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stero and I have another massive married

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at first sight episode for you guys

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today We are starting the week

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strong now just before we get into it though

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on Friday I dropped another

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episode of so dramatic extra our aftermath

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series with special guest back semek back

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was on the show like three years

1:04

ago And honestly, she still has so

1:06

much tea to spill so many behind-the-scenes secrets

1:08

And she weighed in on her thoughts and

1:11

the whole Jack and Tori situation and also

1:13

spilled some tea about her friend Lauren done

1:15

So make sure you give that a listen

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There are links in the show notes and

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there will be more married at first sight

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episodes dropping this week There'll be another one

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tomorrow and then maybe another one or two

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at this week So keep your eyes and

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ears peeled and notifications turned on. All right,

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let's spill the tea coming up today I

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have a bonus so scandalous where I will

1:34

be deep diving into what the

1:36

fuck is really going on in

1:38

our oldest ever Married at first

1:41

sight couple Andrea Thompson and Richard

1:43

Salomon's relationship plus lots more so

1:45

much drama So little time.

1:47

Let's get into the show So

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scandalous Detective

1:58

mega pours back on the case again this

2:00

week getting to the bottom of what

2:02

is really going on with Richard and

2:04

Andrea. So they started off as one

2:06

of the strongest couples on maths this

2:08

year however in recent weeks their marriage

2:10

has quickly crumbled. So Andrea has expressed

2:12

that she basically got the ick from

2:14

old Dickie because he was too explicit

2:16

when it came to talking about their

2:18

sex life. It was using words like

2:20

suck and in

2:23

front of the group experts and the

2:25

entire country including their children which is

2:28

fair enough. Really granddaddy have some decorum

2:30

about yourself please. Well that is how

2:32

it seemed to us viewers anyway however

2:35

according to my sources there was actually

2:37

a lot more going on in Andrea

2:39

and Richard's relationship than Richard just being

2:42

a little overexcited that he was finally

2:44

getting some action. So we've heard Andrea

2:46

speak about the trauma that she has

2:49

from her last relationship which she described

2:51

as toxic and abusive. She claimed

2:53

that she was gaslit breadcrumbed and love-bombed.

2:55

She realized this when she was watching

2:57

maths and decided to leave her partner.

3:00

Andrea's ex is quite well known but

3:02

he's not like super famous he's a

3:04

former Brisbane breakfast radio star who now

3:06

works as a comedian. However this past

3:09

relationship trauma actually played a much bigger

3:11

role in her relationship problems with Richard

3:13

than viewers have been privy to. One

3:16

production insider explains when Richard started talking

3:18

about their sex life in graphic detail

3:20

it was a major trigger for Andrea

3:22

because of what had happened in her past

3:25

relationship and that's why she found it hard

3:27

to get over it and get back to

3:29

the place they had been in. Andrea had

3:31

a really bad previous relationship and that kept

3:33

coming up all the time during the experiment.

3:35

She spoke about the trauma from this relationship

3:37

a lot on the show to Richard to

3:39

the group to the experts and during

3:41

family and friends week but barely any

3:44

of it has been shown. She went

3:46

into great detail about what her ex

3:48

did to her and it was really

3:50

bad stuff. She said he was massively

3:52

abusive to her allegedly it all started

3:54

coming out about halfway through the experiment.

3:56

At the family and friends visit Andrea's

3:58

bridesmaid and Richard's daughter there, the friend

4:00

brought the issue of her ex up

4:03

and started crying. She said Andrea has

4:05

had the most horrible relationship. She then

4:07

dropped a massive bombshell about it and

4:09

started telling them all about the horrible

4:11

stuff that he had done to her.

4:13

Basically, he allegedly wanted to have sex

4:16

with her every single night and if

4:18

he didn't, he would be really horrible

4:20

to her, allegedly. Richard knew a bit

4:22

about it but not the full extent

4:24

until then. God, poor Andrea.

4:26

Now, according to this insider, this was

4:29

a huge part of Richard and Andrea's

4:31

storyline. In fact, their whole journey on

4:33

the show pretty much centred around Andrea's

4:35

past relationship trauma and how it was

4:38

affecting her relationship with Richard because she

4:40

was struggling to move past it. The

4:42

source explained Andrea basically took her baggage

4:44

from her previous relationship out on Richard

4:47

and was unintentionally sort of blaming him

4:49

for her past relationship. The experts kept

4:51

saying to her on the couch, Richard

4:54

is not your ex. Richard raised the

4:56

issue of her ex a few times in

4:58

a kind and constructive way, questioning if her

5:00

past trauma was why she had suddenly pulled

5:02

back on being intimate with him and if

5:04

it was impacting her relationship and how they

5:06

could try to work on that. But Andrea

5:08

denied it and said, how dare you, that's

5:11

not true and not why I pulled back.

5:13

She took it as a negative and felt

5:15

attacked anytime he tried to bring it up.

5:17

It was a very touchy subject for her

5:19

so she just completely shut off after that.

5:21

And fair enough, it sounds like she's been

5:23

through quite a lot so that is definitely

5:25

understandable behaviour. Now some of the things

5:27

that Richard said on the couch and

5:30

the photo ranking challenge definitely did raise

5:32

a few eyebrows with viewers and definitely

5:34

a little bit icky. I did notice

5:36

that the experts didn't call Richard out

5:38

on anything that he'd done and instead

5:40

when they're on the couch, they actually

5:42

asked Andrea if Richard talking about their

5:44

sex life was an insecurity that she

5:47

had in past relationships. So their reaction

5:49

might have been a little bit of

5:51

a clue in hindsight as to what

5:53

was really going on and the storyline

5:55

that Richard and Andrea were meant to

5:57

have. Now the reason Andrea shut down so

5:59

instantly and resolutely wasn't purely

6:01

just because of what Richard had said

6:04

or done. The production insider went on

6:06

to explain, Andrea's ex is quite a

6:08

high profile guy and during the experiment

6:10

he posted on Facebook about her being

6:12

on mass. After he did this

6:15

she freaked out massively and became extremely concerned

6:17

about how he was going to react, when

6:19

what she had been saying on the show

6:21

about him and what her friend had said

6:23

was shown because he wasn't going to look

6:25

good. She started to worry that

6:27

she'd said too much so she stopped speaking

6:29

about him but it was too late.

6:31

Their whole journey on the show was

6:33

about that. She didn't name him but

6:35

they dated for 16 years and it

6:38

was no secret they were together. Now

6:40

one contestant also shared some insight into

6:42

Andrea and Richard's relationship. They said Andrea

6:44

and Richard were both really nice. Everyone

6:46

loved them. They started off really strong and

6:48

were having sex all of the time but

6:50

then Andrea suddenly called off massively. It was

6:52

a full 180. Richard

6:54

was confused by her sudden change of heart

6:57

and couldn't understand what was going on. He

6:59

really wanted to work on it and fix

7:01

things but Andrea just completely shut down. Richard

7:03

was trying to be patient and supportive and

7:05

understanding of her past trauma but he was

7:07

also like, this isn't friends at first sight,

7:09

what the hell is going on? During one

7:12

couch session Richard asked her what had happened

7:14

to the intimacy and Andrea got triggered and

7:16

would say things like, why are you saying

7:18

that? Is it because I won't f**k you?

7:21

Is that a problem for you? They have

7:23

a lot of issues which they were really

7:25

honest and vocal about in their couch sessions.

7:27

Towards the end Richard started to challenge her

7:29

but that just made things even worse. She

7:31

got really defensive and lost her s**t a

7:34

few times at him but they haven't shown

7:36

it. The experts advised him

7:38

to change his expectations and he eventually did

7:40

and also pulled back from her. Then they

7:42

went into more of a friendship than a

7:44

relationship. They were still supportive and nice to

7:46

each other but the romance aspect was gone.

7:49

This went on for a few weeks before

7:51

they eventually left the experiment before

7:53

homestays. Now this contestant

7:55

then explained that Richard was left

7:57

devastated over Andrea's rejection. They said,

7:59

Richard. It was really disappointed. he really

8:01

wanted things to work out with them.

8:03

The whole situation was really hard on

8:05

him. He could see how heartbroken he

8:07

was. Rich, it does sometimes act like

8:10

a child, he just doesn't listen or

8:12

think thought his intentions are good and

8:14

he comes from a good place. He's

8:16

not a bad person and he was

8:18

really into Andrea. There's no denying that.

8:20

I think maybe these siri just weren't

8:22

completely aligned with their sex lives and

8:24

into the sea and again. Now another

8:26

cast member said their take on rich

8:28

than Andrea's relationship. Saying this story. Was

8:30

really sad they lifted the last commitment ceremony

8:32

before hindsight. they both right late. They were

8:34

madly in love and everyone thought they were

8:36

going to last spot they didn't Andrew basically

8:38

got the it with him a site on

8:40

the show for few weeks after that the

8:42

den Richard pulled the plug. He said he

8:44

was sick of being blamed for the mistakes

8:46

of her ex Mel asked if it was

8:49

any think Richard wanted to say to Andrea

8:51

before they left and he talks about how

8:53

wonderful the son of their relationship was and

8:55

how he would never forget up for the

8:57

rest of his life. He got really emotional

8:59

about it is kind. Of Arsenal guy the

9:01

rest of the cause we're all crying. It

9:03

was a very sad ending. Richard and Andrea

9:05

definitely had their problems, but no one thinks

9:08

he's a quit. Every one really likes and

9:10

bars and was rooting for them. It's sad

9:12

that they couldn't make it work. and I

9:14

agree with a contestant said Richard is a

9:17

really nice guy. He was true to himself

9:19

and honest. He can be a little bit

9:21

boisterous and get carried away sometimes and say

9:23

stupid things, but nothing half as bad as

9:26

some of the other groups on the Shore.

9:28

Andrea is really lovely to. She's not. a

9:30

nasty a beach person something change between richard

9:32

and andrea and i went from being so

9:34

love dot to nothing pretty much overnight he

9:37

was bizarre off the andrea went cold on

9:39

him richard said on the couch that this

9:41

wasn't what he signed up for a more

9:43

than what i've heard when it started something

9:45

had changed any couldn't figure out what richard

9:47

was really upset about it he really liked

9:50

andrea i'm i guess we can now see

9:52

how and why richard is able to upkeep

9:54

up really great relationships with his exes sounds

9:56

like he does treat them with a lot

9:58

of dignity and respect and I think

10:01

a few more of the maths grooms could probably

10:03

learn a thing or two about how to treat

10:05

past partners from Richard Now

10:11

as I mentioned earlier this episode Andrea's ex

10:14

revealed himself and his relationship with Andrea by

10:16

sharing a public post on Facebook Saying that

10:18

he was Andrea's ex and that she was

10:20

appearing on the show which so dramatic has

10:22

obtained However, I have thought about this a

10:25

lot and I've decided not to name him

10:27

as it does sound like Andrea is quite

10:29

anxious about Him being named and worried of

10:31

the ramifications It does sound like he's done

10:33

a lot of damage to her So I

10:36

don't want to add to that for her

10:38

and make it any worse one source tells

10:40

so dramatic Andrea were together for 16

10:42

years They broke up about

10:44

two to three years ago. They never got married

10:47

and didn't have kids now this

10:49

piece of Intel Confirms that it was

10:51

Bryce's season that Andrea was watching that

10:53

made her realize she was being gaslit

10:55

There we go And I guess there

10:57

is something good that can come from

11:00

watching these toxic relationships and absolute sexist

11:02

pigs on TV I guess it's other

11:04

women being able to identify that perhaps

11:06

their relationship isn't as healthy as they

11:08

may think Hopefully a few people out

11:11

there learn a thing or two from Tori and

11:13

Jack's toxic relationship this year now

11:15

So dramatic has obtained the pose that

11:17

Andrea's ex made during filming that freaked

11:19

her out and was the catalyst for

11:21

her shutting down in her relationship with

11:23

Richard her ex wrote on Facebook on

11:25

August 29 The surprising

11:27

moment when you receive an anonymous email

11:30

Alerting you to the fact that your ex

11:32

is a contestant on the next season of

11:34

that He then shared a daily mail article

11:36

that read maths oldest couple Richard and Andrea

11:38

62 share a passionate kiss Now

11:42

I've also managed to find out why

11:44

Andrea and Richard's storyline was pretty much

11:46

entirely Left on the cutting

11:49

room floor one production insider tells so

11:51

dramatic that Andrea was so worried about

11:53

what she divulged about her ex But

11:55

she asked producers not to air any

11:57

of it. They explained she freaked out

11:59

big time and begged them not to

12:01

air any of it because she had major anxiety

12:03

about how he was going to react. So that's

12:05

why none of it has been shown. They really

12:07

toned it down and cut a lot of the

12:09

important context of their relationship out. So there

12:12

you go guys. I don't know about you

12:14

but putting all of this together and hearing

12:16

all of this really made me understand what

12:18

was going on in their relationship and I

12:20

guess why we've seen so little of them.

12:22

Like I said I don't think Richard is

12:24

completely innocent in this situation. It sounds like

12:26

he might have a thing or two to

12:28

improve on himself and probably could have handled

12:30

things a little bit better but it sounds

12:33

like there was a lot that we didn't

12:35

get to see that does provide important context

12:37

in the situation and what was really going

12:39

on with them. And I do really feel

12:41

for Andrea in this situation as well. I

12:43

mean she obviously can't control her past and

12:45

how it's affecting her right now either. So

12:47

where did Richard and Andrea stand now? Well

12:50

the pair were spotted looking as loved up

12:52

as ever in Sydney on February 10. Photos

12:54

obtained by Yahoo! showed the couple looking

12:57

very cozy on a coffee date. In

12:59

one snap Andrea was even seen snuggling

13:01

into Richard's arm. In another pic obtained

13:03

by the outlet they were seen walking

13:05

through the streets arm in arm. According

13:07

to an onlooker the pair was smiling

13:09

and laughing and looked pretty close. However

13:11

a source told So Dramatic at the

13:13

time that they are no longer a

13:15

couple and are just good mates and

13:17

it was just a friendly catch-up. Another

13:19

source also tells So Dramatic they ended

13:21

the show not on good terms but

13:23

they've since become friends again. Richard really

13:25

wanted to be friends with Andrea afterwards.

13:27

He really cares about her. They've been

13:29

in contact a bit but not much. They

13:32

text here and there and a civil but

13:34

nothing romantic at all. They caught up in

13:36

Sydney recently for coffee but they are just

13:38

friends. Andrea was in Sydney and reached out

13:40

to him so they went for coffee. He

13:42

asked her if there was any chance of

13:44

them getting back together but she said no.

13:46

God it really makes me happy to see

13:48

that some of these couples can be friends

13:50

after all of the toxicity of Married at

13:52

First Sight. I do have to say as

13:54

well the two mature couples this season are

13:56

really showing these young people how to do

13:58

healthy relationships whether it's friendships or sexual

14:01

ones. Good morning. That's

14:05

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14:07

and kings today. Thank you so much for

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