that's not going to have an effect
14:29
on you. And I think the arc that Kristen Dunst's
14:31
character has, and we
14:34
should come back to that performance, Nadira. I agree because it's
14:36
fucking incredible and this movie coming out in April is nuts
14:38
to me because I feel like she should be
14:41
on the Oscar list for that. Her arc is
14:43
about her reckoning with that and,
14:45
you know, as she's sort of passing
14:47
the torch to this younger journalist, like,
14:50
she sort of has the right instincts
14:53
but she also kind of is a
14:55
wild child adrenaline junkie and we'll see
14:57
what kind of storytelling that actor that
14:59
journalist produces over time, you know. And
15:02
I think for me that
15:04
all sounds amazing and I
15:06
wanted to feel that but I guess
15:09
a part of my issue is I
15:11
100% think that
15:13
the idea that your relationship to truth
15:15
becomes challenged is one that we reckon
15:17
with, is one that happens, is one
15:19
that's dangerous, as you said. But
15:22
if the movie doesn't give us a
15:24
relationship to any truth, then
15:27
our specific penchant towards, you
15:29
know, believing something to a
15:32
fault and then realizing that
15:34
maybe that's not the actual case, it
15:37
doesn't exist. We don't get to
15:39
live that experience and we don't
15:41
necessarily get to see journalists who
15:43
are people who have ideas because
15:46
they're women, because they're not white,
15:48
because they're, you know, X, Y,
15:50
and Z. They have
15:52
a personal stake, right? And what's interesting
15:54
to me is when journalists have to
15:56
lay that down to carry
15:59
out their work. or to do whatever it is
16:01
that they're setting out to do. But
16:03
if we don't ground ourselves in
16:05
everyone's beliefs and their
16:07
preconceived notions, then we miss out
16:10
on that really interesting, very specific
16:12
experience of what happens when you
16:14
find out that that's not the
16:17
case or what happens when you're
16:19
forced to ignore that in order
16:21
to pursue some other goal. And
16:24
I think what is so interesting
16:27
to me about the movie, in
16:29
turn, is the interpersonal relationships
16:31
that you guys are mentioning. I
16:33
was fascinated by what does it
16:35
mean to hang it up? What
16:38
does it mean to retire? When are
16:40
you done? What does it mean to pass on
16:42
the torch? What does it mean to be a
16:44
mentor? But then also, what does it mean to
16:46
be a mentee? And what are you responsible for?
16:51
And I find that to be
16:53
so interesting and maybe even
16:55
more interesting than whatever the movie
16:58
was trying to say or not say
17:00
about war, because I can ground myself
17:02
in interpersonal relationships and I can learn
17:04
something new about my relationship to them
17:06
through watching the movie. But I can't
17:08
ground myself in whatever the movie is
17:10
saying or not saying about political ideals,
17:13
even if it wants to turn it
17:15
on its head and tell me that I've been wrong
17:17
the entire time, right? That's totally valid. That's even intriguing.
17:20
But I feel like that just wasn't, it
17:22
wasn't there. And when you have such strong performances
17:24
that can carry all of that, it's just I
17:27
wanted there to be a little bit more. Yeah,
17:31
like a next level. I mean, the other
17:33
thing that's so interesting, and there have been
17:35
lots of movies about foreign
17:37
correspondence before, this sort of
17:39
puts the war correspondent in America, which is the
17:41
twist. Watching this movie made
17:43
me think a lot of the documentary we saw a
17:45
couple weeks ago for the show, 20 Days
17:48
in Moray Pole, which was, of course, a
17:50
documentary about someone who's doing more photography whose
17:54
a war correspondent in Ukraine. There's
17:56
a lot of aesthetics in this film
17:58
as well. There's a technique. The used
18:00
to wear the. Will. See
18:02
this photograph captured sometimes
18:05
after that journalist. Capture.
18:07
That, and of course, there is this
18:09
synchronicity between the photo journalist and the
18:12
director, right? Those are two people. Obsessed
18:15
with the composition of the frame
18:17
rate like the notion that director
18:19
would admire and want to replicate
18:21
the work of photo journalist. Totally
18:23
makes sense but. If
18:26
you really want to think about the
18:28
ethics as and the utility/utility as being
18:30
a war correspondent and you're willing to
18:32
watch something grizzly, I would probably tell
18:35
you to watch twenty Days a Mario
18:37
Paul rather than some. As well done
18:39
and well crafted as it is. And
18:42
and there's additionally, in terms of showing
18:44
the photography in quick moments in the
18:46
film. There's certain moments where it looks
18:48
like you're actually looking for a view
18:51
finder and the edges of the frame
18:53
start to get blurry. And I thought
18:55
that that was a really interesting. Technique
18:57
is well to sort of. Disorient or
19:00
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19:02
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19:04
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Atlantic Monthly called, Welcome
20:51
to Cadulthood by Valerie Trapp in
20:54
the April 10th Atlantic. It's about
20:57
adults who have stuffed
20:59
animals, blankies, or
21:02
keep up some of the quote-unquote quirky
21:04
conventions of childhood. The three of us
21:06
will discuss the piece and our individual
21:08
relationships to adulthood, comfort, or transition objects.
21:11
It should be a fun discussion. So
21:14
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you can sign up today at slate.com slash
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culture plus. Gerard
21:24
Carmichael is a very up-and-coming comedian. In
21:26
his special, Ross Daniel, he came out
21:28
as gay. For that special, he won
21:30
an Emmy Award and it quote-unquote catapulted
21:32
him to a new level of fame.
21:34
I'm quoting Nadira. She just wrote a
21:36
wonderful piece about Carmichael in
21:39
his new TV show, Gerard Carmichael Reality
21:41
Show. Your piece, Nadira, as you know,
21:43
is called, Who Did People
21:45
Think Gerard Carmichael Is? They're definitely
21:48
going to think something new now,
21:50
I would say. The show's
21:52
on max and it combines
21:54
snippets of stand-up with
21:56
his private life being filmed seemingly 24-7 or
21:58
at least The. Very.
22:00
Key and excruciating moment. It's a confessional
22:03
tour. a force. I think it's safe
22:05
to say either way, but it is
22:07
dividing audiences and as you say, need
22:10
your attacks on all sorts of touchy
22:12
subjects including love, friendship, loyalty, family work
22:14
and his inability to craft good versions
22:17
of whatever those things are as a
22:19
partner A or a son in the
22:21
clip or about. the here comes from
22:24
the first episode and with Carmichael confesses
22:26
his feelings towards his friend Tyler, the
22:28
creator, Tyler proceeds to brush him. Off
22:31
So Carmichael. finally. Corners.
22:33
Him with the cameras rolling and a month
22:35
as things outlets have a listen. Data
22:38
card or less Happy We're all.
22:44
Of them. As
22:47
high as Allah or do you not, Even his movies
22:49
are so that. The
22:54
reason I wanted to thought the on camera. Is
22:58
that I. Kind
23:00
of felt like a distance
23:02
between us. I. Have an
23:04
idea of what it is but what?
23:06
I think anything the I've discovered some
23:09
to have feelings for you and we
23:11
didn't talk about every level like we're.
23:14
I. Don't know if it wasn't too often thought
23:16
about or to. I.
23:19
Don't know, I don't know. I can
23:21
simply facilities love eating and I'll be
23:23
a little bit late. Like when you
23:25
said that I think I replied with
23:28
like something super mad normal regular like.
23:31
Us Congress Visitors.
23:35
Are typically ah. Yeah,
23:39
I did. Of
23:42
men. And he
23:44
says shown a direct you have
23:46
to sort of hold steady object
23:48
and think through what you're wanting.
23:51
It's not unfamiliar, it's like the
23:53
Seinfeld template meets the reality tv
23:55
template. but already your you know
23:57
what is doing it is in
23:59
justice Hence would so wonderful about
24:02
your piece. You're really reckoning with
24:04
the confusing. It
24:06
like a times are painfully naked.
24:08
Concessional? Really? I'm It's almost more
24:11
like Sylvia Plath or Robert Was
24:13
Poetry than it is like. Reality
24:15
Tv or Seinfeld Anyway, Go.
24:18
Tell me What? What Are you
24:20
make this crazy shit? Us I.
24:22
Love the cells so much and I say
24:24
this as someone who has had. A sort
24:27
of us and on relationship with reality.
24:29
T V Sometimes I love it, Sometimes
24:31
I just fundamentally don't understand why people
24:33
occupy their time. With it and
24:36
this is such a different.
24:38
Project. Or exploration or
24:40
experiment. Because I feel like
24:43
so much of reality, T V
24:45
is begging you to believe that
24:47
it's real when it's very clearly
24:50
fabricated and this. Is.
24:52
Something. That feels so real because
24:54
it's so raw it's so embarrassing
24:56
at times it's painful at times.
24:59
Where why would you want to
25:01
show this to the world? But
25:03
the fact that you're choosing to
25:05
show and have these intimate moments
25:07
recorded on camera and then broadcast
25:09
to anyone who has a Max.
25:11
Or H B O subscription. Complicates that
25:14
idea. You don't know if.
25:16
Because. There's a player, a sick. Intention.
25:19
Behind even the actions that are
25:21
present, you don't know if they're
25:24
really, truly real and. There's.
25:26
Something about the idea of
25:29
presenting. Hard. Truths.
25:31
About. Oneself and sort of using
25:33
cameras as a mirror that I
25:36
find fascinating and I signed to
25:38
be a sort of. Incredible
25:41
way to break the mold. Of reality
25:43
T V to break the mold of documentary
25:45
to break the mold of all of these
25:47
different sort of visual art forms that we
25:49
have in terms of telling stories that are
25:52
supposed to be real. And I
25:54
think. The point of
25:56
my piece is that it's
25:58
a very natural com. The
26:00
nation of everything that Drop Carmichael
26:02
has worked towards as a comedian.
26:04
His history. Of comedy
26:07
has always been a bow.
26:09
Denigrating himself or making. Fun of
26:11
himself or exploring things about himself
26:14
and the turn in that comes
26:16
with his special Russ Annual from
26:18
Twenty Twenty Two, the Emmy winning
26:20
special. Where. He comes out as
26:23
gay and it's If you haven't seen
26:25
it, it's It's phenomenal. It's amazing. It's
26:27
one of the best things that I
26:29
saw that year and a ten out
26:31
of ten would recommend. And there's this
26:33
thing that he does where he strikes
26:35
as balance seen, making fun of himself
26:37
but also deeply analyzing as if the
26:39
audience or his therapist. Deeply
26:41
analyzing his past trauma and
26:44
his family and his history.
26:47
And. I think because of
26:49
that people. They. Really warmed
26:51
up to him. A lot of
26:53
people that was their first exposure
26:55
to draw Gerrard Carmichael and. I.
26:58
Think they got a different. Picture of
27:00
who he is. And so what
27:02
he presents in the So What I think
27:04
it's also interesting and a decent all the
27:07
format stuff is was he presents the idea
27:09
that maybe he's actually just an asshole. maybe
27:11
he's really just not a good person. At
27:13
the end of the day he it's You
27:16
know there have seen all the episodes now
27:18
because I have screeners. I think as of
27:20
recording there's three of eight better currently released
27:23
and even in those first three episodes he
27:25
it is a bad. Friend: He constantly
27:27
cheats on his boyfriend he
27:29
know he is. Trying to strike
27:31
this balance between like encouraging his
27:34
best friends, Dreams of being an actress but also
27:36
kind of being an. asshole about it
27:38
and you get the sense that maybe
27:40
he's not really a great persists or
27:42
maybe at the very least to be
27:45
charitable he has a lot of things
27:47
he still needs to work out and
27:49
i don't think that audiences necessarily knew
27:51
what to do with that you know
27:54
they had the special they wanna be
27:56
sympathetic to him as he came out
27:58
and And he's trying to navigate his
28:01
relationship, and relationships plural, and settle into
28:03
that and navigating sex and navigating love.
28:05
And you want to give him grace
28:07
and space and you want to identify
28:10
with him. But then he
28:12
does things that are very honest to himself,
28:14
I would believe, that piss people off because
28:16
they are angering. Like for instance, the one
28:18
thing that got him into a lot of
28:21
controversy, which is making a sort
28:23
of slave joke about his relationship
28:25
to his white boyfriend. And
28:28
black audiences, particularly black queer
28:30
audiences, didn't like that. They did
28:32
not like that at all. And
28:34
my piece and the way that I feel about
28:36
the show is that it shouldn't
28:39
be surprising because the history of his
28:41
comedy has always been about himself pushing
28:43
the boundaries like what is okay and
28:45
what is not okay. And
28:48
maybe again, he's not a good person. But
28:50
I feel like we don't know
28:52
what to do with that as a
28:54
society. But I think that that is
28:56
so fascinating. Well,
28:59
it's definitely a great watch. I mean,
29:01
there's a reason that people
29:04
root for him despite the fact that he's
29:06
maybe not a nice person as the show reveals,
29:08
even in its early episodes. He's
29:10
really compelling. He's really funny. He's really
29:12
charismatic. There's a reason his career is
29:14
on the rise, right? He's
29:17
very, very talented and
29:19
charming. And you see that
29:21
on display. I saw
29:23
Gerard Michael, Reality Show on Mac as the
29:26
title. And even the title, the sort of
29:28
deadpan title that sounds like it's a kind
29:30
of the working title for the show is
29:33
like a kind of a joke, right? And
29:35
so I assumed that it wasn't going to be
29:37
straight reality TV. It was going to be some kind
29:39
of comedy art project from Gerard Carmichael. And
29:43
you know, was excited for that. And then as I
29:46
was watching it, I was like, maybe,
29:49
is this just reality TV, but
29:51
with good taste for smart people?
29:54
Like the thing I object to in The
29:56
Hangout Reality TV, The Charismatic Star
29:59
Reality TV. Is it
30:01
was the idea of where heuristically
30:03
watching someone perform their lives and
30:05
more just how stupid an annoyingly
30:07
those shows are made with the
30:09
kind of every possibly dramatic scene.
30:12
You. See three times to see it before the
30:14
commercial break in that you see it again and and
30:16
you see the flashback to it when the people talk
30:18
to camera about how upset they were when they threw
30:20
the drink or whomever the whatever it like. The.
30:23
Production of those shows sucks and
30:25
the production of this show is
30:27
gorgeous. It has a really rise
30:29
sense of humor, has an incredible
30:31
you're an eye for the subtlety
30:33
of human interaction for that kind
30:35
of tension in a quick exchange
30:37
rate. There's like a little moment
30:39
where his assistant cause room service
30:41
to get herself a spicy margarita
30:43
and forgets to get has coffee.
30:45
Brave of. You
30:47
know they don't turn it into like
30:50
a five episode arc that it sets
30:52
the texture in. That tone in the
30:54
comfort in that it reveals character. It's like
30:56
a great little moment. And the soaps. Portrays.
30:59
It and then moves on. You know neither
31:01
makes it the battle of Up Mannix know
31:03
we're. Leaves it out on the
31:05
cutting room floor. It just is incredibly skilled
31:08
and it's craftsmanship and so that. Or maybe
31:10
that. that's. The. The. Gag is
31:12
that. It's just it's just
31:14
the Kardashians but elevated. And
31:17
then as the plotlines unfurl.
31:20
You. Begin to feel. That you're in the presence
31:22
of them, Have a. Extremely.
31:24
Complicated and. Broken.
31:28
Character who is trying to explicitly
31:30
reckon with his broken nurse. But.
31:34
Is. Definitely midstream. Since projects, you
31:36
know there's a moment where he
31:38
does something very rude to an
31:40
old friend and then he doesn't
31:43
like an apology tour. That.
31:45
You know, as anybody's than around a twelve
31:47
step program knows the the purpose of the
31:49
apology. Does that is
31:52
shouldn't be to make you feel better or
31:54
to make you look better. The apology tour
31:56
in episode three here feels like it's a
31:58
little bit more focused. on I'm
32:01
a good person, then I
32:03
want to make amends. So the
32:06
third episode concludes with him kind
32:08
of storming a friend's home and
32:11
forcing the friend to be recorded
32:13
while listening to a public act
32:15
that is intended as an apology
32:17
and essentially dragooning the friend into
32:21
public acceptance of his
32:23
contrition, which is so nasty. But
32:28
the whole thing is so smart that I, I
32:30
don't have the screeners, so I've just watched the ones that
32:32
are out, but I think I will keep watching it because
32:34
it's so smartly told that
32:36
I still can't tell whether he
32:38
is or is not in
32:40
on the arc of that evolution. Like that
32:43
was episode three. Maybe it's gonna figure that
32:45
out by episode five because it's moving so
32:47
fast. I can't wait to watch the rest
32:49
of it. I mean, there's no way I'm
32:51
not going to. It's totally riveting television for
32:53
all the reasons. First of all, you
32:55
know, it takes what was
32:57
the very weakest aspect of
33:00
Seinfeld and turns it into a truth
33:02
strength. I mean, Seinfeld just wasn't a
33:04
funny standup comedian. And so the original
33:06
conceit of the show of toggling back
33:09
and forth between his standup, which draws
33:11
upon his real life and
33:13
his supposed real life in the fictional
33:15
world of the TV show. That's wonderful
33:17
here because Gerard Carmichael is an extraordinary
33:19
comic. I'm not familiar enough with the
33:21
history of standup comedy to know how
33:24
many sit down standup comics there have
33:26
been. But I love that
33:28
he's just seated in a chair. He
33:31
has such a captivating physical
33:33
presence throughout the show, right? He's
33:35
for a man now in his
33:37
late thirties, he's impossibly lean and
33:40
really graceful in his physical presence.
33:42
But on stage on that chair,
33:45
he's in a therapy session with
33:48
an unremittingly
33:50
pitiless therapist, which is effectively the
33:53
audience. And he has this Highly
33:55
developed rapport with his audience..
33:58
He's super conversational style. Congressional
34:00
style. It seems totally spontaneous
34:03
and unrehearsed, and yet he's
34:05
a very. Is one
34:07
of those brilliant speakers. There's never an
34:10
hour or and on there a long
34:12
pauses. He seems to think about what
34:14
he's gonna saying very considerately east to
34:16
supremely clever and precise in his verbal
34:18
formulations. And so when the relationship with
34:21
the audience becomes interactive which is almost
34:23
seems to be near part of the
34:25
act or at least part of the
34:27
act. Now where people call him on
34:30
his bullshit, it's almost an invitation to
34:32
intelligently right you. You wouldn't want to
34:34
be at Dunder Had doing it. And
34:36
in the. Snippets We have their
34:38
supremely intelligent, highly targeted criticisms of
34:41
him coming spontaneous leave from the
34:43
audience. They're so smart you would
34:45
never call them heckling, and the
34:47
way he pauses absorbs them and
34:50
he takes the pain and physical
34:52
eyes of the pain of hearing
34:54
them and then comes back with
34:56
a retort that's totally not embittered
34:59
or retributive to the person who
35:01
said the thing, acknowledging it's truth,
35:03
but turning it just so so.
35:05
The it now combines. With his
35:07
wit in his powers of observation, he
35:10
just a supremely intelligent man. And he
35:12
grew up poor in black in America,
35:14
right? So he has a very interesting
35:16
we different. Background. Than
35:18
his presumably Than is hyper literate white
35:20
boyfriend who appears to me to be
35:23
at the Iowa Ryan's I flunked out
35:25
whatever. yes, who's who's and their relationship
35:27
is totally captivating. What a lovely young
35:29
miss. That person has never been on
35:31
a reality tv show to pick up
35:33
a what do you have a saying
35:35
in the history of reality Tv? that
35:37
human being bad. Quality. It's
35:40
youth like. like precise. sociological,
35:42
tight as never been. On
35:44
a reality tv. he has. Gifted.
35:47
To. gerard carmichael books that are the books
35:49
that are in my house and the all
35:51
over the house of a drug karmacally makes
35:53
a joke about i was never read them
35:55
but he's kind of trying to read them
35:57
i mean there was a of i think
36:00
of the first shots of the boyfriend, he's holding a
36:02
New York review of books
36:04
classics, book imprint,
36:06
you're like, what am I watching?
36:09
And that's like, and it's also known. I
36:11
mean, I feel like Gerard Carmichael 100% understand
36:15
that the scene where he makes his friend
36:18
accept his apology publicly is itself fucked up.
36:20
And he sort of actually can't resist it,
36:22
but he also is sort of doing it
36:24
because he knows it's such good
36:26
entertainment and the line between how much of
36:29
this is actual therapy and how
36:31
much of it is a performance of therapy that
36:33
he's already like seven light years beyond. Like he
36:35
is trolling you with that New York review of
36:37
books cover, Steve, he put that there. He got
36:40
there. You would say that. He wins. So
36:43
he wins, Mark, because I think
36:45
throughout his comedy and throughout the show,
36:47
as you guys are pointing to, there's,
36:50
you're never sure if what
36:53
you are watching was truly just
36:55
spur of the moment, something
36:58
that he had to say or do or
37:00
an impulse he had, whether it's negative or
37:02
positive or whether it was meticulously
37:05
planned and presented as if it was spur
37:07
of the moment. And I, if you told
37:09
me this whole thing was scripted, I would
37:11
also believe that. But if you also told
37:13
me, and wouldn't care, right? But
37:16
if you also told me that actually nobody in
37:19
his camera crew knew what the fuck he was
37:21
going to do at any second,
37:23
I would also believe that.
37:25
And I love that dichotomy. And
37:28
I think when you present yourself
37:30
as an unlikable character, but you
37:32
are also urging people to believe
37:34
you, but also kind of
37:36
wink, wink, daring you not to, people
37:38
do not know where to place you,
37:40
what to do with that, how to
37:42
feel. And I think that that reaction
37:45
is almost as interesting
37:47
as the show itself. And
37:49
there's a quality of his work, all
37:51
of his work, where it
37:53
always feels like a work in progress,
37:56
even if you're watching the final
37:58
edited cut of the book. Burnham-directed,
38:00
Nathaniel Emmy award-winning special, right? It
38:02
still feels kind of like a
38:04
work in progress. And
38:07
I think that there's so much in
38:09
flux and so much that you're
38:11
unsure of watching him that it's captivating,
38:13
but that it's, I almost have as
38:15
much fun reading the comments of people
38:17
trying to understand it on
38:19
Twitter as I do watching the actual show.
38:22
Like, it's such an interesting study
38:25
just of humanity and relationships and
38:27
celebrity. All right,
38:29
we'll leave it there. It's Gerard Carmichael
38:31
Reality Show. And Nadeer's piece, I
38:34
should say, is Who Did People Think Gerard
38:36
Carmichael Is? It's terrific. It's up on the
38:38
slate. Check it out. Hi
38:53
there. It's Julia Louise Reifas. You may know
38:55
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40:29
now is the moment on our podcast when we
40:32
endorse Nadira. What do you have? Um, see, what
40:34
about our third segment? Yeah,
40:37
you know like this. Third segment, what do
40:39
you mean third segment? Well, okay, usually as someone
40:41
who is an assistant on the show, I feel
40:43
like you should, usually you do
40:45
a third segment. Nadira, I have literally no
40:47
idea what you're talking about. I read a
40:49
whole article, I've read a whole, what do
40:51
you mean? Nadira, this is a two segment
40:53
show. It is and it always has
40:56
been. You're a guest on the show and you're
40:58
filling in for Dana. Now is
41:00
the moment in our podcast when we
41:02
endorse Nadira. I hate
41:04
this so much. Oh,
41:06
it's so cruel. Okay,
41:10
the third segment, which in fact we do
41:12
do on the show is about gaslighting. It
41:14
is specifically, what would you call it?
41:16
Sort of a piece of reported criticism by
41:19
the author Leslie Jamison. It's called, So
41:21
You Think You've Been Gaslight? It's in
41:23
the New Yorker, April 1st, 2000. It's
41:26
funny, April 1st, 2024. I
41:30
just noticed that. Anyway,
41:32
it's a fascinating piece of critical
41:34
journalism exploring what this now ubiquitous
41:36
term means, politically,
41:39
practically, morally. Many people are thinking
41:41
about it obviously, both professionally and
41:43
in their own personal relationships.
41:47
And it examines whether, I think in a
41:49
very patient and very intelligent way, it examines
41:51
whether it's possible, it's come to be so
41:53
overused as to be useless.
41:56
Let me give you a couple of quotes. She
41:58
quotes someone named, Abertin, who says that... Lighting
42:00
is an active grievous moral wrongdoing,
42:02
which inflicts a kind of quote
42:04
unquote, existential silencing a therapist says
42:06
didn't hurt twenty years of practice.
42:09
The pattern is confident high achieving
42:11
women were being caught in demoralizing,
42:13
destructive, and bewildering relationships that caused
42:15
women to question their own sense
42:17
of reality. Do you? let me
42:19
start with you, because you're a
42:21
journalist in an editor and we've
42:24
done pieces like this before, notably
42:26
the Perils, The Gall piece on
42:28
Trauma very similar p Saying. That
42:30
it was an overused in there for
42:32
quickly becoming empty Phrase: would you make
42:34
of it. As a. Piece.
42:37
Of Journalism and. By. The concept
42:39
behind it. It's. Such a
42:41
smart essay and and so glad that
42:43
As and Road at Our Inner that
42:45
the term gaslight has been eating at
42:47
me and bothering me since it became
42:50
prominent a few years ago. And
42:52
then been a couple essays there's one in the
42:54
Atlantic. A couple years ago that sort of explore the
42:56
phenomenon. History The what I think sets this
42:58
one. Apart and makes it feel to
43:01
me doesn't it is? And really scratch
43:03
the itch of helping me understand why
43:05
the over use to the term bothers
43:07
me so much is. That.
43:09
It takes seriously that this is a real. Psychological
43:11
phenomenon that does exist and
43:13
also is really serious about
43:16
both the victims and the
43:18
victimizers here and kind of
43:20
and covers. More. Surprising.
43:24
Conclusions about what gas lighting is
43:26
and when it tends to happen
43:28
then you might expect so the
43:30
usage that she finds irritating which
43:33
is the same whether I find
43:35
irritating is that when. People.
43:37
Are experiencing the friction of disagreement.
43:40
Sometimes they will accuse the person
43:42
who has the opposing view of.
43:44
Gas lighting them and it's a way of
43:46
making some Everly. Disagreement seen pathological and
43:49
wrong and sinister and creepy and.
43:51
Malevolent in having the temerity to disagree
43:53
with them and it's kind of shuts
43:55
off the debate. It's a it's a
43:58
conversation and are not a conversation are
44:00
there because if the accused guess I'd
44:02
are says oh no I'm not gas
44:04
lighting you I just think something different.
44:06
The alleged guess lady can be like
44:09
of course he would say that you're
44:11
denying my reality which his own. Of
44:13
Which is what I think it. It's so that, so
44:15
that was. Satisfying.
44:17
That it's a way of. Kind of
44:19
cutting off disagreement and weaponizing. Disagreement
44:22
when it's misused. What was interesting
44:25
to me about when it's used
44:27
properly is sort of the kind
44:29
of symbiotic relationship between the gas
44:31
later in the gas id and
44:33
and also the conclusion that the
44:35
relationship it's most susceptible to this
44:37
is the parent child relationship in
44:39
addition to certain romantic relationship. So
44:41
anyway, I just had that satisfying
44:43
feeling of having and it's scratched
44:45
reading. This essay and I'm curious. Whether you
44:47
guys had a similar experience, Yeah, I
44:49
thought this essay was great. I think
44:52
that it touched on. Every
44:54
aspect of how we conceive
44:56
of. Gas lighting as Julia was
44:58
hanged and I thought that some
45:00
of the quotes that. The.
45:03
Peace has. Are. Are really
45:05
fascinating and really interesting. There's a part sort
45:07
of towards the. End where.
45:10
Jamison Interviews. Someone
45:12
I believe a psychologists psychiatrists the
45:15
I'm not entirely sure. And
45:17
they basically say that as much. As
45:19
we use. Gas. Lighting. Or think
45:21
of gas lighting. As a way to
45:23
assess a relationship or to assess
45:25
the person who. Is doing
45:27
the victimizing. It's also, if you find
45:30
yourself in a habit of being Catholic
45:32
often, it is also a useful tool
45:34
to assess yourself, not necessarily in a
45:37
victim blaming sense, but more so to
45:39
learn what you are vulnerabilities and your
45:41
susceptibility is are like I thought that
45:43
that. Was fascinating that something that
45:46
I haven't necessarily thought about. I
45:48
think my issue with these. Conversations.
45:52
Generally I and them sort of feeling
45:54
like okay well what do I do
45:56
now like it's a useful. Term in
45:58
certain cases, but it is. For being
46:00
over used in certain cases and
46:03
like many it's therapeutic term it
46:05
is. Vulnerable. To
46:07
being used against the person who
46:09
is you know, actually struggling and
46:11
some sort of conversation or conflict
46:13
or whatever. And it reminds
46:15
me of the a legit text
46:18
messages from actor Jonah Hill that
46:20
were. Released or published
46:22
to social media from his ex
46:24
girlfriend. Were these text messages whether
46:26
they were truly his are not.
46:29
Were full of a partner
46:31
using therapy speak to actually
46:33
put down their partner. sit
46:35
use saying things like one.
46:37
My boundaries are that I
46:40
don't like that you were.
46:42
A bathing suit when you're surfing receipt and
46:44
set of a full wet suit or whatever
46:46
it is. And it's like she's
46:48
a professional surfer. I think that wearing
46:50
a bathing suit isn't necessarily it doesn't
46:53
follow any someone's boundaries rights, but it's
46:55
very clear that. The
46:57
person in those text messages weather does
47:00
Jonah Hill or not has used Therapy
47:02
speak. To. Manipulate.
47:05
Their. Partner and I just think that
47:07
it happens It, It happened. with nagging.
47:09
It happened with Paris Social. It's happening
47:11
with gas lighting. It just happens. And
47:14
so I don't necessarily know what to
47:16
do after I read these, even if
47:18
they're very well crafted, very well thought
47:21
out arguments or explorations of a word
47:23
and it's over usage. I don't necessarily
47:25
know what to do with that information,
47:28
and I think that. That is kind
47:30
of where I landed with this, but
47:32
I do agree that the piece itself
47:34
was was very good year North Dakota's
47:37
terrific. I mean I think that in
47:39
the aftermath especially me to the height
47:41
of me to and the one thing
47:43
revelations there was an emergency rebalancing that
47:45
had the happens and. Is. Concerned.
47:49
The power relations between men and women.
47:52
And by necessity. It
48:00
because. The going into
48:02
so many relationships between men
48:04
and women the field is
48:07
so tilted in favor of
48:09
men obviously in the case
48:11
of wine Steam massively so,
48:13
the treating it like an
48:15
ordinary interpersonal relationship between two
48:17
equals was nonsensical and would.
48:20
Keep. The. Cycle
48:22
of victimization. The problem
48:24
then comes when. We.
48:27
Pretend that are to a levy
48:29
Aids what can often be a
48:32
fundamentally epistemological problem. Which is you
48:34
know, Most relationships.
48:37
Involves. A. High degree
48:39
of subjectivity and ceiling
48:41
and lack a corresponding
48:43
neutral third party or
48:46
objective standard of judgments.
48:49
As one of the people says
48:51
in the Peace this is often
48:53
people involved and romantic relationships and
48:55
it is possible. And I hope
48:57
that the piece points to Julia's
48:59
you sort of indicates it's it's
49:02
it's It's possible for saying to
49:04
someone your gas lighting me to
49:06
be the ultimate gaslight and you're
49:08
suddenly you've gone from. If
49:11
pushed too far you you go
49:13
from and necessarily politicized. Or.
49:15
I should say necessary politicization
49:18
of romantic relationships and power
49:20
relationships based on gender to.
49:23
A. Sort of Henry James in. Nightmare.
49:26
Where where the truth.
49:28
Disappears completely into to coequal people's
49:31
feelings. I mean, think about to
49:33
make it a little more concrete.
49:35
I'm a bit about romantic relationships.
49:38
that there is. The essence of
49:40
a romantic relationship is that reality
49:42
isn't entirely neutral thing. disappears. I
49:45
mean they're based entirely on a
49:47
set of highly subjective feelings, as
49:49
the piece argued quite intelligently, often
49:52
rooted in ones earliest relationships with
49:54
parents and secondly with in romantic
49:57
relationships power is often. Radically
49:59
and. The able in it's
50:01
distribution between the two parties and
50:03
very often doesn't track. Race:
50:06
Class and gender. I mean it. It's not that
50:08
it. It neutralizes. Those
50:10
those are never neutralized. But the idea
50:12
that you can look at to people
50:14
and say because one is a man
50:16
and one is a woman because one
50:18
is black and one is why Because
50:20
one is still in the blank like
50:23
one was born rich and one was
50:25
born poor. The idea that power distributes
50:27
in a romantic relationship based solely on
50:29
those things is false and so the
50:31
I did. You can resume route resort
50:33
to that as the objective fact of
50:35
the relationship there for this party owns
50:37
the right to. They are subjectivity. Over.
50:39
The other person's right to subjectivity and
50:42
therefore gets the say you are gas
50:44
lighting me with authority. I think that's
50:46
false and I think that fat ends
50:48
up being. Almost. Completely
50:50
demolished by this piece. Well,
50:53
she does talk about the fact. That. The pattern
50:55
tends to be that the person that
50:57
more social power of way I'm kind
51:00
throw as the more ability to cause
51:02
at the you note i actual gas
51:04
lighting is when the gas id. Is.
51:07
Cause to question their own perception of
51:09
reality and and no longer even understands
51:11
with trail that's not what I think
51:14
is also sort of the useful distinction
51:16
from just the as being like wanted
51:18
by her access Les M. At. Night.
51:20
I mean, I think it's really interesting
51:23
actually. That the. Smartest
51:25
essays about the ovaries of
51:27
trauma and overuse of gas
51:29
lighting. A were written by
51:31
pearls at all unless a Jamison in
51:33
a protocol incredible critic of books six.
51:35
In a non less Jamison the
51:37
novelist like they're the way in
51:39
which. Being a novel, are seeking to
51:41
understand the novel. Is. Sort
51:43
of about trying to understand different
51:46
psychologies and and doing it with
51:48
a goal of the empathetic understanding
51:50
the lived experience that everyone from
51:53
you know that the Must wear
51:55
the. Human. On Earth to
51:57
that the biggest monster that ever lived.
52:00
Sit at the Time is almost clinical.
52:02
I did, but that is applied in
52:04
both of these essays to like what.
52:07
The. Actual emotional harm is of the
52:10
clinical version of these things and
52:12
how they've become slippery in their
52:14
definition and discussion and our understanding.
52:16
Of an array of person on political
52:18
dynamics is I think part of what
52:20
distinguishes Sam and an to come back
52:22
to your question Indira like. I
52:24
don't know that the goal. Is for it to be
52:26
acceptable to me? I think. There.
52:28
Are two different ways in which these
52:30
terms can be used dangerously and badly.
52:32
One of which is of course you
52:34
are in an interpersonal relationship with someone
52:36
who accuses you of gas lighting and
52:39
you feel at is not what has
52:41
been done or you are in one
52:43
where you are accusing someone somewhat softly
52:45
of gas lighting and and perhaps it
52:47
would be more widely distributed wisdom to
52:49
either of or understand those circumstances and
52:51
not t that lately. Into personally and
52:53
then I think. There's. Kind of the political use
52:55
of like Trump of gas Lighting America
52:57
which perhaps there's someone who wants to
52:59
mount argument that that is the specific
53:02
harm that Trump me had has done
53:04
to America. I'm not sure. To
53:06
That's. Why?
53:09
to? What? He's done. But
53:11
the other value of an essay like this
53:13
is just putting little ping in the heads
53:15
of people who are thinking about the culture.
53:18
And maybe that's not the most precise way
53:20
to understand. Any particular development to
53:22
which it might be applied. So I think
53:24
it's like. An
53:26
hour and interpret as eight sleep only.
53:29
That is the value of yes, I
53:31
like that. I think any. definitely. And
53:33
in terms of an interpretive A: it's
53:35
like I was saying before. It definitely
53:37
helps me think about different aspects of
53:40
deciding. One thing that I think it
53:42
sort of touched on. it got near
53:44
to, but didn't fully go there, which
53:46
is understandable because it goes so many
53:48
places that I've I didn't necessarily feel
53:51
like it needed to, but I always
53:53
think of gas lighting. In, it's
53:55
sort of most invasive for
53:57
me as being structural or
53:59
institution. And I feel
54:01
like when we think or talk about gas
54:03
lighting, we never really talk about the fact
54:06
that it can be systemic and. It's.
54:08
It's this piece almost gets there.
54:10
Were. You know that there's a
54:12
sort of entire experience of marginalized groups
54:15
that having gas slit whether by the
54:17
government or just by like the structures
54:19
that be any kind of touches on.
54:22
Specific instances of that, like
54:24
women. You know, being under
54:26
diagnosed, her endometriosis because their pain isn't
54:28
taken seriously and all these kinds of
54:31
situations. And I think that that
54:33
is also. A sort of
54:35
untapped. Ah well of
54:37
discussing gas lighting as a
54:40
tactical message to manipulate or.
54:42
To coerce or to oppress. And
54:44
I like that the peace touched
54:46
on it ends sort of. Got
54:49
close. but yeah, it's. It's something the
54:51
I sort of always think about when I think about
54:53
that fighting. but. I find the other
54:55
people really confinement to that's interpersonal, expressly
54:57
romantic situation and and like not even
55:00
saying anything about parents which this article
55:02
says a lot about. Will. The
55:04
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it was really fun. It was modernized and
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my mother and I loved it. ends so
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I went to Cosco for the first time
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yesterday and that was a lot. Of fun
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for everyone. Should go And my dad yeah
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I've I've and. Of only went for the
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first time, like two years ago, and my
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mind was blown, I guess of this is
56:35
like Nydia and Juliet Paul Sky Blue. That.
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did you eat from the food court and
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we should talk about. This at a
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specific type of remembered for yes
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but keep going on. Go Pasco
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is another and or since my
56:51
actual endorsements is for Willow. Smith
56:53
of the musician daughter of
56:56
willing to to Smith who
56:58
goes that monotonously by Willow.
57:00
Her recent single called Big
57:02
Ceilings dropped I wanna say
57:04
last week it's the first
57:07
single for. Her upcoming album.
57:09
And Passage in which I believe
57:11
drop them a third and Willow
57:13
has just had such an interesting
57:15
career have thus far. She popped
57:17
off of the scene with With
57:19
My Hair when she was very,
57:21
very young. I think that's it.
57:24
the experience of that. Song going
57:26
mega viral and being really popular
57:28
kind of was a bit. Scarring.
57:30
For her in the way that
57:33
seed immediately became a product and
57:35
so she. Rebelled against that and
57:37
now and her adulthood, she has
57:39
had a sort of smattering level
57:41
of success by releasing. Projects
57:44
every few years that always have have
57:46
a very very popular hit single that
57:48
you know goes mega viral and tic
57:50
toc or whatever it is built. Most
57:52
recent one was twenty twenties. Meet me
57:54
at our spot. Which went viral
57:56
and. Ever since then she kind
57:58
of. you know, see. just really. The songs here and
58:01
there but she's not a big name that
58:03
you would think of when he think of
58:05
the daughter of will in Jesus and I
58:07
think with that has afforded her is the
58:09
ability to. Be freely experimental
58:11
with her music. And to
58:13
learn different genres to really learn
58:15
their voices, an instrument and the
58:17
guitar as an instrument to work
58:19
with people. From all different walks
58:22
of musical life And she has
58:24
arrived at what I'm excited for
58:26
which is her upcoming album but
58:28
specifically. Of the single Big
58:30
Feelings is any indication she
58:33
has arrived at this really
58:35
interesting for lox of. The.
58:37
Genre is it's like part
58:39
jazz, part pop, part. Just.
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I guess Contemporary? Whatever you know,
58:45
contemporary popular music. As today and
58:47
you know it plays with instruments and
58:49
time signature and all of these things
58:51
and her voices the used really intricately
58:53
on it and I loved the single
58:55
but I'm just really excited for of
58:57
the entire side of the album for
58:59
where she doesn't the future and so
59:01
my endorsement is just for Willow and
59:03
for following her career and checking in
59:05
with her every now and again to
59:07
see what he's really and specifically. For
59:09
the single Big Feeling. I
59:12
wait a minute and meet me at
59:14
or spot or to move. Favorite songs
59:17
Me and it was exactly that you
59:19
just messing with. Why isn't this person?
59:21
It's like the anti Nebo baby or
59:23
something. right? Like not getting
59:25
for stone. anybody's through and the and
59:28
the product is fucking amazing. You could
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have com is it a come from
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anybody else? I must be bigger right
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now so I'm super psyched to. Do
59:37
you? Would you have. Well speaking
59:39
of places where you go and they make
59:42
you mad with consumer frenzy and. You everything
59:44
you see a Costco. I was recently
59:46
in the bookstore Heathrow Airport and there
59:48
is nothing that will make you lose
59:51
your mind like an airport bookstore with.
59:53
Half an hour to kill and. Somehow.
59:56
Despite being on the way home with overstepped
59:58
bags to a house full. That
1:00:00
we haven't read. My husband and I went
1:00:02
on like a total shock and beamer. Like
1:00:04
maybe. I will read this weird book about
1:00:06
the history of Albania and among. The books
1:00:09
that we bought in the heat or
1:00:11
bookstore which I thought perhaps was going
1:00:13
to prove to be a British rarity
1:00:16
that would be hard for our listeners
1:00:18
to find that in fact is the
1:00:20
product of a Los Angeles based puzzler
1:00:23
and available through American publishers is Myrtle
1:00:25
Or Us. Where Myrtle. Whether.
1:00:28
Know. Okay, so Myrtle is
1:00:30
an essentially what if you
1:00:32
crossed and l sat logic
1:00:34
puddle puzzle with a murder
1:00:36
mystery and. Six a little daily puzzle
1:00:38
where you get a bunch of like clues
1:00:40
and descriptions about like well if you know
1:00:43
character A as acts and character three smoke
1:00:45
cigarettes and character be and green eyes and
1:00:47
then here's a bunch of facts and figure
1:00:49
out who did the murder with lot where
1:00:51
it's like clue. Plus. Sudoku
1:00:53
and site where picked it up thinking
1:00:55
like only this myth and for the
1:00:58
plane and then as I was traveling
1:01:00
with may eleven year old boys over.
1:01:02
The. Case In We started doing it and it was
1:01:05
just like the perfect. Level for
1:01:07
that age son little puzzles like a
1:01:09
good thing to do kind of it
1:01:11
dinner waiting for the food to com
1:01:13
in of smartly written in some hims
1:01:15
just execution of a puzzle like that
1:01:17
will either make you want to jump
1:01:20
on a window and stab your eyes
1:01:22
out or be tolerable company in this.
1:01:24
One definitely isn't the pleasant
1:01:26
company category in there are
1:01:28
three compendiums, as Myrtle is
1:01:30
a compendium any way. To
1:01:32
three bucks of myrtles out there were about
1:01:34
halfway through, but widen the puzzle Seem like
1:01:36
they get a little bit more complicated as
1:01:38
the book. Goes. Along and I
1:01:40
don't know if a reset doctor booker
1:01:42
get harder and harder anyway. Model
1:01:45
that's also be supportive. Sudoku and
1:01:47
spelling bee timer at all. It's.
1:01:49
Not a British rarity that's not available
1:01:51
on the source. He didn't take it
1:01:53
up anywhere bucks or bookstore. Am,
1:01:56
so I'm glad I slept at least that one
1:01:58
home from Heathrow. and I do not. Yet
1:02:00
know any more than I used to you about this
1:02:02
dream of Albania. I can't wait to
1:02:04
try them. I love those kinds of like singing
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the scenario and puzzle maker behind
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it out to movie with along
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with the New Willow song. Okay so
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this is a endorsement the builds on
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a previous endorsement but I promise it
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go someplace importantly New Duck or
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ourselves as the book group for the
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Washington Post and I was aware of
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her being a tremendously good daily paper
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critics on the order of Toy Corner
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and really admired her stuff on our
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Fred just of had feel li
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in for and beautifully argued and in
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many ways appropriately ruthless take. Down of
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a writer I'm a pile on and and
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name the writer again boats And that led
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me to her forthcoming book. things are too
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Small actually forthcoming. It's Out was forthcoming when
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I. Would. Lead to and it's
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now outs Things are too small by
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Becker Rothfeld which I've never read most
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of in preparation for a segment we're
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going to do with Becker Rothfeld next
1:03:06
week that the importantly new new place
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so. Agenda Item number One
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please go out and purchase and read
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back or ourselves, things are too small.
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It is so incredibly good. And secondly,
1:03:17
let me tell you exactly why. in
1:03:19
addition to being at her homework from
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us it's It's such a I will
1:03:24
say Macmillan's website as a really good
1:03:26
job of summing up some just gonna
1:03:28
quote that the Glorious called a throw
1:03:31
off restraint in balance in favor of
1:03:33
excess abandoned and disproportion. And it's It's
1:03:35
more than that and they get at
1:03:37
that as well. It really is. It's
1:03:40
a political book in ways that I
1:03:42
don't the got fully understood it was
1:03:44
going to be going in, but I
1:03:46
find myself totally convinced of our and
1:03:48
very moved by in some sense that
1:03:51
it's sort of a just take on
1:03:53
the limits of justice. And the justice
1:03:55
has certain realms in which that should
1:03:57
be the governing concepts and she brilliantly
1:03:59
invokes folks. John Rawls, who appears to
1:04:01
be her favorite political thought philosopher, is
1:04:04
probably my favorite political philosopher as well.
1:04:06
And then all these other realms that
1:04:08
we've. Imposed justice upon namely,
1:04:10
culture and interpersonal relationships. or at
1:04:12
least a reductive notion of justice.
1:04:15
In part because we're frustrated that
1:04:17
we couldn't successfully impose it on
1:04:19
the world of economics and politics,
1:04:21
and so we're looking to equalize.
1:04:23
Certain things in other realms were
1:04:26
equalizing is totally antithetical to the
1:04:28
nature of, for example, are or
1:04:30
the way we live or where
1:04:32
we live for how we decorates.
1:04:34
And it's this kind of compensatory
1:04:37
search for. The. The
1:04:39
kind is a oh no. Equilibria
1:04:41
of Justice in for example, our
1:04:43
homes. that leads to me a
1:04:46
condo and the Cult of Murray
1:04:48
a condo. And anyway,
1:04:50
she takes the sub. it's on. one
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after the other begins just by reading.
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The free eggs are not absorbed online.
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A Harper's published it I think Also,
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Macmillan's website has it's This is brilliantly
1:05:01
carefully argued. I love that it brings
1:05:03
in effortlessly. Marks Rawls Wh Auden, the
1:05:06
poet Robert Hasim known as Thought About
1:05:08
for God knows how long's Anyway, I
1:05:10
think the book is marvelous numbers. Just
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go ahead and use the a double
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S word Susan Sontag. I mean, it's
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kind of reminding me of the Revelation.
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Of reading against interpretation of missed
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the brilliant brilliant. Book. And
1:05:23
I couldn't have more respect for us. And
1:05:25
we're so excited to have come on the
1:05:27
show next week. So you might want to
1:05:29
just get get to speed to make that
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segment more enjoyable to listen to me, you'll
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have an extraordinary book in your possession if
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you do some back. or ah, sold. All
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things are too small. With
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