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On today's show, we are going

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to be talking about one quality

1:05

of erotic touch, one

1:07

way that we can reach out and touch

1:10

one another, or even stimulate our

1:12

own bodies to evoke

1:14

pleasure because it feels good. But also

1:18

this quality of erotic

1:20

touch this way of touching one another,

1:23

actually wakes up a lot in the

1:25

body. It wakes up a lot of

1:27

arousal, it wakes up a lot

1:29

of sensation. And it wakes up

1:31

a lot of

1:32

emotion too. We're

1:34

talking about vibration. Yeah,

1:37

it is one of the most enlivening kinds

1:39

of touch. And I think in our culture,

1:41

when we think about vibration, we think about

1:44

vibrators, and the touch that that

1:46

can offer us. But in truth,

1:48

there's so many different ways our bodies

1:50

can experience vibration. And

1:53

we want to talk about it a little bit today, see if

1:55

we can open that up for ourselves to be able to

1:57

experience a wider range.

1:59

in our bodies and together. So

2:03

what is vibration? Vibration

2:05

is the quality of oscillation

2:08

in a liquid or a semi-elastic

2:11

solid state, right? So anywhere

2:14

there's movement in an oscillating

2:16

to and fro kind of way.

2:19

Vibrations exist in nature

2:22

on all scales, right? From seismic

2:24

vibrations of the continents to

2:27

tiny vibrations

2:28

of cells and particles and electrons.

2:31

This to and fro kind of movement,

2:34

this back and forth, this woom, woom,

2:37

woom, woom, woom is

2:39

all throughout nature and in our bodies.

2:42

And so it feels good

2:44

or it has the potential to feel really good.

2:47

And vibrations are something

2:49

that are in our bodies naturally and we can

2:51

start paying attention more to kind of the vibratory

2:55

fields of our bodies. But

2:58

also how do we apply

3:00

vibration on purpose to

3:02

ourselves and one another for

3:05

fun, for pleasure because it feels

3:07

good because it as Charlotte

3:08

said is enlivening. It really wakes

3:11

up the body and that's a

3:13

kind of stimulation a lot of us need

3:15

and want and crave is to

3:17

be woken up to be flushed

3:20

with blood, right? So when we're

3:22

talking about vibration on the body,

3:26

we really want to make explicit that there's this

3:28

whole different range of ways

3:30

we can create vibrations. Vibrators,

3:33

yes. And we're going to set that aside until the end

3:35

of the

3:35

episode because

3:37

from our erotic touch lineage,

3:40

vibration is a way we can touch

3:42

ourselves and one another

3:45

with our hands and

3:47

with our mouths and our voices,

3:51

which is so fucking cool. And

3:54

this is part of our massage training

3:56

and it's one of the

3:57

strokes vibrating the butt cheeks, for example.

3:59

example. So a vibration

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in the body is often

4:03

created if we use our hands,

4:06

we can create that

4:07

oscillating experience

4:09

of the muscles in the flesh bouncing

4:12

around the

4:13

bone. So my

4:15

massage teacher Chester, our mentor,

4:18

rest in pleasure, Chester Maynard

4:21

used to have this little song he would sing

4:23

bounce the flesh around the bones, bounce

4:25

the flesh around the bones. And it was anywhere like

4:27

on the body where there was fleshiness and you could

4:29

kind of create that like bouncing

4:32

vibratory wave. It

4:35

was a really amazing, efficient

4:38

massage tool.

4:39

Because it loosens the muscle up

4:42

it flushes the area with fresh blood

4:44

flow, it gets all of the fluids

4:46

in the body moving, and it really

4:48

creates a sense of relaxation,

4:51

openness, and awaken. So you can

4:54

do more than

4:56

like precise work.

4:59

And what we noticed and so we included

5:01

butt vibrations in our butt massage video,

5:04

and that is part of our full body massage

5:07

teachings. And

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we started getting all these emails about the like

5:11

experience of having

5:13

your flesh

5:14

jiggled. Because

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when we create vibrations, your flesh bounces,

5:19

and that's part of what feels good. But

5:21

it also turns out that we have a lot of responses

5:23

to that in a lot of different directions.

5:26

Some people can feel embarrassed about that or have

5:28

concerns about that can be a constraint.

5:30

Other people

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really find it freeing and get really

5:33

deeply into it. Sometimes

5:36

it evokes laughter, and

5:39

like

5:39

joy and playfulness. And then other

5:41

times it evokes almost like a

5:42

sadness and a grief. And

5:44

what this all is, is it's waking up sensation,

5:48

and with sensation comes feeling. But

5:51

we need to take a minute and like why don't

5:53

we bounce one another's flesh more,

5:55

right? Because we can talk about the butt bouncing

5:58

or the tits jiggling.

5:59

And for a lot of people what this

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brings up is body shame We

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don't want to have enough flesh enough

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fat that it is

6:07

visibly bouncy Really

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for a lot of people this is a wild turn

6:13

on seeing your lover's flesh bounce

6:15

making your lover's flesh bounce

6:17

by applying

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rhythmic yummy

6:22

sensation and stimulation is

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Is a real potential source

6:27

of eroticism that if we can get over

6:29

that hump of like, oh I don't know if I like how it

6:31

looks when my flesh bounces

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Maybe have that tender conversation

6:36

with our lover Maybe

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close our

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eyes and just focus on the sensation of

6:40

it rather than thinking about the visuals blindfold

6:44

your lover if you need to If

6:47

we just get into the feeling of it, the

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feeling can be quite I mean as we

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say invigorating opening relaxing

6:56

Yeah, and that's such a good practice to not brace

6:58

against it or not contract around

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it because you have the emotional

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concerns So as Chris says

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to have those conversations so that you can

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actually relax fully into

7:08

the sensation and then you can allow

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the experience to move you

7:13

and Remove

7:16

the tension out of the musculature

7:18

and then move whatever sensations and

7:20

feelings that you have as well And

7:24

you can try this on yourself right a fleshy

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part of your body your thighs your chest

7:28

your ass Grab

7:30

it with like a loose hand and start bouncing

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it and we

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go through the how-to of this in

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our erotic touch courses You'll

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find all of that at pleasure mechanics.com

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slash touch but

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the general idea here is that you're

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using your hands to send vibratory

7:48

waves and Watch how

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those vibrations move through the body and

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so this was actually when you have someone on the massage

7:55

table and You send vibrations

7:57

through the body a skilled trained eye

7:59

can start seeing

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where the vibrations

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break around muscle tension.

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And it's beautiful. It's like watching water on a,

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you know, water ripple. You

8:10

send a vibration through the body and then you notice,

8:13

ooh, the butt's clenching or ooh, in the right

8:15

part of the back. It kind of breaks

8:17

as if around like a stone in the

8:19

river. And then you can start working

8:21

that area. That's an advanced

8:24

skill that we can all get to,

8:25

right? You start learning your lover's body

8:27

and as you're bouncing the flesh, you're

8:29

like noticing tension and releasing

8:31

it. How delicious. But you're

8:33

also noticing arousal, right? So you're

8:35

shaking their ass, you're shaking their thighs.

8:37

And this can be part

8:39

of a massage or as we

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demonstrate in our foreplay course, part

8:44

of turning one another on, part of

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arousing the genitals, bringing

8:48

vibrations to the genitals, just

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like so many people do with mechanical

8:54

vibrators. We can vibrate

8:56

our hands either like a very slow,

8:59

like oscillations,

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or much faster with your fingertips,

9:04

like da da da da da

9:05

da da, and start creating that same

9:07

kind of bouncing, yummy. But

9:10

there's something about the flesh to flesh vibrations

9:13

and you start working the genital tissue around

9:15

the pelvic bone. And you

9:18

get so much good sensation there. Yeah.

9:20

And if you want to experiment more with

9:23

feeling how vibration feels in your

9:25

own body before you're playing

9:27

with it erotically with somebody else, you

9:29

can also use movement

9:31

to feel vibration in your own

9:34

muscles. So like bouncing,

9:37

shaking, moving your butt

9:39

muscles.

9:40

Bounce that ass. Yeah. And

9:43

just really get into it and experiment

9:45

and notice like how much you have to move

9:47

or you want to move. Because

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in different moments, depending on your emotional state,

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different levels of balance and shaking

9:55

and vibration will feel good to you because

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it's offering your body what you want.

9:59

So really listening to

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your body for what feels good to

10:04

it is a great pleasure practice. And noticing

10:06

how stiff you might be. We

10:09

remember from our massage days, there are

10:11

some bodies that you try to vibrate them

10:13

and there's so much constriction, there's

10:16

so much tension

10:16

and stiffness. And

10:19

that stiffness is an acquired

10:21

state. A lot of

10:23

our cultures really demand us

10:26

to be still and stiff

10:28

and in certain postures and not very

10:31

fluid. One of the things

10:33

I love about

10:33

vibrations, it reminds

10:35

us of our fluid

10:37

state. We are mostly water.

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And so we can send these ripples, like

10:42

we are not solid matter. And

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we should also remember that sound

10:48

is vibration. So you were talking about

10:50

movement and dancing. That's one way

10:52

we get vibration going

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through our bodies. And again,

10:57

vibration can be slow or intense.

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We have that whole spectrum of frequencies

11:02

to play with. And even

11:04

just listening to music, ideally

11:07

with good speakers or even live,

11:10

where you're hearing the air

11:12

around you vibrate with sound.

11:16

I love going to like a symphony

11:18

orchestra and just getting

11:19

off on the vibrations in the

11:21

air. If you start paying attention to it and letting

11:24

it in, letting your body

11:26

feel it and be responsive to

11:29

it.

11:29

Good sound

11:32

can be its own sex toy. Right.

11:34

And we know how much music has us

11:37

feel. Like it is vibrating

11:39

into our bodies and creating an experience.

11:42

And we could be so intentional about what we

11:44

listen to to evoke certain kinds of feelings

11:47

in our bodies. Like, what do you like

11:49

to listen to to get turned on? What do you like

11:51

listening to while you're having sex? Those

11:54

could be different, but like it's creating

11:56

a certain literal vibration in your body

11:58

to play with.

11:59

to activate,

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to use as

12:04

part of an erotic context. So

12:06

playing with us, playing with yourself, with

12:08

sound, with vibration, with shaking

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up your own flesh, with putting

12:13

your own hand over your

12:14

genitals and exploring different points around

12:17

your genitals. And again, all

12:19

of this is in the erotic touch

12:21

courses, video demonstrations of

12:23

this. So you can see Charlotte's talented hands

12:27

guiding you through how to do these things

12:29

because there's certain points on the pelvis

12:32

that you have

12:32

access actually to like the

12:35

core of the

12:35

human body and you can send

12:38

vibration waves straight through the pelvis,

12:40

all of that delicious flesh there up into

12:43

the spine. And

12:46

after the break, I wanna talk about that

12:48

specific vibratory wave

12:51

that comes with really good fucking, with

12:54

really good intense erotic

12:55

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12:57

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15:39

high frequency like a buzz

15:41

and then there's rumblier

15:43

vibrators like the magic wands

15:45

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15:48

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15:52

need to find what frequency

15:54

works for your erogenous

15:56

zones whether this is your

15:58

clitoris, your shaft.

15:59

your nipples, your butt,

16:02

like internally, externally,

16:04

you might like a combination. And it might

16:06

change depending

16:07

on your level of arousal. Yeah. Like

16:09

what feels good at the beginning feels different

16:12

like when you're getting close. And this is why

16:14

I call it our toolbox.

16:15

Like I'm looking next to Charlotte where there's

16:17

actually a stack of toy chests.

16:20

And many of us over time will acquire

16:22

many tools for many purposes

16:25

when it comes to sexual pleasure. And

16:27

vibrators can be a very useful

16:30

tool

16:30

in our toolbox.

16:33

And some of my

16:34

favorite vibrators don't ever need to

16:36

be charged. They

16:37

are the human hands. We

16:39

can create such an incredible

16:41

wave of vibration just by

16:44

using our hands on all different parts of

16:46

the body. And also

16:49

through fucking. And I really

16:51

want to presence this because when we are fucking

16:53

one another, we're creating

16:55

a ripple through the body. We

16:57

are rocking one another where that impact

17:00

of one body moving into the other or

17:02

the two bodies

17:03

moving. It creates

17:05

waves of vibration. And

17:07

we

17:08

can

17:09

do this more and more on purpose.

17:13

So I just want to kind of throw out two

17:15

different strategies here. One

17:17

is while you're fucking notice

17:20

how the impact of the fucking

17:22

is creating ripples and waves and vibrations

17:25

both in your body and in your

17:27

partners and start doing

17:29

that more on purpose. Right. Play with

17:32

rhythm, play with

17:33

intensity and play with

17:35

angle because some of it is just getting the flesh

17:38

moving at the right

17:38

angle. So shifting your hips a little

17:41

bit in either direction, rotating

17:43

the pelvis that's receiving. So kind of

17:45

like you're hitting the ass in a certain way.

17:47

I really love receiving from

17:50

behind where it's like my partner's hips

17:52

are hitting my

17:52

ass and that rhythm. I can

17:55

feel the vibrations going all the way up

17:57

my spine and rattling my skull.

18:00

Then the other part is holding still around

18:02

the penetration, right? So you have penetration with

18:04

a hand or a toy and then

18:06

reaching down or a cock Reaching

18:09

down and shaking that ass

18:11

or shaking the thighs

18:14

on purpose around the penetration

18:17

And you were saying that

18:19

you need a little more space around the

18:21

butt around like being flat

18:23

on the bed will kind of

18:25

Break getting break the waves of the vibration

18:28

So you need to kind of be up a little or

18:30

in a position where your whole ass

18:32

can right? No, he hands and knees is such

18:34

a great way to explore vibrating

18:37

the ass because the ass is up there and has got all

18:39

that space to move and ripple

18:42

right

18:43

so those two things like noticing how you can

18:45

send vibration waves or While

18:48

being penetrated doing some vibration on purpose Sometimes

18:52

while I'm being fucked. I actually just like reach back

18:54

and shake my own ass Because

18:56

it feels really good

18:58

Because it feels really good But

19:00

I did want to circle back as

19:03

we wrap up this episode and acknowledge

19:05

that vibrations bring out

19:08

emotion

19:10

Just like music and the different vibrations

19:13

of music just exploring opera

19:15

alone, right? We have those vibrations

19:18

of everything from like ecstatic love

19:21

to longing and yearning

19:23

to anger and rage

19:25

like all

19:26

of the emotions have different resonances

19:28

and Amplitudes,

19:30

right like all of that feeling in the sound

19:33

that's all vibration We

19:36

can pour that into one another with

19:38

our voices. Yeah

19:40

With our sound with our throats

19:42

with our expression

19:45

This is one of the things

19:46

we are going to explore in our oral sex

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We're going to be doing an episode of the amazing group

20:01

experiential immersion in this

20:04

together. But this idea

20:06

of using our voices,

20:07

using our throat to bring all

20:10

of the emotion and feeling

20:12

through vibrating into one another's

20:15

bodies, specifically

20:16

into one another's holiest

20:19

of holes and sparkliest

20:21

of crowns. It's

20:24

really a powerful tool that we don't use

20:27

enough.

20:29

Just the idea of moaning

20:32

into your partner's body. And again, it doesn't

20:34

have to be genitals. Like moan into

20:36

your lover's throat the next time

20:38

you hug them. A

20:40

nuzzle and a moan. And they'll

20:42

feel the emotion, the

20:44

expression of that vibration coming

20:47

through your throat into

20:49

the air and into their body. Like how magical

20:51

this is.

20:52

How magical this is. Even us speaking

20:55

here now is my throat is

20:57

creating micro vibrations

21:00

over which the air is traveling, being

21:02

captured by this incredible magical

21:05

microphone captured

21:07

and then transmitted to you to re vibrate

21:09

the air into your cochlea

21:10

into your ear holes.

21:12

Like we got

21:14

to use the tools we have available to us as

21:16

humans and vibration is a way

21:19

we can literally like ripple out

21:21

into the world. And the way

21:23

we can touch one another with this, wake

21:26

up different emotional responses,

21:29

right? Everything from joyous laughter

21:31

to grief and release

21:34

like the catharsis of I could shake

21:36

in people's ass for like 20 minutes in a butt

21:38

massage session. And they just weep

21:40

like they just need to move real

21:44

quickly here,

21:44

right? Vibration is used therapeutically

21:46

and shaking is therapeutically

21:49

and a lot of trauma release. Because

21:52

getting that movement back, getting that

21:54

resilience and the flexibility back

21:56

in the flesh, right? We're really

21:58

like undoing the knots that we all

22:01

carry. And

22:03

also, so just allowing this in our erotic

22:05

experience, allowing the expression,

22:08

the emotion, that full range

22:11

to ripple through us and to move.

22:13

Again, vibrations keep things moving,

22:17

so we don't have to get stuck in any one place.

22:21

You can laugh, you can cry, you can

22:23

moan, you can release, you can

22:24

come, all in one playful

22:26

session.

22:27

Yeah, and if we can remember

22:29

that we can open our own throats and allow

22:31

the vibration to come through as

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sound, and that can create

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a circuit between the two of

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you, where you're giving

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really exploring the pleasure of

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talk about holding and gliding

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and caressing and

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rhythm and percussion, but

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yeah

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we wish you good vibes. We

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didn't even talk about that

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right this word vibes and the emotions

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of it like what are the vibes on that and we

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