Nobody likes feeling out of control, but for some, uncertainty is their nightmare. They desire self-discipline, certainty, and standards above all things – and they’re willing to sacrifice spontaneity and relationship to get it. The controller’s mantra is “If I want it done right, I have to do it myself.” In our attempt to control our environment, we realize we can’t – so we begin to worry. This causes us to try to control more, and the cycle continues – and the pursuit of control ultimately enslaves us.