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Welcome to Speaking of Sex
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with the Pleasure Mechanics. I'm
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Chris from pleasuremechanics.com. And
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on this podcast, we
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have honest, explicit, wholesome
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conversations about sex
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and pleasure, and the joy
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of connection. Come on
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find all of the resources we
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have been lovingly generating for you
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since 2006. On today's
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episode, we are celebrating
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with our
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friends at scarlatine.com.
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Scarlatine is one of those resources
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I refer folks to every
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week, sometimes it feels like every
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day. Because Scarlatine for the
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past 25 years has been one
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of the internet's best resources
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for nonjudgmental, comprehensive
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education, information, and
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community about sexual
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health, sexuality and
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erotic becoming. Scarlatine
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is for the teen in all of
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us. Yes, they center
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the voices of teens and
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young people and answer the
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questions of teens and young
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people, which for the past,
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you know, generations, we
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have been underserved when it
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comes to our questions around
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sexuality and sexual health. We
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are really left to our
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own devices to keep ourselves
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safe and navigate the very
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vulnerable terrain of sexual
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development and our first
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relationships, and the implications
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of our choices. And
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I want us all to listen to
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this interview, thinking about
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the teen in ourselves thinking about
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our first education
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when it comes to sexuality. Where
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did we learn from? Who did we learn
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from? What questions? We're left unanswered.
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And who did we turn to when. We
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heard big questions to navigate for
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the past twenty five years. Scarlett
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teen. Dot Com has been that
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resource that people can turn to
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the not only get their questions,
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answers, that to feel a sense
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of acceptance and belonging. It is
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so important that we come together
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as a community to support. Resources
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like Scarlett In. Com
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so they can continue. To
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support the teams are merging
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today and such treacherous terrain.
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And continue to support. Parents
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and caregivers. As we support
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the young people in our allies do
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it for the teen a new he
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will find resources. In the show notes
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about how to hooked up directly. With
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Scarlatti in and join us
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in supporting them for now,
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please welcome codirector of Scarlett
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in.com Sam Walls to the
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show. Sam. Thank you
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so much for joining us to
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celebrate twenty five years of Scarlatti
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in.com Leaders Get us started by
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introducing yourself the and then what
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is Carla team and how did
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it start and where we are
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today? Twenty five years later. I'm
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yes, so. My. Name is
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Sam while. I. Am
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one of the. Directors at
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Scarlet seen.com. And.
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Scarlett. Team is a.
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Primarily online. Sex.
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And Relationships Education resource for
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teenagers and emerging adults and
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we provide a lot of
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written conscience such as like
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articles and advice columns. On
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A and displayed. Huge
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array of. Topics.
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And we also have spaces
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were young people can com.
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And ask questions and get
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information and advice and support.
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From. Our staff
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and volunteers around issues
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related to sex, relationships,
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identity bodies, All sorts of
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things. And Scarlett seen it.
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As. A resource has always
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been very grass roots
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and very clear. It.
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First. Emerged when Heather,
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who is. One.
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Of the other code directors and also our.
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Founder. Was running
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a. Website called
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the Scarlet Letters which was.
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The. Sex. Education and Advice. For.
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Adults. And. They
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kept getting questions.
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From young people. Who.
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Were looking for the kind of advice
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they were providing because they weren't finding
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it anywhere else. And so
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it. That. Kind of
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inspired Heather to start.
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Scarlett seen. Ah, and
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then over the years. You.
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Know we britain more and more. And
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we've added on these different services
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where people can get help. Our.
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Team. Of People in Volunteers
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and staff has grown. And.
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That really brings us to
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now. I'm were were
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hitting this. Twenty. Five year
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mark. And. Just kind of looking
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back with. At least a little
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bit of just sort of ah at
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the Saxon, it leaves need else. We
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came from this really necessary but really
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sort. Of humbler, grassroots beginning.
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And now here we are.
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And as a resource, it's something, though
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we. Refer folks all the time
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to Scarlatti in both young people
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themselves and parents and caregivers and
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people who want to be a
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resource to young people. And
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not only to educate themselves re because at
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this. point twenty five years later
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there's plenty of information online but
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one of the things i love
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you do so beautifully is he
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recognized full spectrum humanity of
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sexuality. So right along
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with say, safer sex information, you
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get information about relational structures
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and communication strategies. So
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you can actually then go
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have that conversation. What
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has driven your model of, as
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you say, it's not one question, one
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answer when it comes to sexuality.
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Can you talk a little bit about the values and
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the principles that have really driven
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your model of offering not only
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information but support and a sense
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of belonging? Of
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course. So I would say
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the biggest
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sort of driver of how we
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approach what we do
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and what kind of information
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we provide, often
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through sort of like articles
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or advice columns, is
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the young people who come
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to us for support.
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And what I mean by that is
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that we want our work to be
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driven by the people that we're serving.
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And that sort of extends to
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some of our other philosophy and
7:12
approach as well, which
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is that some other
7:17
resources or some of
7:19
the ways we talk about sex
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and relationships culturally don't
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necessarily treat young people as
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whole people. There can be
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a tendency to not treat them
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as capable of weighing
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decisions or understanding risk
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or having, in some cases, really
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complex emotions or thoughts about
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things. And
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so a big part of what we do, and I
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think a big part of why we've
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been around as long as we have, is
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that we're a place where young people really feel
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heard. they're
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being talked to like complex
8:03
people about topics
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where there's often
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a lot of vulnerability or shame
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or all of these other really complex
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or difficult emotions. Yeah
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and that comes through in all you do and can
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you talk a little bit more about
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the direct services you offer because often what
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I hear back when I refer folks to
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is I get an email a few months
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later like wow that was way beyond great
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information on a website. What are
8:33
the direct services you offer? How do
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you actually engage in conversation with folks
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when they're in sometimes and if
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we can all take a moment right and I think this
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is so important for adult listeners you
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might be far from your teenage
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and young adult years or you
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might be at an ever-growing reflective
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distance but when we look
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back on our formative teenage sexual years
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and who was there for us where
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we went for information and how
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important compassionate information and being
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given the tools to make
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decisions for ourselves were
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at some of these pivotal moments of becoming
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and those are the moments that people come
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to scarletine with. People are in tender
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formative moments
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and you embrace them as a whole person so
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can we just get a standing over that. But
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what are the direct services you offer? How do you engage
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with folks? Yeah so
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there are three primary
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ones. They're what people probably picture
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when they're thinking a direct service.
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So the first of those is our message board
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and our message boards they
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function to me kind of
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like an old school forum and
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they're public facing. There's
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something anybody who visits the site can see
9:56
and what that allows for is
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not only us to
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offer support or advice, but
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for users to offer support
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to each other. And there have
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been some really nice moments where
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I've seen users
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connect with each other or offer
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perspective to each other. And
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of course, those are also places where
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people then are getting advice from
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us, the staff and volunteers. We
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do have even a place on the boards where
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people can specifically post if
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they want only
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answers from Furlough team, not
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from other users. The
10:40
next service is
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our text line, which is,
10:45
it's really best for sort
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of quick questions and
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answers, but that and
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then our chat
10:54
service are
10:56
both places where users can have
10:59
conversations with us that
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aren't visible to other people. It
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allows for that level of
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privacy that some people
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really need to feel comfortable
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having conversations about really sensitive
11:14
topics. But I would
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also consider the advice columns
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are direct services, because
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those come from questions
11:24
that people leave for
11:26
us. And so there are
11:29
another place where we are directly answering
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someone's question. And
11:34
it's a place where we
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can see what kinds of
11:38
questions are coming in, if there
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are patterns, if there are issues
11:43
that seem to be suddenly really salient to
11:45
young people right now. So
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I would say those are the sort of
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the score that make up the direct
11:53
services. And I love that it's a way
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of you also pass the mic around, you let
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young people speak for themselves and
11:59
with information. through their multiplicity
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of identities. And it
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gives us this really rich chorus to draw
12:05
from. I was just looking at like an
12:08
autistic girl's guide to getting ghosting. And
12:12
I needed to read that specific
12:14
perspective. And it
12:16
was really a beautiful moment of how
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many voices are on your site all
12:22
these years later. So
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happy birthday, 25 years. Talk
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to us about what you're noticing
12:30
in the online landscape that teens are
12:32
having to navigate. Cause there's teen sexuality
12:34
itself. And then there's like the cultures
12:36
teen have to navigate with
12:39
and through their sexuality. And it's
12:41
not an easy time to be young right now.
12:44
What are you noticing right now? And how
12:46
are you responding and how you're serving folks? Young
12:49
people to some degree,
12:52
and I just think some of this depends on
12:55
their own identities and
12:57
whether they belong to groups that are
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currently being targeted by different kinds
13:02
of legislation. Is that they're
13:05
noticing these attempts
13:08
to restrict
13:10
their access to
13:12
information either
13:14
about their bodies or about sexuality
13:16
more generally, or about
13:19
their identities. And the
13:21
way we respond to that is
13:26
kind of by doing what we've always done,
13:29
which is continuing to respond
13:33
to the topics and the questions
13:36
that are being brought to us. But
13:39
that being said, we do also
13:42
want to put out things and do put
13:44
out things that
13:46
are about helping young people
13:50
navigate this particular political
13:53
cultural moment. I
13:57
believe last year, for instance, We
14:00
put out a guide
14:02
to abortion access
14:05
and privacy. So
14:07
basically how to protect your privacy
14:09
as much as possible when
14:11
you're seeking out abortion care in
14:13
a potentially hostile
14:16
climate. We
14:18
put out a piece this year
14:20
that's about finding queer media.
14:24
Because that was something we were
14:26
consistently having people come
14:29
to us asking for or in our
14:31
conversations with them, it would
14:33
become clear they just didn't know where
14:35
to start looking for it. And
14:39
on top of that, that piece was also
14:41
necessary because there were
14:43
active attempts to hide that kind
14:45
of content from young people. So
14:47
I feel like those are some illustrations of
14:50
kind of how we let how
14:53
young people are reacting to a current moment
14:56
guide the kind of resources we create
14:58
for them. Right, and
15:00
that youth-led voice, right, I'm thinking about,
15:03
right, I have friends who have recently
15:05
relocated across state lines to
15:08
be who they are more fully. And
15:11
as teens, as young people, we don't often
15:14
have points of agency that include relocating.
15:18
Sometimes as adults, we don't have access to
15:20
those points of agency. And so how do
15:22
we find how
15:25
we can navigate these times? And I just
15:27
want us all to take this in that
15:29
the teens are noticing the legislation
15:33
to try to control their access to
15:36
health, to education,
15:38
to information, and
15:41
having to navigate their reality
15:43
as a pre-voting person, often.
15:48
And resources like this, in
15:50
often cases, are life-saving resources
15:54
for the teens that have to navigate
15:56
the world us adults are generating for
15:58
them. And
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so I do want to talk a little bit about how
16:03
do we do better by our
16:05
young people as sex positive adults.
16:08
Listeners of this show, we
16:10
are committed, right, to
16:13
not only experiencing more sexual joy and
16:16
connection for ourselves, but to create a
16:18
culture of that. And
16:20
how do we do better by young people in
16:22
our lives, other
16:24
than referring them to scarletine and
16:26
supporting scarletine so you forever exist
16:28
as a resource. What
16:31
are your thoughts on how do
16:33
we show up more as adults
16:35
and make ourselves visible as resources
16:37
to young people who might be
16:39
in our orbits? That's
16:41
a really good question.
16:46
I will say that we actually
16:48
have currently a
16:51
resource on the site called
16:54
Scarletine Confidential that
16:57
Heather and I put
16:59
together specifically for parents
17:02
or guardians or other supportive adults
17:06
who want kind of a peek at
17:08
the kind of things we're seeing young
17:10
people communicate to us and
17:13
then our advice on how
17:15
to approach those different topics. But
17:18
I think when adults
17:20
are thinking about signaling
17:23
being a safe adult to talk to
17:26
or a sex positive adult to talk to,
17:30
there are a few things that
17:32
can be really helpful and
17:36
they're often smaller things than
17:38
we think. One, well,
17:40
this is both big and small in some
17:43
ways, is making
17:45
sure or being mindful of
17:48
whether your words
17:50
and your actions are
17:53
actually kind of in harmony. Because
17:56
it's very easy in some ways.
18:00
to say all the right things
18:03
to a young person, but
18:05
it can often be much, much
18:07
harder to do the
18:10
follow through on those because
18:12
the follow through is often coming in
18:14
moments where there is probably
18:17
a big emotional
18:20
reaction from you as the adult. The
18:24
example I always give is actually
18:26
not sex related. It's,
18:29
I don't know how many people listening to this
18:32
have said or have had a parent
18:34
say to them, if
18:37
you are ever at a party and you
18:39
get drunk and
18:42
it's not safe for you to drive home
18:44
because you've been drinking and you're underage,
18:47
I would much rather you call me to come
18:50
get you than try to drive
18:52
home and hide it from me. I want
18:54
you to be safe and I am
18:56
willing to bet there are plenty
18:58
of young people who are told that and
19:02
then do what they
19:05
were told they could do in that moment only
19:08
to have it blow up in their face, to
19:10
have that parent or that adult get really
19:13
angry with them, to yell at them, to
19:15
scold them, to basically
19:18
make them regret making
19:20
what was in that moment the safe choice.
19:23
That's a moment where
19:25
probably the adult in the situation,
19:27
is feeling a lot of strong
19:30
emotions and it
19:32
can be hard to take that pause and go, I
19:36
need to make sure this actually
19:38
lines up with what I told
19:40
them and with what I want them to learn
19:42
from this situation, which in
19:44
this case would be, they can
19:47
come to me in these moments
19:50
where maybe they've made a not
19:52
so great choice and they need
19:54
help avoiding Some sort of
19:56
bad outcome, or they need help making a better choice.
20:00
Wanted to know they can come to me. But. That's
20:02
one of those things. Where.
20:04
You're probably doing that.
20:06
You're throwing that harmony
20:08
between. What? You say and
20:10
what you do. You. You're. Making
20:13
choices about. That probably dozens of times
20:15
a day. And.
20:17
Young people are often noticing
20:19
them. And those were
20:21
the choices. They aren't big. Gestures
20:23
or declarations of. You.
20:26
Know what a young person can or can't do or
20:28
can or can't rely on you for. But.
20:31
Over time A are. Few. Things.
20:34
That young person sense. Of
20:36
can I trust you. To.
20:39
Be some I can come through in these moments.
20:42
So real suspicious. You're thinking the
20:44
parents have a nine year old
20:46
and were really have no in
20:48
that conversation right? Of: how do
20:50
we stay askable? How do we
20:52
stay in an open conversation? Ah,
20:54
without. Also think some people as
20:57
adults we worry about overstepping. We
20:59
want to be available. We want to be
21:02
there for the conversation, but we don't
21:04
want to be intrusive. we don't want over
21:06
stamps, and so where is that line of
21:08
remaining approachable? And you know, when we
21:10
talk to parents about. Being
21:13
you know, pleasure positive even when little
21:15
and sex positive parents. I'm one of
21:17
the big thing as is not having
21:19
all the answers right away and be
21:22
able to say they are said wow,
21:24
that's a good question. let's find out
21:26
together because it buys you that pause.
21:29
And you can respond when you're less
21:31
reactive and also find out what the
21:33
question is being asked. And
21:36
something like Scarlett in.com where you
21:38
can take your own questions and
21:40
inform yourself before then going back
21:43
to your head that confidence of
21:45
having some refreshed information. Because the
21:47
truth of it A lot of
21:49
us parents are, we didn't have
21:51
sex education when we were kids.
21:53
We were part of the abstinence
21:55
only ways of sex education them
21:57
in this country at least. and
22:00
no matter where people are listening from There
22:03
are holes and gaps in what we understand
22:05
and what we know to be true So
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thank you for hosting and
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and volunteers and you all the
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amazing staff of scarletine Who
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have been consistently doing this for 25 years
22:31
so the rest of us can have that
22:33
pause of not knowing Thank
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you so much for all that you create When
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we come back, I want to talk about how
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we can all show up More
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your support directly to
24:47
continue doing this work. So
24:49
big thanks in advance for your
24:52
support of pleasure mechanics
24:54
and of our friends
24:56
at scarletine.com. You'll also find
24:58
links to scarletine in today's
25:00
episode description. For now
25:02
back to our conversation with
25:05
Sam, co-director of scarletine.com.
25:08
Where are you looking to as you look forward
25:11
from here from as you're blowing
25:13
out 25 birthday cake candles on
25:15
your scarletine cake? The big thing
25:17
we are looking forward
25:20
to and that we're really excited
25:22
for people to eventually
25:24
get to see is a
25:27
very updated version of
25:30
scarletine of the site. We've
25:33
got some new design.
25:35
We have some
25:38
new ways that we sort of organize
25:40
things to make it
25:42
easier for people to find information.
25:46
There's just a lot of stuff we're really excited
25:48
about with the updated
25:50
site. Thank you all for
25:52
doing it. We are going to throw
25:55
a bunch of links in the podcast notes
25:57
so folks can navigate
25:59
scarletine. and support your work.
26:04
Can you talk for a moment about the book?
26:06
I have bought this book for every young person
26:08
in my life. Can you
26:10
talk a little bit about the Scarlet Teen book as
26:12
a resource and a gift for folks? Yes,
26:16
so the Scarlet
26:19
Teen book is called that because
26:22
Heather wrote it. And
26:25
it very much reflects the
26:28
content that we have at Scarlet Teen, the
26:30
approach we have at Scarlet Teen. It's
26:33
called S-E-X, Everything
26:36
You Need to Know Guide for Sex
26:38
and Relationships in Your Teens and Twenties,
26:40
I think. It's the full
26:42
title. And it's
26:44
a really great resource
26:47
for a teenager or emerging adult in
26:49
your life. And I say this is, I'm
26:53
someone who got my first real
26:55
sex education by
26:57
my mom, basically leaving age-appropriate
27:00
books kind of lying around the house for me
27:02
to find. The age-old technique,
27:04
I think it can. It's
27:07
such a good technique of just
27:09
letting it be available at kids' own
27:11
pace. I remember
27:13
when my nephews turned like 13, 14, they
27:17
each got a copy. And what it does
27:19
is it just kind of signals like I
27:21
am approachable, you can ask me questions, and
27:23
it becomes a little bit of a running
27:25
joke in the family and
27:28
breaking that ice, especially
27:30
as someone who's not a parent, but is
27:32
a close adult and someone in a young
27:34
person's life. It's
27:37
a real gift and sometimes it's five
27:39
years later that the first question comes,
27:42
or they get one of their friends to call
27:44
you or text you on their behalf, right? It's
27:47
not always direct, but
27:49
just having these books available and gifting them
27:51
to young people in your life is such
27:53
a great strategy. And
27:57
I do know of... people
28:00
whose work brings them
28:02
into a lot of contact with young people, people
28:06
like school counselors, I
28:09
think even a few healthcare
28:12
providers or people who run
28:15
LGBT centers that have little libraries
28:17
in them have
28:20
made sure that they have a
28:22
copy of SEX. So
28:25
they can be there for young
28:27
people who need it, but maybe
28:29
aren't in a home
28:32
or life situation where it's safe
28:35
for them to have at the house or
28:37
anybody thought to have it in. And
28:40
the same goes for Wait
28:43
What? which is another book
28:45
of Heathers that
28:48
they made with Isabella
28:50
Rotman who did a lot of the illustrations
28:52
on the site at one point and that
28:55
one is for a younger
28:58
audience. That's more for the
29:00
middle school audience, but it is
29:02
still very much written from this same
29:05
perspective that all of our work at
29:07
Skirletine is done through where
29:11
this is about treating young people with respect.
29:13
This is about being honest
29:15
with them about things
29:18
like what it's like to
29:20
experience a crush or gender
29:22
identity. Maybe things
29:24
that don't always get hit
29:26
on in other resources for that
29:29
age group. And
29:31
this is what I love that Skirletine does
29:33
so beautifully is it really is that whole
29:35
story of sexuality and how it lives
29:37
in our lives and for a
29:40
lot of listeners just spending some time on
29:42
the site navigating, reading
29:44
some of these beautifully written advice
29:47
columns, getting your own questions answered.
29:50
It can be a gesture of
29:52
reparenting ourselves and resourcing
29:55
ourselves as adults that
29:58
are never too young or old. to
30:01
learn more, to get more information,
30:03
to be part of this beautiful
30:05
conversation. Thank you so much
30:07
for all you do at Scarletine and cheers
30:10
to 25 more years ahead.
30:15
Thank you. Since we're
30:17
on the subject
30:19
of looking forward
30:22
into the future for Scarletine, I
30:25
would be remiss to
30:27
not mention that because of
30:29
the kind of work we do and because
30:32
of the kind of organization that we are,
30:34
we are owned and
30:36
operated, grassroots, progressive,
30:39
all of that good
30:41
stuff, our funding
30:43
opportunities are pretty
30:45
limited. We've
30:48
only very recently been able to get
30:51
any kind of grant or foundational funding,
30:54
but you know we're not owned
30:57
by something bigger, we're
31:00
not sort of run
31:02
under government grants that come with all
31:04
these restrictions on what
31:06
you can or cannot talk about. And in
31:09
a lot of ways, being this
31:11
little scrappy grassroots organization
31:14
is great because
31:16
it lets us do the
31:19
work we want to do and do it
31:21
in the way that we know really serves
31:23
young people. But
31:25
that does come with
31:27
this sort of downside of money maybe
31:31
isn't always the easiest thing to come
31:33
by. So I do
31:35
want to say that we
31:38
are always looking for new
31:40
donors, especially recurring
31:42
donors, even like
31:44
a donation of just ten
31:47
dollars a month goes
31:49
a really long way towards
31:51
helping us be sustainable as
31:53
a resource and making
31:55
sure that we're still around. 25
32:00
years of content on that site. There's
32:04
the direct services.
32:07
And I think those things
32:09
are really valuable. And
32:11
a lot of other people seem
32:13
to think they're valuable too. So
32:16
if people are able, we really
32:19
encourage them to donate
32:22
or set up a recurring donation if
32:24
it's within their ability to do so. And
32:27
do it for the teen and you, right? It's like,
32:29
do it for the moment you needed this
32:31
as a teenager. Exactly. Do it because
32:33
you would take a teenager you love
32:35
out to a coffee and talk to them
32:38
about this stuff if they asked you
32:40
to. Of course we would. And
32:42
so throw $10 a month towards
32:44
Skarlatine more if you can. And let's
32:46
build a world where we all have
32:48
someone and somewhere to go to get
32:50
our questions answered and to be held
32:53
with love and compassion and non-judgment in
32:55
our most vulnerable of moments. Thank
32:57
you so much for being there for so many. It's
33:00
our absolute pleasure. Big thanks
33:02
and cheers to our friends
33:05
at skarlatine.com for 25 years
33:07
of serving teenagers, young adults,
33:09
and the teen in all
33:12
of us. We all
33:14
have questions when it comes to sexuality.
33:16
We all have places we need to
33:19
inform ourselves and learn from
33:21
the wisdom and perspective of others. And
33:24
Skarlatine is one of the richest
33:26
resources online available
33:28
for that honest conversation
33:30
around all things sexuality.
33:33
Please check it out. Use the links
33:35
in the show notes to support Skarlatine.
33:38
And we will be back with you next
33:40
week with another episode of Speaking of Sex
33:43
with the Pleasure Mechanics. I'm
33:45
Chris from pleasuremechanics.com, wishing
33:48
you a lifetime of pleasure.
33:51
Cheers.
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