In this episode of Stop Signs are Optional Podcast with Lindsey and Allie, Lindsey has her high school friend Vanessa join in the conversation. It is also the first, maybe second, time Allie and Vanessa meet even though they have both been Lindsey friends the same period.

Vanessa talks about marrying early, having children, and being with the same person sexually for 14 years. She shares why she and her husband Victor have recently decided to spice things up in the bedroom after many years of marriage.

Listen in to learn what encourages a couple to explore non-monogamy. You will also learn the importance of therapy and effective communication in any relationship to succeed.

Key Moments:

[4:00] Do sex phone operators still exist? Calling one to find out and you can’t guess the SURPRISE!
[7:31] Vanessa discusses getting married early to a conservative man and now wanting to spice things up in the bedroom.
[15:30] Vanessa’s husband's conservative side that was scared to spice things up sexually.
[18:06] Did Vanessa and Victor have premarital sex? How did their Christian upbringing affect this?
[19:49] Is oral sex more intimate than regular sex?
[23:05] Why a man needs to satisfy his woman sexually in the same ways that he would like to be satisfied.
[32:51] Why most people think of Allie as a therapist and the importance of going to therapy as a married couple.
[34:28] The importance of having open communication in any relationship to avoid pain and hurt.
[35:25] Why Vanessa believes that humans are not meant to be monogamous.
[36:13] Allie speaks on the insecurities that are stopping her from bringing other people into the bedroom with her husband.
[40:25] How Vanessa has changed her mind set to take care of her husband sexually.
[43:20] Why Vanessa believes that prostitution should be legalized.
[47:09] Lindsey explains what drives the addiction in porn and its effects on people’s sexual desires.
[48:20] Why there is a need to warm women up before having sex.
[50:24] Vanessa plays the new 'stop signs are no longer optional' game and answers intimate questions.

Relevant Links:

Make your own chocolate penis with this mold: https://amzn.to/2TxsEet

Found it! The Ted Talk Lindsey refers to: Monogamish: The new rules of marriage | Jessica O'Reilly | TEDxVancouver

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